JustPearlyThings - These Women EXPOSED Their Red Flags

00:00:00.000 meals if we're talking a student the best wives how many meals should a good wife cook for her 1.00

00:00:06.480 husband a day a good a student no how many one oh that's an a okay what about you one one that's an

00:00:19.000 a student okay i'm gonna say two that's okay that's an a a okay how many meals yeah how many

00:00:25.600 meals there's three minutes lunch and dinner yeah how many meals snacks you're actually getting up

00:00:32.040 for breakfast you're gonna oh oh yeah sometimes um i'm gonna say one and a half like

00:00:40.260 you do the prep he does the cook yeah what about you um i quite like cooking so i do three good

00:00:49.640 wife okay don't what would you say that a good husband pays a hundred percent of the bills a

00:00:55.600 plus husband no no a plus like like this is the the ideal like again we're always i'm talking about

00:01:04.200 ideal i don't think you should pay for everything like i think his money is our money my money is

00:01:12.240 my money okay do good wives look at their money as the family money or is their own money 1.00

00:01:25.280 the a plus wives family family yeah like where does this where does this meant like you don't think

00:01:33.240 that's a selfish mentality it is yeah it is no if i if i if i can't be aging everything it's all

00:01:39.180 my god yeah so like um if my husband has money and i have money like it's for the family okay

00:01:46.920 basically and you you high-fived her why why um because i kind of agree with that like yeah like

00:01:57.240 my money is my money he knows that i can do what i want with that obviously because i'm a good wife 0.98

00:02:03.100 i am gonna invest that in yeah i'm gonna i'm not gonna spend it i'm probably gonna invest it in

00:02:07.400 my kids i'll maybe have like 20 for me to go get my hair done i gotta look good for my man

00:02:12.940 you know of course so would you in return he gets one meal a day

00:02:17.600 he gets two for me but he's gonna have to buy the food as well he gets one meal a day all right he gets

00:02:24.300 two he gets lunch and dinner but breakfast is off the cards i wake up late

00:02:28.020 so would you spoil your man would you spoil your man yeah because you said that your money's your

00:02:33.320 own so would you just spend it with yourself or you would you know i'm gonna spoil my man

00:02:37.480 spoil my money what do you mean like special occasions i just mean on a random you know you

00:02:43.500 see something that he really likes you're like you know what i'm gonna get this one man yeah

00:02:46.820 yeah with my money are you gonna are you gonna buy him let's say yeah what's an expensive watch

00:02:51.660 buy him a nice watch listen no honestly if i'm making that type of money i will buy him his

00:02:57.440 favorite watch yeah okay now another question do good wives give up their careers for their children 1.00

00:03:02.360 i think yes yes yes yes yes she doesn't like it i don't definitely yes no i don't i'm talking a

00:03:12.500 plot remember this is i'm not saying everyone's got to be an a student and everything no no i don't

00:03:17.800 give up your careers no good good wives should go to work instead of spend time with their kids 1.00

00:03:23.140 no for a certain amount of time yeah you know i get it you know staying home with your kid but

00:03:28.460 definitely going back i believe i mean so i'm talking about when push comes to shove your kids

00:03:32.860 need you yeah so if you're gonna have children they should always come first regardless whether you're

00:03:38.360 a man or woman i totally i mean yeah yeah okay this is this is the problem with society at the 1.00

00:03:44.640 minute this is the problem with society now no but it is that they have children and they focus on

00:03:51.140 career if you want to have a child you're gonna have to sacrifice whether you're a man or a woman

00:03:56.460 you have to sacrifice because so many children so many children are emotionally neglected because

00:04:02.960 they're passed off to to nannies or they're passed off to au pairs yeah and if you're willing to have a

00:04:09.720 child you need to have a financial support to be able to go i'm going to take a step back

00:04:13.800 i'm not going to quit work you don't have to quit it just take a step back to be able to go

00:04:18.140 this child needs me emotionally for the next 17 years of its life you know what i mean

00:04:24.060 the gestation period of humans is much longer good good wives are happy to give up their careers to 0.57

00:04:33.880 spend more time with their children yes okay yeah okay yes you agree yes yeah okay why aren't you

00:04:41.020 like why wouldn't you be to give up your like i'm just curious like why why wouldn't you want to give

00:04:46.200 up your career for a kid i mean i of course i would like in the beginning that growing up i have to be

00:04:51.720 there um but i don't believe in like completely cutting off your career just because of your kid

00:04:58.160 of course you love your child that is you get that's you you gave birth to that child i understand that

00:05:03.440 but completely neglecting your career something that you've like worked for maybe you've gone to

00:05:09.360 university um you know you've you're driven in this you love it and you've given it up i just

00:05:14.880 don't believe in that why you know because why would you do because your family is more important

00:05:20.680 yeah 100 it is like you're gonna and you wanted this family right yeah most of the time you can

00:05:25.720 come back to it though yeah but not for 17 years i'm not gonna take a break oh no no no i i never say

00:05:30.580 i never say just drop the career you shouldn't you don't think good wives would want to 1.00

00:05:35.260 like good wives if they could take 17 18 years off to raise the kids what's so good about i mean 1.00

00:05:40.560 a lot of jobs are pretty crap anyway to be honest i mean what's so good about like we're the only

00:05:45.700 species on the planet that work and pay to live on the earth if you're going to raise something that's

00:05:53.820 so natural you should be willing to drop some of that materialistic aspect i don't think if you have

00:05:59.300 the support surrounding it but i think it works both for a man and a woman i don't think you should

00:06:03.540 if if you're a single dad you should and you have the financial support there you should definitely

00:06:09.240 want to spend more time with your child and maybe put your career as a second second best yeah i mean

00:06:15.460 surely what is the ultimate purpose that we're on this planet it's it's it's other people isn't it

00:06:19.920 it's children it's family it's all of those things right i mean so so why is any of us why is any of

00:06:26.520 us men or women why are we saying oh just going to work in a cubicle is more important than that

00:06:30.720 you know i have another statement okay good wives don't leave no matter what 1.00

00:06:37.740 i'll give you please don't say abuse please i will give you no i will give you abuse but good you

00:06:46.480 know what good wives believe in separations they don't believe in divorce 1.00

00:06:52.580 what what do you mean when you say separation you mean they would do you mean legally separated

00:06:59.600 basically living in the same house but not being married that's boy like connect emotionally i had

00:07:06.040 that growing up i had that growing up with my parents and i and i that's normal to me actually

00:07:10.620 no i have to say that's more painful it was definitely the minute they got divorced for me it was

00:07:16.400 as a child it was so much no she's saying not you don't legally get divorced but i i'm saying i

00:07:23.580 think but you live separate into different houses so that's basically the same no sometimes you live

00:07:27.800 in the house yeah that's how we were we lived in the house that's what happened to me

00:07:32.960 so tell me your thoughts do good wives leave yes or no and good wives only believe in separation 1.00

00:07:39.340 they don't believe in divorce you can go it's all right you can disagree it's what do you what do

00:07:43.900 you think tell me why you're um i mean if you want to leave leave honestly it doesn't make you a bad

00:07:51.660 person i just just leave like if i don't know it can be really it or this or you're just not feeling

00:07:58.540 anymore like both of you it's a mutual thing or okay just leave i don't believe in that separation so a

00:08:03.580 good wife can leave yeah okay go ahead uh yeah i do agree with you um only because based of my

00:08:13.100 personal experience and watching my parents be like that i always grew up wanting them to actually get

00:08:19.020 a divorce because it was so damaging to us as children so i feel like life is way too short to

00:08:27.660 stay in a marriage with someone that you are not happy with and to continue living a miserable

00:08:33.420 life yeah why why put yourself through that why put your kids through that as well if kids are

00:08:38.380 involved as well so i do think you can still be a good wife but you can also leave maybe do it for 1.00

00:08:44.060 the kids yeah like well because kids have better outcomes i'm saying stay together for the kids

00:08:48.700 oh i don't like no that's even worse no yeah but see i as i was the kid and i always wanted my parents

00:08:54.860 to get a divorce i would even tell them but why don't you guys get a divorce because it was so painful

00:08:59.580 seeing them be the way they were with each other living that separated life in the same house but

00:09:05.340 how do you how do you know it would have been a better outcome for you you seem to have turned out

00:09:08.940 okay right thank you um your outward appearance doesn't necessarily indicate what's going on inside

00:09:16.220 though yeah exactly what i'm saying i don't know um every statistic statistic will tell you it's better

00:09:24.220 to have two parents in the same house than it is yeah but one i know i know but then that kid also

00:09:31.100 has to deal with that trauma for example i have trauma now growing up you may you may see me like

00:09:35.260 this but like you don't know how i am inside like i have childhood trauma now because of my parents

00:09:41.020 marriage and witnessing what went on in that house because they did not uh get a divorce did they get

00:09:48.380 did they not get along they would fight a lot yeah absolutely they did not get along and really and

00:09:53.580 truly they should have got divorced but because of the kids they stayed and because my mom believed

00:09:59.580 in this whole i need to be a good wife and i can't leave him now that he's old and throw him out

00:10:04.780 she stayed but i wish she would have got divorced because that was really painful as a child growing up

00:10:11.740 to see those things what if one of them had moved out though and you hadn't seen them as much would that

00:10:15.420 have been painful as well do you think i think either way it would that either way it would have been but

00:10:20.460 i actually would have preferred that if they had got different house yeah i would have liked my dad

00:10:25.740 my dad's not alive anymore um but i would have liked it if he moved out and we saw him on weekends or

00:10:32.940 something because i feel like it would have been a healthier environment for us kids i think it causes

00:10:38.300 a divide and a toxic household as well yeah it was an extremely toxic household it was and it was really

00:10:44.620 hard growing up dealing with that actually um and it's also given me trauma now that you know i'm in

00:10:50.460 a relationship and i'm planning to get married and i worry that i'm gonna have the same life my mum and

00:10:56.940 dad had which is a horrible feeling but that is what kids who go through those things end up feeling when

00:11:03.500 they get to my age do you think that's me do you look at kind of marriage as a more kind of

00:11:10.060 solid thing now though you look at it and you go i have to want this so badly yeah before i get

00:11:17.020 it's like i want to break the generational curse now because because it's a lot of women in my family 1.00

00:11:23.660 unfortunately left their husbands um that's that's that at least that's a positive outlook that you've

00:11:28.460 got on it you can look at it and be like yeah i want to be successful that's yeah that's strong and can

00:11:33.900 hold together even through hardship you can be like well i don't want what happened before yeah

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JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023

These Women EXPOSED Their Red Flags

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