@TheRealMTR and@MelanieKing1 Discuss Modern Women's DELUSION
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In this episode, we discuss accountability and the role of women and men in society. Who is more accountable and who is not? Who do you think is more responsible for the decisions you make in life and in relationships?
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that. I would like for you guys to define a word that we hear so much about. I'd like for you guys
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to define accountability. Go here, around, in the second row. Accountability is being ultimately
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responsible for all of your actions, whether it be positive or negative. Yeah, I would say it is
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accountability, and I think it's also owning it to a level where you're fixing it. Like, you can
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take accountability or know that you've done wrong, but not pointing to others and deflecting,
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but you're actually reflecting. Look in the mirror and say, what can I do to change? Because that's
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the only person you can change. I think accountability is having introspection and
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self-reflection. I think it's about understanding who you are and taking responsibility for all of
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the decisions that you make in your life. Yeah, I would say accountability is admitting what you did
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right and wrong, and then also accepting the consequences of both. Yeah, I definitely agree.
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I think taking accountability is very important in life and for self-development as well.
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I think self-awareness, but also the ability to receive when other people have something to say
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about you, because as self, we can be jaded to what we don't see about ourselves, but we don't want to
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hear what other people have to say about us. And that, honestly, is how we coexist with other people,
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and we need to be accountable for how others receive us so that we can properly co-exist.
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I think accountability is being honest with yourself and that once you admit you're at fault,
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you can grow from that. I think that's the most important thing.
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So who takes more accountability, men or women?
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I think women, you know, we easily say sorry. Men don't say sorry as much as women, so definitely women.
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But men say sorry and then continue to fix it, whereas women kind of say sorry and then continue
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I think women rarely say sorry in a relationship.
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Across the board, I've never, most men, one of their biggest gripes is that women, they will
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always move the goalposts. Like, if they're wrong, then they will kind of counterpoint on
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how they, like, how you caused it. Like, even if they cheat, well, you weren't emotionally
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available. So it's your fault. No matter what happens, there's an excuse. I rarely hear a woman
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say, I'm sorry, honey. I did wrong. I'm going to work on it. You'll never see me do this again.
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Well, I think that's exactly, that's exactly not taking accountability.
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Not in all situations, but I do think women hold their hands up more than men. Men gaslight.
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Right. That's the thing. There's accountability in gaslighting, so.
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So, um, I think that there's a difference within our society. I think that women have
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the privilege in our modern-day society today to not be held accountable. I did a story not
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too long ago, about a year or so ago, just popped into my head, where a young lady went
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down to NBA All-Star Weekend with not enough money to get back home. She then goes on GoFundMe
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in order to get money in order to go back home. Men cannot do that.
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Right. Men do not have that type of reach and or access to get free money sent to them
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So, society in general, just last quick point, society in general has cushions put in place
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for women more often than men. That's why most homeless people in America are men. It's
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I think when you say that, if you go on the modern-day TikToks or whatever, right, you'll
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find videos of women saying, oh, how to apologize to your man, just scoot up to him naked with
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your arse out, right? And that shows a lot of non-accountability. That shows, when you
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say that, okay, women are more accountable, it's like, no, that's how they apologize. They
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think, okay, if we have sex, then everything's fine. And so, yeah, I think women don't hold
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themselves accountable a lot. I think women have a hard time having that introspection.
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I think if you do, they try to attack people more so than actually accept that.
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I think in a time, though, well, we live in a time where women don't really need to be
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accountable in a way that men are always running around after them, which I think needs to
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stop. And that's why that they never have to really hold their hands up and say, look,
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I'm sorry what I've done wrong. I'll try to fix this. Because before it becomes an actual
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issue, the man's already there trying to fix what they've done.
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This is so interesting to me, because I feel like in America, this is not the stance, right?
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I feel like the men that I have come across in the dating spectrum, they are very passive.
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They are not quick to apologize. They are very gaslighting. They don't accept accountability.
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And to your point about a man not being able to go to Vegas, get stuck, and not make his
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way back, men these days, because they're in the streets doing whatever, have accumulated a
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bunch of women that care for them. You can paint her a sob story, and she's going to send you $100
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because she's caring and wants to support you, right? So I think it's a balance of each,
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depending on the circumstances and the person. But I definitely think women can be accountable.
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And from my circle and my experiences are more accountable. And this generation of men
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who don't accept accountability are not, they apologize by actions, right? They just show up.
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They won't accept accountability for what they did. Specifically, a blanket apology is not an apology.
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If you are not owning, right? That's the definition of lack of accountability.
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If you, oh, I'm just sorry. But what are we sorry for? What are we making improvements on, right?
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So I have a question for you. What was the last thing that you apologized for?
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What was the last thing you took accountability for?
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I think maybe sometimes when I lose my anger, sometimes I'll blame it on other things.
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Then the last thing I took accountability for is when I've gone, no, do you know what?
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I overreacted with that and I shouldn't have reacted in that way. So I apologize for that.
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Can we clarify that accountability is not the same as an apology?
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Because accountability means that there is a consequence after the action.
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So either that means, okay, you did that. And because of that, this is the consequence.
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And I believe that is what men have to deal with.
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I think a lot of times women think just by saying, I'm sorry, I'm accountable.
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The amount of times that I'm in dating relationships with different women and listen, they just want to just complain about the problem.
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I don't want to continue to listen to you just talk about what happened with you and Marianne in the office, right?
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If you come to me with an issue, let's talk about solutions, all right?
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Because you can't just waste my time like that at the end of the day.
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But I find as though a lot of women don't communicate in solutions.
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If men in general are not accountable, they will not be successful.
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If women in general are not accountable, they can still be the wife to a CEO.
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Using that analogy, that same woman will complain to you about, you know, what happened at work.
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And then the next week or the next month, she'll be complaining to you about the same thing.
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So it's like, okay, but how do you hold yourself accountable?
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Do you want to face this woman or whoever you have a problem with?
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So yeah, women talk a lot, but they don't do a lot.
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