JustPearlyThings - They Have Been Programmed Beyond Saving

00:00:00.000 But it's personal preference as well.

00:00:01.900 Not every woman wants to do that, but obviously some women do. 1.00

00:00:04.600 Like me personally as well, I would want to do that as well.

00:00:06.880 I feel like it's always good to have your own,

00:00:08.660 even if your husband does give you that option.

00:00:11.560 But I feel like just have your own.

00:00:13.520 You know, you never know.

00:00:14.480 You don't think that's like having one foot out the door?

00:00:17.720 No, I don't.

00:00:18.600 COVID taught us you need to have more than one income

00:00:20.620 because when work is done.

00:00:22.080 What you're going to have, yeah.

00:00:23.400 You could be a stay-at-home mum and have a home business. 1.00

00:00:26.300 Yeah.

00:00:27.260 You know?

00:00:27.660 I'm just thinking like, wouldn't you rather put that time and energy?

00:00:30.860 You could teach your kids how to do something.

00:00:32.860 You can do both.

00:00:34.540 No.

00:00:35.240 I want to homeschool my kids.

00:00:36.580 I want to homeschool my kids.

00:00:38.080 I do.

00:00:38.520 I definitely do.

00:00:40.520 You can kind of do both, but it's at a cost, right?

00:00:44.060 Yeah.

00:00:44.240 Because if you're not there, someone else is raising your kid.

00:00:46.940 100%.

00:00:47.300 And that's not right.

00:00:48.600 Yeah.

00:00:48.840 And so it's like, it depends.

00:00:49.980 It just depends how you view it.

00:00:51.100 If you think it's okay for someone else to raise your kid instead of you.

00:00:54.800 But I feel like it then depends.

00:00:56.200 If you're a working wife, I feel like, I mean, if you do want to spend time with your kids,

00:00:59.720 you should be able to know how to manage that.

00:01:01.740 You wouldn't work 24-7.

00:01:03.100 You would limit the time, amount of time that you're working to also make sure that you're

00:01:06.720 spending time with your kids as well.

00:01:08.700 So I feel like you can balance it out.

00:01:10.220 Yeah.

00:01:10.520 I'm just saying, especially when they're young, it's like there's only so many hours in a week.

00:01:13.860 I can see when they're in school, right?

00:01:15.460 I think it comes down to circumstances as well, though.

00:01:19.100 Yeah, definitely.

00:01:20.200 Like, look at the inflation.

00:01:22.780 You and your partner, if you're earning the same amount of money and you rely on that money,

00:01:28.900 how is one of you going to drop out?

00:01:30.160 You know, I'm actually excited.

00:01:33.220 I'm going to do a wife school episode on it. 1.00

00:01:34.840 So we have a second channel where we talk about, basically, it's like self-improvement

00:01:39.680 for women.

00:01:40.720 So there's going to be courses in femininity and there's going to be learning to cook better. 1.00

00:01:46.060 And one of the things, actually, as a wife is budgeting that they're going through. 0.72

00:01:48.760 Like, a lot of women want a certain type of lifestyle that they can't afford. 1.00

00:01:52.860 So they want, like, the makeup, the new clothes, the lip filler, Botox, all that.

00:01:57.300 It all adds up, right?

00:01:58.860 And this woman basically said that when she does budgeting with wives, she goes down to, 0.99

00:02:02.960 like, three basic necessities, which is food, shelter, and clothing.

00:02:06.880 And, like, she teaches them how to do hand-me-downs with the kids and, like, how to work within

00:02:10.840 a budget.

00:02:11.380 Guess how much money she spent on a year with 10 kids. 1.00

00:02:14.860 10 kids?

00:02:15.700 10 kids.

00:02:16.360 Guess how much she spent on the kids in a year. 1.00

00:02:18.020 Guess.

00:02:18.600 100K.

00:02:19.760 Over.

00:02:20.320 Oh, less.

00:02:21.240 Yeah, guess.

00:02:21.980 It's going to be shocking.

00:02:23.100 50, 50, 20, 10.

00:02:25.900 Did it really be...

00:02:26.660 10.

00:02:27.080 10.

00:02:27.580 No.

00:02:28.440 10.

00:02:28.820 How is that possible?

00:02:29.760 It was in dollars, so it was 8,000.

00:02:31.760 What?

00:02:32.300 So what she does is she moved out to, like, I don't know what you guys' country is here.

00:02:38.720 And basically her husband, her husband, you know.

00:02:42.860 I don't know what you're talking about.

00:02:44.140 No, you guys have, like, the outskirts of London.

00:02:46.000 It's cheaper, right?

00:02:46.940 Yeah, it is cheaper outside London.

00:02:48.980 Yeah, and so that's what she teaches the wives to do, I guess. 1.00

00:02:52.400 So I think they did Miami.

00:02:54.460 And so she lives, like, an hour and a half outside of, I think, Miami.

00:02:58.420 And so he has to commute really far for work, but the costs are so low that, and she grows

00:03:03.060 her own food.

00:03:04.220 Wow.

00:03:04.580 She teaches, she homeschools her kids, and she does hand-me-downs.

00:03:08.320 Wow.

00:03:08.680 So if you're doing a lot, yeah, it's a lot of work, right?

00:03:11.300 It's a lot.

00:03:11.740 I mean, that's a lot.

00:03:12.520 That's a work in itself.

00:03:13.680 Yeah, no.

00:03:14.560 Yeah, that's a job in itself, definitely.

00:03:16.760 Yeah, that's why she doesn't have a job. 1.00

00:03:18.320 Yeah.

00:03:19.100 She homeschools her kids, right?

00:03:20.620 But women who do want to work, they just would not have time for all that. 1.00

00:03:23.540 No, that's what I'm saying.

00:03:24.680 Like, that's, everything comes at a cost.

00:03:26.100 Yeah.

00:03:26.340 I'm not saying, like, what you should or shouldn't do.

00:03:28.140 Yeah.

00:03:28.220 But what I am saying is, it is possible.

00:03:30.540 Definitely.

00:03:31.120 And a lot of women think it's, like, impossible to stay at home with one income, and he's

00:03:35.160 going to make more money if he's able to work more when you're at home.

00:03:38.640 100%.

00:03:38.880 That's if they're allowed to get overtime, though.

00:03:41.440 If you're on a set wage, you know what I mean?

00:03:42.720 You've got to think about it.

00:03:43.320 And I think it depends on what you want to do with your kids as well, because if you

00:03:45.940 want to take them on holiday, 10K, that's not...

00:03:48.680 That's not feasible.

00:03:49.760 But that's lifestyle.

00:03:51.700 Yeah.

00:03:52.060 Right?

00:03:52.380 100%.

00:03:52.860 So it's, like, that's choosing, like, lifestyle.

00:03:55.680 No, my kids need to fly out by all means.

00:03:57.260 So it's kind of a trade-off when you think about it.

00:04:03.260 Like, what's more important, the trip or spending time with their mom every day?

00:04:06.420 Yeah, they do that every day.

00:04:07.560 They can fly out.

00:04:08.680 Go to their auntie somewhere for six weeks.

00:04:11.980 I mean, it depends how you view it, right?

00:04:14.500 Like, some people want their kids to just be...

00:04:16.700 I had a girl on her show that didn't want... 1.00

00:04:18.500 She doesn't want any teacher talking to her kid, because she doesn't want anyone else 0.92

00:04:22.480 to influence the children other than the family.

00:04:24.200 But then her children will find it difficult to be in the outside world of real reality

00:04:27.960 because they won't know how to communicate.

00:04:31.160 I don't...

00:04:31.640 You know, I used to think like that, but, you know, I have cousins, and they're, like,

00:04:35.280 the most sheltered.

00:04:36.400 Like, they're all homeschooled, and they were so...

00:04:38.840 Guys, you don't even know. 0.53

00:04:39.620 Like, we always thought they were, like, the crazy Catholic family because it was, like, 1.00

00:04:43.320 the dad, like, wouldn't let her show her knee. 0.62

00:04:46.180 It was like that, you know?

00:04:47.240 But the kids turned out so good.

00:04:49.120 Like, they're all really smart.

00:04:50.660 They all are normal.

00:04:52.620 Like, it's...

00:04:53.260 You'd be surprised.

00:04:54.560 Yes.

00:04:55.440 They socialize all right.

00:04:56.620 They socialize with other people.

00:04:57.740 Yeah.

00:04:58.200 They're all...

00:04:59.560 Actually, I don't want to say their names, but she's married.

00:05:02.720 She's too young to be married. 1.00

00:05:04.860 All the boys are married.

00:05:06.140 Yeah.

00:05:06.560 There are three out of the...

00:05:07.520 The three oldest, because I think there's five or six, are married.

00:05:10.640 So...

00:05:10.720 Yeah.

00:05:11.000 No, five, because they were trying to catch up to us.

00:05:13.040 We were six.

00:05:13.460 The two are young.

00:05:18.180 Okay.

00:05:18.640 I'm going to read Super Chats really quick, and then we're going to close out the show

00:05:22.200 so you can give any final thoughts, plug any social media.

00:05:24.840 You guys are a really good group today, so this was fun.

00:05:27.380 Thanks.

00:05:29.380 All right, guys.

00:05:30.040 Make sure you like the video and subscribe to the channel.

00:05:33.060 Guys, if you've watched two or more of my videos and you do not subscribe, we have beef,

00:05:39.600 okay?

00:05:39.920 I...

00:05:40.200 It's not cool to just be watching and not...

00:05:43.480 I lost the Super Chats again, so we're going to do the final thoughts first, so you go

00:05:46.760 and then go around.

00:05:47.840 Okay.

00:05:48.160 What should I say?

00:05:51.020 Any thought you had on the conversation?

00:05:53.320 You know, if you have any social media you want them to follow you on, go ahead.

00:05:57.760 Yes.

00:05:57.780 I mean, that would be lovely.

00:05:58.980 My name is Vina Rose.

00:06:00.300 You can find me everywhere.

00:06:01.880 I have also a website, vinarosemusic.com.

00:06:04.480 I would love to, you know, to see you there and, you know, check it out, my music on all

00:06:09.760 the streaming platforms.

00:06:11.520 And it was really, really great being here tonight.

00:06:14.560 Thank you for inviting me because I think we all need to have more conversations about,

00:06:19.520 like, uncomfortable topics.

00:06:20.780 And I'm a very big fan of this type of, you know, thing.

00:06:23.960 Sometimes women and men, we need more communication. 1.00

00:06:27.060 So I'm very glad, you know, that I'm here tonight and also, like, expressing my views

00:06:32.420 and having, you know, to listen to everyone's view.

00:06:35.900 Yeah.

00:06:36.080 And I really like that.

00:06:36.740 I love the green, by the way.

00:06:37.960 I know I said it earlier, but I love that color.

00:06:40.380 Thank you.

00:06:40.800 Thank you.

00:06:41.380 Go ahead.

00:06:42.120 I really enjoyed being, like, here today.

00:06:45.020 Thank you for inviting me.

00:06:46.140 Thank you for meeting everyone.

00:06:47.980 I loved hearing everyone's views.

00:06:49.920 It was really interesting, you know, hearing about, you know, the stats as well about men and

00:06:54.940 women and who swipes and I love hearing about you also talking about, you know, positivity 0.64

00:07:05.220 with your, your guy.

00:07:06.760 It was really good.

00:07:09.320 Yeah, that's it for me.

00:07:11.220 Go ahead.

00:07:12.660 I've had a really good time.

00:07:14.220 I actually, this is my first podcast, to be honest.

00:07:16.080 Oh, yeah?

00:07:16.520 I was very nervous.

00:07:17.620 I was like, oh, what is she going to ask?

00:07:19.660 But I feel like listening to other people's opinions is,

00:07:24.940 has made me a little bit wiser, honestly.

00:07:28.240 Like, yeah, like you said, the stats and I did ask about the stats because I have seen

00:07:32.560 your podcast and I know you've got stats.

00:07:34.120 So I had to ask the question.

00:07:35.840 And, um.

00:07:36.380 Did you change your opinion on anything or maybe, um, something that changed the way

00:07:41.540 you viewed the world a little bit?

00:07:42.800 Something you never thought of?

00:07:45.480 Um, I'd like to say.

00:07:48.480 Could be no.

00:07:49.280 No is okay.

00:07:49.660 Women, who did we say were picky? 1.00

00:07:51.720 Men.

00:07:52.580 I feel like women could potentially be more picky. 1.00

00:07:56.720 I mean, because I'm picky.

00:07:58.580 So I get that.

00:07:59.980 And sometimes I think I'm picky for the wrong reasons because then I'm just like, oh, why

00:08:04.520 did I do that?

00:08:05.540 So, but definitely I can see why women are more picky because I think every single one 1.00

00:08:11.600 of us women in this room are picky. 1.00

00:08:12.780 So we are probably the most pickiest people.

00:08:15.880 I get it.

00:08:16.820 And, um, yeah, so that's what you definitely showed me.

00:08:19.520 But however, I'm Rita.

00:08:21.360 You can find me on Instagram and TikTok.

00:08:24.020 It's R-E-E-T-A underscore X. 1.00

00:08:27.160 And, uh, you can find me on Spotify or the music platforms.

00:08:30.400 Um, please stream my music.

00:08:31.660 It's actually called Mind Your Business.

00:08:33.280 Funny enough.

00:08:34.300 Um, so yeah, find me and speak to you guys soon.

00:08:38.020 Go ahead.

00:08:39.260 Um, I've really enjoyed being on this podcast.

00:08:41.580 Thank you for having me.

00:08:43.000 Um, listening to all everyone's opinions and the statistics, it's actually made me wonder

00:08:47.300 in society, who are, who's viewed as the prize, men or women?

00:08:52.660 So that's just, I believe that.

00:08:55.860 Oh, yeah.

00:08:57.220 I do believe that.

00:08:58.620 I actually believe that.

00:09:00.000 But, um, yeah, you can find me on all socials as I am unique, double eyes.

00:09:03.600 And yeah, that is me.

00:09:05.540 Great stuff.

00:09:06.280 Well, thanks ever so much for having me on Pearl.

00:09:07.740 Pleasure as always.

00:09:08.580 Um, so I think a key thing to take away from this is Mark Manson, the writer, he wrote 0.97

00:09:14.940 that book, um, not, I'm not giving a fuck or whatever it's called the blogger, the writer, 0.96

00:09:18.920 et cetera, et cetera.

00:09:19.400 He made a really great point, which is the best form of dating advice is self-improvement

00:09:25.580 or really the only form of dating advice is self-improvement.

00:09:28.680 Like in the end, particularly for guys, but for women as well, we've got to be working

00:09:32.600 on ourselves the whole time, right?

00:09:34.400 In, in all different areas, you know, uh, whether that's physique, whether it's fashion

00:09:38.680 and grooming, whether it's, uh, spirituality, whether it's your finances, all of these different

00:09:44.080 things, we've got to be working on all these different areas of our life the whole time.

00:09:46.740 Now there is also social skills or what we used to call game.

00:09:50.340 That's important, but it's only one part of the bigger puzzle.

00:09:52.940 So I think, you know, I mean, it's sometimes people can watch these podcasts so they can

00:09:56.960 think, Oh, it's all doom and gloom.

00:09:59.060 Like it's only the top 1% who are getting any action and everything like that.

00:10:01.780 But the reality is you can transcend.

00:10:03.460 You've just got to work on yourself.

00:10:04.940 So, um, anyway, if you can follow, if you'd like to follow me, I'm on all social platforms,

00:10:09.280 YouTube, uh, Twitter and, uh, TikTok and also Instagram at real Troy Francis.

00:10:15.080 So follow me there.

00:10:15.920 And if you want help with the dating and so on and so forth, you can book a free call with

00:10:19.340 me.

00:10:20.080 Uh, just go over there.

00:10:21.520 You'll see links under my videos and, um, yeah, we can have a chat and see how I can

00:10:25.920 help.

00:10:29.820 Um, it's my first time being on a podcast and it was really good.

00:10:33.320 I really enjoyed it.

00:10:34.120 I was a bit nervous at the start, but, um, as we went on, I got the hang of it and thank

00:10:38.760 you for inviting me.

00:10:39.660 It was really good.

00:10:40.680 Um, yeah, so my social media, it's queen.delice, delice is spelled D-E-L-I-C-E because a lot of

00:10:49.320 people spell it wrong, but, um, yeah, I'm on all social media platforms.

00:10:54.220 Thank you.

00:10:54.720 Thank you for coming.

00:10:55.920 Um, go ahead.

00:10:57.060 Hey, thanks.

00:10:58.020 So I just want to say thank you for so much for having me.

00:11:00.460 Um, my social media is president or president spelt normal A-U-R-S.

00:11:09.000 And I feel like my take on the situation is, on the topic is, as it was before, um, beauty

00:11:17.860 isn't defined by how people find you or how people see you.

00:11:21.720 As long as you love yourself and you're assertive in yourself, then that's all that matters.

00:11:27.240 It's nice, pretty lies to finish the show.

00:11:35.160 She's excited.

00:11:36.100 She's like, well, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, but it helps if you're,

00:11:41.380 I need the elephant.

00:11:42.660 But, but, but, but it helps if you're hot.

00:11:44.500 But, yeah.

00:11:46.920 Couldn't have said it better.

00:11:47.760 If you're Rihanna, it's bad, it's bad.

00:11:50.580 Stop using Rihanna as an example because you're never going to go anywhere.

00:11:54.260 Yeah, and there's someone out there that doesn't find Rihanna nice. 0.80

00:11:57.640 Show me, show me a guy that thinks she's ugly. 1.00

00:11:59.080 But she's nice. 0.50

00:12:00.260 No one says she was ugly. 0.93

00:12:01.240 Rihanna's absolutely beautiful.

00:12:02.200 No one's ugly.

00:12:03.440 No, in, in, no one is ugly.

00:12:05.420 What about James Altucher?

00:12:06.280 He only got two.

00:12:07.300 He wasn't ugly.

00:12:10.740 Do we need to see how the victim...

00:12:12.160 He wasn't ugly, yeah.

00:12:13.440 He just wasn't attractive to us.

00:12:15.380 Yeah, but Rihanna is beautiful, just to put it out there. 0.64

00:12:18.240 She's a 10 out of 10 in my eyes.

00:12:19.240 Just be assertive and confident in yourself.

00:12:20.860 Yeah.

00:12:21.260 Love yourself.

00:12:21.800 Love yourself.

00:12:22.480 Okay, well, you know what?

00:12:24.720 This sounds nice, but it won't change your results in the world.

00:12:29.800 I encourage everyone to get to the gym, you know, eat healthy.

00:12:34.000 Yes.

00:12:34.840 You know, try to be more charismatic.

00:12:37.680 Many of you know I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

00:12:44.560 If you want to help, please consider sending a super thanks below.

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JustPearlyThings - March 25, 2023

They Have Been Programmed Beyond Saving

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