They All Had This To Say About CHEATING
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Summary
Cheating in a relationship can be a tricky subject, especially when it comes from someone you care deeply for. In this episode, we discuss cheating and how to deal with it in a healthy way. Cheating is a deal breaker in many relationships and we discuss how to work through it.
Transcript
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Would you guys accept, would you guys try to work through cheating?
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I think I'd be all right with cheating, honestly.
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If you could do it in front of me, that'd be fine.
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If you asked me this about five years ago, I would have said, nah.
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Now I would be, I'd have to think about something.
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I'd think about it if it was like, yeah, if it was the first time I'd have to think about that.
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I can't like, just, it depends as well of how long we're in the relationship for, what we've got going on.
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If it's something early, then I don't think he's taking me serious, really.
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I wasn't thinking, I was thinking, oh, I'm the only one that you have to, yep, it's all about.
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Not saying, you know, there's so much about, there's so much around it.
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There is so much around it and I can't just sit here and rant on about it forever.
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But I do know that back then I would have been like, no.
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But I think it's because I experienced it when I was younger and it put me in a very dark place.
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If you cheat on me, I swear, I'm never going to deal with it.
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Like being on their phone all the time, trying to figure out what they're doing?
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Like, I just find that like, if you're worried about cheating all the time, it's stressful.
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I feel like going into a relationship without thinking about cheating is a bit more of a healthier.
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If you're there thinking about it, then you shouldn't be in a relationship.
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Yeah, I've already said, yeah, from earlier, I don't feel like that's a deal breaker within marriage.
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I feel like it's something that you can work out as a couple.
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But I feel like it's different for a woman to have sex.
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Cheat in a marriage than it is for a man to cheat in a marriage.
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I know it's going to sound so bad, but it is very different.
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Yeah, I think it's something that you can work through.
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Do you feel like, were you able to let it go or did you still bring it up?
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Um, I feel like if a guy's making you feel like inferior to that other woman or makes
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you feel like, like no self-worth and stuff, then that's really wrong.
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But then, like, if he does it in a way where he kind of just keeps that, like, to himself,
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Like, when he starts to wreck the home, or say the woman becomes a home wrecker, the woman
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that is, like, flirting with or whatever, and she starts phoning you and abusing you
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and sort of, like, causing disruptions in the home, then I feel that that's, like, really,
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But then, on the other hand, um, I don't know, I wouldn't say it's acceptable, but...
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If it was a fling in Napa, then you'd be like, right.
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Yeah, I wouldn't be happy about it, but, however, um, I don't know, I think there's
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Well, I've come to the understanding when it comes to cheating, when the male is cheating
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anyway, is that there's a reason why the male has cheated, and it's most likely because
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the female is lacking something within that relation.
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So, it can be worked upon if they have that conversation or communicate that, and she
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You know, he's going to continue to cheat, and then, obviously, that female is going to
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If I wasn't lacking anything, and he was cheating for the sake of cheating, then no,
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I know I'm going to get drawn out for this, but I consider myself as a high-quality woman.
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So, compared to a lot of females that's out there, I would see myself as high-quality
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I'll ask you, I'll ask you, I'll ask you that question.
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That was literally the first thing that would make the man go and cheat, that you're annoying.
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When he can get someone that's just going to say, oh, yeah, you're the best man in the
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world, and then he comes home to you, and you're just being annoying.
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Okay, well, your siblings can be annoying, but you're not going to hate them for it, or
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you're not going to now say they're not your siblings.
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Yeah, he doesn't hate you because he cheated, he just wanted to put his dick somewhere
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My annoying, I don't mean annoying in the times where you would hate me, obviously,
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you wouldn't be with me in the first place, but I'm annoying in the sense where, you
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know, like how your siblings would be annoying, but you still love them at the same time.
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There's some aspects of all of us that will, you know, that's annoying to other people.
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But my whole point was, you don't think there's any areas you could improve it.
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And you said, well, I'm annoying, but that wouldn't make him cheat.
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She did say she was going to get drawn out right now.
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I mean, you can say it, but I, okay, I would say, oh, please save me the, do you know what?
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Like, some men can have their cake, their cherry and their icing and still cheat.
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And they're still just, they're just them guys that just like going out.
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And it's like, what was, supposing she's not, all the things.
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Yeah, but supposing she's doing none of all those things then.
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And she's doing like, what are we supposed to do?
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What if she's doing everything that our wife's supposed to do?
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Wait, well, actually, actually, I'll tell you what she's, I'll tell you what she's probably lacking in femininity.
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Well, you just said that men would cheat regardless.
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No, I would say men, I said men, no, no, no, I said men want to cheat regardless.
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And you even said that women should just accept it.
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I said go into the marriage assuming it may happen and try to work through it.
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So, so we go back to women pick men that cheat.
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Yeah, but it's in our biological system to want to reproduce it.
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Therefore, there's more chances for men to cheat.
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There's no more chances for men to want to cheat.
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What you're saying is just how that comes with the male makeup.
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So for a man to actively go out and look for a woman to cheat with when he can't really
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even attract women means that there is actually something wrong.
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Either way, my point is for a man to actively go out, the man that doesn't normally get
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women, for him to actually leave his woman, who is meant to be, obviously.
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But it's in our makeup, like you're saying, bro.
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Not to say you're right or wrong, but I read this book by a guy who was a pimp in
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There's no way any woman could change him because that's how he just saw his environment,
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So if that's his makeup, it doesn't matter what kind of woman he's going to be with.
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But the whole point is most men don't even get the opportunity to do that.
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Like it's only 15, 20% of men that can really cheat like that.
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One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.