JustPearlyThings - July 24, 2023


Things Got HEATED After Pearl Brought Up This Topic


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Length

9 minutes

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208.96906

Word count

1,954

Sentence count

219

Harmful content

Misogyny

24

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Hate speech

21

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In this episode, we talk about cheating and why it s okay to cheat on your husband and how to deal with it. We also talk about why cheating is a normal part of being in a relationship and how it s OK to cheat.

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00:00:00.000 And screwing random chicks. 1.00
00:00:01.640 No, no, look.
00:00:03.520 Look, I mean, I don't wish to be cheated on.
00:00:06.920 I do not want to be cheated on.
00:00:08.560 You would accept it.
00:00:09.220 I think that it's silly to throw away a marriage
00:00:13.520 when you have children for your own personal feelings
00:00:17.420 because I think once you have a child,
00:00:19.400 it's not about you anymore.
00:00:21.040 Well, one cheat, I get that.
00:00:23.840 Everyone, no one is perfect.
00:00:25.400 I'm not saying I'll be happy with it.
00:00:26.820 You're going to ride because there's kids involved.
00:00:28.860 What if it's consistently the man don't respect you at all
00:00:32.000 and he's giving his good, fresh pee we need 0.57
00:00:35.000 into another wheel we need.
00:00:36.540 All right, all I want, how did women reproduce historically? 0.99
00:00:42.460 We got the attention of high-value men, right?
00:00:45.460 The highest, the best guy in the tribe.
00:00:47.920 We'd pull up our skirts and be like,
00:00:49.920 look, take me in, right?
00:00:51.620 That's how we survived.
00:00:53.360 How did men survive?
00:00:55.900 They'd become big, get resources, right?
00:00:58.360 They'd get strong.
00:00:59.920 And what would they do?
00:01:01.980 They would screw a bunch of chicks. 1.00
00:01:03.500 That's how they survived.
00:01:04.720 So I think that sex is to men like attention is to women. 0.74
00:01:07.980 That's my belief.
00:01:09.180 And I think if we're going to go off this logic,
00:01:11.380 we've never cheated.
00:01:13.000 None of us have flirted with another guy in a relationship.
00:01:16.220 None of us have posted a provocative picture.
00:01:19.120 We're all virgins on our wedding days.
00:01:20.920 I just think, like, maybe we should come with a little bit of humility.
00:01:25.200 That it's not like the end of the world if he sleeps with another person
00:01:28.900 and it can be worked through.
00:01:31.000 Yeah, but what if it's consistently?
00:01:32.640 Wouldn't you feel a bit upset?
00:01:34.480 What about all that loyalty that you've given that man,
00:01:37.280 that love, that energy,
00:01:38.620 and then they're just giving their good body to someone else?
00:01:41.480 Well, why did you do that before marriage?
00:01:44.940 Oh.
00:01:45.680 No, but marriage is marriage.
00:01:48.080 No, but you were supposed to.
00:01:49.440 What are you supposed to be?
00:01:51.400 You haven't committed.
00:01:51.980 What are you supposed to be?
00:01:53.560 Okay, did you want to be married?
00:01:55.420 Did most women want to be married? 1.00
00:01:56.900 Yes.
00:01:57.200 Did we know that on our wedding night we were supposed to be virgins?
00:02:00.760 Most people knew that.
00:02:02.140 No, no, most of us are not.
00:02:04.000 And that's my point.
00:02:05.240 It's not to say it's okay, but it's like, where is the humility?
00:02:08.980 Yeah, but you've got to throw all that virgin talk in the bin right now. 1.00
00:02:11.560 We need to get back to the fact that when you're married,
00:02:13.400 are you saying it's all right
00:02:14.820 to just completely keep getting consistently cheated on
00:02:17.020 without you feeling affected by it?
00:02:18.840 I wouldn't say consistency.
00:02:19.440 You know, wait, hold on.
00:02:20.460 I wanted her to answer that
00:02:21.740 because I'm not asking questions for no reason now.
00:02:24.220 Wouldn't you feel a little bit upset like he's been doing...
00:02:27.140 Sorry, I'm just going to finish what I'm saying
00:02:29.020 because I was just saying something.
00:02:30.760 I wanted to know, wouldn't you feel like that's a little bit...
00:02:33.420 Sorry, oh, am I getting cut?
00:02:34.980 Oh, it was a valid point.
00:02:36.000 I'm going to...
00:02:36.140 You idiot, look, look, it's not the valid point.
00:02:38.880 It's that my producer was talking first.
00:02:40.740 Yeah, but I was talking and he cut into me.
00:02:42.680 No, but he's allowed to do such a show.
00:02:44.460 He's allowed to do that.
00:02:45.320 It doesn't matter.
00:02:45.840 I'm going to let him go and then you can go.
00:02:49.140 Okay, I'm going to let him go.
00:02:50.120 Then you can go.
00:02:50.840 Go ahead.
00:02:51.300 Yeah.
00:02:52.240 So here's the thing about it.
00:02:53.820 Yeah, you can laugh what you want,
00:02:54.980 but here's the thing about it.
00:02:56.940 The reality is a man that is going to be cheating on you consistently
00:03:00.600 is one of two things.
00:03:02.360 Either he has always been a cheat and you knew
00:03:04.580 and you decided to get married to him,
00:03:06.540 which is entirely your fault. 0.61
00:03:09.340 Or let's do what the women usually do. 1.00
00:03:12.360 If he just started cheating out of the blue
00:03:14.520 and he does it consistently,
00:03:16.160 maybe you should ask yourself,
00:03:17.500 why is he cheating?
00:03:18.640 What are you doing wrong?
00:03:19.620 Because that's what we always ask when a woman cheats. 1.00
00:03:22.240 Or what did the man do?
00:03:23.620 So maybe you should ask yourself,
00:03:25.320 I 100% agree.
00:03:26.600 Do you agree to cheat?
00:03:27.100 I agree.
00:03:27.780 Yeah, I agree with him as well.
00:03:29.060 I'm just putting other points, boy.
00:03:31.100 Okay, what's your...
00:03:31.980 What is your question?
00:03:33.860 Oh, I forgot now.
00:03:35.020 You all got cut.
00:03:35.840 That's it.
00:03:36.220 Oh, no.
00:03:36.860 Finish.
00:03:37.400 I'm those type of people.
00:03:38.900 All right.
00:03:39.200 You cut me up again.
00:03:40.520 All right.
00:03:41.460 All right.
00:03:42.240 Yeah, but I think a lot of times as women, 1.00
00:03:44.500 we just think we're the hot shit.
00:03:46.380 And I just think we could use a little bit of humility
00:03:48.440 and understanding.
00:03:50.040 Men are... 0.95
00:03:50.780 Look it.
00:03:51.700 What if men left us every time we sought attention from other men?
00:03:56.180 We would be so goddamn single.
00:03:58.540 Oh, my God.
00:03:59.320 In this generation?
00:04:00.540 Attention will slip with other men.
00:04:01.740 And attention.
00:04:03.260 That's what I'm saying.
00:04:04.040 Because how did we...
00:04:05.300 Like, to me, those are the same.
00:04:06.800 Seeking attention from another guy is the same as getting sex from another girl. 0.83
00:04:10.920 Okay.
00:04:12.300 Well, yeah, it's not right.
00:04:13.600 It's just not right in any way.
00:04:15.660 It's something that is hard for anyone to really get over.
00:04:19.240 Like, how often do women go out in provocative clothes in a relationship? 1.00
00:04:23.540 How often do women go out to a club in a relationship? 1.00
00:04:26.400 We weren't virgins on our wedding days.
00:04:28.540 My whole point is men are programmed to sleep with anything.
00:04:32.160 Guys have a hard time turning down easy sex.
00:04:35.300 It's probably not even you.
00:04:37.200 It's just the sex was there.
00:04:38.500 Or maybe it was you.
00:04:40.100 And, you know, I just think it's about the kids.
00:04:43.200 So, yeah, I would stick it out.
00:04:45.060 I believe every man will do their dirt.
00:04:47.660 I definitely believe it.
00:04:48.960 Regardless, even if you think that you're doing the best thing.
00:04:51.800 But it's not something that every woman can accept. 0.87
00:04:55.740 It's something mentally.
00:04:57.120 Wouldn't it be easier to just...
00:04:58.620 This is how I think about it.
00:05:00.140 Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it?
00:05:02.000 It would be so much easier to just accept being cheated on.
00:05:06.900 Yeah, I know.
00:05:07.520 Seriously, I was thinking about this.
00:05:09.000 Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it might happen?
00:05:11.960 I have a theory.
00:05:12.900 Because otherwise you're going to be at his phone, checking where he's doing.
00:05:16.020 Like, what are you going to do?
00:05:17.640 Mentally, it would disturb your brain.
00:05:18.920 I feel like...
00:05:19.660 You know, it's a choice.
00:05:21.100 It's a choice.
00:05:21.920 Go ahead.
00:05:22.200 I feel like within the first year of a relationship, a man is tempted to cheat.
00:05:26.500 Just to make sure that that girl is the girl that he wants to be with.
00:05:29.900 But that's just my mentality of thinking of the relationship-wise.
00:05:34.680 I always feel like it happens within the first year.
00:05:37.100 And if it happens after the first year, yeah, there's something wrong with the woman. 1.00
00:05:40.080 There's something wrong within the relationship.
00:05:42.280 I think men just like... 0.93
00:05:43.360 I just think sometimes when like a hoe is there and willing, the guy's just like... 1.00
00:05:49.660 You know, a work trip, it's like...
00:05:53.360 Go ahead.
00:05:53.900 I mean, I wouldn't say if a man cheats, then there's something wrong with the woman. 1.00
00:05:57.140 Sometimes men cheat because they're just depressed.
00:05:59.060 It's just there.
00:05:59.700 Oh, depressed.
00:06:00.420 Yeah, I mean, some men cheat because they just don't feel...
00:06:04.060 They don't see any value.
00:06:05.160 But then would you not class that as something, as the woman is not giving him?
00:06:08.280 Because why is your man depressed when you don't know your man is depressed and you can't help him?
00:06:11.480 Okay, I have a question.
00:06:11.940 Have you ever flirted with another guy in a relationship while you're in a relationship?
00:06:16.940 Well, from when you're saying that putting certain pictures up is...
00:06:19.640 Basically cheating, then I would have to say yeah.
00:06:21.380 Yeah.
00:06:23.700 Okay, and did that really have to do with him?
00:06:26.900 Was he doing something wrong?
00:06:28.800 I would have to say yeah.
00:06:30.280 Because obviously if I'm seeking attention, then it means I'm not getting attention from my man.
00:06:33.520 Okay, okay.
00:06:34.380 So you did it to like get back at him?
00:06:36.420 I wouldn't say as I get back, but it's something that we crave as women.
00:06:40.320 We need that attention and we need that...
00:06:42.440 If you're in a relationship, it's something that your man should be giving you anyway.
00:06:45.380 And if he's not giving it to you, you're going to seek it elsewhere.
00:06:47.680 Do you think men should break up with women that do that? 1.00
00:06:50.720 Yeah.
00:06:51.060 No.
00:06:51.340 I think so.
00:06:52.120 He's like, yeah.
00:06:52.960 No.
00:06:53.700 Tell me why.
00:06:54.720 Because I think if your woman cheats on you, to me, it's done. 0.99
00:06:57.780 It's no coming back.
00:06:58.400 But again, it depends on her definition of cheating.
00:07:01.140 That's why I was saying about pictures.
00:07:02.420 Because it's like sexual.
00:07:03.060 If she has sex with another man. 0.72
00:07:04.540 No, I'm saying like pictures.
00:07:06.340 No, no, no.
00:07:06.860 I think that we can work out.
00:07:08.300 Yeah.
00:07:08.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:07:09.400 But to me, that's the equivalent.
00:07:11.600 Like you can work out a picture.
00:07:13.180 No, no.
00:07:13.580 I can work out a picture, but I can't work out her having sex with another man. 0.99
00:07:17.220 That's like...
00:07:17.620 Right.
00:07:19.100 But here's the thing about women. 1.00
00:07:20.800 You can't...
00:07:22.440 I don't know.
00:07:23.520 It's always very weird because if you think about it, if your woman is doing something 1.00
00:07:28.740 that is affecting the relationship and you ask her to stop and she doesn't stop it immediately,
00:07:34.220 I don't think there's anything to work out.
00:07:36.520 I mean, pictures you can.
00:07:38.200 I think some people have been doing that since they were like 14.
00:07:41.040 It's become a habit.
00:07:41.760 It's not even like they're doing it for attention anymore.
00:07:44.060 It's become like a...
00:07:45.640 That's how they function.
00:07:46.780 Social media problem.
00:07:48.220 It's become a habit.
00:07:49.120 It's a clout.
00:07:49.760 Yeah, it's become something that they've been doing all their lives.
00:07:52.340 So I think people just need to heal.
00:07:54.500 That's what I would say.
00:07:55.240 Before you get in a relationship, just heal.
00:07:57.060 I agree.
00:07:57.660 Be better.
00:07:58.420 I think women... 1.00
00:07:59.280 I think we shouldn't heal.
00:08:00.840 I think we should.
00:08:01.660 No, no.
00:08:02.300 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:03.660 I think this is...
00:08:05.600 Yeah, this is...
00:08:06.280 This is...
00:08:06.840 No, no.
00:08:07.440 This is what...
00:08:08.720 I think women got into therapy to control men. 0.99
00:08:14.300 Yeah, and just tell them.
00:08:15.620 Yeah, and I think the women will send the men to therapy to just confuse them. 1.00
00:08:19.160 Now, I'm not saying there's not exceptions.
00:08:21.260 I'm sure there's...
00:08:22.100 Maybe it helped you personally.
00:08:23.940 Yeah, because I...
00:08:24.200 That was a personal choice.
00:08:25.300 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:26.300 Well, again, I'm not talking about you.
00:08:28.040 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:28.500 But I think in general, when I hear the word trauma, when I hear the word therapy, I'm
00:08:35.180 like red flag.
00:08:36.460 Why?
00:08:37.060 Because it's women-led. 1.00
00:08:39.040 I think women should... 1.00
00:08:39.840 Men really shouldn't get like advice and like guidance from women. 1.00
00:08:43.860 But then if that's your wife or your girlfriend's job. 1.00
00:08:47.560 What's the point of being with them?
00:08:49.340 No, I think the women should be guided by the men. 1.00
00:08:52.280 I think like that goes back to the we're equal model.
00:08:54.780 So basically the obey.
00:08:55.780 The woman should basically obey. 1.00
00:08:57.660 She's getting it.
00:08:58.880 Yes, yes.
00:08:59.660 I think like...
00:09:01.620 Because the thing is that what they would do, and this happens in a lot of Christian like 0.98
00:09:05.300 churches as they infiltrated the churches in the early, the late 1800s, early 1900s,
00:09:11.140 and basically like weaponized scripture and like rewrote scripture to like go towards a
00:09:15.840 more egalitarian model.
00:09:17.300 That's why they'll be like submit to each other, all that bullshit.
00:09:20.140 It's like rewritten.