JustPearlyThings - This Debate Gets Heated With Andrew Tate

00:00:00.000 So I respect that you can then tell her, I want you to do this, babe.

00:00:03.160 And she has to listen.

00:00:04.340 But a lot of women, they want autonomy over themselves. 1.00

00:00:08.600 Personally, I don't want a man that's going to provide for me just so he can tell me to sit down.

00:00:12.700 And I'm a dog and I'm going to sit down.

00:00:14.060 Because I can make my own decisions too.

00:00:16.660 Let's understand something.

00:00:17.680 Every man will give you a life.

00:00:20.420 It's just a matter of whether you're happy with the life that man...

00:00:21.880 Not every man can afford it though.

00:00:23.540 No, no, exactly.

00:00:24.760 Every man will give you a life.

00:00:26.060 It's just a matter of whether you're happy with the life that man is capable of giving.

00:00:30.000 And this goes back into the earlier points we were saying.

00:00:33.140 You can find a good man who will work his ass off and give you the best life he can possibly give you.

00:00:37.780 Give you every ounce of strength inside of him.

00:00:39.720 He'll give you all he has.

00:00:41.860 You can get that.

00:00:42.920 But if you're going to wake up and go, no, I don't want that life.

00:00:45.220 I want that life.

00:00:47.120 Well, then that comes with problems.

00:00:48.900 Yeah, I agree.

00:00:49.760 And this is the cognitive dissonance that most females operate under where they sit and go, I want that life. 1.00

00:00:55.420 But I want him to act like that guy.

00:00:57.880 I want the Nissan and the McLaren.

00:01:00.600 You can't have both.

00:01:03.100 What about a project?

00:01:04.360 And there becomes a degree of female maturity. 0.65

00:01:07.020 As you said earlier, you get to a point where you're like, you know what? 0.97

00:01:09.100 Maybe all that glitz and glam and bullshit isn't worth it. 0.85

00:01:11.900 It's not worth it. 0.99

00:01:12.980 You grow up, right?

00:01:14.100 Yeah.

00:01:14.260 And that's fantastic.

00:01:15.600 And you make a different decision.

00:01:16.940 And I'm saying that a lot of women get to that point. 0.99

00:01:19.820 The problem is, in the modern world, the shit women did before they got to that point, from 19 to 24, pisses the man off to the point where he's never going to be as good as he could be. 0.98

00:01:30.360 It's different in your world, right? 1.00

00:01:32.540 You stay with that man, dig.

00:01:33.800 I know plenty of people, first man, high school sweethearts.

00:01:38.440 The world was different only 40, 50 years ago.

00:01:40.500 The second man, they've been married forever, 50-year marriages. 1.00

00:01:43.640 All that shit's gone. 0.99

00:01:45.200 And then we have to tie back into all the other sub points I've made. 1.00

00:01:47.960 Into, you've had a very fun life at your peak sexual value from 19 to 24, running around doing X, Y, Z.

00:01:54.040 Now you're with this guy who can't give you the life he knows you've already lived.

00:01:57.720 Part of him feels inferior. 1.00

00:01:59.280 His status is damaged because all the shit you did is on Instagram. 0.99

00:02:02.720 And he ain't the one who gave it to you. 1.00

00:02:04.580 And now you're expecting a whole bunch of crap out of him. 0.95

00:02:06.740 And now, when he comes and works his ass off and manages to save up and buy a BMW and picks you up. 0.98

00:02:14.980 Hey, I got a BMW.

00:02:16.280 You go, yeah, I like Mercedes.

00:02:19.640 This is the point you're missing. 1.00

00:02:21.560 It's not about the fucking car. 0.99

00:02:23.400 It's about something larger than that. 0.99

00:02:25.580 It's about making him feel like he's a man again and that he's in charge.

00:02:29.120 A woman should have to make a man feel like a man. 1.00

00:02:31.400 You're sitting here going, I'm an autonomous female. 1.00

00:02:33.640 I can fucking like that. 0.99

00:02:34.440 But what are you doing? 1.00

00:02:36.280 You're damaging the psyche of the man who's trying to love you. 1.00

00:02:40.280 Is it worth it for a fucking car break? 0.99

00:02:42.380 What do you mean by loving? 1.00

00:02:42.960 Can we break it down?

00:02:44.460 Can we break it down?

00:02:45.380 Does loving mean that you listen to what I have to say and also think about what I want and not just what you want?

00:02:51.480 Is that what loving means?

00:02:52.900 If that's it, I can subscribe to that.

00:02:55.120 But I'm not going to subscribe to you.

00:02:56.400 Sit down and you have to sit down.

00:02:57.960 It's not about that. 0.99

00:02:58.760 I'm a grown ass woman. 0.96

00:02:59.800 I pay my own bills. 0.99

00:03:00.740 And you're going to tell me what to do?

00:03:01.960 That's fine.

00:03:02.480 But it gets to a point.

00:03:03.960 It gets to a point where you have to sit and analyze the scenario you're in and try and realize and pick your battles. 0.99

00:03:10.220 And I'm telling you, you may not realize it, but a man does a whole bunch of shit for you that you don't know. 0.99

00:03:16.980 He's watching the shows you want to watch. 1.00

00:03:19.020 He's listening to you talk gossip about the girls at work. 0.99

00:03:21.840 He's fucking going, yeah, I like that dress, that dress. 1.00

00:03:24.320 He doesn't give a fuck about any of it. 1.00

00:03:26.300 He's doing it for you. 0.99

00:03:27.440 But the second is back the other way. 0.99

00:03:29.760 You have some fucking issue with autonomy. 1.00

00:03:32.300 It's bullshit. 1.00

00:03:32.900 Listen, yeah, he's right. 1.00

00:03:34.720 Because women talk nonsense for a long time. 1.00

00:03:38.300 Yeah, babe, you're right. 0.99

00:03:40.100 Yeah, babe, can't believe she did that. 1.00

00:03:41.360 It's true, babe.

00:03:42.180 Oh, yeah, that show is good.

00:03:43.240 Yeah, babe.

00:03:43.780 Yeah, it's true.

00:03:44.480 You become upset.

00:03:45.240 I agree.

00:03:46.000 Men do a lot, but women do a lot too.

00:03:48.880 As much as my...

00:03:49.560 If my man caters to me, I will do anything to make him happy.

00:03:53.220 If he says, oh, babe, I like this meal, I will make sure I can cook it for him.

00:03:58.520 Because guess what?

00:03:59.580 He actually cares about what I want as well.

00:04:01.700 You can't just have a one-way relationship.

00:04:03.740 It's not one way.

00:04:04.360 I'm just saying.

00:04:05.520 I'm just commenting.

00:04:06.920 I'm just saying.

00:04:07.820 If I was a woman and I had to make a man as attracted to me as possible, my goal would be to give that man status and make him feel good about himself. 0.98

00:04:15.840 And I'd be very, very careful talking too much about life experiences or opposing views.

00:04:19.600 Not because he's out to oppress me.

00:04:21.760 Not because he's an evil, horrible person.

00:04:23.940 But because he's trying to find somebody with a similar life view.

00:04:27.600 He's trying to find somebody he can show the world to.

00:04:29.500 Trying to find somebody he can feel like he can teach things to.

00:04:32.680 That's how you get the best out of a man.

00:04:34.560 I'll tell you how you get the best out of a man.

00:04:35.720 That's why I got Clementine.

00:04:37.200 No, but if you go into a man's room when he's playing video games and he's playing video games and you say, all you do is play video games and you nag him, he'll play video games.

00:04:44.780 If you walk in there and go, you know what?

00:04:46.100 You're so smart.

00:04:46.960 I've seen you do so many amazing things and you've said so many amazing things.

00:04:49.480 Why do you waste your time playing video games?

00:04:50.820 You could show me so much. 1.00

00:04:51.900 Now you're going to get him off the fucking console. 1.00

00:04:55.640 I know it's an ego play. 1.00

00:04:58.340 I know your old girls are like, why should I have to do that? 0.99

00:05:00.900 There's a lot of things.

00:05:01.860 Because he tells you to look pretty in the morning.

00:05:03.420 It's because you win.

00:05:04.860 It's because in the end you win.

00:05:06.880 You talk about why should I have to do that?

00:05:08.780 Well, why should you have to work hard in the gym to get six pack?

00:05:11.200 Because you win.

00:05:12.400 That's the game.

00:05:13.960 It's actually, men are so simple.

00:05:16.420 We are so simple.

00:05:17.260 And the truth is, women know it. 1.00

00:05:18.740 This is what's amazing.

00:05:19.760 Women pretend they're confused. 1.00

00:05:20.800 You're not confused.

00:05:21.540 You know.

00:05:22.200 You're just egos are in the way.

00:05:23.960 And society is telling you something else. 0.99

00:05:25.960 And you just fucking refuse to be agreeable, nice people. 1.00

00:05:30.760 And then you wonder why men have this fucking problem married? 1.00

00:05:34.360 I think agreeable sounds like a slave. 1.00

00:05:36.800 No, no.

00:05:37.660 Agreeable is being nice.

00:05:38.740 Wait, wait, wait.

00:05:39.220 So I have a question for the girls.

00:05:41.160 So imagine you're dating a guy.

00:05:42.920 Okay.

00:05:43.440 And it's your birthday.

00:05:44.380 And for your birthday, he gets you, let's say, a $500 gift.

00:05:48.500 Okay.

00:05:49.100 And you're happy, right?

00:05:50.100 It's very, it's thoughtful.

00:05:51.140 It's specific to you.

00:05:53.040 Then you found out last year, he got his ex-girlfriend an entire birthday party.

00:05:59.460 How does that make you feel?

00:06:01.040 He went to, he did the most.

00:06:02.820 He rented out the nicest hotel in London.

00:06:05.720 He got her everything she wanted the year before.

00:06:08.840 Me not care.

00:06:09.760 You don't care?

00:06:10.540 I don't really care.

00:06:11.960 As long as he's making me happy.

00:06:15.340 Okay.

00:06:15.900 We're different people, too.

00:06:18.220 It's a different relationship.

00:06:19.680 And maybe, like, you know, he bought her flowers every day, 365 days a year, and he didn't do that for me.

00:06:25.620 It's like, well, if that's what makes her happy, he's going to do what makes her happy.

00:06:28.420 Exactly.

00:06:28.760 I mean, I get the angle of what you're saying is like, oh, she did, you know, he did all that for her.

00:06:33.540 Why am I not good enough?

00:06:34.720 But the second you compare yourself, you lose.

00:06:36.720 Yeah.

00:06:37.360 In my opinion.

00:06:37.920 And I agree, but I'm just saying that's how men look at, like, your past is, like, basically, like, you've given it for free.

00:06:46.180 Okay, so here's my question to that, because, all right, I love, like, everything we're talking about. 0.94

00:06:50.700 Okay, so to all the viewers out there, including myself, right, you live life, there's gray area, you live and you fucking learn, right? 0.98

00:07:01.900 So where the fuck do we go from here? 1.00

00:07:03.660 So do I play the shame game where everybody walks away a fucking loser? 1.00

00:07:06.340 Because I can do that. 0.99

00:07:07.320 I've beat myself up my entire life for every decision I've ever made, right?

00:07:10.860 It got me nowhere.

00:07:11.920 So I value myself.

00:07:13.560 I see the world differently through a series of events, right? 0.99

00:07:17.520 So what the fuck comes next? 0.98

00:07:18.980 Because that's where I'm confused, right? 0.99

00:07:20.760 Because I'm not, it's like, if you don't, if it's not, like, gifted to you, like, even in your situation, like, your dad provided you a life that, like, so many people would kill for.

00:07:31.080 Like, you know what I mean?

00:07:31.920 So that's why it's like, it sucks, because the reason I hate these conversations is because it's never about, like, empathy.

00:07:41.740 Do I understand the scales and how someone may view you for this, this, that, and the third? 0.57

00:07:47.100 Okay, but moving forward, then what?

00:07:49.740 So, okay, so I'm just going to, like I said, make it about myself. 0.97

00:07:52.520 I'm 30, single, mom, my fucking checkered past is all over Instagram, you know what I mean? 0.95

00:08:00.960 I have people like you, she's a ho, she's a, she's literally known for this. 1.00

00:08:04.520 Okay, so what would, what would be your advice to people like me, then?

00:08:08.080 I don't believe in gray area.

00:08:09.480 I believe black and white.

00:08:10.580 Okay, well, that's unfortunate, because there's gray.

00:08:13.040 I don't believe in gray area.

00:08:14.220 I'll tell you what, there's gray.

00:08:15.060 There's gray in life.

00:08:15.820 I just, I just, to answer, wait, I'm going to answer your question.

00:08:17.920 I mean, I just think there's consequences for your decisions, and I just think, like,

00:08:21.920 my best advice would be to, like, lower your standards, like that, because, because I just

00:08:27.860 think there's going to be consequences for putting, you know, promiscuous stuff on the

00:08:31.640 internet.

00:08:32.640 Okay.

00:08:33.180 And you probably won't get the type of guy that you could have got at 22.

00:08:37.100 Do you know what, sister?

00:08:37.980 It wasn't meant to be, then.

00:08:38.880 Do you know what I'll tell you?

00:08:39.720 I would say, because I'm 30 and I'm single out of a situation that actually is not because

00:08:44.560 I was a hoe and I was doing whatever, whatever. 0.98

00:08:46.120 People can't call me that.

00:08:46.960 I made a bad decision to be with somebody that hurt me a lot, and I stayed for five

00:08:50.300 years.

00:08:50.840 I came out super late.

00:08:52.440 And do you know what I realized?

00:08:53.640 What I learned is that I know now that I have to be selective and I have to think.

00:08:58.580 If me taking longer to get to that stage is what it takes, then that's what it takes.

00:09:02.380 You accept your future.

00:09:03.500 You accept everything with gratitude, because as long as you're breathing, that's the most

00:09:06.360 important thing.

00:09:07.160 At least you've got your child.

00:09:08.500 I am not afraid, because I know the quality of woman that I am.

00:09:11.240 I know my value, regardless of whether I'm 30, 40, 50.

00:09:14.280 Do you understand?

00:09:14.700 So you don't be afraid by other people's time limits and limitations and all of these

00:09:19.040 things, because it actually doesn't matter.

00:09:20.820 And I'll tell you why.

00:09:21.540 But Danelle, your value goes down as you get older.

00:09:23.580 No, that's according to you.

00:09:24.520 Like, no, but I'm saying to men, and you have to understand your buyer.

00:09:27.720 I'll tell you why.

00:09:28.460 Because since Mr. Andrew Tate explained something about status, I understand very well what that

00:09:33.260 actually means.

00:09:33.960 And as a woman, the quality and the value that I hold for myself is actually the kind

00:09:37.360 of value and quality that a man will appreciate the status you'll bring to him, whether or

00:09:41.620 not I'm a virgin.

00:09:42.520 Because I've worked on myself to be a woman of quality and substance.

00:09:45.800 I respect myself and I handle myself as such.

00:09:48.240 Okay?

00:09:48.720 And that is the way that you're going to actually overcome all of these bad mistakes that you've

00:09:52.420 made, because who you are right now actually will make a difference if you stick to it

00:09:56.540 and if you mean it and if you've always been that way.

00:09:58.900 There's always another story for everybody.

00:10:01.680 It doesn't matter.

00:10:02.340 You'll be afraid to discuss somebody that's more emotionally mature.

00:10:04.780 Do you know what I would have said to you?

00:10:06.000 What are you about to say, Andrew?

00:10:07.320 Because you just started speaking up.

00:10:08.580 I was going to say.

00:10:09.940 Andrew, she said.

00:10:10.540 I said, Andrew.

00:10:11.100 I want to hear.

00:10:11.900 I really, because you've been through a lot in your life.

00:10:14.760 Like, when she told me that you were going to be on and we were going to be on this panel

00:10:17.760 together, I started watching a bunch of your videos.

00:10:19.840 And it really was like, there's so much that you have been through, which is why you have

00:10:24.520 a well of wisdom, right?

00:10:26.500 And the difference between me and you is that you're glorified for it and I am burned at

00:10:30.940 the stake for everything that I've been through.

00:10:33.140 And it's so funny because people have always said that we were two sides of the same coin

00:10:37.300 as far as like, well, if Andrew Tate gets banned, Bernie Renner should get banned because 0.88

00:10:40.260 there's, we are all about accountability and fucking truth, right? 0.96

00:10:44.940 Yeah. 0.98

00:10:45.220 Okay.

00:10:45.620 So you've been through a lot.

00:10:46.860 I've been through a lot.

00:10:48.080 I'm seen as you's good.

00:10:49.340 You're seen as a high value man.

00:10:50.900 So if you're me, then what?

00:10:52.660 What's next?

00:10:53.340 Yeah.

00:10:53.440 It's really interesting.

00:10:54.220 And it's interesting.

00:10:55.020 You make the observation and you are correct.

00:10:56.660 That's the difference between the masculine and the feminine. 1.00

00:10:58.780 It's kind of, it's unfair, I guess.

00:11:01.080 The world's not fair, but that's the difference between the masculine and the feminine. 0.98

00:11:03.420 Men are respected for going through things and surviving.

00:11:06.340 And women are the complete opposite. 1.00

00:11:08.240 They're ashamed for going through things and surviving.

00:11:09.820 If you look at women love scars on men for a reason, he's gone through something.

00:11:13.700 They're war wounds.

00:11:14.480 Yeah.

00:11:15.000 Men don't want a chick covered in scars. 1.00

00:11:16.840 Because I'll say this right now, that a woman, the more trauma she goes through, the more

00:11:22.460 masculine she naturally becomes.

00:11:24.060 And if you were to give me my ideal woman, I would not want of, I've wanted her to have

00:11:27.380 a hard life and a bunch of trauma.

00:11:28.940 I like the idea of her having a soft feminine life and being a soft person and I can take 0.99

00:11:33.100 care of her and protect her.

00:11:34.420 Whereas as a man, to be a good man, you need to have been through a bunch of trauma because 0.80

00:11:38.520 if you haven't been through trauma as a man, you're a weakling. 1.00

00:11:40.680 You have to have been through a bunch of shit. 0.99

00:11:41.980 So the masculine, the feminine is a very interesting point there. 0.99

00:11:44.680 As for, I don't know, I don't know your history.

00:11:47.900 I don't know the past, but we can just talk in general, generalizations in regards to-

00:11:50.840 People like me, I guess, under the same umbrella.

00:11:52.760 It doesn't have to be personal.

00:11:53.520 I don't know any of it, but we'll give generalizations.

00:11:56.120 One of the main reasons that men are scared of a female with history is because it makes

00:12:01.040 the man insecure.

00:12:02.560 And scared dogs bite. 1.00

00:12:04.500 So this is why men will snap or get angry quick, or they'll bring up your history.

00:12:09.260 If you get an argument with him, he'll bring up your history, whatever.

00:12:12.760 But a lot of it is insecurity.

00:12:14.160 And it's not insecurity because the man is insecure.

00:12:16.360 The woman, the women, the female paradigm in society convinces men, any man who says anything,

00:12:21.680 you're insecure. 0.83

00:12:22.920 It's not insecure in that way.

00:12:24.300 It's insecure in a very realistic, logical way.

00:12:27.440 Like I was saying earlier, she's had a lot of life experience.

00:12:29.880 Let's be honest.

00:12:30.740 Am I the richest guy she's ever had?

00:12:32.140 No.

00:12:32.460 Am I the most famous guy she's ever had?

00:12:33.980 No.

00:12:34.500 Am I the best looking guy she's ever had?

00:12:36.080 No.

00:12:36.260 Like what's keeping her here?

00:12:37.820 And then part of it comes down to, well, am I second place?

00:12:41.620 Could, if she could do better, would she do better?

00:12:43.980 Like there's a whole bunch of insecurity involved. 0.99

00:12:46.100 And that's where tiny things, like I'm talking, I know it sounds like dumb shit, tiny things 0.99

00:12:51.020 about the favorite car brand become more important than ever, right? 0.99

00:12:56.040 It's your job as a woman, regardless of how much sexual history you've had or what guy 0.56

00:13:00.420 you're with, et cetera, it's your job as a woman to make your man feel secure in the 0.95

00:13:03.180 fact and make him feel like a man.

00:13:05.060 Like auntie was saying, make him feel like the man, no matter what he does so that he

00:13:08.280 feels like you really truly believe he's the best choice for you on the planet.

00:13:12.720 That's your job to do.

00:13:13.880 Now, if you've had a checkered past, that's perhaps more difficult.

00:13:16.980 You need to be more tactful with it, more tactical about it.

00:13:19.540 But you have to achieve the same result.

00:13:21.460 You have to do the exact same thing, right?

00:13:23.340 So yeah, it's easy for me if I get a 21-year-old virgin from some village in Slovakia and I'm 0.92

00:13:32.480 multi-millionaire Andrew Tate.

00:13:34.160 Of course, it's a very easy, she's never had better.

00:13:36.560 She'll never get better.

00:13:37.820 She's never been anywhere.

00:13:38.960 Boom, boom, easy one, right?

00:13:40.300 But like you said, the world's not so idealistic.

00:13:43.820 The reality is that people have had relationships, et cetera, et cetera.

00:13:45.980 But a man is happiest in the relationship when he feels like man in the house and when he

00:13:49.820 truly feels like you believe he's the best man that you could possibly ever get and have

00:13:55.500 ever gotten.

00:13:56.360 Because a man is jealous.

00:13:57.620 I'll tell you something.

00:13:59.040 I used to say this to girls.

00:14:00.180 It's like a joke.

00:14:01.720 And I used to say, I used to say, no, but I said it's a joke.

00:14:03.700 I said, you cheated on me before I met you. 0.92

00:14:06.100 And she'd be like, what do you mean?

00:14:07.100 I didn't even know you. 0.99

00:14:07.800 I was like, yeah, you fucked that guy before I even knew you. 1.00

00:14:09.620 You cheated on me. 1.00

00:14:10.600 And they used to laugh, whatever.

00:14:11.780 But that's how men think.

00:14:13.540 That's the male mind. 0.61

00:14:14.660 Like, I love you. 1.00

00:14:15.980 And you've been fucked by who? 0.99

00:14:17.360 But I didn't know you. 0.99

00:14:18.100 I don't care if you knew me.

00:14:20.120 You should have waited.

00:14:21.100 What do you mean?

00:14:21.960 That's the male mind. 0.61

00:14:22.940 So he is at competition with all of your exes and all of your lifestyle and all the things

00:14:27.560 you've done permanently.

00:14:29.320 And it's down to you as a woman to sit there and go, how do I make him secure in himself

00:14:32.740 and secure in his masculinity and make him believe that investing in me is still worthwhile

00:14:36.600 because I still truly value him despite the fact that I could do X, Y, Z.

00:14:41.300 I hope that gives some clarity.

00:14:42.780 But that's the answer.

00:14:44.120 Do you know what I would have said?

00:14:45.240 I would have said, oh, for anybody in that situation, come off social media and just raise

00:14:49.840 your child.

00:14:50.640 So the person who meets you has got nothing to...

00:14:53.720 But I never knew you.

00:14:54.760 I never knew who you were because I've never heard of you before.

00:14:58.040 So when I spoke to you, by the way people, by the way you're saying, like, what's on the

00:15:03.780 internet?

00:15:07.380 Let me just say, you're a nicer person than what you sound like, like what you perceive

00:15:12.200 to be. 1.00

00:15:12.940 Like you were saying, oh, that pill's got out there, she's a whore, she's a whore, and I've 1.00

00:15:15.920 heard, I've heard the name, but I don't know anything about you. 1.00

00:15:18.060 And I was saying that if you didn't have nothing on social media about your checkered past and

00:15:22.760 you met somebody, the same way how I met you and I conversed and I got to know you, is

00:15:26.200 the same way that they would.

00:15:28.140 Yeah, and it is interesting, and it's also, back to the masculine and feminine, right? 0.90

00:15:31.820 Because I'm all over the internet, and supposedly I'm misogynist and I'm evil and all this crap, 0.81

00:15:35.660 right?

00:15:36.100 But if I meet a girl, even if she disagrees with me, in fact, I'll say this, I've never

00:15:41.360 ever met a single female who's ever come up to me and disagreed with me.

00:15:43.840 Every woman comes up to me and loves what I says.

00:15:45.400 But let's imagine, I met this imaginary girl, she was sitting with me.

00:15:47.860 And if I were to have a 10-minute conversation with her, by the time I explained the level to

00:15:51.440 which they tried to destroy me, how they tried to freeze all my bank accounts, raise illegal

00:15:55.080 charges against me, put me in jail for things I didn't do. 0.93

00:15:57.220 Put a travel ban, take my passport, all this garbage. 1.00

00:15:59.700 By the time I explain how hard they tried to hurt me and failed, she'll want me. 0.99

00:16:03.540 Because she'll be like, you can't kill this guy.

00:16:06.020 And that's going to be it. 1.00

00:16:07.260 Like, you say a bunch of shit I don't like, but you know what? 1.00

00:16:09.380 You're the man. 0.99

00:16:10.140 So it is about experience and it is different.

00:16:13.540 And that's a really good point about social media. 0.99

00:16:15.120 Social media amplifies all of this shit. 0.99

00:16:17.680 It amplifies all these problems. 1.00

00:16:19.480 Everything we're discussing, everything we've discussed back to the beginning, from status

00:16:22.760 to promiscuity to your past, it's all social media.

00:16:27.300 Without social media, a lot of it goes away.

00:16:29.440 And I think that's why me and my man last so long is that he doesn't do social media.

00:16:33.380 And there's nothing on there about me.

00:16:35.220 I feel like to answer your question, too, because I have had people say that as a solution.

00:16:41.440 And it's like, you can run, but you cannot hide from the truth.

00:16:44.180 And I have shared why my voice has been so impactful and will continue to be impactful

00:16:50.260 is because I have put myself out there and I have been punished for being honest.

00:16:54.320 So it's like, I have been given a platform and a voice for a reason.

00:16:59.320 Even sitting down in this conversation thinking there's not one person I'm probably going to

00:17:02.840 agree with and probably going to want to leave.

00:17:04.300 Um, I have been called here for a reason.

00:17:07.580 So it's like, I can't go against what is in my heart and what I am coded to be.

00:17:12.720 And that's why I feel like it's important for me to sit here and represent people who feel like me.

00:17:17.400 Because it's like, I didn't, I don't want to say I didn't, I don't even want to say that.

00:17:21.280 Um, I just feel like I don't see a lot of women under my umbrella who feel the way that I feel.

00:17:26.740 I don't see opinions shared that I, that would be worded the way that I feel nothing.

00:17:30.880 I feel like a lot of my thoughts are very unique and it's, it's kind of scary because I have been

00:17:36.060 through different things.

00:17:37.060 I see the world in a different place. 0.99

00:17:38.880 And when I even speak online, people think I'm fucking speaking Swahili. 0.96

00:17:42.060 So it's like, no, and I know exactly what you're saying and you're making good points. 0.95

00:17:46.120 And it's just, I think that regardless of whether, like we're talking about different positions,

00:17:50.880 I compare everything to chess.

00:17:52.180 I know it's annoying.

00:17:52.640 We're looking at different positions on the chessboard, but the rules are still the same,

00:17:55.380 right?

00:17:55.700 No matter how bad your position is or how good your position is, you're still trying to achieve

00:17:58.860 the same objectives.

00:18:00.000 And, and you want, you want the man to get high status and you want the man to feel secure

00:18:03.660 in himself.

00:18:04.040 And I think it's, it's very difficult.

00:18:06.020 I can only talk from the male perspective because I am a man.

00:18:08.600 It is very difficult.

00:18:09.880 If I were to meet a woman who I liked very much, but she had X, whatever, pass, whatever, whatever,

00:18:14.300 my concerns would be, how do I know that I'm still the number one?

00:18:17.220 How do I know I'm most important in her life?

00:18:18.900 Especially if I don't measure up in certain key metrics.

00:18:21.220 And two, the second thing that's most scary for men is we understand that men are constantly

00:18:26.060 after what we have.

00:18:27.240 Like your inboxes are all full.

00:18:29.680 Like they may not be with guys you want to reply to, but guys are still trying to get

00:18:33.280 it.

00:18:33.680 That's the male life. 0.99

00:18:34.840 The male life is people are trying to take everything from me. 0.55

00:18:37.840 And, and that's very scary.

00:18:39.380 And you have to make your man really believe like that's impossible.

00:18:42.200 If a man truly believes that nobody can take you from him, he's going to love you in a

00:18:45.880 different way it, it, you can give me, you can give me two carbon copies of the same

00:18:50.320 chick, but one, I think might cheat in the right circumstances.

00:18:53.840 And one, I know no matter what would never leave me, the love I'll feel for this one

00:18:58.480 is a different planet to the love I feel for this one, even though the same person, right?

00:19:03.400 Because that's every man's biggest fear is a woman cheating or leaving because there's

00:19:07.480 something visceral and something different about it.

00:19:09.520 I know I talk things and I say men can do things and women can't and all this stuff, 0.99

00:19:13.240 but they're like, if a woman cheats on a man, that hurts the man at a level that it doesn't

00:19:18.260 hurt the woman.

00:19:18.840 If the man cheats on her, it's different.

00:19:20.540 It's, it's different biologically.

00:19:22.060 It's different.

00:19:22.920 It's different evolutionarily.

00:19:24.560 Like that's what men used to fight and die over.

00:19:27.540 You talk to my chick.

00:19:28.520 You look at my chick.

00:19:30.060 Yeah.

00:19:30.300 It's like you did masculinize him on every level.

00:19:33.020 Like, and this is why you see these tick tocks, right? 0.56

00:19:35.280 You see these tick tocks.

00:19:36.120 Me and my man went on a break, got back together. 1.00

00:19:38.340 He fucked 20 girls and now he's crying. 0.99

00:19:40.400 Cause I went on a date. 1.00

00:19:41.700 Yes, completely.

00:19:43.200 Yes.

00:19:43.880 Because the damage level is different.

00:19:46.560 It's just a different thing.

00:19:47.600 So you have to understand the paradigms.

00:19:49.360 You have to understand to play the game.

00:19:50.300 And that's how you make men happy.

00:19:51.960 And I know very well how I like to believe that I know I would know very well how to make

00:19:57.080 a woman happy.

00:19:58.040 And, and I know, and whether I do that or not is a conscious decision.

00:20:01.300 And that's where you get to a certain level of grand mastery where I, if I get a woman, 0.98

00:20:05.280 I will literally decide out of 10, how happy do I want her?

00:20:08.340 Do I want, does she deserve to be happy 10 or should I keep her like crying half the 0.99

00:20:12.040 time that it's very conscious and women don't think that way. 1.00

00:20:15.200 But I'm saying, if you're a smart, if you're a cutting woman, you could be like that. 0.96

00:20:17.980 You could be a bit more like, you know what?

00:20:19.580 I want him infatuated with me.

00:20:21.600 This guy ain't worth the time that guy I want.

00:20:23.820 And then when you're going to do that, just like the game of chess, if you play chess,

00:20:27.480 it's not big moves that make you lose.

00:20:29.460 It's small positional plays.

00:20:31.160 It's that time you argued about your favorite car.

00:20:33.560 It's the time you disagreed with him about the favorite band. 1.00

00:20:36.080 It's the dumb shit that adds up. 0.99

00:20:38.300 Whereas really truthfully, if you're truly smart about the game, you can get him to a 1.00

00:20:42.760 point after a few months where he's like, she's my soulmate.

00:20:45.900 She loves everything.

00:20:47.280 I love.

00:20:47.800 We think the same.

00:20:48.800 Our hearts are connected.

00:20:49.900 Boom.

00:20:50.160 And then you're safe. 0.99

00:20:51.640 Just don't fuck it up from there. 0.91

00:20:52.960 But I just feel like it's so contradicting to feel like what your overall message is, 0.54

00:20:57.060 which is about truth.

00:20:58.380 So it's like, if my truth, like if it can be destroyed by the truth, it should be destroyed

00:21:02.380 by the truth.

00:21:03.180 So that's what I'm trying to figure out.

00:21:04.360 Like why it's, it's really mind boggling to me because I feel like how could you even

00:21:08.860 be mentally, emotionally, sexually stimulated by a woman who is just agreeable and, you know,

00:21:14.840 it just doesn't have her own mind.

00:21:16.380 I just don't see that.

00:21:17.500 That is exactly, that is exactly, that is exactly what every man wants.

00:21:24.940 We don't want you to be complete robots.

00:21:27.880 We're not saying we can't have a joke with you.

00:21:29.460 We can't say we can't have a laugh with you.

00:21:30.720 We're not saying we can't have a personality.

00:21:32.280 But when it comes to things like agreement, there is not a single man in the world who's

00:21:36.200 going to say, she's too agreeable.

00:21:37.900 She just agrees with me on it.

00:21:39.440 She agrees with me on all the important things in my life.

00:21:41.320 She's too agreeable.

00:21:42.080 I want someone else. 1.00

00:21:43.640 Fuck no. 1.00

00:21:44.520 You're completely and utterly wrong on that point. 1.00

00:21:46.040 It's a huge point.

00:21:47.200 This idea that I understand if you're a complete doormat and you set no standards, men might walk all

00:21:51.600 over you. 0.90

00:21:52.060 I'm not talking about that.

00:21:52.920 I'm talking about agreeability and agreeableness as a whole.

00:21:56.120 Men love the idea of an agreeable woman because it gives status and it makes the man feel

00:22:00.500 like he's a teacher and it makes the man feel in charge and it satisfies his ego.

00:22:03.820 And to you, they may be small little tiny points, but to him, they're a big deal.

00:22:07.320 If I were to sit, I'm telling you right now, if I were to sit with one of my chicks or 1.00

00:22:12.020 whatever, or my chick, and I'll just sit in the Lambo and say, Lambo's the best car

00:22:15.240 of all of them.

00:22:15.640 I prefer the Lambo.

00:22:16.280 She goes, I don't like that one. 0.97

00:22:17.260 I'm like, listen, I bought them all and I fucking said this is the best one. 1.00

00:22:19.780 Shut up. 0.99

00:22:20.540 It would annoy me because that's my reality. 0.99

00:22:23.440 I want her to become part of my reality.

00:22:25.640 It's the thing.

00:22:26.380 And you talk about truth.

00:22:27.820 It's interesting because the truth of your heart and the truth of your soul is to be happy.

00:22:32.500 That's truth.

00:22:33.320 Truth is for you to end up happy.

00:22:34.740 Now, if you have to sit there and agree on a, especially on a subject you don't give a 0.99

00:22:39.580 fuck about, right? 0.87

00:22:40.180 If it's something you care about and you are very knowledgeable about, if it's ancient 0.99

00:22:43.540 Roman history and you have a degree in ancient Rome, then fine, argue the point. 0.98

00:22:47.360 But if it's cars or something you don't even give a shit about, what, yeah, you're missing 0.97

00:22:53.660 the chance to get points on the scoreboard, easy free throw. 0.99

00:22:57.420 And you're just fucking it up going, oh, no, no, no. 0.97

00:23:00.460 Why? 0.99

00:23:01.400 What?

00:23:01.780 The truth is just play the game and win.

00:23:04.220 That's the truth.

00:23:04.920 Andrew could be the best female dating person.

00:23:06.580 Or just learn a couple of words like how many talks, horsepower.

00:23:09.980 Just throw some words in.

00:23:11.540 How much horsepower is it?

00:23:12.680 So, Tay, with all due respect, not all men are like that.

00:23:15.920 Some men respect a woman that has their own mind.

00:23:18.520 I know you and the type of men that you're speaking on behalf of.

00:23:21.680 Let me tell you something.

00:23:22.260 Like a woman that will just be so agreeable to everything he says.

00:23:26.960 Like, I've dated men that just respect that I can make decisions.

00:23:30.620 I will actually ask for my input.

00:23:31.420 Submissive women have their own mind. 1.00

00:23:33.540 Yeah, completely.

00:23:34.280 That's the first one.

00:23:34.640 There's sometimes that he might be discussing stuff that he might want to be discussed. 0.98

00:23:38.140 And there's sometimes where you're like, shut the fuck up and let me say what I've 0.99

00:23:40.980 got to say. 0.99

00:23:41.520 Yes, completely.

00:23:42.100 Well, maybe, I don't even believe in star signs, but my man's a Sagittarius.

00:23:45.300 So, all this illogical stuff and feelings and emotions. 0.99

00:23:49.240 And no, you don't cry about shit. 1.00

00:23:50.640 Shut up. 1.00

00:23:51.100 Get on with it. 1.00

00:23:51.600 Your head's big.

00:23:52.240 Go up.

00:23:52.520 Get on with it.

00:23:52.980 Completely.

00:23:53.480 And submissive women have their own mind. 1.00

00:23:54.720 But this is something else you have to take into consideration.

00:23:56.860 And this is super important and super true.

00:23:58.540 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.

00:24:02.320 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - December 27, 2022

This Debate Gets Heated With Andrew Tate

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