JustPearlyThings - June 07, 2023


These Women EXPOSED Themselves


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

194.70583

Word Count

1,883

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

11

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 yeah okay now another question do good wives give up their careers for their
00:00:04.080 children I think yes yes yeah who's yes yes she doesn't like it I'm talking a
00:00:14.460 plot remember this is I'm not saying everyone's got to be an a student and
00:00:17.460 everything no no I don't give up your Chris no good good wives should go to
00:00:23.280 work instead of spend time with their kids no for a certain amount of time
00:00:26.880 yeah you know I get it you know saying hey with your kid but definitely going
00:00:31.680 back I mean so I'm talking about when push comes to shove your kids need you
00:00:35.400 yeah so if you're gonna have children they should always come first regardless
00:00:40.080 whether you're a man or woman I totally I mean yeah yeah okay this is this is the
00:00:45.660 problem with society at the minute this is the problem with society now no but it
00:00:49.680 is that they have children and they focus on career if you want to have a child
00:00:55.620 you're gonna have to sacrifice whether you're a man or woman you have to sacrifice
00:00:59.820 because so many children so many children are emotionally neglected because they're
00:01:05.280 passed off to to nannies or they're passed off to au pairs yeah and if you're
00:01:10.800 willing to have a child you need to have a financial support to be able to go I'm
00:01:14.760 gonna take a step back not gonna quit work you don't have to quit it just take a
00:01:19.140 step back to be able to go this child needs me emotionally for the next 17 years of
00:01:24.420 its life okay 17 you know I mean rich
00:01:28.620 the gestation period of humans is much longer good good wives are happy to give
00:01:34.980 up their careers to spend more time with their children yes okay yeah okay yes
00:01:40.260 you agree yes yeah okay why aren't you I wouldn't like why wouldn't you be to give
00:01:45.840 up your like I'm just curious like why why wouldn't you want to give up your
00:01:48.600 career for a kid I mean I of course I would like in the beginning that growing up I
00:01:53.340 have to be there but I don't believe in like completely cutting off your career
00:01:58.800 just because of your kid of course you love your child that is you know that's
00:02:03.360 you you gave birth that child hands on that but completely neglecting your
00:02:08.220 career something that you've like works for maybe you've gone to university you
00:02:13.440 know you've you're driven in this you love it and you've given it up I just
00:02:17.040 don't believe in that why because why would you do because your family is more
00:02:22.440 important yeah and you wanted this family right yeah most the time you can
00:02:27.900 come back to it though yeah but not for 17 years I'm not gonna take no no no no I
00:02:31.920 never say I never say just drop okay you don't think good wives would want to
00:02:37.320 like good wives if they could take 17 18 years off to raise the kids what's so
00:02:42.060 good about I mean a lot of jobs are pretty anyway to be honest I mean we're
00:02:47.220 the only species on the planet that work and paid to live on the earth if you're
00:02:54.780 gonna raise something that's so natural you should be willing to drop some of
00:02:58.680 that materialistic I think if you have the support surrounding it but I think it
00:03:03.540 works both for a man and a woman I don't think you should if if you're a
00:03:07.020 single dad you should and you have the financial support there you should
00:03:11.100 definitely want to spend more time with your child and maybe put your career as
00:03:15.060 a second second best yeah I mean surely what is the ultimate purpose that we're
00:03:19.860 on this planet it's it's other people isn't it it's children it's family it's
00:03:24.180 all of those things right I mean so why is any of us men or women why are we
00:03:29.820 saying oh just going to work in a cubicle is more important than that you know I
00:03:34.380 have another statement okay good wives don't leave no matter what I'll give you
00:03:43.980 please don't say abuse please I will give you no I will give you abuse but good
00:03:48.420 you know what good wives believe in separations they don't believe in
00:03:54.240 divorce what do you mean when you say separation you mean they would do you
00:04:00.480 mean legally basically living in the same house but not being married that's
00:04:04.800 boy like connect emotionally I had that growing up I had that growing up with my
00:04:10.200 parents and I and I that's normal to me actually no I have to say that's more
00:04:13.860 painful it was definitely the minute they got divorced for me it was as a child it
00:04:20.280 was so no she's saying not you don't need legally yeah but I I'm saying I can
00:04:25.860 but you leave separate into different houses no sometimes you live in the house
00:04:30.420 yeah that's how we were we lived in the house that's what happened to me so tell
00:04:37.600 me your thoughts do good wives leave yes or no and good lives only believe in
00:04:41.040 separation they don't believe in divorce you can go it's all right you can
00:04:44.760 disagree that's what do you what do you think tell me why here um I mean
00:04:50.160 if you want to leave leave honestly it doesn't make you a bad person I just
00:04:55.080 just leave like if I don't know it can be really it or this or you're just not
00:05:00.360 feeling anymore like both of you it's a mutual thing or okay just leave I
00:05:04.200 don't believe in that separation so a good wife can leave yeah okay go ahead
00:05:09.300 uh yeah I do agree with you um only because based of my personal experience and
00:05:16.220 watching my parents be like that I always grew up wanting them to actually
00:05:20.880 get a divorce because it was so damaging to us as children so I feel like life is
00:05:28.320 way too short to stay in a marriage with someone that you are not happy with and to
00:05:34.400 continue living a miserable life yeah why why put yourself through that why put
00:05:39.080 your kids through that as well if kids are involved as well so I do think you can
00:05:42.980 still be a good wife but you can also leave maybe do it for the kids yeah like
00:05:48.040 well because kids have better outcomes I'm saying stay together for the kids oh I don't
00:05:51.260 like no that's even worse no yeah but see I as I was the kid and I always wanted my
00:05:56.740 parents to get a divorce I would even tell them but why don't you guys get a
00:05:59.960 divorce because it was so painful seeing them be the way they were with each other
00:06:04.360 living that separated life in the same house but how do you how do you know it
00:06:08.580 would have been a better outcome for you you seem to have turned out okay right
00:06:12.480 thank you so your outward appearance doesn't necessarily indicate what's going
00:06:17.680 on on the inside though yeah exactly what I'm saying I mean you're like I don't know
00:06:21.280 um every statistic statistic will tell you it's better to have two parents in the
00:06:27.440 same house than it is yeah but one parent I know but then that kid also has to deal
00:06:33.860 with that trauma for example I have trauma now growing up you may you may see me like
00:06:37.440 this but like you don't know how I am inside like I have childhood trauma now
00:06:41.200 because of my parents marriage and witnessing what went on in that house
00:06:46.220 because they did not uh get a divorce did they get did they not get along they
00:06:51.820 would fight a lot yeah absolutely they did not get along and really and truly they
00:06:56.260 should have got divorced but because of the kids they stayed and because my mom
00:07:01.180 believed in this whole I need to be a good wife and I can't leave him now that he's old
00:07:05.620 and throw him out she stayed but I wish she would have got divorced because that was
00:07:11.380 really painful as a child growing up to see those things what if one of them had moved
00:07:16.100 out though and you hadn't seen them as much would that have been painful as well do you
00:07:18.980 think I think either way it would that either way it would have been but I actually would
00:07:23.360 have preferred that if they had got different house yeah I would have liked my dad my dad's
00:07:28.420 not alive anymore um but I would have liked it if he moved out and we saw him on weekends
00:07:34.960 or something because I feel like it would have been a healthier environment for us kids I think
00:07:39.600 it causes a divide and a toxic household as well yeah it was an extremely toxic household it was and
00:07:46.240 it was really hard growing up dealing with that actually um and it's also given me trauma now that
00:07:51.520 you know I'm in a relationship and I'm planning to get married and I worry that I'm gonna have the
00:07:57.280 same life my mum and dad had which is a horrible feeling but that is what kids who go through those
00:08:04.020 things end up feeling when they get to my age do you think that's me do you look at kind of marriage
00:08:10.380 as a more kind of solid thing now though you look at it and you go I have to want this so badly
00:08:18.220 yeah before I get it's like I want to break the generational curse now because because it's a lot
00:08:24.640 of women in my family unfortunately left their husbands um that's that's that at least that's a
00:08:29.740 positive outlook that you've got on it you can look at it and be like yeah I want to be successful
00:08:33.960 that's yeah that's strong and can hold together even through hardship you can be like yeah I don't
00:08:39.480 want what happened before yeah at least it's something you can kind of yeah grow on and develop
00:08:44.800 have you ever seen a healthy relationship no I don't have a representation of a healthy relationship
00:08:50.060 no so how how would you learn how to be a wife um I'm doing a lot of inner work like I'm really
00:08:57.520 searching inwards I you know I've looked into therapy I I've tried to work on myself I tried to
00:09:04.520 work work on my traumas I really want to break that generational curse um so I have healthy open
00:09:12.680 com you know conversations with my mum about these things in the past and her marriage with my dad we
00:09:17.560 talk about these things on a daily basis um so I feel like I I have I have the right mindset now
00:09:24.580 because I know what I don't want and I don't want that unhealthy toxic environment that unfortunately
00:09:30.080 I grew up in as a child I don't want my kids to go through that so I feel like all the things that
00:09:37.160 my mum and dad went through I don't want to be reenacting those in