JustPearlyThings - These Modern Women GOT HUMBLED With FACTS

00:00:00.480 do you believe that beauty is in the eye of the a holder the eye of the beholder

00:00:06.400 i guess so because someone in east asia might not find um someone in the west attractive

00:00:12.960 um so it really depends on that person like what they grew up with like what they grew up was um

00:00:18.880 what they their society grew up with that's attractive would affect how they would perceive

00:00:23.600 the person so there's like pictures of people that you might not find attractive in like medieval

00:00:27.440 times but back then people would like kill themselves or done crazy things just to be with

00:00:32.080 this person but like now we're looking like oh i don't see the attraction there so i definitely

00:00:36.560 feel like it's definitely a subjective experience what do you think yeah no i definitely feel that

00:00:42.720 way as well and i also think um your taste changes as you get older what you might find attractive and

00:00:51.040 what you're drawn to initially initially when you're younger will ultimately change as you get older

00:00:56.640 um you might go for like the the obvious pick but then as you get older you might start thinking

00:01:05.200 certain different things are more beautiful do you think that's for men or for women

00:01:11.120 oh because because that sounds like a woman's point of view not necessarily a man's like yeah i think when

00:01:17.760 we get older we're like well we don't necessarily need these things but men i it seems like they just

00:01:24.480 like hot likes me yeah they're more uh visually motivated than us i feel like they're more primal

00:01:31.520 than like women like i don't know she hot in there yeah but it's kind of cute because like some women 1.00

00:01:37.600 like oh like i want my man to have a nice job to be so intelligent but i go like oh i think you're

00:01:42.400 cute and that's kind of enough for some what do you think is beauty in the eye of the beholder

00:01:47.520 um yes in the term in in the um when we're thinking about character so i think personally

00:01:57.120 for me i i write myself a four physically really what yeah i'm definitely not four

00:02:07.040 but but i genuinely like it doesn't bother me i'm just i'm very objective about it i i rate myself a

00:02:12.000 four however i honestly believe what we're missing today is like uh everybody's saying that what it

00:02:19.280 appears to be everybody's saying oh i'm a 10 i'm a 10 but they misconstrued it in terms of their

00:02:23.280 personality everything as a package they're a 10 so there is no room for improvement and um i mean i'm

00:02:31.120 thinking about like at what point does humility come in uh you know it seems like non-existent therefore

00:02:37.360 they won't really do any you know introspection and are they self-aware and all that stuff so i'm

00:02:42.640 just saying just saying you're a 10 it's just it's problematic but from what i'm saying is that um

00:02:48.400 so i think i'm a four but with my personality and everything and my character all these very

00:02:53.920 important things they kind of make the package they make the person and these are the ways that

00:02:58.720 people fall in love um you know with somebody's character so i think that's what they're fundamentally

00:03:05.760 missing when they just say they're a 10 okay so you're a 10 but what about your personality i'm

00:03:11.120 a 10 there as well i'm just perfect all around which just comes across as arrogance to me

00:03:18.320 what do you guys think of the body positivity movement

00:03:23.360 in terms of what do you think it's good for society

00:03:26.240 no it isn't what why well uh who who's whose body are we saying that it's that that they're fine

00:03:37.920 like what what what change has have we seen i don't know i'm just i just wanted to know how

00:03:42.320 you think uh well for example like i think about a while ago i saw uh a clearly obese woman uh on the 0.91

00:03:50.320 cover of a magazine i can't remember what magazine it was but then they said very clearly this is healthy

00:03:55.920 and i'm just like are they trying to manipulate me into thinking that that's healthy and she was in

00:04:00.080 sportswear but clearly she's not like clearly you ain't going to the gym i know right and she's been

00:04:06.560 on the treadmill in a mitt like come on but but what i find generally heartbreaking is that okay yes i'm

00:04:12.640 i'm physically slim right so people are going to be like oh you're just like fat shaming but i

00:04:16.800 genuinely have concerns for her so when i see people who are like oh yeah girl you're a 10 sorry i can't

00:04:22.560 speak like that i'm terrible but yeah yeah you know yes queen and i'm like i'm it breaks my

00:04:28.400 heart i'm just like you don't care about her you're not telling her you're not encouraging her to

00:04:32.800 change you know there's a risk of diabetes are they saying um diabetes is a 10 are they saying

00:04:37.120 asthma is a 10 i'm saying depression is a 10. uh so yeah you can say yeah you're a 10 but no one's

00:04:42.720 there when she's crying all alone and she has all these health problems what happens to all that

00:04:48.160 energy then and it is really heartbreaking as soon and and i've seen plenty of people who have been

00:04:54.240 obese and they've uh you know they've made tick tocks and stuff and they say um on the tick tock uh 0.82

00:04:59.920 i've done this to myself or i'm going to take responsibility and then you see their progression

00:05:04.800 and they're so much happier and they're not in that delusion and somebody who genuinely cares about

00:05:10.240 you will tell you the ugly truth but they are telling you they're not telling you a beautiful lie

00:05:15.360 and that's what you want from a friend and that's what we should have in society if you have

00:05:18.960 everybody's like oh yeah you're fine yeah you're fine yeah you're fine um it's actually really

00:05:24.000 unfair and i'm just thinking like in a way i think it's really sinister because if i was fat and my 0.96

00:05:30.080 friend told me you're fine i'm like she doesn't give a shit about me she really doesn't she would have 0.95

00:05:34.240 told me this is you're actually ill you're not well and the moment i get on that treadmill and she's 0.60

00:05:38.880 there by my side you know championing me on i'm like well that is a friend so the moment i see people

00:05:44.800 are like encouraging very unhealthy behavior uh it really does genuinely break my heart and i i just

00:05:51.520 like my genetics or whatever is you know people say oh you're slim you can afford to say that no i

00:05:58.080 genuinely care about people and i encourage them and when i see people obviously are yeah it really

00:06:03.680 questions um it makes me question their motives like you have an agenda why are you you know encouraging

00:06:09.680 clearly unhealthy behavior and is that why you don't agree you don't think the body positivity

00:06:15.360 movement is positive no i i well it's false body positivity because it's saying you're fine the way

00:06:22.720 you are and there is no you know improve there is no uh they're not we're not championing improvement

00:06:29.360 is what i'm saying okay i think that's a good point that you made um but i would like to like draw

00:06:34.560 upon like the opposite side of that like obviously with body positivity it's not just about

00:06:38.160 um like weight it's about like skin texture skin color yeah but that's like one of the biggest 0.98

00:06:42.960 things i've seen you you've seen more between like weight yeah i don't i don't really see skin

00:06:48.400 texture skin color that kind of thing or like people that don't shave people are hairier yeah i mean

00:06:57.200 i don't want to see that like why are they putting that i miss the days when models would make me feel 0.86

00:07:04.080 bad about myself and i would put their picture on the treadmill and i'd start running yeah i didn't

00:07:10.080 bring them back i think you've got to find a balance because if you go to the other end of the spectrum

00:07:15.600 and someone's really underweight and it's being advertised it's it's not gonna that's not so great

00:07:22.480 i think you are you are ultimately ultimately you are fine the way you are because i don't think no one

00:07:27.680 can tell you anything obviously if you're having these health issues then definitely needs to be

00:07:31.920 addressed but um yeah to be honest with you so you think you're fine the way you are at 300 pounds

00:07:40.160 not necessarily you're not i do think you should you should definitely do something about that

00:07:46.400 but i think it's about being realistic if these types of things are being shown on media then i think

00:07:53.120 it should be shown in a way to show that listen whether it's bad or good uh there are people like

00:07:59.280 this and they're still part of society etc etc it doesn't it doesn't un it doesn't deem you uh

00:08:06.320 a certain way in a negative way if that makes sense don't you think it normalizes it

00:08:11.520 because shouldn't obesity not be normal shouldn't it be abnormal isn't that what we should want i think

00:08:16.640 obesity shouldn't be the norm but i do feel like there are people that are just going to be bigger

00:08:21.200 there's people that are going to be smaller regardless like if we put everyone on the same

00:08:24.080 diet people will still be different sizes but not like morbidly i did say like not obese i said

00:08:30.720 like people are going to be different sizes i think um it'd be interesting if body positivity went in the

00:08:35.200 in the way in the direction that we're like okay they're going to be people that are different sizes

00:08:39.120 and they're still a part of society they still should be respected we still need to treat them like

00:08:43.360 humans i think that's kind of what the direction it should have gone in instead of like

00:08:47.120 normalizing um being morbidly obese i think that's what your point but i but i think people will say

00:08:51.600 when you say all shapes and sizes they will put in morbidly obese like that's fine unless you

00:08:55.760 explicitly say accept morbidly obese but then you'll be you know shamed for fat shaming as many of you

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JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023

These Modern Women GOT HUMBLED With FACTS

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