JustPearlyThings - October 17, 2023


This 21tons Guy Gets ROASTED For Giving Excuses On While He's OBSESSED


Episode Stats

Length

36 minutes

Words per Minute

193.46985

Word Count

7,152

Sentence Count

332

Misogynist Sentences

44

Hate Speech Sentences

20


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I had a hernia, I'd had three C-sections, my stomach was protruding, that's the recti muscle
00:00:07.140 in the middle had opened, I needed to have muscle repair.
00:00:10.300 And that cannot be fixed in the gym.
00:00:12.960 So when I was losing the weight, in fact, I actually looked better when I was bigger
00:00:16.580 because I could hold my own.
00:00:18.800 When I lost the weight, everything dropped and went down south and it looked worse, to
00:00:23.060 be fair.
00:00:24.700 So when I saw that happened after I'd lost all the weight, well, what do I do now?
00:00:28.740 Because the gym is not going to help this.
00:00:31.340 I need to have a tummy tuck.
00:00:33.620 I need to have muscle repair.
00:00:36.540 So knowing that I needed to have that done, there is a number of people out there, why don't
00:00:41.740 you go to the gym?
00:00:42.740 Well, I did.
00:00:43.740 For many years.
00:00:44.740 And my biggest thing is, too, if we're supposed to enthusiastically support people chopping off
00:00:50.220 their wieners and becoming women, you've got to shut up about this other stuff, too.
00:00:54.740 God, can I say something?
00:00:56.740 You've got to choose one.
00:00:58.340 Can I share something, please?
00:00:59.340 Go on.
00:01:00.340 Can I just remind you all that body positivity isn't only, like, people with big, big black
00:01:05.340 relations?
00:01:06.340 No, of course not.
00:01:07.340 No.
00:01:08.340 It's about unable people as well.
00:01:09.340 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:10.340 And people are born deformed.
00:01:11.340 Some people are born with disabilities.
00:01:13.340 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:14.340 And I think body positivity is also linked with that.
00:01:16.940 But the main marketing component of body positivity is towards women to say, you can be obese and
00:01:23.940 you're still beautiful.
00:01:24.940 I just don't think we should celebrate something that's a choice.
00:01:27.940 Which, you're celebrating it when you're putting it on the cover of magazines.
00:01:32.940 That's a reward.
00:01:33.940 That's like a positive thing when you're specifically giving people parts because they're plus size.
00:01:38.940 When you're specifically trying to put it out there, make that the representation in the media.
00:01:43.940 And it's interesting, too, because earlier you said, like, that you seem to say, like, you
00:01:50.940 couldn't lose the weight.
00:01:51.940 Was that what you were saying earlier?
00:01:52.940 Yes.
00:01:53.940 I couldn't.
00:01:54.940 But it's like before the podcast start, you drink a Coke.
00:01:57.940 Yes.
00:01:58.940 I'm not trying to call you out, but it's like...
00:01:59.940 No, no, no.
00:02:00.940 It's like...
00:02:01.940 No, don't get me wrong.
00:02:02.940 Yeah.
00:02:03.940 Hello.
00:02:04.940 I'm on your podcast.
00:02:05.940 I want to have a good time, you know.
00:02:06.940 I'm not at home.
00:02:07.940 I don't need to be drinking all healthy stuff.
00:02:09.940 But what I'm saying...
00:02:10.940 Okay.
00:02:11.940 The reason I say that is just because I'll hear people say that, but then I, like, watch what
00:02:15.940 they eat and I'm like, it doesn't seem to add up.
00:02:17.940 Do you know, it's just about representation.
00:02:20.940 It's basically the little things from, like, there's, for example, you can go to a store.
00:02:28.940 You can't get certain things.
00:02:31.940 You can order something from online.
00:02:34.940 You can't see.
00:02:35.940 You can't actually, because there's not the person wearing it, you can't see it.
00:02:40.940 I was actually going to say something.
00:02:43.940 What I wanted to say is, it's actually just go on, go on, take it away.
00:02:47.940 No, I think as well.
00:02:48.940 It's just the man thought just escaped.
00:02:50.940 That's fine.
00:02:51.940 I think it all starts as well from a young age and how you're brought up.
00:02:57.940 Yes.
00:02:58.940 And the way that your parents feed you and what they do for you being brought up.
00:03:04.940 Well, and that's why I think it's so important to, like, get in control of your eating habits if you want to have children.
00:03:09.940 Because it's not fair to the next generation to be brought up with eating habits that will give you an early grave.
00:03:15.940 And I even think about that with myself because I have, like, a horrible sugar addiction.
00:03:19.940 I literally love sugar.
00:03:21.940 It's so bad.
00:03:22.940 So does everybody else.
00:03:23.940 It's addictive.
00:03:24.940 Right.
00:03:25.940 But we do have, like, health problems because, like, a lot of people in my family eat a lot of, like, I forget what, the early onset something.
00:03:33.940 I don't know.
00:03:34.940 I'm not a medical person.
00:03:35.940 But, like, I think of this even for myself, you know.
00:03:37.940 Yeah.
00:03:38.940 So I think it's, like, important that we don't celebrate that sort of thing.
00:03:41.940 Yeah.
00:03:42.940 I agree with that.
00:03:43.940 Because growing up, for me, I used to see my mum forever doing different diets.
00:03:47.940 Yeah.
00:03:48.940 Going on the Cambridge diet.
00:03:49.940 You know when you just eat the shakes and you have those cardboard bars?
00:03:52.940 Yeah.
00:03:53.940 Do you know the kilo diet as well?
00:03:54.940 Yeah.
00:03:55.940 All of this.
00:03:56.940 And I saw my mum do that.
00:03:57.940 And I remember being at school and my mum was happy to say, I'd be like, Mum, I want to go on a diet.
00:04:00.940 And she'd pack my rivita with my fruit.
00:04:03.940 And I was at school in year eight, year nine.
00:04:05.940 So it was 12, 13.
00:04:06.940 Yeah.
00:04:07.940 And my mum was happy to do that.
00:04:09.940 Whereas, you know, it's created bad habits for me and unhealthy parenting habits.
00:04:13.940 Yeah.
00:04:14.940 I think everything in moderation.
00:04:15.940 Yeah.
00:04:16.940 Do you know what I realized, too?
00:04:17.940 I think it's a problem that comes from moms not being in the home anymore.
00:04:22.940 Yeah.
00:04:23.940 Because when moms are in the home, they're watching, like, what everyone's eating.
00:04:26.940 Yeah.
00:04:27.940 It's tough to do that.
00:04:28.940 To watch what everyone's eating when you're working, like, 20, 30, 40 hours a week.
00:04:32.940 Yeah.
00:04:33.940 In addition to that, a lot of these food companies are behind the body positivity movement.
00:04:38.940 Because they know that their food is not really food.
00:04:41.940 It's, like, legislated poison.
00:04:42.940 Yeah.
00:04:43.940 They have so much high fructose culture and stuff.
00:04:45.940 Chemicals.
00:04:46.940 And then, in addition to that, too, the rates of home cooking is going down all across the globe.
00:04:53.940 Guilty.
00:04:54.940 Yeah.
00:04:55.940 And then, you know, people want to order Uber Eats and this and all that crap.
00:04:58.940 And then you're just eating processed food.
00:05:01.940 And I personally, this is me, I'm not, well, I don't have a food degree or whatever.
00:05:06.940 My degree is in psychology.
00:05:07.940 But I do believe that the rise that we're seeing, we're ever seeing an increasing rate of cancer in people.
00:05:15.940 I think that's directly correlated to the amount of processed food that we're consuming.
00:05:19.940 Yeah.
00:05:20.940 This is what I wanted to say earlier.
00:05:22.940 Body positivity is important.
00:05:25.940 And the reason why it's important is because people have grown, grown up watching different things.
00:05:32.940 They've watched a certain type of people.
00:05:35.940 They've watched a certain type of behavior.
00:05:37.940 And people, there are some people that don't leave their house.
00:05:41.940 There are some people who travel.
00:05:43.940 There are some people who don't experience much.
00:05:47.940 And they don't know.
00:05:49.940 They judge people.
00:05:50.940 They have certain behaviors, what was taught on telly.
00:05:54.940 And that's why it's important.
00:05:57.940 It's not because it's important like big people should be promoted.
00:06:01.940 It's important because some people actually aren't nice.
00:06:05.940 And some people do judge.
00:06:07.940 And some people speak, use a certain language.
00:06:10.940 And if there was, while growing up, if there was a mixture of people, if there were a mixture of cultures,
00:06:16.940 a mixture of backgrounds, all these things, yeah, body positivity wouldn't be needed.
00:06:23.940 But unfortunately, we've been programmed to think this is beautiful.
00:06:28.940 That is beautiful.
00:06:29.940 I don't think so.
00:06:30.940 No, no.
00:06:31.940 Because if you look at, because they did a study on this.
00:06:33.940 This is what I do for a living.
00:06:34.940 Yeah.
00:06:35.940 Let me just tell you.
00:06:36.940 Okay.
00:06:37.940 So they did a study on female attractiveness across all cultures over multiple different generations and time periods.
00:06:44.940 Wow.
00:06:45.940 And what guys like is still the same.
00:06:46.940 Yeah.
00:06:47.940 Small hips, nice butt, big breasts.
00:06:50.940 Shall I tell you why?
00:06:52.940 I have something here, too.
00:06:53.940 It says obese women are 20% less likely to marry.
00:06:57.940 This is a survey of over 10,000 people, which is a huge sample size.
00:07:01.940 According to a large 2022 social survey on dating, 65% of men would assign a rejection score to three out of five women,
00:07:11.940 meaning they would, they're more likely to reject them.
00:07:13.940 And 18% of men assign a five out of five rejection score, meaning they would definitely reject them.
00:07:18.940 So on that, I'd like to point out that we are talking about obese people because fatness is seen as the monolith of body positivity,
00:07:28.940 and fat people are an easy target.
00:07:30.940 We can have skinny people on the covers of magazines, and no one will say anything.
00:07:34.940 You won't hear a peep.
00:07:35.940 Yeah.
00:07:36.940 But their help is still in danger in many instances.
00:07:38.940 No, they did in the early 2000s.
00:07:40.940 They said the girls were too skinny.
00:07:42.940 I actually remember that face.
00:07:43.940 Yeah.
00:07:44.940 No, they definitely did.
00:07:45.940 And where's that now?
00:07:46.940 Anorexia was literally a thing.
00:07:48.940 Models were-
00:07:49.940 Yeah, they were demonizing it.
00:07:50.940 The casting directors were getting sued all sorts.
00:07:52.940 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:07:53.940 People complained.
00:07:54.940 Where is that now?
00:07:55.940 The skinny girls aren't on the covers anymore.
00:07:57.940 They're replaced.
00:07:58.940 You think they're being replaced by fat people?
00:08:00.940 Yes.
00:08:01.940 No, no.
00:08:02.940 That's not true.
00:08:03.940 Please.
00:08:04.940 No, Perl.
00:08:05.940 That's not true.
00:08:06.940 I'm sorry.
00:08:07.940 Let's look at the Victoria's Secret fashion show.
00:08:09.940 Come on.
00:08:10.940 That was like the epitome of modeling.
00:08:12.940 Yeah.
00:08:13.940 But Victoria's-
00:08:14.940 That was one of the top, like the epitome.
00:08:16.940 You cannot tell me.
00:08:17.940 Yeah.
00:08:18.940 That was not one of the most competitive, like everyone wanted to be a Victoria's Secret model.
00:08:22.940 And then since they've switched too, Victoria's Secret has been bleeding money.
00:08:26.940 They're losing money right now.
00:08:28.940 They're no longer a profitable business.
00:08:29.940 No.
00:08:30.940 But you need to think about how these brands are moving as well.
00:08:32.940 With Victoria's Secret, it was this tall woman.
00:08:36.940 There's this blonde hair.
00:08:38.940 Yeah.
00:08:39.940 She's a certain looking type.
00:08:41.940 And you really see a difference in what Rihanna's doing.
00:08:45.940 She's involving a whole load of rage and she's getting themselves.
00:08:49.940 So Victoria's Secret didn't move with the time and now the event is taking over.
00:08:53.940 I mean-
00:08:54.940 But I don't think we should have to adjust because of people's choices.
00:08:57.940 Mm-hm.
00:08:58.940 Like I don't like- because if you make a choice to be overweight, like why does society have
00:09:02.940 to adjust to you?
00:09:03.940 Like why does there have to be representation?
00:09:05.940 Wait, let me finish.
00:09:06.940 Why does there have to be representation on the cover of magazines?
00:09:09.940 Why do they have to make specific stores for bigger people when really we should be focusing
00:09:13.940 on losing the weight?
00:09:14.940 But Pearl, imagine for you as a tall person-
00:09:17.940 I used to be- I used to be pretty big.
00:09:19.940 Yeah.
00:09:20.940 So you're tall, so-
00:09:21.940 Sorry, I just- I keep on losing my thoughts.
00:09:24.940 Sorry.
00:09:25.940 You're tall-
00:09:26.940 Right.
00:09:27.940 And imagine you going to- I'm guessing loads of places you go and you're like, oh gosh,
00:09:32.940 I'm tall.
00:09:33.940 I can't actually- I can't include myself in that.
00:09:36.940 Just like with plus size people.
00:09:37.940 Now some people-
00:09:38.940 Yeah, but life is-
00:09:39.940 Life isn't fair though.
00:09:40.940 But some people are- some people are lazy-
00:09:42.940 And I have to pay extra money, but I live.
00:09:44.940 You know what I mean?
00:09:45.940 Yeah.
00:09:46.940 Life isn't fair.
00:09:47.940 But that's the thing.
00:09:48.940 Some people have a choice of being big.
00:09:51.940 Some people are ill and they're big.
00:09:53.940 There are different types of reasons why people are big.
00:09:56.940 Some people-
00:09:57.940 I'll personally-
00:09:58.940 And I'll put this on the podcast.
00:10:00.940 Anyone says that they have no choice in being big, I'll pay for their personal training
00:10:04.940 and their nutrition.
00:10:05.940 I'll pay for it myself.
00:10:06.940 Well, Pearl, if I want to lose weight-
00:10:07.940 Okay.
00:10:08.940 If I want to lose weight, can I get in touch with you if I want to lose weight?
00:10:11.940 Yes, I'll pay.
00:10:12.940 And you're going to pay for it.
00:10:13.940 Yeah, I'll pay for it.
00:10:14.940 I'll pay for it.
00:10:15.940 I'm doing it with you.
00:10:16.940 I'm not wasting money.
00:10:17.940 Okay.
00:10:18.940 You have to meet me at the gym.
00:10:20.940 We'll see, Pearl.
00:10:21.940 I'm not-
00:10:22.940 I'm not-
00:10:23.940 But then look, there's certain laws of physics too that are like-
00:10:25.940 Yeah.
00:10:26.940 Like you can't just spontaneously get fat.
00:10:29.940 Like the only way you get fat is from over-consuming calories.
00:10:34.940 There's no ands, ifs, or buts about it.
00:10:36.940 My mom just came to Tokyo and I told her, I'm going to take care of you, but you got
00:10:40.940 to be in fat camp because I want my mom around, right?
00:10:43.940 And so I brought her over and I had to teach her the fundamentals of losing weight, fasting,
00:10:49.940 physical fitness training, muscle training, all these things, right?
00:10:53.940 And she was grossly, grossly undereducated on these things.
00:10:56.940 And in three months, she lost 25 pounds.
00:10:59.940 And I sent her back home, right?
00:11:02.940 So, but you know what she told me before she came to Tokyo?
00:11:07.940 She's like, well, I have been going through menopause.
00:11:10.940 That's why I'm gaining weight.
00:11:11.940 I was like, mom, I love you.
00:11:12.940 But that is literally impossible for you just to spontaneously create fat cells.
00:11:20.940 It doesn't work like that.
00:11:22.940 Like it is understanding your daily calorie needs.
00:11:26.940 And then if you over consume those daily calorie needs, your body will convert the remainder
00:11:31.940 of food into fat.
00:11:33.940 And there is no ands, ifs, or buts about it.
00:11:35.940 So I'm not saying, I understand what you're saying, like being fat isn't choice, but because
00:11:39.940 I think people are just undereducated because when you do over consume food, because a lot
00:11:44.940 of people like, you know, when I see these girls drinking these like venti size Starbucks with
00:11:50.940 like 800, like one drink is like 800 calories.
00:11:56.940 That's like a ribeye steak.
00:11:58.940 Mine's 300.
00:12:01.940 I don't ever mind if I get a skinny skinny.
00:12:03.940 Pearl, honestly, this whole obesity thing, look at what the food industry is doing.
00:12:09.940 Look at the policies and procedures that are changing.
00:12:11.940 A lot of food, remember, a lot of obesity starts because people are reacting with what's
00:12:18.940 in our food that's not actually good for us.
00:12:21.940 Air fryers, they're having causes.
00:12:24.940 They're the worst.
00:12:25.940 I love air fryers.
00:12:26.940 I'm sorry, but with the internet, there's just no excuse.
00:12:28.940 I agree.
00:12:29.940 You can look into all of this stuff.
00:12:30.940 You know, like we can't blame the food industry.
00:12:32.940 You can get it like that.
00:12:33.940 You know, I still drink my, I've been trying to lose 15 pounds forever, but I still drink
00:12:37.940 my Starbucks every day.
00:12:38.940 It's my own damn fault.
00:12:39.940 We had pizza last night.
00:12:41.940 Yeah, I know.
00:12:42.940 Some people.
00:12:43.940 I tried to cook something.
00:12:46.940 I didn't eat breakfast or lunch today because we had pizza.
00:12:50.940 No, that's me either.
00:12:51.940 I have the same thing.
00:12:52.940 And some people maybe can only offer dollar store food.
00:12:56.940 You don't know.
00:12:57.940 Or pan shops.
00:12:58.940 Or Iceland.
00:12:59.940 Eggs are cheap.
00:13:00.940 Yeah.
00:13:01.940 Eggs are cheap.
00:13:02.940 Like chicken is pretty cheap.
00:13:03.940 The cheap one is cheap.
00:13:04.940 I mean, because it's got stuff in it.
00:13:06.940 But if you want to get an organic one.
00:13:08.940 Oatmeal is cheap.
00:13:09.940 I mean, there's not really.
00:13:10.940 No, there's really.
00:13:11.940 But you'd be surprised how many stuff is in our meat, in our chicken.
00:13:14.940 I did this.
00:13:15.940 I actually have an episode on Wife School if you want to watch it.
00:13:17.940 Like, Auntie got me 50 pounds for two weeks of groceries, all organic food.
00:13:21.940 So if you guys do want to learn about it, it's on Wife School.
00:13:24.940 You can do it though.
00:13:25.940 It really is about habits.
00:13:26.940 I think it was maybe start this year or last year.
00:13:30.940 I literally went grocery shopping.
00:13:32.940 And I went to obviously like Aldi or something like that, right?
00:13:35.940 Luxury.
00:13:36.940 You know, it's cheap.
00:13:38.940 But like you can get good, you know, healthy foods there.
00:13:41.940 And I was like, I was vegetarian for nine months.
00:13:44.940 I did live with an Indian family at the time as well.
00:13:46.940 So like it helped me.
00:13:47.940 I was at that time literally 10 kilograms heavier than I am now.
00:13:52.940 And when I went vegetarian for nine months, I'd have like meat every so often.
00:13:57.940 When I was at my ex-boyfriend's now house.
00:14:00.940 But like just cutting out the meat for me all that time helped me actually lose that weight.
00:14:08.940 But also compared to Australia and here, your food here goes off so much quicker.
00:14:13.940 Which is a good thing.
00:14:14.940 Yeah.
00:14:15.940 And in Australia, it can be in my fridge for like two months, a month.
00:14:19.940 And it's still, I can still eat it.
00:14:21.940 Yeah.
00:14:22.940 It doesn't last more than three days here.
00:14:23.940 The best kind of food expires in like five days.
00:14:25.940 And after five days, you're like, oh.
00:14:27.940 Which is good.
00:14:28.940 Like I live in Japan.
00:14:29.940 Like the Japanese wives, they go to the grocery store every day.
00:14:32.940 Yeah.
00:14:33.940 Because it does go off quickly.
00:14:34.940 Yeah.
00:14:35.940 Do you know what?
00:14:36.940 The world is going to get fatter and fatter.
00:14:37.940 Shall I tell you why?
00:14:38.940 Why?
00:14:39.940 Because you know a lot of these vegan foods, these processed sausages and all that.
00:14:42.940 And they're saying it's vegan.
00:14:43.940 Oh, again.
00:14:44.940 You need to see what's actually in them.
00:14:45.940 They're the worst.
00:14:46.940 They're the worst.
00:14:47.940 Yeah.
00:14:48.940 They actually, they're not.
00:14:50.940 They're the market.
00:14:51.940 It's a never marketing thing.
00:14:52.940 It's another agenda.
00:14:53.940 Yeah.
00:14:54.940 Well, all this vegan food is still going to carry on the obesity-ness because what they're
00:15:00.940 putting in, it's not great.
00:15:02.940 And that's the truth.
00:15:03.940 And that's why I say anyone who wants to lose weight, since this is a plus size topic,
00:15:07.940 eat natural foods.
00:15:08.940 Agreed.
00:15:09.940 great your vegetable try and go as organic as you can and just think about green what's good what's
00:15:16.820 yeah what can you take from the earth that's been provided naturally and that's my advice
00:15:22.740 i would say walk i just wanted to say like when like we were going on the um topic of like front
00:15:29.300 of magazines and stuff like that the covers of magazines do you not also think that this whole
00:15:34.580 you know 10 perfect image can also have a detrimental effect mentally women because we
00:15:41.460 are going to strive to want to be that 10 so that's going to then create a whole that was
00:15:46.820 me you got it you got it yeah i have an answer i have an answer only if you're mentally weak
00:15:58.820 i want my self-esteem to be a little bit humbled and lowered when i look on the
00:16:04.340 covers i remember the days when i could pull the cover off and put it on my fridge
00:16:09.300 and she was my motivation yeah i liked those days that's a good thing right but it does
00:16:17.220 create more issues for those people who have the trauma well and i also think it's okay to be an
00:16:22.180 average chick like why do we live in this world where you need to be top 10 but there's a new
00:16:28.580 average if people are growing more corpulent and obesity is becoming the norm than the average
00:16:34.260 is actually changing and what i want lowered right well you would agree are you saying being
00:16:39.300 it's being changed i didn't say lowered or elevated because i think that's quite subjective we're
00:16:44.020 talking about beauty we're talking about health health i don't think is as subjective as
00:16:48.260 subjective men find genuine generally the same things attractive in what cultures and at what
00:16:53.860 time periods if we read up on it across cultures you could see that in history being on the heavier
00:16:59.140 side was actually a sign of being wealthy we've had so many people bring this up on the shows it's not
00:17:09.380 true not across the board yeah they what cultures is it not true it goes back to like mesopotamia
00:17:16.740 and are we talking about so when i say it was a sign of being wealthy or rich we're talking about people
00:17:23.140 not having enough money and therefore starving and being on the gaunter side of the spectrum right
00:17:28.740 versus people who are wealthy and obviously when you have money you're you know your discipline
00:17:33.140 decreases and so you're spending on food and you grow to be more corpulent and so what i'm trying to
00:17:38.740 say is like there there have been multiple time periods multiple cultures where they studied multiple
00:17:44.900 fertility gods and goddesses of sex and they all were the same they were big nice round butt
00:17:51.780 small hips big breasts yeah flat stomach okay young yes right and that's literally multiple time
00:17:58.980 periods over multiple cultures that couldn't even communicate with each other so you're talking about
00:18:02.260 asia africa you know the aztecs all of these europe they have all of these things and it's correlating
00:18:10.020 across all of these cultures during all these time periods so it's it is an objective marker and
00:18:16.980 then if you look at now too like despite this gigantic corporate push towards body positivity
00:18:24.820 dudes still like skinny hot girls big boobs okay and those same women who are the personification of
00:18:32.340 beauty for men how do we know that they are not equally unhealthy as someone who is perhaps my shape who
00:18:39.140 is a little bit on the on the rounder side and people might look at me and have health concerns that's a
00:18:43.700 good place like let's talk about the difference the disparity between how someone presents and what
00:18:49.700 is going on on the inside because this discussion it transcends health and beauty we're talking about
00:18:56.420 i'll give you two things one is a lot more common so the the obesity is much more common than anorexia
00:19:02.500 only like yeah i don't know the exact number but it's less than five percent of women are even underweight
00:19:07.300 so one is much more common um and the second thing is um morbidly obese people's life expectancy drops
00:19:14.980 so by by molt i don't i don't know the exact number off the top of my head so when you look at the
00:19:18.980 numbers of the people that are underweight and the people that are morbidly obese the people that are
00:19:22.660 morbidly obese have a lower life expectancy yeah like these these style models these plus size models
00:19:28.260 are starting to drop off there was this latina plus size model she was 37 years old she died from heart
00:19:33.620 heart attack and the number one reason people die in the world is due to circulatory issues
00:19:38.980 and once you're obese and you're consuming too much food your veins and everything they actually get
00:19:44.740 clogged up with excess amounts of fat when you're a skinny person that's just i mean biologically it's
00:19:50.500 impossible because you don't have an excess amount of fat so when you talk about markers of health
00:19:55.540 that's what i'm trying to say is like the larger girls that one marker of health in regards to
00:20:00.580 circulatory health is going to be lower compared to somebody who is thinner and we're talking about
00:20:06.500 that one specific marker of health well do you know do you know which uh which people live the
00:20:12.340 longest on the planet which hey isn't it isn't it mediterranean no it's japanese women oh no way japan
00:20:21.540 has the third lowest obesity rate in the world you know as a direct correlation to that so i tell you why
00:20:27.940 why why because they eat their own food and they ain't eating no processed foods they stuck to their
00:20:33.460 rice yeah they stuck to their steamed fish they stuck to all the natural foods that's why because they
00:20:40.500 kept it not they kept it good but with i think with the western food in general a lot of it is processed
00:20:48.820 that that is the issue a lot of it's all about money when it's quick yeah it's quick it's accessible
00:20:53.380 quick and easy accessible like when people sit around they they people sit around and they eat carbs
00:20:58.980 and they think like i'm just eating carbs like i'm because i feel hungry but they keep eating it and then
00:21:04.500 they wonder why they keep feeling hungry is because they're not getting satiated they're not getting
00:21:08.100 the vitamins they need they're not getting nutrients the micronutrients all these things so like i noticed
00:21:13.620 personally that when i switched to just eating two grass-fed grass-finished steaks a day like i would
00:21:19.460 be completely satiated but i mean when was last time you're eating potato chips you're like yeah i've
00:21:24.660 had enough potato chips let's talk about your cholesterol then you're not just slamming them down yeah let's
00:21:28.980 talk about your cholesterol because aren't there some schools of thought that say if you over index on
00:21:33.060 red meat that your cholesterol goes through the roof yes and butter no as well potentially i i actually had a
00:21:39.540 woman that only eats red meat yeah on the show and what her insides look good what did she look good
00:21:45.700 she looked great she had really um clear skin and all of her annual like um autoimmune issues
00:21:51.140 on a way like she had like a bunch of health problems and all went away but eating i don't know
00:21:55.140 it's sold down to the meat industry where does she get her meat we don't know she probably gets good meat
00:21:59.620 and if she has a heart attack tomorrow what do we what do we say to that then it probably didn't work
00:22:03.460 like but but so far she hasn't had a heart attack so far so far but then there are loads of uh sort of
00:22:08.900 plus size people myself include i haven't had a heart attack yet and i'm i'm like my bmi is terrible
00:22:14.260 i haven't had a heart attack and i can still stand for an hour you're only you're only you're only 24
00:22:19.300 though it's like i've talked to people like your size roughly and they they'll say like after like 30
00:22:23.940 that's when they really start to get healthy yes girl it really comes in like honestly as soon as you hit
00:22:29.460 30 i'm telling you i i wish i prepared personally so my advice is before you reach 30 just start
00:22:37.860 stretching stretching is one thing i wish i did more of and now i'm learning the lesson in the
00:22:43.620 hard way but now that i've got myself into practice it's just so much easier about stretching i just
00:22:48.740 think too as a culture people like just eat too much in general people eat when they're i mean did you
00:22:54.420 guys eat when you were bored yes yeah i would eat for fun all the time i'd be sitting at home and
00:23:00.820 i'd be like oh i'm bored let me just go to the pantry and find something oh there's nothing there
00:23:04.820 oh let me okay what else can i do i looked at the health effects of being over obese and then it's
00:23:10.100 at all causes of death so it's like high blood pressure high high cholesterol low cholesterol type 2
00:23:16.820 diabetes coronary heart disease stroke strokes gallbladder um osteoarthritis sleep apnea low
00:23:24.020 quality of mental illness such as clinical depression anxiety and other mental disorders
00:23:29.060 body pain and so it's like i just think it's like we wouldn't put someone that like that's a
00:23:34.820 my cousin he was a heroin addict and i we wouldn't put heroin addicts on the covers of magazines but
00:23:40.020 more people are kill or die from obesity related yeah causes you know how many people die from obesity
00:23:45.700 every day 1400 people die every day you know how many people died in september 11th how many just 500 no
00:23:53.460 9 000 just over 3 000 i don't know i just guess you know so you're having like i was on brian
00:23:58.340 and carter's show and he was telling me this so he says like every three days you're having a september
00:24:02.260 11th in modern life so you know it like yeah i think it's just it's because nobody wants to be called
00:24:10.420 fat nobody wants to be told you're ugly nobody wants to be sexually unattractive men or women we all
00:24:17.460 want to be hot we all want to be sexy yeah yeah you know we want to be good looking it doesn't that
00:24:23.140 never leaves you and so when you're confronted with an uncomfortable reality most people and it's
00:24:30.420 sad to say but most people can't handle the truth yeah and so they choose a nice little lie that makes
00:24:37.700 them feel better and that's why oprah has money that's why the view has money that's why dr ross has money
00:24:42.340 that's why dr phil has money sit down down and lie to women come on down you know and sometimes it's
00:24:48.100 like i think harsh truths that time can make you make life changes yeah like like i i was i was pretty
00:24:54.180 heavy at one point and what made me like 200 club yeah what was your weight um what was the highest that
00:25:00.820 uh like like 210 maybe 215. that would be a dream for me is that pounds or what pounds i don't know what that is
00:25:09.220 like 90 92 93 kilos i saw a picture of myself no that was partially well i'll tell you natalie that happened
00:25:16.660 to me i'll tell you i'll show you the picture i'll tell you i'll tell you i'll tell you i played i played volleyball
00:25:22.980 my whole life so i was training like five hours a day from the time i was like i don't know 10 years old
00:25:28.660 so i was just an athlete and when i stopped playing my eating habits were horrible like
00:25:33.540 absolutely horrible so i gained weight like really really fast because i just couldn't burn off all
00:25:37.940 the calories i was burning before and i was working a sales job and there was a guy i had a crush on at
00:25:42.660 work i had the biggest crush on this guy's and i heard i heard him laughing with um the other guys at
00:25:49.220 work saying oh like the the one guy was like oh i'm like 190 or something and he's like you can't be that
00:25:54.980 big that's so that's so heavy i would never like and then they were talking about girls and they're
00:25:59.140 like i would never date a girl over 200 and i was like they didn't think i was that big because i'm
00:26:04.340 tall so i carry it a bit better yeah but really but that but that harsh truth like i lost a bunch of
00:26:09.300 weight after that and i've kept it off ever since yeah so you know sometimes you need that kick don't
00:26:14.980 you just to make you realize yeah and like you know it might have been harsh at first but it was true
00:26:19.380 yeah if we're talking about self-esteem doesn't you mentioned being weak-minded earlier hearing
00:26:24.500 your crush or people that you might fancy and and realizing that your type doesn't like you back
00:26:29.860 does that not make you weak-minded then if self-esteem is really in self and you're hearing
00:26:34.340 people you find desirable talk about you in an undesirable way and you're saying that made you
00:26:38.820 change even though the change was for the positive let's say does that not make you weak of mind
00:26:43.620 because no i think it makes me strong because i made me do something strong i ran a marathon
00:26:48.580 because i was like you know if those are the type of guys i want to date this is what they want
00:26:52.660 and the difference is women have never heard what men want but men always change to try to get us like
00:26:57.460 they try to make more money they try to get better shade steroids they learn how to talk to women
00:27:06.260 and it's like we have never heard what men want like ever because the media is constantly telling us
00:27:12.340 what we want to hear so no i i don't think it makes me a weak person i think i could have it would
00:27:17.700 have been weak to go and cry but i went and did something about it yeah yeah but taking on
00:27:21.860 someone's opinion and letting that influence your lifestyle and your actions is not weak i i don't
00:27:28.180 think it's a bad thing to be maybe it's not an opinion i mean i mean it's a it's a fact yeah i think i
00:27:33.140 think that because then you you kind of fall into the school of thoughts like you know because like
00:27:37.380 if you're getting fired from job after job after job you're like well these people have a poor opinion
00:27:41.780 of me like but that's what can i just say something that's what that's what's wrong with
00:27:47.780 the world people care too much yeah yeah and and and i think people don't care enough i think people
00:27:52.660 don't care enough has an effect like you said earlier but i think you you like i think we should
00:27:56.580 care about outcomes especially as women because it's like if we don't in our 20s and like early 30s
00:28:02.340 get our together like we don't get to have children but power and so it's like like one obesity
00:28:07.620 effects effects if you get to have kids and two it affects the type of husband you you get because
00:28:12.420 geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. don't don't ever assume big people can't they're honestly big people
00:28:19.460 likely to conceive as a big guy i'm not even gonna i feel ugly most of my life but when i went knightsbridge
00:28:25.780 i'm not gonna i learned the power of being big all these people from uae they'll be beeping the car
00:28:32.820 so they'd be saying hello there's numbers on this at least for women i i don't research it as much for
00:28:38.500 men but like i research it more for women like men that don't make as much money tend to date bigger
00:28:43.860 but like it's really yeah yeah because they get free food probably and they get hugs and cuddles
00:28:50.340 no because i mean what what guy with money power and status married a big girl someone who has a
00:28:57.220 preference yeah i'm saying i'm saying nobody the guys that have all the options nobody does it just
00:29:04.020 like a beautiful woman is never going to pick a broke man in the same way so the most the top 10 15
00:29:10.420 no no it's not agree it's like if we look at the men that have everything the most desired men in society
00:29:15.620 they don't typically pick big girls the same way the most desired women in society don't typically pick
00:29:21.220 broke man yeah just like i've actually got my own pam pam disagrees i want to hear what because it's it
00:29:26.980 falls down to to your preference what you actually like so if you know yourself and you know what you
00:29:34.020 like whether that person has money or not it wouldn't even matter yeah just like it from from women to
00:29:38.740 men or men what are you talking from women's like from my from women to men to men so if you don't
00:29:44.100 have any money or you need a bit of help but i like you anyway i'm gonna like you for who you are
00:29:48.020 yeah i've got a theory by the way guys can i share my theory data it just doesn't like it's really
00:29:53.460 nice when we could say this and maybe that applies to you but at large it just doesn't like women when
00:29:58.180 women get a promotion at work they're more likely to divorce their husband when women out earn their
00:30:02.660 man that's really why i think that people are crazy i think the world's gone mad my theory is okay people
00:30:09.700 who have come up to me like a lot of people have come up to me and i don't know why once i asked one of
00:30:16.420 them how long were you breastfed for four and they replied saying oh a bit older and i realized
00:30:23.060 everyone that likes big people yeah they've been breastfed for long and or their mom or they are
00:30:30.900 they had a big auntie or a big mom so and they used to like that sort of feeling so as an older adult
00:30:37.940 that's what they seek and that's the truth that means unfortunately it's a cycle i don't know if it's
00:30:42.260 also unfortunate but it is a cycle i mean fat fat fat people raise fat children because they pass
00:30:48.340 you you pass your ways on you know but sometimes the parents ain't that's why rich people typically
00:30:53.860 their children are also rich because they pass on the knowledge of being but sometimes i know families
00:30:59.780 i know families where the parents are like twigs and the kids are like monsters i literally and
00:31:04.740 i don't mean that in a bad way but compared to the parents this whole physical look again this is
00:31:12.180 an open invite look at anybody that thinks they cannot lose weight for whatever reason it's impossible
00:31:18.340 look at i'll pay for it come come to london come on down
00:31:24.660 you need to be careful what you say because there might be a lot of big people that start messaging you
00:31:28.660 okay okay first first two first two yeah not unlimited you know can i say something there yeah
00:31:39.460 yeah um i just wanted to um touch on the point of food the reality is it doesn't really matter what
00:31:47.380 you eat processed foods healthy foods the reality is the science is clear if you eat more calories than
00:31:54.820 your body can can convert to energy you're gonna get fat yeah that's irrefutable that's not i don't
00:32:01.060 believe in that i'll tell you why i mean it look it looks like he doesn't believe in that though
00:32:05.380 it's true i'll give you my anecdotal experience agreed for the most part of my life i have i have
00:32:09.940 been eating unhealthy like i don't eat healthy the only times i really ate healthy was when i was young
00:32:15.380 but for most of my adult years i don't have time to cook i don't have time to do all of that but i eat once a
00:32:20.900 day and i exercise so it's the science is clear i don't know if anyone here is repeating the science
00:32:28.020 does anyone here disagree that the more calories you consume and you don't exercise yeah we all agree
00:32:35.300 said he disagreed okay you can't put calories on a leaf you can't put calories on spinach you can't do
00:32:44.020 that you see you just eat it goes from the ground that's when i think with all this calorie counting
00:32:50.020 and stuff like that how do you actually calorie count a carrot because each carrot is different
00:32:57.860 and also did you know calories did you know you know you weigh the food you know food calories when
00:33:03.780 they say on the label like whatever calories it is did you know each person consumed in their
00:33:09.940 body when they consume food the calories change and it's different for each person it then boils down
00:33:14.580 to your metabolism yeah yeah pretty much but you can do a metabolism test like my whole point is this
00:33:19.940 is all we can all fit like this is something that can be fixed it can be changed and then and that's
00:33:24.580 the great thing about like women most of the things that men want can be fixed like men want fit
00:33:30.100 feminine friendly women those are all things that can be fixed we're faithful yeah good good good
00:33:36.420 good good good trust them right but on the other hand it's like men they can't make themselves taller
00:33:42.900 no but they don't complain near as much as we do about men's preferences we are we can we are our own
00:33:49.940 worst enemy to be fair yeah um and cancelled a woman speaking the truth banned and then we try to as a
00:34:00.100 woman we try to look for a solution and sometimes that solution um i mean my job is i take women
00:34:06.260 for surgery i take them to turkey i take them to the dominican republic um they they come to me we
00:34:11.620 sit down we look at the mental health issues surrounding that um and then i provide them with
00:34:16.340 their post-operative care so so i see yeah genius it's amazing it's amazing i've recently been shut down
00:34:22.340 by instagram myself as well so i know what that's like but um but but we have a generation now of women
00:34:29.140 today who um they're they're they're using some of them not all are using surgery as a as a as a
00:34:36.820 way as a way to lose weight as a quick fix and they're not getting healthy um and you've got clinics
00:34:43.460 now um that are easily accessible the price is now great and and they're going for surgery and they're
00:34:49.380 having these surgeries and they're coming home and they're coming home with issues yeah so so i've been
00:34:54.900 dedicated and i've and i have a passion for making sure that that women are are fully informed um as
00:35:01.860 to what they are doing why they are doing that and to understand the processes that happen afterwards
00:35:07.380 yeah but we have a problem we have a real real issue especially here in the uk um where women are
00:35:14.340 dying yeah because of it yeah kanye west's mother she went to get plastic surgery died you know but
00:35:22.420 and there's you know because um after i got so for men do you know what happens to men after you
00:35:27.060 get liposuction no tell me so so your penis swells up wait wait hang on a second that happens to the
00:35:35.700 vagina does it happen wow i'm learning something today guys no no because here's the thing the the the
00:35:48.020 all the fluids and everything gravity dry you know it it drops down there yeah but i guarantee
00:35:55.060 your vagina didn't look like a huge purple eggplant my vagina was purple blue it was huge and nobody
00:36:02.340 told me about me either me either i had surgery five years ago you could see it in my documentary
00:36:07.380 i'll link you i will link you yeah i was i couldn't believe it it was huge no you know you know
00:36:16.580 i don't know who's as big of yours or mine's but believe me when i saw mine i said this this is not
00:36:22.580 normal no mine mine was like my so my testicles and my my balls swole up i'm not even joking to the
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