JustPearlyThings - June 29, 2023


The Simpsons CORRUPTED Your Minds


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10 minutes

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197.39026

Word count

2,022

Sentence count

1

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Misogyny

13

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Hate speech

10

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In this episode of Thick & Thin I'm joined by my good friend and podcast co-host, to talk about the current state of women in the culture and what it means to be a woman in the 21st century.

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00:00:00.000 I think a lot of that is because in the go girl 80s and 90s like when I was growing up and there's
00:00:05.960 like She-Ra and Madonna and Shania Twain and Oprah and like all these strong woman stuff starts
00:00:11.120 coming out what we saw in the sitcoms because if you look at like sitcoms from the 50s 60s 70s the
00:00:17.360 dad is still the dad and he like runs things and the mom is like more traditional mom once you get
00:00:22.840 to the 80s and 90s it starts being like the Simpsons or Everybody Loves Raymond or all these
00:00:28.440 different sitcoms where the dad is a bumbling idiot who can't do anything um he's goofy he's silly uh 0.81
00:00:36.140 he's always getting himself into trouble and the mom is the one who's like organized and intelligent
00:00:41.360 and thinking ahead and responsible and she's always like I don't know why I tolerate him he'd be so lost
00:00:49.080 without me and I am always jumping in to rescue my silly husband and it's so it's like uh they think
00:00:55.900 that that's normal too a lot of this comes down to this propaganda of everything being normalized
00:01:01.160 and you see this now with like uh the the female rappers always talking about like sexually dominating 1.00
00:01:08.440 men right what's the big trend with like oh my gosh that goes back to the goddess it does it does it's
00:01:14.660 like in fact Cardi B's Instagram is like a treasure trove for me because she has like pictures of
00:01:20.500 herself dressed up in like a devil costume where it says I do the controlling like that was her
00:01:26.640 caption I do the control it's when she broke up with offset for a while and then he like begged her
00:01:32.440 to come back and she took him back it's this idea of like I'm it's a matriarchy now like I'm the boss 1.00
00:01:39.480 bitch in charge and I'm the one who says what's gonna happen and I dominate you and you do what I let 1.00
00:01:45.280 you do and I mean my own mother that was her thing the reason she wanted a younger guy she picked 1.00
00:01:50.720 somebody who was very like impressionable and naive and easy to control and I remember asking her like
00:01:58.660 when I got to my teen years being like okay there was nothing wrong though we had like a nice life
00:02:03.900 and dad made good money and he was faithful and he didn't abuse you like what the hell what what made
00:02:09.660 you feel like it was fine to just like tear the family apart and then suddenly me and my sister are in
00:02:14.160 daycare all day long and and you're working and we don't see our dad ever like what made you think
00:02:20.160 that that was like a good trade and worth it and that you just had the right to do that and she got
00:02:26.120 super angry and kind of like yelled at me and was like because and she's talking about her new husband
00:02:30.880 who I don't want to say his name but she was like because I tell him what we're eating for dinner I tell
00:02:36.060 him what we're spending the money on he doesn't have his political opinions I tell him what his political
00:02:42.200 opinions are and who we're voting for right because my mother went to university and got very
00:02:48.420 indoctrinated she ended up like volunteering for planned parenthood in the 70s and was like she
00:02:55.120 still to this day considers herself like a far left Marxist feminist and so if I gotta rip the family 1.00
00:03:03.740 apart to smash the patriarchy so be it you know they don't care I would pay to watch you debate her on 1.00
00:03:09.280 live oh my gosh that would be crazy I know you can't I know how that stuff goes I know you can't
00:03:13.820 do that but and I wouldn't do that to like I wouldn't we don't talk we haven't talked for years
00:03:21.740 but I I wouldn't like put her out there like that anyway but the the women I do debate might as well be 1.00
00:03:28.340 her because it's the same ideology this doesn't come from them it comes it's an ideology that is
00:03:33.960 fed to them that they then take on this is what I've noticed like so if you don't mind how old are
00:03:41.480 you I'm 42 so I've noticed like yeah your generation um is like the divorce like the first like 1.00
00:03:49.020 generation that really got like everyone's divorce the generation before that separated right so that's
00:03:56.160 the first generation where like maybe they weren't divorced and like maybe on paper they were still
00:04:01.060 married at death but that's when like they started getting separated but I've just noticed that like
00:04:05.500 in the generation before that seems to be more based I don't really know like like that was a
00:04:11.320 little bit more traditional but it was like almost and usually it's like our like my generation's
00:04:17.220 grandparents are the last ones that were in traditional relationships or your generation it's
00:04:22.480 like even if they're together it's not traditional because it's still this 50 50 she kind of runs the
00:04:29.280 like the show where it's like tough because our generation like most of us have never seen a
00:04:34.600 traditional relationship right I know and that's the other reason that like when my husband and I
00:04:40.280 got together we had to like learn this and figure it out together because I I never wanted to be
00:04:47.880 divorced or have my kids grow up in a home without their dad or that was never my choice I was super
00:04:53.660 against it um I was willing I was like willing to do whatever it took I would have stayed forever
00:04:59.380 uh it wouldn't have mattered but the choice wasn't up to me at that point so when I did get remarried it
00:05:05.340 was like okay I want a family and when I say a family I'm talking about generations into the future
00:05:12.480 the Wilson family our kids and their kids and those kids kids because um for one thing if you think
00:05:19.860 about when they say you have to be successful you have to have a career uh I have I have five kids
00:05:26.020 I raised them at home I homeschooled them they all the ones that have grown up now are like thank god
00:05:32.620 you know they're like very thankful for that and and they've said like wow we didn't even know like how
00:05:38.040 good we had it until now we're adults and we're out in the real world and we see what other kids
00:05:42.960 grew up with and what it did to them now my ones that are 20 and 22 are like wow like thank you
00:05:48.860 we didn't always get it when we were kids but now we get it um they're gonna grow up and get married
00:05:54.240 and have kids with stable homes who are raised well that they're probably gonna be more stable
00:05:59.520 um less mental illness depression uh substance abuse all those things and if I have let's say I have
00:06:06.900 12 grandkids and then those kids each have three kids then I've got 36 great grandkids so the ripple
00:06:13.080 effect of my life and the choices I've made as a mom are gonna go out into the future and at five
00:06:18.840 thousands of people throughout the next few centuries whereas if I just worked for a corporation I would
00:06:24.900 die and that would be it they would just replace me and that's it so I'm gonna have a whole legacy
00:06:30.920 a whole ripple effect that goes out into the future and affects the whole world just because
00:06:35.880 I chose to just be a stay-at-home mom right well and like I grew up so I grew up it's kind of a crazy
00:06:43.440 story my mom um had six like biological kids I grew up with I was the second out of six oldest girl 0.91
00:06:49.920 between two boys so it's telling you tomboys it's always next to a boy and daddy's girl now um we had
00:06:56.640 one kid my mom gave up for adoption because her and my dad got pregnant when she was like 17
00:07:00.900 didn't meet him I was 22 and then they adopted three teenagers like later so it's it's interesting
00:07:07.720 because when I was a kid um it's crazy I spent so much time outside of the home just like because
00:07:14.140 I was in travel volleyball okay and I don't know if you know anything about travel volleyball but it's
00:07:19.600 it's very intense like I'm talking like you're gone every other weekend like out of state right so I grew
00:07:28.560 up with like nannies a lot because my parents just couldn't keep up with like all of like I had like 0.99
00:07:33.460 five hours of training after school and I and it's weird because I'm in this weird like looking
00:07:39.260 back like you know you look back and you have hindsight right and I always think like you know
00:07:44.200 I loved I loved volleyball I was so passionate about it but I'm thinking about it and I'm like
00:07:49.040 I really probably didn't spend as much time with my family as I like I think is good for a kid in
00:07:54.480 hindsight because I was always like the nanny was always driving me around because you know my parents
00:07:59.120 had what what are they supposed to do they had six six kids we all have to be in different places
00:08:04.300 but it's kind of interesting because before like sports maybe was something you did with your
00:08:09.120 siblings or like the neighborhood kids and you would like it would bring you guys together but now it's
00:08:15.340 like it's gotten more competitive and it's crazy because you know I trained so hard I could play
00:08:19.980 like I'm probably in the top like one or two percent of talent or like of how far I've taken
00:08:24.580 volleyball but it's like you know before you would do that and like bond as a family or like
00:08:30.640 everyone you know yeah yeah but it's like the corporation or like when they industrialize something
00:08:36.220 it's almost like it takes away from the family because you know how am I supposed to spend a ton of
00:08:41.040 time with my parents when they're they're telling me to go to you know Vegas one weekend
00:08:45.980 and Indianapolis another you know yeah yeah well I think that's another thing another thing that
00:08:51.740 affects birth rates and women's willingness to be mothers is like you were saying earlier when my
00:08:58.440 grandmother was having kids her sisters were all so she stayed home her sisters stayed home her 0.92
00:09:04.200 mother was home the neighbor ladies were all home all the women were home all the women were having 0.97
00:09:09.480 babies so they would help each other like if one lady in the neighborhood had a newborn everybody
00:09:14.660 would be coming to help and cooking meals and your sister would come stay or your mother would come stay 0.85
00:09:18.860 you had all this support and you had all this help and for me personally trying to do this and be a
00:09:25.000 stay-at-home mom with five kids I had no help because my mom didn't want anything to do with it 0.85
00:09:30.100 my sister's a career woman my friends are all career women everyone around me is a career woman I'm like
00:09:35.780 one of the very few around who is at home with kids so there was no one to help me and I had no
00:09:41.500 community I had no camaraderie no like bonding with other women because they were all off in cubicles 1.00
00:09:48.940 doing career women stuff right so I think that that makes it hard on women too whereas if we had that 1.00
00:09:54.780 kind of support and community now I think so many more women would as many of you know I was just banned 0.56
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