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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the difference between good wives and good husbands, why good wives are better husbands and why good husbands are better fathers. Do good wives give up their careers to spend more time with their kids? Is it possible to be a good wife if you don t have a kid? Should you give up your career to care for your kids? How much time should a wife spend with their children? Should a wife give up her career if she doesn t want to have a child? Are good wives willing to sacrifice their career to raise their kids if it means spending more time and emotional support on them?
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yeah okay now another question do good wives give up their careers for their
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children I think yes yes yeah who's yes yes she doesn't like it I'm talking a
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plot remember this is I'm not saying everyone's got to be an a student and
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everything no no I don't give up your Chris no good good wives should go to
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work instead of spend time with their kids no for a certain amount of time
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yeah you know I get it you know saying hey with your kid but definitely going
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back I mean so I'm talking about when push comes to shove your kids need you
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yeah so if you're gonna have children they should always come first regardless
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whether you're a man or woman I totally I mean yeah yeah okay this is this is the
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problem with society at the minute this is the problem with society now no but it
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is that they have children and they focus on career if you want to have a child
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you're gonna have to sacrifice whether you're a man or woman you have to sacrifice
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because so many children so many children are emotionally neglected because they're
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passed off to to nannies or they're passed off to au pairs yeah and if you're
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willing to have a child you need to have a financial support to be able to go I'm
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gonna take a step back not gonna quit work you don't have to quit it just take a
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step back to be able to go this child needs me emotionally for the next 17 years of
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the gestation period of humans is much longer good good wives are happy to give
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up their careers to spend more time with their children yes okay yeah okay yes
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you agree yes yeah okay why aren't you I wouldn't like why wouldn't you be to give
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up your like I'm just curious like why why wouldn't you want to give up your
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career for a kid I mean I of course I would like in the beginning that growing up I
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have to be there but I don't believe in like completely cutting off your career
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just because of your kid of course you love your child that is you know that's
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you you gave birth that child hands on that but completely neglecting your
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career something that you've like works for maybe you've gone to university you
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know you've you're driven in this you love it and you've given it up I just
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don't believe in that why because why would you do because your family is more
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important yeah and you wanted this family right yeah most the time you can
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come back to it though yeah but not for 17 years I'm not gonna take no no no no I
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never say I never say just drop okay you don't think good wives would want to
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like good wives if they could take 17 18 years off to raise the kids what's so
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good about I mean a lot of jobs are pretty anyway to be honest I mean we're
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the only species on the planet that work and paid to live on the earth if you're
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gonna raise something that's so natural you should be willing to drop some of
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that materialistic I think if you have the support surrounding it but I think it
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works both for a man and a woman I don't think you should if if you're a
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single dad you should and you have the financial support there you should
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definitely want to spend more time with your child and maybe put your career as
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a second second best yeah I mean surely what is the ultimate purpose that we're
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on this planet it's it's other people isn't it it's children it's family it's
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all of those things right I mean so why is any of us men or women why are we
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saying oh just going to work in a cubicle is more important than that you know I
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have another statement okay good wives don't leave no matter what I'll give you
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please don't say abuse please I will give you no I will give you abuse but good
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you know what good wives believe in separations they don't believe in
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divorce what do you mean when you say separation you mean they would do you
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mean legally basically living in the same house but not being married that's
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boy like connect emotionally I had that growing up I had that growing up with my
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parents and I and I that's normal to me actually no I have to say that's more
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painful it was definitely the minute they got divorced for me it was as a child it
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was so no she's saying not you don't need legally yeah but I I'm saying I can
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but you leave separate into different houses no sometimes you live in the house
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yeah that's how we were we lived in the house that's what happened to me so tell
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me your thoughts do good wives leave yes or no and good lives only believe in
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separation they don't believe in divorce you can go it's all right you can
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disagree that's what do you what do you think tell me why here um I mean
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if you want to leave leave honestly it doesn't make you a bad person I just
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just leave like if I don't know it can be really it or this or you're just not
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feeling anymore like both of you it's a mutual thing or okay just leave I
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don't believe in that separation so a good wife can leave yeah okay go ahead
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uh yeah I do agree with you um only because based of my personal experience and
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watching my parents be like that I always grew up wanting them to actually
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get a divorce because it was so damaging to us as children so I feel like life is
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way too short to stay in a marriage with someone that you are not happy with and to
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continue living a miserable life yeah why why put yourself through that why put
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your kids through that as well if kids are involved as well so I do think you can
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still be a good wife but you can also leave maybe do it for the kids yeah like
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well because kids have better outcomes I'm saying stay together for the kids oh I don't
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like no that's even worse no yeah but see I as I was the kid and I always wanted my
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parents to get a divorce I would even tell them but why don't you guys get a
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divorce because it was so painful seeing them be the way they were with each other
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living that separated life in the same house but how do you how do you know it
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would have been a better outcome for you you seem to have turned out okay right
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thank you so your outward appearance doesn't necessarily indicate what's going
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on on the inside though yeah exactly what I'm saying I mean you're like I don't know
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um every statistic statistic will tell you it's better to have two parents in the
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same house than it is yeah but one parent I know but then that kid also has to deal
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with that trauma for example I have trauma now growing up you may you may see me like
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this but like you don't know how I am inside like I have childhood trauma now
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because of my parents marriage and witnessing what went on in that house
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because they did not uh get a divorce did they get did they not get along they
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would fight a lot yeah absolutely they did not get along and really and truly they
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should have got divorced but because of the kids they stayed and because my mom
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believed in this whole I need to be a good wife and I can't leave him now that he's old
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and throw him out she stayed but I wish she would have got divorced because that was
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really painful as a child growing up to see those things what if one of them had moved
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out though and you hadn't seen them as much would that have been painful as well do you
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think I think either way it would that either way it would have been but I actually would
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have preferred that if they had got different house yeah I would have liked my dad my dad's
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not alive anymore um but I would have liked it if he moved out and we saw him on weekends
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or something because I feel like it would have been a healthier environment for us kids I think
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it causes a divide and a toxic household as well yeah it was an extremely toxic household it was and
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it was really hard growing up dealing with that actually um and it's also given me trauma now that
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you know I'm in a relationship and I'm planning to get married and I worry that I'm gonna have the
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same life my mum and dad had which is a horrible feeling but that is what kids who go through those
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things end up feeling when they get to my age do you think that's me do you look at kind of marriage
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as a more kind of solid thing now though you look at it and you go I have to want this so badly
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yeah before I get it's like I want to break the generational curse now because because it's a lot
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of women in my family unfortunately left their husbands um that's that's that at least that's a
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positive outlook that you've got on it you can look at it and be like yeah I want to be successful
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that's yeah that's strong and can hold together even through hardship you can be like yeah I don't
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want what happened before yeah at least it's something you can kind of yeah grow on and develop
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have you ever seen a healthy relationship no I don't have a representation of a healthy relationship
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no so how how would you learn how to be a wife um I'm doing a lot of inner work like I'm really
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searching inwards I you know I've looked into therapy I I've tried to work on myself I tried to
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work work on my traumas I really want to break that generational curse um so I have healthy open
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com you know conversations with my mum about these things in the past and her marriage with my dad we
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talk about these things on a daily basis um so I feel like I I have I have the right mindset now
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because I know what I don't want and I don't want that unhealthy toxic environment that unfortunately
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I grew up in as a child I don't want my kids to go through that so I feel like all the things that
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my mum and dad went through I don't want to be reenacting those in