JustPearlyThings - May 23, 2023


These Only Fans Models Are Hypocrites


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

243.73055

Word Count

2,271

Sentence Count

144

Misogynist Sentences

12

Hate Speech Sentences

9


Summary

In this episode, we talk about what it means to be a Black woman in the workplace, what it s like being a black woman in today's society, and what we would like to see change in the future.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I wouldn't mind, you know, at this point, like I said, I'm very tired of working, so at this point, shit, if I could find a man that would just say, baby, you ain't got to work, and he want to go out and fuck who he want to fuck on the side and do what he want to do, shit, I'd be willing to just sit back and say, alright, you know, as long as you giving me the black car and I can, you know, get my hair done, nails done, everything did, and buy what I need to buy and better myself, and, you know, just focus on, you know, the home life, then shit, I might go for that.
00:00:30.000 And sit back and shut the fuck up.
00:00:32.120 What's the point of having a husband and being in a committed relationship, though, if you're just going to let him go out and fuck whoever he wants?
00:00:38.240 You know what, I'm taking it back to, like, the olden days, my grandmother's days and things, where they had no choice but to sit down and shut the fuck up and let your man do what he do, because you cannot go out and work, you have to just sit at home.
00:00:49.540 You know, we did all this fight for equal rights, and now to the point where, when I go on dates, guys don't want to date me if they feel like you don't have a good enough job, and that's fucking disrespectful.
00:00:59.500 It's like, damn, you know what I mean?
00:01:00.900 Like, maybe I'm still working on myself, getting my shit to that level, but guys nowadays, especially where I'm from in L.A., they don't want to fuck with you if you ain't got your shit, like, together, like, have a really good job, and especially depending on your age, they're not dealing with you.
00:01:14.300 They don't want to be with you if you're on the OnlyFans.
00:01:16.540 They don't want to be with you if you work in retail.
00:01:18.700 They want a specific woman, and so, you know, we kind of fucked ourselves a little bit with all this equal rights shit.
00:01:24.280 Like, yeah, I do like being able to make my own bread and do what I want to do and have a say-so, but at the same time, it's like, damn, we kind of set ourselves back because now guys don't even want to open the door for your ass.
00:01:34.020 You know what I mean?
00:01:34.620 So it's a lot with that going back and forth.
00:01:37.180 It's like I'm on one side of it, but then the other side.
00:01:40.080 It's tough because it's like, in general, most women are not traditional women, and we want traditional outcomes.
00:01:46.900 I feel like it's just a level of respect for the other person.
00:01:50.880 What do you mean?
00:01:51.860 Like, it doesn't matter what I do for work, or it doesn't matter what the other person does for work.
00:01:55.540 If you have a mutual respect for each other, like, I would want my man to open a car door for me, but, like, vice versa, like, I would take my man out to a nice meal once in a while.
00:02:05.980 Like, I feel like it's just an equal amount of respect, and, like, I would like my man to get me flowers once in a while.
00:02:12.260 Just, like, he would probably, like, fuck, I don't know, like, a massage once in a while.
00:02:16.480 Right, it should be equal, like that, you know?
00:02:18.580 Or to get, like, cooked food when he gets home or whatever.
00:02:21.400 Yeah, just, like, it's just respect.
00:02:23.300 It's just respect.
00:02:24.360 Yeah, but I was talking about, like, the traditional outcome, like, being a housewife.
00:02:27.780 So only, like, roughly 20% of women get to do that.
00:02:30.200 Right, right.
00:02:31.180 So it's competitive.
00:02:32.240 Like, it's, and the guys that want a housewife, like, I mean, you have to compete for them,
00:02:36.700 and typically they don't pick girls with OnlyFans, corn stars, like, that's just not what they pick.
00:02:40.460 But I don't want to be a typical housewife.
00:02:43.140 Well, I was only, I don't, I don't know what you want.
00:02:45.460 I was talking about what she said.
00:02:46.680 Right, because I said, and there's moments in my life where I'm just, I'm like, fuck it, I'll do that.
00:02:51.240 Because dealing with being a woman and dealing, a black woman at that, and dealing with this workforce,
00:02:55.420 like I said, I'm from L.A.
00:02:56.760 So it's hell that I deal with on a day-to-day basis, and I'm sick of it.
00:03:00.620 Yeah, but it's, like, at 33, like, you just can't be a traditional woman anymore.
00:03:04.420 And I don't think you would claim to be, right?
00:03:06.300 But, and it's, like, a lot of times, like, we want these traditional outcomes, but it's, like, do we qualify, you know?
00:03:12.000 Right, right, that's very true.
00:03:13.520 But it's, I mean, it's, like, damned if you do, damned if you don't at some point, you know what I mean?
00:03:18.000 But even with that attitude, I mean, like, at that point, I mean, listening to everything you're saying,
00:03:21.300 have you been realistic with the men that you're going for?
00:03:23.880 Like, you're saying, like, the men that you're going on dates with, like, your job isn't good enough, this isn't good enough.
00:03:27.040 Have you ever, like, taken time to stop and be, like, damn, maybe it is me and not these men, you know what I mean?
00:03:32.140 And I have, and I tell people that.
00:03:34.200 I definitely have, because I'm a Virgo, I'm an overthinker.
00:03:36.940 And so I analyze every fucking thing, you know what I mean?
00:03:39.500 And so I do be, like, and that's why I just told her when she asked, are you, like, really looking?
00:03:43.680 And I'm, like, you know what, no, Byronie, you need to sit your ass down and get yourself together right now.
00:03:47.400 Well, maybe L.A. too.
00:03:47.980 Just being real about it, you know what I mean?
00:03:49.600 Maybe this is not the time, you know what I mean, for you to be trying to get it if you don't fully have your shit together,
00:03:55.540 if that's what guys are going for now.
00:03:57.500 If you make it to 35 and you're not married, you only have, like, a 15, I think, percent chance, 20% chance of ever getting married.
00:04:04.060 Right, and that's what's scary.
00:04:05.480 It's actually, it's actually.
00:04:06.640 Sorry, go ahead.
00:04:07.080 Sorry.
00:04:07.420 The dating pool in L.A. is not the best at all.
00:04:11.320 I was going to say.
00:04:11.500 The men in L.A. are some of the worst men I've ever experienced in my entire life.
00:04:17.700 Speak over.
00:04:18.080 They are, they are, they act like they want something serious, and they want a real relationship and a real, true, loving partner,
00:04:25.940 and when they get that, they go and turn around, and they're like, oh, I have this already, and then they go and turn around and cheat.
00:04:30.560 Thank you.
00:04:30.920 I think it's because, no, it's because women go for a small percentage of men.
00:04:35.840 I don't think so.
00:04:36.460 But that's always true, though, because at the end of the day, all I care about is making sure that I'm loved.
00:04:41.800 I'd rather have somebody who will commit to me and tell me that they love me and actually show me that they love me over someone who's Chris fucking Brown.
00:04:48.360 I'd rather be loved than have somebody with status any fucking day.
00:04:51.580 Yeah, I don't even give a fuck about status.
00:04:53.580 I'm dating ugly, fat, short.
00:04:55.320 It don't matter.
00:04:56.160 The thing is, like, that's great.
00:04:57.140 That's great for you, right?
00:04:58.680 And I'm not talking about you guys individually, but there's no shortage of women trying to sleep with Chris Brown, trying to sleep with Drake, trying to sleep with these entertainers, actors, high-status celebrities.
00:05:10.000 Yeah, because they want the bed.
00:05:10.720 That women will know for a fact will not be faithful to them.
00:05:16.300 They know.
00:05:17.420 It's living in the city.
00:05:18.320 It honestly is.
00:05:19.260 The further away you get from a metropolitan area, the better your odds are going to be.
00:05:22.440 Because the people in cities, there's so many people here.
00:05:25.420 Your pool is so deep.
00:05:26.520 You can just look at somebody, swipe left, swipe right, you can toss them aside, you can cheat on.
00:05:30.720 It's also really easy to disguise what you're doing if there's so many people around, to be perfectly honest with you.
00:05:35.300 Yeah, because I feel like I used to feel the same way.
00:05:36.920 I used to be like, oh, my God, I hate dating in LA because I'm from Alabama.
00:05:39.220 Like, mom, fuck, nowhere.
00:05:41.480 And I hate dating.
00:05:42.500 But then I came to LA and I was like, I hate dating in LA.
00:05:44.820 And I was like, well, where?
00:05:45.840 I had to sit down and shut the fuck up and be like, well, where am I actually looking at dating?
00:05:49.400 And my guy now, who's like a blue-collar job, he's not.
00:05:51.860 Yeah, I was saying a lineman or a rig worker.
00:05:53.340 Yeah, they're great.
00:05:54.760 But a lot of people don't want to admit that those guys sometimes are the best people and the best prospects to date.
00:06:02.120 We want the flashy stuff.
00:06:03.600 As much as we say we don't guess the hell we do, we go to social media and say, if you don't have this, if you don't have this kind of money, if you don't fucking drive a Bugatti, you're not worth my time.
00:06:11.100 So a lot of these guys, a lot of these normal guys that we complain aren't around, they're around.
00:06:15.300 We just don't give a shit about them.
00:06:16.680 We don't give them a chance at all.
00:06:18.660 If you move outside of a major metropolitan area and you live outside of a medium-sized city, like 45 minutes outside of it, and you participate in life in that town, and you work somewhere where you do not work around the majority of the same gender, that's the biggest problem.
00:06:32.620 I get a lot of people that are like nurses, teachers, social workers, they always talk about how they can't find anybody.
00:06:36.860 They can't find anybody because they work with all women.
00:06:38.500 All women, all bitches, yeah.
00:06:40.420 Also, I love those types of jobs.
00:06:44.660 Well, women choose those jobs.
00:06:46.760 Women go into those jobs, and then we can't wait to get out of them because you get into them and they suck.
00:06:50.340 And the other issue is women find 80% of men as unattractive.
00:06:54.280 Not okay, not eh, meh.
00:06:56.020 You find 80% of men you meet ugly.
00:06:58.180 But I've dated ugly ones.
00:06:59.700 I've tried to go against the granddaddy and date ugly in the middle class.
00:07:03.220 Typically, typically, tip note, typically when women, no.
00:07:06.940 That's why you need to work around men.
00:07:11.480 If you're looking for a partner, if you're looking for a spouse, you need to work around men because you have to know the men in order to actually know if they're attractive to you.
00:07:18.760 Yes, I agree with what you're saying, but the thing is, women will care less about how attractive a man is if they are in close proximity to that man and they like him.
00:07:28.320 Yes, that is how people get married.
00:07:29.520 Most people meet at work.
00:07:30.320 I know, but I'm not talking about what's ideal.
00:07:32.240 I'm talking about what is.
00:07:33.300 No, but I'm talking about what is most people meet at work.
00:07:35.200 Yeah, no, now the number one way is dating apps.
00:07:38.420 It's not work anymore.
00:07:39.300 I think dating apps, personally, are the dumbest thing created because, personally, for me, I go on personality.
00:07:46.960 At the end of the day, yes, the first thing you see when you meet somebody is their looks, but I've dated men that I haven't found conventionally attractive, and they have been the sweetest human beings to me ever.
00:07:59.600 Was it because you knew them from something other than meeting them and, like, meeting them in a bar and being attracted to them?
00:08:06.380 Well, actually, so, before, I also bartended on the side when I was doing...
00:08:11.640 I was bartending to you.
00:08:12.340 Yeah, when I was doing OnlyFans.
00:08:13.540 It was in Austin.
00:08:14.560 He was a DJ.
00:08:16.420 Oh, you worked together.
00:08:17.060 Yes, so, he was more...
00:08:19.900 Well, we didn't work at the same bars, but it was, like, the industry.
00:08:22.100 Austin's a very, very small nightlife industry.
00:08:24.540 Yeah.
00:08:25.400 So, the person that I dated, he was not conventionally attractive at all.
00:08:28.680 Overweight, just not my type that I would see at all, but his personality completely won me over.
00:08:36.260 How long were you with him?
00:08:37.640 We were together for...
00:08:38.840 I mean, it was...
00:08:40.340 He died while we were talking, but it was a very amazing...
00:08:46.220 We were friends before, and then it just kind of switched into something more, but I think it was, like...
00:08:52.340 I knew him for a very long time, so I wouldn't say there was really a time of us, like, talking.
00:08:56.720 But I think...
00:08:57.740 That's why I think dating apps are, like, the dumbest thing ever.
00:09:00.000 I agree with you.
00:09:00.680 I mean, if we meet someone on a dating app, like, we only swipe right 5% of the time.
00:09:05.240 So, if you're meeting with someone online, like, typically, he's got a lot of women, because, again, he's getting all of the likes.
00:09:10.660 I wouldn't even be here if it wasn't for the dating app.
00:09:12.780 That's how I met Brian.
00:09:13.940 If Brian hit me up, we swiped on each other, and he's talking about, well, you ought to come on my show.
00:09:18.420 I'm like, you ain't going to...