JustPearlyThings - They Finally Admitted Their Delusion

00:00:00.000 I think it's just so difficult for us females, 0.73

00:00:02.360 like going back to what you said,

00:00:04.500 when we want to be in our,

00:00:07.020 like we want a guy to completely just take care of us

00:00:10.400 and protect us and be that hero.

00:00:12.680 You know, every girl,

00:00:13.820 we've been told all these fairy tales,

00:00:15.500 all these stories when we're growing up,

00:00:16.720 we're fed it from when we were kids.

00:00:18.260 It's delusion.

00:00:18.960 Do you know, it is delusion.

00:00:20.840 Oh my God.

00:00:22.020 We got through to them.

00:00:22.980 They're not a fruit to us.

00:00:25.320 It's the guy saving the female all the time.

00:00:28.040 So I think that's when it hurts so much

00:00:30.540 when you finally say,

00:00:31.800 oh my God, okay, I can let go.

00:00:33.580 I'm finally in feminine energy.

00:00:34.980 I don't have to protect myself anymore.

00:00:36.720 I can finally go.

00:00:37.380 And that's why it hurts so much

00:00:39.080 when you see the guy that you think you can do that with

00:00:41.720 and then they go out and exercise the options.

00:00:45.280 Like you said, that's why it hurts so much.

00:00:47.720 And that's when it goes back to the original question

00:00:49.940 as to where you stay or do you go.

00:00:52.360 Also, I'll tell you this is that for you,

00:00:54.980 sex in a lot of ways equals love.

00:00:56.760 For men, it does not. 0.71

00:00:59.080 Yeah.

00:00:59.300 You know, and I think that's what's painful.

00:01:00.800 You're like, how could he possibly do that

00:01:02.700 when I don't want to do that at all, truly?

00:01:05.600 So most women that are truly in love with a man 0.77

00:01:08.580 don't want to, they don't know another man exists.

00:01:10.920 And I think you said that earlier.

00:01:12.320 And it's absolutely true.

00:01:13.760 So for you, you can't comprehend,

00:01:15.800 just like we can't comprehend your position.

00:01:18.100 How could he possibly love me the way I love him

00:01:24.060 and still do that?

00:01:25.720 And you're completely valid in that feeling.

00:01:28.580 It's just trying to get through to anyone.

00:01:31.080 Like men don't feel that way.

00:01:33.420 They don't.

00:01:33.820 So you can explicitly say,

00:01:34.940 because that's, I think.

00:01:35.680 Without a shadow of a doubt.

00:01:37.760 And that's why I made the point earlier,

00:01:40.320 how far men will go down the totem pole to do it.

00:01:43.340 It haunts men in a lot of ways, I'm telling you.

00:01:47.640 I think that is the question that I would ask

00:01:49.280 when you say it to me,

00:01:50.200 what question do you want to ask men?

00:01:51.620 That is the question.

00:01:52.380 When that happens, is it love

00:01:55.680 or is it just complete, just blind?

00:01:57.760 I don't care about that girl. 0.99

00:01:58.800 I don't care about that female. 1.00

00:02:00.060 Bro, I promise you, he does not care about her.

00:02:02.060 Okay.

00:02:03.340 And it's going to haunt the man even more

00:02:04.980 if he's like not being open, innit?

00:02:07.120 Oh, it's way worse.

00:02:08.380 He's like sneaking out the house and coming back in.

00:02:10.140 He's got his family.

00:02:10.900 He knows how you act.

00:02:11.740 Like, that must be even worse.

00:02:13.640 Your grandfather, I think, was a good example

00:02:15.940 because he did that.

00:02:17.420 He had that kind of other side of his life,

00:02:20.000 but he treated his main woman with so much respect

00:02:22.060 that he didn't shame her by making it open.

00:02:24.660 Yep, respect.

00:02:25.480 And I respect her for that

00:02:26.620 because I think at some point,

00:02:27.860 another thing I did mention,

00:02:28.900 it's about compromise.

00:02:29.840 I like women who are naturally feminine. 1.00

00:02:31.540 You naturally understand like,

00:02:32.400 listen, I'm slightly less successful than Justin, right?

00:02:35.260 Slightly, right?

00:02:36.700 Got one or two million less, right?

00:02:38.840 So not every man's going to be a superhero.

00:02:41.980 And everyone's going to have their flaws.

00:02:43.760 And being able, willing to kind of meet them halfway

00:02:45.860 and talk about things is such a rare trait.

00:02:49.700 And the prettier women get, 1.00

00:02:50.940 the less likely they want to do that.

00:02:52.600 The more they want to see a man bend over

00:02:54.260 and slide in the DMs

00:02:55.480 and do all these things

00:02:56.820 because they think I can do it.

00:02:58.380 And they all get played

00:02:59.320 because the guys that will do that

00:03:00.480 are doing it because they're horny.

00:03:01.880 That's it.

00:03:02.480 Yeah.

00:03:03.440 Is there a conscience there though?

00:03:05.180 Is there a conscience after?

00:03:06.800 In what way?

00:03:07.340 After that happens.

00:03:08.440 After they do that.

00:03:09.500 Like, is there a conscience?

00:03:10.800 The man?

00:03:11.640 Yeah.

00:03:11.960 Yeah.

00:03:12.640 If they're running around lying to people,

00:03:14.380 yes, absolutely.

00:03:16.040 Absolutely.

00:03:16.640 And that's why it's so important.

00:03:17.960 You, to me,

00:03:19.020 truly a high value man will live in truth.

00:03:21.120 Yeah.

00:03:21.600 Completely.

00:03:21.920 And this undermines

00:03:23.280 the whole toxic masculinity exercise

00:03:25.260 because what you always talk about

00:03:26.640 is actually just being honest and authentic.

00:03:29.000 This is my nature.

00:03:30.100 Yeah, I feel like with honesty.

00:03:30.780 This is how I am.

00:03:31.560 You said, didn't you?

00:03:32.140 Back at the start.

00:03:32.680 And what's toxic?

00:03:33.560 How can anyone say that's toxic, right?

00:03:35.720 I'll put it to you like this.

00:03:37.000 If I love myself,

00:03:39.560 I have to believe

00:03:40.840 that some, many,

00:03:43.140 but somebody

00:03:44.360 would love me just the way I am

00:03:46.960 in full truth.

00:03:49.000 Yeah.

00:03:49.240 And the fact of the matter is

00:03:51.080 most of the time

00:03:52.100 when a man gets caught,

00:03:54.020 he has been caught in deception. 0.79

00:03:56.300 So not only is he a liar, 1.00

00:03:57.820 he's a coward. 1.00

00:03:58.840 And how can you respect a coward? 1.00

00:04:00.360 Yeah. 0.99

00:04:01.000 Yeah.

00:04:01.500 That is truth.

00:04:02.400 That's very true.

00:04:03.560 That is true.

00:04:04.180 Yeah, I agree.

00:04:04.980 Okay, I can say that.

00:04:05.980 Just raise your hands.

00:04:08.560 Who thinks that they could accept cheating

00:04:10.340 if the guy was open about it?

00:04:12.620 Definitely.

00:04:13.600 What do you mean accept?

00:04:14.460 Not just open.

00:04:15.400 Open and clean and rule.

00:04:16.580 Not give him a hard time about it.

00:04:18.200 Not bring it up.

00:04:19.040 Just,

00:04:19.160 this is what he does.

00:04:21.280 I don't think any woman's 1.00

00:04:22.100 actually capable of that

00:04:23.500 because I think there'll be spurts

00:04:25.240 of outbursts and pain.

00:04:26.740 You have to lie, bro.

00:04:28.360 Right?

00:04:28.680 There'll be spurts of outbursts and pain.

00:04:30.020 And that is one of the most

00:04:31.180 important parts for a man.

00:04:33.180 If that happens,

00:04:34.420 you have a job to stop 1.00

00:04:35.640 what the fuck you're doing 1.00

00:04:36.720 and be there 1.00

00:04:37.740 and sit in that pain with her

00:04:38.980 and help make it better.

00:04:40.460 I'm not talking about a man 0.97

00:04:41.780 that doesn't actually love you.

00:04:43.160 Like, this man will actually love you.

00:04:45.340 And that's been the hardest thing

00:04:46.860 for people to understand,

00:04:48.860 especially,

00:04:49.240 and that's one of the things

00:04:49.820 I hated the most

00:04:50.840 when I was going through the pain

00:04:52.240 of, like, breaking up with girls

00:04:53.180 I had feelings for

00:04:54.080 is I was in love with these girls. 1.00

00:04:57.720 I would have sat down with them

00:04:59.000 and been there.

00:05:00.060 I wouldn't have cried,

00:05:00.940 but I'd have held them.

00:05:02.560 You understand what I'm saying? 0.99

00:05:03.760 Like, you don't have to be a dick 1.00

00:05:05.580 to a woman just because 1.00

00:05:06.620 you're doing that.

00:05:07.740 This is really about getting down

00:05:09.360 to the brass tacks

00:05:10.260 of how we're actually wired.

00:05:11.560 Like, you don't even want to do it.

00:05:12.680 It's just...

00:05:13.300 Oh, like I said,

00:05:14.300 I'd pay for it to go away.

00:05:16.000 It's so interesting

00:05:17.240 because you said,

00:05:18.160 like, you may have married those girls.

00:05:21.260 Absolutely.

00:05:22.140 And the thing is,

00:05:23.080 they may have gotten

00:05:23.800 what they wanted

00:05:24.500 if they could have accepted that.

00:05:26.280 And you know what I think about that?

00:05:28.680 Truly,

00:05:29.760 all the women that are like, 1.00

00:05:31.600 okay,

00:05:32.660 I can see the world for how it is. 0.99

00:05:35.040 This sucks. 0.99

00:05:35.760 It's going to hurt. 0.99

00:05:37.120 But I believe him.

00:05:37.940 He loves me.

00:05:38.400 He makes me feel this way.

00:05:39.940 Joke's on all the other women 1.00

00:05:41.280 because they're getting the shit men 1.00

00:05:42.540 and guess what? 1.00

00:05:43.640 Those shit men, 1.00

00:05:44.760 if given the opportunity 1.00

00:05:45.700 in a heartbeat,

00:05:47.000 not only will do it,

00:05:47.940 but lie about it.

00:05:49.740 And to me,

00:05:50.480 I look at those two scenarios.

00:05:52.940 Who's really winning?

00:05:54.360 Yeah.

00:05:54.920 Who's really winning?

00:05:55.700 One of them's getting truth

00:05:56.640 and real love

00:05:57.380 and probably a much better life.

00:05:59.840 The other one's getting lied to

00:06:00.960 and getting a scrub 1.00

00:06:01.880 and a coward. 0.99

00:06:02.680 Yeah. 0.98

00:06:03.440 And that's just how it is.

00:06:05.220 So who's the joke on really?

00:06:07.300 And when you read all these books

00:06:09.840 and you hear all this stuff

00:06:10.840 and you hear these women 1.00

00:06:11.960 kind of being super masculine

00:06:14.160 with the attitude around it,

00:06:15.640 they've probably never met a man

00:06:17.540 who could sit down with them

00:06:19.640 and be emotionally intelligent enough

00:06:21.700 to love them through it

00:06:23.260 and explain it in an articulate enough way

00:06:25.780 with enough conviction,

00:06:26.900 not hiding from it,

00:06:28.100 that they could ever be able to accept it.

00:06:30.080 And to add to that,

00:06:33.100 one misconception

00:06:34.340 a lot of modern women have 1.00

00:06:35.500 is that your value

00:06:36.520 is in your ability 0.87

00:06:38.120 to sexually please a man.

00:06:39.920 So I think older women know that 1.00

00:06:41.680 it's about your ability

00:06:43.120 to take care of the home,

00:06:44.340 it's your feminine energy. 1.00

00:06:45.480 So they think,

00:06:46.000 a lot of women feel, 1.00

00:06:46.760 if he cheats on me,

00:06:47.480 then it means I'm nothing to him

00:06:48.560 and I have no value,

00:06:49.640 he's throwing me away.

00:06:50.440 No, no, no.

00:06:51.360 I slept with you 1.00

00:06:52.160 for the first time years ago.

00:06:53.720 We've already read that book.

00:06:55.220 Now, your value is that

00:06:56.420 you're the wife,

00:06:57.360 like you're the pillar of this house.

00:06:58.640 You make the food,

00:06:59.380 you make this a home,

00:07:00.460 you're supportive,

00:07:01.600 you're the love of my life

00:07:02.780 in some ways.

00:07:03.460 You're my piece.

00:07:04.260 Yeah, you need to pivot to that

00:07:05.780 because all this new feminist ideology, 1.00

00:07:08.080 low-key sells you the idea

00:07:09.720 that it's about the sex. 0.88

00:07:11.720 Sex lasts five minutes. 0.94

00:07:13.460 This woman's going to give up 1.00

00:07:14.340 a multi-millionaire,

00:07:15.720 happy life,

00:07:16.640 all those connections,

00:07:18.080 because he busts a nut in someone else?

00:07:20.840 And she's going to give up all that 1.00

00:07:21.920 because she thinks

00:07:22.740 that's all that matters with us.

00:07:24.340 That's the definition of our relationship

00:07:25.720 and it's not. 1.00

00:07:26.620 You fucked up. 1.00

00:07:27.580 Old school queens will tell you that. 1.00

00:07:28.820 You think a queen

00:07:29.780 would divorce a king 0.99

00:07:31.380 if that's even possible

00:07:32.160 because he has a concubine?

00:07:33.440 Nah, 1.00

00:07:33.800 because you're still the fucking queen. 1.00

00:07:34.940 That's why. 1.00

00:07:35.740 Yeah.

00:07:36.440 Yeah.

00:07:37.980 It's true.

00:07:39.340 But I feel like we've been fed

00:07:40.480 for so long

00:07:41.260 that it's like

00:07:41.940 if you do that,

00:07:42.980 then you have no value, 0.96

00:07:45.260 then you're like a horrible person. 0.53

00:07:46.540 My issue is they always paint it 0.98

00:07:49.280 like the men

00:07:50.120 are the worst, 0.82

00:07:51.380 that is the worst thing

00:07:52.220 they could possibly do.

00:07:54.140 When it's like,

00:07:54.920 well,

00:07:55.260 we're not perfect either.

00:07:56.840 Yeah.

00:07:57.420 And so it's like

00:07:58.000 we expect all this stuff from men.

00:08:00.100 We expect them to provide for us.

00:08:01.620 We expect them to be masculine, 0.99

00:08:03.100 to lead,

00:08:04.040 be good looking,

00:08:04.820 tall,

00:08:05.580 successful.

00:08:06.780 And it's like

00:08:07.540 if he checks every single box

00:08:10.100 and he cheats,

00:08:11.360 oh,

00:08:11.560 you should throw a good thing away.

00:08:13.280 You should throw away

00:08:14.060 your whole family

00:08:14.840 and never be,

00:08:15.700 it's not like you're going to replace him.

00:08:17.620 Yeah.

00:08:18.280 So my response to that

00:08:20.060 is you're going to leave me

00:08:21.160 for a man that you love less

00:08:22.520 that will cheat on you anyway. 1.00

00:08:24.900 It's true.

00:08:26.860 Because even you talk to like

00:08:28.280 married couples

00:08:29.040 and they've been together for long,

00:08:30.320 like I realize

00:08:31.020 they always start with,

00:08:32.400 oh,

00:08:32.580 there's ups and downs

00:08:34.080 and more times

00:08:34.700 when they talk about ups and downs

00:08:35.920 it's like

00:08:36.440 talking about them situations

00:08:37.560 where it's like,

00:08:38.320 yeah,

00:08:38.460 you cheated,

00:08:39.220 I'm not happy about it,

00:08:40.640 but it's like

00:08:41.100 we move on

00:08:41.720 because I love you

00:08:42.460 I don't believe in divorce.

00:08:43.980 And look,

00:08:44.180 it's a complete double standard

00:08:45.160 because if a woman 1.00

00:08:46.360 cheats on a man,

00:08:47.080 he will leave her in a second.

00:08:48.380 Yeah,

00:08:48.480 because they know

00:08:49.000 it's emotional with women. 0.83

00:08:50.200 But it's like

00:08:50.920 it's like the trade-off thing,

00:08:52.160 right?

00:08:52.340 He's going to go through

00:08:53.020 all this hell

00:08:53.620 and go through all the stress

00:08:54.580 and make sure your world 1.00

00:08:55.500 is a fucking carpet ride 1.00

00:08:56.900 and there's just one thing 1.00

00:08:58.840 inside of him

00:08:59.460 that is in every side

00:09:00.240 of every man

00:09:01.060 but you'll notice

00:09:02.280 that he will not give

00:09:03.300 material assets

00:09:04.580 to those other women. 0.71

00:09:05.560 Yeah.

00:09:05.980 But do you know,

00:09:06.640 it's funny,

00:09:07.200 I feel like women

00:09:08.100 really and truly

00:09:08.960 like when you're actually

00:09:09.720 in the situation

00:09:10.480 that you're more upset

00:09:12.420 with men that cheat

00:09:13.460 that are not playing

00:09:14.560 their role.

00:09:15.220 Like if a man is cheating

00:09:16.240 and not playing a role

00:09:17.060 you can actually F off.

00:09:18.040 That's the deceit answer.

00:09:19.140 Did you get it?

00:09:19.680 Oh, you're going to cheat 1.00

00:09:20.520 but you're a shit man? 1.00

00:09:21.580 You're not going to cheat? 1.00

00:09:22.080 You're not going to tell me?

00:09:23.240 You don't do nothing. 1.00

00:09:24.140 My life sucks. 0.99

00:09:25.260 Yeah, you play video games. 1.00

00:09:26.160 I'm just a cherry on top.

00:09:28.500 But if the man is a father,

00:09:30.120 he's like your husband,

00:09:31.720 he like listens

00:09:32.660 to everything you say

00:09:33.540 and then he cheats,

00:09:34.560 of course you're going

00:09:35.220 to feel a type of way

00:09:36.120 but it's something

00:09:36.600 you're going to work through

00:09:37.520 because it's like

00:09:38.280 this is my husband

00:09:38.920 and we're building

00:09:39.380 a life together.

00:09:39.940 So would you say that

00:09:41.160 men making more money

00:09:42.880 in a way

00:09:43.280 gives them the right

00:09:44.160 to cheat?

00:09:45.140 Not just money.

00:09:46.320 It's like the whole role

00:09:47.260 they have for them.

00:09:47.760 They emotionally need

00:09:48.920 to be attached to her as well.

00:09:49.860 Right.

00:09:50.300 Not just money.

00:09:51.400 Well, I know that

00:09:52.360 I'm glad you said it

00:09:53.480 because a lot of people

00:09:54.660 just throw money out

00:09:55.680 and they stop it at money.

00:09:56.740 No, I mean love the woman.

00:09:57.980 Yeah.

00:09:58.560 I mean love her fully.

00:09:59.860 That's why you can't

00:10:01.040 just call anyone

00:10:01.740 a high value man

00:10:02.500 until you know them

00:10:03.480 because high value man

00:10:04.420 comes with so many qualities

00:10:05.720 not just money.

00:10:06.720 Oh, he's a millionaire

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JustPearlyThings - April 21, 2023

They Finally Admitted Their Delusion

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