JustPearlyThings - October 20, 2023


The @vtsoscast Podcast Did This To His Life…

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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Daryl Davis Adam Bill Saus
OF Model DESTROYED By Zherka And Pearl @Jackdohertyy She Gets FINISHED Saying This About Women and Promiscuity

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8 minutes

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1,858

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215

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Misogyny

13

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9

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On this episode of the Peabody podcast, I sit down with my good friend and former co-host, PBD, to talk about his career, his views on the world, and his thoughts on women in general.

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00:00:00.000 What is the biggest thing you've learned from doing these shows?
00:00:04.220 The biggest thing I've learned from doing these shows.
00:00:07.120 Yeah.
00:00:07.360 Like, interviewing so many people has given me a different point of view on the world.
00:00:14.760 Has that been the same for you?
00:00:17.000 Or is your worldview pretty much the same?
00:00:19.780 Absolutely agree with you.
00:00:21.360 That everybody, everybody deserves respect.
00:00:27.040 I know we talked about that a lot.
00:00:28.360 And probably the most poignant example of that was I interviewed a guy called Daryl Davis.
00:00:36.660 Do you know who that is?
00:00:37.800 He's the black musician that a lot of times plays in the South.
00:00:42.080 And he befriends the KKK members. 0.63
00:00:49.080 And over time convinces them to, not even convinces them,
00:00:53.920 spark something within them to leave the KKK to the point where they will take off their cloak and hoodie and give it to him and say,
00:01:01.460 I was totally wrong about you.
00:01:03.540 Think about that.
00:01:04.320 A black man sitting down in the South, still to today, convincing or sparking something within KKK members to say,
00:01:13.220 you know what, I was totally wrong and I'm denouncing this.
00:01:17.100 And as a symbol of trust and friendship, here's my hoodie.
00:01:21.460 And what does Daryl Davis do?
00:01:22.900 Is he, see if you can find an image of him.
00:01:24.700 And he keeps, I think it's hundreds at this point of KKK outfits in his closet to signify this is what I've done.
00:01:34.440 What's my point?
00:01:35.800 I interview, whether it's this show, whether it's on Peabody podcast, a wide array of people, just as you've done as well.
00:01:42.120 And what I've realized is that these people have come to their determination and their opinions and they have different ideological views based on something,
00:01:50.820 whether that's right or wrong.
00:01:52.600 There he is right there.
00:01:53.840 Okay.
00:01:54.500 Daryl Davis sitting there with the KKK guys.
00:01:57.800 And the best thing you can do, and this is why I'll give you so much credit, is ask questions.
00:02:03.400 Anytime that you say, this is how you should think, this is how you should operate, this is how you need to live your life.
00:02:09.400 If people aren't going to resonate that and they're not going to listen to you.
00:02:12.500 But if you say, okay, like for instance, I had a conversation with a full on socialist, right?
00:02:19.320 Young girl.
00:02:19.980 She had no clue what she was talking about.
00:02:21.360 I say, you know, if you and Bill work at the same job, but he works half as hard as you, do you guys deserve the same pay?
00:02:30.560 She's like, no, that doesn't, that doesn't seem fair.
00:02:33.400 I go, no.
00:02:34.040 Well, you guys are, you know, you deserve the same pay.
00:02:37.980 And she had to wrestle with these minor questions in her head.
00:02:42.340 And she had to come up to the conclusion, like, you know what?
00:02:45.520 Maybe the harder you work and the better you do than a meritocracy, you should get paid more.
00:02:49.660 And that's how you should get a raise. 0.95
00:02:50.660 It goes, yeah, exactly.
00:02:51.680 It's kind of capitalism right there.
00:02:53.240 So she had to come up with this on her own.
00:02:55.880 I couldn't be like, capitalism's the best.
00:02:58.900 Socialism's the worst.
00:02:59.760 And that's my opinion.
00:03:00.740 And I had to pose questions for her to answer this.
00:03:04.140 That's exactly what Daryl Davis did with these people.
00:03:07.000 He's asked questions. 0.99
00:03:07.840 Well, why do you think I'm dumber than you? 0.99
00:03:09.800 Right? 0.99
00:03:10.260 Well, why do you think this?
00:03:11.380 What would you do if I did this?
00:03:12.680 And people have to come to their own conclusions.
00:03:15.160 So the biggest thing that I've come away with to answer your question is I respect everybody, whether I agree with them or disagree with them.
00:03:22.440 But at the end of the day, I try to find the truth in the situation.
00:03:26.040 Like you said, I don't shame women. 0.99
00:03:28.620 I just look for the truth.
00:03:31.000 So, yeah, respect.
00:03:34.840 Has it influenced your dating life at all?
00:03:38.880 Oh, yeah.
00:03:39.640 Oh, yeah.
00:03:43.920 I'm way more up front with women at this point. 0.95
00:03:48.100 So, as you know, guys out there, a lot of times guys will slow play it, especially with hot chicks.
00:03:52.400 Sure, babe.
00:03:53.160 Whatever you want.
00:03:54.060 No problem.
00:03:54.880 All right, cool.
00:03:55.340 I'll take care of this.
00:03:56.140 I'll take care of this.
00:03:57.180 And you slow play it.
00:03:58.140 And you slow play it.
00:03:58.700 Slow play it.
00:03:59.380 There's actually a book.
00:04:00.100 I'll take care of this.
00:04:00.980 I'll take care of this.
00:04:02.020 And you slow play it.
00:04:03.000 And you slow play it.
00:04:03.560 Slow play it.
00:04:04.220 There's actually a book that PBD gave me called 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged.
00:04:10.100 Okay?
00:04:10.760 So I will hit women with questions right now.
00:04:13.060 How many kids do you want? 1.00
00:04:13.920 When do you see yourself getting married?
00:04:15.300 If I pay all the bills, what are you going to do?
00:04:17.540 Okay?
00:04:19.280 All these types of questions is a vetting process.
00:04:21.980 So it was a girl that I was seeing, this is a couple months ago, 30 years old.
00:04:25.460 I go, oh, when do you, what age would you want to get married?
00:04:28.220 She goes, I don't see myself getting married.
00:04:29.900 I go, oh, do you want to have kids?
00:04:30.940 Nah, no kids.
00:04:31.900 I said, you are officially now in the fun bucket.
00:04:34.360 That doesn't mean I just broke up with her.
00:04:35.840 You know, I'll do my thing for a little bit.
00:04:38.400 But if a girl is, like, I'm 1 million percent convinced that I want to have kids. 0.99
00:04:44.040 Whether I want to get married to the government and all that kind of stuff like that,
00:04:47.080 again, I did that in my early 30s, and that's 10 years later now, I'm convinced that I want
00:04:52.300 to have kids.
00:04:52.740 So I'm solving for that.
00:04:53.980 So my biggest thing right now is who's going to be an amazing mother?
00:04:58.440 Okay?
00:04:58.840 So there was a girl that I was dating before that who was 34. 0.98
00:05:03.280 Okay?
00:05:04.380 And I said, listen, you know, another girl I was dating before was 24.
00:05:08.220 I could take my time with a girl like that, right? 0.97
00:05:10.320 At 34, it's like, we're either doing this now or never.
00:05:15.080 And she's like, well, I don't know.
00:05:16.840 I don't know, you know, I don't know.
00:05:17.780 I was like, all right, great knowing you.
00:05:19.360 So I think it's just being very intentional, knowing what you want, knowing who you want
00:05:22.980 to be, and solving for that.
00:05:26.320 Would you guys ever date?
00:05:28.540 We're dating right now.
00:05:30.120 Wait, really?
00:05:30.800 What?
00:05:32.160 No, I'm totally kidding.
00:05:34.240 Nat is like my little sister.
00:05:36.120 I love the girl with dad.
00:05:36.760 I feel like everyone thinks you guys are dating.
00:05:39.540 Yeah, I know.
00:05:39.960 Yeah, everyone always says that.
00:05:41.100 But no, Adam plays his role in my life, but not.
00:05:44.220 To be honest with you, to be fully honest with you, Nat, how many different girls have
00:05:49.060 you seen me out with?
00:05:50.160 Many.
00:05:50.920 Okay.
00:05:52.320 Gentlemen, get yourself a wing woman. 1.00
00:05:55.420 I'm a great wing woman.
00:05:56.860 I'm not going to lie.
00:05:57.960 That is just down to be a team player.
00:06:00.780 Yeah.
00:06:01.400 Nat is actually, I've met the men in Nat's life as well.
00:06:04.800 Yeah.
00:06:05.280 We won't, we'll leave it there.
00:06:06.680 But I actually, when I go out, I actually go out with two, three, four girls.
00:06:12.400 Yeah.
00:06:12.680 Maybe a buddy or two.
00:06:14.040 It's great to have women when you go out. 1.00
00:06:16.060 I know you're not a big partier going out.
00:06:17.700 You know, I was born in a club in South Beach.
00:06:19.700 She's like, it's in my blood, bro.
00:06:21.640 Okay.
00:06:22.420 You know how tradition and families, like, I'm trying to get that out of my blood and
00:06:26.020 get into the family life, be more like you.
00:06:27.720 Yeah.
00:06:28.760 But no, Nat's a great wing woman. 1.00
00:06:30.900 Yeah.
00:06:31.300 No.
00:06:31.440 What do you, what do you think of the girls you've met?
00:06:33.560 Um, I mean, I don't really put too much thought into it.
00:06:36.900 I think he's just doing his thing, you know, going through his process.
00:06:39.940 I mean, is there one that you've met that you could see him, like, marrying?
00:06:43.700 Um, I mean, that's not really my place.
00:06:46.380 I mean, I let him do his thing.
00:06:51.640 It's his, it's his process, his journey.
00:06:53.260 He's also the same, like, like the question you asked, you know, this conversation, it
00:06:57.380 changes the way you date.
00:06:58.980 Yeah.
00:06:59.280 And you know, when you bring people around and makes you question certain things.
00:07:02.100 And that was even kind of how we were like asking, you know, like, how are you dating
00:07:06.400 now with all these things?
00:07:07.420 Like immediately, I know when I first started in this space, I got to a point where I was
00:07:11.020 like, oh my gosh, he's a simp.
00:07:12.020 Like he said this.
00:07:12.660 And then I'm like, wait, Natalia, like you have to come to reality, you know, people
00:07:16.060 are people, you know, get to know them.
00:07:18.600 Um, so sometimes I think it's important to just let people also go through their process.
00:07:22.440 You know, he date who he dates.
00:07:23.840 And I think him going through that as well, when he finds a woman, I think I will see a 0.98
00:07:28.500 different side of it.
00:07:29.240 I was just curious if there was one that you like liked a lot or something.
00:07:33.100 No, I don't really have, I don't really make that.
00:07:35.920 I just let him kind of just, oh, hey, nice to see you.
00:07:37.880 Most of the girls she's seen me with, it's been like, I've seen him once or twice or
00:07:41.160 whatever.
00:07:41.660 Nothing like super.
00:07:42.240 Not that I'm like being like playboy international.
00:07:44.680 You just mentioned kids.
00:07:45.860 So I was like, I was just curious.
00:07:46.640 No, I don't really like talk to the girls like that. 0.99
00:07:48.940 That's not my place.
00:07:49.920 It's not for me to do that.
00:07:50.960 She gives them a hug, tells them they look pretty.
00:07:52.620 If you need anything, let me know.
00:07:54.140 Like, I'm a school host.
00:07:55.080 That's it.
00:07:55.780 Yeah.
00:07:56.160 And what about, what about, you said you met some of the guys, Nat, in Nat's life.
00:08:00.380 Mm-hmm.
00:08:00.800 Yeah.
00:08:01.040 What about, what do you, what do you think of them?
00:08:04.440 Um, I think Nat deserves a great man.
00:08:09.860 You guys seem like you'd be perfect together.
00:08:11.740 Yeah, Nat.
00:08:12.180 You should do it.
00:08:12.900 What's up?
00:08:14.000 This is like, you said, you said, we didn't have our place.
00:08:16.100 You said it at work.
00:08:17.400 Nat has dated a friend of mine, so she's officially off limits.
00:08:20.140 A hundred percent.
00:08:20.980 I don't, you know, cross that line whatsoever.
00:08:24.060 Zero.
00:08:24.820 Yeah.
00:08:25.060 Zero.
00:08:25.520 Zero.
00:08:26.180 Ever.
00:08:26.500 Zero.
00:08:26.900 Zero.
00:08:27.620 Zero.
00:08:27.880 Zero.
00:08:28.320 But I will say that to men that come into Nat's life, I will say, she's a good girl.
00:08:34.820 Treat her right. 0.98
00:08:35.920 Step the fuck up. 0.99
00:08:37.400 Or kick rocks. 0.98
00:08:38.580 Because I think she deserves a good dude. 0.87
00:08:40.100 Thanks, Saus.
00:08:40.760 So, there you go.
00:08:42.300 Aww.
00:08:42.880 You got her back.
00:08:43.700 Now you gotta have the conversation with the girls I with. 1.00
00:08:46.360 Adam's the man. 1.00
00:08:47.220 You better fuck her. 1.00
00:08:47.940 Well, when you make certain girls certain priorities, then that becomes more of like, 1.00
00:08:52.320 hey, let me kind of pour into her as well, kind of mend that as well.
00:08:56.420 But it's not going to be something I said.
00:08:57.520 Scroll, let me.