This Debate Gets Heated
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Summary
In this episode, I give my opinion on what it means to be a woman that stands her ground and refuses to back down in a situation where someone else is standing their ground. I also give some pointers on how to deal with people that don t understand who you are and what you stand for.
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No, she's giving, what she is, she's giving, she's giving an example.
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She's saying that she's been in your, but listen, listen, listen.
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No, but she's not, she's not saying that she's doing it for clout.
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She's giving an example that she's been in your shoes, but she's handled it a different
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You've not let me finish because you say you want to move on.
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If you want to move on, let me finish speaking because I'm more stubborn than you and I'll
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And my point simply is, if you are not willing to take shit, don't go and talk.
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If you're not willing to stand your ground as a woman, don't go out there and be going
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If you're not ready to fight, you exit the situation straight away.
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If you want to stay and fight, you stand tall and you fight.
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I'm not afraid to sit here and argue with Pearl.
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You had a conversation that didn't go your way.
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You didn't like what you heard and now you're labeling Pearl to be misogynistic, racist,
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When I've had the same experience on the podcast you did, I've had the same experience.
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I've had bigger head to heads with both people that you're referring to.
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And I don't feel the same way because I understand it's not personal.
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How much do you respect yourself and what you think and what you believe?
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And clearly, but how you have acted, even how you're acting right now, it's not very high.
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Because I told you how I feel and I don't care about how you feel.
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How come you can express how you feel, but she can't express how she feels.
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Because at the end of the day, you asked about my experience, right?
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If we're going to talk about denial, let's move on.
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Don't bring it about your experience about my experience.
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A powerful, strong woman that respects herself and holds the truth will sit here and have
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people shouting in her ear, telling her that she was not abused for five years because
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She sits there with compulsion, says, you say what you got to say.
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And by the way, my sisters, if you need help, I'm here for you.
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I don't care about what these people have to say.
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Because in my opinion, they talk shit because their truth is not my truth.
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And instead, you choose to sit here, shout and be rude.
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Because you're fighting against the person that stands on your side.
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It's so embarrassing to sit here and hear a sister like you speak to a woman like me in
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People are sitting here trying to give you pointers so that you can survive better.
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Esther, be quiet because you need to learn from people that are doing better than you actually.
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Esther, stop for two seconds because if you don't-
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Someone in the comments was like, Jerry, Jerry, Jerry.
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And then I'll give you 30 seconds to respond and then we'll be done.
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My point simply is, ladies, if you're going to open your mouth, be ready for the consequences
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If you're going somewhere and people are coming for you and you cannot handle it and you can feel
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upset, it's because you are not comfortable with who you are.
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Call Pearl names if you are not the G that can actually sit there and debate intellectually
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What I have to say is, when I was invited on the show, I didn't know I was coming on Pearl's
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I take accountability because I should have asked and made sure I clarified which show I was going on.
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I don't like aggressive, going back, insulting each other.
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So it's like, when I came here, I was just like, wait, we're going against trans people.
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What was the other thing we were talking about?
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I feel like it would just be probably, for the viewers and everybody out there, I feel like
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it would be interesting to hear everyone's perspective on how they feel about the 100th episode
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and sitting with Andrew Tate and really kind of seeing how his energy is in person.
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Because a lot of people are most likely never going to meet him.
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So I feel like we all got a chance to kind of see.
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I didn't expect him to be, like you said, so smiley, very warm.
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And I will say that I do feel like he is very pretty grounded.
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There are just things, obviously, I just don't agree with about the being agreeable to the point
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But I also understood where he was coming from.
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But no, I felt like he was like so different in person.
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And I feel like that's why you can't really judge people based on that.
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I remember when he got canceled, I said, the only problem with this guy is the fact that
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he's exposing certain truths and not providing a solution to those who are suffering from it
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that's it other than that listen yeah he's better looking in person yes yes i i will i try to hate
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on him he's better looking in person he's smiley he's friend he's got high energy he's a good
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sagittarius sunshine in human form he's actually quite cool i liked him yes yeah i feel like he
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was a straight talker and you know what i i really rate the way he speaks he really knows how to speak
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like he will add context and then he'll make his point i think it takes a lot of talent to do that
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and you can tell he's been doing it for a long time so i have to respect that in him obviously i didn't
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agree completely with a lot of stuff you were saying because i i feel like he was a bit one-sided
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where he was talking about what men wants and he wasn't really talking about how to make women
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happy but i i appreciated that he was also giving us a perspective of a lot of men out there so i did
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appreciate that but i i just wish we could like explore more about what women want really
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i just think that society i was always talking about what women want that's a timer i just feel
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like society's always talking about women what women want and whenever whenever we talk about what
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men might want like we always need to have a response and it's like why can't we just let the
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men talk for a second because like we we there's steve harvey like talks about what women want all the
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time there's a million different shows um as for andrew tate i was actually so nervous i don't know why
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like i was yo what i was too i was i was i think i was i kind of think i was a little quieter because
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i was like i'm just like nervous i don't know why but he was so nice um it was really nice if a lot
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of people don't know we were supposed to go to do all of us we're supposed to go to dubai
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uh my passport expires within six months so we couldn't actually like get in i couldn't get in
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the country uh so he actually came to us which i thought was really like kind of him to come
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yeah like fly all the way here but yeah he was really nice um i was really nervous but overall
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i already liked him before i didn't like him the first time i saw him what you see my first very
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first reaction to him i was actually mean because he had a cheating party and i was like what is this
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cheating party and i was like he would invite all his girlfriends over at the same time
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where like all the girls that you would cheat with and like they would just go to the same
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bar and it was kind of funny but i was like what why would you do that but i didn't understand what
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but now that i understand his worldview a little bit more i was like oh well that's why yeah he was
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very i from what the stuff he was saying like beforehand from uh watching kevin samuels uh with pearl
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it's it opened up um my view on like actually listening to people or listening to what these
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men are saying instead of just taking a clip and taking for how these people are clipping it and
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wanting to get their gender across but actually listening to him and i like sat down and like actually
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listened to some of the stuff that he said beforehand so i was like he the what he is saying
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is not crazy it's the way he's saying it and people a lot of i was like people and a lot of
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women don't like the way that he is saying it because it's very like raw like this is it this is how
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i'm gonna say it i don't care if you don't like the way i'm saying it i'm gonna say it this way
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and i feel like a lot of people don't like it like that but it's like if you get past what he's
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like how he's saying it and listen to actually what he is saying it's like oh okay it's not as
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outrageous as people make it out to be but yeah that's why i actually purposely didn't really go
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and look at his content and i was like i want to see who he actually is and what his energy is
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actually saying because i understand the same way that people say oh you created you edited this way
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to make me look worse it is the same way that it happens to him and realistically he was way more
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balanced and actually a lot more kind of calming in his presence than what he actually seems online i'm
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not gonna lie he spoke sense there was a lot of balance in what he said and you know i know
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people were expecting me to clash with him and i didn't he was cool i liked him it's funny he had
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a bit of banter as well with his clementines and stuff i think the only thing i didn't agree with
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was like him talking about a man will cheat like women are delusional like i think that's not a good
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message if they have the opportunity too they will if they have like the it's okay okay i'll give you an
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example even a good man would have a hard time being in tiger woods positions having a position
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having a bus full of models waiting for him that are trying to fuck him every single day
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it's like even a good like my dad i'll give you he's top one percent doesn't cheat but my dad doesn't
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have social media and he doesn't have beautiful models waiting for him every day after work i think
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that would be hard for even a good man to to say no to like even my dad if he was in a position
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where beautiful women are trying to do that every single day that's hard that's really hard for a
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guy get approached as well in fact right true true true true but it's not usually it's not usually by
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men you want it would i would also argue i would also argue that it would be hard for a woman to stay
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faithful if every day she was approached by high value men so but yeah like you've been in that
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position it's yeah it's if every day you're getting messages from like the top men in society
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i i think that's hard for women to turn down we're hypergamous so it's not really about the quantity of
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men that approach you it's the quality just morally i think everybody knows that cheating is wrong
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you know like tate even said it himself when a woman cheats on a man the pain that he feels
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so they know it's wrong innately but they think that they have that path to do it because i'm a man
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i'm a high value man and it's like do you know that pain that you felt she feels that it's yeah no i
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and i i agree with you i've i've i've been cheated on it was really hard but but at the end of the day
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it's just not the same because like at the end of the day like i could get past it because i
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was like you know what it was just a random it wasn't like he wasn't in love with her but like
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the way we would feel if a man was in love with someone else that's how men feel about us cheating
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on them sexually like there's just uh do you think it's because there's just like how do i want to
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say this do you think it's because men are weaker in that department to where it's like oh you can't
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even i can't believe you had sex with guys before you even met me because that's my pussy you know
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what i mean like i almost feel like it's because there's such a gap in where women really are and
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where men are emotionally and mentally i no i just think it's like men and we can't undo biology
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right so like we can't undo the thousands of years of biology and how how did you pass on your genes to
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the next generation for women it was getting the best man that they possibly could the strongest
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tallest biggest highest status because then your kid would survive that meant he could protect you
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he could pass on resources to you and your kid would be strong and would be able to protect itself
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for like vice versa for men it was i don't want to pass on resources to a kid that's not mine
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so it was i can't have a promiscuous woman because the kid might not be mine my genes might not even get
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yeah my genes might not get passed out so even though like we're in 2022 and we have like different
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things that offset this stuff you can't undo our biology but i also think it's accountability
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i think like britney was saying tate you're literally like the male version of me and you're
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praised and i'm shamed i think it's because we are not holding these men accountable like you would say
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you basically called britney a hoe before you met her that is so unfair and i think if we started to
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say no britney not just britney in that situation not calling you a hoe or anything not in that situation
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say tate's a hoe britney's a hoe actually hold each other accountable and it's just it's just
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but here's here's the thing like on the other side on the other side when you were what what was the
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first time you got messaged by someone with a blue check mark or like any attention probably when i was
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like 2021 okay 2021 she got the world at her fingertips like just just by being beautiful right
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she can get messaged from like the top men in society it's not the same for men when a man's
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2021 no woman's checking for him maybe maybe a very select few but even even if they're very good
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looking like they're not they're not getting shit from rich girls no but what i'm what i'm saying is
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the men are getting those women like actually saying that it's because it's not right at the end of
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the cheating is wrong men or women biology or not it's wrong and i think if we actually start to say
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you know what this man has got three baby mamas you're fucking ridiculous you're playing with
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and here's the thing is it's such okay it's such a who who's at fault when most 80 percent of women
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90 percent of women are sexually active but only roughly five to ten percent of guys can do what
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you're saying so it's with the women are more promiscuous than the men it's like the problem
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you're talking about is so minuscule it's so small like maybe 20 percent of men can women are more
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promiscuous you're the reason why men cheat still why are you cutting it off though women women have
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more sexual partners now what are you doing i'm coming for you today now i'm your auntie jenny trust
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me you swore at me this respect i did way too much i did not accept disrespect why are you doing this
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is why men will cheat because somebody's talking to you and you're still cutting them off for no reason
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pal please continue so it doesn't even need to be high value but do you do what i'm saying so i'm saying
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like okay they're predicting that 45 percent of women will be single and childless that's that's so much so
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that the big banks are predicting this these women that are going to be single and childless and are
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on the path to that it's not like they're not sexually active they're probably sleeping with
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someone there's not a plethora of virgins around that are women but there is one in three men under
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30 are virgins so who's more promiscuous if the women aren't virgins the body counts are getting higher
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the the and where on the other hand men it's a very small percentage that can actually get sex and
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father a bunch of kids so that's why i say like i know tate tries to he's he's like don't make it
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he said she said but but just by and large it's more on the women because one we're in control of sex
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we pick who we sleep with and we're more sexually active than them in a sense i agree because on
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average yes you're right um women are having sex a lot more however when we're talking about
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promiscuity men have three times more sexual partners than women so when men have i think it's
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like 24 and um where did you see that the last the last i checked it google it right now i made sure
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because i thought my research before coming back i was like okay i need i need to know so if if that's
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true again it goes back to the prado principle right so let's say the average number is higher for
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for men typically it's because the top five twenty percent even we'll even say thirty percent of men
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let's give them thirty like they they sleep with 50 60 100 150 girls but one out of three are virgins
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or haven't had sex in the past year historically have historically exactly that's why i agree with
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that but that's why i'm saying like by and large women are sleeping with a very small percentage of
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men but like how many percentage are ruining it for the other men so they keep sleeping with so many
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women they're ruining it for the okay okay okay okay so actually it's that harsh you could argue
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that but you could also say it's more on the women because we're in control of sex most men like if
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you went to a biological level their biology is to sleep with whoever they can right by like most men
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