In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a good wife and why it s important to have a good husband. We also talk about the importance of a good father figure in a relationship and how important it is for women to be good wives.
00:02:35.980But doesn't that link to the whole thing where, there was a thing where it's like, guys only go as far in terms of courting as women allow.
00:02:45.400So like, so like back in the day, Victorian times, why did everyone back then used to court and used to wear like the big corsets and have to date someone for like two months before you could even see the bottom of their legs?
00:02:56.460No, it's not, it's not, no, it's not the men's responsibility.
00:03:07.140But I do think that the, the quality, I don't want to say quality, but like men, they'll, they'll still wife women that have no business being wife.
00:03:16.960That should be in the streets forever or that have had, like, if you have two different baby daddies, why is anybody marrying you?
00:03:32.040Brittany Renner, she's one of those girls in, in that type of, type of situation where it's like, you know her past so well that like, there's no way.
00:03:40.360Do you think, some women can just be really unlucky, like they fell for somebody.
00:03:49.200You choose what you do with your own body.
00:03:52.140In the same argument as you were saying earlier about if you should have children or not, and you said, oh, it's a woman's body, I imagine you were referring to abortion and, and you have the right.
00:04:21.620No, but what I was trying to say is, if I have a relationship with a, with a female, and I'm with her for five years and I have a child, and then I have a relationship with someone else.
00:04:30.280For a year and I have a child, like, I'm talking vice versa.
00:04:34.200Okay, okay, okay, I have a really good solution here.
00:05:07.720So you are going against the odds for the sake of your, you're going, you're forcing your child's life against the odds for the sake of your momentary happiness.
00:05:15.860Happiness is a feeling, they last temporary, like all feelings, whereas that child's development is permanent because of the way that the brain develops.
00:05:24.500Everything that happens in childhood is a building block.
00:05:26.220Like, if you have a kid that's in a single mother home, she's more likely to go to jail.
00:05:29.500She's more likely to drop out of school.
00:05:30.740They're more likely to be sexually abused by the stepdad.
00:05:33.860They're more likely to have mental health issues.
00:05:36.980Every, she's right, every statistical disadvantage you could put your kid at, you're putting them at what?
00:05:55.220It depends though, because abuse, abuse is, abuse, abuse, I think male or female, if you're in an abusive relationship, whether it's verbal, abuse is the difference of being unhappy.
00:06:38.460And you need to realize, like, decisions that you make, not, because a lot of times, a lot of people need to realize that the decisions that you make don't only just affect you.
00:07:54.760Because it's like, if one person sees a bad relationship and they don't know how to do a bad relationship, all they will know is what they've seen and what they know to be true from the immediate surroundings.
00:08:07.520Now, if the immediate surroundings are negative and every example of a relationship is all negative, the only idea of a relationship that they have in their head is most likely going to refer back to negative.
00:08:18.300Yes, they will have the positive ones from movies and stuff, but they only know negative.
00:08:22.040Also, it's also about, like, the way that behavior, the way that humans behave is based off of what they know.
00:08:27.480We can only behave off of what we know.
00:08:35.900So, if you've only seen bad stuff, like you say, you might see good stuff in the movies, but you're not the one actually going through the experience.
00:08:42.620You're going to repeat that pattern of unhealthy relationships because it's all that your brain has actually experienced.
00:08:50.700But sometimes you can do the complete opposite because you've been, you were raised in that household and you saw, and you're like, this is how I don't want my marriage.
00:09:04.140Like, why do you think, we don't even have to look at stats to know this.
00:09:07.560Why do we say that girls have daddy issues?
00:09:10.760There are ramifications for not having functioning, happy relationships.
00:09:14.520And I also think it turns men into simps where they don't know how to deal with women because, like, they've never seen a masculine man lead in a relationship.
00:09:22.600But then you have all the women complaining that there's no masculine men.
00:09:25.100It's like trying to explain the color red to someone who's colorblind.
00:09:27.480If you've never seen the color red, how do you explain it?
00:09:29.600Like, have you seen, have you guys heard of the, the inmates and the, the, the prisoners and the, um, the guards' psychological, like, experiment that happened, that they did?
00:10:06.220Because the, the, the, the guards were, like, really taking it in as, like, this is their life.
00:10:11.380And these people are actually, I, actually villainous people.
00:10:14.960The reason I bring this up is to show, like, this is a real-life psychological example of what it looks like to be surrounded by images of things that you don't really understand.
00:10:24.320It's, it's an example of, like, being surrounded by a negative image of what you think should happen.
00:10:30.520And only going off your idea of what is, what it should happen.
00:10:34.660And seeing how the human mind goes with that.
00:10:38.260Because they were quick to take on the roles of prisoner and jailer.
00:10:46.480They were, they were going to kill these people.
00:10:48.240Like, people were, like, locked up in solitary confinement.
00:10:50.640So, it, it goes to show, the reason I bring it up is to show that, like, the psychological, the psychology of human beings is so, like, fragile.
00:10:59.900Yeah, I was going to say frigid or, like, fragile.
00:11:01.860That, like, things around you that you see every day that you don't even realize that you see or hear or you experience shape you, right?
00:11:40.120And it's always, like, one of those ones where single-parent's, like, lifestyle had been pushed, not, like, directly, but, like, indirectly in different ways of, like, if you notice it, then you notice it type of thing.
00:11:51.360I just think that modern women are selfish when it comes to their kids.
00:11:54.380They care about themselves more than their kids.
00:11:57.880And I think it actually ruins society because when you put yourself before your kids, you mean you put your generation before the next generation.
00:12:10.060So, to the point of, like, people that are not having kids, right?
00:12:15.760Do you reckon there's enough women that have passed that point of being able to get pregnant that are actually speaking to younger women and saying, all right, listen.
00:12:25.360Because that involves swallowing their pride and they don't want to do that.
00:12:27.880But there's enough guys saying, hey, get your act together.
00:13:00.840So it's one of those ones where those older girls you would think would give those advice might say to you, oh, you're so pretty, you should do this.
00:13:34.380But if you're not talking to that person directly, you can see the delivery and look at that as entertainment, but you can still take the message.
00:13:42.080I think with women, it needs to be dissected in a way that makes them feel.
00:13:44.860Directly to them, specifically for them.
00:13:47.380They've got to feel great about it to receive it.
00:13:51.240Whereas with guys, generally speaking, I'll just be like, cool.
00:14:00.100But I believe there's enough men out there giving that direction.
00:14:02.800And I think, you know, just from the conversations that we've had here just through on the panel, you know, is it working for you to, if you want, if you know what you want kids and you want this kind of, you want a certain kind of lifestyle, you want things, is the way you're moving working for you?
00:14:17.780And if it isn't, do you have people in your life that are saying that you can talk to that haven't had kids and they can say, boom, all right, look, you know, time's ticking.
00:14:27.700And this is how I feel now that I waited and I'm here.
00:14:31.080Yeah, but you know what it is with that?
00:14:33.700The biggest enemy to women most times is other women.
00:14:38.600Because we can't even admit there's a problem.
00:14:41.880Other women are the downfall of women for a lot of the time because they will be the ones who will feed you the stuff that you want to hear in one side, knowing good and damn well that's not the advice you need to hear.
00:14:52.660And then watch you walk out that door and make that mistake.