JustPearlyThings - These Women EXPOSED Themselves

In this episode, we talk about the difference between good wives and good husbands, why good wives are better husbands and why good husbands are better fathers. Do good wives give up their careers to spend more time with their kids? Is it possible to be a good wife if you don t have a kid? Should you give up your career to care for your kids? How much time should a wife spend with their children? Should a wife give up her career if she doesn t want to have a child? Are good wives willing to sacrifice their career to raise their kids if it means spending more time and emotional support on them?

00:00:00.000 yeah okay now another question do good wives give up their careers for their 1.00

00:00:04.080 children I think yes yes yeah who's yes yes she doesn't like it I'm talking a

00:00:14.460 plot remember this is I'm not saying everyone's got to be an a student and

00:00:17.460 everything no no I don't give up your Chris no good good wives should go to 1.00

00:00:23.280 work instead of spend time with their kids no for a certain amount of time

00:00:26.880 yeah you know I get it you know saying hey with your kid but definitely going

00:00:31.680 back I mean so I'm talking about when push comes to shove your kids need you

00:00:35.400 yeah so if you're gonna have children they should always come first regardless

00:00:40.080 whether you're a man or woman I totally I mean yeah yeah okay this is this is the

00:00:45.660 problem with society at the minute this is the problem with society now no but it

00:00:49.680 is that they have children and they focus on career if you want to have a child

00:00:55.620 you're gonna have to sacrifice whether you're a man or woman you have to sacrifice

00:00:59.820 because so many children so many children are emotionally neglected because they're

00:01:05.280 passed off to to nannies or they're passed off to au pairs yeah and if you're

00:01:10.800 willing to have a child you need to have a financial support to be able to go I'm

00:01:14.760 gonna take a step back not gonna quit work you don't have to quit it just take a

00:01:19.140 step back to be able to go this child needs me emotionally for the next 17 years of

00:01:24.420 its life okay 17 you know I mean rich

00:01:28.620 the gestation period of humans is much longer good good wives are happy to give

00:01:34.980 up their careers to spend more time with their children yes okay yeah okay yes

00:01:40.260 you agree yes yeah okay why aren't you I wouldn't like why wouldn't you be to give

00:01:45.840 up your like I'm just curious like why why wouldn't you want to give up your

00:01:48.600 career for a kid I mean I of course I would like in the beginning that growing up I

00:01:53.340 have to be there but I don't believe in like completely cutting off your career

00:01:58.800 just because of your kid of course you love your child that is you know that's

00:02:03.360 you you gave birth that child hands on that but completely neglecting your

00:02:08.220 career something that you've like works for maybe you've gone to university you

00:02:13.440 know you've you're driven in this you love it and you've given it up I just

00:02:17.040 don't believe in that why because why would you do because your family is more

00:02:22.440 important yeah and you wanted this family right yeah most the time you can

00:02:27.900 come back to it though yeah but not for 17 years I'm not gonna take no no no no I

00:02:31.920 never say I never say just drop okay you don't think good wives would want to 1.00

00:02:37.320 like good wives if they could take 17 18 years off to raise the kids what's so 1.00

00:02:42.060 good about I mean a lot of jobs are pretty anyway to be honest I mean we're

00:02:47.220 the only species on the planet that work and paid to live on the earth if you're

00:02:54.780 gonna raise something that's so natural you should be willing to drop some of

00:02:58.680 that materialistic I think if you have the support surrounding it but I think it

00:03:03.540 works both for a man and a woman I don't think you should if if you're a 1.00

00:03:07.020 single dad you should and you have the financial support there you should

00:03:11.100 definitely want to spend more time with your child and maybe put your career as

00:03:15.060 a second second best yeah I mean surely what is the ultimate purpose that we're

00:03:19.860 on this planet it's it's other people isn't it it's children it's family it's

00:03:24.180 all of those things right I mean so why is any of us men or women why are we

00:03:29.820 saying oh just going to work in a cubicle is more important than that you know I

00:03:34.380 have another statement okay good wives don't leave no matter what I'll give you 1.00

00:03:43.980 please don't say abuse please I will give you no I will give you abuse but good

00:03:48.420 you know what good wives believe in separations they don't believe in 1.00

00:03:54.240 divorce what do you mean when you say separation you mean they would do you

00:04:00.480 mean legally basically living in the same house but not being married that's

00:04:04.800 boy like connect emotionally I had that growing up I had that growing up with my

00:04:10.200 parents and I and I that's normal to me actually no I have to say that's more

00:04:13.860 painful it was definitely the minute they got divorced for me it was as a child it

00:04:20.280 was so no she's saying not you don't need legally yeah but I I'm saying I can

00:04:25.860 but you leave separate into different houses no sometimes you live in the house

00:04:30.420 yeah that's how we were we lived in the house that's what happened to me so tell

00:04:37.600 me your thoughts do good wives leave yes or no and good lives only believe in

00:04:41.040 separation they don't believe in divorce you can go it's all right you can

00:04:44.760 disagree that's what do you what do you think tell me why here um I mean

00:04:50.160 if you want to leave leave honestly it doesn't make you a bad person I just

00:04:55.080 just leave like if I don't know it can be really it or this or you're just not

00:05:00.360 feeling anymore like both of you it's a mutual thing or okay just leave I

00:05:04.200 don't believe in that separation so a good wife can leave yeah okay go ahead 1.00

00:05:09.300 uh yeah I do agree with you um only because based of my personal experience and

00:05:16.220 watching my parents be like that I always grew up wanting them to actually

00:05:20.880 get a divorce because it was so damaging to us as children so I feel like life is

00:05:28.320 way too short to stay in a marriage with someone that you are not happy with and to

00:05:34.400 continue living a miserable life yeah why why put yourself through that why put

00:05:39.080 your kids through that as well if kids are involved as well so I do think you can

00:05:42.980 still be a good wife but you can also leave maybe do it for the kids yeah like 1.00

00:05:48.040 well because kids have better outcomes I'm saying stay together for the kids oh I don't

00:05:51.260 like no that's even worse no yeah but see I as I was the kid and I always wanted my

00:05:56.740 parents to get a divorce I would even tell them but why don't you guys get a 0.76

00:05:59.960 divorce because it was so painful seeing them be the way they were with each other

00:06:04.360 living that separated life in the same house but how do you how do you know it

00:06:08.580 would have been a better outcome for you you seem to have turned out okay right

00:06:12.480 thank you so your outward appearance doesn't necessarily indicate what's going

00:06:17.680 on on the inside though yeah exactly what I'm saying I mean you're like I don't know

00:06:21.280 um every statistic statistic will tell you it's better to have two parents in the

00:06:27.440 same house than it is yeah but one parent I know but then that kid also has to deal

00:06:33.860 with that trauma for example I have trauma now growing up you may you may see me like

00:06:37.440 this but like you don't know how I am inside like I have childhood trauma now

00:06:41.200 because of my parents marriage and witnessing what went on in that house

00:06:46.220 because they did not uh get a divorce did they get did they not get along they

00:06:51.820 would fight a lot yeah absolutely they did not get along and really and truly they

00:06:56.260 should have got divorced but because of the kids they stayed and because my mom 0.99

00:07:01.180 believed in this whole I need to be a good wife and I can't leave him now that he's old

00:07:05.620 and throw him out she stayed but I wish she would have got divorced because that was 1.00

00:07:11.380 really painful as a child growing up to see those things what if one of them had moved

00:07:16.100 out though and you hadn't seen them as much would that have been painful as well do you

00:07:18.980 think I think either way it would that either way it would have been but I actually would

00:07:23.360 have preferred that if they had got different house yeah I would have liked my dad my dad's

00:07:28.420 not alive anymore um but I would have liked it if he moved out and we saw him on weekends

00:07:34.960 or something because I feel like it would have been a healthier environment for us kids I think

00:07:39.600 it causes a divide and a toxic household as well yeah it was an extremely toxic household it was and

00:07:46.240 it was really hard growing up dealing with that actually um and it's also given me trauma now that

00:07:51.520 you know I'm in a relationship and I'm planning to get married and I worry that I'm gonna have the

00:07:57.280 same life my mum and dad had which is a horrible feeling but that is what kids who go through those

00:08:04.020 things end up feeling when they get to my age do you think that's me do you look at kind of marriage

00:08:10.380 as a more kind of solid thing now though you look at it and you go I have to want this so badly

00:08:18.220 yeah before I get it's like I want to break the generational curse now because because it's a lot

00:08:24.640 of women in my family unfortunately left their husbands um that's that's that at least that's a

00:08:29.740 positive outlook that you've got on it you can look at it and be like yeah I want to be successful

00:08:33.960 that's yeah that's strong and can hold together even through hardship you can be like yeah I don't

00:08:39.480 want what happened before yeah at least it's something you can kind of yeah grow on and develop

00:08:44.800 have you ever seen a healthy relationship no I don't have a representation of a healthy relationship

00:08:50.060 no so how how would you learn how to be a wife um I'm doing a lot of inner work like I'm really

00:08:57.520 searching inwards I you know I've looked into therapy I I've tried to work on myself I tried to

00:09:04.520 work work on my traumas I really want to break that generational curse um so I have healthy open 0.99

00:09:12.680 com you know conversations with my mum about these things in the past and her marriage with my dad we

00:09:17.560 talk about these things on a daily basis um so I feel like I I have I have the right mindset now

00:09:24.580 because I know what I don't want and I don't want that unhealthy toxic environment that unfortunately

00:09:30.080 I grew up in as a child I don't want my kids to go through that so I feel like all the things that

00:09:37.160 my mum and dad went through I don't want to be reenacting those in

JustPearlyThings - June 07, 2023

These Women EXPOSED Themselves

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