JustPearlyThings - These Feminists Get ROASTED For Controlling in Modern Relationship

00:00:00.000 yeah yeah can you walk up depending on the person i guess that's also that's also and depending on

00:00:09.120 their paths so i felt like we've covered this topic before you know what i mean once or twice

00:00:16.800 but i felt like why not cover it again okay so so my question is do you care about the past

00:00:23.520 uh when it comes to your partner so i want the women to also answer and the men yep

00:00:27.840 yeah um so start here and go around definitely you care yeah okay so what what's too shady of a past

00:00:36.320 for you um it depends when a man is too thirsty and like all the women's and are on him and like 0.99

00:00:45.360 he's not i like individuals i like like something that is private that no one's like touching one

00:00:50.400 you know so yeah i think that one okay go ahead i think um

00:00:58.480 the truth for me is that you know you obviously want to accept that that person has a past just

00:01:06.240 like you have a past but in my youth in my youth club in church when i was there in high school

00:01:12.160 it was every saint has a past and every son has a future so i think that you kind of have to think

00:01:17.920 of it in that way and like look at that person as yourself in a way because it's like i have a

00:01:22.560 past we all have a past i know i have a future i'm trying to live in the present with this person so

00:01:29.280 so you don't care as much it's not about caring or not because of course i care but does it phase me

00:01:34.640 that's the question it doesn't is it really gonna bother us every day not really okay we're gonna work

00:01:40.800 it out if that's the person i choose okay cool what about you um the past is definitely a concern

00:01:48.160 well it would be if there's a lot of baggage coming from that past um you know because it can

00:01:54.480 get confusing if a man has like five baby mothers good girl what about what about what about three can

00:02:00.320 you get away with three that's me and three of them and three kids like i don't know how many baby

00:02:08.400 mamas is too many like one is two and one is two but you you could do two you could do one or no i might 1.00

00:02:15.600 can you could do one yeah two two yes or no um i don't know it depends it depends how close they are

00:02:23.440 what if they're ex-wives is that different well ex-wives are different isn't it because that's 1.00

00:02:28.000 much different i think yeah it's much different yeah wait wait why is the ex-wives different to the 0.99

00:02:33.520 baby moms because okay wait they were married before they had the kid yeah so it's like yeah are we

00:02:40.640 gonna continue or we're gonna stick on to that one well i was gonna i just was curious if it's different

00:02:45.600 to you well no um with an ex-wife it's kind of it's gone into a legal bind so if they legally

00:02:53.120 you know parted it's like okay yeah all right that's fine so two ex-wives you could two ex-wives 0.95

00:03:00.480 with kids you could deal with for two baby mamas it's enough it's drama because you know well there's 0.98

00:03:05.120 drama either way i'm just saying he might be paying child support you know all right i would say with the

00:03:12.560 baby mom the the baby dad will go to the flat and sleep on the sofa what do you mean he's sleeping on the

00:03:19.360 sofa so wait you were dating so you were dating a guy yeah and then he said i'm gonna go sleep

00:03:35.920 on my baby mother's sofa what does that even mean you know the wife of the baby mom is a totally 1.00

00:03:44.160 different yeah but what if you slept on the ex-wife's sofa i don't think the ex-wife would don't do that 1.00

00:03:50.400 because i feel like the ex-wife would kind of have somebody there because it's an ex-husband ex-wife so you

00:03:57.440 you feel like in a way you're kind of saying like the ex-wife has more value than that than the baby mama

00:04:02.480 maybe maybe because there wasn't in a contract binded and if they depart from that contract you

00:04:08.160 know he's probably pissed off that he has to pay for the house so he ain't gonna go to the sofa is he

00:04:13.680 what about if if the guy so if the guy is paying um child support on his two kids yeah is that it was

00:04:20.960 that could that be a deal breaker for you no no that lets me know that he's very supportive and you

00:04:27.280 know what if it's what if he has to live a really frugal lifestyle because of it that's what i'm

00:04:32.480 saying like like he spends more he spends more on the on the two kids i don't mind because at least

00:04:38.160 you're looking out for the own but i'm a bit i love going out i love doing stuff i love the high

00:04:42.640 life and everything so if you got two baby mothers and you got child support to pay babe where am i coming

00:04:47.280 into this how are we gonna make this happen you know what i mean and it's it's tricky like who who you know

00:04:53.680 i couldn't i don't think i could and i've i've just walked away from it so many times like okay

00:04:59.760 i can deal with the one baby mom and i can see the wait wait wait you said times

00:05:06.560 you said times how many how many baby fathers like no no wow i'm thinking when i was a bit younger

00:05:15.200 okay when i'm dating in that time but my now time now now okay so now kids are off the table not

00:05:21.840 not okay okay it depends on the man though okay okay so for the right guy how many baby moms could 0.81

00:05:30.880 he have the right guy one okay but not two not two not two but two ex-wives he could have one ex-wife 0.97

00:05:38.560 one ex okay because that lets me know how much his pocket is spending out okay you know okay uh what

00:05:44.400 about you what do you think about past past mattering yeah um no i don't think someone's

00:05:50.400 past matters for me i don't think a man's past matters um i think if he's bringing baggage from

00:05:56.960 his past then that's something that would have to be addressed and everything's case by case but if

00:06:01.760 we're talking about like you're not bringing no baggage you've just been a hoe and now we're doing 1.00

00:06:06.720 relationship i don't think i would judge him on his past what if what if he slept with one of your

00:06:10.640 friends but it was it was just a casual one night i think i think number one um if the if it was if

00:06:18.560 it was just like a one night stand thing all right i don't care so who who here out of the girls if 1.00

00:06:23.120 you slept with one of your friends you could you could get over it no i would you could get over it

00:06:27.200 so i would say if like he couldn't have just slept with my friend last month and now he's trying to

00:06:42.080 talk to me about xyz i would have to assess how my friend feels about that there would be factors to

00:06:47.760 it but if it was there was no strings attached they both just had a fling they had a one-time thing

00:06:52.720 there was no feeling in the situation i wouldn't i wouldn't care okay so you you you're saying no

00:06:59.040 she said yes she said yes what do you say i no i think that if there's betrayal in anything then

00:07:07.200 you know things always you're just left with i now have to react it wasn't a betrayal it wasn't a

00:07:12.320 betrayal before you before me that i knew yeah you're you're you're finding out this is you know the

00:07:18.640 guy he's in your circle whatever he's a good guy that's the thing he slept with her a year ago 0.99

00:07:24.240 it just happened to happen one night and we weren't even thinking about yeah yeah so you could get

00:07:28.800 over it you could get over it that's cool but you wouldn't be able to get over it i get that

00:07:33.440 like men wouldn't be able to get over us doing that today oh oh we'll find out okay what do you

00:07:40.080 think could you get over it um not really because i wouldn't even go to like my men's friend and

00:07:45.840 like be with him so it's the same thing okay it's the same thing okay uh you have stronger go ahead

00:07:52.560 go ahead go ahead strong opinions wow right which which should i start on firstly if it was with my

00:07:58.640 friend that's a negative no no no never no because how are we should no we're not sharing the same no

00:08:06.080 but you wouldn't be you wouldn't be sharing no she went there first then i'll be gone there yeah

00:08:10.320 and that's my friend and then that's all too much there's a lot of men out there yeah i'm all right

00:08:14.000 i'll keep it moving yeah i'm back to the back of the past for me the only thing that really would

00:08:19.920 really go for me in the part of a man's past is if there's a history because you see the you see

00:08:25.760 when geezers are like oh yeah my ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy but my other ex is crazy 0.59

00:08:31.280 my other is crazy that's when it's like yeah that's when i care about your past because i'm like how 0.98

00:08:36.080 either you just meet all crazy women or you're turning them all crazy has that happened to you before 0.98

00:08:40.720 yes yes yes oh yes how what happened yeah everyone was crazy apparently 0.93

00:08:52.000 did you find out what he did or like or what what happened he just he was one of them he just

00:08:56.800 told a lot of lies you know when you're just telling a lot of eyes and make it and this is when

00:09:02.000 and he went for younger girls as well so they're a bit more naive and it was like he told him lies

00:09:06.720 and telling more lies and then the lies caught up with him and then he then it was he'd keep it 0.95

00:09:10.960 moving and be like yeah she's crazy she's crazy and i'm like yeah no you've met the real crazy now so 0.98

00:09:16.480 oh so you were the real crazy yeah i'm the real crazy so then what did you do what did you do i said bye 0.97

00:09:21.840 oh that's it yeah i said bye that doesn't sound crazy no of course not but apparently i've heard 0.98

00:09:25.840 i've heard i've heard i am i am crazy oh so now he's saying you're crazy

00:09:30.000 so i know it's like one of them it's a little pattern that that's what i mean but if he slept

00:09:34.400 around or anything that you don't care like if he slept he was he had a hoe phase for like i think 0.96

00:09:40.160 all men have had a hoe phase i don't know about that one of three men are under 30 or either 0.90

00:09:45.360 virgins or having had sex in the past year what yeah one out of every three yeah i need to talk to my

00:09:51.360 friends because they have a whole bag of um yeah no but um i mean do you think the guy at tesco is 1.00

00:10:00.880 really getting laid yeah listen i used to work at tesco's i was getting laid they're the freak you

00:10:06.720 are in tesco come on come on that's my last job before i've done what i was doing now i'm not even

00:10:12.960 cutting you yeah no no it's fine it's fine there's nothing wrong with tesco there's nothing wrong with

00:10:16.320 tesco there's nothing wrong with tesco man though yeah yeah but then there's certain oh no let me

00:10:22.320 not go through go through no because i was going to say you think you're saying that that the certain

00:10:26.960 man at tesco you think there's not certain girls who would do anything to just to get that bit of

00:10:31.920 attention i think if the guys are good looking maybe yeah but i don't think like women women find 80 0.98

00:10:38.080 of men is unattractive so not not okay not average looking like ugly wow think about it think about it

00:10:44.320 do you know what that is that is a good point because yeah like what i mean i have a question 0.80

00:10:51.840 i have a question i have a question out of the women out of the women who here would describe 0.93

00:10:55.040 themselves as picky picky picky that far you're not picky that far oh i'm not picky but i like what i

00:11:02.160 like yeah that's what i was gonna say okay are you particular no no no no no no no no no no no no

00:11:08.160 i like certain things but i wouldn't say like i have a very strict type on paper that if you don't

00:11:13.040 meet this requirement i won't look at you yeah i don't i don't i don't i don't i don't i don't

00:11:18.320 i don't really know what to what to really say on that because well what what do you what do you

00:11:22.400 look for in a guy like what are your what are your requirements pretty eyes no no honestly it's

00:11:31.120 i don't how can i say it's got to be kind of like quite an alpha-y kind of male it's more it's not so

00:11:35.840 much just the looks obviously look you can't be ugly because that's that's just that's just never

00:11:39.840 going to work really silly i've got to be attracted to you but you've got to be kind of an alpha really

00:11:44.160 because i'm quite i'm kind of alpha female you're an alpha female yeah why because that's what i don't 0.89

00:11:50.640 know that's what i've been told what do you believe what other people say about you then oh no but i'm

00:11:58.160 just i'm just saying i'm just saying things that i've been told do you do you think alpha men like

00:12:02.240 want alpha females don't alpha men like want submissive females but then alpha females can be submissive to 0.99

00:12:08.400 the right alpha male or to the right man yeah yeah but you don't think there's a line of men waiting

00:12:14.240 to date or women waiting to date alpha men like why would they deal with an alpha female like men don't 0.51

00:12:18.960 want to men don't want to date themselves actually but no but then that's the difference between a

00:12:23.360 male and a female because maybe then she'll submit because she's got she'll give him the same run for 1.00

00:12:28.640 his money and keep his mind going instead of being yes but why would a guy go through that when he could just

00:12:34.560 go to a girl that doesn't it's not exactly exactly why don't they cheat what just someone like you 0.92

00:12:40.000 someone like that and so yeah some some men like to be taken care of as well yeah yeah i mean we

00:12:46.000 could talk about exceptions it's not the rule no no but that's what i'm saying because an alpha female 1.00

00:12:49.440 would still she could she could still provide it she could still she can still she can still hold it

00:12:53.120 down so maybe she can hold it down for him instead of him always having to hold it down yeah but guys

00:12:57.600 don't care about your money not in general i didn't say money i didn't say money okay so what do you

00:13:02.080 holding it down emotionally for a man because it's a lot for a man to especially an alpha man to

00:13:06.800 offload his emotions onto somebody to show his vulnerability yeah and you and i do believe that

00:13:12.720 with an alpha female he will do that because he knows she can hold it down and she could take it on

00:13:16.640 board and not use it against him that's what i just said that's why i believe i think i know what

00:13:20.880 she means as well okay explain i feel like well in terms of alpha female tell me from wrong go on i feel like

00:13:28.400 when you say alpha female you know there's some man out there they like a girl that i'll give them a 1.00

00:13:32.880 bit how old are the guys you're talking about i'm i'll be honest with you i can only speak for the

00:13:44.480 guys that are around me yeah 25 to like 40. yeah in that age gap so in between the age 25 to 40

00:13:53.120 yeah most men are like that i'm not saying they want that but there's a there's a percentage of

00:13:58.800 them men that like the alpha female yeah they like a bit of fight back do you think it's the

00:14:02.560 majority no it's not it's a minority it's a minority yeah but that minority i've just found like

00:14:08.880 yeah but i found that's like more like men that are like more feminine

00:14:13.120 okay i don't know i don't know i feel like no i i disagree i think i've i haven't traveled to many

00:14:29.760 places but what i can say is being in south africa being in florida and being here in the uk

00:14:35.440 there will always be that kind of man that wants that kind of woman and yes they want the submissive

00:14:43.920 woman but it's like why do you have to be submissive in public when you are who you are you are who you 1.00

00:14:49.840 are i am who i am what do you mean why do you have to be submissive in public can you explain that more

00:14:54.000 it's like some guys are happier when their woman's just sitting next to them and just smiling and not

00:15:00.000 talking to any men and not looking at any men's direction like not talking to females not talking

00:15:06.000 because you're draw out you're gonna you know like so do you think that's a problem i think when a

00:15:12.000 when a high value man brings along a goal in public i think that this a particular woman that he brings

00:15:19.200 with has to be quite reserved sorry can i just say something in in terms of the minority so that's that's

00:15:26.080 like your that's it's that's your definition of submissive just sitting there quietly and not

00:15:31.360 saying a word well no what i'm saying is i didn't mean like sitting quietly and not saying a word i

00:15:35.920 just said reserved but being seen and not heard yeah but in a in a way where i don't have to talk

00:15:41.600 because my man's doing all the talking but the problem is when you meet the phony ones who do too

00:15:46.480 much talking and then you're just sitting there like i i think of submitting i think of submitting to

00:15:51.840 authority like so so when you have a job so when you have a job right you don't if you're if your

00:15:56.880 boss says do this yeah they don't you don't spend an hour arguing well why are we doing this like

00:16:01.520 why do i have to do this like no you just say okay and you do it yeah so that's what i think of when

00:16:06.480 i think a submissive that's what that's what i think that's what i think that's what i think for sure

00:16:11.200 but then it can be also like the way they say you can say it do that so so when i think what i'm

00:16:16.560 saying is i don't think sorry i don't think that those men are like

00:16:22.160 feminine they're not feminine you know what i mean which ones the ones who choose the alpha 1.00

00:16:26.880 the alpha women yeah able to hold conversations when they're not around babe i'm going to the 1.00

00:16:32.320 toilet cool i'm gonna have conversations while you go to the right but it's not about converse

00:16:37.520 it's not about conversations it's about listening so i just think those men they usually have hard

00:16:42.400 jobs they work they work long hours and they don't typically want a woman that's not going to listen 1.00

00:16:46.560 and alpha i've just found that alpha women don't tend to listen like it's my way or the highway 1.00

00:16:51.120 i'm the alpha i'm the leader because what's an alpha that's a leader a leader you can't have two

00:16:54.720 leaders in a relationship why would a guy that's a leader want another leader yeah you can do because

00:17:00.800 because at the end of the day like someone has to make a decision i don't think there's one

00:17:04.320 destination though i think there's if you're talking about being in a relationship and having family

00:17:09.840 there's two destin there's a few destinations that come together what what are the what when you say

00:17:14.880 destinations what do you like as the woman in the family like the mother she needs to take care of 0.99

00:17:20.480 the children take care of the house take care of the man and lead them and lead when he's not around

00:17:25.600 but when he's around there's that sense of okay i can chill for a second yeah but not a lot of men can

00:17:32.480 back that up i feel like i feel like there might be some sort of like misconfusion everyone's missing

00:17:40.080 each other's points this is what i think and obviously everyone know why i think this is what's

00:17:48.320 going on when you're saying different paths yeah there's one woman that's gonna listen sit back all 1.00

00:17:55.280 right babes even if she's got her opinion she's not gonna say it yep because she just wants to just make 1.00

00:18:00.480 her man happy and get on with it and have a happy marriage then you've got the other woman that can 1.00

00:18:06.480 be a leader just like her husband however they're both bosses and they come together as a team thank

00:18:13.120 you you know i'm trying to say i know many relationships she's not submissive but she's just understanding

00:18:18.800 she's got her point as well but they're going to come together at the end and they're going to meet

00:18:23.520 at the final destination but can submit when it's when it's needed that makes sense yeah

00:18:26.400 sometimes could you give me an example of that i think i know i know what you mean okay i can give

00:18:32.560 you an example then jay-z and beyonce beyonce she's a leader she's a boss she's an independent woman

00:18:40.400 the biggest capper of all time she's talking about she doesn't need a man when she you know you know 0.96

00:18:58.560 it's music it's business it's money but that's what i'm saying she's she's busy brainwashing these people 1.00

00:19:06.560 listening to say yeah that's why the woman is evolving into something that 1.00

00:19:11.760 i'm not saying that i'm not arguing that point i'm not even arguing that point

00:19:16.560 wait wait wait so so when when when her when she caught jay-z cheating was she an alpha female 1.00

00:19:24.560 or did she say you know what i didn't see anything no wait she was an alpha because she was like 0.52

00:19:28.320 do you know what bridging i'll submit to that one actually but like maybe as i said when i'm

00:19:32.880 exposing him what you were saying sorry as i said as i made my point some women are understanding 1.00

00:19:39.120 remember what we spoke about the other day pearly some men if you're in the entertainment business

00:19:45.120 you know the guy's gonna cheat she's understanding am i gonna throw away this legacy i'm gonna throw

00:19:50.160 away this business or should i just get up with it and throw it along you know what i'm trying to say

00:19:54.800 i'm not saying that she's not a leader and a boss but i'm saying there's some women that can be a 1.00

00:19:58.880 leader and a boss and be understanding don't mean that they're not submissive yeah the whole

00:20:05.040 situation on lemonade like i believe when Beyonce came out with that lemonade album yeah i believe

00:20:10.880 everybody said no to their boyfriend and they ran away from her boyfriend and then she was like i'm

00:20:15.920 pregnant with twins i was like oh how are you gonna bring out the lemonade that you're pregnant 0.72

00:20:22.320 you just made me break up with my bad dog that's what people get for following celebrities i've just

00:20:27.920 never i've never met a girl that calls herself an alpha female yeah i really believe is submissive in 0.83

00:20:34.320 a relationship yeah yeah i think that people take the word alpha do you think women can actually be 1.00

00:20:39.680 alpha females oh to me no no no let's get into it please because i need to understand i'll let

00:20:46.320 you hear you wanted to me an alpha woman can be a very strong woman who's just got her together 0.99

00:20:52.160 tell him again and she knows how to take care of her man she does her thing she she gets on with life 0.72

00:20:59.520 and yeah she's a strong woman she can do a bit of diy she can do everything you know i i've got four 0.98

00:21:05.600 sisters and let me tell you all my four sisters can do more than me so can i including diy everything

00:21:12.240 they can do everything because they we i grew up in a big family where my sisters had to basically 1.00

00:21:18.400 defend themselves and and they grew up in the 90s in in white chapel bethnal green so it was a time where

00:21:24.400 you had to be strong you had to stand up for yourself you would say they're more modern than

00:21:29.040 traditional yes they were like what has better outcomes if the modern alpha females had good 1.00

00:21:35.040 outcomes why are men getting their passports and leaving

00:21:38.640 what men that's a fair if they're not being taken care of if they're not being taken care of

00:21:46.880 hold on one minute one minute because more time one minute more time if you ask most of these men they

00:21:50.640 were brought up by a single mom wait hold on so would they say that their mom was not an alpha i just

00:21:58.320 that's just what i'd like to throw out because i'm sure if they were raised by a woman who had to 1.00

00:22:04.000 hold it down for their whole family and look after them and bring them all up so so it sounds

00:22:08.400 to me like she sounds like she's a bit of an alpha but so he was raised by a woman that doesn't know

00:22:12.480 how to how to have a functional relationship who said she doesn't know how to because she couldn't

00:22:16.320 you could have kept it moving if she's a single mother she doesn't know how to have a 1.00

00:22:19.520 functional relationship because those are the results no wait wait wait wait you failed the test but

00:22:27.920 oh my god wait wait wait wait wait wait so wait no wait wait wait so yeah so she doesn't know how 1.00

00:22:34.080 to function how to have a functional relationship because the the father of the child decided he

00:22:39.920 was like no he decided i don't want to be a dad and he walked out on the child so she doesn't

00:22:44.560 and she doesn't know how to have fun yeah because women leave 70 to 80 percent of the time 90 of 1.00

00:22:48.560 their college i'm just i'm just saying so she doesn't know so you're just saying because she

00:22:53.920 doesn't she doesn't she she either picked someone like i mean come on why would you have a kid with 1.00

00:22:58.240 someone that isn't going to stick around there are some men who will get a few baby mamas and they 1.00

00:23:14.560 visit one from another and they kind of set up their lives yeah so there are men who do that and

00:23:21.680 because the women are getting financed or they're getting support they're fine with it because they're 1.00

00:23:26.640 living their life yeah but this is exception like you guys keep talking about exceptions i'm talking

00:23:30.560 about the rule the majority of men don't have multiple baby mothers yes one out of three men are

00:23:34.640 either virgins or haven't had sex in the past so we're talking about the rule not the exception

00:23:38.560 and i think a lot of girls will continue to talk to these men even though they know they have multiple 1.00

00:23:43.520 baby mothers so we go back to your question your question which is can't do single mothers know how 1.00

00:23:58.960 to have a functional relationship no no i didn't say that you know you you asked if that's what i was

00:24:03.280 saying yeah and i'm saying i stand out that no in general no are there exceptions not many no no

00:24:08.880 no yeah but i'll be you know what though i'll be real though i'll be real that's like you felt

00:24:14.560 fantastic you see me like it depends it depends on your environment yep your background the community

00:24:22.000 you've been raised on yeah to what you will see and what you will visualize yes so we might see

00:24:27.360 something different to what you see and sign us to what you see but i'll be real i don't know if it's

00:24:33.760 a small majority it's like what because i know a lot of people are single moms okay if they're single

00:24:44.400 mothers okay it's like if you're okay if i'm applying for a job all right and i say that job i failed

00:24:50.240 that job i failed that job i also failed how how can i say i did the job well when you ask the child

00:24:56.960 and what i think that we're overlooking as well is no by no means does any woman and can any woman

00:25:02.400 predict the outcome of their relationship right or if the man's going to stick around or if i have

00:25:06.880 a kid with this guy is he going to stay with me is he going to marry me but what women do do is we 1.00

00:25:11.280 overlook red flags we overlook everything and again it's not everybody but a lot of women don't 1.00

00:25:20.160 listen a lot of men don't listen but if we're just talking about this for a moment women make choices

00:25:25.680 that they know they're not the right choices but then when they know that it's not the right man

00:25:30.320 and then they think they could change the woe is me when he leaves like but you 1.00

00:25:37.200 and women also leave for stupid reasons like women 1.00

00:25:44.400 reason number one reason number one okay when you take your marriage vows it's supposed to be for 1.00

00:25:49.520 better or for worse for sicknesses and health not if i don't feel happy today i i we fell out of

00:25:56.640 love and i lost myself what happened to for better or for worse what happened in sickness

00:26:03.360 for stupid reasons one of the number one indicators of divorce is if a woman will start out earning her 1.00

00:26:11.440 man and she puts a financial gain above her kids that's a stupid reason yeah thank you what kind 1.00

00:26:18.480 of women can we talk about before marriage how many people are married in this room 50 50 of 1.00

00:26:25.200 marriages end in divorce so half half well i'm not too has anyone been married have you been married

00:26:30.880 have you been married no have you been married he's he's you're married okay oh yeah i'm too young

00:26:39.360 so what i'm saying is too young obviously when we're talking about if we're talking now on the spectrum

00:26:44.560 of 25 to 40 yeah range range range then obviously like we can talk about the things of the woman has

00:26:53.360 to do what she does and the man that's please just re-up on what you said because my adhd is going a bit 0.70

00:26:58.240 wild what which part which part oh i said women divorce for stupid reasons right so free reasons why do why 1.00

00:27:04.960 women okay i can i can name some more i'm invested in this now when women are dating in their 20s and 30s 1.00

00:27:14.080 right i could speak obviously for 20s um you know the thing is you give people chances you give people

00:27:23.280 no no not me guys guys guys guys let's go together i'm not trying to find a perfect man who does

00:27:29.040 nothing wrong no because i do okay well i feel like i feel like guys wait wait wait wait i want to dissect

00:27:38.320 wait wait i want to i wasn't i wasn't finished sorry sorry i wasn't finished all right all right i'll get on

00:27:42.880 that side yeah so women don't want to leave but then now you're saying why do women leave right and 1.00

00:27:48.240 their woman their reasons are stupid for leaving yeah have you heard about this thing called intuition 0.98

00:27:54.240 now potentially it could just be crazy sorry it could be crazy but at the end of the day like we 0.99

00:28:02.640 know that women have more connection to certain things if they haven't been on contraception for years

00:28:08.720 and they haven't been eating all the garbage that they've been eating and drinking all the gin

00:28:12.720 and doing all of those things it desensitizes the human connecting to the earth so i'm just saying

00:28:18.560 intuition's a real thing okay yeah but you know what i mean yeah that's like women feel different 1.00

00:28:23.040 intuition every other week based on where we are in our cycle one week it's like yeah yeah if you know

00:28:28.800 your cycle wait wait wait wait so it's like i'll talk to a girl one week and she hates her boyfriend

00:28:33.760 and then the next week she's in love with her boyfriend yeah i'm sick of them i actually feel sorry for

00:28:40.000 their boyfriend because i'm like he probably doesn't know whether he's coming or going because i'm like these

00:28:44.480 because these times i'm like this one minute in the space of 10 seconds i love him so much but he's

00:28:48.640 done this i'm like this darling i'm already tired i don't know about your boyfriend but i'm tired i'm

00:28:52.160 out and then we'll guys they'll guys they'll guys it under intuition it's like that's not

00:29:02.080 guys i read something so interesting the other day so basically you know when women have these 1.00

00:29:08.080 contraceptive things on their arms apparently it changes your hormones so imagine if you meet 0.68

00:29:14.240 someone and it's been found recently basically if you're on these pills contraceptive pills and you

00:29:20.160 meet someone and then you get married and all of a sudden you go off of them and then apparently the

00:29:25.760 hormones change so you're not attracted to your partner so that is a lot of the things that's

00:29:31.120 happening around the world now yeah i'm messing people's lives up they are ruining girls and men 0.88

00:29:41.840 and whose fault is that who took it women

00:29:54.400 stop stop one at a time okay i'm you've talked i'm gonna i'm gonna let her go just just on your

00:29:59.120 point who took it women because who's the one who takes the actual semen that either way is gonna 1.00

00:30:04.000 have a baby or an abortion so but what do you what do you who who takes the semen no yeah they take 0.98

00:30:10.480 them to the usher i mean if you could wear a condom you don't have to do that but if it breaks and you

00:30:15.440 don't know then you know maybe sleep with people that you want to have kids with but then you just

00:30:20.480 wait wait wait wait wait wait wait but when we do black chat big ones wait wait wait wait wait but

00:30:26.560 then we just take it back to that point but sleep with people you might want to have kids with but

00:30:30.880 what but you remember you said but then you got to pick him to make sure he's the one who's not 0.93

00:30:34.800 gonna leave i mean you could you could wait you can wait to have sex you could you can wait till 0.97

00:30:39.520 you don't you could it's like it's like we have a gun to our head and say you have to sleep with 0.99

00:30:43.280 these men no you don't you don't you just don't ever have sex live like a nun yeah that's the way 0.97

00:30:50.720 forward i think people i mean you can you can wait you can wait to get married before you have a child 0.85

00:30:56.000 question okay go ahead can i can i is it time to uh drop some red pills into the sangria yeah go ahead yes

00:31:02.800 are we are we ready to spike yes we have the blue pill well let's go go ahead so the question

00:31:10.160 was does your potential partner or partner's past matter yes i i can can can i share my opinion on

00:31:17.760 this all right sorry sorry guys sorry sorry what jargon i haven't said nothing yet

00:31:24.720 so uh here let's let's let's do let's do let's do some uh let's do some lessons in genetics and

00:31:33.440 biology because we can refer to our trusty friends uh from the gregor mendel book of biology we understand

00:31:40.400 dna do we not yes if you look in your family tree this is statistically accurate you have twice as many

00:31:45.920 women in your family tree as you have men you have twice as many women in your family tree as men

00:31:50.880 why what does that mean what does that mean women give birth and there's more of them meant to 0.98

00:31:57.440 multiply yeah yeah what it means is that a vast majority of women have babies with the same men

00:32:05.440 meaning what that means the reason you have twice as many women is a small percentage of men about 20 0.93

00:32:09.840 of men basically created all of us genghis khan genghis khan has his dna in something like 180 million

00:32:19.040 people today does that mean he's been sleeping around beers in the past what it means let me

00:32:25.760 it's a very simple thing where the question was does a partner's past matter what it says is very

00:32:30.000 clear what it says is very clear that women continuously choose the men that other women

00:32:35.200 choose that's what it means we know you know what we know the point we know the statistic from dating

00:32:39.760 apps right 80 of men have absolutely no prospects of sex or dating at all because you can look at the

00:32:45.280 tinder data 80 of men get zero matches ever one percent of men are like genghis khan level so

00:32:51.600 does a person's past matter if you look at the science it clearly matters that women want to 0.94

00:32:56.480 choose men that have had the most partners because that's who they keep choosing all the time wow so

00:33:00.720 that might not be an emotional argument that's just statistics it's a fact okay can i say that from the

00:33:06.240 other side how men look at this argument okay from a men's perspective it's a little different so i'm in the

00:33:10.640 business of effectively like our company lgbg we sell high-end bespoke suits we go to executive

00:33:14.960 offices so we meet rich men all the time really what i do is i recruit young men and women to sell

00:33:20.080 to very high net worth people okay and this is a conversation for young men i'm going to say this to

00:33:24.240 the young guys out there here's a question what is a man really doing with his life to increase his

00:33:29.120 value we can measure it you know what the number what the answer is what does a man measure in value what

00:33:33.360 do we measure say it it's money it's money it's money right so here's a question does a man have

00:33:40.320 any incentive to is well influence effectively to transmit that into money and by the way influence

00:33:46.080 and fame are very highly correlated to how many sexual partners the man has access to so you're

00:33:49.520 saying the same thing i just want the guy that every other woman wants that's what you're saying but

00:33:53.120 you're not saying it okay so does a man have any incentive to increase his value through financial

00:33:57.840 gain does a man have that incentive yes okay do women want to be wealthy too like you girls 1.00

00:34:03.280 you're all going to be 60 one day you're going to say i want to retire do you want to have something

00:34:06.640 to retire with of course okay so here's here's a here's a statistic the typical retired married man

00:34:14.160 average but not typical average the numbers of course there's a big gap but the average married

00:34:19.200 man retires with about 600 000 us dollars in savings 600 000 the average divorced single man

00:34:25.200 this is the statistic retires with a hundred thousand okay the average divorced and remarried man

00:34:31.040 retires with about 400 000 so the outcome of staying and getting married has a significant

00:34:36.320 impact on a man's value and status and ultimately his comfort in life so the question therefore is

00:34:41.680 does the spouse you choose matter yes why does it matter because we can actually measure with money

00:34:47.280 that it literally like we have a number that we can look at and says yes the spouse you choose matters

00:34:51.600 okay well a psychologist will tell you there's two ways to ruin your life number one become an alcoholic

00:34:55.920 number two marry an alcoholic well here's a question what's the problem with marrying an alcoholic ladies and 1.00

00:35:00.240 gentlemen impulse control impulse control how's that going to the fact that they're going to be 0.99

00:35:03.920 talking rubbish and no one will understand them and they're going to kids and all sorts of crap so 0.97

00:35:09.600 the question is would you marry an alcoholic you say no i won't why not because the chance of divorce 0.99

00:35:13.360 are much higher so does a woman's past matter okay well let's say a woman had a lot of sexual partners 0.59

00:35:17.520 does that indicate any sort of i don't know does that have any impact on her pair bonding ability

00:35:22.880 yes well we know we know that it does okay so if i if you marry a hoe because that let's just go right 0.99

00:35:26.880 to the core here that's the question that's the question so if you do that are your chances of

00:35:31.120 divorce higher well she's got lower pair bonding she's got lower impulse control she's not a strategic 0.99

00:35:35.920 thinker because she knows impulsively and intuitively that she's reducing her value so when i coach a young

00:35:40.720 guy that we hire into our company we don't just look at their job we look at their life plan and we want

00:35:44.880 to be i have two more stats real quick we want to be strategic and we want to optimize for success and

00:35:49.920 mitigate for risk are you mitigating for risk if you're not looking at a woman's past you're creating

00:35:54.640 yourself an opportunity for failure by the way here's a question guys what percentage of

00:35:58.880 millionaires are married don't know a lot i know a lot about 85 percent wow i'm getting married i'm

00:36:10.640 getting married 10 years i'm getting married the rich ones cheat as well okay but no but hang on a

00:36:16.000 sec 85 percent so the question is let's let's let's look into that like we're asking again does the

00:36:20.000 partner's past matter why is it that 85 is it matter here's a question here's a powerful woman 1.00

00:36:25.440 behind you guys guys guys guys guys guys stop stop you want you want that or you don't want that if

00:36:32.400 you don't want that i know it's hard to hear you don't want to hear it's just facts thank you no

00:36:36.240 honestly it's interesting to learn so thank you so much guys guys guys do you guys think that for a

00:36:41.600 man to become a millionaire he has to be a strategic thinker yes do you think no no

00:36:46.160 whoa whoa so hang on so you think so you think that statistically millionaires are less strategic

00:36:51.520 or equally you know i i i think millionaires it depends on have you born have you been born into

00:36:56.400 wealth i haven't been given i was born into the soviet union i grew up on food stamps okay so um i guess

00:37:01.920 yeah it doesn't matter but some people some millionaires do grow up in like privileged families

00:37:09.120 we're just looking at statistics every rule has a rule breaker now again mitigate for risk so it's like

00:37:14.160 if you want to bet all your money on you know 20 black on the roulette and you're like i'm going

00:37:19.040 to make a billion dollars yeah some people made a million dollars rolling that most people lose

00:37:22.560 everything they ever had it's bad risk mitigation we're talking about statistics right so it's like

00:37:27.920 if the partner that you choose matters to the outcome of your life you have to be strategic about

00:37:32.400 it so does it matter well the numbers clearly indicate it matters yeah you can be delusional as many

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JustPearlyThings - October 16, 2023

These Feminists Get ROASTED For Controlling in Modern Relationship

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