These Types Of Women Are Selfish Moms
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the importance of adoption and why single women should adopt. We also talk about why a single woman should adopt and why it s better than having a baby in a two parent household.
Transcript
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Why cannot older women adopt children and have a family?
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More women probably might want to adopt, because honestly, childbirth hurts.
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I understand, but if you cannot have a baby and you want to have one, why can't it hurt?
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I think it's selfish as a single woman to adopt.
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You're going to put your kid at every statistical disadvantage because you want a kid
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instead of letting that kid grow up in a two-parent household.
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It's not necessarily, she's single, she's just older because she was focusing on the career.
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If she's married, then I think that's one thing.
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But I also think most men want a wife for kids.
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So it's kind of like, what do they get out of it then?
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Do you know what kids go through in the foster care field?
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You know, I actually, I do because I've been on both ends of adoption
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where my parents, they gave up one of my brothers and they actually adopted a different one.
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Because one brother, my parents gave up when my mom was 17, same parents, but they gave him up for adoption.
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I met him when I was 22, grew up with a completely different family.
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And we also adopted teenagers that were in the foster care system.
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The problem is not giving up kids for adoption.
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It's actually, if you give an infant up for adoption,
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you're most likely going to find a family that wants to adopt them.
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The issue is these crackhead moms will keep the kid for like five years and the government will take them.
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And now what parent is going to want a kid that's been basically...
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Because by the time they're three, their brain's fully developed.
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Like they, I know a couple that adopted two brothers.
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One brother was like two or one and a half when they adopted him.
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The older brother, it was like they couldn't, even though they're super nice parents,
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like he was too developed and like he ended up stealing from them.
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So I actually, straight out of college, that was my first job, right?
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We always adopted different family members and stuff.
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Like grew up in this, around this, seen stories and all that.
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It is imperative for adoptions to happen because when people give up these kids,
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you see them crackhead moms or whatever like that.
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These kids, when they're not adopted, whether it's by a single woman or not,
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All types of things happen to them just from being in the system.
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So I would rather a kid be adopted by a single woman than to be in the system messed up.
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Now growing up with mental health issues because they've been bounced around from home to home to all types of things.
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But typically, like in the situations I've seen, the single women typically want young children.
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And I think in that situation, it's quite, I just think it's quite selfish to like pick,
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to have a kid at every statistical disadvantage when it should be in a two-parent household.
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And sure, like maybe for the kids that have nowhere else to go.
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But I just think if you're going to take a baby where they could be in a two-parent household,
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I think it's better to be in a two-parent household.
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I don't know why you would bring them up in a situation where they're at a disadvantage.
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And there's so many two parents that want to adopt.
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But taking a kid, so infants are the high, like that's the most requested.
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Because again, you can mold that infant into who you need them to be there.
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My brother was still pretty similar to us, even though I didn't meet him until I was 22.
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No, but it's like working in, like they let you know that like most people are going to go for an infant.
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It is so hard to, it's hard to place older kids because like you said, they're developing into whoever they are.
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But it's still like infants, whoever, it's still just get the kids out of there.
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But I think the better solution is for women to get married and stay married.
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Because that's where we're seeing a lot of these, there are a lot of men.
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The average woman's 170 pounds, it's overweight, fat, and yet they think they deserve like men that make a lot of money.
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The average, so they don't bring purity anymore.
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When you get older, you realize you need to chop that list down, right?
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But there still has to be enough men for these women.
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There has to be enough men that fit the criteria for these women as far as, again, being single.
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One out of three men are either virgins or having sex in the past year.
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But having sex doesn't mean that you're not in a relationship.
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Yeah, I'm saying like, I think the goal should be to get married and stay married.
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I think that would solve a lot of these problems.
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No, I would say women are the ones pushing off marriage because men will always want young women.
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They're biologically, even just from a smell test, like men are biologically predispositioned to like young fertile women.
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So when the men are looking for wives, the young women don't want to get married because women have the most power when they're young.
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And we choose to not get married until we're older.
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Or is it older men looking for these younger women?
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You have the most sexual power when you are young as a woman.
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But most women, right, when they're in a relationship and they're waiting, when most women are in a relationship, right,
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and they're waiting for their man to ask them to marry them, what is the most common excuse?
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That's the woman's choice, though, because she could date older.
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But at 25, are other 25-year-old men ready to get married?
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But the problem is, but the question is, okay, if you have a product, if you're a company,
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and you're selling a product, and nobody's buying the product, do you blame the customer,
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We'll blame them for not wanting to get married instead of fixing the product, which is women.
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But even if you fix yourself up, even if you could be the best woman there is, if a man's
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You cannot make a man do what he doesn't want to do.
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And I agree with you, but that goes back to our decision-making.
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We will stay with a guy for, we'll pick a guy and say, I will make you into a husband
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when he's clearly not a husband, and then complain about the results.
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But was he a criminal because he was trying to make money to provide for the family?
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If you're trying to make money to provide for the family, yes, you had to take an illegal
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right, but if that's all the work that there was around for you-
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Okay, but I'm saying, so don't whine later, because what women will do is they'll date
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the drug dealers, the bad boys in our 20s, and then come in our 30s and say to the men,
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Well, but when you had the most options and you had the most beauty, the most youth, the
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most purity, you picked the bad guys, and then you want the nice guys to take you later.
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But even if you pick the right guys, right, when I was dating, right, I'm 37 now, so when
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I was 25, there were men that I was dating, good job, and I would be like, yo, I want
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Okay, so what skills do you have that are like wife?
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Because the whole show you've been talking about how you were raised to work, which is fine.
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I'm not even, like, judging you about it, but it's possible that maybe they just didn't
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So my mother taught, instilled in me, okay, you have to cook for your husband.
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I did cook most of the family meals growing up.
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So these are things that I grew up doing, but at the end of the day, I still have to survive.
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And I'm not, like, I don't know your situation, but I'm saying, like, if I'm trying to get
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married and all the men are saying, no, I don't want to marry you, no, I don't want to
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marry you, like, maybe it's just something you got to fix.
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Like, I'm not even talking about you personally.
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If the men don't want to marry us, it's like, maybe we need to improve, but women will blame