These Updates Would Piss Feminists Off
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what men are looking for in a woman and what they don't want. We also discuss the things we should stop saying to men and how to stop saying them to men. We discuss toxic masculinity and toxic men.
Transcript
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A couple months ago, I made a list of the things that us as women should stop doing.
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Now, this is not to say that I am perfect and have never said anything on this list.
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However, I just felt like this was a very, very good list.
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So this is the things that men look for, basically, or don't want.
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It's like want, don't want kind of a combination.
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Your hobbies cannot be going to the bar every weekend and going out all the time looking like a hoe.
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Men want women that work hard but not too hard and at the right things.
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They do not want a girl that wants a career more than a family.
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Equals, I want to do no work and still get the outcome I want.
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Equals, I like cheaters and toxic men and I will choose them and be toxic as well and not
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admit my part that I had any part to play except quote unquote giving too much.
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I make the same mistakes that my parents make and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes
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and instead I will make the same mistakes but blame it on them.
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Equals, I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any women play in relationships.
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I feel like I'm a traditional when I am single.
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I will be submissive for the right man who hurt you.
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He needs to add to what I have going on in my life.
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Not all women equals that is a problem with women but I won't admit it's a problem.
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So if you guys have anything you want to add to it, you know, feel free.
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Get in the bedroom and drop your pants before you go to work.
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Well, you know, we can add more if you have things you want to add.
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It can be a little bit like, oh, you know, like, oh, I have to do it again.
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If you're with the right woman, that won't happen.
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If you're with the right woman, if you're with the right man, that won't happen.
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I think women that say this, because I hear this a lot, it typically means I am disagreeable and I don't want to listen.
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Or like something, like I like bums, basically, is the other, like, it's like a trend.
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Well, some women pick men who are, I think, for their character, too masculine.
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I don't want to say that because then you're going to be, like, feminine, masculine.
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No, like, too, you know, like, she's not feminine enough.
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So she's in her feminine most of the time, but sometimes she's like, oh.
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Yeah, I knew you were going to pick that up, girl.
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Like, it's just, it's like these women that go on Instagram and they'll say, oh, I'm a feminine.
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But, like, it's like I'm now a femininity coach.
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So if you look at, like, men's improvement, it's very practical.
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So it's very much, like, go to the gym, screw a bunch of girls so you know how to.
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Or do, you know, like, I've even, there's an ex-corn star that's been on my show.
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But, like, or they'll do, like, go to the gym, make more money.
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I've only had one, like, femininity coach give me, like, real concrete steps that isn't just, like, journaling or.
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Actually, I have something to say about feminine coaches.
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Like, focus on things that make you tap into the, like, that traditional woman.
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Like, try to, for, I've been in touch with some of them.
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They tell you, like, listen to music, dance, or create something with, like, a painting or something tangible with, like, artistic.
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Yeah, and to me, this sounds like nothing useful to a guy.
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There's only been one femininity coach that, like, actually talked about real stuff.
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And she helped me write most of these, like, words to add.
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In the short term, it might seem that it's not helping.
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But imagine on the long term, rather than a woman being in her, as I say, masculine energy, which is, like, shouting and confronting.
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She learns to be submissive, but, like, step by step.
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First of all, by tapping into these skills, then to be comfortable just doing even something such as cooking.
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They tell you cooking makes you tap into your feminine energy more and more.
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I think cooking, yeah, I don't think cooking is bad.
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But we need these now because a lot of women and men as well forgot that natural state.
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You know, what's your natural state as a woman?
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I don't know because I get really confused because I hear these, like, women talk about soft,
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But, like, our great-grandmothers really didn't have a soft life.
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They were milking, like, at least I'm from the U.S., they were milking cows.
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When you ask where all the women, good women, went, I mean, to me, they went to confusion and independence.
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And this confusion is a diffused awareness because of the primal nature, right?
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And a woman is diffused because she only has a certain amount of daylight hours to get as many berries as she can.
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She can do it way quicker than a man, apparently.
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And so it is kind of obtuse and broad when we think about how we go back into our feminine nature so we're not, you know, in this CEO role of our families, of our relationships, of our businesses.
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And then we've got to come home and then deal with the reality of, like, you know, being a partner, which is a totally different energy.
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Like, yeah, you've got to get the meal on the table.
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And my grandmother and my mother, they worked really hard as homemakers.
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But my generation and our generation now, it's very, it's a lot of confusion.
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She made a tune called Single Ladies, All of These Things with a Ring on a Finger.
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From the night, to be honest, you'll say you're right.
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From the 90s, 2000s, whatever, there's been a lot of independence, independence, too.
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Someone said modern-day gathering has turned into shopping.
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Yeah, but why do you think women are having burnout, endocrine disruption, cancer, depression?
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I mean, there's all these issues with women's health because they're trying to be a man.
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He said women and men don't handle stress the same, and it really messes up our hormones
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If you stay in your feminine energy and you come home and you look after your partner,
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your man is going to want to look after and do everything in his power to make sure you're good.
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As long as you stay in your feminine and you look after that man, he's going to do everything
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But earlier with what I was saying, if you're not showing certain things to him, he's going
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But if he sees you're making effort, like even cooking, cooking, if you want to get through
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And I also, I fell into the boss babe culture for a long time when I was obese and I,
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and then I started losing weight, but I was still in the boss babe culture.
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And it was when I had the daddy issues when I was, I didn't have a good relationship
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And it wasn't until I held my relationship with my father that I was like, oh, okay.
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I actually, you know, it's really important that I don't have to work like a man.
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My future husband will do these and I'll fall into my feminine roles.
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I just, I flipped two houses last year and I was like, I don't want to do this anymore.
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And I think that's another part of where all the good women have gone inside of this independence,
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And like Pearl was saying earlier, if you don't have the example, how are you supposed
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And it was like growing up with you as my mom, like you played both roles, the dad and
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And so that was very interesting because I grew up thinking, oh, I don't need men.
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And I even thought my dad's father was terrible, but now he's like my best friend.
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And I think where the good women are going is they think that it's a bad thing to be
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I think that the mindset of women today feel like I'm like that.
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And now if you're feminine and traditional online, people are like, you're not a feminist,
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you hate women, you are terrible, you are a disgraced society, you should go die.
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Like women are the most beautiful things on planet.
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Well, I think it's probably because women want women to fail and see them.
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I think it's because we're not supposed to be competing with our mom's generation.
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Because the thing is, like, if you have a 45 year old and you have like a 25 year old
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girl, it's like a lot of times the guys you might want are the same age.
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Because women like 45 tend to want guys like it's like five to seven years younger.
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Where women 25 want guys five to seven years older.
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This crossover and I think bitter older women that don't want you to win will tell you the
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And it's because like if they're if they're being a hoe, right?
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Like what's the worst feeling when you take a test and you fail?
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What's the worst feeling when everyone else succeeded?
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But if you turn around and they say I failed too.
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So it's like these women want other people to be miserable in their negative decisions.
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And I've lost hundreds of people because of it, because of succeeding in my relationship
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and having a healthy relationship with my father, people dislike me because of that.
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And it's like, why do you hate me for having a healthy relationship with my family?
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And especially on like, they don't want you to win.
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They want you to be divorced, miserable, sad, fat, on your phone, on TikTok, dying.