JustPearlyThings - August 17, 2023


The Type Of RELATIONSHIP This Modern Woman Wants To Have

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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Pearl John Brennan Gucci Clue Survival Cameron Hunter Bella Amina Paul King
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11 minutes

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2,468

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256

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In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a 'traditional' woman in the modern dating world. We talk about what a traditional woman would look for in a partner, what they would have in common and how they would survive in a relationship. We also talk about the differences between a modern woman and a traditional man.

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00:00:00.000 So, Paul, would you marry a cleaner?
00:00:03.320 Yeah, you would.
00:00:04.500 Do you guys think you guys would have a lot in common?
00:00:07.640 You know what's funny?
00:00:08.980 I actually want to date someone.
00:00:10.540 I, like, prefer it when we have nothing in common.
00:00:13.840 So, how would the relationship survive?
00:00:15.660 Like, what would you guys discuss if you guys...
00:00:17.120 I don't really think you need to talk.
00:00:19.260 Yeah.
00:00:21.260 So, then that would basically be, like, dating air.
00:00:23.580 Exactly.
00:00:24.060 You're dating air.
00:00:25.240 No, I feel like you should talk to her.
00:00:26.600 I was thinking about this the other day.
00:00:27.940 I was like, do men really want to listen to us talk?
00:00:30.420 Absolutely.
00:00:31.120 You've got to have deep conversations.
00:00:32.980 You have to relate.
00:00:33.400 I was thinking, I'll just talk to my friends.
00:00:35.200 No.
00:00:35.600 You just never talk.
00:00:37.580 I think it's very attractive when you're with a partner
00:00:40.200 and they've got something that can educate you.
00:00:42.280 Yeah.
00:00:43.280 It's got to be, like, your best friend.
00:00:44.940 Yeah.
00:00:45.160 No, I think girls talk. 1.00
00:00:46.160 They don't want to hear, oh, do you remember what my friend does?
00:00:48.420 They don't want to hear that.
00:00:49.380 But if it's something learning and knowledgeable, thank you.
00:00:53.720 Yeah, absolutely.
00:00:54.500 That's what they, I think, want to do.
00:00:56.460 That's what I'm saying, like, what's the news reporter
00:00:58.300 going to learn from a bus driver?
00:00:59.920 Exactly.
00:01:00.120 She might be able to learn.
00:01:01.060 He might learn.
00:01:01.600 The bus driver could be smart.
00:01:02.480 But when you think about it, it's like, when you just look at it,
00:01:05.420 she obviously, she reports the news.
00:01:07.080 Like, in general, she just comes across, she might know a lot more.
00:01:10.400 But obviously, he might end up learning way more from her
00:01:13.540 because obviously she reports the news.
00:01:15.160 Exactly.
00:01:15.520 And she's basically a journalist.
00:01:17.040 And journalists are actually very intelligent people.
00:01:18.460 I know vice versa, but at the same time, he's probably going to learn
00:01:21.200 more from her than she will from him.
00:01:22.760 So it's like, in that sense, she kind of is valid to, like,
00:01:25.900 you know, maybe she wants to, like, learn from her partner.
00:01:28.540 Like, maybe that's why she doesn't want a bus driver. 1.00
00:01:30.980 I feel like she could date a lawyer or she could date a shopkeeper
00:01:33.800 or she could date a teacher.
00:01:35.680 But a bus driver, like, let's be real.
00:01:37.600 Like, there's actual levels to things in this life.
00:01:39.980 And I feel like that's, they would have absolutely nothing in common.
00:01:42.840 And I'm not even judging it due to his pockets.
00:01:44.920 I'm judging it as the actual job.
00:01:46.580 The compatibility.
00:01:47.700 What are they going to talk about?
00:01:48.740 What are they going to discuss?
00:01:49.760 What are they going to have in common?
00:01:51.040 I feel like in that aspect, she's allowed to say that
00:01:53.400 this is not going to work.
00:01:54.780 And she's better off dating her than dating someone that she... 0.57
00:01:58.100 In history, people didn't have anything in common.
00:02:00.580 Like, having similar hobbies to a guy, that's a new thing.
00:02:04.720 No, you have to have something in common with someone.
00:02:06.560 Okay, okay.
00:02:06.620 Hunter-gatherer.
00:02:07.580 What did they have in common?
00:02:08.900 Survival.
00:02:11.220 Survival.
00:02:11.500 That's what they had in common.
00:02:13.940 Okay, even on the farm, like, they did different roles.
00:02:16.980 Like, having similar interests is a new thing.
00:02:19.660 Farming was what they had in common.
00:02:21.280 No, but I'm saying they both did different roles on the farm.
00:02:24.200 Like, they didn't do the same things.
00:02:25.540 Like, the woman was more in the house, the guy was more in the field. 0.98
00:02:27.820 But managing that whole property, that was what they had in common.
00:02:30.260 Right, they had the family in common.
00:02:32.040 And so you would still have the family in common in this situation.
00:02:35.100 But we're talking a lot about, like, traditional women.
00:02:37.640 But I just want to understand, like, you guys' thoughts on traditional men.
00:02:40.920 And how common that is these days?
00:02:43.040 Do you feel like it's common as well, that do men play their part?
00:02:46.040 Do they play their position?
00:02:47.440 I think that there's more traditional men than traditional women.
00:02:50.740 Okay, and then can we just go over what a traditional man is, just in brief?
00:02:54.280 I would say a guy that wants to protect and provide.
00:02:56.800 I think I've been researching more about, like, guys providing.
00:03:01.180 And I don't know what $50,000 to $60,000 is in the U.K., but you can actually live off of a lot.
00:03:08.200 $50,000 to $60,000, that's about, what, like, $40,000?
00:03:11.220 Yeah, so on $40,000, you can feed roughly a family of four or five if you do it right.
00:03:16.920 What?
00:03:17.100 Mm-hmm.
00:03:18.580 In London?
00:03:19.320 And then about that.
00:03:20.020 You might have to go to the suburbs.
00:03:21.340 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:22.400 That's what I'm saying.
00:03:23.480 Like, you can homeschool the kids if you want, and you go out into the suburbs and he commutes to work.
00:03:28.160 You can do it.
00:03:28.880 People just don't want to.
00:03:30.260 The thing is, most guys naturally want to be providers and protectors, but most women set standards that are way too high for most men to meet. 0.98
00:03:39.280 That's the issue.
00:03:39.880 Can you give us an example of a standard that's high, too high?
00:03:43.860 Okay, can I give you one?
00:03:45.260 Yeah.
00:03:45.600 If you want to have your nails done the rest of your life.
00:03:47.660 Yes.
00:03:48.200 And you want makeup the rest of your life, could you go without that expense for a family?
00:03:54.060 Of course, for a family.
00:03:55.660 A lot of women won't. 1.00
00:03:57.700 I've heard your perspective on the makeup thing.
00:03:59.620 A lot of women, like, won't go down in lifestyle for a family. 1.00
00:04:03.340 I would do that for my family.
00:04:04.720 No, you might, you might, but I'm saying, like, a lot of women won't. 1.00
00:04:07.880 Because I was speaking to a woman who raised, like, four or five kids on, like, 40 to 50K.
00:04:11.600 And she was, like, giving examples of jobs you can go for.
00:04:14.480 And I can't remember it exactly.
00:04:16.500 But she was giving examples, like, for women of jobs you can go for and, like, places you can find those men and, like, how you can do it. 0.59
00:04:22.200 And she's like, you only, like, when you go down to one income, it's less money.
00:04:26.180 And if you homeschool the kids, it's less money.
00:04:28.140 If you grow your own food, it's the funny, less money.
00:04:30.360 But, like, most people refuse to do that.
00:04:32.720 No, that's interesting.
00:04:33.660 But even on the thing about maintaining, like, appearances and stuff, makeup nails, like, for me personally, like, I believe in enhancing what you naturally have.
00:04:43.700 So, yeah, I've got makeup on.
00:04:45.180 I actually don't wear that much makeup.
00:04:46.800 I don't have eyelashes on.
00:04:47.640 I wear mascara.
00:04:48.040 You don't.
00:04:48.520 I'm not saying you do.
00:04:49.200 These are my real nails.
00:04:50.100 No, no, no.
00:04:50.620 I'm just saying as an example of the fact that I take time to actually look after my natural qualities.
00:04:55.980 So, if I did need to, like, come off it, I could not wear makeup tomorrow and I couldn't get my nails on tomorrow.
00:05:00.800 And if all the shops ended and everything, all this, da, da, da, da, I could survive and look good naturally.
00:05:05.280 I take care of myself.
00:05:06.500 Like, I look after myself.
00:05:08.060 So, that's what I think women need to concentrate on more than just adding on things to themselves. 1.00
00:05:12.220 Well, but women make 80% of consumer buying decisions. 1.00
00:05:15.180 Like, women are bad with money. 1.00
00:05:17.360 Bad. 0.99
00:05:18.000 Like, think about it.
00:05:18.780 That means men only spend 20% of, like, what is spent.
00:05:21.720 Because of the appearances, right?
00:05:23.060 No, I think it's because women, we're more impulsive and we just make more emotional decisions. 0.99
00:05:28.880 Yeah, probably.
00:05:29.760 I think when it comes to maintenance and things, I think every woman should look after themselves. 1.00
00:05:33.820 I think the mistake that us females make is we spend too much money looking after themselves. 1.00
00:05:37.980 Like, there's so many ways to look nice and do it on a budget.
00:05:41.200 Like, for example, with me, I've always been a girly gal.
00:05:43.240 I've always loved fashion.
00:05:44.460 And when I got, like, my first few jobs, I used to spend so much money on clothes and would have nothing left.
00:05:49.100 Then I decided, let me just be a fashion influencer and I haven't spent money on clothes in, like, the last three years.
00:05:54.700 So there's, and even as well, sometimes I resell those clothes.
00:05:57.080 So there's smart ways to look good, but actually do it on a budget.
00:06:00.740 So for all the girls watching this, I strongly encourage you to not fall into that pressure of feeling like you have to spend thousands every month just to look good because you really don't.
00:06:08.700 The woman I spoke to said she spent, I think it was less than a hundred a year on clothes for five kids because they would do resales and hand-me-downs. 1.00
00:06:17.440 But her kids.
00:06:18.300 That takes a lot of time and patience, I guess.
00:06:20.960 Correct.
00:06:21.420 But, like, most women don't want to do it. 1.00
00:06:23.620 Yeah.
00:06:24.300 Less than a hundred pounds.
00:06:25.500 Do you think maintenance is important for men, though, as well?
00:06:27.400 Do you think people are important?
00:06:29.040 I do.
00:06:29.440 Not as important.
00:06:30.500 Not as what?
00:06:31.040 How come?
00:06:31.240 Not as important.
00:06:31.840 I feel like hygiene is definitely important because no one wants a smelly man, but the reason why is not important because for women, that's not what we look for. 0.99
00:06:40.100 I feel like our main priority is someone that can protect and provide, not someone that's going to be aesthetically pleasing to us.
00:06:46.080 And that's the problem of society today.
00:06:47.860 Men care more about Gucci than actually going out and having an LV belt.
00:06:51.540 You said men care more about Gucci? 0.61
00:06:53.000 Yeah, men care more about Gucci and having an LV belt and looking nice than actually, you know, going out and having a job.
00:06:58.920 Again, the numbers just don't support you because men aren't really spending money like that.
00:07:03.680 I think modern men, especially men in my generation.
00:07:06.240 No, I'm telling you, if you look at the numbers of, like, the money spent, it's not, it's women that are spending money. 1.00
00:07:12.160 It's not men.
00:07:13.140 There might be, like, exceptions.
00:07:15.060 But, again, you probably, you guys don't see 80% of men.
00:07:17.860 Like, they're invisible to you.
00:07:19.020 You don't notice the guy at Tesco.
00:07:20.480 You don't notice the guy.
00:07:21.700 And I'm, like, I'm saying, like, for most men, you find 80% of men is unattractive.
00:07:26.780 But, well, statistics don't lie, so I can't even argue with that.
00:07:29.980 Yeah.
00:07:30.380 No, I think it's important for a man to take care of himself.
00:07:32.320 But just to answer your question, like, if you're talking, like, getting, like, facials or just skincare.
00:07:36.760 Skincare is so important, like, across the board.
00:07:39.780 I think we all need to take that seriously.
00:07:41.780 Men, manicures, pedicures, that's great.
00:07:43.360 Do that.
00:07:44.180 I'm going to read Super Chats for a second.
00:07:45.740 Do you get manicures?
00:07:46.640 Hold on, wait, wait, wait.
00:07:47.480 I'm going to read Super Chats for a second.
00:07:51.420 Okay, Sergi, dating a bus driver doesn't mean she'll live in a bus. 0.93
00:07:55.160 Sergio, it's sad.
00:07:56.600 Some of these girls will end up alone and wish they had a bus driver. 1.00
00:08:00.480 I bet a bus driver knows more about life and people than these girls. 1.00
00:08:03.800 Cameron, average women are better than average men by objective standards.
00:08:07.680 The delusion of this show is that average men are meant to reproduce.
00:08:11.200 Everyone plays their part on a bell curve, like it or not.
00:08:14.560 Israel, modern women are finished. 1.00
00:08:16.560 Interracial relationships, a problem with modern women is how they can dismiss, regard, and minimize contributions men provide to women. 1.00
00:08:24.500 No amount of money can buy a good man, and no woman is entitled to a relationship. 1.00
00:08:31.880 Eccentric nightmares.
00:08:33.700 Falling feels like flying until you hit the ground.
00:08:36.360 These ladies are falling, and the ground is approaching.
00:08:39.720 Alona, how do you ladies nurture your man when he's struggling to reach his goals? 1.00
00:08:43.900 Examples of times you wanted to object or complain about a man's choice for you, too, but instead supported equals submissive.
00:08:50.760 Give us examples.
00:08:52.500 I'm going to add that, actually, to my list of questions I ask people.
00:08:55.660 A good one.
00:08:56.700 Bella, Q, you've been ran through a lot.
00:09:01.280 Me and you have been with many men.
00:09:03.360 I've been damaged mentally, emotionally, physically.
00:09:06.020 That's not above average.
00:09:11.240 Tell me something else.
00:09:14.520 Wait, sorry, guys.
00:09:16.500 Question for the panel.
00:09:17.560 Do you believe in happy wife, happy life?
00:09:20.280 Why or why not?
00:09:21.580 D.
00:09:23.340 Can you remember that, King, for when I'm done?
00:09:25.700 Okay.
00:09:26.220 D.
00:09:26.620 When I hear I am the table at this point, I'm hearing I bring nothing other than problems and drama.
00:09:31.160 I see broken tables with everyone chewing gum stuck to the bottom.
00:09:34.400 Hey, Pearl. 0.89
00:09:34.800 Hi, D, Dragon Stallion 1001.
00:09:37.620 You may be the table, but the man brought the house to the table, brought the house to the table, sits and stops thinking you're special, you're not.
00:09:44.760 Amina, in my culture, virgin girls have a religion beauty, then she is above average. 1.00
00:09:50.300 If she has beauty, but she's not a virgin, not religious, then she's not valued by men.
00:09:55.780 Cameron, are you even interested in modern solutions?
00:09:58.700 Pearl, you bottled that dude last show, and he was so mid compared to the other guests.
00:10:02.520 The UK economist, please ask, why do women who grew up in average working class communities believe they are entitled to high earning men and a higher class?
00:10:11.020 The Clue channel, homeschooling is communal.
00:10:13.320 Pearl, don't look at homeschooling as you're teaching the courses to your children by yourself.
00:10:20.880 The Clue channel, another W, oh, wait, this is from my last stream.
00:10:25.540 Let me refresh it.
00:10:30.780 Gus, can't believe you, 304, as a base of man's masculinity on job title.
00:10:36.040 People confuse education with intelligence. 1.00
00:10:38.480 You can have a bachelor's degree and still be an idiot. 1.00
00:10:40.880 Invest in animal food, wine, and IVF. 0.99
00:10:43.320 Winter, summer, Pearl, according to Directions Credit Union, here's what they found.
00:10:50.600 Overall spending, single men outspent, single men outspent single women.
00:11:00.260 Men spent an average of $41,208 a year as opposed to $38,838 by women.
00:11:06.400 Oh, that's interesting.
00:11:07.280 I'd be curious because I know that men only make 20% of consumer buying decisions, so I'm
00:11:12.520 actually curious how that would work.
00:11:15.560 Sergi Bernard, I'm dating a bus driver doesn't mean she'll live in the bus. 0.78
00:11:20.320 I could be wrong, though.
00:11:21.200 Let me, you can send that to me.
00:11:22.500 Um...
00:11:24.440 I'm dating a bus driver, I'm dating a bus driver, I'm dating a bus driver, I'm dating a bus driver,
00:11:40.660 So we don't look back for anything that's going on like maybe nine days or something and
00:11:44.460 that's going to happen.
00:11:44.780 PerhapsBaby Because You Can trazer a bus driver,
00:11:48.280 And if you're not dühligates uh, there's been a bus driver because I don't drive by some 1.00
00:11:49.860 guys to make the bus driver. 0.58