They EXPOSED their red flags
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the controversial topic of if you should or shouldn t post pictures on social media for your significant other. Is it a good or bad thing? And what should you do if he doesn t like them?
Transcript
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And the first thing I'm going to ask you lot is,
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would you delete your social media for your significant other?
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What if it was just like you just have your personal account,
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you post whatever, like typically what women post,
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and your guy was like, you know what, I'm not really feeling that.
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I feel like it's not making me feel comfortable,
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and I need you to get rid of some of the content,
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Yeah, but I'm saying, okay, like, okay, so your account's open, yeah?
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if it was a personal account, it'd be open, I would assume, right?
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Like, so when you post pictures, everyone's got access to them, right?
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So if you post what typically women post or girls post online,
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it might, like, seem like you're advertising to Next Man.
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but I'm not deleting the whole account and deleting pictures.
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What if, like, it was, like, pictures, like, okay,
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if I was to go on your Instagram account right now,
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would it be, like, wholesome little house on the prairie, Pritchett?
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Or would it be, like, suggestive, maybe sexy type of provocative stuff on there?
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So if your guy was like, you know what, I don't like that kind of sexy stuff,
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Yeah, but, like, when people get in relationships,
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Yes, but I feel like pictures and social media sometimes,
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Because you've gone as far as to show yourself off to the whole world on Instagram.
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Someone might have screenshot it and put it on Google.
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No, but we're talking about what you've posted, though.
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We're not talking about what somebody else is what you've posted.
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So, if it's not his cup of tea, that's his business.
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I'm thinking, like, surely those are types of concerns that you have conversations about
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You can't just, like, be in a relationship for a few months
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and all of a sudden, oh, take your pictures offline.
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Yeah, but the thing is, is, like, obviously, when you first meet someone, yeah,
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you don't know if you're going to take them seriously.
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You don't know if you're just going to sling pipe to them and then move on.
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So, before you get in a relationship, those are conversations, like, you know what,
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Or, you know, it's all about being just open and having uncomfortable conversations
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But if you're going somewhere, if you like her and there's, like, a little,
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you know what, this is bugging me, and if I'm going to progress into the next level
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Don't get in a relationship and then all of a sudden, oh, yeah,
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like, you need to take pictures offline, go on private.
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Let's say in your perfect scenario, yeah, you've got to know each other.
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He realises he likes you and now he doesn't like that content.
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If it was approached in a way, because sometimes it's about the approach as well.
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Like, some people, you're allowed to feel how you feel.
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But if you, the approach, it's all about, I would say it's all about the approach.
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But if you approach it on some controlling, like, you need to do this and you need to do
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And you're taking it to, it's controlling, it's controlling.
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If the approach is in a way that you need to do this, then that's controlling.
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But like I said, some people can approach things diplomatically and express their concerns
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If the guy comes to you in a diplomatic way, would you delete this stuff?
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As long as he says it to you in some perfect way.
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Human to human, there's ways to speak to people.
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Yeah, but why would you go straight to that extreme though?
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Yeah, but like the question was kind of simple.
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But at the end of the day, like boom, you would be open to deleting the stuff?
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If I didn't get work through my socials, then I would probably make my social media private.
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As before, I got work through social media, my account was private.
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Like I have, you know, everyone has social media.
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Would you delete pictures and videos that were seen as provocative and sexy?
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If it was a personal account and it wasn't for work, then I wouldn't see an issue.
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So I wouldn't really see why it would be a problem for me to keep them.
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Would you understand why a guy might want you to delete those kind of things?
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But at the same time, if you've come to me and you wanted to get to know me and you've seen the kind of content that I post on social media,
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you can't come to me afterwards and be like, oh, I have a problem with it now.
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If you don't like that kind of stuff or you don't like the girls that post that kind of stuff,
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then go for a girl that doesn't post that stuff on the internet.
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At the end of the day, like, he may have met you outside of social media, got to know you,
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And you're saying that you should just cut it off because you don't want to delete suggestive pictures that could be seen as advertising.
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I mean, well, if my account's on private, I don't see it as advertising.
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My account's only public, though, for work reasons.
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So if it wasn't work, you'd go straight to private, yeah?
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My private, my personal account's in private, and then the public one is the business.
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If he had a problem with that, I wouldn't understand it because I'm completely proud of it.
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What if you posted, like, you know, when you look at Instagram Explore page and you see girls, what they post, yeah, typically, yeah?
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Like, if you was doing that and your guy was like, nah, I want you to get rid of that, how would you feel?
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Me, personally, no, because if I'm choosing to do that, then that's the sort of person that I am.
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And if, like, the girls were saying, if you're getting to know me, that's the other person that I've chosen to be.
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If that's now become an issue and you can't accept that, you've got to be okay to be like, I'm not for you.
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Do you think that that is wise for, like, modern women to, like, you know, post those kind of images out there?
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Because you're saying that if the woman is like that, then she's like that.
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Do you think that's actually a smart way to conduct yourself?
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I think if you're doing it for the right reasons, then yes.
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And what I mean by that is, can you stand behind everything that you're putting out there?
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Can you be proud of everything you're putting out there?
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What kind of reasons would someone have for putting out pictures where they're just showing off their body, like, they're virtually naked?
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Not that many people are making money on Instagram, though.
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Let's say specifically women that post that kind of content that are making money like that.
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You'd be surprised by how many people are making money on social media from that sort of stuff.
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The majority of women are not making money on Instagram.
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So if they're not making money, let's take the money side out of it, then.
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I don't even have to take the money side out of it.
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The majority of women are not making money on Instagram, posting pictures of their backside,
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So what, they're just doing it for likes and for attention?
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Because for me, it was mostly money, deals, lingerie deals, whatever deals you're getting.
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So if we're taking that out of it and they're doing it just for likes and for attention,
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Is having strange men on the internet, like, play with their willy, bussing nuts, looking
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Because really and truly, most of the guys that are liking and leaving comments,
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Those are just, there's specks in the atmosphere, bruv.
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Anything we do with social media, are you going to look back on it in 20 years' time and be
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If you can stand by everything you've put out there, then yes, it is.
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So just because you can stand by nonsense, that means it's okay?
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It's nonsense to you and maybe to me, but it's not nonsense to that person.
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Because they're going to stand by it in 30 years' time and 20 years' time.
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No, I mean, if I know you're my king, you're the man I'm with, and that's what you don't
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Like, you are, like you, in real life, this man, that's who I've chosen to dedicate my
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I think at my age, you know, I grew up in a time without social media.
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I think there's an addiction if you've been born at a certain age where it's necessary
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In fact, if I can disappear from the internet, praise God, I'm gone.
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If I have my husband and my family and I'm baking and cooking and have a garden and we're doing
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family things, I have no need for anybody else to see this but the man that I choose
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And so, for me, it's absolute fundamental that what he says goes.
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And so, I have no need for anyone to see me but the man I'm with.
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Anybody I need to share pictures with, they're in my, we're in a group chat.
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And those are my friends and family and nobody else that needs to see it.
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So, I think there, like I said, like, I think it's harder for young women to even fathom
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But being the age I am, the mindset, how I was raised, it's vanity and it's, they don't
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It's just, it's just the mindset is very different.
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And I was raised to be a wife, not for the streets.
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I'm not for consumption for every man, I'm consumption for one man.
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So, for me, he's the only man whose opinion matters to me other than my father or a spiritual
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leader in my life or the men who I respect and protect me and provide for me.
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These men on social media are not protecting, providing for you, don't give a damn about
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You're there for likes and comments and all this.
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They're not going to ride for you, they're not going to do for you.
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