JustPearlyThings - They Proved this about women

00:00:00.000 for the sake of argument and finally is about my turn to you know help the boys out i'll tell you

00:00:05.020 something boys do you know the best way for you to deal with a modern woman be stush stush means 1.00

00:00:10.860 be a bit more stuck up about yourself because actually girls don't like rejection and the 1.00

00:00:15.120 moment you reject one she wants you more because it's a challenge at that moment you've got the

00:00:18.920 power if you want her you want to maneuver and check what she's on and you want to get her in 0.99

00:00:23.100 your in your books but okay but listen listen to this listen to this from the men's point of view

00:00:27.860 so i have to play a bunch of games with these women in order to get to them to commit to me 1.00

00:00:32.280 why do it at all because because why is it worth it yeah it's like what what is the benefit to the men

00:00:39.200 like what genuinely who who in here has a cookbook maybe maybe you i don't need a cookbook what i do 0.96

00:00:45.840 are you asking fucking no no my point is none of us in here are can be considered traditional women 0.99

00:00:53.960 and back then an average guy could get a traditional woman and now what does he get he gets a boss bitch 1.00

00:01:00.020 a boss babe a girl that's been ran through he gets an ex-ho he gets a born again virgin like 0.98

00:01:04.720 what do i get as as women this is what what do we get we still get protection and provisioning 1.00

00:01:09.920 are you sure and the average the average salary i mean okay here's here's the thing the average

00:01:16.980 salary could cover an apartment and but the thing is like women we want this lifestyle that's not even 1.00

00:01:23.040 realistic nowadays like we want men that make more than we do and we want them to pay all of the bills

00:01:28.740 but it's like we work what we all have our nails done we have uh we get our hair dyed we have makeup we

00:01:34.020 have all of this stuff that costs money because we want this lifestyle and i've had girls come on my show 0.98

00:01:38.480 and i say would you would you date an average guy for companionship but you would have to go down in

00:01:44.080 lifestyle and they say no we're addicted to lifestyle i would i would add from a male perspective

00:01:50.340 what what i find and i i think that this is why most guys don't bother and this is you know why i i you

00:01:55.960 know for me it's the biggest kind of consumer of my energy when it comes to dating in this whole game

00:02:00.700 is that everyone every all modern women want my time and attention in it when i go to a club there's 10 1.00

00:02:06.320 hot girls who think i'm going to get their number talk to them for three months take them out until 1.00

00:02:10.600 they eventually decide to you know we can do this or that or whatever and it's it's just non-stop and

00:02:15.380 they all they all think they all think i have all the time in the world and that they're all so

00:02:19.000 special and interesting and that they all deserve the red carpet treatment and these women do nothing 1.00

00:02:22.940 for me they do absolutely nothing they can barely hold a conversation they can't start a conversation

00:02:27.160 they've got no date ideas they don't even know how to be feminine from they're saying they think

00:02:31.160 wearing a tight skirt is feminine you can stand around and guys would just throw themselves at 1.00

00:02:36.260 you which is which is kind of that's that's why they do and that's why when is the last time a

00:02:42.560 girl planned a day for you oh my god like like plans like a planned a whole day got you a really

00:02:47.900 a thoughtful gift that had nothing to do with her nothing she wanted i'm glad you asked that question

00:02:52.360 i don't remember the last time they don't do it but they talk about equality a lot no but you're

00:02:56.500 generalizing but you're generalizing a lot like even even if it was just a hookup that maybe liked

00:03:01.220 you or got feelings or whatever did any of them like try to compete for you hell no yeah because 0.99

00:03:06.040 they're all they're all queens because it's an ego thing because girls won't put aside their ego 1.00

00:03:10.500 they're all ten out of times they're all queens they're all boss bitches no she's got a point for once 1.00

00:03:14.740 i'll agree with her she does have a point girls do you know what stop being so annoying if you have if 1.00

00:03:19.720 you want to see the guy ask him can i see you if you're not gonna date with him and you invite him

00:03:23.840 make sure that you did the invitation be polite have manners and you're the one that is the host

00:03:27.880 therefore you to pattern the ting stop always waiting for the guy to make the first move i get

00:03:32.100 the impression no no no no no no no no no you can't turn around and say that the men want feminine

00:03:40.140 women and then you so how can a woman go up to a man and say i'm gonna take you out well i'll say 1.00

00:03:48.100 I think that you're an amazing guy. You are sick. I'm going to shoot my shot. 1.00

00:03:52.980 Would you want to go out with me, please? 0.99

00:03:54.660 You said it like a man.

00:03:55.780 You said it like a man.

00:03:56.900 You said it like a man.

00:03:58.900 These days, they're very masculine these days.

00:04:03.060 So devil's advocate here. I wouldn't probably approach it like that.

00:04:07.380 But like back in the day, didn't women drop the handkerchief? 1.00

00:04:12.900 Right? Right. Women drop the handkerchief. 1.00

00:04:15.300 But you see, the thing is, right, is that years ago,

00:04:18.980 you dropped the handkerchief and the man showed you was interested.

00:04:21.700 You didn't drop your knickers.

00:04:23.860 And that's the difference. Dropping a handkerchief is totally different

00:04:29.380 from dropping your knickers.

00:04:32.820 So you used to walk along in the old days, they used to drop, you know,

00:04:35.700 you walk along and you drop a hanky just to see whether or not the man was interested.

00:04:41.380 But now the women are dropping their knickers to see whether the man's interested. 1.00

00:04:45.700 No, I don't think that's an issue.

00:04:46.900 They're not dropping their knickers because like a third of men are virgins.

00:04:50.180 But they're dropping their knickers more than we drop hankies.

00:04:52.740 No, my only point was that like, when is the last time as like, as a woman,

00:04:58.180 like you've really showed effort to show a man that you appreciate him and you're interested.

00:05:02.980 I do it all the time.

00:05:04.340 I know you do, you do, but I'm saying like, go ahead, go ahead. Sorry.

00:05:07.460 No, no, go on.

00:05:08.420 I was going to say, so, you know, you guys are speaking about this.

00:05:13.380 What do you think of someone who's been in a relationship, in a long relationship?

00:05:16.420 Like, I'll give you an example.

00:05:18.020 I've been with my partner for like a year and a half now.

00:05:20.420 And the other day I said to him, we like to do date nights.

00:05:22.820 We like to keep it spicy and we have a child, right?

00:05:25.700 It's not his child, but he takes on the role, Brint Lily.

00:05:28.900 Love that.

00:05:29.780 Yeah. And I said to him, Monday night, you're booked date night.

00:05:35.220 Meet me at this hotel.

00:05:36.180 I've booked the hotel.

00:05:37.140 I've filled it with balloons, petals, everything.

00:05:40.980 And I did that for him.

00:05:42.100 So what, what do you think of that?

00:05:43.860 Like I'm treating him.

00:05:44.900 No, but on the flip side, you fight sometimes.

00:05:47.780 But you know something, right?

00:05:48.820 That would work for you.

00:05:50.740 And if it works for you, that's great.

00:05:52.260 I appreciate that.

00:05:53.780 But that wouldn't work for me.

00:05:57.060 So something totally different, like for you,

00:05:59.380 booking a hotel and that, but I don't like hotels.

00:06:01.940 I'm fussy about my food.

00:06:03.140 I hate flowers.

00:06:04.260 Okay.

00:06:04.500 So just call it a date night.

00:06:05.860 But then you, you pick whatever you want.

00:06:07.620 There's nothing wrong in that.

00:06:09.380 But the thing is, is that sometimes don't even tell him.

00:06:14.180 Surprise, surprise him.

00:06:15.380 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:06:15.860 Surprise him.

00:06:17.060 He doesn't need to be told.

00:06:18.900 No, no, he wasn't told.

00:06:19.860 He was just told he was given an address.

00:06:22.340 But also given an address and be there at 6pm.

00:06:24.340 Can I just say something interesting that I've observed,

00:06:28.100 because I've given this example a lot.

00:06:30.580 And whenever like women say the thing that they did for their boyfriend 1.00

00:06:34.260 or their husband or whatever it was,

00:06:35.780 it's always something that like women would enjoy more than men typically. 0.90

00:06:40.100 I don't, I don't know him.

00:06:40.900 Maybe this was like, you know, I'm sure he appreciated either way,

00:06:44.660 but it's just interesting.

00:06:45.700 Like, I think a lot of times we look through our point of view and not theirs.

00:06:48.660 But you know what?

00:06:49.060 You just reminded me of something.

00:06:51.060 Pearl is so right when she said that.

00:06:52.740 Because remember, I said that that wouldn't work for me.

00:06:55.860 But what actually worked for me was Christmas.

00:07:02.100 And I said, you know what?

00:07:03.220 Because we don't live together because I'm my mom's caregiver.

00:07:05.860 So it's impossible because of the way I am,

00:07:08.580 because my mom's got dementia and she's really sublime.

00:07:10.740 So I look after my mom.

00:07:11.860 So hence the two separate houses.

00:07:13.780 But I said, you're going to spend Christmas.

00:07:18.020 And I'd planned it so that I hate movies. 0.96

00:07:20.980 And he's a nerd.

00:07:21.860 He loves movies.

00:07:23.140 The only we love alcohol and we love good food.

00:07:27.860 And it was Christmas.

00:07:29.220 My birthday is this after Christmas.

00:07:31.140 And he had such a relaxing time that I forgot my birthday.

00:07:35.540 And I only remembered my birthday.

00:07:38.740 My birthday was in December.

00:07:41.060 And we only, we didn't have Christmas dinner.

00:07:44.180 We realized that.

00:07:44.980 I think New Year was like, what happened to Christmas dinner?

00:07:46.900 And I said, we're still in the fridge.

00:07:48.820 You know, because we ate and we snacked.

00:07:50.900 And to him, he loved that.

00:07:53.380 But for me to go and do something that,

00:07:55.940 I mean, I was sat down there and I'm watching a movie marathon.

00:07:58.340 I hate movies.

00:07:59.940 But that is something that he enjoys.

00:08:01.860 Because the thing is that in relationships,

00:08:03.780 I always say that we always think about what we want,

00:08:06.020 but we never think about what we can give.

00:08:08.180 Can I say one thing?

00:08:09.780 I feel like, and this is my opinion,

00:08:11.620 I feel like there's one part of it

00:08:13.700 where all you women are forgetting, right? 1.00

00:08:16.260 When men are going out of the way to give you stuff 0.66

00:08:19.460 or do some surprise for y'all,

00:08:21.780 the one thing y'all keep forgetting,

00:08:23.140 there's one important thing that we want that back too.

00:08:26.100 But we don't like to say, I mean,

00:08:27.940 y'all always say the word thanks,

00:08:29.140 or you want to give us a thing.

00:08:30.980 But we like it back.

00:08:32.500 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:08:33.140 Like, it's always us men going our way to do stuff for the women.

00:08:36.740 Do you know what I mean?

00:08:37.780 But we don't get it back.

00:08:39.380 But if we get it back.

00:08:40.260 You don't give to receive.

00:08:41.140 That's what I'm saying.

00:08:42.100 I hear you, but I'm just saying like,

00:08:43.780 we love it.

00:08:44.340 Like, you see how we do some surprise things,

00:08:45.860 or we take you out, we like it back.

00:08:48.020 That's why I said,

00:08:48.820 I think the point they're trying to make,

00:08:50.820 um, and I agree with you,

00:08:52.180 I don't think you should give so you can receive.

00:08:54.980 But I think a lot of men just feel like women put in no effort nowadays.

00:08:58.500 I think what it means is that the men put in too much effort now.

00:09:04.980 Probably.

00:09:05.380 I was going to say that.

00:09:06.500 That's what I said.

00:09:07.060 Move your douche. 1.00

00:09:08.020 Because you know what, right?

00:09:09.220 All the things that he's saying,

00:09:10.980 everyone had to say to my man,

00:09:12.020 oh yeah, I want you to book a hotel.

00:09:13.940 And he goes, where are you going to go?

00:09:14.820 Are you going to stay in it on your own?

00:09:16.100 Because that is not my, that's too much.

00:09:19.540 Do you know what I mean?

00:09:20.260 I'm happy with him.

00:09:21.460 If I come to his house and there is curry,

00:09:24.820 goat and rice and salad.

00:09:27.300 Yeah.

00:09:27.540 I'm in heaven.

00:09:28.420 Do you know what I mean?

00:09:29.060 That's, that's it for me.

00:09:30.020 I was going to say.

00:09:30.740 Do you know what I mean?

00:09:31.220 That's it for me.

00:09:32.020 The society,

00:09:32.740 there's a societal narrative in there that men are constantly told that we're

00:09:36.020 dispensable and our time and energy doesn't mean anything.

00:09:38.900 So when I coach, when I coach guys, right?

00:09:40.820 Cause I do date coaching on the side.

00:09:41.940 Now it's the first step is always to help them to understand that.

00:09:44.820 Like you have value, bro.

00:09:46.420 Like, like guys just have this idea that like,

00:09:48.420 Oh, it's pick up artistry.

00:09:49.540 So I'm going to read this book and learn these patterns and do this.

00:09:52.260 And then when she does this, I'm going to do this.

00:09:53.700 And I'm thinking, bro, you've, you forgot one thing, self-respect.

00:09:56.980 You haven't even judged this person.

00:09:58.740 Like these,

00:09:59.220 some of these guys who are new to the dating game often go into clubs and they

00:10:02.660 give their time and attention to people based on looks.

00:10:04.660 And I'm standing there thinking, I can tell this one's got a boyfriend.

00:10:07.460 This one's just for attention.

00:10:08.740 This one's emotionally available.

00:10:09.860 Actually likes the other guy at the back of the room,

00:10:11.540 but it's talking to you because you've got game,

00:10:13.140 but she's going to waste your time later. 1.00

00:10:14.820 Modern guys have been so brainwashed and told to be emotional and feminine.

00:10:18.660 And like your time doesn't mean anything.

00:10:19.700 You should be,

00:10:20.100 you should be lucky to have any woman around you that they waste their time. 1.00

00:10:23.380 As many of you know,

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JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023

They Proved this about women

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