JustPearlyThings - They Were In Denial After Pearl Told Them This..

00:00:00.000 I have a question. Do you think it's disrespectful if you are dating someone new and you have someone

00:00:05.920 around that you've hooked up with before? Yes. I think it depends. Yeah, I think it one depends

00:00:13.000 on the comfortability of you and in your relationship. If it's something new, then like

00:00:19.880 if that's a boundary for the other person, then that's supposed to be something that's

00:00:23.360 communicated and respected both ways. But if you're like, you can't go out to a club and then get mad

00:00:32.320 at your girlfriend or your boyfriend or whatever situation you're in if there's somebody that

00:00:37.200 they've hooked up with or been attached to in the past there. Yeah, but I don't think that's what

00:00:41.480 she means. I think she means like choosing to keep someone in your life, hanging out with them

00:00:47.260 and stuff like that you've hooked up with in the past, even though you're in a committed relationship.

00:00:51.300 Yeah, I don't know. I think that's 100% disrespectful. Yeah, I think it's just I think it's disrespectful

00:00:56.060 to the partner if it's if that's like something that's discussed between the two. Yeah, that's I

00:01:00.520 don't it really is so circumstantial that it's hard to like say yes or no.

00:01:04.080 That just depends on each situation. Yeah, that's that's each relationship. I just kind of think of

00:01:08.720 things from like a guy's point of view. So I'm thinking if I'm a guy and I'm like looking to date

00:01:12.320 a girl, like why would I want to date a girl that has a bunch of dudes around that have like ate her 1.00

00:01:16.340 out or effed her? Well, I don't. Isn't that isn't that kind of a red flag? No, a hundred

00:01:21.260 and ten percent. If that's like something like like I said, I'm single for a fucking reason. 0.99

00:01:27.520 Like and but sometimes like, you know, people stay friends with their ex, you know, their ex. 0.88

00:01:31.620 Sometimes they have like a like marriage. Not me. I think that I think that could be.

00:01:36.120 But yeah, like, you know, sometimes a friendship remains like I mean, I think it really depends

00:01:42.000 like on the nature of the relationship. Like is there really a friendship after though?

00:01:45.260 I think or is it codependency or is it? Yeah, what is it?

00:01:48.560 I think it really does depend on the situation because one of my exes, we are like not attracted

00:01:53.460 to each other anymore at all on any level whatsoever. But I love this person so much

00:01:58.460 as the person that he is. And like we are just very good friends. Like I've met his current

00:02:03.380 girlfriend and like she's very aware of the situation and like I respect their relationship

00:02:07.540 a hundred percent. I feel like it's very different when you like move on.

00:02:10.540 Yeah. But if you had a boyfriend who said the same thing about one of his friends, would

00:02:14.340 you feel comfortable with him hanging out with her?

00:02:16.280 Yeah. Okay. Okay. Maybe I'm not. I think it does depend on the situation because I've

00:02:19.860 had it where men don't see that. They I don't think that that's I don't think that's a thing

00:02:23.480 for men. I think it's on or off. That's that's the only way they view it. So they're just

00:02:27.000 waiting. They're just waiting. But it's just like that. I think it's just like that with

00:02:29.980 women too. Like it's like an on and off switch. I think for me personally, if I'm in like 0.99

00:02:36.220 a friendship with a guy and I've hooked up with them before it, like Elle said, it rules,

00:02:41.420 it cancels out that kind of like, I feel like every guy and girl friendship has some kind

00:02:46.240 of level of sexual tension. Yeah, that's yeah, I agree with you. So I think once that is like

00:02:51.800 ruled out and it's like, okay, I am not. Yeah, I do. I do have some guy anymore at all. I think

00:02:57.880 you can genuinely have a good friendship. I'm not saying that that's the only way to have a

00:03:02.240 good friendship, but I think that that is like you can still be friends with somebody that

00:03:05.480 you've slept with before. Interesting. Word. Okay, let me get a couple of the chats. Let's

00:03:11.860 get caught up here. Akira, thank you for the five gifted. Everyone who's watching on Twitch,

00:03:16.180 by the way, unfortunately, we can't shout anybody out because our what's that? Can somebody fix

00:03:21.100 that peeping? Hello? Just unplug the monitor, I guess, just from the back. That should hopefully

00:03:28.400 fix it. All right, guys, as usual. Yeah, shout out to everyone on Twitch. Go to twitch.tv slash

00:03:33.360 whatever. Drop us a prime sub. Drop us a follow if you have one. Twitch.tv slash whatever mods if

00:03:38.460 you could spam in the chat. Yeah, sorry, guys. It's a little hard to run the show because our

00:03:41.720 monitor's gone. It's scuffed. So, okay, we have a chat here from Tolu Alimi. Thank you. All right,

00:03:53.740 this one's okay. Last show, a few panelists when asked, well, I think it was one panelist, but

00:03:58.920 when asked what advice they'd give to women who are physically abused in relationships,

00:04:03.100 said the partner should stay in the relationship and endure. Curious your takes, Brian and Pearl,

00:04:10.860 and the rest of the panel, too. Okay, yeah, this is like, went crazy viral on Twitter and a couple

00:04:16.100 other places. Yeah, I saw it. Yeah, I saw it. Yeah, first off, the short clip that Mel posted,

00:04:24.200 uh, I, I don't know if she edited it or if it was somebody else, uh, was, like, cut. It was pretty

00:04:33.540 heavily cut up. Um, MLD was saying that you should endure. I'm not even sure if he said, like, I think

00:04:42.180 he was talking about in general, but like, cause she threw in, well, what should you do in divorce? And 0.95

00:04:47.060 then she threw in this other stuff about abuse. I mean, point blank period. Mike, my take is if you're

00:04:53.120 being abused, whether emotionally, physically, whatever it may be, but your question is physically

00:04:57.300 abused, like, get out, like, end. The relationship, get divorced, like, don't stay. Um, however,

00:05:05.220 they decided to, like, crop in, like, Chase, and then they cropped in Mary, and then John, and then

00:05:10.180 they put, I didn't even say anything during that entire segment, and they put me in the segment,

00:05:15.140 and then, like, people are thinking, every single one of us, like, they showed our face in the segment,

00:05:19.420 that we co-signed on his endure statement, which is not true. If you're in an abusive relationship,

00:05:26.260 like, marriage, relationship, whatever, uh, that's pretty justifiable, extremely justifiable

00:05:33.020 reason to leave and get out. Go ahead, Pearl. Yeah, when I watched the full clip, I was actually

00:05:38.340 really surprised, because I didn't really take it that that's what he meant, but when they cut

00:05:43.060 it up like that, it just seemed like he said something he didn't say, but that's what a lot

00:05:46.220 of these, like, reaction channels, and I'll say this as a content creator, like, a lot of the

00:05:50.140 reaction channels will take clips to, like, put you out of context and, like, say things that you

00:05:54.220 didn't say, and kind of, like, it's really dishonest, honestly. And, and Mel, the Destiny's, uh, wife,

00:06:02.200 it was her clip that she made, which I think is pretty disingenuous, because if you watch the whole 0.98

00:06:06.620 thing, I think MLD got a little, like, he was fucking seven white claws deep, too. Look, if he, I'm not, 0.96

00:06:13.720 I'm not going to co-sign what he said, disavow, disavow, but, like, it sounded like, to me, like,

00:06:20.060 they were asking about divorce in general, and he was saying, endure, endure, and then, like,

00:06:25.080 somewhere through that, she brings up, uh, physical abuse, and so, well, and so, I kind of look at this

00:06:33.760 question a little differently, because my question is, like, what is the abusive situation? I need

00:06:38.620 specifics, and, like, the reason I need specifics is women cry abuse for everything, and we've actually

00:06:43.560 lost the meaning of abuse. Like, if you go to, and I know this, because I, I'm doing a divorce

00:06:49.520 documentary, and so, I'm actually interviewing men that are in the process of getting, like,

00:06:53.300 absolutely wrecked by divorce, and a lot of them have had false allegations put out against them,

00:06:57.980 and a lot of those, um, basically, what the feminists do is they expand the definition of 1.00

00:07:01.840 abuse to include things like coercive control, financial abuse, and even physical abuse. A lot of

00:07:06.780 times, like, girls don't talk about how they hit first, and most abusive situations are mutually 1.00

00:07:13.220 abusive, meaning they're both hitting each other, and so, a lot of times, what girls will do is 1.00

00:07:17.700 they'll say, oh, I'm being abused, but they don't talk about how she hit him first. Like, I had a girl

00:07:21.760 on the show say, I was physically abused, and I used to just believe women, like, I genuinely, I would 0.99

00:07:26.300 always just be like, oh, I'm so sorry, but then you start asking questions, and it, it's, it baffles me

00:07:32.220 how women, like, turn the situation of them, like, being abused when they aren't. Like, this one girl, 0.96

00:07:38.100 she came on my show, she said, I was physically abused. I said, okay, tell me the situation. What

00:07:42.040 exactly happened? He, she refused to leave his house. She, she refused, like, so she's trespassing

00:07:48.440 on his property, saying, I'm not gonna leave, and he pushes her out of the house. Is that abuse? No. Or

00:07:53.820 another thing that girls do is they'll, they'll edge a guy on, like, I saw a clip of a dude, of a girl, 1.00

00:07:58.500 basically making fun of a guy for having a dead son, and he hit her. Who abused you? And that's, 0.83

00:08:05.520 like, the other side of this that we don't talk about, is that a lot of times, like, the feminists 1.00

00:08:09.460 or whatever will try to get a gotcha question, because they'll say, oh, if you're in an abusive

00:08:13.220 marriage, but, like, I know the ins and outs of this, because I interview the men that are falsely

00:08:17.460 accused, and this is so common, and it's so common. So, and the one thing that guys should know is if a

00:08:22.820 girl says she was abused, and she didn't file a police report, like, because in family court, you don't need 0.85

00:08:28.380 evidence to accuse someone of abuse. You need no evidence, and in criminal court, you do, so it's

00:08:34.740 more, like, it's more likely true if it's in criminal court. If it's real abuse, yeah, I mean, you should

00:08:40.200 leave, but my issue is, like, a lot of times, it's not actually real abuse what they're talking about,

00:08:46.120 and they don't talk about the other side, where a lot of times the girls start it. Thank you.

00:08:50.380 I don't know about that example of somebody saying, of the woman saying that, telling the

00:08:55.440 husband that he had a dead son, and then she hits him. No, I said he hit her. Oh, he hit her. Like,

00:09:01.040 because she was, like, taunting. That's unacceptable, though. She was taunting him about it. If someone

00:09:03.780 taunts you, or if you taunt someone, and they hit you, is that acceptable? I didn't say, I didn't say

00:09:09.740 it's acceptable, but it's not, like, like, they're talking about someone's dead child. I don't think

00:09:14.420 you know, until that happens, use your reaction. I understand that, but you can't, you can't punch

00:09:19.500 someone, because they say something that hurts your feelings. You cannot do that. Violence is not

00:09:23.200 okay, but that's not a girl's right. Wait, tilt your microphone so it's facing straight. I'm not, I'm not, 1.00

00:09:27.480 I'm not saying it's okay, but we don't talk about the other side, where a lot of times the girls

00:09:31.180 will provoke it. I agree with you. So it's not like he's this horrible, like, is that, in that situation,

00:09:36.080 is that something that could be worked out? I mean, like, obviously, that's a crazy, toxic

00:09:39.880 relationship, but, like, they'll act like, oh, the guy isn't the horrible person. He's in the wrong.

00:09:44.240 He hit her, but it's, like, you were taunting him, and also, like, a lot of times, you know what girls

00:09:49.020 do? This is, and I've read these text messages. Like, I have literally, like, gone through these, like,

00:09:54.020 like, the, like, subpoena, or whatever it is, when they have to get the stuff from the women. Women know that 1.00

00:09:59.840 they get perks from the government if they accuse a guy of abuse. I have a very close friend.

00:10:04.080 There was a girl that had in-text messages, I wish he would just hit me, because if he hit her, 1.00

00:10:11.720 she gets a free lawyer from the government, and so this is, like, these are the situations that,

00:10:16.920 like, the left doesn't talk about, where men are falsely accused all the time, and, like,

00:10:23.400 and it's so sad, because women that are actually abused are the ones that suffer for it, because

00:10:28.380 women are going around calling everything abuse, everything grape, like, they expand. 1.00

00:10:31.780 And most of the women who suffer from abuse actually suffer in silence, and don't speak

00:10:35.660 on it ever, and are terrified, and even, you know, and it makes it difficult, too, but

00:10:40.320 obviously, it's a proven court, but a lot of women also don't call the cops. I mean, a lot 1.00

00:10:44.820 of people suffer in silence.

00:10:46.420 Yeah, the people who need it the most, they don't say anything.

00:10:48.280 I mean, and in my opinion, like, I really think we need to go off of evidence. Like, I just

00:10:52.220 think that false, like, false accusations and abuse is so rampant that we have to go off of

00:10:56.740 evidence, and we should encourage women that are actually abused to go to the police, because

00:11:00.820 now we're in a situation where if you don't go to the police, how can I just believe you

00:11:04.620 when women go around falsely accusing men all the time? 1.00

00:11:07.820 I mean, also, I think there are certain situations where you don't have evidence.

00:11:11.620 Yeah.

00:11:11.820 Like, if I get hit, but it's not leaving a bruise, how are you supposed to show the evidence

00:11:17.620 of that?

00:11:18.180 And I think you also need to go to police officers and tell them to take it more seriously, because

00:11:23.600 I can't tell you how many times that I have had friends had something happen, and they've

00:11:30.160 gone to the police, and the police do absolutely nothing.

00:11:33.560 Well, is it possible that maybe it didn't happen?

00:11:35.780 No.

00:11:36.000 Like, that's the thing.

00:11:36.780 Because we're not really going to get into it, but I was there, so I know for a thought.

00:11:40.180 Okay, okay, if you, if you, like, like, my whole point isn't about, my whole point is

00:11:45.120 we need to go off of evidence.

00:11:46.700 Like, in society, we cannot just openly believe women because they say something.

00:11:51.140 It is not fair to men.

00:11:51.860 But what was I supposed to do?

00:11:53.000 I'm not talking about, lookit, I'm not talking about your-

00:11:55.640 But this is what I'm asking you, is what do you mean by evidence, you know?

00:11:57.720 Was I supposed to sit there and get my camera out?

00:11:59.340 So if you saw, if you saw-

00:12:00.500 It was my witness testimony enough?

00:12:02.620 I, what do you mean?

00:12:04.920 Go ahead.

00:12:05.080 Was me witnessing it in considered evidence?

00:12:07.940 I would think so.

00:12:08.980 You would think so, right?

00:12:10.240 Okay, okay.

00:12:10.760 Yeah.

00:12:10.920 Okay, I don't know, I don't know the ins and outs of every situation, so I don't really

00:12:15.000 want to go into your personal one.

00:12:16.460 No, I'm just saying that when you say, like, if a girl hasn't taken it to the cops, then

00:12:21.160 she's lying, that's not a blanket statement.

00:12:23.100 Well, your friend did take it to the cops, right?

00:12:25.360 Yeah, but I'm telling you-

00:12:26.360 And I'm saying women should go to the cops. 1.00

00:12:28.160 No, no, no, because-

JustPearlyThings - May 24, 2023

They Were In Denial After Pearl Told Them This..

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