JustPearlyThings - July 31, 2023


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What makes a woman valuable to a man? How does a woman become a man s piece? What are the qualities that make a woman a woman worth a man's time and effort? How can a woman be a good wife and a good mother to her husband? And what are the traits a woman should have in a man that make her valuable to him?

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00:00:00.000 What makes a woman valuable? 1.00
00:00:04.500 Me?
00:00:06.500 Gosh, well, everything I've said really. I think being helpful and respectful of men. I'll go along with that.
00:00:14.760 And having their own ambitions as well and being able to make their own money. Okay, money, being helpful.
00:00:21.240 Okay, go ahead. What makes a woman valuable? 1.00
00:00:24.200 Hmm. Why do I feel like I'm going to repeat myself? Oh, yeah, I have to repeat myself. Okay.
00:00:34.200 Right. Judging on male friends of mine, what they've said, what they find is valuable in a woman is the biggest word. It's to stay and ride with them.
00:00:49.200 Okay, loyalty.
00:00:51.200 Yeah, it's a loyalty thing.
00:00:54.200 Even though a lot of women wouldn't agree with it. It's something that men tend to really love is a loyalty thing.
00:01:03.200 They want to know that that woman is just you. They want to know that that woman is the only one. 0.69
00:01:08.200 You're the only one as a man that's going with this woman. Basically, I'm not going to go into too much details. 0.68
00:01:14.200 But that is something that I've heard from a lot of men that they do like the loyalty. Obviously, you know, the same old hook and all that kind of stuff.
00:01:26.200 But then again, I've also heard, which I kind of understand to a certain extent, that when you're doing all that wifey, wifey stuff, it's great. 0.50
00:01:36.200 They know that you're home. But it gets boring. For some men. That's why some men go and cheat. Because they want someone that's not doing the everyday stuff that is going on at home.
00:01:48.200 I don't agree with it. But it's just something that I have basically heard of. And it's a lot, a lot of men say that.
00:02:00.200 Okay, that they want to cheat?
00:02:02.200 No, that it's just like, it's boring. You know, with all these, these things that we as women feel that is valuable to a man.
00:02:10.200 We, we think what we think, but men won't think the way we think, you know? 0.91
00:02:16.200 Well, you know why it gets boring for them? Have you ever heard the phrase, you can't compete with noob? You know?
00:02:24.200 It's because men crave sexual variety. In order to pass on their genes, they had to, you know, how did Ganges Khan like get two out of every 100 people? 0.96
00:02:31.200 He like screwed everybody. That's the best way to procreate.
00:02:35.200 It's the same reason, it's the same reason we like rich guys, right?
00:02:39.200 Because if you got the highest value guy, he was the most likely to protect you and pass on resources to you.
00:02:43.200 There's biological reasons we feel the way we feel. But, you know, he had a queen and a concubine.
00:02:49.200 So we shouldn't, we shouldn't confuse what he does with the concubine with the queen. Right?
00:02:55.200 Would you agree with that or disagree?
00:02:57.200 No, I understand what you do.
00:02:59.200 Um, what about you?
00:03:01.200 Um, purity, loyalty, respect and a caring nature.
00:03:05.200 Okay.
00:03:06.200 I literally would have said everything she just said.
00:03:10.200 Can you think that I would have added to it?
00:03:12.200 Oh, I don't know if there's anything that I could add to what she said. I would have said the exact same thing.
00:03:17.200 Okay.
00:03:18.200 I would say morals. I think if she got good morals then she would take all the boxes that one's saying. 1.00
00:03:24.200 So if she got good morals then she'll be respectful and that would just naturally reciprocate and that leads to loyalty. 0.96
00:03:32.200 The respect that I guess would be loyal.
00:03:34.200 Okay.
00:03:35.200 I think a woman should be a man's piece and a good home. 1.00
00:03:41.200 Okay.
00:03:42.200 How does a woman become a man's piece? 1.00
00:03:45.200 By not stressing him out, supporting him with what he chooses to do.
00:03:54.200 Um, and yeah, make the home a home.
00:03:59.200 What's the best way she can not stress him out?
00:04:02.200 By giving him problems, um, or telling him problems that he doesn't really need to know about, etc.
00:04:11.200 Okay.
00:04:12.200 Um, I can give you three points of what would make a woman valuable today. 0.99
00:04:19.200 Okay.
00:04:20.200 Those three points would be, uh, health, that they're healthy.
00:04:24.200 Okay.
00:04:25.200 No children.
00:04:26.200 And the third point would be, hmm, that's hard.
00:04:31.200 Hmm.
00:04:32.200 I would say this contributes but a two-parent household that they've experienced, lived in.
00:04:39.200 Okay.
00:04:40.200 So question, when do you yourself, um, I know some of, I know you said you already have
00:04:46.200 kids.
00:04:47.200 Um, if you want more kids, when would you want them?
00:04:51.200 And remind them what age you are and what age you'd want kids.
00:04:54.200 I was 24 when I had my son.
00:04:55.200 I think that's probably about right.
00:04:57.200 I mean, it is true.
00:04:58.200 You know, we're all just bags of chemicals and the older you get, egg quality drops off
00:05:02.200 and you do get more disabilities possibly.
00:05:05.200 And, um, yeah, certainly nature intended us to reproduce.
00:05:09.200 It's teens and early twenties.
00:05:11.200 Okay.
00:05:14.200 When do I want kids?
00:05:16.200 Um, and remind them how old you are and what age you want kids.
00:05:19.200 I'm 29.
00:05:20.200 Okay.
00:05:21.200 To be honest, I've been kind of thinking about children, but I just feel like when I'm a
00:05:28.200 little bit more stable, when I finish doing certain things with myself, then I'll, I'll
00:05:35.200 have them.
00:05:36.200 I can actually have, and I've got a partner.
00:05:38.200 Okay.
00:05:39.200 But I've just put it on hold for a sec.
00:05:41.200 Not for too long.
00:05:42.200 Low key.
00:05:43.200 Maybe next year, but I need to go and travel.
00:05:46.200 What do you, okay.
00:05:47.200 So you want, you want to travel?
00:05:48.200 I want to travel a bit.
00:05:49.200 Get that.
00:05:50.200 I'm just curious.
00:05:51.200 Like why?
00:05:52.200 Like when I grew up, I traveled with my family.
00:05:54.200 Yeah.
00:05:55.200 Like why do we have to travel first and then have the family?
00:05:58.200 Oh no, I don't even, I like that idea as well.
00:06:01.200 Yeah.
00:06:02.200 I just felt like I need to do some things by myself separately and then I'll get to the
00:06:07.200 family stuff.
00:06:08.200 Well, I just don't, I just don't understand that mindset.
00:06:10.200 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:11.200 It's like, cause you can do both.
00:06:12.200 Yeah.
00:06:13.200 You can go on a trip with your kid.
00:06:14.200 Yeah.
00:06:15.200 No.
00:06:16.200 It's harder, but you know, so I'm just curious, like what made you say you have to do that
00:06:20.200 first?
00:06:21.200 Something I want.
00:06:22.200 Okay.
00:06:23.200 Just, it's just me.
00:06:24.200 I just want to travel without a kid first and then I'll travel with a kid.
00:06:29.200 Yeah.
00:06:30.200 Okay.
00:06:31.200 Um, I'm 20 and I'm hoping to have children by like between 23 and 25.
00:06:37.200 Okay.
00:06:38.200 Yeah.
00:06:39.200 Um, I'm 30.
00:06:40.200 I already have a son.
00:06:41.200 Um, I don't know.
00:06:42.200 Did you say 30?
00:06:43.200 Wow.
00:06:44.200 You did not look that old.
00:06:46.200 Yeah.
00:06:47.200 I'm 30.
00:06:48.200 Um, I already have a son.
00:06:49.200 Um, and how old were you when you had your son?
00:06:52.200 My son is six.
00:06:54.200 So I was 24.
00:06:55.200 Okay.
00:06:56.200 Um, I don't mind having more children.
00:07:00.200 I think I give myself to 35.
00:07:01.200 Okay.
00:07:02.200 And then after that, I, I don't think, I don't see myself wanting to have kids after 35.
00:07:07.200 You don't mind having more kids or you want more kids?
00:07:10.200 I don't mind.
00:07:11.200 It's not something that I want.
00:07:13.200 Okay.
00:07:14.200 Well, I'm in a relationship.
00:07:15.200 So if it's something that is in the books.
00:07:16.200 If he wants kids, you'll have them? 0.66
00:07:18.200 Then yeah.
00:07:19.200 Yeah.
00:07:20.200 Okay.
00:07:21.200 So.
00:07:22.200 But I'm asking.
00:07:23.200 Well, I'm just asking what you want.
00:07:24.200 Your perfect reality.
00:07:25.200 Are you done?
00:07:26.200 Or you want more?
00:07:27.200 It's, it's, it's, it's up in the air.
00:07:29.200 Okay.
00:07:30.200 It's like one day you think yes.
00:07:32.200 The next day you think no.
00:07:34.200 Not necessarily.
00:07:35.200 It's just, it's, it's an open, it's an open thought.
00:07:38.200 Okay.
00:07:39.200 All right.
00:07:40.200 Um, I'm thinking around like 35.
00:07:42.200 So I've got like two, three years to go.
00:07:44.200 Okay.
00:07:45.200 Yeah.
00:07:46.200 I mean, if it happens, then it happens.
00:07:47.200 Okay.
00:07:48.200 Well, I feel like when you have your kids, that's down to your personal choice of what age you
00:07:54.200 have them.
00:07:55.200 So long as you can provide for them and love them and give them the things that they need.
00:08:01.200 And you've got the support maybe by family, their family, et cetera.
00:08:06.200 Um, in terms of age, I feel that that's very personal.
00:08:11.200 There isn't a right age or a wrong age.
00:08:14.200 Um, maybe in terms of when you said that older woman, yes, there is more health risks.
00:08:19.200 Um, I would, I didn't, I didn't say right or wrong.
00:08:23.200 I said, what age do you want to have kids?
00:08:25.200 Um, what age?
00:08:27.200 Even, even if you passed it, like what would be the ideal age to have kids?
00:08:31.200 Well, personally speaking, I thought that being a younger parent, there's more advantage
00:08:36.200 um, simply because you can raise them and grow with them.
00:08:40.200 You still got a lot of energy where you can do quite a lot of activities with them.
00:08:46.200 Um, when you're a more mature parent, I feel that you become less energetic and it may become
00:08:53.200 a bit harder, not impossible, but however, it's not going to be as easier when you've got
00:08:59.200 like a lot of energy when you're young.
00:09:02.200 Okay.
00:09:03.200 So what age?
00:09:04.200 I would say twenties maybe.
00:09:08.200 Okay.
00:09:09.200 Like 20 or 29, 25.
00:09:12.200 I would say 20 going on 21, 22, 23.
00:09:15.200 Okay.
00:09:16.200 So 20, so early twenties.
00:09:17.200 Early twenties.
00:09:18.200 Yeah.
00:09:19.200 Okay.
00:09:20.200 And do you have kids?
00:09:21.200 Um, yeah, I do.
00:09:22.200 Okay.
00:09:23.200 How was that around the age you had them?
00:09:24.200 Um, no, I had them a bit younger, which I'm glad that I did.
00:09:28.200 Okay.
00:09:29.200 Um, why is that?
00:09:30.200 You just had more energy.
00:09:31.200 That's what you're saying.
00:09:32.200 Um, cause it's facts.
00:09:34.200 I've had children and when I was younger, I had a way lot more energy, whereas becoming
00:09:39.200 a more mature apparent, I would have a way lot less energy now than what I did.
00:09:46.200 Yeah.
00:09:47.200 No, I've heard that, that if you wait too long, like, like there's my dad, my youngest sister's
00:09:51.200 10 years younger than me and he's just exhausted.
00:09:54.200 He's like, I'm trying to get these kids out of the house.
00:09:56.200 Um, what about you?
00:09:58.200 Um, 25.
00:09:59.200 And if I had a partner, I would have children as soon as he's ready to be able to cater for
00:10:06.200 the children.
00:10:07.200 So you meet a, you meet a guy tomorrow.
00:10:09.200 He says, he said, I'll get, I'll marry you in the next six months.
00:10:13.200 Let's immediately.
00:10:14.200 Yeah.
00:10:15.200 Okay.
00:10:16.200 Cool.
00:10:17.200 I'm ready.