JustPearlyThings - March 25, 2023


They Have Been Programmed Beyond Saving


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

201.83652

Word Count

2,601

Sentence Count

270

Misogynist Sentences

25

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode we talk about what it's like to be a working wife and stay-at-home mum, and how to balance it all. We talk about the pros and cons of working vs staying at home with your kids, and what we would do if we didn't have enough money to support our families.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 But it's personal preference as well.
00:00:01.900 Not every woman wants to do that, but obviously some women do.
00:00:04.600 Like me personally as well, I would want to do that as well.
00:00:06.880 I feel like it's always good to have your own,
00:00:08.660 even if your husband does give you that option.
00:00:11.560 But I feel like just have your own.
00:00:13.520 You know, you never know.
00:00:14.480 You don't think that's like having one foot out the door?
00:00:17.720 No, I don't.
00:00:18.600 COVID taught us you need to have more than one income
00:00:20.620 because when work is done.
00:00:22.080 What you're going to have, yeah.
00:00:23.400 You could be a stay-at-home mum and have a home business.
00:00:26.300 Yeah.
00:00:27.260 You know?
00:00:27.660 I'm just thinking like, wouldn't you rather put that time and energy?
00:00:30.860 You could teach your kids how to do something.
00:00:32.860 You can do both.
00:00:34.540 No.
00:00:35.240 I want to homeschool my kids.
00:00:36.580 I want to homeschool my kids.
00:00:38.080 I do.
00:00:38.520 I definitely do.
00:00:40.520 You can kind of do both, but it's at a cost, right?
00:00:44.060 Yeah.
00:00:44.240 Because if you're not there, someone else is raising your kid.
00:00:46.940 100%.
00:00:47.300 And that's not right.
00:00:48.600 Yeah.
00:00:48.840 And so it's like, it depends.
00:00:49.980 It just depends how you view it.
00:00:51.100 If you think it's okay for someone else to raise your kid instead of you.
00:00:54.800 But I feel like it then depends.
00:00:56.200 If you're a working wife, I feel like, I mean, if you do want to spend time with your kids,
00:00:59.720 you should be able to know how to manage that.
00:01:01.740 You wouldn't work 24-7.
00:01:03.100 You would limit the time, amount of time that you're working to also make sure that you're
00:01:06.720 spending time with your kids as well.
00:01:08.700 So I feel like you can balance it out.
00:01:10.220 Yeah.
00:01:10.520 I'm just saying, especially when they're young, it's like there's only so many hours in a week.
00:01:13.860 I can see when they're in school, right?
00:01:15.460 I think it comes down to circumstances as well, though.
00:01:19.100 Yeah, definitely.
00:01:20.200 Like, look at the inflation.
00:01:22.780 You and your partner, if you're earning the same amount of money and you rely on that money,
00:01:28.900 how is one of you going to drop out?
00:01:30.160 You know, I'm actually excited.
00:01:33.220 I'm going to do a wife school episode on it.
00:01:34.840 So we have a second channel where we talk about, basically, it's like self-improvement
00:01:39.680 for women.
00:01:40.720 So there's going to be courses in femininity and there's going to be learning to cook better.
00:01:46.060 And one of the things, actually, as a wife is budgeting that they're going through.
00:01:48.760 Like, a lot of women want a certain type of lifestyle that they can't afford.
00:01:52.860 So they want, like, the makeup, the new clothes, the lip filler, Botox, all that.
00:01:57.300 It all adds up, right?
00:01:58.860 And this woman basically said that when she does budgeting with wives, she goes down to,
00:02:02.960 like, three basic necessities, which is food, shelter, and clothing.
00:02:06.880 And, like, she teaches them how to do hand-me-downs with the kids and, like, how to work within
00:02:10.840 a budget.
00:02:11.380 Guess how much money she spent on a year with 10 kids.
00:02:14.860 10 kids?
00:02:15.700 10 kids.
00:02:16.360 Guess how much she spent on the kids in a year.
00:02:18.020 Guess.
00:02:18.600 100K.
00:02:19.760 Over.
00:02:20.320 Oh, less.
00:02:21.240 Yeah, guess.
00:02:21.980 It's going to be shocking.
00:02:23.100 50, 50, 20, 10.
00:02:25.900 Did it really be...
00:02:26.660 10.
00:02:27.080 10.
00:02:27.580 No.
00:02:28.440 10.
00:02:28.820 How is that possible?
00:02:29.760 It was in dollars, so it was 8,000.
00:02:31.760 What?
00:02:32.300 So what she does is she moved out to, like, I don't know what you guys' country is here.
00:02:38.720 And basically her husband, her husband, you know.
00:02:42.860 I don't know what you're talking about.
00:02:44.140 No, you guys have, like, the outskirts of London.
00:02:46.000 It's cheaper, right?
00:02:46.940 Yeah, it is cheaper outside London.
00:02:48.980 Yeah, and so that's what she teaches the wives to do, I guess.
00:02:52.400 So I think they did Miami.
00:02:54.460 And so she lives, like, an hour and a half outside of, I think, Miami.
00:02:58.420 And so he has to commute really far for work, but the costs are so low that, and she grows
00:03:03.060 her own food.
00:03:04.220 Wow.
00:03:04.580 She teaches, she homeschools her kids, and she does hand-me-downs.
00:03:08.320 Wow.
00:03:08.680 So if you're doing a lot, yeah, it's a lot of work, right?
00:03:11.300 It's a lot.
00:03:11.740 I mean, that's a lot.
00:03:12.520 That's a work in itself.
00:03:13.680 Yeah, no.
00:03:14.560 Yeah, that's a job in itself, definitely.
00:03:16.760 Yeah, that's why she doesn't have a job.
00:03:18.320 Yeah.
00:03:19.100 She homeschools her kids, right?
00:03:20.620 But women who do want to work, they just would not have time for all that.
00:03:23.540 No, that's what I'm saying.
00:03:24.680 Like, that's, everything comes at a cost.
00:03:26.100 Yeah.
00:03:26.340 I'm not saying, like, what you should or shouldn't do.
00:03:28.140 Yeah.
00:03:28.220 But what I am saying is, it is possible.
00:03:30.540 Definitely.
00:03:31.120 And a lot of women think it's, like, impossible to stay at home with one income, and he's
00:03:35.160 going to make more money if he's able to work more when you're at home.
00:03:38.640 100%.
00:03:38.880 That's if they're allowed to get overtime, though.
00:03:41.440 If you're on a set wage, you know what I mean?
00:03:42.720 You've got to think about it.
00:03:43.320 And I think it depends on what you want to do with your kids as well, because if you
00:03:45.940 want to take them on holiday, 10K, that's not...
00:03:48.680 That's not feasible.
00:03:49.760 But that's lifestyle.
00:03:51.700 Yeah.
00:03:52.060 Right?
00:03:52.380 100%.
00:03:52.860 So it's, like, that's choosing, like, lifestyle.
00:03:55.680 No, my kids need to fly out by all means.
00:03:57.260 So it's kind of a trade-off when you think about it.
00:04:03.260 Like, what's more important, the trip or spending time with their mom every day?
00:04:06.420 Yeah, they do that every day.
00:04:07.560 They can fly out.
00:04:08.680 Go to their auntie somewhere for six weeks.
00:04:11.980 I mean, it depends how you view it, right?
00:04:14.500 Like, some people want their kids to just be...
00:04:16.700 I had a girl on her show that didn't want...
00:04:18.500 She doesn't want any teacher talking to her kid, because she doesn't want anyone else
00:04:22.480 to influence the children other than the family.
00:04:24.200 But then her children will find it difficult to be in the outside world of real reality
00:04:27.960 because they won't know how to communicate.
00:04:31.160 I don't...
00:04:31.640 You know, I used to think like that, but, you know, I have cousins, and they're, like,
00:04:35.280 the most sheltered.
00:04:36.400 Like, they're all homeschooled, and they were so...
00:04:38.840 Guys, you don't even know.
00:04:39.620 Like, we always thought they were, like, the crazy Catholic family because it was, like,
00:04:43.320 the dad, like, wouldn't let her show her knee.
00:04:46.180 It was like that, you know?
00:04:47.240 But the kids turned out so good.
00:04:49.120 Like, they're all really smart.
00:04:50.660 They all are normal.
00:04:52.620 Like, it's...
00:04:53.260 You'd be surprised.
00:04:54.560 Yes.
00:04:55.440 They socialize all right.
00:04:56.620 They socialize with other people.
00:04:57.740 Yeah.
00:04:58.200 They're all...
00:04:59.560 Actually, I don't want to say their names, but she's married.
00:05:02.720 She's too young to be married.
00:05:04.860 All the boys are married.
00:05:06.140 Yeah.
00:05:06.560 There are three out of the...
00:05:07.520 The three oldest, because I think there's five or six, are married.
00:05:10.640 So...
00:05:10.720 Yeah.
00:05:11.000 No, five, because they were trying to catch up to us.
00:05:13.040 We were six.
00:05:13.460 The two are young.
00:05:18.180 Okay.
00:05:18.640 I'm going to read Super Chats really quick, and then we're going to close out the show
00:05:22.200 so you can give any final thoughts, plug any social media.
00:05:24.840 You guys are a really good group today, so this was fun.
00:05:27.380 Thanks.
00:05:29.380 All right, guys.
00:05:30.040 Make sure you like the video and subscribe to the channel.
00:05:33.060 Guys, if you've watched two or more of my videos and you do not subscribe, we have beef,
00:05:39.600 okay?
00:05:39.920 I...
00:05:40.200 It's not cool to just be watching and not...
00:05:43.480 I lost the Super Chats again, so we're going to do the final thoughts first, so you go
00:05:46.760 and then go around.
00:05:47.840 Okay.
00:05:48.160 What should I say?
00:05:51.020 Any thought you had on the conversation?
00:05:53.320 You know, if you have any social media you want them to follow you on, go ahead.
00:05:57.760 Yes.
00:05:57.780 I mean, that would be lovely.
00:05:58.980 My name is Vina Rose.
00:06:00.300 You can find me everywhere.
00:06:01.880 I have also a website, vinarosemusic.com.
00:06:04.480 I would love to, you know, to see you there and, you know, check it out, my music on all
00:06:09.760 the streaming platforms.
00:06:11.520 And it was really, really great being here tonight.
00:06:14.560 Thank you for inviting me because I think we all need to have more conversations about,
00:06:19.520 like, uncomfortable topics.
00:06:20.780 And I'm a very big fan of this type of, you know, thing.
00:06:23.960 Sometimes women and men, we need more communication.
00:06:27.060 So I'm very glad, you know, that I'm here tonight and also, like, expressing my views
00:06:32.420 and having, you know, to listen to everyone's view.
00:06:35.900 Yeah.
00:06:36.080 And I really like that.
00:06:36.740 I love the green, by the way.
00:06:37.960 I know I said it earlier, but I love that color.
00:06:40.380 Thank you.
00:06:40.800 Thank you.
00:06:41.380 Go ahead.
00:06:42.120 I really enjoyed being, like, here today.
00:06:45.020 Thank you for inviting me.
00:06:46.140 Thank you for meeting everyone.
00:06:47.980 I loved hearing everyone's views.
00:06:49.920 It was really interesting, you know, hearing about, you know, the stats as well about men and
00:06:54.940 women and who swipes and I love hearing about you also talking about, you know, positivity
00:07:05.220 with your, your guy.
00:07:06.760 It was really good.
00:07:09.320 Yeah, that's it for me.
00:07:11.220 Go ahead.
00:07:12.660 I've had a really good time.
00:07:14.220 I actually, this is my first podcast, to be honest.
00:07:16.080 Oh, yeah?
00:07:16.520 I was very nervous.
00:07:17.620 I was like, oh, what is she going to ask?
00:07:19.660 But I feel like listening to other people's opinions is,
00:07:24.940 has made me a little bit wiser, honestly.
00:07:28.240 Like, yeah, like you said, the stats and I did ask about the stats because I have seen
00:07:32.560 your podcast and I know you've got stats.
00:07:34.120 So I had to ask the question.
00:07:35.840 And, um.
00:07:36.380 Did you change your opinion on anything or maybe, um, something that changed the way
00:07:41.540 you viewed the world a little bit?
00:07:42.800 Something you never thought of?
00:07:45.480 Um, I'd like to say.
00:07:48.480 Could be no.
00:07:49.280 No is okay.
00:07:49.660 Women, who did we say were picky?
00:07:51.720 Men.
00:07:52.580 I feel like women could potentially be more picky.
00:07:56.720 I mean, because I'm picky.
00:07:58.580 So I get that.
00:07:59.980 And sometimes I think I'm picky for the wrong reasons because then I'm just like, oh, why
00:08:04.520 did I do that?
00:08:05.540 So, but definitely I can see why women are more picky because I think every single one
00:08:11.600 of us women in this room are picky.
00:08:12.780 So we are probably the most pickiest people.
00:08:15.880 I get it.
00:08:16.820 And, um, yeah, so that's what you definitely showed me.
00:08:19.520 But however, I'm Rita.
00:08:21.360 You can find me on Instagram and TikTok.
00:08:24.020 It's R-E-E-T-A underscore X.
00:08:27.160 And, uh, you can find me on Spotify or the music platforms.
00:08:30.400 Um, please stream my music.
00:08:31.660 It's actually called Mind Your Business.
00:08:33.280 Funny enough.
00:08:34.300 Um, so yeah, find me and speak to you guys soon.
00:08:38.020 Go ahead.
00:08:39.260 Um, I've really enjoyed being on this podcast.
00:08:41.580 Thank you for having me.
00:08:43.000 Um, listening to all everyone's opinions and the statistics, it's actually made me wonder
00:08:47.300 in society, who are, who's viewed as the prize, men or women?
00:08:52.660 So that's just, I believe that.
00:08:55.860 Oh, yeah.
00:08:57.220 I do believe that.
00:08:58.620 I actually believe that.
00:09:00.000 But, um, yeah, you can find me on all socials as I am unique, double eyes.
00:09:03.600 And yeah, that is me.
00:09:05.540 Great stuff.
00:09:06.280 Well, thanks ever so much for having me on Pearl.
00:09:07.740 Pleasure as always.
00:09:08.580 Um, so I think a key thing to take away from this is Mark Manson, the writer, he wrote
00:09:14.940 that book, um, not, I'm not giving a fuck or whatever it's called the blogger, the writer,
00:09:18.920 et cetera, et cetera.
00:09:19.400 He made a really great point, which is the best form of dating advice is self-improvement
00:09:25.580 or really the only form of dating advice is self-improvement.
00:09:28.680 Like in the end, particularly for guys, but for women as well, we've got to be working
00:09:32.600 on ourselves the whole time, right?
00:09:34.400 In, in all different areas, you know, uh, whether that's physique, whether it's fashion
00:09:38.680 and grooming, whether it's, uh, spirituality, whether it's your finances, all of these different
00:09:44.080 things, we've got to be working on all these different areas of our life the whole time.
00:09:46.740 Now there is also social skills or what we used to call game.
00:09:50.340 That's important, but it's only one part of the bigger puzzle.
00:09:52.940 So I think, you know, I mean, it's sometimes people can watch these podcasts so they can
00:09:56.960 think, Oh, it's all doom and gloom.
00:09:59.060 Like it's only the top 1% who are getting any action and everything like that.
00:10:01.780 But the reality is you can transcend.
00:10:03.460 You've just got to work on yourself.
00:10:04.940 So, um, anyway, if you can follow, if you'd like to follow me, I'm on all social platforms,
00:10:09.280 YouTube, uh, Twitter and, uh, TikTok and also Instagram at real Troy Francis.
00:10:15.080 So follow me there.
00:10:15.920 And if you want help with the dating and so on and so forth, you can book a free call with
00:10:19.340 me.
00:10:20.080 Uh, just go over there.
00:10:21.520 You'll see links under my videos and, um, yeah, we can have a chat and see how I can
00:10:25.920 help.
00:10:29.820 Um, it's my first time being on a podcast and it was really good.
00:10:33.320 I really enjoyed it.
00:10:34.120 I was a bit nervous at the start, but, um, as we went on, I got the hang of it and thank
00:10:38.760 you for inviting me.
00:10:39.660 It was really good.
00:10:40.680 Um, yeah, so my social media, it's queen.delice, delice is spelled D-E-L-I-C-E because a lot of
00:10:49.320 people spell it wrong, but, um, yeah, I'm on all social media platforms.
00:10:54.220 Thank you.
00:10:54.720 Thank you for coming.
00:10:55.920 Um, go ahead.
00:10:57.060 Hey, thanks.
00:10:58.020 So I just want to say thank you for so much for having me.
00:11:00.460 Um, my social media is president or president spelt normal A-U-R-S.
00:11:09.000 And I feel like my take on the situation is, on the topic is, as it was before, um, beauty
00:11:17.860 isn't defined by how people find you or how people see you.
00:11:21.720 As long as you love yourself and you're assertive in yourself, then that's all that matters.
00:11:27.240 It's nice, pretty lies to finish the show.
00:11:35.160 She's excited.
00:11:36.100 She's like, well, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, but it helps if you're,
00:11:41.380 I need the elephant.
00:11:42.660 But, but, but, but it helps if you're hot.
00:11:44.500 But, yeah.
00:11:46.920 Couldn't have said it better.
00:11:47.760 If you're Rihanna, it's bad, it's bad.
00:11:50.580 Stop using Rihanna as an example because you're never going to go anywhere.
00:11:54.260 Yeah, and there's someone out there that doesn't find Rihanna nice.
00:11:57.640 Show me, show me a guy that thinks she's ugly.
00:11:59.080 But she's nice.
00:12:00.260 No one says she was ugly.
00:12:01.240 Rihanna's absolutely beautiful.
00:12:02.200 No one's ugly.
00:12:03.440 No, in, in, no one is ugly.
00:12:05.420 What about James Altucher?
00:12:06.280 He only got two.
00:12:07.300 He wasn't ugly.
00:12:10.740 Do we need to see how the victim...
00:12:12.160 He wasn't ugly, yeah.
00:12:13.440 He just wasn't attractive to us.
00:12:15.380 Yeah, but Rihanna is beautiful, just to put it out there.
00:12:18.240 She's a 10 out of 10 in my eyes.
00:12:19.240 Just be assertive and confident in yourself.
00:12:20.860 Yeah.
00:12:21.260 Love yourself.
00:12:21.800 Love yourself.
00:12:22.480 Okay, well, you know what?
00:12:24.720 This sounds nice, but it won't change your results in the world.
00:12:29.800 I encourage everyone to get to the gym, you know, eat healthy.
00:12:34.000 Yes.
00:12:34.840 You know, try to be more charismatic.
00:12:37.680 Many of you know I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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