This DEPRESSED Feminist Said This
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the pros and cons of dating in today's society. We have a guest on the show who shares her experience with dating in her 20s and 30s and how she dealt with the challenges she faced in her relationships.
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So I've been curious, if your parents were together 34 years, why are you so anti-relationship?
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It seems like you have been a really good model.
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I've been to quite many relationships, and I just feel like it comes to how deep is the people that I'm...
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Because I believe I'm a very giving person, and I've just been giving too much and not really appreciated.
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Okay, so you went on one date, the whole relationship.
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So he went ten times with his friends and one with me.
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So why did you stay so long if he wasn't treating you well?
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Because I just don't feel nowadays people like they're together for the right reason.
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Were your parents together for the right reason, you think?
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Okay, so when you were 21, your view changed on relationships.
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It's not like, okay, we like each other, we love each other, we already like to do compromise
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Okay, so you're from Greece, so relationships were more simple there.
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More simple and more like, we like each other, we love each other.
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Like, what was dating like, I don't know, was it more traditional 10 years ago?
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Yeah, speak about when we were there, not now, because I haven't been there.
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So, yeah, 10 years ago, I was seeing it different than how it is right now.
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I think social media, like, played a big role on that, because they somehow diluted the quality of relationships and all the reasons why women do stuff, and men.
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It tested the loyalty and respect that we have for each other and for each other and for the people that are around us.
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I think it's the social media tested our loyalty and respect that we have for the people around us and for ourself as a person.
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And I don't think it's an important country, because it changed it to the world.
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It changed it globally, not in Greece, not in England.
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Do you think social media changed men or women more?
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I don't know, because I don't deal with social media.
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I feel like I'm out of all of this Instagram live, all of these people that we follow.
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Is a girl posting a selfie while in a relationship cheating?
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Not physical, but yeah, the attention she will get and the replies she will give.
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Because I think that when you're DMing, you're taking the direct action to do that.
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Aren't you taking a direct action to, like, get attention?
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DMing one girl and you're just exposing yourself to everyone.
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I'm thinking about, like, in my mind, as a mother that, you know, we have sometimes do posters.
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Do you think it's cheating for women to get attention from other men to seek it?
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If she is, like, actively looking for it, she wants to have attention from other men?
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I think when you're talking physically, like, if you're out and about, that's different.
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No, I said, is it cheating to get attention from other men?
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To seek out attention from other men in a relationship?
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Who says that she's posting a selfie to get attention from men?
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You say it's from everyone, but you don't really...
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I want my friends and people I know and whoever to see what I'm getting up to.
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Do you ever post selfies to get attention from men?
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You've never posted anything on social media thinking a guy that you like would see it?
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If I think I look good, I think I'll post that something for someone else.
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You know, when you upload a story, do you watch, do you check who was the story?
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Only if I'm interested in someone specific, I might, but I don't post a story for a person.
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So, if I post a story, I want all my friends to see it.
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I want everyone to see it, whatever, because that's why I'm posting it.
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And he said, do I go and see if someone I like?
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like no no but um mostly the people that comment are like friends or like people i know and i
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appreciate that that's what i that's what have you ever have you ever deleted something that
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didn't go well no guys guys got their ways as well very quick answer but here's the thing this is how
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deeply we have been programmed and how a lot of us have been brainwashed you think it's bad for you
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as a woman to post something to attract a man but then you think it's perfectly fine to post something
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just to get attention from your friends like in my opinion like that that just sounds kind of
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backwards to me because first of all why are we placed on earth we are placed on earth to build
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relationships mostly with the opposite sex for the purpose of furthering the human race because
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part of making relationship with the opposite sex is to reproduce so if you're making it seem like
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trying to attract the opposite sex is such a bad thing i kind of think that's kind of weird and then
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because it's true in the western world everyone is just focused on these little things that actually
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add up to nothing everyone wants to get money just to be important everyone wants to be noticed and have
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attention and get all these dopamine hits but then when you ask them would you do this for the opposite
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sex which most humans our lives and our livelihood and us being normal and being um emotionally stable
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actually depends on forming meaningful relationships with the opposite sex but yet you always see
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women fighting this no i can't do this for a man it doesn't make sense but so for example if i go on
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holiday and i post a picture that i'm on holiday it's because i'm sharing the fun time that i'm having
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with the friends that i didn't come on holiday with me that time do you talk to your friends yeah i do as
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well so why couldn't you just text them a picture i do send it but i have quite a lot of friends how
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many quite a lot how many quite a lot but you see it's like do you think social media is real life
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no okay so why are we so attached to it well i'm not i told you i'd give it up for a great husband
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no but it's like you're fighting so hard for the selfie i would even i would even challenge what you
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just said you don't have a lot of friends this is also part of the delusion we all tell ourselves how do
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you have a lot of friends because i i have like five different jobs and i have different friend
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groups so it's just those are not your friends and they are they are like i have personal friends
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friends across the world like it is i need to ask one question so if if someone goes is your instagram
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like uh private or or sometimes it's private sometimes it's not i'm not gonna ask based on
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what it changes i'm gonna ask something if if as a some man goes and check your profile would
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she thinks like oh this girl is is to be married i want a wife here um i don't know really it's not
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my my instagram is not like um it's not that it's not that interesting to be honest that's not why
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i mean it's got some it's not it's not just selfies and stuff it's like actually stuff that i do
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like it's work stuff but it but it doesn't it's not if you want if i mean do what you need to do
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do what you need to do you might be surprised at what you find but it's not it's not that interesting
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it's okay if if i was to be with you yeah and i was telling you okay i understand you do that some work
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make it purely professional no more pictures of you but some of my work is because i have pictures of me
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like i do a bit of modeling i do a bit of acting and stuff so it is it's all relative but i also
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do some local how long do you plan to model and act like till i don't get paid anymore
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basically it's just interesting oh you said you'd give up the instagram for the guy yeah yeah if he's
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the right like husband husband material we already you know has to be the real deal yeah
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okay here we go all right guys um i'm gonna read super chats these are not my opinions but the opinions
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of the chat um okay rob can you clip this segment so i can send it to my wife um fs claire logic is
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the worst enemy of the woman overall call it double speak they want to be treated equal until they don't
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but also want to be treated like a lady this is the mindset of two individuals cult or our children
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or cult members ninja smoked tank top guy and lil asian are all cap chad is pretty based in my
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opinion this is why fresh and fit don't break nobody men um simping for the ladies delusional um enter
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black dragon dragon what does this panel think of age gaps i'm 41 and she's 21 um women do not
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understand the biology of men men are not biologically built monogamous it's a sociological
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practice that eventually fails due to need 46 and 2 is woman telling their husbands no sex if you don't
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do what i say uh guilty uh is that way as a woman telling her sex and her husband no sex until you do
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if a woman says no sex no sex until you meet my emotional needs did she coerce them
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i don't know i mean if they're locked into a binding legal agreement which is what marriage is
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it's not coercion but what about the coerced men
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okay why is it harder for women to take accountability for cheating why um do they the person they
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cheat on um carlos pearl norm mcdonald broke the tiger woods example men example down in his stand
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up special me doing stand up the clip is on youtube djb fit how many of you guys broke up with saw we've
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read that already um let me refresh it real quick guys um i just wanted to point out real quick um 90
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of women would never get the man they want and this is because most women want a man that's assertive
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confident strong a leader and all of that good stuff has money tall beautiful whatever but at
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the same time they say well he can't tell me what to do typically a man that's like that is not going
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to take your direction he's going to do what he does and he's going to expect you to follow so it's
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very funny when women come out and say i want this guy i want that guy but then they still come out and
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try to act like they are the man in the relationship it never works and it's never gonna work
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i mean the earlier women start to understand that either you want that guy or you just go for a guy
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you can control usually there's no middle ground and it's interesting that they want all these things
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but they cannot really offer something in return something that is worth enough for what they ask
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do you disagree no many times it is and i think it comes a lot with maturity as well and also a lot
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of the brainwash because i don't agree with many things and that's why i always say like i'll protect
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my family and my relationship right and there is some if you're really like a mature mature woman you
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you will know what you have to do and what a man i don't agree that they are equal that they do the
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same things no and especially inside a home you know it works in different ways so i think it demands a
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lot of intelligence wisdom and maturity to you know to occur this dynamic between men and women
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and i think we've been programmed that's why we are so resistant and things like this and
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why so many relationships what do women bring to the table in 2023 okay i don't understand
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what is this table where we find this table is it a marriageable table like as this is what i was
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trying to say before when i came to the table what table are we talking about okay what what what should
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women bring to a relationship like when you when you go on a date with a man you typically expect him
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to pay for it right no no not me not me oh cap come on no me i've been i've been i've been with homeless
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guy for two and a half years so you don't know me homeless guy you don't know me are you homeless too
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yeah oh but this is the thing that's not that's not like a good rebuttal to what she's saying you're
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saying that like that's that's okay because you're homeless guys so that's no no no no one second one
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second i said that because she just mentioned oh like okay okay okay it's me i'm not about the pain
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i'm saying it's not that i don't i don't have like it needs to be this or it needs to be this okay the
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standard that women expect so you saying that is not really like answering the question you're just
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trying to throw off the question without really answering it i'm answering i'm saying not me not
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me i'm talking about me i can ask i can ask i answer just as me not like other woman yeah but
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i'm saying okay okay okay okay okay she wants nothing so okay what about what about you what does the
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average woman bring to the table in 2023 well um so i don't know can i say can i say something
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exactly okay wait no no wait i want to i want to give a good a good actual answer i mean there are
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many things you know you have to you have to sort of be mentally aligned because you want to have
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like good communication you want to be able to talk about self-experiences and you know things are
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women good communicators or is the average woman a good communicator um some are no no i said is the
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average woman i am okay okay no yeah okay so do men typically want communication from women is that
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what they seek they want they want communication they want um they want femininity as well to be honest
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okay and they and they want they do want attractiveness obviously okay but you you can't it's you can't be
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that superficial for like for one date yes maybe two but then the third day men do want communication
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yeah okay so the average woman brings communication what else well i don't know about the average woman
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but you know good women okay that get good okay okay keep going what else women that get good husbands
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um they also want um yeah they want someone that looks good they want someone that you know is
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their level to be honest okay so they want to grow so they bring looks and communication what else
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care femininity whatever that are women feminine in 2020 not really there's a lot of alphas out there
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okay so but you kind of have to be okay so maybe a lot of fake alphas out there including men
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women women bring femininity sometimes sometimes okay what else do women bring um
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well they can bring status depending what they do as well do men care about status i don't know i think
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some do some do my ex actually did okay does the average man care about status i don't know about average
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men i've only dated quite you know okay okay okay i mean yeah you and everyone does the man women
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typically want care about status no because he'll probably bring her up if you're going to go average
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but i do think that if you are a certain level of guy then you want something more than just a pretty
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girl on the arm okay okay so so the average woman brings communication no no not the average woman okay
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the slightly above average okay the slightly above average woman brings communication femininity
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they should they should and looks they should i'd like how you're not answering the question i asked
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it's like women when we you don't like the answer that that we would have to give it's like let me
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answer how i want to answer okay so ask the question one more time what does the average woman bring to
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the table in 2023 so the average woman it depends usually i guess don't remember that's a band word yes it's
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banned okay so the average woman i guess is everyone that is on social media so they bring looks
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how about that as simple as that anything else i mean i'm sure there are but if you're going on a date
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and you don't know the person how do you know you get to know okay okay what does the average woman
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bring yeah so we're talking about average average means already that it doesn't bring much right and
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women are being forced to to bring on the table things that i think for men is not very useful
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anymore so we've been forced like if you talk to most of girls here they have like really good jobs
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working for governments high education and that's not what men's need like in a relationship like
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sex if you put on the top for men's number one right and unfortunately the other things affect women
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on this way and things like this why were women forced to get jobs you don't think it was a choice
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pardon women were forced to get jobs i think nowadays it has a very big uh pressure okay a really big
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pressure for women to be uh very well educated and have a job of course if you live in london if
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you don't work if you don't make money the city is gonna slow right you do