JustPearlyThings - March 18, 2023


@TheRealMTR and@MelanieKing1 Discuss Modern Women's DELUSION


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In this episode, we discuss accountability and the role of women and men in society. Who is more accountable and who is not? Who do you think is more responsible for the decisions you make in life and in relationships?

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00:00:00.000 that. I would like for you guys to define a word that we hear so much about. I'd like for you guys
00:00:07.100 to define accountability. Go here, around, in the second row. Accountability is being ultimately
00:00:13.420 responsible for all of your actions, whether it be positive or negative. Yeah, I would say it is
00:00:20.900 accountability, and I think it's also owning it to a level where you're fixing it. Like, you can
00:00:27.600 take accountability or know that you've done wrong, but not pointing to others and deflecting,
00:00:33.600 but you're actually reflecting. Look in the mirror and say, what can I do to change? Because that's
00:00:37.680 the only person you can change. I think accountability is having introspection and
00:00:43.080 self-reflection. I think it's about understanding who you are and taking responsibility for all of
00:00:48.440 the decisions that you make in your life. Yeah, I would say accountability is admitting what you did
00:00:54.060 right and wrong, and then also accepting the consequences of both. Yeah, I definitely agree.
00:01:00.340 I think taking accountability is very important in life and for self-development as well.
00:01:07.880 I think self-awareness, but also the ability to receive when other people have something to say
00:01:13.680 about you, because as self, we can be jaded to what we don't see about ourselves, but we don't want to
00:01:19.100 hear what other people have to say about us. And that, honestly, is how we coexist with other people,
00:01:23.720 and we need to be accountable for how others receive us so that we can properly co-exist.
00:01:29.680 I think accountability is being honest with yourself and that once you admit you're at fault,
00:01:34.420 you can grow from that. I think that's the most important thing.
00:01:37.540 So who takes more accountability, men or women?
00:01:40.860 Men.
00:01:41.140 Men.
00:01:41.600 Men.
00:01:42.000 Men, men, men, men.
00:01:42.620 Men, men, men.
00:01:43.780 What? You're shaking your head.
00:01:45.420 I think women, you know, we easily say sorry. Men don't say sorry as much as women, so definitely women.
00:01:52.900 But men say sorry and then continue to fix it, whereas women kind of say sorry and then continue 1.00
00:01:57.200 to make the same mistake.
00:01:58.320 I think women rarely say sorry in a relationship. 0.98
00:02:00.820 I don't think I've ever said that.
00:02:01.580 Across the board, I've never, most men, one of their biggest gripes is that women, they will 1.00
00:02:06.260 always move the goalposts. Like, if they're wrong, then they will kind of counterpoint on
00:02:10.820 how they, like, how you caused it. Like, even if they cheat, well, you weren't emotionally
00:02:15.420 available. So it's your fault. No matter what happens, there's an excuse. I rarely hear a woman 1.00
00:02:20.700 say, I'm sorry, honey. I did wrong. I'm going to work on it. You'll never see me do this again.
00:02:25.200 Please forgive me.
00:02:26.200 Well, I think that's exactly, that's exactly not taking accountability.
00:02:29.980 Women are never wrong. 1.00
00:02:30.020 No, we don't be wrong.
00:02:31.760 Uh-oh.
00:02:32.680 You got the right one today, boo.
00:02:34.700 No, you got the right one today.
00:02:36.560 It's time to get active.
00:02:37.700 Woo! 0.99
00:02:38.580 No, no.
00:02:39.120 No, no.
00:02:39.240 I have a point real quick.
00:02:41.060 Okay, what were you going to say?
00:02:42.300 Not in all situations, but I do think women hold their hands up more than men. Men gaslight. 1.00
00:02:48.920 Right. That's the thing. There's accountability in gaslighting, so.
00:02:53.120 So, um, I think that there's a difference within our society. I think that women have 1.00
00:02:57.600 the privilege in our modern-day society today to not be held accountable. I did a story not
00:03:02.240 too long ago, about a year or so ago, just popped into my head, where a young lady went
00:03:06.440 down to NBA All-Star Weekend with not enough money to get back home. She then goes on GoFundMe
00:03:11.140 in order to get money in order to go back home. Men cannot do that.
00:03:14.720 Right. Men do not have that type of reach and or access to get free money sent to them
00:03:19.820 if they make a boo-boo. 0.82
00:03:21.540 I don't think so.
00:03:22.480 I think that men...
00:03:23.400 So, society in general, just last quick point, society in general has cushions put in place
00:03:30.660 for women more often than men. That's why most homeless people in America are men. It's
00:03:36.640 like 90 to 10%.
00:03:38.120 90%, yeah.
00:03:38.960 I think when you say that, if you go on the modern-day TikToks or whatever, right, you'll
00:03:45.280 find videos of women saying, oh, how to apologize to your man, just scoot up to him naked with 0.92
00:03:52.500 your arse out, right? And that shows a lot of non-accountability. That shows, when you
00:03:57.460 say that, okay, women are more accountable, it's like, no, that's how they apologize. They 1.00
00:04:01.680 think, okay, if we have sex, then everything's fine. And so, yeah, I think women don't hold 1.00
00:04:06.820 themselves accountable a lot. I think women have a hard time having that introspection. 1.00
00:04:11.280 I think if you do, they try to attack people more so than actually accept that.
00:04:17.340 I think in a time, though, well, we live in a time where women don't really need to be 1.00
00:04:22.180 accountable in a way that men are always running around after them, which I think needs to
00:04:27.280 stop. And that's why that they never have to really hold their hands up and say, look,
00:04:31.600 I'm sorry what I've done wrong. I'll try to fix this. Because before it becomes an actual
00:04:35.680 issue, the man's already there trying to fix what they've done.
00:04:39.140 This is so interesting to me, because I feel like in America, this is not the stance, right?
00:04:44.620 I feel like the men that I have come across in the dating spectrum, they are very passive.
00:04:50.300 They are not quick to apologize. They are very gaslighting. They don't accept accountability.
00:04:55.660 And to your point about a man not being able to go to Vegas, get stuck, and not make his
00:05:00.040 way back, men these days, because they're in the streets doing whatever, have accumulated a
00:05:05.000 bunch of women that care for them. You can paint her a sob story, and she's going to send you $100 1.00
00:05:09.680 because she's caring and wants to support you, right? So I think it's a balance of each,
00:05:14.060 depending on the circumstances and the person. But I definitely think women can be accountable. 1.00
00:05:18.940 And from my circle and my experiences are more accountable. And this generation of men
00:05:23.260 who don't accept accountability are not, they apologize by actions, right? They just show up.
00:05:28.960 They won't accept accountability for what they did. Specifically, a blanket apology is not an apology.
00:05:33.740 If you are not owning, right? That's the definition of lack of accountability.
00:05:37.720 If you, oh, I'm just sorry. But what are we sorry for? What are we making improvements on, right?
00:05:42.740 So I have a question for you. What was the last thing that you apologized for?
00:05:46.300 What was the last thing you took accountability for?
00:05:48.220 Bad communication.
00:05:49.500 Bad communication.
00:05:50.600 Yeah.
00:05:50.780 Okay, what you had something to say?
00:05:53.360 I think maybe sometimes when I lose my anger, sometimes I'll blame it on other things.
00:05:58.060 Then the last thing I took accountability for is when I've gone, no, do you know what?
00:06:00.720 I overreacted with that and I shouldn't have reacted in that way. So I apologize for that.
00:06:05.260 Can we clarify that accountability is not the same as an apology?
00:06:09.720 Right.
00:06:10.040 Because accountability means that there is a consequence after the action.
00:06:15.280 So either that means, okay, you did that. And because of that, this is the consequence.
00:06:20.440 And I believe that is what men have to deal with.
00:06:23.380 I think a lot of times women think just by saying, I'm sorry, I'm accountable. 0.99
00:06:27.800 That is not the same thing.
00:06:29.340 The amount of times that I'm in dating relationships with different women and listen, they just want to just complain about the problem. 1.00
00:06:37.720 I want to fix the problem.
00:06:39.220 Correct.
00:06:39.400 I don't want to continue to listen to you just talk about what happened with you and Marianne in the office, right?
00:06:45.840 If you come to me with an issue, let's talk about solutions, all right?
00:06:49.720 Because you can't just waste my time like that at the end of the day.
00:06:52.380 Let's talk about solutions.
00:06:53.320 But I find as though a lot of women don't communicate in solutions. 1.00
00:06:56.420 So we talk about accountability.
00:06:57.920 The consequences for that is the solution.
00:07:00.240 If men in general are not accountable, they will not be successful.
00:07:03.680 If women in general are not accountable, they can still be the wife to a CEO. 1.00
00:07:08.920 Or they can go on OnlyFans.
00:07:10.360 Using that analogy, that same woman will complain to you about, you know, what happened at work. 1.00
00:07:16.700 You will say as a man, okay, cool.
00:07:18.480 What are we going to do about it?
00:07:19.600 What are we doing about it?
00:07:20.380 How are we going to fix this?
00:07:21.080 How are we going to fix this?
00:07:22.120 She will say, oh, I just wanted to vent.
00:07:23.800 And then the next week or the next month, she'll be complaining to you about the same thing.
00:07:28.200 So it's like, okay, but how do you hold yourself accountable?
00:07:31.480 Do you want to face this woman or whoever you have a problem with?
00:07:34.440 Do you want to get it out into the air?
00:07:36.540 Do you want to help the situation?
00:07:38.140 No, they just want to vent.
00:07:39.320 So yeah, women talk a lot, but they don't do a lot. 1.00
00:07:44.080 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:07:47.640 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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