JustPearlyThings - This DEPRESSED Feminist Said This

00:00:00.000 So I've been curious, if your parents were together 34 years, why are you so anti-relationship?

00:00:06.800 It seems like you have been a really good model.

00:00:08.120 I've been to quite many relationships, and I just feel like it comes to how deep is the people that I'm...

00:00:19.580 Because I believe I'm a very giving person, and I've just been giving too much and not really appreciated.

00:00:29.300 And they didn't do anything in return?

00:00:32.880 Not really.

00:00:33.900 And I've also been in an abusive relationship.

00:00:37.580 So they never took you on dates?

00:00:41.160 Maybe one time.

00:00:42.480 Okay, so you went on one date, the whole relationship.

00:00:45.140 Yes.

00:00:45.880 And one holiday out of ten with his friends.

00:00:49.040 What?

00:00:50.100 In one holiday out of ten with his friends.

00:00:53.620 So he went ten times with his friends and one with me.

00:00:56.500 Okay, so how long were you with him?

00:00:58.180 One and a half year.

00:00:59.300 One and a half years.

00:01:00.620 So why did you stay so long if he wasn't treating you well?

00:01:04.720 Because I tried and I tried and I tried.

00:01:06.940 I said, okay, cool, maybe it's fine, maybe...

00:01:09.160 How old were you?

00:01:10.820 Just two years ago.

00:01:12.420 Was he rich?

00:01:13.600 I'm 28.

00:01:14.880 Okay, so it was when you were 26.

00:01:16.300 Before that, did you want to get married?

00:01:18.480 I never wanted to get married.

00:01:20.160 So I'm asking, like, why is that?

00:01:22.240 If you had...

00:01:22.740 It seems like you had...

00:01:23.520 Because I just don't feel nowadays people like they're together for the right reason.

00:01:29.800 Like, especially here.

00:01:31.120 I'm not from here.

00:01:31.740 Were your parents together for the right reason, you think?

00:01:34.360 I think so, yeah.

00:01:35.400 Okay, so when did you start feeling like that?

00:01:39.400 Basically, when I came here.

00:01:41.040 Okay, so when you came...

00:01:42.280 I just feel like...

00:01:43.060 How old were you?

00:01:44.640 21.

00:01:45.320 Okay, so when you were 21, your view changed on relationships.

00:01:48.340 No, I came here.

00:01:50.140 And I came in this country, right?

00:01:52.680 Okay.

00:01:53.300 Right.

00:01:54.020 And I just, like...

00:01:56.020 So that here, things are different.

00:01:58.840 It's not like, okay, we like each other, we love each other, we already like to do compromise

00:02:03.460 and all of that stuff.

00:02:04.540 Here is completely different.

00:02:06.080 Here is, like, what you bring to the table.

00:02:07.520 Where are you from again?

00:02:08.580 Greece.

00:02:08.900 Okay, so you're from Greece, so relationships were more simple there.

00:02:11.940 More simple and more like, we like each other, we love each other.

00:02:15.760 I disagree. I'm Greek too.

00:02:19.000 It's not simple at all.

00:02:20.880 I don't know, this is how I felt there.

00:02:23.720 When here, it's like...

00:02:24.920 How many years ago?

00:02:28.000 Yeah, a lot.

00:02:29.460 Yeah, when I was there.

00:02:31.260 Are you from Greece?

00:02:32.900 Yes.

00:02:33.380 Okay, so has it changed?

00:02:36.340 Absolutely.

00:02:36.820 Like, dating there?

00:02:37.680 Absolutely.

00:02:38.240 Like, what was dating like, I don't know, was it more traditional 10 years ago?

00:02:43.420 Yeah, speak about when we were there, not now, because I haven't been there.

00:02:47.080 So, yeah, 10 years ago, I was seeing it different than how it is right now.

00:02:52.400 I think social media, like, played a big role on that, because they somehow diluted the quality of relationships and all the reasons why women do stuff, and men.

00:03:04.520 It tested the loyalty and respect that we have for each other and for each other and for the people that are around us.

00:03:11.360 Sorry.

00:03:11.780 Sorry.

00:03:12.280 Sorry.

00:03:12.320 Sorry.

00:03:12.340 I think it's the social media tested our loyalty and respect that we have for the people around us and for ourself as a person.

00:03:20.740 I don't think it tested, sorry.

00:03:22.040 No, go ahead.

00:03:22.540 And I don't think it's an important country, because it changed it to the world.

00:03:26.120 It changed it globally, not in Greece, not in England.

00:03:29.460 And it's everywhere.

00:03:30.260 Obviously, yeah.

00:03:31.760 Do you think social media changed men or women more?

00:03:36.500 Both of us.

00:03:37.260 Women. 0.81

00:03:38.000 No, both of us the same.

00:03:39.420 Remember, remember, we got to pick one.

00:03:41.040 There's no, we got to pick one.

00:03:42.460 For the generalization, I'd say women.

00:03:44.520 I'd say women. 1.00

00:03:45.420 Women. 0.81

00:03:45.740 Yeah, the key word was more.

00:03:47.520 Come on, I know you can pick one.

00:03:49.800 Men.

00:03:51.840 All right, Mary, she said women, women, men.

00:03:54.600 Women. 0.81

00:03:55.080 Women. 0.81

00:03:55.780 Women. 0.81

00:03:56.700 I don't know, because I don't deal with social media.

00:03:59.460 There is no way you don't know.

00:04:03.100 I don't know.

00:04:04.260 I'm not looking into all of this stuff.

00:04:06.460 I don't know.

00:04:08.180 What do you think?

00:04:09.560 What do you feel?

00:04:10.800 What do you see?

00:04:15.080 I really don't know.

00:04:17.040 I feel like I'm out of all of this Instagram live, all of these people that we follow.

00:04:22.600 I just feel I'm out.

00:04:24.020 It's just me, what I know, and my opinion.

00:04:27.280 I'm curious.

00:04:28.160 Is a girl posting a selfie while in a relationship cheating? 0.72

00:04:32.640 If you think, yes, raise your hand.

00:04:35.700 Posting a selfie?

00:04:36.760 Yeah, a selfie in a relationship cheating.

00:04:38.940 No?

00:04:39.640 Not physical, but yeah, the attention she will get and the replies she will give.

00:04:44.640 Yeah, I think, yeah, I'll say yes.

00:04:45.740 Yes, anyone else say yes?

00:04:48.400 Okay.

00:04:49.040 Is a guy DMing another girl cheating?

00:04:51.880 Raise your hand.

00:04:53.200 Yes.

00:04:53.840 I mean, that's a bit...

00:04:54.660 In a relationship, yes.

00:04:55.600 If the girl does the same, it's to flirt. 0.84

00:04:58.020 What is he saying to her?

00:05:00.320 What is she posting the selfie for?

00:05:03.840 Attention.

00:05:04.980 She wants it.

00:05:08.480 No.

00:05:09.260 No, not the same?

00:05:10.580 No.

00:05:10.840 Not the same.

00:05:11.460 No.

00:05:11.580 Who's more likely...

00:05:14.160 Who's more likely to get attention?

00:05:21.540 The guy DMing a girl or the girl...

00:05:24.120 The selfie.

00:05:24.860 The selfie, 100%.

00:05:26.260 So why is one so much worse than the other?

00:05:30.260 Because I think that when you're DMing, you're taking the direct action to do that.

00:05:34.680 Aren't you taking a direct action to, like, get attention?

00:05:37.600 From everyone.

00:05:38.840 Yeah, from everyone.

00:05:40.320 He's just...

00:05:40.920 DMing one girl and you're just exposing yourself to everyone.

00:05:44.560 I'm thinking about, like, in my mind, as a mother that, you know, we have sometimes do posters.

00:05:49.540 But even me, I don't post...

00:05:50.440 Do you think it's cheating for women to get attention from other men to seek it?

00:05:55.080 Conditionally, yes.

00:05:57.060 If she's looking for it?

00:05:58.000 Yeah.

00:05:58.340 If she is, like, actively looking for it, she wants to have attention from other men?

00:06:01.680 I think when you're talking physically, like, if you're out and about, that's different.

00:06:06.360 Again, social media is a different thing.

00:06:08.220 No, I said, is it cheating to get attention from other men?

00:06:11.900 To seek out attention from other men in a relationship?

00:06:14.440 Yes.

00:06:14.960 Yeah.

00:06:15.340 To seek, yes.

00:06:16.280 So then why wouldn't the selfie be cheating?

00:06:19.500 Because that's for everyone.

00:06:20.640 Exactly.

00:06:20.920 Who says that she's posting a selfie to get attention from men? 1.00

00:06:23.760 No, no.

00:06:24.040 It's interesting what you say.

00:06:25.660 You say it's from everyone, but you don't really...

00:06:28.740 Why you upload something?

00:06:29.880 Why you upload a story or a picture?

00:06:31.060 Why not?

00:06:31.620 I want my friends and people I know and whoever to see what I'm getting up to.

00:06:35.300 What's the outcome?

00:06:36.980 That gets some likes, but I don't really...

00:06:38.760 Do you ever post selfies to get attention from men?

00:06:42.560 No.

00:06:43.020 Never.

00:06:43.500 Never.

00:06:44.100 You've never posted anything on social media thinking a guy that you like would see it?

00:06:48.400 No, really, in all honesty, I...

00:06:50.820 Everyone needs attention to this question.

00:06:53.100 If I think I look good, I think I'll post that something for someone else.

00:06:56.240 It's not for someone else.

00:06:57.860 No way.

00:06:58.240 It's not for someone else.

00:06:58.760 You all did it.

00:06:59.560 Come on, come on. 0.99

00:07:00.660 You know what?

00:07:01.700 For everyone, not for one, like, specific.

00:07:04.000 You know, when you upload a story, do you watch, do you check who was the story?

00:07:08.880 Of course.

00:07:09.460 Only if I'm interested in someone specific, I might, but I don't post a story for a person.

00:07:14.620 Wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:07:15.920 But I don't post it for that person.

00:07:17.780 Wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:07:17.880 Wait, wait, wait.

00:07:18.540 What'd you say?

00:07:19.060 What'd you say?

00:07:19.520 What'd you say?

00:07:19.960 Go back.

00:07:20.740 Go back.

00:07:21.020 Go back.

00:07:21.060 So, if I post a story, I want all my friends to see it.

00:07:24.740 I want everyone to see it, whatever, because that's why I'm posting it.

00:07:27.180 Okay.

00:07:27.500 And he said, do I go and see if someone I like?

00:07:31.720 In my life...

00:07:32.060 What if someone you like in general?

00:07:33.500 Do you go and check how many...

00:07:34.800 No, no, no.

00:07:35.320 like no no but um mostly the people that comment are like friends or like people i know and i

00:07:41.800 appreciate that that's what i that's what have you ever have you ever deleted something that

00:07:46.600 didn't go well no guys guys got their ways as well very quick answer but here's the thing this is how

00:07:55.720 deeply we have been programmed and how a lot of us have been brainwashed you think it's bad for you

00:08:01.320 as a woman to post something to attract a man but then you think it's perfectly fine to post something 1.00

00:08:06.760 just to get attention from your friends like in my opinion like that that just sounds kind of

00:08:13.640 backwards to me because first of all why are we placed on earth we are placed on earth to build

00:08:17.560 relationships mostly with the opposite sex for the purpose of furthering the human race because 0.82

00:08:22.360 part of making relationship with the opposite sex is to reproduce so if you're making it seem like

00:08:27.960 trying to attract the opposite sex is such a bad thing i kind of think that's kind of weird and then

00:08:33.240 because it's true in the western world everyone is just focused on these little things that actually

00:08:38.360 add up to nothing everyone wants to get money just to be important everyone wants to be noticed and have

00:08:43.640 attention and get all these dopamine hits but then when you ask them would you do this for the opposite

00:08:48.120 sex which most humans our lives and our livelihood and us being normal and being um emotionally stable

00:08:57.960 actually depends on forming meaningful relationships with the opposite sex but yet you always see 0.99

00:09:03.800 women fighting this no i can't do this for a man it doesn't make sense but so for example if i go on

00:09:10.360 holiday and i post a picture that i'm on holiday it's because i'm sharing the fun time that i'm having

00:09:16.040 with the friends that i didn't come on holiday with me that time do you talk to your friends yeah i do as

00:09:22.120 well so why couldn't you just text them a picture i do send it but i have quite a lot of friends how

00:09:26.760 many quite a lot how many quite a lot but you see it's like do you think social media is real life

00:09:33.160 no okay so why are we so attached to it well i'm not i told you i'd give it up for a great husband

00:09:40.360 no but it's like you're fighting so hard for the selfie i would even i would even challenge what you

00:09:45.480 just said you don't have a lot of friends this is also part of the delusion we all tell ourselves how do

00:09:50.440 you have a lot of friends because i i have like five different jobs and i have different friend

00:09:55.080 groups so it's just those are not your friends and they are they are like i have personal friends

00:10:00.360 friends across the world like it is i need to ask one question so if if someone goes is your instagram

00:10:07.880 like uh private or or sometimes it's private sometimes it's not i'm not gonna ask based on

00:10:14.120 what it changes i'm gonna ask something if if as a some man goes and check your profile would

00:10:19.880 she thinks like oh this girl is is to be married i want a wife here um i don't know really it's not 0.55

00:10:27.960 my my instagram is not like um it's not that it's not that interesting to be honest that's not why

00:10:35.000 i mean it's got some it's not it's not just selfies and stuff it's like actually stuff that i do

00:10:40.200 like it's work stuff but it but it doesn't it's not if you want if i mean do what you need to do

00:10:45.880 do what you need to do you might be surprised at what you find but it's not it's not that interesting

00:10:51.480 it's okay if if i was to be with you yeah and i was telling you okay i understand you do that some work

00:10:58.520 make it purely professional no more pictures of you but some of my work is because i have pictures of me

00:11:05.080 like i do a bit of modeling i do a bit of acting and stuff so it is it's all relative but i also

00:11:09.320 do some local how long do you plan to model and act like till i don't get paid anymore

00:11:16.840 basically it's just interesting oh you said you'd give up the instagram for the guy yeah yeah if he's

00:11:22.440 the right like husband husband material we already you know has to be the real deal yeah

00:11:27.480 um i'm gonna read super chats um let me see

00:11:36.840 okay here we go all right guys um i'm gonna read super chats these are not my opinions but the opinions

00:11:42.360 of the chat um okay rob can you clip this segment so i can send it to my wife um fs claire logic is

00:11:48.920 the worst enemy of the woman overall call it double speak they want to be treated equal until they don't 1.00

00:11:54.360 but also want to be treated like a lady this is the mindset of two individuals cult or our children

00:11:59.880 or cult members ninja smoked tank top guy and lil asian are all cap chad is pretty based in my

00:12:06.440 opinion this is why fresh and fit don't break nobody men um simping for the ladies delusional um enter

00:12:12.920 black dragon dragon what does this panel think of age gaps i'm 41 and she's 21 um women do not 0.95

00:12:19.640 understand the biology of men men are not biologically built monogamous it's a sociological

00:12:26.840 practice that eventually fails due to need 46 and 2 is woman telling their husbands no sex if you don't 0.99

00:12:33.880 do what i say uh guilty uh is that way as a woman telling her sex and her husband no sex until you do

00:12:41.080 what i say guilty of coercion i'm just curious 0.96

00:12:43.480 if a woman says no sex no sex until you meet my emotional needs did she coerce them 1.00

00:12:50.920 i don't know i mean if they're locked into a binding legal agreement which is what marriage is

00:12:57.720 it's not coercion but what about the coerced men

00:13:03.080 okay why is it harder for women to take accountability for cheating why um do they the person they 1.00

00:13:09.000 cheat on um carlos pearl norm mcdonald broke the tiger woods example men example down in his stand

00:13:16.360 up special me doing stand up the clip is on youtube djb fit how many of you guys broke up with saw we've

00:13:22.200 read that already um let me refresh it real quick guys um i just wanted to point out real quick um 90

00:13:31.000 of women would never get the man they want and this is because most women want a man that's assertive

00:13:37.320 confident strong a leader and all of that good stuff has money tall beautiful whatever but at

00:13:44.920 the same time they say well he can't tell me what to do typically a man that's like that is not going

00:13:50.520 to take your direction he's going to do what he does and he's going to expect you to follow so it's

00:13:55.720 very funny when women come out and say i want this guy i want that guy but then they still come out and 0.91

00:14:00.200 try to act like they are the man in the relationship it never works and it's never gonna work

00:14:04.440 i mean the earlier women start to understand that either you want that guy or you just go for a guy 0.93

00:14:09.320 you can control usually there's no middle ground and it's interesting that they want all these things

00:14:15.000 but they cannot really offer something in return something that is worth enough for what they ask

00:14:22.520 do you disagree no many times it is and i think it comes a lot with maturity as well and also a lot

00:14:29.560 of the brainwash because i don't agree with many things and that's why i always say like i'll protect

00:14:34.200 my family and my relationship right and there is some if you're really like a mature mature woman you

00:14:41.240 you will know what you have to do and what a man i don't agree that they are equal that they do the

00:14:45.640 same things no and especially inside a home you know it works in different ways so i think it demands a

00:14:52.280 lot of intelligence wisdom and maturity to you know to occur this dynamic between men and women

00:15:00.200 and i think we've been programmed that's why we are so resistant and things like this and

00:15:04.120 why so many relationships what do women bring to the table in 2023 okay i don't understand 0.89

00:15:09.640 what is this table where we find this table is it a marriageable table like as this is what i was

00:15:16.280 trying to say before when i came to the table what table are we talking about okay what what what should

00:15:22.120 women bring to a relationship like when you when you go on a date with a man you typically expect him 1.00

00:15:28.840 to pay for it right no no not me not me oh cap come on no me i've been i've been i've been with homeless

00:15:36.920 guy for two and a half years so you don't know me homeless guy you don't know me are you homeless too

00:15:43.480 yeah oh but this is the thing that's not that's not like a good rebuttal to what she's saying you're

00:15:48.200 saying that like that's that's okay because you're homeless guys so that's no no no no one second one

00:15:53.720 second i said that because she just mentioned oh like okay okay okay it's me i'm not about the pain

00:15:59.080 i'm saying it's not that i don't i don't have like it needs to be this or it needs to be this okay the

00:16:04.440 standard that women expect so you saying that is not really like answering the question you're just

00:16:08.680 trying to throw off the question without really answering it i'm answering i'm saying not me not

00:16:14.600 me i'm talking about me i can ask i can ask i answer just as me not like other woman yeah but

00:16:21.160 i'm saying okay okay okay okay okay she wants nothing so okay what about what about you what does the

00:16:29.320 average woman bring to the table in 2023 well um so i don't know can i say can i say something

00:16:39.880 exactly okay wait no no wait i want to i want to give a good a good actual answer i mean there are

00:16:46.840 many things you know you have to you have to sort of be mentally aligned because you want to have

00:16:52.280 like good communication you want to be able to talk about self-experiences and you know things are

00:16:56.440 women good communicators or is the average woman a good communicator um some are no no i said is the 0.93

00:17:04.200 average woman i am okay okay no yeah okay so do men typically want communication from women is that

00:17:12.040 what they seek they want they want communication they want um they want femininity as well to be honest

00:17:17.560 okay and they and they want they do want attractiveness obviously okay but you you can't it's you can't be 0.80

00:17:23.640 that superficial for like for one date yes maybe two but then the third day men do want communication

00:17:29.960 yeah okay so the average woman brings communication what else well i don't know about the average woman 1.00

00:17:35.240 but you know good women okay that get good okay okay keep going what else women that get good husbands 1.00

00:17:41.480 um they also want um yeah they want someone that looks good they want someone that you know is

00:17:48.280 their level to be honest okay so they want to grow so they bring looks and communication what else

00:17:53.800 care femininity whatever that are women feminine in 2020 not really there's a lot of alphas out there

00:18:00.760 okay so but you kind of have to be okay so maybe a lot of fake alphas out there including men

00:18:10.760 women women bring femininity sometimes sometimes okay what else do women bring um 1.00

00:18:20.440 well they can bring status depending what they do as well do men care about status i don't know i think

00:18:26.040 some do some do my ex actually did okay does the average man care about status i don't know about average

00:18:32.440 men i've only dated quite you know okay okay okay i mean yeah you and everyone does the man women

00:18:41.400 typically want care about status no because he'll probably bring her up if you're going to go average

00:18:46.920 but i do think that if you are a certain level of guy then you want something more than just a pretty

00:18:52.680 girl on the arm okay okay so so the average woman brings communication no no not the average woman okay 1.00

00:18:59.880 the slightly above average okay the slightly above average woman brings communication femininity 1.00

00:19:04.680 they should they should and looks they should i'd like how you're not answering the question i asked

00:19:09.640 it's like women when we you don't like the answer that that we would have to give it's like let me 0.99

00:19:14.440 answer how i want to answer okay so ask the question one more time what does the average woman bring to 1.00

00:19:20.200 the table in 2023 so the average woman it depends usually i guess don't remember that's a band word yes it's

00:19:29.160 banned okay so the average woman i guess is everyone that is on social media so they bring looks 0.99

00:19:35.240 how about that as simple as that anything else i mean i'm sure there are but if you're going on a date

00:19:39.800 and you don't know the person how do you know you get to know okay okay what does the average woman 1.00

00:19:43.560 bring yeah so we're talking about average average means already that it doesn't bring much right and

00:19:48.520 women are being forced to to bring on the table things that i think for men is not very useful 1.00

00:19:55.000 anymore so we've been forced like if you talk to most of girls here they have like really good jobs

00:20:00.360 working for governments high education and that's not what men's need like in a relationship like

00:20:05.320 sex if you put on the top for men's number one right and unfortunately the other things affect women 0.99

00:20:11.000 on this way and things like this why were women forced to get jobs you don't think it was a choice 0.98

00:20:15.160 pardon women were forced to get jobs i think nowadays it has a very big uh pressure okay a really big

00:20:22.440 pressure for women to be uh very well educated and have a job of course if you live in london if 1.00

00:20:29.320 you don't work if you don't make money the city is gonna slow right you do

JustPearlyThings - July 28, 2023

This DEPRESSED Feminist Said This

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