JustPearlyThings - This DELUSIONAL Woman Said THIS

00:00:00.000 isn't other multiple women his issue is he's not where he wants to be financially i think again

00:00:05.200 society puts pressure on men to have to be millionaires like there's this idea that men

00:00:09.920 have to be so so what would happen if you just said i don't care about the money like i will i

00:00:14.440 will work with you like you can do your side piece thing i'm cool with that too no i think but it's

00:00:19.820 more him believing in him accepting that it's not i can say all i want was it because in like the

00:00:25.140 relationship before was it like did you is that something you got on him for no never okay but

00:00:30.140 it's his his concept of women is women will stay with you if you have money because a lot of men 0.98

00:00:36.180 now especially like the andrew tate lovers believe that if you don't have enough money a woman would 0.99

00:00:41.160 leave you 100 yeah so this is the problem is me i will stick by his side regardless can i just

00:00:47.760 interrupt you not to be rude but you're his wife he chose you you chose him so what everybody else

00:00:54.020 outside of that is doing is none of your concern and what gets my brain is when you're in a marriage

00:00:59.840 everybody else really doesn't matter in the respect of like you know your parents opinion they can add

00:01:05.760 whatever but it literally doesn't matter so andrew tate social media all these factors they don't

00:01:12.400 matter they actually don't matter take them away and then work on your your marriage or relationship

00:01:18.680 together that that's what but and this is the thing i can say it to him all i want but again

00:01:23.680 as a man he has to believe in himself i can't believe that a guy would leave a full-blown marriage

00:01:29.580 just because he doesn't think he's financially stable no no no no you're already married no it's

00:01:34.660 not even that it's not even that it's men also overthink what we like the way we overthink things

00:01:39.420 have you have you ever have you ever called him like got on your knees begged and apologized

00:01:43.480 got on your knees and said i was wrong like you were right yeah we've had conversations we've had

00:01:50.960 conversations for sure he's not yeah i think that i don't know i've apologized i don't know but there's

00:01:55.540 must be another reason why i've apologized and he's apologized and we both agreed that when he is it's

00:02:02.260 more he needs to be he needs to accept where he is in his life and i can't impose for example i think a

00:02:08.000 man when he knows he's got a responsibility especially a father a child and a woman he wants to now make

00:02:12.980 sure he's got enough money to support and again his dreams his dreams instead of staying and doing

00:02:18.240 that he's left no no it's not it's not that he's left it's more he doesn't want us to get toxic and

00:02:26.080 hate each other so it's more like if we separate can i ask you a question if he was to call you right

00:02:30.680 now and be like okay i'm ready can we get back together yeah i'll say yes so the reason that you're

00:02:35.340 not together is because of him then it's not he's not ready yet yeah i don't think that he can just

00:02:40.160 leave just because he's got no money it's not that he doesn't have money no no i think you guys are

00:02:47.600 getting it wrong again it's not that he doesn't have money he's not he for him having 600k in your

00:02:53.620 bank isn't enough because he feels like no no but again again exactly i can't tell him enough times

00:03:01.200 i don't care if you're not making millions it's him to believe and accept actually do you believe

00:03:07.060 what he's saying it's just like okay like it just sounds like there's something missing from the

00:03:12.180 story i i don't know i don't know you okay yeah this is where men have to come in yeah i'm listening i'm

00:03:17.920 listening eddie does a man feel like women money is important in a relationship 110 but okay go on

00:03:24.860 if you were now with a woman but you're not financially happy where you are would you break

00:03:30.860 off the relationship no can i ask you a question okay if it's stressing if it's stressing you out

00:03:36.260 and you're feeling like i can only focus on money i can only feel stressed if you're the reason i'm

00:03:41.220 stressed okay because i did if money is i agree with you in the sense that men do have a lot of

00:03:47.860 pressures but i believe that's just the way it is and and men have to deal with that pressure

00:03:51.560 become this part of being a man okay but if i'm married to you and this is why i think everybody's

00:03:56.040 going to start thinking there's a piece missing because even as a man and this is me speaking as

00:03:59.400 a man if i'm married to you the only reason i'd feel the type of way is if i'm made to feel that

00:04:04.420 way so it's either he feels that way because of someone which has to be you or there's something

00:04:09.740 else missing from the story so now let me ask you this in a relationship you have to give time right

00:04:14.040 time and energy when you have children you have to give time and energy right if you felt like

00:04:18.440 you giving time and energy there was taking away from what your dreams in money was would you then

00:04:24.520 why did he not think about that before you got married exactly what i'm saying is when we were

00:04:28.720 initially it was different right that his goals might have been different people changed i'm trying

00:04:33.580 to convince him money's not an issue yeah but eddie if you were now putting energy in like you want

00:04:39.180 to put energy in your business but you feel like having a relationship is straining your business

00:04:43.120 would you keep the relationship or would you uh focus on business i do both because i'm married

00:04:48.520 to you okay now what i'm saying is if you felt like it was draining like you felt like you couldn't

00:04:53.940 give and when i say draining it's not that i want money i want your time right so as a in my my

00:05:00.060 relationship i want your time if you felt like you couldn't give your partner adequate time and you

00:05:04.740 know that's the only thing she wants from you would you feel like you need to terminate the

00:05:08.680 relationship no because i'm married with a child yeah but the thing like my responsibilities are

00:05:13.740 my responsibilities are it's way higher than that so i think and this is what we talk about

00:05:17.260 and why i ask the question about modern women and selfishness i truly believe that when we 0.99

00:05:21.200 in the relationship it's not about me no more so whatever it is that i need to sacrifice to make

00:05:25.300 sure this thing works it's what i have to sacrifice that's my responsibility as a person who's

00:05:28.560 brought a child into this world right sorry when you talk about money i've always earned

00:05:37.060 more than my men and i've never made them feel any different less of a man they've always paid

00:05:42.900 you know they've always been the men i've never it's never been a problem and if i if you're married

00:05:48.500 in your relationship with someone you manage the money you build each other up you know if like you

00:05:56.220 if you if you was married now and you're on i don't know nine thousand a year with you and your

00:06:01.920 wife together working at it they can build you're not going to say well you know what let's separate

00:06:05.780 because we've got kids you ain't got enough money and we're gonna we're gonna come back in another

00:06:09.620 three years when you've got money you're not gonna say that you're gonna work you're gonna work at it

00:06:14.040 together i'm first generation here so my parents migrated over here they came here with nothing

00:06:18.180 like to the point where when i was growing up they had to switch between he was looking after me day

00:06:23.660 and night because they couldn't afford a nanny they worked through these things together so i'm

00:06:27.540 thinking if they can move from a land where they know to a land where they don't know

00:06:32.120 and still manage and maintain a relationship and still be together to this day for me to come

00:06:36.280 and tell the story there's no reason why other people shouldn't you know what you know what is

00:06:41.280 no can i just say this a million times over it's because this generation hasn't faced real adversity

00:06:49.000 and all the adversity they face is on social media so for example like you said your parents left their

00:06:56.140 country and came here and made it work your marriage you have to make it work you have to

00:07:02.400 put in the effort your partner has to put in there's got to be something else like missing from the story

00:07:09.500 it's literally okay i'm not denying i'm trying to make the marriage work right it's i can't it takes

00:07:16.040 two to tangle right again he it might come to a point in his life that he realizes actually sorai is

00:07:22.900 there regardless whether he's a millionaire or zilch and then he might be like actually i can see it

00:07:28.360 yeah but it's very hard especially the area he was brought up in he was around a lot of superficial

00:07:33.360 people i grew up in hackney i came from like eddie poverty whatever like my family came here with

00:07:38.580 nothing i grew up with that that's my reality i'm not i don't care about designer goods i don't care

00:07:43.180 about materialistic things he needs to accept that i don't care yeah but the thing is you haven't faced

00:07:48.520 adversity together and that is the problem you're not facing your adversity together i'll say it one

00:07:54.300 more time you are not facing the adversity together and that is the problem i i'm listening to you and

00:08:00.880 i respect that you're you've been so open because it's allowing me to understand your story and i can

00:08:07.740 see you're making effort yeah but you are it's like you're missing the part where you have to work as

00:08:13.560 a team and that teamwork means you have to put i to the side and make it we and then no no no

00:08:20.400 i wish he was here because again this is he can be virtually this is yeah this is exactly the

00:08:38.180 conversations i've had with him yeah and i've told him we're here we could do it this and that again

00:08:43.140 i can't change him if he feel especially where he grew up in a very individualistic mindset where it

00:08:49.940 is all about i need to do this i can't have help i can't yeah but the thing is because you've got

00:08:55.200 married yeah and you've had a child which is it should be the other way around so he before he

00:09:00.500 married you he should have been working on himself and came with the money blah blah blah and said i'm

00:09:05.260 ready you accepted where he was and he accepted where you was when you got married now you can't go

00:09:11.920 you can't put your child you know back inside your womb and then she regrows again but what i am saying

00:09:18.440 is where you are you have to work for it together because because you're working separately and as

00:09:25.420 we do have to bear in mind this is only one side it's only one side of the story

00:09:29.040 because it is only one side of the story we got we got a 50 as many of you know i was just

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JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023

This DELUSIONAL Woman Said THIS

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