JustPearlyThings - June 02, 2023


These O.F Models Got TRRIGGERED When Pearl Said This


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9 minutes

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1,942

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170

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15

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In this episode, we discuss dating in the 21st century and how men have it harder than women. Who has it harder, men or women? We discuss our experiences with dating and what we have learned from them.

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00:00:00.000 So, who has it harder when it comes to dating, men or women?
00:00:04.560 Go ahead.
00:00:05.520 I think it definitely does depend on the situation.
00:00:09.320 In general?
00:00:12.300 I think men.
00:00:13.760 Okay.
00:00:15.280 I think it depends on your standards.
00:00:18.020 In general, in general.
00:00:19.200 In general, men.
00:00:20.060 I think it's a lot of pressure.
00:00:21.180 I think men, 100%.
00:00:22.740 That's so funny that everyone's saying this now,
00:00:24.980 because the girlies in the comment were calling me pick Misha,
00:00:27.140 sprinkle, sprinkle. 0.95
00:00:28.260 The dating, specific dating.
00:00:29.560 Yeah, specific to dating, men.
00:00:33.280 I feel like a lot of things in life men have it harder.
00:00:36.160 No, not.
00:00:37.300 Into the mic.
00:00:37.840 I think we both equally have it hard.
00:00:40.280 Men and women both.
00:00:41.480 I don't know if it's equally have it hard.
00:00:43.540 I think women have certain difficulties that perhaps men don't have.
00:00:47.160 Of course.
00:00:47.580 And men have difficulties that women don't have. 1.00
00:00:49.340 Yeah, exactly.
00:00:50.400 I think, generally speaking, men have definitely a harder time with dating.
00:00:54.800 What about you?
00:00:55.580 What do you think?
00:00:56.420 Yeah, I would say that men have a pretty rough time.
00:00:58.040 If you, like you have these guys in your comments asking if they're being overlooked
00:01:03.400 because they're blue collar.
00:01:05.000 And now it becomes this issue where, and you talk about this, and actually you do too, Brian,
00:01:10.760 but a very small pool of men are the ones that get all of the attention.
00:01:13.760 Even though there are lots of good, hardworking men who would love to find somebody good and have a relationship,
00:01:20.520 but because women are the gatekeepers of sex, they have to compete. 1.00
00:01:24.220 And it's difficult.
00:01:25.260 And it can be really discouraging and extremely lonely.
00:01:27.380 And that's why, like, after, it took me about a week to make a response video to all the girlies in my comments being like, 0.99
00:01:33.840 pick me, pick me.
00:01:34.920 Because I really, I had to sit down with a few of my girlfriends just to make sure that, like,
00:01:38.680 maybe my comment was a little, like, fucked up. 0.89
00:01:40.700 Maybe I should, like, do some self-introspection, which is everything that I preach.
00:01:44.680 And then I came down to it as I do feel like in society, especially when it comes to dating,
00:01:49.100 we hold the power.
00:01:49.860 We hold the yes or the no's.
00:01:51.140 Right?
00:01:51.360 They don't really have much say anymore.
00:01:52.500 Which, I mean, that's just the way the world works around it right now,
00:01:55.260 but I don't feel like we give men enough compassion for the hardships that they face.
00:01:59.120 Like, we love men conditionally.
00:02:01.680 I don't, I mean, in my relationship now, it's the first relationship I've actually practiced loving somebody unconditionally.
00:02:09.140 So, like, when it comes to, like, money and when it comes to, like, dick size,
00:02:13.540 all this kind of shit that we're so, like, I don't love you unless you have this.
00:02:16.880 Yeah.
00:02:17.440 What about us?
00:02:18.280 And I feel like a lot of women take this and they're like, okay, cool. 0.96
00:02:21.840 You want this out of a man. 0.99
00:02:23.340 But I do not feel that the question, what do you bring to the table, is a bad question to ask.
00:02:27.800 Because if all you can bring me is that you have a fat ass and you have a pretty face and you can fuck good, 1.00
00:02:32.220 that's going to get the man.
00:02:33.600 But, like, how are you going to keep him?
00:02:35.960 That's the reason why I don't care about the, oh, she's just a porn star and OnlyFans girl. 1.00
00:02:39.760 No, I'm smart as shit.
00:02:41.060 And half of the men that have gotten to know me can all say the same thing.
00:02:44.640 Like, holy shit, you smart as hell.
00:02:46.160 Like, why are you doing porn?
00:02:47.420 And I'm like, well, because I'm capitalizing off the market, okay?
00:02:49.780 I'm using my look to capitalize.
00:02:51.840 But I feel like a lot of women that I meet, which is the reason why 90% of my friends are guys,
00:02:56.740 and I know this is, like, feeding into more of the pick-me thing, but no, I feel like men hold me accountable.
00:03:03.640 I don't feel like a lot of women hold themselves accountable. 1.00
00:03:05.680 And especially, so we're, like, always preaching these standards.
00:03:08.500 And I'll say the same thing for men.
00:03:10.020 I don't do leftist.
00:03:11.720 I don't do right.
00:03:12.300 Like, I'm literally, my shit is middle ground because I feel like women preach these crazy standards that they can't even upkeep themselves. 1.00
00:03:18.920 Men preach these crazy standards.
00:03:20.380 And, like, you know, like the whole men want a traditional wife, but they're not traditional men.
00:03:23.800 A hundred percent.
00:03:24.360 But I feel like women are taken, like, when a man says, oh, I don't want a girl with a high body count, we're like, that man's trash, he's shit.
00:03:33.340 No, that's just his fucking preference.
00:03:34.520 But then I feel like when women say, like, oh, you know, I want a man to make this amount of money, it's not coming from a place of, like, she knows who she is. 0.89
00:03:45.560 It's just coming from a place of, like, what society is sort of what they should want in men.
00:03:51.460 And men are just precious.
00:03:52.500 Hold on, just a sec.
00:03:53.620 Hey, look, it's Pearl.
00:03:55.760 I like Pearl.
00:03:57.120 I just got here.
00:03:58.700 Thanks for the awesome content one more time.
00:04:01.420 It's a really nice vibe to enjoy a coffee to and fire up the business.
00:04:05.580 Much love, Bree and panel.
00:04:07.560 Bree, huh?
00:04:09.260 I feel like something in that same vein.
00:04:11.700 Thank you, Victor.
00:04:12.500 In that same vein, it's like it's never our fault when things go wrong.
00:04:15.560 And that's something that I see a lot when women talk about different aspects of life. 1.00
00:04:19.660 It's never, if you pick shitty guys, it's never your fault.
00:04:22.540 If you go into too much student debt, it's never your fault, right?
00:04:26.520 If you don't negotiate well when you're trying to get a job, it's never your fault.
00:04:29.600 And that really hurts women because it doesn't actually empower us to take any sort of agency over our own lives 1.00
00:04:36.260 and actually make decisions and be responsible for our own actions.
00:04:39.320 But men have to do that because if they do not, they are not attractive partners.
00:04:43.100 And that's really an unfair standard that our society has, particularly in the U.S., I think that that's a real problem.
00:04:48.980 Yeah.
00:04:49.820 100%.
00:04:50.380 I mean, that's just my sentiment about it.
00:04:53.460 You know what I was thinking about, which is crazy?
00:04:55.540 If you're a 1% guy, like top 1%, let's just say height, money, looks, whatever, you can't expect a virgin.
00:05:05.660 Wait, you can't or you can?
00:05:06.960 You can't.
00:05:07.880 If you're a top 1% guy?
00:05:09.080 No, they don't expect it.
00:05:10.520 I'm not saying they don't want it, but they don't expect it.
00:05:13.040 Oh, a top guy doesn't expect a virgin.
00:05:15.580 Yeah.
00:05:16.000 And that's just kind of speaks to the dating pool for men today.
00:05:19.680 You can get to the top 1% of men and you don't expect a virgin.
00:05:23.220 I mean, like what do men look for typically, historically?
00:05:28.700 Purity, youth, right?
00:05:30.420 And attractiveness, obviously, pretty and shape.
00:05:32.800 And so it's like you have a guy that can get to like the pinnacle of what women want, like, you know, tall, muscles, money, whatever.
00:05:40.120 And, like, those guys don't expect a virgin because, like, the quality of women has just gone down today. 0.97
00:05:45.540 Like, the average partner count is like what, I mean, they say like between 5 and 8.
00:05:50.780 And, like, you know that after, like, 5 to 7 partners, your chance of a happy marriage drops to, like, 20% in 10 years, roughly.
00:06:00.880 Why, though?
00:06:02.300 Yeah, if you're, I mean.
00:06:03.600 Why does body count matter so fucking much?
00:06:06.140 I mean, you're going to find different studies that.
00:06:08.580 All that is ridiculous.
00:06:10.120 I think that part of the reason that your chance of a happy marriage go down is because you have more experience and you know what you want.
00:06:16.940 All right.
00:06:17.660 And a lot of people settle in marriage and relationships.
00:06:20.680 You know about it.
00:06:21.740 Like, oh.
00:06:22.080 I mean, I just want to ask, like, how is it working?
00:06:25.160 Like, how is women having more partners working in society? 1.00
00:06:28.360 Is it leading us to having more fulfilling, long, happy relationships or not?
00:06:32.680 Because 100 years ago.
00:06:33.500 We're getting the relationships that we want.
00:06:34.840 Wait, wait, wait.
00:06:35.940 So 100.
00:06:36.600 I think men too.
00:06:37.740 Wait, wait.
00:06:38.220 100 years ago, only 15% of women admitted to premarital sex.
00:06:41.600 85% of women.
00:06:42.600 And you know why they admitted.
00:06:44.320 Let's say they're big liars and we double it.
00:06:47.220 Okay, that's still two out of three that were virgins on their wedding night.
00:06:50.480 And so, like, my question is, are relationships in a better place today than they were 100 years ago?
00:06:55.420 Because say what you want about relationships 100 years ago.
00:06:58.600 You cannot tell me that the way relationships are today are working.
00:07:01.420 Like, half of our generation is afraid of getting married because of what we've seen in our parents.
00:07:06.140 Yeah.
00:07:06.360 Like, that is a horrible place to.
00:07:07.960 Because our parents stayed together because they felt like they had to.
00:07:09.580 No, they didn't.
00:07:10.440 Our parents, that's not true.
00:07:11.720 Our parents are the most.
00:07:12.700 I can't speak for your parents or my parents.
00:07:14.320 No, no, I'm talking about the numbers.
00:07:15.040 But I'm talking about, like, generationally.
00:07:17.180 No.
00:07:17.580 For so long, women didn't have the autonomy to say no and to ask for what they want. 1.00
00:07:24.440 I demand what they want.
00:07:26.680 And now women do. 1.00
00:07:28.440 They can say, no, I don't want that.
00:07:30.620 I don't want you.
00:07:31.420 You don't make me happy.
00:07:32.260 I want what makes me happy.
00:07:33.520 Okay.
00:07:33.840 And that's why I think that.
00:07:35.400 Is that what a relationship is about?
00:07:37.800 No.
00:07:38.340 I think it goes both ways, 100%.
00:07:40.000 I think the man gets to say, no, that doesn't make me happy.
00:07:43.020 But the thing is, is it was only one-sided for so long.
00:07:45.840 I want to look at what outcomes have women had. 0.99
00:07:48.100 So not, like, personally, anecdotally.
00:07:49.900 This is just in society.
00:07:51.340 What outcomes has this led to?
00:07:53.620 One in three women have had an abortion.
00:07:55.680 One in three women have an STD.
00:07:57.700 90% of women have been on contraceptives at one point in their life.
00:08:01.300 Women are on antidepressants more than ever before. 1.00
00:08:04.900 What has promiscuity led to for women? 1.00
00:08:07.600 Why are we magnifying that I'm just women?
00:08:09.960 Well, why can't we have a conversation about women without saying but men? 0.70
00:08:14.140 Like, we're just talking about the women now.
00:08:15.840 So we can come back to the men later.
00:08:17.780 I'm not saying men are perfect.
00:08:19.140 But I'm saying, like, if we're so happy and promiscuity leads to great things,
00:08:24.440 why is it when our body counts go up where we have more STDs, more abortions,
00:08:30.220 we're on antidepressants more?
00:08:31.840 Like, it's not good.
00:08:33.800 Antidepressants has anything to do with body count.
00:08:36.800 Go ahead.
00:08:37.500 Go ahead.
00:08:37.820 Go ahead.
00:08:38.080 Go ahead.
00:08:38.260 I personally don't think that it's just like, oh, yeah, you should just fuck whoever,
00:08:43.460 whenever, at any time you want, just legs wide open, anyone can get in.
00:08:48.320 I don't think that that's necessarily healthy.
00:08:50.280 But I do think that it's your life and your decision.
00:08:56.540 If I want to have more than one sexual partner in my life, that's it.
00:09:01.500 I have.
00:09:02.160 Hold on.
00:09:03.580 Like, I'm okay with that.
00:09:04.780 On that topic, let me just come in here for a second.
00:09:06.660 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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