In this episode, I sit down with author, author, speaker, and author of to discuss what it means to be a career woman and why it s important to have a family. We talk about how to balance a career with a family and how important it is to stay home with your kids.
00:00:00.000But what you might notice, we don't ever fear monger career women about everything that could go wrong being a career woman. We do that to mothers, right? We tell them all the horrible things that might happen, all the regrets they might have, but we don't tell career woman, oh, what if you go into a field that you decide you don't like later?
00:00:18.200Or what if you earn a degree in a field that becomes obsolete and then you can't find work and you have all this debt? What if you go to school to be a violinist and then you break your hand and can never play again? Like we don't fear monger women to death about all the things that can go wrong if they choose career and don't have a family.
00:00:39.120We only do it to women who choose to have a family. And I think that that's silly because now, like, I mean, you talk to women all the time that they get older, they hit the wall, they're in their 40s, they're alone and they don't love their career and they do wish that they had done something different.
00:00:56.100But now the time is gone and they can't do anything about it. And I get letters, emails and DMs from women about this all the time. They read my book, then they message me and they go, I got played.
00:01:07.380I was fooled into this. Like, I totally fell for it. And now I'm 40 or 50 or even one lady in her 60s. And they're like, there's nothing I can do about it now. I'm just stuck with it.
00:01:19.640I would love to actually interview some of them because it's really hard to find women that admit it.
00:01:25.300It's really hard to find girls that actually like will tell the younger generation don't do that.
00:01:31.880Yeah. Well, and they'll, they'll write me an email because they'll say, I can't talk about this to the people around me. I can't tell my parents or my friends that I have all these regrets.
00:01:44.420And then I get letters from younger women. Like I got one from a girl who was in dental school to become a dentist. She was in like her last year of dental school.
00:01:53.280And she said, you know, I, I became Christian a couple of years ago. And for the last two years, all I can think about is getting married and having kids.
00:02:01.060Like, that's really what I want, like down to my soul. That's what I really want most. And I don't feel like I can do that because I've invested all this time and all this money.
00:02:11.820My parents will be disappointed and they won't understand. They will think that I've gone crazy and lost my mind and that I'm making a mistake.
00:02:19.060And I just don't think I can handle all the pressure from everyone around me. If I don't go like leave college and start a dental practice.
00:02:28.900But she's saying to me, if I start this dental practice, well, it takes years to build it. And then once you've built it, are you, what are you going to do? Just walk away from it? Like just dump it to have kids.
00:02:39.920So she just, she felt so stuck. And this is a girl who's like 21 years old and she is in her prime. And it's because of the propaganda and how we teach women about not only the history of women and their status in life and society, but what they should be doing now.
00:02:58.580And it's like, they're just hit with all of this propaganda throughout their whole life that to just, I've heard this all the time. Oh, you're just a stay at home mom. Cause I stayed home for 12 years and homeschooled too.
00:03:12.540And even some of the more conservative women around me just thought that I was nuts. They were like, you're going to regret it. And it's a shame. You never, it's a shame. You never did anything with your life. You know, that kind of silliness.
00:03:25.580Um, no, I just, I've, I've heard that. Like I grew up in a pretty conservative like area and I would, I've even heard that. Oh, she's just a, I've heard that so many times.
00:03:35.020Yeah. Yeah. This idea that, that you're not doing anything with your life. It's like, first of all, when I have five kids, do you think I'm just sitting on the couch all day? What, I mean, what do you think I'm doing? You think I'm just laying on the couch, watching soap operas? No, I'm, I'm busier than most career women with my five kids.
00:03:52.460But now that they're older, my oldest is 22. My youngest is 11. I'm so glad I put in all that hard work in the front end of my life because now I'm reaping all the benefits of it.
00:04:04.640And as I do get older, I'm really looking forward to grandkids, to having a big family. Um, I'm not going to have to, you know, be alone in my later years. I'm going to, and my kids keep me young and active and life is great.
00:04:18.800You know, I have a great marriage, although feminists around the world are constantly writing me to tell me that they hope, you know, my husband dies in a fire and I'm left destitute, or they hope that he leaves me for a younger woman.
00:04:29.520And it's like, so they see you happy and married with kids and they're angry. And I'm like, wait, I thought your life is awesome. I thought you love being a boss. Why do you care if I'm happily married with kids? Why do you want that to be ripped away from me? If you're so happy. Right.
00:04:46.320What, what happened during the sexual revolution?
00:04:50.080So the sexual revolution was like a culmination of all the stuff leading up to it, where now we have television. And strangely, the CIA during the sixties decides to get involved in the cultural revolution. In fact, the CIA and other intelligence agencies helped steer it. They were involved in a lot of the bands and movies, like a lot of the pop culture at the time.
00:05:14.820A lot of people don't know that a lot of the popular hippie bands that all the boomers were listening to were CIA creations. There's a really good book called Weird Scenes Inside the Canyon about that. And the CIA also pushed feminism. So they recruited Gloria Steinem out of Smith College in the sixties.
00:05:33.060Um, she was sponsored also by the Ford Foundation. They kind of worked together with her and they kind of handpicked her again to be the new mouthpiece for this new, uh, I wouldn't even call it a wave because like you said, it's like a continuous wave. It had different phases. Right. But in the sixties, they, they kind of handpicked her to push this.
00:05:53.380Because of the people they had to choose from, they had like Betty Friedan, who was an older, frumpier lady. She wrote the feminine mystique and that book did pretty well, but she wasn't exactly someone you'd put on TV that the younger generation wants to emulate.
00:06:07.860But Steinem had like highlights in her hair and she, you know, they, they actually had her work at the Playboy mansion doing some espionage there. And so they put her in like, she was kind of cool for the time.
00:06:20.180I know that's weird to think about Gloria Steinem being cool, but in the sixties, she was kind of like a cool new woman. They always have different versions of the new woman.
00:06:28.820They had a new woman in the 1800s, a new woman in the twenties, and then a new woman in the sixties. And she kind of helped really push feminism into the mainstream using TV and magazines like Ms. Magazine, which was started with CIA funding, um, and make
00:06:46.300socialization normalized. Uh, if you, if you, if you guys know anything about the history of Roe v. Wade, Roe v. Wade was very engineered. It was also built on a bunch of lies. It was not what we're told it is. There was a lot of shenanigans going on there. So there's just this, another big push of social engineering to tell women, uh, we have gender studies. Now you can go to college and you should go to college and, and women are oppressed by having to stay in the home.
00:07:15.980And you don't want to be a suburban housewife. And this is when they start marketing the trope of the suburban housewife. And this is so funny because everybody has this weird idea that fifties housewives were miserable and they were all on pills, right? They were all on mommy's little helper pills.
00:07:30.980Okay. Well, right now, 25% of all adult American women are on a psych.
00:07:38.100So apparently liberating women and shoving them into the career world, uh, didn't fix that. And I strongly questioned the stats of every stay at home mom in the fifties being on drugs. That, that wasn't the case. It was generally more like, uh, entertainers and upper-class people who had access to doctors. They could pay for barbiturates who did that.
00:07:57.980But even if you believe that clearly that problem didn't get solved. So the sexual revolution was like the final push for getting people to procreate as much as possible outside of marriage, because it destroys pair bonding.
00:08:11.980It ruins the institution of marriage. It ruins the institution of marriage. It does the same thing it kind of did in Russia, which is eliminate, um, parentage through the man, right? If men don't ever know, or even if they're just not certain that whoever they're sleeping with, the baby's going to be theirs.
00:08:28.980It just really takes away a lot of the impetus for men to be productive and gain things for themselves.
00:08:35.980So it was just another push for, um, getting women into college, getting them into the workforce.
00:08:41.980Um, and between 1960 and 1980, the workforce doubled and it was in large part due to women leaving the home and going into the workforce and mass for the first time.
00:08:52.980Yes, they did that a little bit during the wars, but after the wars were finished, they would go back home.
00:08:57.980The sixties and seventies were the first time that women left the house and didn't come back.
00:09:02.980And it gave them this huge expanding tax base. It expanded the GDP and the economy, which of course the elites love to do.
00:09:10.980Um, and it, it gave them a whole new way to propagandize and, and get more participation from women in voting.
00:09:19.980Cause even after, uh, voting was, you know, voting rights were given to women.
00:09:23.980It took a while to get women into voting booths. They still weren't super into it.
00:09:28.980And they had to use a lot of propaganda to push women into voting booths too.
00:09:32.980So, yeah, it just was kind of that final push to, uh, liberalize and get the sexuality piece is so important.
00:09:40.980It's so important if you want this atomized culture that we live in now, because like all the women that you have on and that you talk to all the time, the girls who are on the whatever podcast,
00:09:52.980you know, this, uh, thing we see right now, which is exciting to me of these girls who are vapid, like empty headed.
00:10:01.980All only thinking about their Instagram likes only thinking about their body count and their fake eyelashes and their lip fillers and all this stuff.
00:10:09.980It creates this huge consumer market too.