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Summary
On this episode of the Peabody podcast, I sit down with my good friend and former co-host, PBD, to talk about his career, his views on the world, and his thoughts on women in general.
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What is the biggest thing you've learned from doing these shows?
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The biggest thing I've learned from doing these shows.
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Like, interviewing so many people has given me a different point of view on the world.
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And probably the most poignant example of that was I interviewed a guy called Daryl Davis.
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He's the black musician that a lot of times plays in the South.
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And over time convinces them to, not even convinces them,
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spark something within them to leave the KKK to the point where they will take off their cloak and hoodie and give it to him and say,
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A black man sitting down in the South, still to today, convincing or sparking something within KKK members to say,
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you know what, I was totally wrong and I'm denouncing this.
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And as a symbol of trust and friendship, here's my hoodie.
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And he keeps, I think it's hundreds at this point of KKK outfits in his closet to signify this is what I've done.
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I interview, whether it's this show, whether it's on Peabody podcast, a wide array of people, just as you've done as well.
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And what I've realized is that these people have come to their determination and their opinions and they have different ideological views based on something,
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And the best thing you can do, and this is why I'll give you so much credit, is ask questions.
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Anytime that you say, this is how you should think, this is how you should operate, this is how you need to live your life.
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If people aren't going to resonate that and they're not going to listen to you.
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But if you say, okay, like for instance, I had a conversation with a full on socialist, right?
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I say, you know, if you and Bill work at the same job, but he works half as hard as you, do you guys deserve the same pay?
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She's like, no, that doesn't, that doesn't seem fair.
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Well, you guys are, you know, you deserve the same pay.
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And she had to wrestle with these minor questions in her head.
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And she had to come up to the conclusion, like, you know what?
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Maybe the harder you work and the better you do than a meritocracy, you should get paid more.
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And I had to pose questions for her to answer this.
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That's exactly what Daryl Davis did with these people.
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And people have to come to their own conclusions.
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So the biggest thing that I've come away with to answer your question is I respect everybody, whether I agree with them or disagree with them.
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But at the end of the day, I try to find the truth in the situation.
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I'm way more up front with women at this point.
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So, as you know, guys out there, a lot of times guys will slow play it, especially with hot chicks.
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There's actually a book that PBD gave me called 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged.
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If I pay all the bills, what are you going to do?
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All these types of questions is a vetting process.
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So it was a girl that I was seeing, this is a couple months ago, 30 years old.
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I go, oh, when do you, what age would you want to get married?
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I said, you are officially now in the fun bucket.
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But if a girl is, like, I'm 1 million percent convinced that I want to have kids.
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Whether I want to get married to the government and all that kind of stuff like that,
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again, I did that in my early 30s, and that's 10 years later now, I'm convinced that I want
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So my biggest thing right now is who's going to be an amazing mother?
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So there was a girl that I was dating before that who was 34.
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And I said, listen, you know, another girl I was dating before was 24.
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I could take my time with a girl like that, right?
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At 34, it's like, we're either doing this now or never.
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So I think it's just being very intentional, knowing what you want, knowing who you want
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I feel like everyone thinks you guys are dating.
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But no, Adam plays his role in my life, but not.
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To be honest with you, to be fully honest with you, Nat, how many different girls have
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Nat is actually, I've met the men in Nat's life as well.
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But I actually, when I go out, I actually go out with two, three, four girls.
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You know how tradition and families, like, I'm trying to get that out of my blood and
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What do you, what do you think of the girls you've met?
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Um, I mean, I don't really put too much thought into it.
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I think he's just doing his thing, you know, going through his process.
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I mean, is there one that you've met that you could see him, like, marrying?
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He's also the same, like, like the question you asked, you know, this conversation, it
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And you know, when you bring people around and makes you question certain things.
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And that was even kind of how we were like asking, you know, like, how are you dating
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Like immediately, I know when I first started in this space, I got to a point where I was
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And then I'm like, wait, Natalia, like you have to come to reality, you know, people
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Um, so sometimes I think it's important to just let people also go through their process.
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And I think him going through that as well, when he finds a woman, I think I will see a
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I was just curious if there was one that you like liked a lot or something.
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No, I don't really have, I don't really make that.
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I just let him kind of just, oh, hey, nice to see you.
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Most of the girls she's seen me with, it's been like, I've seen him once or twice or
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Not that I'm like being like playboy international.
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No, I don't really like talk to the girls like that.
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She gives them a hug, tells them they look pretty.
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And what about, what about, you said you met some of the guys, Nat, in Nat's life.
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What about, what do you, what do you think of them?
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This is like, you said, you said, we didn't have our place.
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Nat has dated a friend of mine, so she's officially off limits.
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But I will say that to men that come into Nat's life, I will say, she's a good girl.
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Now you gotta have the conversation with the girls I with.
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Well, when you make certain girls certain priorities, then that becomes more of like,
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hey, let me kind of pour into her as well, kind of mend that as well.