JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


They got TRIGGERED When she said this...


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In this episode, we talk about the importance of a family unit and what it means to be a mother. We also talk about why it s important to stay at home with your kids and the benefits of going to work.

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00:00:00.000 The point isn't if it's right or wrong, I'm saying that's a modern mindset.
00:00:02.880 Like your answer is a modern mindset.
00:00:05.240 I have a mixed perception.
00:00:06.560 I'm not saying it's...
00:00:06.980 But long term, it's all based on your child or your children having better careers.
00:00:11.620 It's all based on...
00:00:12.000 No, it's not based on a better career.
00:00:13.620 For me, it's giving my child a better experience.
00:00:14.640 It's not based on love or building and things like that.
00:00:17.720 It's not based on love.
00:00:18.500 It's all based...
00:00:19.160 Sorry.
00:00:19.740 What do you mean?
00:00:20.720 Sorry.
00:00:21.080 It's based on my team.
00:00:22.400 So you're saying you're having a business is wanting to have a business as long as staying
00:00:26.740 at home.
00:00:26.920 The reason you want a career is for a better outcome.
00:00:29.640 Outcome financially.
00:00:31.900 And lifestyle, you want a better lifestyle.
00:00:33.180 If I'm staying at home at that point, I'm already there.
00:00:35.440 What I'm saying is...
00:00:36.360 What do you want the business for?
00:00:38.180 Like what is it for?
00:00:38.780 To keep me active.
00:00:39.280 That's what I'm saying.
00:00:40.280 Okay, okay, okay.
00:00:41.020 But this is...
00:00:41.840 Wait, wait, wait.
00:00:42.460 This is the point.
00:00:43.800 Me.
00:00:45.060 Your answer.
00:00:46.360 Me.
00:00:46.660 Yeah, to keep me active.
00:00:48.420 That's my point.
00:00:49.260 It's a modern mindset.
00:00:50.380 I'm not saying if it's right or it's wrong.
00:00:51.920 So what you're saying...
00:00:52.440 No, I get you.
00:00:53.240 Know thyself.
00:00:54.040 It's just...
00:00:54.880 That's a modern mindset.
00:00:56.080 But then at the same time, as long as I'm keeping myself active,
00:00:58.720 if I can't keep myself active, how am I going to be able to...
00:01:01.040 This is my opinion.
00:01:01.920 How would I be able to sustain that home and make it happy and cook and clean
00:01:04.740 if I'm not happy with myself?
00:01:06.260 What has being active got to do with going to work?
00:01:08.060 You can be active.
00:01:08.580 For her mental health.
00:01:09.360 That's my own mental health.
00:01:10.260 No, no, no.
00:01:11.140 But if you're saying...
00:01:13.180 That's your interpretation.
00:01:15.060 If you operate a business, it's all based on financial gain.
00:01:18.940 No, it's not.
00:01:19.740 That's not business.
00:01:20.540 Then it's not a business.
00:01:21.340 It's a hobby.
00:01:22.160 First of all...
00:01:22.440 The business is profit.
00:01:23.400 And if you're not making any profit, then business is...
00:01:25.500 Her business is creative.
00:01:26.940 Wait, guys, guys, guys, one at a time.
00:01:28.360 First of all, my business is creative.
00:01:30.180 I'm not only creative.
00:01:30.920 So why do you run a business?
00:01:32.080 Why do I run a business?
00:01:32.920 Because I have a passion.
00:01:33.900 She also inspires...
00:01:34.840 Would you do it for free?
00:01:35.700 But you let me finish.
00:01:37.100 The business I run is not just a business for financial gain
00:01:39.940 because I give a lot back.
00:01:41.000 It's not a business then?
00:01:41.820 You let me finish.
00:01:42.520 I put on events and I also do it to inspire single mothers
00:01:45.900 and people like me and people are not like me.
00:01:48.480 So it's not just to...
00:01:49.280 But the whole...
00:01:50.060 She's right.
00:01:50.800 It's not a business if you're not making money.
00:01:52.380 But the thing is, I am making money.
00:01:53.820 But at the same time...
00:01:54.440 So it's about money then?
00:01:55.200 It's not a gain.
00:01:55.740 It's to give back.
00:01:56.640 It's not just for me.
00:01:57.660 Oh, I'm not living off this business
00:01:59.920 because I work at the same time.
00:02:01.440 This is a business that I've put on.
00:02:03.100 It's not a business then if it's not about money.
00:02:04.780 Can you let me finish?
00:02:05.440 I didn't say it's business is profit.
00:02:06.620 It's a passion project.
00:02:08.380 It's a passion project.
00:02:09.380 It makes money and it's not just about money.
00:02:12.580 Okay, but the thing is, I get profit.
00:02:14.860 I'm not living off that profit.
00:02:16.320 I put it right back into business.
00:02:17.060 I think you've been in denial because I run a business.
00:02:18.780 I'm not being in denial.
00:02:19.480 I run a business and I'm very passionate about what I do.
00:02:22.520 There's been times I've done it for years.
00:02:23.640 Can I just answer your point?
00:02:24.600 You're saying to me that the business I would want to do is based on finances and based
00:02:28.240 on profit.
00:02:29.140 If that was the case, I wouldn't work.
00:02:30.660 I would just solely buy off my business.
00:02:31.580 No, business is profit, I'm saying.
00:02:33.140 So if you're doing business for any other needs other than profit, it's not a business.
00:02:36.940 It's a hobby.
00:02:37.540 Okay, can you go back to the point where you said it's based on something about not love.
00:02:40.880 It's based on, you said something else.
00:02:42.640 I was on about family unit.
00:02:44.380 Like, I don't know.
00:02:45.220 You've gone too back to...
00:02:46.600 I think what she's basically saying is you're more focused on maintaining your child rather
00:02:50.240 than raising your child.
00:02:51.240 No, because my child is...
00:02:52.620 It's not about that.
00:02:53.580 It's not about maintaining.
00:02:54.500 What I realized as a mother and from life experiences, you have to be...
00:02:58.800 You actually have to put your mind first, your mental health first.
00:03:02.160 You cannot raise a child in the best way possible if you're not mentally stable.
00:03:06.160 What society, in what society has society, what era has society flourished putting me
00:03:12.520 before the family?
00:03:13.140 It's not about putting me.
00:03:14.240 You have to put your mindset, your mindset, your child comes first.
00:03:17.580 Of course your child comes first.
00:03:18.420 A hundred percent.
00:03:19.220 I'm not saying my child comes before everything.
00:03:20.860 But you can't help everything.
00:03:21.600 It doesn't come before everything because you want a business before your child.
00:03:24.240 No, but I didn't say I want a business before my child.
00:03:25.260 You're in control of your happiness.
00:03:26.620 Yeah, you're in control of your happiness.
00:03:27.880 However, can I finish?
00:03:29.300 My child, without a shadow of a doubt, comes before everything.
00:03:32.740 Every single thing that I do.
00:03:33.740 I've even stopped working to make sure that my child was okay.
00:03:36.560 I've reduced my hours to make sure that my child is okay.
00:03:39.080 However, doing that, I realise if you're not right mentally, you can't...
00:03:42.900 I don't think you're in denial because I'm going to be real here.
00:03:45.120 You can't say I'm in denial.
00:03:46.300 I'm going to be real.
00:03:47.180 As I move out.
00:03:47.720 I believe that.
00:03:48.400 That's her outlet. 0.70
00:03:49.400 Basically, that's her outlet to make sure she's stably and mentally correct for her child. 0.99
00:03:54.800 But it's all for financial gain.
00:03:56.520 She's in denial, not financial gain.
00:03:57.820 Can I speak?
00:03:58.660 Can I speak?
00:03:59.180 You can't say I'm in denial because I would do it for free.
00:04:01.880 She would do it for free.
00:04:02.760 It's a passion project.
00:04:04.940 That's just her way, basically, her outlet in it, of her releasing herself from her child. 0.97
00:04:11.440 She'd prefer to go and do business, whereas some people might do a marathon. 1.00
00:04:17.360 You're still focusing your energy a bit away.
00:04:19.800 But her point is that if it's not about profit, it's not a business, then it's a hobby.
00:04:24.120 And, you know, maybe it is a hobby.
00:04:25.760 And maybe eventually, actually, my main goal eventually is turning to a charity.
00:04:29.240 It's my daughter's name.
00:04:30.960 I respect you.
00:04:31.840 It's passionate.
00:04:32.620 I understand that.
00:04:33.460 It's very passionate.
00:04:34.460 And I don't live off it.
00:04:35.680 That was not my aim.
00:04:36.680 But the point is you're saying you would rather spend 30% of the week on you than on the family.
00:04:41.940 And it's just, it's a modern answer.
00:04:43.520 And so when you're saying it's not a modern answer, it's just not true.
00:04:47.600 It is a modern answer.
00:04:48.440 You're saying that, like, she's not with her in the morning.
00:04:50.500 She's not with her at night.
00:04:51.340 She's not with her to drop her to school. 0.82
00:04:52.060 But that's maintaining a child.
00:04:53.400 Raising a child and maintaining a child is two different things.
00:04:55.520 No, but the thing is, you can't say that because I raised my child.
00:04:58.900 No, but no one's saying you're wrong in saying that, you know.
00:05:01.480 I don't believe that.
00:05:02.600 If you're sending your kid to school, and loads of people will disagree here,
00:05:05.700 you're not really raising your child because for eight hours a day,
00:05:08.480 and then you get these independent women that get up in the morning 1.00
00:05:10.920 and do breakfast club and after club.
00:05:13.400 That's like 10 hours a day.
00:05:14.980 My daughter doesn't do breakfast or after club. 1.00
00:05:16.160 I'm just saying, people do this, like, they'll send the kids for 10 hours a day, yeah.
00:05:20.620 So do you think you're not?
00:05:21.460 Can I speak?
00:05:21.740 Can I speak?
00:05:22.840 She's right.
00:05:23.720 For 10 hours a day, yeah, your kid's not.
00:05:25.520 She's at school, come home after care, 6 o'clock, have a wash, watch TV, go to bed.
00:05:30.760 You're not even seeing your child.
00:05:31.940 No, but I see my child because she has activities every single day.
00:05:33.960 You're telling me she goes to school, so you're not raising your child?
00:05:36.440 Your child's being programmed to the social norm.
00:05:38.820 I don't agree with that.
00:05:39.580 You have to raise your child because they're norming. 0.72
00:05:41.140 You're not raising your child?
00:05:42.260 I am raising my child.
00:05:43.040 No, you're not raising your child.
00:05:44.060 No, she's right.
00:05:45.180 And I mean, I feel like that makes socially awkward people.
00:05:47.860 My child's not socially awkward.
00:05:50.620 My child is so confident.
00:05:52.240 She teaches a class of 30 children and 30 people.
00:05:55.700 Where does she teach that? 0.99
00:05:56.620 My classes, I run classes, and she teaches people. 0.99
00:05:59.900 She's more confident than the average girl.
00:06:01.500 So you believe when you send your child to school that you're not raising them at all?
00:06:04.560 You're giving another adult time.
00:06:05.580 So what time is she?
00:06:06.200 Wait, you're giving another adult time, more time to spend with your child than you will.
00:06:10.220 And I'll say I went to school, but there were times when I certainly spent more time with
00:06:16.000 coaches or teachers than my parents because, again, I'm spending eight hours a day in school.
00:06:22.020 So when you have one homeroom teacher and they teach most of your classes in third grade,
00:06:27.240 you're spending eight hours a day communicating with that homeroom teacher.
00:06:30.460 A parent just can't keep up.
00:06:31.800 And we now have outcomes where kids are getting brainwashed in schools.
00:06:35.820 And now they don't even know.
00:06:37.260 But parenting isn't just smothering your child 24-7.
00:06:41.740 They are meant to be practicing independence.
00:06:44.520 They're meant to be meeting people.
00:06:46.060 They're meant to be interacting.
00:06:47.300 They're meant to be in social situations.
00:06:48.580 But then the mother would teach that. 0.98
00:06:49.260 They have to grow up at some point.
00:06:50.840 Just because you homeschool your child doesn't mean they miss out on any of those aspects.
00:06:54.200 You, as a mother, have a duty to ensure those are in place.
00:06:57.520 It's not just in school that they get them.
00:06:59.320 Yeah, but I'm just going off the point that Pearl made.
00:07:01.320 Like, you know, that just because, you know, I'm not spending 24-7 with them every second
00:07:07.760 and I'm sending them to school.
00:07:09.400 Exactly.
00:07:10.020 That's, you know.
00:07:10.940 Sometimes it's best for the child as well.
00:07:13.240 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:13.700 Sometimes, who knows, like, the child might be fed up of you.
00:07:16.840 The child wants a bit of space as well.
00:07:17.660 I'm not saying homeschooling is based upon you living with your child 24-7.
00:07:21.760 Yeah, but you are saying that if someone sends their child to school.
00:07:24.820 You said that her working twice a day. 0.91
00:07:27.080 They're not raising their children.
00:07:28.340 I think she's just saying what she wants to do personally.
00:07:30.340 She is raising her child.
00:07:32.080 No, no, no.
00:07:33.000 But why are you the judge?
00:07:34.740 What makes you a judge?
00:07:35.200 This is my opinion.
00:07:36.260 That's my opinion.
00:07:37.140 Like, she's got hers.
00:07:37.880 You've got yours.
00:07:38.520 I'm just saying for eight hours a day, your child is into the care of somebody else.
00:07:42.180 And for most people, they're going to breakfast club and aftercare.
00:07:46.220 So that's 10 hours a day.
00:07:47.700 It's only 24.
00:07:48.540 I get what you're saying there.
00:07:49.360 I get what you're saying.
00:07:50.000 You get four hours in a week there with your child.
00:07:52.160 That is absurd.
00:07:53.620 That's insane.
00:07:54.480 And they're going to have a wash.
00:07:55.340 I understand, but your child also needs to learn other fundamental skills.
00:08:01.140 They don't need to do it.
00:08:01.780 It doesn't take 10 hours a day.
00:08:03.220 It doesn't take 10 hours a day.
00:08:04.320 Does it ask you a question?
00:08:05.500 I don't know about 10 hours.
00:08:07.760 Guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:08:08.560 Wait, wait, wait.
00:08:09.720 Okay.
00:08:10.940 You can go.
00:08:11.880 Go ahead.
00:08:12.540 So you see you're homeschooling your child.
00:08:15.340 Would you say now you're fully raising your child because you're homeschooling your child?
00:08:18.460 Is that what you see?
00:08:19.700 Is that your point?
00:08:20.360 Because I'm sending my child to school and I'm not raising her.
00:08:23.040 That's what you said.
00:08:23.940 So what is it from homeschooling perspective?
00:08:26.220 How would you view it?
00:08:27.520 I believe I've got more of an input of what I can put into my child and more of a say.
00:08:33.960 Whereas for 10 hours, 8 hours a day at school, I don't have a say.
00:08:37.000 Can I ask you another question?
00:08:38.000 Is that one of the main reasons you chose to homeschool your child?
00:08:41.060 I chose to homeschool because I went to school and then I was always like two, three years ahead.
00:08:46.260 So in year one, I was in year three.
00:08:47.900 In year three, I was in year five.
00:08:49.900 And like I'd finish my work in 20 minutes.
00:08:51.860 So why do I need eight hours a day if I can complete my work in 20 minutes?
00:08:56.160 I'm not saying my child's me because she isn't, but I'm intelligent enough to educate my own child.
00:09:00.640 I have a question.
00:09:01.840 So who has more influence over your kid?
00:09:03.680 Someone spending eight to 10 hours a day with your kid or someone spending four?
00:09:08.700 The teacher?
00:09:09.900 Be honest.
00:09:10.640 And why do you think we have these kids that are coming home literally thinking they're women? 1.00
00:09:15.100 Like little boys literally coming home thinking they're women.
00:09:18.260 That's bonkers.
00:09:19.280 And women, young women literally coming home and thinking they're men.
00:09:22.660 Yeah.
00:09:22.840 And then when they get older, they're even saying, I want to go back to this.
00:09:25.620 Anjanina Jones' child.
00:09:27.560 We went to private school, like Catholic school.
00:09:29.980 And even us, they showed my sister CNN kids.
00:09:33.720 Why are they showing a liberal news network to my fifth grade child?
00:09:38.660 And that's our point.
00:09:39.280 You can avoid a lot of those problems by homeschooling.
00:09:41.560 I mean, the-
00:09:42.360 For all.
00:09:43.000 The-
00:09:43.460 Homeschool is on the rise.
00:09:44.740 Like, there's a reason for that.
00:09:46.100 But you're going to be in the world-
00:09:46.960 But it's on the internet anyway.
00:09:48.180 Yeah, it's on the internet.
00:09:48.740 But then-
00:09:49.240 You're going to be in the world regardless.
00:09:50.940 Yeah, but you need to make them aware of certain things that you believe in your family culture
00:09:55.620 or tradition or whatever, otherwise they're going to be led astray.
00:09:58.540 Yeah, but then that is down to you as a parent to make sure that you raise your child with those values.
00:10:04.460 How can you do that when they're at school?
00:10:06.320 That doesn't happen.
00:10:07.100 You've only got four hours with them.
00:10:08.360 How can you do that?
00:10:08.880 My parents did it with me and I think I turned out all right.
00:10:11.860 I'm not going to-
00:10:12.400 Yeah, I feel like the four hours, that's only, okay, there's term time.
00:10:15.740 You've turned out to be a modern woman, so that if you're happy with that, which is- 0.97
00:10:19.960 I'm modern.
00:10:20.580 I respect it.
00:10:21.140 I'm modern, but I have my traditional values.
00:10:23.400 And you're also traditional, but so are modern women. 1.00
00:10:24.340 They think they're still traditional, but if you're not all of it, you're not any of it,
00:10:28.400 you either are or you aren't.
00:10:29.500 She's right.
00:10:30.540 But why?
00:10:31.200 She's right.
00:10:31.820 Why?
00:10:31.960 You can't be in between.
00:10:33.280 You can't have the best of both worlds.
00:10:35.020 But why?
00:10:35.780 What?
00:10:36.180 How can-
00:10:36.740 Because it doesn't function right.
00:10:38.140 It doesn't work.
00:10:38.860 Okay.
00:10:39.140 Because then you're in the house now with your man, trying to make, like, you're equal
00:10:43.680 with arguments and debates.
00:10:45.040 No, no, I don't think we're equal.
00:10:45.980 You said that earlier.
00:10:46.720 We have different roles.
00:10:48.340 If I can't have a say at certain things, you're not going to be happy.
00:10:50.800 But this is the problem.
00:10:51.800 You either are or you aren't.
00:10:53.100 So go and chase your career or be a stay-at-home mom or whatever. 1.00
00:10:56.820 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:11:03.040 on this platform.
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