JustPearlyThings - They Just Do Not Want to Take Responsibility

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00:00:00.920 Don't you believe in empowering women?

00:00:02.980 Of course I believe in empowering.

00:00:03.820 Don't you believe women are smart? 1.00

00:00:05.820 Of course.

00:00:06.540 Okay, so don't you.

00:00:07.680 Okay, so now, because you're treating us like we're dumb.

00:00:10.120 No, I'm not treating women like they're dumb. 1.00

00:00:12.020 I used to be a social worker.

00:00:13.380 So there's certain things that.

00:00:14.440 I didn't even say you used to be a woman. 1.00

00:00:16.060 Never dated a man that lied to you.

00:00:17.360 You never dated a man that lied to you.

00:00:18.320 Every man I've dated that has lied to me was because I was stupid and did not listen to the men around me.

00:00:24.900 And the only way I had better results was by realizing that and making better decisions.

00:00:31.140 But women just want to say nothing is our fault. 0.98

00:00:33.680 But what if your dad's not there?

00:00:35.420 What if you have no brothers, no dad?

00:00:37.840 You don't have a male to go to to say vet this man out.

00:00:40.580 Well, then you seek out males that have your best interest at heart.

00:00:44.480 I know women that have been in that situation, they get involved in a church. 1.00

00:00:48.440 Are you saying all the men in here are not good men because they live in a populated city?

00:00:53.580 I'm not saying that they're not good men.

00:00:55.240 They're gorgeous.

00:00:55.780 We're going to do after party.

00:00:57.560 But there are communities within our overcrowded cities where most of us are a complete mess.

00:01:03.440 There are communities who do very well, have very stable families, none of our messy issues.

00:01:10.460 Yes, but what I'm saying is that depending on where you live will be the family values and morals that you go for.

00:01:17.040 Somebody in South Carolina right out of high school is more likely to get married to maybe a high school sweetheart or something like that because that is what's preached.

00:01:25.620 If you come to New York, that's not preached.

00:01:28.220 It's a whole different.

00:01:29.640 It is like, listen, if you meet a man, he got a good job.

00:01:32.460 He could move on, move in with you, pay half on rent, do it.

00:01:36.120 My brother lives in New York.

00:01:37.840 He got married and had a kid.

00:01:39.860 Is he still married?

00:01:41.460 Yes.

00:01:42.020 Does he have a phone number?

00:01:42.940 Oh, no, he's still married.

00:01:43.920 But where are you guys from?

00:01:46.580 We're, I mean, I'm from Chicago.

00:01:50.860 That's where we're from.

00:01:51.780 Which is another city.

00:01:52.880 But people move to New York.

00:01:54.800 So it's like.

00:01:55.520 But New York is not a place known for people to just marry.

00:02:00.540 I'm telling you, New York, if you date a man for New York, you are on a 10-year dating plan.

00:02:05.640 You will sit there and date a man for eight years.

00:02:08.500 Then he will finally say, let's get married.

00:02:10.700 By the ninth year, you're engaged.

00:02:12.740 Tenth year, you're married.

00:02:14.440 Well, if you get married.

00:02:15.680 Everybody up there is more common law marriages.

00:02:18.480 But you can tell him to get married.

00:02:19.800 But I've also heard that the women in New York aren't marriageable. 1.00

00:02:23.760 I've heard they're very career driven.

00:02:25.820 I've heard they're very masculine.

00:02:27.320 They're not very motherly.

00:02:29.100 And men will date a woman for 10 years that they don't see as wife material, break up with her, and then marry the next chick. 0.61

00:02:36.220 Well, I wouldn't say we're not motherly.

00:02:38.700 I wouldn't say that.

00:02:40.200 I would say, are we career driven?

00:02:41.620 Yes.

00:02:41.980 But think about it.

00:02:42.780 There's so much poverty in New York.

00:02:44.060 New York is an expensive city.

00:02:45.740 Not everybody comes from a good background.

00:02:47.860 So you're going to thrive to be more career driven because you have to make it.

00:02:52.300 And you hope along that way you find a man that will want to make it with you.

00:02:56.280 But I believe that women should go back to not working. 1.00

00:02:59.380 I wish I could go back to not working.

00:03:01.540 But it's not in reality.

00:03:02.760 But if we're going to go back to traditionalism, right?

00:03:05.840 So again, because we have this where women want a traditional outcome, but we don't want to be traditional women. 0.98

00:03:12.340 I have nothing against wanting to do your career and be modern.

00:03:17.020 But where I get confused is when modern women ask for traditional outcomes. 1.00

00:03:23.900 So it's like, okay, if you want to stay home and not work, why aren't you a virgin on your wedding day?

00:03:29.480 That's traditional.

00:03:30.620 Why is he not a virgin?

00:03:32.040 No, but you know that's not the same.

00:03:34.860 Of course.

00:03:35.780 I'm just pulling your leg. 0.91

00:03:37.200 If your mother teaches you that at a young age, right?

00:03:39.620 Right.

00:03:39.940 If you go to a lot of these Spanish countries, right?

00:03:43.180 You see 90 Day Fiance.

00:03:44.440 They always go to a Spanish country, you know, Asian country, and they get their little nice young wives because that's what's being taught to these women how to be a wife, how to be a mother. 1.00

00:03:53.940 But over the age of 18, it's your job to learn.

00:03:57.880 So right now, the average age of first marriage is 30.

00:04:01.200 Okay?

00:04:01.580 Women are getting married at 30.

00:04:03.840 So now you have 10 years to figure it out.

00:04:07.340 You can surround yourself by wives, right? 0.99

00:04:09.760 You can learn how to cook, learn how to do the traditional thing.

00:04:12.520 Like, there's no more excuses anymore, especially with the Internet.

00:04:16.640 You can learn what you want to learn.

00:04:17.800 You're in the real world by then.

00:04:19.100 By 18, you're in the real world by then, right?

00:04:21.780 So if you really think about it, the average woman might lose her virginity at 16, right?

00:04:26.980 So if the average woman, let's say, loses her virginity at 16, right, and your mother didn't tell you the values of no sex before marriage or whatever like that, you're already tainted by 18.

00:04:36.180 Okay.

00:04:36.380 Okay.

00:04:36.700 So fine.

00:04:37.280 We take the purity out of it.

00:04:38.660 But there's still other things you can do to be a traditional woman.

00:04:41.480 It's not all about purity.

00:04:42.680 I just use that as an example, right?

00:04:44.260 That's just one tenant of it, right?

00:04:46.820 Like, you can get a job working with children, right?

00:04:50.020 That would prepare you to be a mother, right?

00:04:52.540 You could, you could.

00:04:53.580 Which is a low-paying job.

00:04:55.320 You could, you could, but right, but, but traditional women, it's not about money. 1.00

00:04:59.320 It's about family, right?

00:05:01.360 You could, you could surround yourself by wives. 0.94

00:05:03.620 He was talking about femininity coaches.

00:05:05.360 Like, there's ways that women can improve. 1.00

00:05:07.680 We just choose not to.

00:05:09.120 But if we're busy, so what you said earlier, right?

00:05:11.020 Yeah.

00:05:11.120 Let me tell you what you said earlier.

00:05:11.940 You said more women have their own apartments and these men are able to come over and this and that. 0.99

00:05:16.660 More women, women move out of their parents' home earlier, right? 1.00

00:05:20.960 No, well, well, then it's been in history.

00:05:23.280 Yeah.

00:05:23.640 Yeah.

00:05:23.760 So women move out of their parents' home earlier than a man were, right? 0.99

00:05:26.540 A man will stay home longer, right? 1.00

00:05:28.160 We.

00:05:28.320 No, no, I didn't say that.

00:05:30.020 I said before women would go from the, the parents' house to the husband's. 1.00

00:05:35.120 Yeah, no, but what I'm trying to say is that in this day and age, more women are getting 0.99

00:05:38.840 like their own apartments earlier and things like that, right?

00:05:41.500 Well, if that's true, women can't afford it. 1.00

00:05:43.360 So women have way more debt than men. 0.99

00:05:45.300 But that's the thing about it, right?

00:05:46.340 If women are venturing out early, of course, they're going to want to make more money. 1.00

00:05:49.920 They're going to want to have better jobs. 0.61

00:05:52.040 But them trying to work and support themselves, how are they going to be able to sit there and

00:05:57.360 be like, okay, let me take, first of all, there's not a lot of classes that are available

00:06:00.580 to show women how to sit there to be- 0.78

00:06:04.880 Google, femininity classes.

00:06:05.420 But how many-

00:06:05.840 Google.

00:06:06.040 Hence all this race and female coaches. 1.00

00:06:07.300 Like, there's, there's, there's so many classes.

00:06:09.780 It's booming right now.

00:06:10.980 Like, it's not.

00:06:11.620 No, but now it is because now women are starting to be like, hey, maybe we don't like this 1.00

00:06:15.900 whole equality movement, but-

00:06:17.840 There's churches, you can like find wives. 1.00

00:06:20.040 Like, there's always people you can surround yourself with.

00:06:22.560 That's now that they're doing that.

00:06:24.280 Ten years ago, this is not what they were teaching us ten years ago.

00:06:27.060 Ten years, they're pushing women to work in this field, work in that field, do this, 0.99

00:06:31.740 do that.

00:06:32.320 So right now, maybe this newer generation coming up, the women have a better chance of learning 1.00

00:06:37.600 how to go back to traditional ways and being wives again. 1.00

00:06:40.120 But we went through a whole era where women, you better get up and work, because there were 1.00

00:06:44.000 a lot of men that weren't working.

00:06:45.660 So women better get up and work and help the household and- 1.00

00:06:48.240 Men still out-earn women. 0.86

00:06:50.080 But then again, we go back to the childhood, all right?

00:06:53.020 And what parents taught us.

00:06:54.440 So if my mom taught me how to cook and how to clean and to look after the house and to

00:06:59.160 paint the walls, so this kind of prepares me for the wifiness of the situation, right?

00:07:03.360 So again, it's not just schools, it's not universities, it's not like education system

00:07:08.180 that is fully responsible for being as good wives or good husbands. 1.00

00:07:12.900 It's our upbringing and where we come from.

00:07:15.340 And the more we're not getting it at home, the more we're crappier at it, right?

00:07:19.240 Correct.

00:07:19.800 And that's why it's so important for families to stay together.

00:07:22.380 That's why women should not have sold out the men to the government. 1.00

00:07:26.500 Because now the next generation of women has all these problems where we don't know how 1.00

00:07:31.080 to be wives. 0.99

00:07:32.260 And even above all this stuff, like what percent of women will obey their husband? 0.95

00:07:37.040 Because if you want to be in a traditional marriage, no, it doesn't.

00:07:40.400 It's not if he leads right.

00:07:41.940 That's not biblical.

00:07:43.800 It's not submit when I feel like it.

00:07:45.760 It's submit all the time and support him even when he makes the wrong decision.

00:07:49.260 The Titanic goes down with the shit.

00:07:53.560 The captain, you go down with the shit.

00:07:55.220 No, but the Bible does say that the wife should submit to her husband. 0.84

00:07:58.480 But it also says that this husband should be able to lead, should be able to actually

00:08:02.660 take care of his family.

00:08:04.240 So if you can't take care of your family and I have to now go out and work.

00:08:07.140 The issue you're going into is now it's, oh, he's leading, like when I decide he's leaving.

00:08:11.860 Now it's based on your feelings.

00:08:14.320 That's the problem.

00:08:15.060 Like that's why men get frustrated when they go to church because they go to church and 0.54

00:08:17.860 women, there's not even like women that will actually submit to their husbands. 0.99

00:08:21.600 It's, oh, I'll submit when I feel like he's leading.

00:08:23.680 But you're only going to do that when you're comfortable with him.

00:08:26.640 Think about it.

00:08:27.220 So you think any man, like let's say if I start dating John, right?

00:08:30.900 If I start dating John tomorrow, I should just already be like, go ahead and lead me.

00:08:34.200 Lead the way.

00:08:34.660 Everything you do, I'm going to trust in you.

00:08:36.080 Yes, yes.

00:08:36.940 What if he has a whole secret life as a heroin addict or something?

00:08:40.040 But this is, you can't get anything good going into, like you can't, you can't go into

00:08:45.040 things in bad faith.

00:08:46.560 Like you will never get a good outcome if you're going into things in bad faith.

00:08:50.500 If you're making like the men of the future pay for the mistakes of your past, like then

00:08:56.200 there's no future.

00:08:57.780 Imagine if a man came to you and it's like, oh, I need to go through your phone.

00:09:02.160 Okay.

00:09:02.420 Like I'm not going to, I'm not going to pay for dinner because you might be talking to 10 other

00:09:05.640 guys.

00:09:05.900 You'd think he's crazy, but women will put the mistakes of their exes on the men of their 1.00

00:09:11.400 future.

00:09:11.860 But I think, but I think it would be unwise for a woman to meet a man and tomorrow be like, 1.00

00:09:17.600 go ahead and lead the way.

00:09:18.780 You're still getting to know him.

00:09:19.600 Well, you're supposed to, you're supposed to have like your brothers or you're supposed

00:09:22.960 to vet him.

00:09:24.360 Can I ask Johnny a question?

00:09:25.720 Because you work with men helping them date at the, you know, is that something that men

00:09:31.060 generally are one in the men you're working with for a woman who will obey them?

00:09:37.620 I wouldn't use the word obey.

00:09:39.240 You know, it sounds quite controlling.

00:09:40.960 But as I said earlier, allows them to, to take the lead, you know, femininity is about 1.00

00:09:49.660 receiving, receiving, masculinity is about giving, you know, so just allow space for that.

00:09:56.500 An example is I was speaking to a friend of mine.

00:09:59.000 She went away with her friend, two girls and two boyfriends.

00:10:03.740 They emptied the car.

00:10:04.740 They had the bags.

00:10:06.060 One, one of them independently just grabbed her bags and took them straight to the door.

00:10:11.160 The other one allowed her guy to take the bags and I take them to the door.

00:10:15.860 And the friend goes, why did you let him take the bags?

00:10:18.380 It's little things like that, that I give him space to do.

00:10:21.680 So he, he, he feels like he's, he has a role in the relationship.

00:10:26.860 Yeah, I, I, I sort of, I fear though.

00:10:30.080 All these little micro things on a day to day.

00:10:32.360 Yeah, yeah, I, I completely agree.

00:10:34.400 I think that there is a real magic that happens when you have a relationship where a woman can

00:10:41.560 be feminine and a man can be masculine. 0.98

00:10:43.580 I think that there's a real sparkle.

00:10:45.600 Yeah.

00:10:46.300 But I think that actually, I don't, well, it's a real sparkle.

00:10:56.840 question i have really it's just that from my experience if i'm dealing with a man who is

00:11:04.200 fawning over me and would obey my every command like i would think he was pathetic and disgusting 0.88

00:11:11.960 i didn't say he obey you i said you're supposed to obey him no i know but i'm just saying like

00:11:17.240 i i personally feel like men and women that we are different but i don't think that i can

00:11:24.120 not empathize with men at all and i feel like wouldn't um i don't know the kind of men that i

00:11:33.160 would want to be with you know sort of high intelligence very interesting kind of guys

00:11:38.440 i would think that they would lose respect for me if i you know flatly obeyed without any kind of

00:11:47.160 challenge you know for me i think that a relationship should be you should be challenging each other to

00:11:52.360 be the best versions of yourself absolutely to grow and yeah and if that if that means that

00:11:58.040 on you know in an appropriate way on you know on appropriate occasions a wife has to tell her husband

00:12:06.600 i think you're taking the wrong course of action i think you know you could behave in a way that's

00:12:11.560 more effective that's cool and you know a good husband would want to hear that if it was appropriate

00:12:18.760 you're absolutely right um one of the exercises i do with anyone i first woke with them is hash out

00:12:25.960 what they want from someone you know of course the superficial aspects but the character traits

00:12:31.640 and one thing that comes up time and time again is this word challenge that's exactly what you're

00:12:36.120 talking about it's this pushback it keeps the respect in the relationship it lets the other know where

00:12:41.880 the line is and what your boundaries are and i feel and back to like one of the earliest points we had in

00:12:47.080 this conversation today we spoke about why people leave um i feel like people leave because they

00:12:53.160 attach so much fear to relaying what's important to them that they never actually have that conversation

00:13:00.760 and they just end up getting frustrated and then they walk but my point isn't that you can't offer

00:13:05.880 your perspective my point at the end of the day it's his decision that's traditional like that's

00:13:10.760 that's if we're going to go back to like i've read the writings of people like 100 200 years ago when

00:13:15.320 they describe like real traditional relationships they don't really exist anymore and the whole

00:13:19.800 point is like if you want to be in an actual traditional relationship you're supposed to obey

00:13:24.600 your husband like at the end of the day it's his decision it's not saying like you can't give him any

00:13:29.400 input let me ask you a question do you feel that if a woman meets a man she should let him lead

00:13:34.760 like straight off the the gate like when do you think a man should start leading in a relationship

00:13:40.520 instantly do you think instantly we go on our first date for a couple you're measuring it you're

00:13:46.040 measuring it straight away right like is he making the plan for the date or is he a bit indecisive and

00:13:51.960 sort of on the fence and he's asking you i mean you're losing attraction for him right there and then

00:13:57.160 so you're measuring from that right from the get-go yeah okay when you say let him lead it sounds like

00:14:03.880 like you have to allow him to i mean like you have to you have to like give it to him you do have to

00:14:09.720 allow you you are in control of yourself right so if i let a man lead me that means that i'm

00:14:14.840 taking my authority when i'm saying hey whatever you say i'm going with what you say so it is you

00:14:20.360 letting him indicating on you following like like it's so interesting language like the way we use

00:14:25.560 language because it's like elite like like i think a trump like that's someone who's like a leader

00:14:30.360 like melania doesn't let him lead he just leads and she can either follow or not yeah but but that's

00:14:35.640 the he but she loves to be i don't want to i don't want to call her a puppet but that's what he married

00:14:39.800 he married someone who was easy just to be like hey i need you to be this beauty queen sit here well 1.00

00:14:44.760 look at that's what the top men pick but we all have it yeah i'm sorry if you let me put my five

00:14:50.680 pence in we all have roles right and if there is a let's say let's say family is like a company right

00:14:56.280 so if there is a boss do you obey your boss yes you do obey your boss so if the husband is a boss

00:15:02.280 then you kind of have to obey him anyway i have no problem with obeying my husband and uh but i trust

00:15:09.080 him wholeheartedly so if he does not you know if he betrays my trust then there is other ways and

00:15:15.880 repercussions and perhaps we are not suitable or we are discussing the situation stuff like that but

00:15:21.160 there has to be a head and i have i have to agree with you there has to be a head yeah to every

00:15:26.200 company so if you just say yes you know you do you have to obey in some situations but again we are going

00:15:33.880 back to the trust and the level being built and built and built and working as a teamwork together

00:15:38.680 we're all different i do my bit you do your bit and if i need to i obey you i'm not ashamed i'm proud

00:15:44.280 of it actually because it builds our families bond stronger can i ask you a question pearl now when you

00:15:49.400 meet a man right i'm just two-part question when you meet a man do you let him lead right away

00:15:54.760 do i let him lead i don't think i can let a man lead does he lead right away do you like follow his

00:15:59.160 decisions like right away you meet him you're like you know what you got this yes yes okay so if he

00:16:04.760 came to you let's say first date was november now two months later in january he's like hey i saw this

00:16:13.160 building i think i kind of want to buy it i want you to go in half of me would you do it he's leaving

00:16:20.280 are we married you you're letting him lead and he's telling you for our future this building's

00:16:26.120 going to be it yeah i would say let's let's get married and then i'll i'll go on we can go right

00:16:31.400 ahead you know so you would just no you're letting him leave you know i don't know if that's the best

00:16:36.920 example but that's what i'm saying that's my building but that's what it sounds like when you say

00:16:41.000 just let like you have to get to know the man first before you say okay i trust your judgment to know that

00:16:48.760 you are not going to lead me to a path of destruction so you have to get to know that

00:16:53.080 man you have to know that he can lead himself right i'm not saying like submit to any old guy you meet

00:16:59.160 like but i'm saying if you're going on a date with him i'm saying go in in good faith yes i'll go on

00:17:04.840 dates with good faith actually what you said earlier i get turned off if i if a man supposed to take me on

00:17:08.920 a date and he comes and picks me up and he has no plan of where we're going like lead the way my favorite

00:17:13.640 favorite my favorite thing to tell a guy is lead the way lead especially on a date lead the way this

00:17:17.640 is you i'm following behind you i want to see yeah i want to see because i'm i'm ready to let a man lead

00:17:23.480 i'm tired of working i'm go ahead you want to have three babies go ahead i'm ready but when you meet

00:17:29.960 these men and you're like the new age men especially in after 35 years it's like hey so what do you want

00:17:35.560 to do what do you want to do 50 50 split the bill yeah the 50 50 concept so if i work at the nursery all the

00:17:41.320 time but i think how would i do i get the money to pay 50 50 if i work all these jobs well is that

00:17:47.320 common i've never really had guys want to go 50 50 is that common for you guys in new york that's

00:17:54.760 actually that's like a me thing like i don't know when i grew up i had a lot of like you know male

00:18:01.320 friends it was a mixed group but there were a lot of boys and we were equal this was you know

00:18:06.440 the sort of late 90s early 2000s and we were equal and so it has never occurred to me that if i go on

00:18:15.800 a date i would do anything other than go 50 50. yeah but that's english things really like british thing

00:18:23.160 no i just said like if i went on a date like i know but you're talking about in your childhood that

00:18:27.880 sounded like yes yeah yeah yeah scenario yeah um and i i i i don't think i just i don't think that

00:18:37.320 that is appropriate like i think it's appropriate if you both decide that kids are you know what you

00:18:43.720 want in your life and you know you want to give kids the best possible nutrition so mum's going to 1.00

00:18:50.040 stay at home and breastfeed them and unless she's like fortunate enough to be able to earn from home she 1.00

00:18:57.560 has milk in minimal time you know he is gonna have to be the one providing but like on a first date

00:19:04.680 like i i don't know i find that quite emasculating it's like the idea that someone would have to pay

00:19:11.560 for the privilege of spending time with me it's like no i want to start out like as i've just found

00:19:18.040 that most guys like want to yeah that's like i've never had like a guy didn't want like i can't even

00:19:24.120 yeah no i have i have experienced like yeah discomfort from guys like honestly because i'm

00:19:31.320 not comfortable with them paying if you go on like a lot i do a lot of online dating and there are men

00:19:37.000 who are like hey if we go on a date 50 50 we can go get a coffee but if we go on an actual date i want

00:19:42.600 to make sure i'm not wasting my time and you're not there for a free meal so go 50 50 with me just to

00:19:47.480 prove that you're there for the right reason then i wouldn't go for sure if he thinks i'm there for a

00:19:52.040 free meal like dude really i cook amazing just come over but this is real life like situations

00:19:59.560 and scenarios that women are going through like even there was one guy i met nice guy and i was

00:20:04.440 like okay you know i do want to go on a date with you and he said just to let you know first date

00:20:08.040 we're 50 50. i said okay block like i'm gonna block you because what are you talking about

00:20:13.080 and then he's seen me in person was like hey you don't remember me i don't mr 50 50 i don't please

00:20:18.120 don't talk to me don't try to get a dance with me don't talk to me you're not the type of man you

00:20:22.840 you want me to let you leave but i have to pay you 50 50 on the first date come on i had a story where um

00:20:30.120 friend of mine she went on a date and uh had to prompt the guy to pay he's like oh okay and uh she

00:20:36.760 weren't gonna go home with him so the next day he messaged her for the money back

00:20:41.320 so he wanted free sex in exchange for i'll tell you i'll tell you those guys point of view though

00:20:49.960 it's because like you're not a traditional woman right like because over over traditional women 1.00

00:20:55.400 really get married before 25 because they spend their most fertile years focused on family the

00:21:00.120 most traditional women want families first right so it's not an insult it's not a bad thing it's just 1.00

00:21:04.840 the most traditional it's not a bad thing it's me yeah yeah the most the most traditional women get 0.90

00:21:09.000 married they stay married 25 and under i would say roughly um so it's like they're like why am i

00:21:15.400 paying like why am i doing the traditional thing when i don't get the traditional outcome

00:21:21.160 but that's because it's like it's like we wanted to be equal right we wanted to go to work we wanted

00:21:25.240 to spend our 20s in the workforce and then we do that and then we're like all right now treat me

00:21:30.200 traditionally and so a lot of guys are just confused they're like i thought you guys were modern

00:21:35.240 but it's also the evolution of mankind like a lot of people might look at it like oh back in the day

00:21:40.440 back in the day this that like this is the new way of doing things everything has changed nowadays

00:21:44.920 so i think that in marriages nowadays you can't have a traditional slash modern woman because it 0.99

00:21:50.440 does take some of the pressure and strain off of the guy you can say okay you want the traditional

00:21:54.440 wife who's going to be home have the kids not work but do you really want that or would you like 0.92

00:21:58.520 somebody who is 65 35 with you you spend you pay 65 of the bills i pay 35 of the bills we have the

00:22:05.560 kids do you know what traditional is it's one bank account he controls the money if we're really going

00:22:11.160 to be traditional but most of the times right when the man works most of the time when a man works in

00:22:16.440 a married situation he puts the money in the bank who pays who actually writes out the checks for the

00:22:20.760 bills the woman does that's part of her household duty right but but i'm saying i don't think most

00:22:25.480 relationships are traditional nowadays so i don't think like using modern times like you'd really

00:22:30.600 have to go back and like read like the the history of like traditional relationships but the man would

00:22:36.280 still make the final say on all the expenses so if she was spending money would be off of a budget that 0.99

00:22:41.000 he signed off of or like he told her basically yeah but she's still the one who's dispersing the

00:22:46.120 money right she's still the one who's like okay this has to be done to say he's putting the money in

00:22:49.880 the bank account she's saying the lights are going to be paid right but my my point is though it's still

00:22:54.200 like his decision in a traditional relationship it's still one bank account like it's not her

00:22:59.720 money it's the money for the family that's traditional because traditional is family first

00:23:04.120 but then isn't it the gate to abuse if such occurs no so what is the safety as paramount situation

00:23:14.920 with if he's abusive and then he takes away all the savings so she would she worked at home 20 years 0.99

00:23:21.000 and he worked at work 20 years they have money together and then uh he decides to uh bang his

00:23:28.200 secretary right well well then she's the one there used to be protections there used to be protections 1.00

00:23:33.400 for women but we wanted equality so be equal yeah under under covert law you know which is traditional 0.97

00:23:41.640 or it's it's seen now as the enslavement the financial enslavement of women um but women 1.00

00:23:50.600 did have a veto over major financial decisions so a man couldn't just go you know what we're selling

00:23:56.600 this family home and we're moving to another part of the country yeah she would have a veto um and

00:24:04.280 uh men men also men also in the uk had a responsibility a legal responsibility and could be imprisoned

00:24:12.600 if they were seen to be failing to keep their wives and children in like a state that was

00:24:19.720 i know reasonable for the amount of wealth that they had so if they've got their wife and kids dressed in rags 1.00

00:24:25.240 but they're like in silk suits and they could go to jail for that but they could also go to jail

00:24:31.800 if the wife decided to just go and splurge a load of money run up a load of debts that couldn't be paid 1.00

00:24:37.640 back i saw the law recently there the the writings is like the one in new york where they're talking

00:24:43.000 about why they didn't want women to vote because they were giving like the the privileges that women 0.97

00:24:47.240 had and they're saying we don't want to be equal and one of them was like you could um yeah you

00:24:52.920 could send your husband to jail if he wasn't taking care of you so he literally was like yeah yeah but

00:24:59.320 no no we wanted to be equal so be equal send him on it well you know if you don't pay child support

00:25:04.760 they'll take you to jail if you have a child support order and you do not pay your child support

00:25:09.080 you positively will go to jail until you have the almost like a bailout of a minimum of what you

00:25:14.680 have to pay just to get out which you which is needed because think about it like men are just 0.99

00:25:19.160 having babies all over the place no they're not living their lives women are having babies all over 1.00

00:25:24.760 the place by themselves this is no this is again if a man's getting more than one woman pregnant 0.81

00:25:32.760 that is the women being stupid that is and he's not being played five stupid woman to one 0.52

00:25:38.360 stupid man but that is on the women but you got to think about it right no are you thinking about 1.00

00:25:44.280 anything do you think a man tells you up front everything there's so not so many right but there

00:25:49.880 are men who have did you introduce him to your father did you introduce him to your brother no no

00:25:59.320 women will cry later when their friends said he was toxic their dad said don't date him

00:26:05.480 hey their brother said what are you doing and then the women will whine later about the results you 0.99

00:26:11.720 can when everybody warned no i don't believe this whole the wool was over my eyes i had no idea

00:26:21.320 every man i've dated that has lied to me was because i was stupid and did not listen to the men around me

00:26:28.120 and the only way i had better results was by realizing that and making better decisions but

00:26:34.280 women just want to say nothing is our fault but what if everything was what if you're what if you 1.00

00:26:39.320 have no brothers no dad you don't have a male to go to to say vet this man out well then then you seek

00:26:45.080 out males that have your best interest at heart i know women that have been in that situation they get

00:26:49.800 involved in a church i know women that have been in that situation there's always a way but how do you 0.98

00:26:55.240 know what male is going to have the best interest at heart how many times has a woman been like oh 1.00

00:26:59.880 the average age of first marriage is 30 so you got 10 years to figure it out how would you no no what

00:27:05.080 i'm saying is that how would you know you meet a guy okay we're going to be friends you're thinking

00:27:09.880 this is my friend is my buddy has my back and then he tries to sleep with you one day you're like

00:27:14.040 usually i would say married couples are probably the best well yeah but you can go to you know your

00:27:20.840 church meetings or any of these kind of support groups that are full of men that are in their 70s

00:27:27.000 you know so the likelihood that they're going to be a married man's not going to try to sleep with you

00:27:33.400 as well yeah but think about hang on hang on a minute like why i was literally expecting her to say

00:27:41.800 wouldn't a married man literally she's giving you like five different options but you keep asking but 0.97

00:27:47.480 why but why but why this is what i'm saying this is discussion that that is all about yeah no i know

00:27:52.600 i'm just telling you about the psychology of it so literally women really don't want solutions they 1.00

00:27:57.000 just want to hop on about the problem no there is a saying there is a saying that the most single men

00:28:02.440 are married men the most single men are married men these are you know what's a better saying women 1.00

00:28:07.880 want the married men and they'll chase them down there's a saying i went to a pickup a pickup like boot 0.97

00:28:14.280 camp i don't know maybe this is what you run i don't actually know don't actually know i i but

00:28:19.400 but it was like these guys pay to learn how to like talk to women get laid i just like went to watch

00:28:24.520 one of the instructors said that if he wears a wedding ring he gets more attention from women

00:28:30.040 i believe that yeah women has a puppy it's true it's pre-selection yeah yeah so it's like i i really

00:28:37.480 think this is all projection like the women are like the married men will cheat but it's like now we 0.82

00:28:42.280 chase after the married men and they go for it right you have your own choice whether you're

00:28:46.600 going to go for it or not so if you're married and i'm chasing you and you give in is that my

00:28:51.480 fault is that your fault for not remembering your vows it's like how many people takes to get pregnant

00:28:56.200 too right so how many people responsibility it is no i would say it's the woman's responsible if she

00:29:01.640 gets pregnant yeah of course i would say yes yes yes of course it's my responsibility i choose the 0.97

00:29:07.080 partner i choose the dad for my children and you choose your birth control you choose abortion or

00:29:13.160 not i think until men have equal reproductive rights we have to put it on the women you know 0.98

00:29:19.640 why i can't because i really believe right if women do nothing wrong i think women do a lot of things 1.00

00:29:26.280 wrong but i also defend women i also believe in defending women okay if women had something in our

00:29:32.120 poom pooms right that would block off a man's sperm ever even coming through whether we're on 1.00

00:29:38.520 birth control have a con no like things happen you know my favorite saying is things happen right

00:29:44.680 let's say let's say women wear condoms or like require the men that sleep with them wear condoms i 1.00

00:29:51.000 mean if we the point that i'm trying to make is this right the point i'm trying to make is if we had

00:29:56.440 something in our bodies right that would say i don't want to get pregnant at this time like we had like a

00:30:01.160 door that could just stop around our uterus we do it's called ovulation you can track when you're

00:30:05.080 ovulating but what i'm saying is that we had yeah if we had this in our bodies right we just i mean

00:30:11.560 we this is i'm just making up a scenario right if we had this in our body less women would get 1.00

00:30:17.000 pregnant because think about it science is not always guaranteed right you can be on birth control 1.00

00:30:22.520 get pregnant oh i missed the pill date got pregnant oh the birth control didn't work there's so many

00:30:25.800 reasons why women could get pregnant right even if you track ovulation all that if we had something in 0.99

00:30:30.040 our body after we've had while we're having sex with these men and they're about to go ahead and 0.90

00:30:34.280 come out and we have blockers like tennis blockers less women would be pregnant girl because we'll be 1.00

00:30:40.600 right we got girl we got plan b but but yes we do have plan b but this is this is a scenario that i'm

00:30:48.040 making up this is this is a scenario okay i just want to know okay what where is the excuse when you have

00:30:54.680 okay i can i can tell the guys i can track when i'm ovulating then i can tell the guys

00:30:59.080 that i sleep with to wear condoms then on top of that i can take a plan b on top of that i can get

00:31:04.280 an iud on top of that i can get on the pill on on top of that i can get an abortion it's like what okay 0.54

00:31:10.920 so what so i'm just say these five things right what if you don't believe in abortion right so that

00:31:15.400 answers abortion what if you can't get on birth control because it messes with your system

00:31:19.480 makes you bleed you get fat like that messes you up right what if you are allergic to condoms

00:31:25.800 right what if a guy says but i pulled out and you didn't and he didn't pull out what if you don't

00:31:30.920 have money to afford a plan b like there's so many different situations that real life situations people

00:31:35.800 go through abstinence is for you

00:31:42.280 then at that point i just think it's time to close the legs

00:31:47.400 at this point i think it would be easier for the men to have a device in their wallet that stops the

00:31:52.040 government from reaching into their wallet to take money that will stop the problem don't worry

00:31:56.520 men can have less women will have babies if the government couldn't take money from the men 1.00

00:32:00.440 men can have ai doll that speaks to them and hugs them and it's coming soon them everything it's

00:32:06.360 coming soon see the thing is you're literally you're a smart and that will be the end of humanity

00:32:12.200 you're a smart educated woman so you know about all this stuff there's so many women who come up 1.00

00:32:16.680 in households where they don't okay okay i want to i want to teach you something okay i want i want

00:32:21.480 king could you please um put the internet up on the screen i'm just i'm going to show you this really

00:32:25.960 great like what is this thing you call the internet yeah so so wait wait wait wait i need you to wait

00:32:35.080 okay can you put type in google.com please please type in google.com no just just in case anyone at

00:32:44.200 home is like no no no wait wait google now could you put in birth control methods please

00:32:50.520 thank you there you could just in case anyone but this group without but this is okay you can take it

00:32:59.880 off but guess what this is again if you have the resources for that if you have the resources to

00:33:06.600 afford the internet if you have access to the internet hold on hold on everybody percent of people

00:33:12.680 people have a smartphone how many have a smartphone let's do you you want to do us or uk it doesn't

00:33:21.880 matter worldwide okay um i'm gonna do the us because i don't think worldwide would be a fair comparison

00:33:29.480 um you know what what percent would you say there's not really an excuse okay what percent of people what

00:33:38.120 what number would maybe change your mind that everyone has a choice in this again if you if you

00:33:43.880 know better you do better right there's really people who don't know i would say that they haven't

00:33:49.240 been taught it's hard to believe but i would say typically don't choose better especially women they 1.00

00:33:55.240 just keep making the same mistakes over and over again some of us do yeah okay okay that's where you

00:34:01.000 love okay so so what percent of people do you think own a smartphone i don't know maybe 60 percent 92

00:34:10.280 of people on this okay so now we have zero is this is this is this from again okay but this is a

00:34:18.760 certain demographic that you are no because just across the please nope just across the board i'm looking

00:34:25.960 at it if i go right to my neighborhood right now maybe 60 percent of people might own a phone a

00:34:31.960 smartphone they'll own a phone they have obama phones which don't have internet they have free

00:34:36.440 phones were you saying were you saying in in the black community is that what i'm i'm not trying to

00:34:42.200 say that okay because i looked that up it's 80 it is a little lower it is lower so again yeah but they've

00:34:48.360 all got a friend who they can go look i'm really concerned about getting pregnant can i borrow your phone

00:34:52.920 to look up but you have control methods but you have to you have to know you have to do that yeah

00:34:58.040 you have to know to do that like don't you believe in empowering women i just think of course don't

00:35:03.080 you believe women are smart of course okay so don't you okay so now because you're treating us like 1.00

00:35:08.520 we're dumb no i'm not treating women like they're dumb i used to be a social worker so there's certain

00:35:13.080 things that i'm gonna say you used to be a woman no no i used to be a social worker so there's certain

00:35:17.400 things when you come across certain people you talk with them and you're like wait you didn't know what

00:35:21.320 and to to like someone like me i'm like impossible but there are really people in circumstances and

00:35:26.680 situations that just don't know they never had someone to tell them to teach them if you're somewhere

00:35:31.320 and you go to a rough school and no one's taught you this no one's taught you that they're barely

00:35:35.320 passing you just so the school could get funding from the government there's so many people out

00:35:39.800 there in impoverished neighborhoods and stuff like that i don't have access to internet that don't

00:35:43.720 have funds for plan b you know what i need i need you know do you know what i need i need a soundboard that

00:35:49.160 has the world's smallest violin that plays it might sound like that but you know what it sounds

00:35:56.440 exactly until you until you experience it until you look around and observe it it's gonna feel unreal

00:36:01.880 to you as a person who has seen people like okay okay okay okay okay okay it's really do you know i

00:36:07.400 don't think anybody interacts with more people than me i have to write no no no no do you know how many

00:36:13.880 women have been in this apartment yes yes just this apartment a thousand roughly yeah in a year 1.00

00:36:23.720 so we i i don't know anybody that didn't have a smartphone but that's here isn't it a particular

00:36:29.480 level of women okay i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna move on we're gonna move on i've actually heard that

00:36:35.400 women are more um violent than men you know what it depends on your definition um women are significantly 1.00

00:36:43.400 more likely they're victims of the elderly and babies and children uh and a lot of it gets written

00:36:51.160 off you know as freak accidents until the point where someone goes but why is the rate so high in

00:36:58.840 this particular establishment really oh that's so yeah that's so interesting so like well i mean it's

00:37:06.440 it's kind of profoundly disturbing i think like you know i i find violence generally um frightening and

00:37:15.160 scary but it's like if it's you know um two men or an equal number of men who are kind of equally

00:37:23.240 matched and there's something that is you know fair about that uh whereas yeah no women are 1.00

00:37:32.840 sort of opportunists and it's you know often done for like financial gain or uh because someone is a

00:37:40.440 burden there are those kind of really so they commit violence towards the elderly and towards children

00:37:46.120 yeah there's a book by a woman i forget her name but it's called when she was bad and it's really a

00:37:51.240 horrible read but yeah it's funny enough we have the subject on you know sometimes when i do like social

00:37:58.040 studies and we have experiments right if a man slaps woman or yells at her in public everyone like jumps 0.99

00:38:04.600 in to defend them and if she slaps him or yells at him everyone's just laughing like huh this is funny

00:38:10.360 and this is not okay but violence as you mentioned any any violence is not okay so i cannot just slap a

00:38:17.960 man and expect not to be slapped back because it's equally not okay as simple as that but yeah would you

00:38:24.280 agree with the sentiment loving your job is a privilege not a right oh 100 yeah but actually i

00:38:32.040 think um that there is a level of ingratitude that is um not helping people i think that people are not

00:38:41.560 sufficiently aware that work really is a part of the human condition that we need for its own sake just

00:38:49.960 you know to feel useful to have a reason to get up in the morning to be part of the team um those

00:38:56.840 things are inherently good for us so i think maybe people complain about jobs a little bit too much

00:39:03.960 although you know i do think there is a toxification coming from having too many women in the workforce 1.00

00:39:12.840 i agree with you and disagree with you loving your job is actually a necessity because if we love our what

00:39:18.120 we do we are good at it and we want to strive in it and we enjoy it and as simple as that it's easy

00:39:23.720 for us to do and we can give more to the society it's definitely a privilege because most people don't

00:39:30.280 like where they work but if you like you said uh if you actually love where you work it won't feel like

00:39:35.880 a job it only feels like a job when you don't like it so i agree it's it's a privilege it's not a right

00:39:42.600 you're you're privileged to even be employed with so with unemployment rate being so high you better

00:39:49.160 be blessed and thankful you even have that job complain all you want but you better be thankful

00:39:52.440 you have it yeah and i think um we often hear people not enjoying their job or the workplace the

00:39:59.960 people they work with and i think when you catch yourself in that mindset perhaps just remind yourself

00:40:05.480 what it allows you to go away enjoy outside of work and you know in that sense it is a privilege to be

00:40:11.320 able to to go to work to do that yeah there's some research that shows i think it's seven in ten men

00:40:19.480 are work centered and so the you know part of their life that they get the most satisfaction from

00:40:27.080 is work but that still leaves three in ten who actually need to work for various reasons including

00:40:34.040 psychological but there are other parts of their life from where they're getting more satisfaction and

00:40:40.600 then it's like four in ten women or something like that and so you know women are not prioritizing 1.00

00:40:48.200 needing to love their jobs um you know some some do and that is lovely and i think you know it is there is

00:40:58.040 so much utility in having people who are they have a calling and they're following their passion they

00:41:05.000 really do give so much to society but that's not all of us and that's fine we all strive to grow

00:41:11.640 right in our personal lives in our relationships and education in careers and things like that so

00:41:17.720 if there is a necessity to have a job yes i will do any kind of work cleaning or barista whatever it's

00:41:23.400 all jobs are a wonderful thing to have but eventually i will try to grow and develop into the

00:41:29.800 things i enjoy doing in life and i am good at if i have a talent in singing i want to be a singer

00:41:35.160 eventually right so just just be yourself and grow and give yourself time and be proud

00:41:41.480 are women advancement programs sexist of course no i have no idea no you are discriminating against men

00:41:52.040 like discrimination is it's not discriminating it's just saying hey here's a program we need more

00:41:59.400 women in this field so we offer this program as an incentive come on why are there no male um 1.00

00:42:06.760 advancement programs in industries like only fans and modeling it's called women dominate it's called the 1.00

00:42:12.920 nba the nfl the mlb those are all no no no no i asked you i asked you i asked you you don't answer

00:42:21.800 my question i asked you in um female dominating industries why are there no incentives for men to 1.00

00:42:28.280 get equal pay or advance like teachers no no i was going to just say that teachers there are there are

00:42:33.400 big incentives if you are a especially in in the black community no i asked you about modeling and

00:42:39.160 only fans but this is not a real job no no i asked you i asked you modeling and only fans we could do

00:42:44.920 modeling that's a real job there are plenty of of there's no there's no there's no incentive programs and

00:42:51.240 men make significantly less money than women and modeling correct anything in monetizing beauty women 1.00

00:42:58.600 kill well think about it women in the acting field males still dominate everything in that so it's one 1.00

00:43:04.920 and one entertainment field modeling only so i asked you i asked you modeling that's what i so i asked

00:43:10.440 you in industries that are female-led why are there not incentives how many men want to model how many

00:43:18.040 women want how many women want to be engineers we could do the same thing but no so i think a lot of men 1.00

00:43:26.520 would look okay okay guys guys i work in fashion industry i'm just curious i'm just curious the same

00:43:33.000 amounts four random four random guys if you guys could just take pictures for money would you do it

00:43:39.000 i have a field modeling career i'm hiring you would your dream job be a model 0.99

00:43:48.280 if you get paid another money take money out no i asked i asked if they got paid to do it

00:43:53.160 of course i literally said i had a field modeling career i'm not i'm not lying about that yeah that's

00:43:58.440 what i'm saying i'm hiding you but what i'm saying is that most men are not going to sit there and be

00:44:02.680 like yeah i want to be a full-time model like they're going to want to go but it's like it's so funny

00:44:07.880 you use the same argument like most women don't want to be engineers yeah but they're all good at it 1.00

00:44:13.160 i'm at being engineers so i don't want to be but if you told women if you told more women like hey

00:44:18.120 if you become an engineer you can have you really need to go after the modeling and really if we

00:44:24.920 told both of them the same thing they both would go for it if you told more women you can make over 0.97

00:44:29.480 500 grand a year why isn't it just what people like to do like in no in no industry are you going

00:44:35.560 to get 50 50. like certain groups like certain things based on the culture one and two based on

00:44:42.280 your gender yeah yeah based on your gender you are going to just like certain things like why

00:44:47.960 do we need to like fix it like why do we need to change it what like there's no law stopping

00:44:52.760 anyone from doing anything so why do we need to encourage people to do other things why don't

00:44:57.080 they just do what they like yeah then we'll have nothing to argue about but that's the thing you

00:45:00.440 got to remember growing up you did not see women in wrong wrong it's so wrong because in the media

00:45:07.560 that's all we have like watch any tv show it's always a woman doing a job that she would never in 1.00

00:45:14.200 never do like you have all these women and these ceo no look at the media the last 50 years it's all 0.99

00:45:20.760 women's empowerment bullshit the last 50 years let me tell you something when i was young you know

00:45:26.040 what i saw things like married with children right stay at home mom dad who goes away i saw every single

00:45:33.000 family every cosby shows homer simpson he's the stupid dad the smart mom family guy the stupid dad the smart 0.56

00:45:40.680 mom but and don't still show that dad's going to work and mom is kind of a homemaker but they always

00:45:46.840 paint the dad as dumb and the woman knows everything i i'm saying like the media like why are we trying 0.67

00:45:52.440 to push people when there's no barriers anymore people do what they want to do so why do we need to

00:45:58.440 change it people do and why do and why like don't feminists and women like yourself have the same energy 1.00

00:46:05.560 for the men and female oriented careers i have the same energy no you don't listen if i grow up right

00:46:13.080 growing up what the what do they encourage women to do be a teacher be a doctor these are fields they

00:46:18.040 encourage you to do now with women advancement programs they're now saying we don't have to keep

00:46:23.000 telling you go for these same five jobs there are other jobs out there you guys can go for and the

00:46:28.120 women say no thank you still not i mean it depends yes not all the time exactly if you sit there and

00:46:37.080 tell somebody right if you're a city if i come from a poor household you sit there and tell me

00:46:42.040 i could make 500 grand a year let's say as a engineer guess what i'm doing signing up for

00:46:46.200 the first engineer class right yeah but you know what else you're doing after you've got into the

00:46:50.760 engineer class and maybe you know spent a lot of taxpayers or parents money or whoever like whatever

00:46:56.600 you are meeting a guy there who's so amazing and you are getting married and you're dropping out

00:47:01.240 of the workforce so you've just wasted your time that's what happened to you in canada but no it's

00:47:08.040 it's just sort of you know quite a statistically common thing in canada they talked about it they

00:47:12.600 can't pay women um jordan peterson talks about how you would coach women to get more money they could

00:47:17.720 not pay female lawyers to stay because they would hit 30 they'd be on track to be partner and they would 0.98

00:47:23.960 say you know what i want to go home so it's like why are we forcing women and encouraging women to 0.98

00:47:29.640 do things that are not good for us we know it's not good for us to work the same way men do so it's 1.00

00:47:35.960 like if anything i actually think it's really unkind to women to push us into these fields that we will 1.00

00:47:41.800 one it's going to affect our relationships because we become too masculine and two and two we we don't like

00:47:49.000 those jobs so we go into the jobs because the society is pushing us into a job we don't even

00:47:53.880 want we do it and just like the girl that went through the engineering degree what'd she do she 0.98

00:47:59.080 dropped out or she um she quit later whatever so my favorite thing is devil's advocate if you guys can

00:48:05.000 tell right so my rebuttal to that because i love a good rebuttal is

00:48:08.440 it came and it went that fast it came and it went that fast it must not have been that good no it was

00:48:15.320 a good i think we're just getting tired no it was it was a good rebuttal i promise you it was a really

00:48:20.360 good rebuttal about women going in you can bring it up in the comments section it'll come back it'll come

00:48:26.760 back uh one second okay so 48 of women in the u.s were unmarried as of 2021 only 39 of women without

00:48:40.440 children say they want to be married that number jumps to 51 for women with children 63 of women

00:48:48.040 polled in 2022 say they don't want children what essential things do women bring to society as a 1.00

00:48:54.840 whole that don't have to do with kids and child rearing okay um i love this little book uh by roger

00:49:02.600 scruton it's called a short introduction to beauty and he says that there are three ultimate virtues

00:49:09.960 truth and goodness are the first two and you know i think personally based on the canon of you know

00:49:18.760 literature and um psychology and all of this kind of stuff that men are absolutely excelling at truth

00:49:28.440 and goodness to be honest um but the third virtue is beauty and uh what roger does he points out that

00:49:39.480 you know even when we were living in these societies where we had issues with scarcity you know we would

00:49:45.880 still plow all of these resources into building these monuments our churches these beautiful buildings

00:49:53.400 the coliseum um because we it's it's human nature to we need beauty it makes the world better and you

00:50:04.200 know that is how men do it they make these enormous awesome structures but the way women generally tend to 1.00

00:50:11.720 do it is in little modest ways we're tending our gardens we're making our homes attractive we are

00:50:18.440 making ourselves attractive we're doing little handicrafts which are kind of modest and they're

00:50:22.760 not going to last a hundred thousand years whatever but they make everyday life for everyone who is in

00:50:30.920 contact with them a little bit more beautiful and i think that's meaningful do you think that the

00:50:35.960 average woman today is doing that who is the average woman i don't know i mean that's 170 pounds i'll 1.00

00:50:44.600 give you some number the average woman's 170 pounds um she's about five four 90 of us have been on birth 0.99

00:50:51.880 control one out of three is an std uh one out of three's had an abortion um 50 will have zero children

00:50:59.080 um it makes about i'm just giving you numbers here so i'm not i'm not even trying to add a moral thing

00:51:03.560 um and makes roughly like 25 to 30 yeah i mean you know what you know what i in my experience when

00:51:10.600 i was at school what i was getting were all these messages about like you should be like you could be

00:51:15.960 an astronaut you could be the prime minister you should like really concentrate on all this stuff

00:51:21.080 and i think that i think that women are pushed into being mediocre men whereas you know we're not

00:51:29.480 giving the space and opportunity to actually just express our own femininity yeah no i agree with 0.93

00:51:34.840 i agree and disagree again so i'm gonna read the question i'm gonna read the question just one more

00:51:40.920 time what essential things do women bring to society as a whole that don't have to do with kids and 1.00

00:51:45.880 child rearing uh smart it's actually it's very interesting makes me think essential and it it's

00:51:54.200 essential to think yes i would no no i'm saying essential is the key word things i have two

00:52:00.680 children but if i didn't have any by now i wouldn't have any but not because i'm a bad woman or i'm a bad

00:52:07.880 person or a bad female is because society is going to and look at around the world what is happening the 1.00

00:52:14.840 force of us financial forcing us into jobs we don't want to do whether it be too male for me or whether

00:52:22.280 you say something i'm not good at so i don't know it's really hard to answer but uh it's it's not

00:52:29.000 just women's choice it's a society and the world where it's going the wars the pressures the fake news

00:52:36.600 the all the lies we're told on the media and like you know the bigger the more beautiful which is not

00:52:41.800 true if we're gonna heart if you're gonna die from a heart attack the biggest not beautiful you're

00:52:46.120 just killing yourself and you're telling young girls who are looking at you to kill yourself too 0.68

00:52:50.520 the biggest thing that women bring is love is love i know it sounds so simple but think about it

00:52:56.680 right you're having a bad day you get a man you get hit in the face you get punched you get jumped

00:53:02.280 you get whatever who's the first person you go to your mother a woman right for love for reassurance 0.84

00:53:07.960 for smarts if there's a situation where two men are about to fight right sometimes you get a woman a 0.96

00:53:12.680 woman to be like hey babe don't do that let me calm you down so the wisdom and the love that

00:53:17.640 women bring to society just in general is very much needed i i'm sorry i don't want a whole bunch 1.00

00:53:24.120 of men going around like just sensitivity yeah like just in a work field not doing anything because

00:53:29.320 everything would be so cutthroat sometimes you need a woman to be like hey should we really fire him 1.00

00:53:34.440 let's think about it not let's fire him because he pissed me off like there's certain things that you

00:53:39.240 need women for you need that balance okay let's you know damn well no no you know damn well women 1.00

00:53:48.040 fire people for no reason when men want to make money women men are logical women go based on how

00:53:55.240 they feel so this idea that women are going to come into the workforce and police men and how to behave

00:54:02.840 when men built the world for us they built the world we could not do any of the jobs that we

00:54:09.640 have are all because of men and that we need women's wisdom to run society yes is the dumbest 1.00

00:54:18.200 i've ever heard in my life no you need it but it's not exactly it's not it's all the elements

00:54:24.360 for the last hundred before the last hundred years they did not need women as a rule in the workforce 1.00

00:54:31.080 why do they need us now they must have needed women or else we wouldn't be if you look at like 0.96

00:54:38.920 government regulations as soon as women entered the workforce it's like it's through the roof if 1.00

00:54:44.600 you look at government spending as soon as women got to vote it's like it's through the roof so would 1.00

00:54:50.120 you have rather be like like how workforces were back in the day i would rather we repeal the 19th i

00:54:55.800 really believe that i think the world would be a better place if women didn't vote and most men i think 1.00

00:55:00.760 that should be just like a property owner type thing it's or or net taxpayers i don't know how

00:55:06.440 exactly i do it but yeah i think we should take away the vote for most people listen when we let the

00:55:11.880 majority of men vote they voted trump into office so and thank you god i like trump thank you i like

00:55:18.520 trump i like him i like him as the person i think he's funny horrible president but i like him as an

00:55:22.520 individual he was a good president the economy was way better the economy was better the economy was

00:55:28.680 better but he also caused uh no no the economy was better but doesn't mean he's a good president

00:55:33.560 because under him there was so much racial divide and tension and this going on that going on so

00:55:39.240 but the economy was good but you divided a whole country had jobs and they hated each other but

00:55:45.320 this is what i mean this is actually i want to i actually want to explain this to the camera like how

00:55:50.520 women think no offense but like do you see how she's like well it was the tension we didn't like the 1.00

00:55:55.160 tension or the feelings and the men it's like well are there jobs but that rolled off of obama's laws

00:56:01.000 no no no he came in this is after obama cleaned it up obama cleaned it up no it was it rolled into

00:56:07.000 when trump got into office it rolled into when trump got into office and trump got the credit for it

00:56:12.840 no it wasn't that's just how the liberals try to like trump got the credit they'll try to like

00:56:18.360 like somehow go through these like logic loops where they're like well it was good under trump's

00:56:23.960 presidency but it was another president's fault like it's like come on but it's so true yeah

00:56:28.600 it's not you realize i had an economics degree and so what specifically what policies from obama

00:56:34.920 specifically there is i don't know specifically right now i can't think of it off the top of my head

00:56:39.480 but they're like literally but but i'm telling you we studied this when i was in school i have a degree

00:56:45.080 he had eight years in office but it is during trump's time that you felt the effect of his work yes because

00:56:50.920 when he first got it but he first got it no no when he first got in office they kept denying

00:56:55.400 everything he tried to put in what what did they try what did they every time what what what the

00:56:59.880 different bills that he was trying to pass they kept on what bill what bill what bill i believe

00:57:04.920 the first one was one of the health care bills before they finally got that what did it do i would

00:57:09.640 even say trump had a harder time in office than obama yeah because no one liked him exactly but he still

00:57:14.440 got things done what done what do you mean what's going on unemployment right now under biden it's

00:57:26.680 under biden which rolls off of what happened with trump i'm telling you everything is a is an effect

00:57:31.640 you can go ahead and try to put a bill into office if it does not get into office and it keeps going

00:57:36.520 through the house keeps going keeps going no you start to see the effects of policies fairly quickly we

00:57:42.440 went over this when i was in school like i have a degree in economics like you start to see you start

00:57:47.320 to see the effects of policies fairly quickly like within a couple months it's still like so everything

00:57:53.080 is so so it's not it's not a rollover it's not it's not like i'm okay i'm that's not true it's not true

00:58:00.600 but what do you think what do women bring to society that is essential yeah i agree with love um other words 1.00

00:58:08.680 that come to me sensuality and sensitivity i heard just then as well um you know and sensuality can be

00:58:16.920 anything like you know the appreciation of of your daily activity there's a beautiful flower there's

00:58:23.640 some amazing architecture just tuning into that frequency that emotional frequency that i think

00:58:28.200 a lot of men don't tend to normally have you know i think the argument here is about the argument

00:58:33.320 we're having here a lot of your responses have been emotional right and but that is a beauty in

00:58:38.280 that as well because we can we can take that on board in a positive way

JustPearlyThings - July 09, 2023

They Just Do Not Want to Take Responsibility

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