JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


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In this episode, we discuss the differences between men and women when it comes to pickiness. Who is more picky in relationships and sex? Is it men or women? And why do men have a higher sex drive than women?

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00:00:00.000 You think men are equally picky?
00:00:02.000 When it comes to relationships or sex?
00:00:04.000 Let's say relationships.
00:00:06.000 Well, it's important because you guys mix them up a lot.
00:00:08.000 I'm not mixing them up.
00:00:10.000 Okay, for relationships, I think men can gatekeep more than women do. 1.00
00:00:14.000 No, I'm asking if you think they're equally picky with the women that they want to be in relationships with, as women are to men.
00:00:20.000 Are men as picky as women? 1.00
00:00:23.000 So for you, if you were gonna, I mean, you're already married, right?
00:00:27.000 And I'm looking for a husband and you're looking for a wife who's pickier, typically. 1.00
00:00:31.000 By and large. I'm not, like, I'm just using us as an example.
00:00:34.000 I think it's roughly equal.
00:00:36.000 Really? That's so interesting.
00:00:37.000 It's interesting, but the reason why is because you guys get all your information from dating, from dating apps, where the numbers are super skewed.
00:00:43.000 But if you go into any school, all the boys are dating all the girls.
00:00:46.000 If you go into any workplace, if you go into any workplace, all the boys are dating all the girls. 0.98
00:00:53.000 When there are environments where men and women are together, look at the YouTube world and the stream world. 0.99
00:00:57.000 Every YouTuber is fucking every YouTuber. 1.00
00:00:59.000 That's how it works. 0.99
00:01:00.000 But the problem is, you guys are only looking at, like, well, look at Tinder, where it's five men to one woman.
00:01:04.000 No, I would actually agree on college campuses it's similar.
00:01:07.000 I would say it's similar on college campuses.
00:01:09.000 There's, like, a select group of men that tend to do very well.
00:01:12.000 No, no, hold on. Wait, no, no, wait.
00:01:13.000 Okay, what you just said is a highlight of why I think you're not either engaging well.
00:01:17.000 No, no, no, wait, because you said men do very well.
00:01:19.000 Wait, wait, wait, no, let me finish.
00:01:21.000 Wait, wait, wait, can I just, I said a select group of men.
00:01:24.000 You said a select group of men.
00:01:25.000 So, for example, like, athletes.
00:01:26.000 No.
00:01:27.000 Okay.
00:01:28.000 One athlete is not dating five women.
00:01:29.000 A select group of men, they might have sex, but that's why I say it's important to distinguish sex between relationships. 1.00
00:01:34.000 An elite group of men can fuck a lot of women, sure. 1.00
00:01:37.000 An elite group of women can fuck a lot of women. 1.00
00:01:39.000 Can I ask you a question? 1.00
00:01:40.000 Yeah, sure.
00:01:41.000 Can I ask you a question?
00:01:42.000 I'm not saying in terms of relationships.
00:01:44.000 I'm saying in the initial encounters where men come together with women, we're not even talking about relationships now.
00:01:51.000 We're just, that initial moment when they meet, who's usually going to be more pickier?
00:01:56.000 Who's going to be more willing to, like, settle with whatever comes their way, whatever, you know, they catch that night or whoever they meet in their real life?
00:02:04.000 Yeah, when you say settle.
00:02:05.000 Who's going to be more, who's going to be more picky? 0.96
00:02:07.000 Picky for sex? 0.98
00:02:08.000 It depends on sex. 1.00
00:02:09.000 No, I think, no, no, no.
00:02:10.000 Listen, listen, listen.
00:02:11.000 Before the sex or the relationship has come, yeah?
00:02:14.000 You first have to meet that person and you subconsciously, you know in your mind, not even subconsciously, you know in your mind if I would sleep with that person or I would give them a chance.
00:02:23.000 You already know that in your mind when you look at them, bro.
00:02:26.000 Like, so what I'm saying, sorry, I shouldn't have called you, bro.
00:02:29.000 You can call me, bro.
00:02:30.000 But what I'm saying is that in that initial moment when you first come into contact with the opposite sex, yeah, who is usually more picky? 1.00
00:02:38.000 Is it going to be men or women?
00:02:39.000 That's what I'm asking.
00:02:40.000 Yeah, when you're thinking.
00:02:41.000 I'm not asking the relationship down the road.
00:02:42.000 Sure.
00:02:43.000 When you think it's just sex, men are going to be less picky than women, of course. 1.00
00:02:46.000 Men will fuck almost anything. 1.00
00:02:47.000 In terms of sex, yeah. 1.00
00:02:48.000 Yeah, of course.
00:02:49.000 You don't think that's where it starts, like wanting to sleep?
00:02:51.000 Well, that's where it kind of starts, yeah.
00:02:52.000 Wanting to sleep with the person.
00:02:54.000 You don't think that's where it starts.
00:02:55.000 Because, I don't know why you guys-
00:02:56.000 No, no, no.
00:02:57.000 It's the initial attraction.
00:02:58.000 No, no, no.
00:02:59.000 Sorry, can I just say something? 0.98
00:03:00.000 So, in terms of sex and relationship, it's so different because men, they would pick anyone to have sex with because men just have a high sex drive. 0.94
00:03:08.000 But, when it comes to relationship, I believe men are a lot more picky.
00:03:12.000 They will say they don't want a woman that has too much body count. 1.00
00:03:16.000 They don't want a woman- 1.00
00:03:17.000 A woman with kids. 0.86
00:03:18.000 A woman with kids. 0.86
00:03:19.000 No, no.
00:03:20.000 I'm not arguing that.
00:03:21.000 There's so much standards that women can have to- 1.00
00:03:22.000 I'm not arguing that.
00:03:23.000 Can I ask?
00:03:24.000 I'm not arguing that.
00:03:25.000 Women, the standard that we set for ourselves is literally, does he treat me well?
00:03:29.000 Right.
00:03:30.000 Is he going to be a good father?
00:03:31.000 Yeah, but before you get to that point, there's a yes or no.
00:03:36.000 Before you get to that point of, I would like to get in a relationship with this guy, that guy would have to qualify some requirements, some preferences in the first place.
00:03:45.000 But you don't have to have sex to do that.
00:03:47.000 You can just speak. 0.64
00:03:48.000 I never said you have to have sex. 0.91
00:03:49.000 I never said you have to have sex.
00:03:50.000 Yeah, but women will speak to anyone. 1.00
00:03:52.000 It doesn't have to.
00:03:53.000 And yes, and yes, and women will speak to guys and they'll be banging the guy that they really like. 1.00
00:03:57.000 Yeah, bang it. 0.98
00:03:58.000 Sorry, you can bang anyone. 0.92
00:03:59.000 Yeah, and they will want relationships from that guy. 1.00
00:04:03.000 Not another time.
00:04:04.000 Not really.
00:04:05.000 This is what I think.
00:04:06.000 Oh my god.
00:04:07.000 When we talk about gatekeeping sex versus relationships, this is what I think, okay?
00:04:10.000 Wow. 0.98
00:04:11.000 If you were to go into a guy's body count, and you were to ask the guy, if the last ten women you fucked, which of those ten would you date? 0.95
00:04:17.000 I think you can find guys that would say, like, one or two, maybe. 0.66
00:04:21.000 But if you go and you ask a girl, the last five or ten guys that you banged, how many of them would you date?
00:04:25.000 They'd say, like, well, three of them I did date, you know?
00:04:27.000 And for the most part, like, at least half of them I'd probably consider dating, right?
00:04:30.000 Yeah.
00:04:31.000 That's what I mean when I say generally, like, men will gatekeep the relationship part a little bit.
00:04:34.000 Definitely.
00:04:35.000 No, I agree with that.
00:04:36.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:37.000 But that's exactly what I'm saying, too.
00:04:38.000 Exactly, yeah.
00:04:39.000 No, I said I wasn't arguing, and you just kept talking.
00:04:41.000 You wasn't listening.
00:04:42.000 No, but you were saying something.
00:04:45.000 I was agreeing with you.
00:04:46.000 No, you weren't.
00:04:47.000 No, I said initially, before even you're starting to go out on dates and you're considering a relationship, you need to, that person has to qualify certain requirements.
00:04:56.000 And usually it's a looks test.
00:04:58.000 The looks test will really determine how far or how much allowance or how many chances you're going to give to this guy.
00:05:05.000 Not really as well.
00:05:06.000 You don't?
00:05:07.000 No, no, no.
00:05:08.000 Because let's be real.
00:05:09.000 So you accept advances from every guy that approaches you, you accept their advances?
00:05:14.000 I'm not saying I accept every single advance.
00:05:17.000 I'm just saying women are very realistic with their options. 1.00
00:05:21.000 Like, they know that they...
00:05:22.000 Are they?
00:05:23.000 No, they're not. 1.00
00:05:24.000 Shut up. 1.00
00:05:25.000 Let me finish. 1.00
00:05:26.000 Let me finish.
00:05:29.000 Yeah, we can say, oh yeah, I want a six foot guy, but they know there's not that many six foot guys.
00:05:34.000 When it comes to reality, they look at the dating pool, it's the dunya out here. 1.00
00:05:39.000 Like, bro, there are frogs everywhere.
00:05:42.000 You actually, women actually stop and think, you know what? 1.00
00:05:44.000 I don't want to be single for the rest of my life.
00:05:46.000 I want to be married before 30.
00:05:48.000 And what age, and what age did they start thinking like?
00:05:51.000 30.
00:05:52.000 To be fair, a lot when they're older.
00:05:53.000 Definitely.
00:05:54.000 I do think that.
00:05:55.000 So when they're out of their prime years.
00:05:56.000 But men never.
00:05:57.000 Men always think they can get the baddest chick. 0.97
00:06:00.000 I'm just being rude.
00:06:01.000 Listen, I'm not trying to be rude.
00:06:03.000 I'm not trying to be rude.
00:06:04.000 I'm not trying to be rude.
00:06:05.000 But at the end of the day, your prime years are your 20s, bro.
00:06:09.000 But what is the prime?
00:06:10.000 Men in reality, it hits them in the face. 0.57
00:06:13.000 Because they're not going to get that girl.
00:06:15.000 But the girl can still sleep with that guy. 1.00
00:06:17.000 Okay, hold on.
00:06:18.000 You're so male-brained in all your answers. 0.59
00:06:20.000 You're only looking at the sex. 1.00
00:06:22.000 Most women know they could fuck most guys in the way they want. 1.00
00:06:24.000 That's why women don't chase sex. 1.00
00:06:25.000 They don't need to.
00:06:26.000 It is.
00:06:27.000 But there's a difference between chasing sex. 0.70
00:06:28.000 That's why I get mad when you guys talk about hypergamy, hypergamy. 0.68
00:06:30.000 Like an average whatever woman knows that- 1.00
00:06:32.000 Well, let me finish.
00:06:33.000 Hold on.
00:06:34.000 You'll make like three different points.
00:06:35.000 I'm not making a point.
00:06:36.000 I'm reinforcing my first point.
00:06:37.000 Do you not think women date up? 0.99
00:06:39.000 No.
00:06:40.000 No.
00:06:41.000 Not at all.
00:06:42.000 Hold on.
00:06:43.000 Again, hold on.
00:06:44.000 When you say date up-
00:06:45.000 Let's be real.
00:06:46.000 This is a data answer.
00:06:47.000 When you say date up, you're only looking at it from the male perspective.
00:06:49.000 When you say date up, you go, oh, well, they date up because the men is earning more money. 0.69
00:06:53.000 But then you'll say things like men value younger women.
00:06:55.000 And in that case, men date up because they tend to date younger or they tend to date more.
00:06:59.000 We all value different things in the dating market.
00:07:02.000 Everybody dates up that way around.
00:07:03.000 In the exchange of that man that has got all the money and resources and all that to offer the woman, 0.98
00:07:08.000 and the woman's basically, she's young, good looking. 1.00
00:07:10.000 Do you think that's an even exchange of value?
00:07:12.000 Yes.
00:07:13.000 Because the man is chasing what he wants.
00:07:14.000 The woman's chasing what she wants. 1.00
00:07:15.000 So is he dating down?
00:07:17.000 No, it's not dating down.
00:07:18.000 This is a different level.
00:07:19.000 They're different.
00:07:20.000 You want the prime, isn't it?
00:07:21.000 You want that young body, that high-titude.
00:07:22.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:07:23.000 That's your prime.
00:07:24.000 You guys will say this.
00:07:25.000 You'll say men don't care about a woman's accomplishments. 1.00
00:07:28.000 And then you'll say, well, a guy is dating a woman that's young and super hot.
00:07:32.000 And you're like, well, he's dating down.
00:07:33.000 No, no, no.
00:07:34.000 It's not dating down.
00:07:35.000 Because you just said they don't care about the woman's accomplishments. 0.98
00:07:36.000 Exactly.
00:07:37.000 You know why it's dating down?
00:07:38.000 Exactly.
00:07:39.000 Because in that exchange, yeah, the man is probably offering resources and protection.
00:07:42.000 Yeah?
00:07:43.000 Protection and provision.
00:07:44.000 That is long-lasting.
00:07:45.000 That's forever.
00:07:46.000 Whereas what that woman is offering is her youth and her beauty, which will disappear. 0.98
00:07:51.000 The wall is undefeated.
00:07:52.000 And so what, her value is zero?
00:07:53.000 No, but I'm just saying, I'm saying it's not an even, you're saying it's an even exchange,
00:07:57.000 but it's not.
00:07:58.000 Because he's offering something that is forever, and she's offering something that will disappear
00:08:02.000 in like, what?
00:08:03.000 Seven, ten years.
00:08:04.000 What about love?
00:08:05.000 That's insane.
00:08:06.000 No, but that's not the point.
00:08:07.000 That's not the point we're talking about.
00:08:08.000 That's not what we're talking about right now.
00:08:10.000 But in that scenario, at that point, that's what he values.
00:08:13.000 At that point, he values.
00:08:14.000 How do you know what he's valuing?
00:08:15.000 Because you're just saying it.
00:08:16.000 Listen, listen, listen, listen, listen.
00:08:18.000 You're talking about loving all that.
00:08:20.000 I'm just saying on the base level.
00:08:22.000 No, no, I'm not talking about love.
00:08:23.000 I'm talking about in terms of what men value.
00:08:25.000 They don't value a woman that makes a lot of money. 1.00
00:08:27.000 Okay.
00:08:28.000 You said that yourself.
00:08:29.000 Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:30.000 So in that moment in time, they value younger women.
00:08:32.000 Okay.
00:08:33.000 So he's not dating down because in his eyes, that's what gives me-
00:08:35.000 Yeah, but you're not thinking-
00:08:36.000 That's what the value is.
00:08:37.000 Yeah, but you're not thinking in the whole scope of it.
00:08:39.000 Okay, yes, I agree with you, and I said it.
00:08:41.000 Yes, men will value youth and fertility and all of them things.
00:08:45.000 But these are all things that disappear.
00:08:47.000 Yeah, but that-
00:08:48.000 No.
00:08:49.000 That's the man-
00:08:50.000 No, no, no, no.
00:08:51.000 You're not-
00:08:52.000 That's the man-
00:08:53.000 No, no, no.
00:08:54.000 Okay, finish, finish.
00:08:55.000 You're not listening, bro.
00:08:56.000 Finish.
00:08:57.000 What he's offering does not disappear.
00:08:59.000 It doesn't go.
00:09:00.000 It doesn't go nowhere.
00:09:01.000 You don't know that.
00:09:02.000 So how is it?
00:09:03.000 That's not the women's fault. 1.00
00:09:04.000 At the end of the day, the men choose what they value, right?
00:09:08.000 Wow.
00:09:09.000 They value younger women, and that's what they want at that moment.
00:09:13.000 It doesn't matter if it expires in a couple years.
00:09:15.000 I'm just saying it's not even exchange.
00:09:16.000 That's what they valued.
00:09:17.000 I'm just saying it's not even exchange.
00:09:18.000 I'm just saying it's not even exchange.
00:09:19.000 And then he'll value a mother of a woman that is stable and can give his children all that they need.
00:09:24.000 His needs probably change.
00:09:26.000 Exactly.
00:09:27.000 And then it aligns.
00:09:28.000 Everything in this life is fleeting.
00:09:30.000 You don't own all your material.
00:09:32.000 Yes, you have resources now.
00:09:33.000 Okay.
00:09:34.000 Listen, but that can disappear.
00:09:35.000 What's more likely to be-
00:09:36.000 Look at the economy now.
00:09:38.000 Hyperinflation can happen one day, suddenly all this has gone.
00:09:42.000 You are saying maybes.
00:09:43.000 You are saying maybes.
00:09:44.000 you're talking about maybe you're talking about maybe you're not listening you're just over
00:09:53.220 talking me and you're not listening i know what you're saying that so what am i saying that our
00:09:57.320 beauty here is inevitable that it will 100 100 yeah i'm saying you're talking about oh nothing
00:10:02.760 you don't own nothing in this world and what if this happens it's what ifs you're talking about
00:10:06.660 i understand okay okay but what i'm getting at is that just because certain possessions we have
00:10:12.300 may disappear does not mean our value as a human being diminishes what is important is us as
00:10:18.240 individuals having a partnership and love like all this of course you can say all that of course
00:10:23.620 you're going to say that one question because you're diminishing the value let me ask you something
00:10:27.920 and i'm saying i feel like so what do you want do you want women to never grow old no no no i'm saying
00:10:34.200 that so what's the solution stop stop stop stop stop stop