JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


These Women EXPOSED Their Red Flags

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Post Wall Woman Gets In Her Feelings After Man said this DESPERATE Women Settle for SIMPS and Don't Respect Them

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Length

12 minutes

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190.04

Word count

2,307

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Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about what a good wife does for her husband, how to be a good mother and wife and how to raise a good child. We also discuss the difference between good wives and good mothers and what it means to be good wives.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 meals if we're talking a student the best wives how many meals should a good wife cook for her 1.00
00:00:06.480 husband a day a good a student no how many one oh that's an a okay what about you one one that's an
00:00:19.000 a student okay i'm gonna say two that's okay that's an a a okay how many meals yeah how many
00:00:25.600 meals there's three minutes lunch and dinner yeah how many meals snacks you're actually getting up
00:00:32.040 for breakfast you're gonna oh oh yeah sometimes um i'm gonna say one and a half like
00:00:40.260 you do the prep he does the cook yeah what about you um i quite like cooking so i do three good
00:00:49.640 wife okay don't what would you say that a good husband pays a hundred percent of the bills a
00:00:55.600 plus husband no no a plus like like this is the the ideal like again we're always i'm talking about
00:01:04.200 ideal i don't think you should pay for everything like i think his money is our money my money is
00:01:12.240 my money okay do good wives look at their money as the family money or is their own money 1.00
00:01:25.280 the a plus wives family family yeah like where does this where does this meant like you don't think
00:01:33.240 that's a selfish mentality it is yeah it is no if i if i if i can't be aging everything it's all
00:01:39.180 my god yeah so like um if my husband has money and i have money like it's for the family okay
00:01:46.920 basically and you you high-fived her why why um because i kind of agree with that like yeah like
00:01:57.240 my money is my money he knows that i can do what i want with that obviously because i'm a good wife 0.98
00:02:03.100 i am gonna invest that in yeah i'm gonna i'm not gonna spend it i'm probably gonna invest it in
00:02:07.400 my kids i'll maybe have like 20 for me to go get my hair done i gotta look good for my man
00:02:12.940 you know of course so would you in return he gets one meal a day
00:02:17.600 he gets two for me but he's gonna have to buy the food as well he gets one meal a day all right he gets
00:02:24.300 two he gets lunch and dinner but breakfast is off the cards i wake up late
00:02:28.020 so would you spoil your man would you spoil your man yeah because you said that your money's your
00:02:33.320 own so would you just spend it with yourself or you would you know i'm gonna spoil my man
00:02:37.480 spoil my money what do you mean like special occasions i just mean on a random you know you
00:02:43.500 see something that he really likes you're like you know what i'm gonna get this one man yeah
00:02:46.820 yeah with my money are you gonna are you gonna buy him let's say yeah what's an expensive watch
00:02:51.660 buy him a nice watch listen no honestly if i'm making that type of money i will buy him his
00:02:57.440 favorite watch yeah okay now another question do good wives give up their careers for their children 1.00
00:03:02.360 i think yes yes yes yes yes she doesn't like it i don't definitely yes no i don't i'm talking a
00:03:12.500 plot remember this is i'm not saying everyone's got to be an a student and everything no no i don't
00:03:17.800 give up your careers no good good wives should go to work instead of spend time with their kids 1.00
00:03:23.140 no for a certain amount of time yeah you know i get it you know staying home with your kid but
00:03:28.460 definitely going back i believe i mean so i'm talking about when push comes to shove your kids
00:03:32.860 need you yeah so if you're gonna have children they should always come first regardless whether you're
00:03:38.360 a man or woman i totally i mean yeah yeah okay this is this is the problem with society at the 1.00
00:03:44.640 minute this is the problem with society now no but it is that they have children and they focus on
00:03:51.140 career if you want to have a child you're gonna have to sacrifice whether you're a man or a woman
00:03:56.460 you have to sacrifice because so many children so many children are emotionally neglected because
00:04:02.960 they're passed off to to nannies or they're passed off to au pairs yeah and if you're willing to have a
00:04:09.720 child you need to have a financial support to be able to go i'm going to take a step back
00:04:13.800 i'm not going to quit work you don't have to quit it just take a step back to be able to go
00:04:18.140 this child needs me emotionally for the next 17 years of its life you know what i mean
00:04:24.060 the gestation period of humans is much longer good good wives are happy to give up their careers to 0.57
00:04:33.880 spend more time with their children yes okay yeah okay yes you agree yes yeah okay why aren't you
00:04:41.020 like why wouldn't you be to give up your like i'm just curious like why why wouldn't you want to give
00:04:46.200 up your career for a kid i mean i of course i would like in the beginning that growing up i have to be
00:04:51.720 there um but i don't believe in like completely cutting off your career just because of your kid
00:04:58.160 of course you love your child that is you get that's you you gave birth to that child i understand that
00:05:03.440 but completely neglecting your career something that you've like worked for maybe you've gone to
00:05:09.360 university um you know you've you're driven in this you love it and you've given it up i just
00:05:14.880 don't believe in that why you know because why would you do because your family is more important
00:05:20.680 yeah 100 it is like you're gonna and you wanted this family right yeah most of the time you can
00:05:25.720 come back to it though yeah but not for 17 years i'm not gonna take a break oh no no no i i never say
00:05:30.580 i never say just drop the career you shouldn't you don't think good wives would want to 1.00
00:05:35.260 like good wives if they could take 17 18 years off to raise the kids what's so good about i mean 1.00
00:05:40.560 a lot of jobs are pretty crap anyway to be honest i mean what's so good about like we're the only
00:05:45.700 species on the planet that work and pay to live on the earth if you're going to raise something that's
00:05:53.820 so natural you should be willing to drop some of that materialistic aspect i don't think if you have
00:05:59.300 the support surrounding it but i think it works both for a man and a woman i don't think you should
00:06:03.540 if if you're a single dad you should and you have the financial support there you should definitely
00:06:09.240 want to spend more time with your child and maybe put your career as a second second best yeah i mean
00:06:15.460 surely what is the ultimate purpose that we're on this planet it's it's it's other people isn't it
00:06:19.920 it's children it's family it's all of those things right i mean so so why is any of us why is any of
00:06:26.520 us men or women why are we saying oh just going to work in a cubicle is more important than that
00:06:30.720 you know i have another statement okay good wives don't leave no matter what 1.00
00:06:37.740 i'll give you please don't say abuse please i will give you no i will give you abuse but good you
00:06:46.480 know what good wives believe in separations they don't believe in divorce 1.00
00:06:52.580 what what do you mean when you say separation you mean they would do you mean legally separated
00:06:59.600 basically living in the same house but not being married that's boy like connect emotionally i had
00:07:06.040 that growing up i had that growing up with my parents and i and i that's normal to me actually
00:07:10.620 no i have to say that's more painful it was definitely the minute they got divorced for me it was
00:07:16.400 as a child it was so much no she's saying not you don't legally get divorced but i i'm saying i
00:07:23.580 think but you live separate into different houses so that's basically the same no sometimes you live
00:07:27.800 in the house yeah that's how we were we lived in the house that's what happened to me
00:07:32.960 so tell me your thoughts do good wives leave yes or no and good wives only believe in separation 1.00
00:07:39.340 they don't believe in divorce you can go it's all right you can disagree it's what do you what do
00:07:43.900 you think tell me why you're um i mean if you want to leave leave honestly it doesn't make you a bad
00:07:51.660 person i just just leave like if i don't know it can be really it or this or you're just not feeling
00:07:58.540 anymore like both of you it's a mutual thing or okay just leave i don't believe in that separation so a
00:08:03.580 good wife can leave yeah okay go ahead uh yeah i do agree with you um only because based of my
00:08:13.100 personal experience and watching my parents be like that i always grew up wanting them to actually get
00:08:19.020 a divorce because it was so damaging to us as children so i feel like life is way too short to
00:08:27.660 stay in a marriage with someone that you are not happy with and to continue living a miserable
00:08:33.420 life yeah why why put yourself through that why put your kids through that as well if kids are
00:08:38.380 involved as well so i do think you can still be a good wife but you can also leave maybe do it for 1.00
00:08:44.060 the kids yeah like well because kids have better outcomes i'm saying stay together for the kids
00:08:48.700 oh i don't like no that's even worse no yeah but see i as i was the kid and i always wanted my parents
00:08:54.860 to get a divorce i would even tell them but why don't you guys get a divorce because it was so painful
00:08:59.580 seeing them be the way they were with each other living that separated life in the same house but
00:09:05.340 how do you how do you know it would have been a better outcome for you you seem to have turned out
00:09:08.940 okay right thank you um your outward appearance doesn't necessarily indicate what's going on inside
00:09:16.220 though yeah exactly what i'm saying i don't know um every statistic statistic will tell you it's better
00:09:24.220 to have two parents in the same house than it is yeah but one i know i know but then that kid also
00:09:31.100 has to deal with that trauma for example i have trauma now growing up you may you may see me like
00:09:35.260 this but like you don't know how i am inside like i have childhood trauma now because of my parents
00:09:41.020 marriage and witnessing what went on in that house because they did not uh get a divorce did they get
00:09:48.380 did they not get along they would fight a lot yeah absolutely they did not get along and really and
00:09:53.580 truly they should have got divorced but because of the kids they stayed and because my mom believed
00:09:59.580 in this whole i need to be a good wife and i can't leave him now that he's old and throw him out
00:10:04.780 she stayed but i wish she would have got divorced because that was really painful as a child growing up
00:10:11.740 to see those things what if one of them had moved out though and you hadn't seen them as much would that
00:10:15.420 have been painful as well do you think i think either way it would that either way it would have been but
00:10:20.460 i actually would have preferred that if they had got different house yeah i would have liked my dad
00:10:25.740 my dad's not alive anymore um but i would have liked it if he moved out and we saw him on weekends or
00:10:32.940 something because i feel like it would have been a healthier environment for us kids i think it causes
00:10:38.300 a divide and a toxic household as well yeah it was an extremely toxic household it was and it was really
00:10:44.620 hard growing up dealing with that actually um and it's also given me trauma now that you know i'm in
00:10:50.460 a relationship and i'm planning to get married and i worry that i'm gonna have the same life my mum and
00:10:56.940 dad had which is a horrible feeling but that is what kids who go through those things end up feeling when
00:11:03.500 they get to my age do you think that's me do you look at kind of marriage as a more kind of
00:11:10.060 solid thing now though you look at it and you go i have to want this so badly yeah before i get
00:11:17.020 it's like i want to break the generational curse now because because it's a lot of women in my family 1.00
00:11:23.660 unfortunately left their husbands um that's that's that at least that's a positive outlook that you've
00:11:28.460 got on it you can look at it and be like yeah i want to be successful that's yeah that's strong and can
00:11:33.900 hold together even through hardship you can be like well i don't want what happened before yeah
00:11:39.420 at least it's something you can kind of yeah as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock
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