JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023


These Are The Problems With Modern Women

Topics
going coffee coffee date women investing without outcomes money
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Paul Pearly Royal
Modern Women Are Bad Communicator Adam22 And Destiny Forgot They're IRRELEVANT

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11 minutes

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2,672

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15

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In this episode, we talk about how to find a good woman, how to be a good wife, and how to protect your partner in a situation where they are in need of protection. We also talk about what to do when a woman you are interested in wants to go out on a date but you don t have a partner.

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00:00:00.000 Step one, sleep with her as soon as possible and wait up to one month to a year, depending on the guy. 0.98
00:00:15.920 Because what if you wait a year and you don't like it?
00:00:19.580 I wasn't only into that one.
00:00:23.540 Okay, so don't wait.
00:00:28.040 Now we're going back.
00:00:29.060 Don't wait.
00:00:30.020 Just for him, though.
00:00:31.340 He's waiting, yeah.
00:00:32.060 Okay, so next step.
00:00:33.780 Okay, so when should you ask her to make you a coffee?
00:00:37.340 That's what we have.
00:00:38.860 I don't even drink coffee.
00:00:40.700 Okay, so what else?
00:00:41.900 How else do you vet for a good woman? 1.00
00:00:44.920 You know what?
00:00:47.080 To vet a good woman, yeah, I think you need, it depends on the communication and the conversation that you have. 0.84
00:00:51.660 So going coffee is, I agree.
00:00:54.740 And the maddest thing is, the girl I'm seeing now, this is the first time I've ever gone coffee.
00:00:58.920 And we had a mad conversation in Costa over coffee.
00:01:01.340 And I've never done that before, which is mad.
00:01:04.520 I'm telling you.
00:01:05.560 But once you have a good, through conversation and through certain things, a man would get an idea.
00:01:10.580 So adding on to what Romans is saying with family values, traditional, maybe even Pharaoh, God, like conversation with her, you will understand a lot more about her.
00:01:19.820 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:20.180 If she can, can she even conversate?
00:01:21.740 Can we have a proper conversation together?
00:01:23.500 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:24.140 Okay, so take on coffee date, sleep with her as soon as possible. 0.99
00:01:29.560 Coffee date after I finish waiting.
00:01:32.340 Oh, so that, okay.
00:01:34.660 You're getting on coffee date after you finish waiting.
00:01:37.100 That's a waste of time.
00:01:37.900 Nah, man, you gotta go first.
00:01:39.320 What?
00:01:39.720 Okay.
00:01:41.340 Go on coffee date, either before or after you sleep with her.
00:01:46.300 Can I just say really quickly, I promise, the reason why you could say that now is because you're in a position to be open, to be receptive to her as well.
00:01:59.320 You know, some guys would be like, what?
00:02:00.940 You know, like we're going clubbing or, you know, it depends on the man as well.
00:02:05.380 Yeah, 100%.
00:02:06.080 I'm not putting blame on the man, but it's a two-way street.
00:02:09.440 A lot of Pearly's list man has, so I've probably gone through dating women, gone through this, gone through that.
00:02:14.900 So now when I meet someone, I can analyse a good woman, do you get what I'm saying? 0.99
00:02:19.280 Yeah.
00:02:19.580 And it's through action.
00:02:20.540 I feel like, to your question of where's all the good women gone here, I feel like a lot of good women don't have the values of back in the day.
00:02:27.540 So women, I don't know back in the day because I wasn't born back in the day, but I think a lot of women don't want to show wife credentials before they're a wife. 1.00
00:02:34.660 So they will hold things back expecting you to put a ring on their finger because it's like, oh, I can do this, but I'm not going to do these until I'm your wife.
00:02:43.000 But men are thinking, men are thinking, bro, all right, if you're going to, cool, there's other gal out here that's going to show me what a wife is. 1.00
00:02:49.780 But imagine acting like a wife and doing full throttle, like cooking's different, but full throttle acting like a wife for you to go and see someone else or play around. 1.00
00:02:56.080 100%, but if you don't do that, the man's gone.
00:02:58.460 So do you want to show him, do you want to show him that you're a wife?
00:03:01.680 Because a man coming into it is showing you're ready, I'm a husband. 0.99
00:03:04.100 If you want a promotion, don't you do the job that he gives you first?
00:03:07.680 Or do you say promote me with no work experience?
00:03:11.180 Because you know what, if I, okay, one second, me and you are in a relationship or we're building up a relationship and then we go out and then, I don't know, a gal beat you up or something happens.
00:03:22.040 I'm here to protect you, but I just stand there and just watch you.
00:03:25.240 When we go home now, what are you going to say to me?
00:03:27.080 No, no one would, I mean, if no one would do that, you can't say no one because there's man out here that's not going to protect you.
00:03:33.280 So our job is to protect someone.
00:03:36.000 A stranger would jump involved and protect someone.
00:03:37.740 Okay, forget the semantics.
00:03:39.240 My job is to protect and provide for you.
00:03:41.040 If I don't protect you when I'm out with you and you're rolling out with me, when we go home, what are you saying to me?
00:03:47.640 As in a fighting situation, that's not a good example.
00:03:50.240 Okay, whatever situation where you need protecting and I don't protect you in that situation, what are you doing after that situation?
00:03:57.100 I can't answer that question because I don't know what you mean by protecting.
00:04:00.020 You're deciding that he's not the one.
00:04:02.060 That doesn't make sense.
00:04:02.880 It's happened to me before.
00:04:04.140 There was like an accident in Costa Rica.
00:04:06.320 There was like a canoeing thing and a kayak thing and he didn't show up.
00:04:10.460 And I really questioned my future with this guy.
00:04:13.220 For me, it was done.
00:04:14.340 Done?
00:04:14.800 Of course.
00:04:15.220 Of course it's done.
00:04:16.280 That's different.
00:04:17.060 He didn't show up.
00:04:17.720 I was polite about it.
00:04:18.520 But if you don't show your wife credentials to the man, what do you think he's going to do?
00:04:22.880 The thing is, there's an extent, there's a limit.
00:04:24.940 You can't do everything because you don't know if that man's serious yet.
00:04:27.840 You don't know what's going on.
00:04:28.860 So you can't do everything.
00:04:29.840 And I'm not, you don't out here.
00:04:30.980 He's pretty serious when he approached you.
00:04:32.720 Listen, he needs to prove to you that he's a good husband.
00:04:35.020 But that's fear though.
00:04:35.940 No, he don't. 0.94
00:04:36.260 What the hell? 0.96
00:04:36.720 Yes? 0.99
00:04:36.980 Wait, wait.
00:04:37.480 That's fear though.
00:04:38.740 Like that's the thing.
00:04:39.360 Like you're going into something in bad faith.
00:04:41.220 Oh, I can't do much for him.
00:04:42.960 Otherwise he might not pick me.
00:04:44.720 Why give him a chance anyway?
00:04:45.760 Yeah, but it's like you're going into things in fear and you don't get anything worth having 0.99
00:04:50.240 if you go into shit scared. 0.99
00:04:52.040 Exactly. 1.00
00:04:52.660 Like you can get your heart broke.
00:04:54.100 Like it happens.
00:04:55.280 Scared money don't make no money.
00:04:56.640 Yeah.
00:04:57.100 But it's like you have to, in order to, okay.
00:04:59.180 In order to start this whole podcast, I had to invest first.
00:05:03.020 But women want all the outcomes without having to invest anything. 1.00
00:05:06.860 I feel like it's a two-way thing.
00:05:09.140 You didn't hear what she just said.
00:05:10.020 A husband has to come to her already. 0.99
00:05:12.020 So it's a two-way thing.
00:05:13.420 So then why does the wife have to come? 1.00
00:05:14.380 Why do you have to come?
00:05:15.000 So don't you think, Paul, it's a two-way thing.
00:05:16.540 So if I'm, it's 50-50 and then you're both on the same page, that's different.
00:05:20.900 Of course I can do that.
00:05:21.540 So are you going to show your wife?
00:05:22.400 But if I'm not going to do the most and you're doing the least.
00:05:24.040 Okay, so I have a question.
00:05:25.140 When you go on dates, who pays?
00:05:27.380 He does, but I will pay.
00:05:28.540 I can pay.
00:05:29.060 No, I didn't say you can pay.
00:05:30.420 I said who pays?
00:05:31.540 The guy will.
00:05:32.240 Okay, so why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him?
00:05:35.980 But can I tell you something, Paul?
00:05:37.000 Why?
00:05:37.880 No, no, no.
00:05:38.800 We have to think about this.
00:05:40.200 Why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him? 0.71
00:05:42.460 But I've done that before to men.
00:05:43.740 I've paid on first dates before.
00:05:45.020 I've offered.
00:05:45.780 You know, because I have a kind of smart.
00:05:49.160 I'm not talking about what you have done.
00:05:52.200 I'm talking about what typically happens.
00:05:53.980 You're a pretty girl.
00:05:54.760 I know these men pay for you.
00:05:56.560 I feel like men are in a stereotypical mindset where they feel like they're the big man.
00:06:03.660 They have to be responsible for paying for a first date and stuff like that. 1.00
00:06:06.840 So I feel like that's why they do it automatically.
00:06:08.660 Because men are traditional.
00:06:10.420 Men are more.
00:06:11.420 You're right.
00:06:12.120 Men are in more traditional roles than women.
00:06:15.120 So it's like the men are coming to you in a traditional role.
00:06:17.760 They're taking you on a date.
00:06:18.700 They're paying.
00:06:19.660 But you're saying, I can't be a traditional woman for him.
00:06:22.340 I can't give him wifely duties. 0.93
00:06:23.580 When off the bat, before he even knows if he's going to get sex from you, which is what 0.95
00:06:28.880 men want, right? 0.90
00:06:30.140 He's paying.
00:06:31.340 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:06:33.120 Can we just be honest?
00:06:33.840 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:06:35.420 Yes, it is.
00:06:35.860 Let's be honest.
00:06:37.280 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:06:39.940 Hold on, hold on.
00:06:40.580 Let me just show of hands here.
00:06:42.840 Is £200 nothing to you guys?
00:06:46.080 Raise your hand if £200 is nothing to you.
00:06:47.600 If the investment goes right, it's great.
00:06:49.080 If it doesn't go right, it's a lot.
00:06:50.660 Okay, if one is £200 and nothing, so none of these men are men?
00:06:56.360 Of course they're men, but there's different calibers of men.
00:06:58.560 Okay, they're not the right calibers of men?
00:07:00.600 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:07:01.400 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:07:02.500 What's that about?
00:07:03.200 No, but I just, you know, I have a certain type of man.
00:07:07.300 Like, I like a man that's, you know, I want a man that's like a leader in a high position
00:07:12.460 that can teach me because I want to be in that place too.
00:07:15.040 And you're willing to show him nothing.
00:07:17.740 No, listen, like I said, £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:07:21.420 You could show him everything and he would just, and he could possibly not be serious
00:07:25.240 of you and be speaking to another girl or sleeping with someone else. 0.75
00:07:28.020 And that's the only reason.
00:07:30.660 No, until I know that you're serious, I can surrender to you, period.
00:07:34.480 So you're not even respecting a man's pocket on the first day? 0.84
00:07:36.860 Like I said, £200 is nothing to a man that has you.
00:07:39.040 Yeah, exactly, you don't respect the money because you just said it's nothing.
00:07:42.080 Because you're looking at it like, bro, man is going to show the brain.
00:07:44.100 Unless he states he's not able to afford to go on a date or whatever.
00:07:47.900 No man is going to state anything.
00:07:50.320 Man could have his last £200 and spend a dose.
00:07:51.980 Bro, you don't date when you're broke.
00:07:53.100 No, no.
00:07:53.680 You don't date when you're broke.
00:07:54.620 One second, one second.
00:07:55.320 You can't say that because man are dating when they're broke.
00:07:57.740 Well, that would never be me.
00:07:59.480 What do you mean?
00:08:00.340 If he doesn't want to spend £200 on a date, like, what?
00:08:03.780 No, I mean.
00:08:04.480 You need £200 on a first date?
00:08:06.500 All right, pal, man.
00:08:07.120 For what?
00:08:08.120 But that's, I didn't ask.
00:08:09.800 No, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, no, you said £200 ain't nothing
00:08:14.740 to a man.
00:08:15.360 To a man, yeah.
00:08:15.800 And then when, and then when all of these guys said, no, that is something to me, you 0.99
00:08:20.120 shat on them. 0.96
00:08:21.120 You said, you said they're not a high enough calibre of man. 0.99
00:08:23.840 No, no, no.
00:08:24.400 Personally, but I'm saying, from my experience, people have paid, and I've been on dates and
00:08:30.400 I've never spoke to a person again after and they've spent a lot of money.
00:08:32.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:33.280 What I'm saying is, yeah, you're not valuing their time and money because you think that
00:08:37.460 every single one of them that's spending that money, whether it's £100 or £200, you think
00:08:41.100 all of them have got it.
00:08:42.240 There's some man that probably have taken you out on a date and that's their last time
00:08:44.580 Probably, but I would never know.
00:08:45.600 Exactly.
00:08:46.140 So then, but you're still not respecting their money.
00:08:48.060 I don't think about it like that.
00:08:49.640 Exactly.
00:08:50.200 Because you're still saying that you can't give them too much, but they're spending £200
00:08:54.520 on you on a first date.
00:08:56.080 But I don't think, the way guys go on, they act like money's nothing to them and they're,
00:09:00.040 do you know what I mean?
00:09:00.500 So why would I be so conscious, like, unless I love you and I know about your financial
00:09:04.540 situation, it'll be completely different.
00:09:05.800 No, okay, but this is the thing, you're just not appreciative.
00:09:08.180 Because you're saying, no, you're not, I'm listening to you speak.
00:09:11.320 Does she come off appreciative to anyone?
00:09:13.200 No, no, not at all.
00:09:14.020 I'm not a grateful person, like for real.
00:09:15.840 Okay, but I'm listening to you speak.
00:09:18.080 If I liked a guy and I spoke to him on a level and he came to me and said, I can't even
00:09:22.220 afford to take you out in a certain place, I would not have a problem with that.
00:09:25.260 Believe me.
00:09:25.640 No man is going to do that.
00:09:26.240 Believe me.
00:09:26.720 But you just said it ain't nothing to a man.
00:09:29.760 And when all the guys in here said, no, that is something to me, you said, they are not
00:09:36.940 the caliber of man.
00:09:38.480 You insulted them.
00:09:39.620 No, not really.
00:09:41.440 No, I said broke men don't date.
00:09:44.060 That's what I said.
00:09:44.580 Okay, so a man's broke if he doesn't want to spend 200 pounds.
00:09:47.580 Again, I'm from a 1% top earning family.
00:09:51.800 Broke men can just not want to spend 200 pounds on someone they don't know.
00:09:55.540 They don't have to, yeah, but I don't ask for it.
00:09:57.500 It's not that I don't ask for that.
00:09:58.260 But you know what, if a man really likes you and he's into you, he would spend his last
00:10:01.880 200 pound on you without you knowing.
00:10:03.620 But I would not have known that.
00:10:04.620 Because they go on like, they have money and they go on like, oh, like everything's fine.
00:10:08.500 It's not like a man's going on like anything.
00:10:11.180 A man's just not going, we're not going to openly say, oh, we're going to the dinner table, 0.98
00:10:14.580 the bill comes, oh, you know what, I can't afford this.
00:10:16.420 I've never been in a situation.
00:10:18.340 You're never going to be in that.
00:10:19.360 I've never been, so I can't relate to that.
00:10:21.640 Royal.
00:10:22.240 Royal.
00:10:23.000 You're never going to be in that situation where a man's going to be at the table and tell 1.00
00:10:25.480 you, yo, I've got money to pay for this. 0.99
00:10:26.180 I had one guy say to me that, like, go for coffee.
00:10:28.960 And, you know, I think he was testing me, but I was fine with that because I actually
00:10:32.660 liked him.
00:10:33.180 Like, it's not an issue.
00:10:33.820 Yeah, but he didn't tell you his bank account balance though.
00:10:35.500 No, he never, but he said that, you know, I'm not in a great position right now.
00:10:38.660 And that's fine because I knew he was intelligent and I knew that he was someone
00:10:41.480 I could build with because he's very smart.
00:10:43.120 He just wasn't in the right place at the time.
00:10:45.060 Now, I didn't have an issue with that.
00:10:46.620 Unfortunately, it didn't work out.
00:10:48.000 Why didn't it work out?
00:10:48.660 Well, he's Muslim.
00:10:51.820 Bro, it's not about money.
00:10:53.020 Like, I'm not a shallow person.
00:10:54.660 So, please, let's not do that.
00:10:56.120 Like, I know I'm not a shallow person.
00:10:57.240 We're just repeating back what you're saying.
00:10:59.040 But I'm speaking from my own experience so far.
00:11:01.340 I can't say anything else but what I've experienced.
00:11:03.000 Yeah, but there could have been at least two of them.
00:11:04.360 So, I've never had a man that's not been able to pay for something that I'm aware of
00:11:07.920 and he has.
00:11:08.640 I've never had that.
00:11:09.320 Yeah, no, that you're aware of.
00:11:10.460 There could have been at least one man that took you on that date that was
00:11:13.120 the last time.
00:11:13.620 Probably, yeah, and I would never have knew, so, and I'm compassionate about that.
00:11:16.460 So, you have to respect that.
00:11:16.880 No, you have to respect that.
00:11:17.880 I do respect that.