These O.F Models Got TRRIGGERED When Pearl Said This
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss dating in the 21st century and how men have it harder than women. Who has it harder, men or women? We discuss our experiences with dating and what we have learned from them.
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So, who has it harder when it comes to dating, men or women?
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I think it definitely does depend on the situation.
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That's so funny that everyone's saying this now,
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because the girlies in the comment were calling me pick Misha,
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I feel like a lot of things in life men have it harder.
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I think women have certain difficulties that perhaps men don't have.
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And men have difficulties that women don't have.
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I think, generally speaking, men have definitely a harder time with dating.
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Yeah, I would say that men have a pretty rough time.
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If you, like you have these guys in your comments asking if they're being overlooked
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And now it becomes this issue where, and you talk about this, and actually you do too, Brian,
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but a very small pool of men are the ones that get all of the attention.
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Even though there are lots of good, hardworking men who would love to find somebody good and have a relationship,
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but because women are the gatekeepers of sex, they have to compete.
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And it can be really discouraging and extremely lonely.
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And that's why, like, after, it took me about a week to make a response video to all the girlies in my comments being like,
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Because I really, I had to sit down with a few of my girlfriends just to make sure that, like,
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maybe my comment was a little, like, fucked up.
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Maybe I should, like, do some self-introspection, which is everything that I preach.
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And then I came down to it as I do feel like in society, especially when it comes to dating,
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Which, I mean, that's just the way the world works around it right now,
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but I don't feel like we give men enough compassion for the hardships that they face.
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I don't, I mean, in my relationship now, it's the first relationship I've actually practiced loving somebody unconditionally.
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So, like, when it comes to, like, money and when it comes to, like, dick size,
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all this kind of shit that we're so, like, I don't love you unless you have this.
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And I feel like a lot of women take this and they're like, okay, cool.
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But I do not feel that the question, what do you bring to the table, is a bad question to ask.
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Because if all you can bring me is that you have a fat ass and you have a pretty face and you can fuck good,
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That's the reason why I don't care about the, oh, she's just a porn star and OnlyFans girl.
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And half of the men that have gotten to know me can all say the same thing.
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And I'm like, well, because I'm capitalizing off the market, okay?
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But I feel like a lot of women that I meet, which is the reason why 90% of my friends are guys,
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and I know this is, like, feeding into more of the pick-me thing, but no, I feel like men hold me accountable.
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I don't feel like a lot of women hold themselves accountable.
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And especially, so we're, like, always preaching these standards.
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Like, I'm literally, my shit is middle ground because I feel like women preach these crazy standards that they can't even upkeep themselves.
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And, like, you know, like the whole men want a traditional wife, but they're not traditional men.
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But I feel like women are taken, like, when a man says, oh, I don't want a girl with a high body count, we're like, that man's trash, he's shit.
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But then I feel like when women say, like, oh, you know, I want a man to make this amount of money, it's not coming from a place of, like, she knows who she is.
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It's just coming from a place of, like, what society is sort of what they should want in men.
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It's a really nice vibe to enjoy a coffee to and fire up the business.
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In that same vein, it's like it's never our fault when things go wrong.
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And that's something that I see a lot when women talk about different aspects of life.
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It's never, if you pick shitty guys, it's never your fault.
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If you go into too much student debt, it's never your fault, right?
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If you don't negotiate well when you're trying to get a job, it's never your fault.
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And that really hurts women because it doesn't actually empower us to take any sort of agency over our own lives
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and actually make decisions and be responsible for our own actions.
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But men have to do that because if they do not, they are not attractive partners.
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And that's really an unfair standard that our society has, particularly in the U.S., I think that that's a real problem.
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You know what I was thinking about, which is crazy?
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If you're a 1% guy, like top 1%, let's just say height, money, looks, whatever, you can't expect a virgin.
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I'm not saying they don't want it, but they don't expect it.
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And that's just kind of speaks to the dating pool for men today.
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You can get to the top 1% of men and you don't expect a virgin.
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I mean, like what do men look for typically, historically?
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And attractiveness, obviously, pretty and shape.
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And so it's like you have a guy that can get to like the pinnacle of what women want, like, you know, tall, muscles, money, whatever.
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And, like, those guys don't expect a virgin because, like, the quality of women has just gone down today.
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Like, the average partner count is like what, I mean, they say like between 5 and 8.
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And, like, you know that after, like, 5 to 7 partners, your chance of a happy marriage drops to, like, 20% in 10 years, roughly.
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I mean, you're going to find different studies that.
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I think that part of the reason that your chance of a happy marriage go down is because you have more experience and you know what you want.
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And a lot of people settle in marriage and relationships.
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I mean, I just want to ask, like, how is it working?
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Like, how is women having more partners working in society?
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Is it leading us to having more fulfilling, long, happy relationships or not?
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100 years ago, only 15% of women admitted to premarital sex.
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Okay, that's still two out of three that were virgins on their wedding night.
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And so, like, my question is, are relationships in a better place today than they were 100 years ago?
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Because say what you want about relationships 100 years ago.
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You cannot tell me that the way relationships are today are working.
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Like, half of our generation is afraid of getting married because of what we've seen in our parents.
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Because our parents stayed together because they felt like they had to.
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For so long, women didn't have the autonomy to say no and to ask for what they want.
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I think the man gets to say, no, that doesn't make me happy.
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But the thing is, is it was only one-sided for so long.
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I want to look at what outcomes have women had.
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90% of women have been on contraceptives at one point in their life.
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Women are on antidepressants more than ever before.
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Well, why can't we have a conversation about women without saying but men?
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But I'm saying, like, if we're so happy and promiscuity leads to great things,
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why is it when our body counts go up where we have more STDs, more abortions,
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Antidepressants has anything to do with body count.
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I personally don't think that it's just like, oh, yeah, you should just fuck whoever,
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whenever, at any time you want, just legs wide open, anyone can get in.
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But I do think that it's your life and your decision.
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If I want to have more than one sexual partner in my life, that's it.
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On that topic, let me just come in here for a second.
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As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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