These Women Refused To Take Accountability
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss why women struggle to get in relationships, how to get into relationships, and what to do if you can t get in a relationship. We also discuss why men struggle to have sex with other women.
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Yeah, but the thing is like, but women, but women, women, some women seek, some women seek partners and some women seek companionship. And I feel like it's more so in the hands of the man to an extent. So you can't solely put it on women. That's the thing.
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So like if a guy that I was interested in, that was the kind of guy that I would go for, wanted to take things further with me, everything would be progressive and moved by him. It's not by the woman. And if a guy's not doing that, then how is the woman the blame?
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Because wouldn't you say that she's not like a high enough quality? Like if a man doesn't get laid, we put it on the men, right? So we'll say, we'll say the men, it's your fault. You're not getting laid. You should go make more money, go to the gym, do this, do this. But for women, it's like, if we're not getting into relationships, isn't that our own fault that we should be better?
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I don't feel like we definitely, if you want to get married, you want to communicate with a guy and tell them. That's what my future entails. I want to get married.
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Not tell him. I'm saying like, bring more to the table.
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I'm not talking about you. I don't know what you do.
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I feel like it's important for a woman to let a man know when you start that relationship, this is what I want in a man.
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Because when I go and get into a relationship, I let them know, I want to have kids, but I want to be married first.
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My question was, if you're a girl and you can't get in relationships, isn't that your own fault?
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Like, if a man can't get laid, isn't that his fault?
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Like, he should go to the gym, he should make more money.
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Like, no guy that's a billionaire isn't getting laid, right?
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Yeah, but there's other things that attract people to him.
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Wouldn't you say, so you don't think it's his own fault if he doesn't get laid?
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Not a billionaire. I'm saying, like, if a man doesn't get laid, we tell that man to improve, right?
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We say, go to the gym. Like, you're a dating coach, right? That's what you would say.
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Go to the gym, learn to talk to girls, etc., etc.
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So if a woman's not getting in relationships, that's the equivalent, right?
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Because men try to get sex, women try to get relationships.
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So if we can't get relationships, isn't that on the woman because she's not bringing enough to the table
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that makes men want to get in relationships with her?
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I get what you're saying, but I don't think it's on the woman.
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Oh, you said, no, okay, well, I'm going to walk off and...
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Okay, there's a girl I went to college with, right?
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And this girl was just raised super traditional.
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Like, she was one of the most traditional women I've ever met.
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She just had that personality that men, like, loved.
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Like, she was very good about, like, catering to guys.
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You know those people that just make you feel very, like, warm and comforting and, like, at home.
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And, like, she never had a problem getting in relationships.
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Like, any guy she slept with would date her because she was just so feminine.
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And so, it's like, if you're a woman and you sleep with a guy and he doesn't want to be with you,
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I think maybe you're just not bringing your attentions, of course.
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That's why they just sleep with you and just...
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No, I'm telling you, for her, it didn't even really matter.
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And I'm not saying, like, you should just sleep with any, you know.
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But for her, like, she just was so feminine that, like, every guy...
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She was just the girl at our college that every guy wanted to date.
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But it was just she was so feminine and cool to be, like...
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So, which means that beauty is not that important, then, after all.
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So, they want a girl that's, like, over, like, a six.
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Like, guys will go down and looks for femininity.
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And what you said, that's just sort of emphasised what I was trying to articulate earlier,
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And I suppose another word for pleasant is feminine, really.
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You know, you've got to feel that nice energy when you're with her.
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There's this idea that for somebody that you're thinking of marrying looks, even for a guy,
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I'm not saying I agree with this, but that you should almost, you know, drop down the
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scale of looks for the woman you're going to marry, because you don't want to be married
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to some sort of super high-maintenance kind of nine who's, like, super bitchy, and she's
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going to go and fuck the poor boy, you know, in six years' time or whatever.
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I think femininity and pleasantness is such an important thing.
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Have you guys ever tried self-improvement as a woman?
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I'm still, you know, every day there is something to face and something to improve.
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I think we never are, like, I don't believe there is anyone that is completely, you know,
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It took me a while to realize that because I've been coming from a background that I wanted
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always to be perfect, you know, not showing my, you know, fragilities, insecurities.
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But then, as I grew older, I understood that, you know, actually, that's just, you know,
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And we need just to work out what is wrong with us and trying to transform that in, you know.
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Did you go to therapy, like, after a bad relationship or?
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Also, but also, like, you know, it was a very particular time when I was actually, I just
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So, it was quite difficult for me, that transition.
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So, it's like, it was like, you know, mix of things that made me, you know, make that
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And then I, you know, I try every day to listen, trying to be a better listener.
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And I've been learning during the years that actually I need to just shut my mouth and also
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listen to other people when they talk and trying to, yeah, really listen because it's
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I'm still, you know, trying to improve the aspect, which that doesn't mean that I don't
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When I'm very passionate about something, I just, you know, through my ideas.
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Well, just like having this type of dialogue, conversations when I don't cut people when
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But I do eventually want to go back because I think it is very important.
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It's just because, you know, we've all, I think everyone's been through something in
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And I do think it plays a role in how you are in relationships.
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Therapy and then any other self-improvement stuff?
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So, I took time out because I feel like you don't really get, I'm very, I'm not much of
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So, I'll always sit on the phone to someone and give my energy all the time.
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And I felt like gym was my space of having my energy, getting myself back.
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And it was even, like, even now I go for a walk at lunchtime just to take time out for
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myself, eat healthy, just spend time being happy with myself.
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I realized that there was times where I wasn't by myself and that wasn't normal.
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So, I needed to work on myself to learn to love myself.
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And I go to the temple now once a week and just pray.
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I actually like to walk in the park and see the trees and see little squirrels run around
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and say hi to the old people because they're really nice.
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Honestly, I feel like music is my therapy because any time I'm sad, I sing a sad song to myself.
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And the majority of the time I freestyle it, forget the words, and then I can't write it
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But, you know, and when I'm happy, and I feel like music does help me a lot.
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Well, I have accountability partners, which they're my sisters, but, like, they give me
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And my mom as well, like, literally, she'll tell me the truth all the time.
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So, yeah, I think the things that I worked on was my patience.
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I think I still am, but, like, I'm definitely improving.
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Have you ever noticed, like, because I'm not the most patient person in the world, but
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I found that, like, my impatience is what makes me good at things because I'm so impatient.
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Like, I don't want to be bad at something, so I'll get, like, good at it really fast.
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But it's also, like, not good when it comes to relationships.
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So, yeah, I think that my impatience is something that I definitely have worked on and I've improved.
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And I feel like in relationships, I could just find myself, you know, I don't want to say
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tolerating because that's obviously a negative word to use, but, like, not just lashing out
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I feel like when people don't think fast on their feet.
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But it's like, it's kind of good for you, though, when you walk slow, like, enjoy life a little
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And I'm seeing the beauty of taking time to do things, like you said, walking as well
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