JustPearlyThings - February 08, 2023


These Feminists Couldn't Take It ANYMORE


Episode Stats

Length

19 minutes

Words per Minute

220.6133

Word Count

4,271

Sentence Count

447

Misogynist Sentences

25

Hate Speech Sentences

23


Summary

In this episode, the guys talk about who wears the pants in a relationship and why it s important to have a partner who is capable of making the final decision in a situation. Also, the ladies talk about what it means to be a lesbian in the modern dating world and how to deal with it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I don't like your friends.
00:00:01.840 And as a man, I will say, you know, I'm not going to say don't go out of them.
00:00:04.460 I'm saying this, watch out for this.
00:00:06.080 This is what I've spotted.
00:00:07.140 This, this, this, and this.
00:00:08.760 And I'll let him go ahead.
00:00:09.920 And eventually, he will not, you know what, you were right.
00:00:12.840 So it's just about respect.
00:00:14.220 But I find that these modern people now, they don't have the basic respect for each other in the relationship.
00:00:21.100 So what happens in, like, a lesbian relationship then?
00:00:24.440 I don't know.
00:00:25.900 Well, again, like, I think to be clear, everything that we said, everything, the man says.
00:00:29.540 Everything that was said is fine for relationships.
00:00:31.460 There's, I just, there's not, like, a masculine feminine.
00:00:33.360 Like, what you started talking about, you're going to talk to your partner.
00:00:35.380 You're going to make sure that they understand where you're coming from.
00:00:36.980 Hopefully, you love each other and you know each other.
00:00:38.760 Hopefully, you both have each other's best interests at heart.
00:00:40.920 And then you advise on that.
00:00:41.600 But I just think at the end of the day, someone wears the pants.
00:00:43.540 Like, someone's leading and someone's following.
00:00:45.360 It's, it's like, no, no, no.
00:00:46.400 And sometimes, wait, and sometimes it's reversed.
00:00:49.280 But at some, at some point, like, you have to trust someone's leadership.
00:00:52.240 That, it's going to depend on the domain that you guys are experts in, right?
00:00:55.460 So you said you were a mechanic, right?
00:00:57.540 So I'm guessing that, traditionally, men are going to have to say over the car because men tend to know.
00:01:02.180 But I'm guessing you probably know more than your husband does, right?
00:01:04.280 If he comes back with a 50-pound bill for blinker fluid, you're probably going to, you're probably going to make fun of him, right?
00:01:10.100 But you know something, right?
00:01:11.940 As Pearl knows, and as you most probably know, yes, I'm a mechanic.
00:01:17.240 But he's more stable-minded than me.
00:01:20.620 And as you know from the shit car that I picked you up in, right?
00:01:25.400 Because I must have been having a blind, non-mechanic, feminine moment where I just went in and asked for the cheapest car with four doors.
00:01:33.980 And you saw it.
00:01:34.860 The car's a piece of shit.
00:01:36.120 It's for somebody single.
00:01:37.360 It's not for somebody who's got three grandchildren because three grandchildren, he fills the car.
00:01:41.280 But whereas, he hasn't seen the car yet because I didn't discuss it with him.
00:01:44.680 And he's going to look at me and say, why did you get that car?
00:01:48.840 Yes, I could take it back.
00:01:50.640 But I've decided to punish myself for being such a stupid woman and choosing such a stupid car when I was feeling in my most feminine moment.
00:02:01.300 So, yeah, I can do that.
00:02:02.820 But whereas, even though I'm a trained mechanic, you know my nails, and there's certain things that he will do in the car.
00:02:10.740 No, I won't say that.
00:02:11.540 Most of the things he will do.
00:02:12.540 I always say your brake light needs to be.
00:02:14.100 But he expects me to do the brake light.
00:02:15.940 Because I'm trying to do just the brake light.
00:02:17.760 I'm just saying that in every relationship, both sides are going to know more things than the other side.
00:02:22.940 So, there are going to be some things where the husband is going to have the grand authority, but not because he's the man, but just because that's the stuff that he knows about.
00:02:29.820 I agree with you, but the last decision, you see with me, we would discuss stuff.
00:02:39.880 And I will say this, and he will say that, and then...
00:02:44.100 I might be right, and he'll say, you know what, go with you.
00:02:47.480 Or he might be right, and I'll say, go with you.
00:02:50.400 But if we come to a stalemate, me, I will say, you know what, we're going to go with you because the decision is all yours.
00:02:56.880 Because if the shit hits the fan, me as a bitch woman, I will say, you know what, you made that decision.
00:03:01.240 So, the final decision is always his.
00:03:04.760 Whether he agrees with me, or whether I agree with him, I prefer the final decision to be his because he has to deal with it.
00:03:15.980 I just think, personally, the ideal situation is when you're with a guy that you can trust his decision-making.
00:03:20.920 And I think the girls that I see where they wear the pants in their relationship, they're miserable.
00:03:26.240 Oh my God, they're miserable.
00:03:27.300 It just depends on the thing.
00:03:29.180 There are plenty of women where guys wear the pants, and they're miserable, too.
00:03:32.480 There are lots of people in miserable relationships.
00:03:34.880 Does it happen both ways?
00:03:36.360 Sure, at times.
00:03:37.380 I've just seen, I think that when women wear the pants, they're miserable.
00:03:40.880 What I don't understand in a relationship, can I just say, why does someone have to wear the pants?
00:03:47.220 Why can't we make decisions together?
00:03:49.820 Why can't we make decisions together?
00:03:53.260 Like he said, if you have more expertise in that field, say, okay, like, if I'm trying to make a decision with my man now, I know about properties, right?
00:04:04.500 Say he doesn't know anything about properties.
00:04:06.400 I'm going to be like, oh, babe, because I've bought a property, this is what I'm going to tell you.
00:04:10.020 And because he's probably, like, men know more about cars.
00:04:13.220 I don't know about cars.
00:04:14.280 I will never tell my man anything about cars.
00:04:18.400 Because I assume, because men seem to know more about cars, and if he has a nice car, he's been driving for a long time, I'm going to think, you know what, that's his field.
00:04:28.200 Why does it have to be someone wear the pants?
00:04:30.820 Do you know something, right?
00:04:31.640 That's what women fail to understand.
00:04:33.640 When they hear about a submissive woman, do I look like a woman that just does what her man says?
00:04:40.980 No.
00:04:41.740 I want to take, for instance, you.
00:04:43.760 My man is a saver.
00:04:46.200 I like to invest in property.
00:04:48.700 He has got more money in the bank than me.
00:04:51.440 I have got more properties than him.
00:04:54.280 And even when it comes to getting properties, he was a saver.
00:04:57.880 He was like, no, I need to save money or whatever.
00:04:59.300 And I was like, this is what I think.
00:05:00.420 You know what he said?
00:05:00.980 Go with it.
00:05:02.220 Do you know what?
00:05:02.720 I was right.
00:05:04.140 It doesn't make a difference.
00:05:05.400 Because he made the final decision.
00:05:08.640 Because a selfish man, a man that just wants to feel all full of himself, would just go with what he wants.
00:05:15.480 And we're not talking about the lady in the red coat.
00:05:17.300 I'm sorry.
00:05:17.800 We're not talking about that.
00:05:19.160 We're talking about where you've got a man that leads.
00:05:22.460 And a proper man.
00:05:23.780 When you've got a man that you can trust, he will take into account what you said.
00:05:27.900 He will take into account what he says.
00:05:30.260 And he will weigh up the pros and cons.
00:05:32.240 And he will come out with the best decision for you.
00:05:34.780 Whether it means you side with him or whether it means it sides with you.
00:05:39.540 And if he's not sure, he will either say, you know what?
00:05:42.920 If he's a stubborn, big-headed, bullish man, he will say, you know what?
00:05:46.260 My name rules, so I'm going to go.
00:05:48.180 No.
00:05:48.680 When I was talking about buying a property, my man didn't agree with me.
00:05:51.640 And I explained, you know what?
00:05:52.880 This, this, this, this, this.
00:05:53.980 But it seemed like an impossibility to him in his mind as a natural saver.
00:05:58.580 But he was like, you know what?
00:06:00.280 Go for it.
00:06:01.420 Now we've got the properties.
00:06:03.020 He's got the money.
00:06:03.840 I haven't got no money.
00:06:05.180 If I need money, I'll go to him.
00:06:06.880 But on paper, I've got more money.
00:06:09.640 But in reality, he's got more cash.
00:06:12.440 So you just don't go with a man just because.
00:06:15.000 Because a lot of women think that, oh, I might know more about this, but he's the man.
00:06:19.240 He has to make the final decision.
00:06:20.660 That's like a respect.
00:06:21.740 If a man respects you, he will take into account your decisions, your research, your qualifications before he makes the final decision.
00:06:31.920 And if a man is going to go with all your knowledge, all your experience, all your decision making and what you've been doing for a lifetime and go against it.
00:06:40.840 But don't you think you're talking about skills in a man that is a man that has lived, a man that's matured, a man that has had relationships, learned about himself and others.
00:06:50.260 We're talking about men in their 20s and 30s that have yet to become.
00:06:55.180 So we cannot have the same attitude at all.
00:06:58.800 You're talking generationally completely different.
00:07:00.920 I think the value base is completely different.
00:07:03.220 The way that they are raised are different.
00:07:05.160 Your expectations for our 2023 men that have been raised with sometimes very little foundation, you're expecting so much for them to have all of these qualities that your man of X years and X age and big, big age are having.
00:07:20.800 I don't think they can be compared.
00:07:21.840 I think the point is to pick a good man that you can use to leave it.
00:07:24.100 100%.
00:07:24.820 But I'm talking about we're here now.
00:07:26.800 We're here trying to find this good man.
00:07:28.740 But in the Mecca, we're like, oh no, the nonsense is happening.
00:07:33.400 I want to ask a question.
00:07:34.580 Listen, listen, listen, listen.
00:07:35.680 Do you have a been watching a man as the question?
00:07:36.800 Hold on, hold on, hold on.
00:07:38.180 I've been listening to, like, I haven't even said nothing for ages.
00:07:41.700 Like, at the end of the day, it comes down to who you pick.
00:07:44.520 Yeah.
00:07:44.820 100%.
00:07:45.100 It comes down to who you pick.
00:07:46.240 So you can say all of this, oh yeah, we're trying to find these good men.
00:07:50.420 At what age are you trying to find these good men?
00:07:52.200 And where are you trying to find them as well?
00:07:53.680 Can I just say something, King Riches?
00:07:55.180 Yeah.
00:07:55.960 Right?
00:07:56.260 You're saying about picking.
00:07:59.500 The problem that I find nowadays is that the women's picking.
00:08:02.620 Don't let the women pick.
00:08:03.740 The men's supposed to pick.
00:08:05.220 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:08:05.980 Hold on.
00:08:06.520 The men's supposed to pick.
00:08:07.740 It's what, Camilla?
00:08:09.240 Yeah.
00:08:09.560 Yeah.
00:08:09.760 The problem is at 25, there are no men like this, okay?
00:08:13.060 If you're a 22-year-old woman, you're not going to find a 25-year-old guy that's ready
00:08:16.180 to take charge and lead everything.
00:08:17.540 That's not true.
00:08:17.980 That's not true.
00:08:19.160 That's not true.
00:08:19.720 That's absolutely true.
00:08:20.840 That's absolutely true.
00:08:22.120 I'm so sorry.
00:08:23.000 I know there are a lot of children on those panels, but you're not going to find a 25-year-old
00:08:26.240 guy that has all of it.
00:08:27.500 When the average kid gets out of school today at like 22, 23 years old.
00:08:30.820 Not in England.
00:08:31.020 No.
00:08:31.280 You're thinking, when in England do you finish college?
00:08:33.480 About 18?
00:08:35.140 No, you don't.
00:08:35.960 University?
00:08:36.500 University at 25.
00:08:37.700 University.
00:08:38.020 I'm sorry.
00:08:38.540 We call it different things in America.
00:08:39.280 Yeah, if in university, if you finish that at 20 to 23, there's no way-
00:08:42.520 21.
00:08:43.020 21.
00:08:43.520 21.
00:08:44.020 21.
00:08:44.520 That's if you do a full degree.
00:08:45.600 There's no-
00:08:46.100 If you call students, you can't be 25.
00:08:47.400 At 24, 25, as a man, you are not going to have all the faculty that you will when you reach
00:08:51.840 30, 35.
00:08:52.520 You don't have that lived experience yet to know what it's like to lead a household, to live
00:08:56.400 a life, to exist in like the world, and to navigate it in a responsible way.
00:09:00.160 I'm sorry.
00:09:00.220 I disagree with you.
00:09:01.060 It's so funny that you guys are the first ones to say that we have too high expectations,
00:09:05.800 and then come and tell us that we're not picking the right men and that we're just picking
00:09:08.440 irresponsible men.
00:09:09.440 Like, let's see this.
00:09:10.440 You can date an older guy.
00:09:12.020 If you think that you need a 35-year-old guy, go date one.
00:09:14.440 That's a quick fix.
00:09:15.440 You could.
00:09:16.440 Nah, I'm alright.
00:09:17.440 Come on, man.
00:09:18.440 But what if we're not attracted to older men?
00:09:19.440 What did you say?
00:09:20.440 I want a young man just like myself, so we can relate together.
00:09:25.940 Again, like, I don't want a leader.
00:09:27.940 So relate and struggle then.
00:09:28.940 You guys keep talking about how you need a man to lead.
00:09:32.820 Yeah.
00:09:33.820 I already know myself.
00:09:34.820 I'm an adult.
00:09:35.820 You know, I've spent a lot of time with myself.
00:09:38.320 I am in tune with myself.
00:09:40.320 What I want is partnership.
00:09:42.320 Yes, my lord.
00:09:43.320 I want a man that we can actually share experiences together rather than a leader.
00:09:49.440 Yeah, I think the problem is when I listen to Pearl and Rich is an auntie, a little bit,
00:09:52.700 mainly you two guys, it feels like you guys are saying that women need to look for fathers.
00:09:55.940 That's what I hear.
00:09:56.940 I ain't looking for no daddy.
00:09:57.940 Can I say something?
00:09:58.940 Can I just say something?
00:10:02.820 Can I just say something?
00:10:04.700 When I met my man, we were both in our 20s.
00:10:06.820 Thank you.
00:10:07.820 But in the 80s.
00:10:08.820 We were both in our 20s.
00:10:09.820 In the 80s.
00:10:10.820 And the thing is, it's in the 80s, but if you had the same standards now, which I have
00:10:15.820 met some really good young men that had the same standards as my man have.
00:10:21.700 But you know what?
00:10:22.580 The women don't want them because they're average men.
00:10:24.700 Well, all your videos, everybody's videos.
00:10:26.580 The women want above average.
00:10:27.580 The women want above average.
00:10:28.580 Aunty, can I add something?
00:10:29.580 So what is it?
00:10:30.580 When I met my man, I was average.
00:10:33.580 He was average.
00:10:34.580 He was sexy as hell and all the young girls wanted him.
00:10:36.580 Do you know what I mean?
00:10:37.580 But we were both average people and he was always sensible from young.
00:10:42.460 But you're sounding like I need to settle.
00:10:44.460 Why can't I want amazing?
00:10:45.460 No.
00:10:46.460 Why do I not deserve it?
00:10:47.460 This is the thing.
00:10:48.460 This is the thing.
00:10:49.460 Why do I not deserve it?
00:10:50.460 Hold on, hold on, hold on.
00:10:51.460 You can want what you want, but can you get it is the question.
00:10:53.460 Can I tell you something?
00:10:54.460 My man is amazing.
00:10:55.460 He's always been amazing.
00:10:56.460 I don't know.
00:10:57.460 He was amazing when...
00:10:58.460 I'm older than him.
00:10:59.460 He was amazing when he was young.
00:11:00.460 That was a bit shady.
00:11:01.460 That was a bit shady, pal.
00:11:02.460 And he was amazing old.
00:11:03.460 It's not shady.
00:11:04.460 It's like, why aren't they perfect?
00:11:06.580 It's like, why aren't they perfect?
00:11:07.580 It's like, no one's perfect.
00:11:08.580 They say perfect, but it's like everybody's saying, I need to have it as average.
00:11:11.580 As average.
00:11:12.580 Why?
00:11:13.580 I ain't average.
00:11:14.580 I am not average.
00:11:15.580 I'm going to let you know right now.
00:11:16.580 Well, make sure you're not average.
00:11:17.580 Because if I look at my age mates, my successes, my achievements, my personality, my drive,
00:11:23.580 my motivation is unmatched.
00:11:25.580 Can I just say something for once?
00:11:28.580 Are you a single parent?
00:11:29.580 I am a single parent.
00:11:30.580 You're average.
00:11:31.580 I'm average.
00:11:32.580 You're average.
00:11:33.580 Can you ask me why I was a single parent?
00:11:35.580 I'm a single parent.
00:11:36.580 Can you ask me why I'm a single parent?
00:11:37.580 It doesn't matter.
00:11:38.580 I'm a divorcee first.
00:11:39.580 I'm a divorcee.
00:11:40.580 I was a single parent.
00:11:42.580 But you assume why I'm a single parent.
00:11:44.580 You think I just woke up and I bred and I'm a single mum.
00:11:47.580 That's not how it happened.
00:11:48.580 I did all that.
00:11:49.580 I did all that.
00:11:50.580 It's just that because sometimes as a single parent, because you've been in a relationship
00:11:56.580 and you've been there before, you've got different expectations.
00:11:59.580 No, I'm saying I didn't start as a single parent.
00:12:01.580 I met my husband and I had a child.
00:12:03.580 Nobody meets as a single parent.
00:12:04.580 I really don't like the way you guys assume things about single parents.
00:12:07.580 My man was a single parent.
00:12:09.580 I'm not just going against the women.
00:12:11.580 My man was a single parent too.
00:12:13.580 My man was also a single parent.
00:12:15.580 So does that make her average because she's a single parent?
00:12:17.580 Guys, why is average an insult?
00:12:19.580 What is wrong with average?
00:12:21.580 Can I add something?
00:12:24.580 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:12:25.580 There's how many people in here?
00:12:27.580 Wait, eight?
00:12:28.580 Most of us are average.
00:12:29.580 Most people are average.
00:12:30.580 Can I say something?
00:12:31.580 And when you talk about drive, that's not things that men look for.
00:12:34.580 I'm not looking for what men are looking for.
00:12:35.580 I'm looking for what I'm looking for.
00:12:36.580 This is the problem.
00:12:37.580 Okay, so when you speak about average, right?
00:12:39.580 Because remember, everything we speak about needs to be within context.
00:12:42.580 Okay, so when you spoke, you said compared to my peers, right?
00:12:45.580 Yeah, my age mate.
00:12:46.580 So maybe compared to your peers, you may not be average.
00:12:49.580 That was my evidence of why I'm not average.
00:12:51.580 However, however, if we go to another context, right?
00:12:54.580 And then we compare you to people like Rihanna, Beyonce,
00:13:00.580 Who are one millionaires.
00:13:01.580 Nine billion.
00:13:02.580 Hang on, right?
00:13:03.580 Because you're not...
00:13:04.580 I can't compare it.
00:13:05.580 One second, you can.
00:13:06.580 Because I'll tell you why.
00:13:08.580 Let me explain why, right?
00:13:09.580 When you meet a guy, right?
00:13:11.580 You can be very pretty.
00:13:12.580 You could be very attractive.
00:13:13.580 You could be like all of these things, right?
00:13:15.580 But he will still look at you as average.
00:13:18.580 Because if he can...
00:13:21.580 Look, there's always...
00:13:22.580 It depends what you compare the average with.
00:13:25.580 Okay, so like you said with your peers, you can apply that to that.
00:13:27.580 But if you apply average on a larger scale, okay?
00:13:30.580 Where people are millionaires, people are mad famous, millions of followers.
00:13:34.580 They all look at you as average compared to that person.
00:13:37.580 Do you understand what I'm trying to say?
00:13:38.580 We're looking at percentages though.
00:13:39.580 No, but we have to look overall.
00:13:40.580 Because you've got to remember, people are being brainwashed out here.
00:13:43.580 They're looking at Rihanna.
00:13:44.580 They're looking at Beyonce.
00:13:45.580 They're looking at all of these people.
00:13:47.580 Do you know what the problem is with this?
00:13:48.580 The whole thing is that...
00:13:49.580 If you don't mind, can I just finish what I was saying?
00:13:51.580 So that's the first thing I was going to say.
00:13:53.580 It's in context, right?
00:13:55.580 Who you're comparing yourself to.
00:13:57.580 Because nowadays, guys are looking for girls.
00:13:59.580 The majority of guys.
00:14:00.580 Because look, I'm a woman, right?
00:14:02.580 But all my life, I'm road.
00:14:04.580 I'm hood.
00:14:05.580 All my friends are savages.
00:14:07.580 They're all road men.
00:14:08.580 I don't chill with girls.
00:14:09.580 I've got one female that's my friend.
00:14:10.580 All my friends are males.
00:14:12.580 So I hear them when they speak.
00:14:14.580 This younger generation, a lot of them are actually looking for girls with money.
00:14:17.580 That's what they want.
00:14:18.580 Girls with money.
00:14:19.580 Girls with cars.
00:14:20.580 Girls with...
00:14:21.580 That's how they're thinking now.
00:14:22.580 Their thinking is completely different.
00:14:24.580 So a normal basic 9 to 5 working person or working class or whatever.
00:14:29.580 It's average to them.
00:14:30.580 It's average.
00:14:31.580 Because they're seeing these things every day.
00:14:33.580 So that's the first point I wanted to make, right?
00:14:35.580 The second point I wanted to make is people are like,
00:14:37.580 You know, the man should be in control.
00:14:39.580 The man's...
00:14:40.580 You have to listen to the man and the man's got the power.
00:14:42.580 But really and truly, right?
00:14:43.580 If you're married, right?
00:14:44.580 Or you're in a serious relationship with a man.
00:14:46.580 You're the one that's in control.
00:14:48.580 You're the one that's in power.
00:14:49.580 And I'll tell you why.
00:14:50.580 Because when your husband respects you, right?
00:14:52.580 He'll do anything for you.
00:14:54.580 You ring him and say to him, look, I need milk.
00:14:55.580 He's dropping everything.
00:14:56.580 And he's coming.
00:14:57.580 He's bringing milk.
00:14:58.580 If you ring him and say to him, I need this.
00:14:59.580 Or something's happened.
00:15:00.580 Or he's coming.
00:15:01.580 He's coming running straight for you.
00:15:02.580 So really, you're actually in control.
00:15:04.580 As long as there is respect there.
00:15:06.580 Right?
00:15:07.580 And there's the love there.
00:15:08.580 And you're playing your role.
00:15:09.580 And he's playing his role.
00:15:10.580 They say that a woman is the neck to a man's head.
00:15:13.580 So you can turn his head whichever way you want to turn his head.
00:15:16.580 You just got to know how to.
00:15:18.580 What were you going to say?
00:15:19.580 You want to say something?
00:15:20.580 I really hate how being a single mother diminishes your value as a human being.
00:15:25.580 How you can go from a 10, suddenly everyone's like,
00:15:28.580 Oh, now you're a five because you're a single mother.
00:15:30.580 That says nothing about who you are as a person.
00:15:32.580 That says nothing about your mastery.
00:15:33.580 About your talent.
00:15:34.580 About the discipline it takes to get you there.
00:15:36.580 But now there's somebody.
00:15:37.580 That don't matter, bro.
00:15:38.580 That don't matter, bro.
00:15:39.580 That don't matter, bro.
00:15:40.580 That don't matter, bro.
00:15:41.580 Now something has happened in her life.
00:15:42.580 That don't matter, bro.
00:15:43.580 That's such a shallow way to live her life.
00:15:45.580 Listen, listen, listen, listen.
00:15:46.580 It's so shallow.
00:15:47.580 At the end of the day.
00:15:48.580 At the end of the day, yeah.
00:15:49.580 You have to just respect what the market wants.
00:15:51.580 What?
00:15:52.580 At the end of the day.
00:15:53.580 Do you know how much man want a single mom?
00:15:54.580 Bro, let me just finish my.
00:15:55.580 Because I'll let you lot talk.
00:15:56.580 Do you think?
00:15:57.580 Do your thing.
00:15:58.580 I will do my thing.
00:15:59.580 Yeah.
00:16:00.580 At the end of the day.
00:16:01.580 If you don't care what the market wants.
00:16:03.580 And you talk and you tell yourself, oh, I'm not average.
00:16:05.580 I'm not average, bro.
00:16:06.580 Like you're just going to continue losing, bruv.
00:16:09.580 You should maybe understand the market.
00:16:11.580 Guess what?
00:16:12.580 Coca-Cola understands its market.
00:16:13.580 That's why Coca-Cola is successful, bro.
00:16:16.580 So you can be deluded and think I'm a 10 and this.
00:16:20.580 Because I've got money and I went to this school and blah, blah, blah.
00:16:24.580 Like, bro, I do these podcasts.
00:16:26.580 It's the same thing.
00:16:27.580 And these women come and say the same thing because I went to this school and I've got
00:16:30.580 money, but the market does not care about that.
00:16:33.580 And I'm sorry to say, like, you're saying, oh, but, you know, a single mother diminishing
00:16:39.580 who you are as a person.
00:16:40.580 No, you could be a great person and be a single mother.
00:16:42.580 You can be an excellent person.
00:16:43.580 But at the end of the day, the market for the most part is not going to want to couple
00:16:47.580 up.
00:16:48.580 It depends.
00:16:49.580 What do you mean the market?
00:16:50.580 It depends what market is.
00:16:51.580 Men is the market.
00:16:52.580 What's the market?
00:16:53.580 You're not my market.
00:16:54.580 The man in his 40s.
00:16:55.580 I said men.
00:16:56.580 He's not my market.
00:16:57.580 I said men.
00:16:58.580 I said men.
00:16:59.580 Stop.
00:17:00.580 Guys, one conversation.
00:17:01.580 Thank you.
00:17:02.580 And it says something about your decision-making if you become a single mother.
00:17:06.580 Are you all right?
00:17:07.580 Do you know why I became a single mother?
00:17:09.580 I have to disagree.
00:17:10.580 That's uncoolful.
00:17:11.580 You don't know what I experienced.
00:17:13.580 You don't know what I experienced as a married woman to make a choice to be a single mother.
00:17:18.580 It's either you don't pick the right guys.
00:17:22.580 Oh.
00:17:23.580 It's something about your decision-making.
00:17:24.580 Maybe you don't pick the right guys.
00:17:26.580 So abusive women that choose lovely, amazing men that just decide to be physically abusive
00:17:32.580 because I chose that.
00:17:34.580 Yeah?
00:17:35.580 What's your saying?
00:17:36.580 Say that again.
00:17:37.580 So I chose to be a single divorcee because of an individual's choice to be violent.
00:17:42.580 Is that what you're saying?
00:17:43.580 It was your choice to get in a relationship with him.
00:17:45.580 Oh, because I didn't want to see his psyche.
00:17:46.580 What about the man?
00:17:47.580 It's like life turns out better if you take accountability for your choices.
00:17:50.580 Sometimes...
00:17:51.580 No, but more accountability are we kidding on the man.
00:17:53.580 I disagree.
00:17:54.580 Because the man, the abusive man made her the single mother.
00:17:58.580 So where is the accountability for him?
00:17:59.580 An abusive man, he's wrong.
00:18:02.580 I agree with you.
00:18:03.580 But where do we take accountability for the fact that you picked the men?
00:18:08.580 People change, Pel.
00:18:09.580 People change.
00:18:10.580 Sorry, Pel.
00:18:11.580 Can I just...
00:18:12.580 I have to say I disagree with you there.
00:18:13.580 I definitely disagree with you there.
00:18:15.580 I'll tell you why.
00:18:16.580 Look, I'm 38.
00:18:17.580 I'm not a young girl.
00:18:18.580 I've been married and I've been divorced.
00:18:19.580 I've got experience.
00:18:20.580 I've had a kid.
00:18:21.580 I've been there.
00:18:22.580 I've done that.
00:18:23.580 I've been married at a young age.
00:18:24.580 Right?
00:18:25.580 They're young.
00:18:26.580 Right?
00:18:27.580 So they're not that clued.
00:18:28.580 Right?
00:18:29.580 Let me start from the...
00:18:30.580 We always talk about a problem, but we never ever get to the core of why that problem occurs.
00:18:34.580 Everybody's young.
00:18:35.580 Everyone's young.
00:18:36.580 As a young girl, I'm sure you'll all agree with me.
00:18:38.580 Okay?
00:18:39.580 As a young girl, we are brainwashed.
00:18:41.580 We are sold a fairytale.
00:18:42.580 Right?
00:18:43.580 We are all thinking, oh, we're going to wear this white dress and we're going to get married.
00:18:46.580 We're going to be in love.
00:18:47.580 No.
00:18:48.580 We shouldn't have been taught that.
00:18:49.580 We should have been taught the realness.
00:18:51.580 Marriage is very hard.
00:18:52.580 It's a struggle.
00:18:53.580 You've got to make sure you know who you're marrying.
00:18:54.580 Look, and also, people change over time.
00:18:57.580 Somebody, you can marry them.
00:18:58.580 And when you married them, they were okay.
00:18:59.580 And over time, gradually, they got mental breakdown.
00:19:02.580 They became a psychopath.
00:19:03.580 They became...
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00:19:08.580 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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