JustPearlyThings - March 14, 2023


This Eliminates Women from wife category


Episode Stats

Length

27 minutes

Words per Minute

212.23482

Word Count

5,869

Sentence Count

509

Misogynist Sentences

26

Hate Speech Sentences

31


Summary

In this episode, we talk about the abortion crisis in modern society and why we should all be pro-life. We also talk about why poor kids are less valuable than rich kids and why poor children should be prioritised over rich kids.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 With modern women, the epidemic is that even with birth control, we're getting more abortions than ever.
00:00:09.420 If a girl gets an abortion, does that take her out of the wife category?
00:00:13.820 100%.
00:00:14.380 Why?
00:00:15.200 Million percent.
00:00:16.840 Million percent.
00:00:18.360 Complete moral misalignment.
00:00:20.300 Okay.
00:00:21.380 Why?
00:00:22.420 But Zuby, it's a fetus.
00:00:25.580 No, I'm very, very strongly pro-life.
00:00:27.620 Tell me why.
00:00:28.320 No, absolutely not.
00:00:29.460 Tell you why?
00:00:30.320 Yeah, yeah, why?
00:00:31.360 A woman who can happily kill her own child?
00:00:35.980 If she was a victim of grape.
00:00:38.220 Yeah, exactly.
00:00:39.560 That's less than, that's fewer than 1%.
00:00:41.720 It's fewer than 1%, so let's talk about the 99%.
00:00:45.540 Why is it that whenever a dude makes a point, we always got to bring up the exception as women?
00:00:50.820 It's not even a common exception.
00:00:52.600 That's not a common thing for women to experience.
00:00:54.780 No, it's not.
00:00:55.740 No, it's not.
00:00:56.360 What grape is.
00:00:57.000 It happens, but it's not common.
00:00:58.320 It's not common.
00:00:59.380 It's not common.
00:00:59.460 It's not a grape.
00:01:00.040 It's not necessarily pregnancy for grape, but grape in general is.
00:01:03.380 No, it's not.
00:01:04.300 No, it's not.
00:01:04.580 That's my job.
00:01:05.280 I deal with them clients every single day of the week.
00:01:06.920 What's the percentage looking like?
00:01:08.240 I think that's because that's your job.
00:01:11.000 That's your job, so you get to see them a concentration.
00:01:13.640 But if you look in the whole of the UK, you see that it's a minority.
00:01:17.740 I bet everyone in this room is in there.
00:01:19.520 No, I'm saying if you look at stats, that's not true.
00:01:22.320 It's not the majority of women.
00:01:23.300 It's actually a very small percentage.
00:01:25.320 Because otherwise, we're just going off of he said, she said, and she can say anything.
00:01:28.800 If it was a majority, then most of these women in this room would be living in it.
00:01:30.880 Oh, no, I'm not saying the majority of women have experienced grape.
00:01:33.140 I'm saying there's quite a large percentage of women that have experienced it.
00:01:37.040 But not statistically.
00:01:40.080 It's not the large majority.
00:01:42.280 It's a very small minority.
00:01:44.280 I'm not going to lie to you, yeah?
00:01:45.740 Just being super real and understanding about the life that we're trying to live now and what the status of the world is.
00:01:54.060 I mean, as long as you're willing to deal with the consequences of your choices, my friend, save yourself and save your child.
00:02:00.660 Because sometimes you get into an accident with somebody that is definitely not the man that you need to be having a child with.
00:02:07.160 And you're definitely not in the right space of mind.
00:02:09.340 So instead of you putting a child into your chaotic world, just be more responsible.
00:02:15.140 Kill it and save it.
00:02:15.620 It's not kill it, but before it gets to a stage where it's super gone, at the end of the day, now you've got the option of taking a little bit of control.
00:02:24.520 If that puts bad energy into the universe, deal with the consequences.
00:02:27.460 But at the end of the day, you'd rather do that than to bring a traumatized child into the world.
00:02:32.540 I would like to hear zoomies.
00:02:33.680 I actually have a question.
00:02:35.080 Do you think that poor kids are less valuable than rich kids?
00:02:38.300 Because when you think about it, we're all rich.
00:02:40.400 Because most people in all of human history have been poor.
00:02:42.780 Even poor people are richer than most people were in all of history.
00:02:45.620 I would say that that's definitely not true because I'm African.
00:02:50.460 I know what it means to be poor and still be happy and still be privileged and blessed.
00:02:55.440 What I do mean is, for example, there are people that are just not in the best state of mind or even in a relationship that could be supportive of bringing a healthy citizen into this world.
00:03:05.100 And then, if people don't have this sort of control, it gets to a stage where everybody's going to be messed up because their parents are making mistakes.
00:03:11.760 At the end of the day, instead of us judging abortions, let's just first deal with sexual education, sexual discipline, and then we can avoid abortions.
00:03:18.700 Other than that, what do you mean?
00:03:20.360 We're talking about taking a human life here.
00:03:22.480 No, we're talking about taking control of something that actually hasn't got to that stage yet.
00:03:26.580 It depends on how you feel about it.
00:03:28.080 It's not feelings.
00:03:29.240 You can sugarcoat it how you want.
00:03:31.760 It's the taking of an innocent human life.
00:03:33.640 Of course it is.
00:03:34.120 Can I just quite.
00:03:34.800 That's literally what it is.
00:03:36.320 To an extent.
00:03:36.580 It depends on how emotional you feel about it.
00:03:39.900 You can have your feelings about it.
00:03:41.560 I'm just saying that's literally what it is.
00:03:43.280 Let's move away from euphemisms and feelings.
00:03:45.120 That is what it is.
00:03:46.440 Right.
00:03:46.760 Can I just say something?
00:03:47.420 Yes.
00:03:49.040 To both women together.
00:03:51.060 When I first came to the show, remember I said to you, there's not a situation that I haven't experienced.
00:03:56.780 You remember I said that two ages ago.
00:03:58.860 Now, I was in a relationship.
00:04:00.780 I was young.
00:04:01.440 I was 16.
00:04:03.000 And I wouldn't say I got put into a relationship, a very abusive relationship.
00:04:08.820 And I had a child through grape.
00:04:13.020 I was 17.
00:04:14.720 I was on the pill.
00:04:16.900 So 17, I couldn't say I had loads of money because I was still living at home.
00:04:21.640 And as far as I'm concerned, I had my child.
00:04:24.840 At 17 years old.
00:04:26.340 No money.
00:04:27.660 And I worked.
00:04:28.680 And I kept my child.
00:04:30.100 And when everybody keeps on talking about grape and abuse, yes, Pearl, I did report it.
00:04:34.960 Right.
00:04:35.580 I had it down.
00:04:36.560 Injunctions and everything.
00:04:37.920 I still got my child.
00:04:40.560 Everybody was against it because in those days I brought shame on the family.
00:04:45.640 But nobody knew why I had my child.
00:04:48.440 And to this day, I've still got one child.
00:04:51.520 Because I was only able to have one child.
00:04:55.180 And because I don't believe in abortion.
00:04:57.480 And I was a foster carer.
00:04:59.120 And I fostered and looked after 10 children as a single parent.
00:05:03.560 And I don't care how poor you are.
00:05:05.740 I don't care what situation you're in.
00:05:08.020 Unless your life is in danger, I still don't believe in abortion.
00:05:12.460 Can I say something to your auntie?
00:05:13.340 And I was on the pill.
00:05:15.080 There's a thing.
00:05:16.100 There's certain people.
00:05:17.760 It's just like a luck of the draw.
00:05:19.460 There's people that are extremely blessed.
00:05:21.100 That the situation and they're actually blessed with a mother that will take care of you from whatever situation.
00:05:25.920 Make you be a wholesome human being.
00:05:27.720 And show you all the love.
00:05:28.740 On the flip side, there are people that then go on to abuse their children because they don't know any better.
00:05:32.840 There are people that go to neglect their children because they're not in a supportive relationship.
00:05:36.480 Or because they can't handle it.
00:05:37.920 But why can't?
00:05:39.680 Sorry, girl.
00:05:40.400 Did you hear what I said?
00:05:41.380 I said I was a foster carer.
00:05:43.100 I was a foster carer and I fostered 10 children.
00:05:47.300 Those children you're talking about.
00:05:49.560 And they had better lives for it.
00:05:51.240 Because you're a good person and they got lucky to have you.
00:05:53.300 And I only fostered children primary school age.
00:05:56.320 So I had children that had been abused physically and sexually at that age.
00:06:01.880 So nobody can't give me the excuse.
00:06:04.080 I mean, that's your opinion.
00:06:05.260 I'm giving you my experience.
00:06:07.140 So as far as I'm concerned,
00:06:08.380 if the care system that allows these women to have the children,
00:06:13.180 that allows these women to have abortions,
00:06:15.080 that also allow these women to have the children and hand them over to responsible people
00:06:21.740 that will look after and nurture and care for those children rather than murder them.
00:06:26.020 Because people murder their children too often.
00:06:30.020 And then those who don't get murdered, I look after.
00:06:33.120 I look after, I raise, I nurture, and I look after them.
00:06:37.480 And I'm sure there's African children, Indian children, white children out there that I fostered,
00:06:42.540 that have been to university, being models and having good, stable lives because of me.
00:06:48.000 So I'd rather, even at my age now, I would rather look after somebody else's child.
00:06:55.340 I've looked after children that have been sexually abused at two and three years old.
00:07:00.740 I have had them.
00:07:02.000 And I'd rather have them knowing that I looked after them than they got murdered.
00:07:07.840 And as far as I'm concerned, it's not these children.
00:07:11.900 It's society, and if the people are messed up, people are going, they're having sexual lessons in school.
00:07:19.760 They don't teach them parenting lessons, skills like cooking skills, managing money.
00:07:25.340 And that's what the people need.
00:07:27.400 Because there's no poverty.
00:07:28.700 I'm going to be the one to say, there's no poverty in England.
00:07:31.480 In England, you get paid to have children.
00:07:33.580 It's the parents and the people that have the money that are mismanaging it.
00:07:37.280 So rather than go out there and say, oh, this is a poor person, look at what they're doing.
00:07:42.740 Manage their money.
00:07:43.700 Because I guarantee you, those children who come from those households, look, the parents are smoking.
00:07:50.220 They can afford to smoke.
00:07:51.600 They can afford smart screen TV.
00:07:54.160 They can afford jewelry.
00:07:55.540 The children have got all the latest phones and tablets and everything.
00:07:58.820 But yet they're going to say there's poverty because they have no food.
00:08:02.300 They have no clothes.
00:08:03.340 It's not to do with the government.
00:08:04.940 It's to do with them managing their money.
00:08:07.060 So as far as I'm concerned, no child deserves to be killed unless the mother's going to die.
00:08:13.120 May I say something, Auntie?
00:08:14.600 I appreciate what you're saying.
00:08:15.860 It's a very touchy topic because obviously it's sensitive.
00:08:21.180 I believe that children, to me, are one of the purest things in the world.
00:08:25.340 And if it gets to a stage where actually you have a choice, either terminate this life right here, right now, the energy is still in the world, the energy still exists.
00:08:32.900 But terminate it now instead of a lot of playing with chance of letting a child go into the system and become an extremely wounded human being.
00:08:41.260 I'd rather do the other because you'll go to a better place.
00:08:43.700 The same way I believe in euthanasia is the same way I believe in abortion.
00:08:46.620 Oh, gosh.
00:08:47.280 See, that's different because I don't believe in any form of murder.
00:08:52.000 So that's why we're always going to differ.
00:08:53.600 That's why we're always going to agree.
00:08:55.500 Anyway, I answered the question, right?
00:08:59.800 No, no, no.
00:09:00.320 I wanted to hear the rest of what you had to say, Zuby.
00:09:02.020 I didn't hear your opinion.
00:09:03.020 Yeah.
00:09:03.280 Finish your opinion.
00:09:04.040 Yeah.
00:09:04.260 Well, like, we wouldn't work, right?
00:09:06.500 So that's the answer to the question.
00:09:08.220 Very clearly.
00:09:09.060 That's a complete moral misalignment.
00:09:10.060 That's why I said maybe to you.
00:09:12.000 I already knew it.
00:09:13.000 It's a complete moral misalignment, right?
00:09:14.900 Of course.
00:09:15.280 Like, everything you just said there, that's freaking horrifying to me.
00:09:17.420 Zuby, can I ask?
00:09:18.180 And I'm not disagreeing with you, Zuby.
00:09:19.680 Can I ask why you don't?
00:09:21.660 Support killing people?
00:09:22.520 Yeah, well, I used to be a crip, so I'm with you.
00:09:25.920 But can I support why you don't?
00:09:28.860 I just want to know.
00:09:30.820 I don't get to talk to people that have always varying different opinions all the time.
00:09:34.940 Sure.
00:09:35.220 Because we live in echo chambers.
00:09:36.480 Of course.
00:09:36.840 So I'm very interested.
00:09:38.260 And not that I disagree.
00:09:39.440 I'm very interested in why you don't believe in abortion outside of the killing people.
00:09:44.300 Because we kill people with tons of other things.
00:09:46.180 Sure.
00:09:46.440 But what is the thing about abortion?
00:09:48.100 Very simple.
00:09:48.680 I think it is wrong to intentionally terminate an innocent human life.
00:09:53.280 Yeah.
00:09:53.740 Period.
00:09:54.140 That's it.
00:09:55.140 Period.
00:09:55.740 It doesn't matter how old...
00:09:57.060 I think it's a crime to corrupt an innocent human life.
00:09:59.160 Why?
00:09:59.280 It doesn't matter how old...
00:09:59.720 Can I just say, if I'd had an abortion, I would never have been able to have another
00:10:03.460 child again.
00:10:04.120 And I would have been childless.
00:10:05.840 And I was on the pill.
00:10:07.320 So I would have never had a child again.
00:10:09.000 And you know what?
00:10:10.020 When I got pregnant, I actually told...
00:10:12.120 I had an old aunt.
00:10:13.580 Well, she was, you know, like auntie.
00:10:15.460 And I went to her and I said to her...
00:10:17.240 Two people I told first.
00:10:18.160 My stepdad and that aunt.
00:10:21.440 And I went to her and I said...
00:10:23.800 Explained to her.
00:10:24.460 I said, I'm pregnant.
00:10:25.620 And she sat me down.
00:10:27.200 And she said...
00:10:27.840 And this is in the old days.
00:10:28.900 And she said, Jennifer...
00:10:30.180 She said, I've been seeing this married man for years.
00:10:34.300 And you know, like when you get them women back in the day that that was their woman.
00:10:37.360 And she said, I got pregnant.
00:10:40.020 She goes.
00:10:40.520 And he said to me, it's either me or the child.
00:10:46.120 And this man was everything to her.
00:10:48.160 Her world took her out.
00:10:49.720 They went places.
00:10:50.980 And she said, I decided to choose my child.
00:10:54.280 And she said to me, when I was having the child, there were complications.
00:10:57.680 And she said, I'll never be able to have another child.
00:11:00.580 And she's only got one son.
00:11:02.200 She goes to me, have your child.
00:11:03.740 And exactly what happened to her happened to me.
00:11:06.260 And I got the one child.
00:11:08.040 Well, I'm not going to lie.
00:11:09.840 I can sympathize when I speak for you.
00:11:11.600 And I want sympathy.
00:11:12.480 I, I, I, I too was in a very complicated relationship.
00:11:16.840 I'll put it as that.
00:11:18.300 And I was in that same situation.
00:11:20.400 And I just determined.
00:11:21.620 Do you know why?
00:11:22.400 Because I said, listen, I would rather take that risk and to create, do that for my child.
00:11:26.900 Because this person is definitely not going to be a good father to my child.
00:11:29.140 I already vetted the situation.
00:11:30.840 And if it gets to a point where I can't have any children, I'll do an alternative.
00:11:33.940 I will bless other souls and give my love and my energy to somebody that is not even my child.
00:11:38.260 Regardless of whatever happens, whether I can have children or not, I'll still bless people.
00:11:42.300 I'll still give love.
00:11:43.260 I will still be able to be a mother.
00:11:44.560 Even if biologically that was my, not meant to be my destiny.
00:11:47.500 That's it.
00:11:47.920 You can always find alternatives to things.
00:11:49.920 But one thing that I believe that we should do is ensure that whatever energy we put into or whatever children we are raising,
00:11:55.960 we're going to put them in a situation where they can be better human beings.
00:11:58.840 Otherwise, society is going to do whatever.
00:12:00.960 That's why situations now are what they are.
00:12:03.140 In England, it's very easy, like for people to have children when they're teenagers.
00:12:06.400 Look at how everybody is acting now.
00:12:08.320 It's very easy.
00:12:09.220 The majority of abortions are not from teenagers.
00:12:11.320 No.
00:12:11.560 It's actually from women.
00:12:12.520 No, and what I'm saying is in the UK, I think the UK is actually the country in Europe that has the highest rate of teenage pregnancy.
00:12:19.220 And you can see actually how that's affecting society.
00:12:22.260 There needs to be a certain way of controlling this type of, I would say, unhealed, traumatized kind of DNA to keep passing on.
00:12:31.060 If you're not ready to have a child and you can recognize that, you have a choice to either make the situations worse for you and affect an innocent child,
00:12:38.380 or take the chance now and make it better.
00:12:40.760 And if it means you don't have kids again, save somebody else's child, go foster, go adopt.
00:12:45.420 There's too many people that are needing your love for it.
00:12:46.960 Why don't you give it up for adoption?
00:12:49.280 Because giving it up for adoption, you're putting your child in a situation where actually you can fall on either side of statistics.
00:12:54.940 Either you're going to be with an angel person or you're going to be with a devil that's going to physically abuse you, sexually abuse you, and put you into a system.
00:13:01.140 Why does your mind always go to the worst possible scenario?
00:13:03.560 It goes on to both.
00:13:04.360 No, but I'm saying I could think of many situations where adoption worked out really well.
00:13:10.420 Me too.
00:13:10.920 Like my mom got pregnant when she was 17 and she could have thought, you know, my life was over and she gave that kid up for adoption.
00:13:17.520 He just got married.
00:13:18.360 He has a kid now.
00:13:19.180 He grew up with a completely different family.
00:13:20.840 Well, it's good.
00:13:21.600 Yeah.
00:13:22.040 And fortunately for you, see the good.
00:13:24.860 Unfortunately, on my side where actually because I'm even from my demographic where I come from, what I see and what is actually a lot of what I feel like is the masses.
00:13:33.380 Most of the people that I know that are in those situations come from very hard stories and backgrounds.
00:13:38.700 And when they speak to me, I can see how damaged they are and how much pain they still feel now because not everybody's even equipped to learn how to heal themselves.
00:13:46.860 So it's either we're going to create this.
00:13:49.260 But they're alive.
00:13:50.320 But they're alive, but they're still suffering.
00:13:52.060 And this is the thing.
00:13:52.760 They're alive.
00:13:53.160 For example, I'll give you an example.
00:13:55.000 One of my friends, my sister, she had a friend.
00:13:57.520 She, her parents abused her.
00:13:59.020 Her stepdad sexually abused her.
00:14:00.680 She was on drugs.
00:14:01.380 She was 16.
00:14:02.340 And actually she had an accident and she died.
00:14:05.800 And the friends were all very upset.
00:14:07.400 And they were all really, really sad and they cried and everything.
00:14:09.780 But amongst them, they said, you know what?
00:14:11.540 Actually, I feel like she's in a better place because this world was not treating her right.
00:14:15.060 Her situation was making her more depressed.
00:14:16.740 And people are living by suffering.
00:14:18.480 They're not living to live.
00:14:19.640 Wait, I think this is dark.
00:14:20.400 Can I ask just quickly, are you religious?
00:14:23.160 I'm spiritual.
00:14:24.240 You're spiritual.
00:14:25.340 I think that's a big part of it.
00:14:27.100 I think what's happening now is, I don't know, Zuby, if you're religious.
00:14:30.460 We're both religious.
00:14:31.560 Okay, so this is.
00:14:32.660 I'm religious, but my argument's not coming.
00:14:34.620 Right, but I'm not saying that it is, Zuby.
00:14:36.600 I'm not saying, because I'm spiritual.
00:14:38.520 I don't know what the fuck I am.
00:14:39.800 But I'm not saying that it is.
00:14:40.880 What I'm saying is, I think a big part of it is a lot of times, like I don't believe in abortion,
00:14:47.380 but I do not also think that I have the right to tell a woman what to do with her body.
00:14:52.300 So what I think, not that you guys are this, but I think a big part of it is that you, a lot of times,
00:15:00.120 I have aunts and people who are very religious, life is suffering to them.
00:15:03.260 That's what is one of the things.
00:15:05.540 And I think what you're arguing, no offense to you or anybody, I think it's very different than what she's saying.
00:15:11.440 I think it's very two different points.
00:15:13.120 I agree with Zuby.
00:15:15.020 I agree with auntie for the most part, both of you guys.
00:15:17.680 And I also agree with you, like I just said.
00:15:19.780 But I think what you're getting at is from your personal experience in life and what you've been through
00:15:26.220 and how you came out of that experience versus auntie and Zuby and Pearl are coming from a different,
00:15:34.620 Pearl's talking about she had a relative who was a sibling who was raised in a wonderful world because they were adopted.
00:15:41.740 I think you're coming from your personal experiences of what you've seen.
00:15:45.600 There's two sides.
00:15:46.260 There's dark sides and there's good sides.
00:15:48.040 Of course, but that's life.
00:15:49.680 I'm not coming from any perspective of experience.
00:15:53.740 No, not you, Zuby.
00:15:54.740 I'm saying from her.
00:15:55.540 I'm saying not you.
00:15:56.280 I'm just saying in general.
00:15:57.860 I don't think it's a religious thing.
00:15:59.840 No, it's not a religious thing.
00:16:00.860 I'm just saying in my head, I go, I just want to know if she would say she was spiritual or religious
00:16:04.980 because nine times I'm saying this is just my personal experience.
00:16:08.060 When I talk to spiritual or not really religious people, they lean towards her more
00:16:13.440 and the religious people lean towards this.
00:16:15.380 But on both sides, it happens.
00:16:18.040 But what I'm saying is, Pearl, you're saying you had a sibling raised beautifully out of adoption.
00:16:24.260 Zuby's saying he doesn't believe in abortion.
00:16:26.080 It's taking a human life.
00:16:26.960 Auntie's saying the same thing.
00:16:28.260 This young woman is saying a very different thing, but it's based in her personal experience
00:16:32.460 and life and so on and so forth, which is okay.
00:16:35.860 I'm just saying I don't believe in abortion, but at the same time, I don't think I can tell
00:16:40.840 a woman or anybody what to do with their person.
00:16:43.540 So I'm in this weird place of it.
00:16:45.280 You're comfortable telling someone not to kill someone, though, right?
00:16:47.700 Yeah.
00:16:49.040 Well, it depends on if it was a gun.
00:16:51.380 Yes and no.
00:16:51.880 That's a different podcast topic.
00:16:53.640 I'm comfortable telling people not to, but I'm not at liberty to say that I shouldn't be.
00:16:57.420 We're talking about an innocent life.
00:16:59.380 We're not talking about...
00:16:59.980 Okay, so you mean an innocent...
00:17:01.420 So for me, I'm saying from my background, I can't tell somebody not to kill someone.
00:17:06.720 I mean, I think...
00:17:07.720 But for an innocent life, Zuby, I agree with you.
00:17:10.820 I agree with you.
00:17:11.600 Can anyone else comment on whether they would...
00:17:13.820 Because I was actually quite interested.
00:17:14.600 Yeah, go for it, please.
00:17:15.920 No, I wanted to hear what you would...
00:17:18.940 Oh, why are you bringing me up, bro?
00:17:21.480 2.0.
00:17:22.360 To be honest, yeah.
00:17:23.360 I hear what everyone's saying.
00:17:25.060 Everyone has got a reasonable standpoint for what they're saying.
00:17:31.060 But me personally, I've done a TikTok where I said, for instance, at one point, broke people
00:17:37.560 shouldn't be having kids because you bring kids into a life of struggle and hardship.
00:17:41.700 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:17:42.500 I think, especially someone like me who came from a background of struggle and hardship,
00:17:48.540 like wearing hand-me-downs and all of this and getting laughed and bullied and all of that
00:17:52.620 and stuff like that.
00:17:55.100 Some people are just not meant to have kids, bro.
00:17:57.600 And your case is just mild.
00:17:58.920 You know this, isn't it?
00:17:59.980 What's that?
00:18:00.260 What you're talking about saying that you came from hardship.
00:18:02.060 Yours is mild in comparison to what's happening out there.
00:18:03.400 Yeah, mild.
00:18:03.860 I'm just saying from my experience, isn't it?
00:18:06.260 And from what I've seen, I've got friends that, boom, their parents were crackheads.
00:18:11.380 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:18:12.040 They just were waste men, waste women, whatever, and they've just been freestyling through life
00:18:17.440 and their life has been hardship.
00:18:18.900 So I get where you're coming from, 100%.
00:18:21.220 I get where you're coming from because I came, again, my mum, very, very hard Pentecostal
00:18:26.860 church, Nigerian woman, bro, no messing around, innit?
00:18:30.760 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:18:31.160 So I get where you're coming from and where Zuby's coming from.
00:18:34.420 It's an innocent life, but it's just like, bro, at the end of the day, everyone's going
00:18:38.660 to have to answer for their own actions at the end of the day.
00:18:41.220 I can't judge somebody and say, oh, why did you do that?
00:18:44.500 Like, bro, I don't know their situation.
00:18:46.680 But some people know that, bro, if I have a kid, I'm going to mess this kid's life up,
00:18:50.860 bro.
00:18:51.420 You know what I'm saying?
00:18:52.080 So I have a question.
00:18:54.480 Do you think, and this is kind of to both of you, do you think that poor people are less
00:18:58.420 valuable than rich people?
00:18:59.620 Because when you, a lot of people don't know this, but that's a common argument that people
00:19:04.620 use for eugenics.
00:19:06.280 It's not about poverty.
00:19:07.080 So basically, so basically that, that poor people should be eradicated.
00:19:10.920 And in some of like the founders of Planned Parenthood, which is more of a, it's more of
00:19:15.640 a U.S. organization.
00:19:16.860 Like that was what they were fighting for was eugenics, which is like basically poor people
00:19:21.660 should die.
00:19:22.420 Same with like minorities.
00:19:23.520 No, it's not about poverty, it's about trauma, it's about trauma, it's about passing on unhealed
00:19:29.400 souls that are going to then go, because hurt people hurt people.
00:19:32.120 Do you think, do you think that we're spoiled?
00:19:33.700 Because even like people that are in like the lowest income bracket now, they're still richer
00:19:38.740 than most people were in all of human history.
00:19:40.800 And so then like, because without that logic, then everyone pretty much should have died all
00:19:44.520 the time.
00:19:44.860 Now, this is the thing, like, I'll tell you something, I grew up privileged, then my dad passed
00:19:49.120 away, my life turned around, and I came to England, and all of a sudden I went from
00:19:52.260 being up there to being down here and being the poor kid, but none of that situation changed
00:19:56.500 my happiness because my mom is a loving woman who did everything to make sure that we were
00:20:01.360 happy and we were okay.
00:20:02.360 We didn't have all the money, and yet all her support and love got me to be a woman that
00:20:05.660 I am today.
00:20:06.660 I'm grateful for that.
00:20:07.660 On the flip side, I have friends that went through similar things or completely different
00:20:11.620 situations where their parents were not equipped to give them the love and the support that
00:20:15.320 they needed to be wholesome human beings, wholesome adults that can actually lead a life responsibly
00:20:21.360 and not have to have those traumas that are getting them to get themselves in trouble.
00:20:25.780 That's why people go, that's why a lot of black people go to prison.
00:20:28.460 Okay, so next question.
00:20:29.460 Do you, where, where's the cutoff then?
00:20:31.460 Like where should abortion be legal?
00:20:33.460 What about, what about nine months?
00:20:35.460 No, I feel like that's just too long.
00:20:37.560 Okay, okay, okay, so what point?
00:20:39.560 It's like, I would say probably to the point where the brain starts to develop because once
00:20:43.720 the brain starts to develop properly, then that's when the life, like the more consciousness
00:20:49.520 starts to go, when you're actually picking up a lot of the signals from the outside where
00:20:53.640 your, the, the fetus turns into actually something that's aware, yeah, aware, yeah, that's it.
00:20:59.420 Brain waves are what, about six weeks?
00:21:01.360 Six, so you would say six weeks?
00:21:03.560 Well, that's still not developed enough, that's just brain waves.
00:21:06.520 No, you, you said the brain, yeah.
00:21:08.160 This is the thing, once your brain, there's different stages to it, so when, when the brain
00:21:11.980 is development, developing, there's brain waves, and then there's other things that will
00:21:16.040 you receive certain information, it depends on the level of information that, that brain
00:21:19.740 can now process.
00:21:21.220 Okay, so what level of information?
00:21:23.280 Well, I would say probably the cut-off point at three to four months is actually quite good,
00:21:27.080 and I know they go up to six months.
00:21:29.760 Yeah, it's six months in the UK, and after six months, if there is any, even a minor disability,
00:21:36.740 such as a cleft palate, or something, you know, something that minor, there's no limit.
00:21:42.400 That's a current rule.
00:21:43.300 In Canada, there's no limit, period.
00:21:45.160 Many states in the US, there's no limit.
00:21:46.900 Can I just add, like, with the question you asked before last night,
00:21:49.520 at the end of the day, my mindset to it, it's not about poor people being less valuable.
00:21:54.700 Like, that's not even what we're talking about, what I'm talking about.
00:21:57.240 What I'm saying is that at the end of the day, if you know you're living, and this is
00:22:01.640 a very common thing, yeah, a lot of times, people who are living in struggle and poverty,
00:22:07.180 who can't even look after themselves, they're just fucking.
00:22:10.200 Yeah.
00:22:10.560 Like, they have nothing else going on, and they're fucking, and they bring,
00:22:13.620 hold on, let me just say this, bro, like, yeah, and then they just bring,
00:22:17.660 they just having kids, bro, like, you could, just go outside, you're going to see people
00:22:22.180 pushing prams, and like, they have nothing going on, and their kids, bro, a lot of these
00:22:26.860 kids, what happens to them?
00:22:28.500 Join gangs, crime, they go prison, end up in the ground, whatever, bro.
00:22:33.820 Like, so, like, all of these other fairy tales, oh, yeah, maybe they're going to end up being,
00:22:37.820 those, yeah, it happens, but bro, it's rare, really and truly, majority of them are going
00:22:42.520 to end up fucked up.
00:22:43.460 But those actually aren't the women getting abortions, only 8% of women below the poverty
00:22:47.020 line are getting abortions, where one out of three women that make over $47,000 per
00:22:50.580 year are actually getting abortions.
00:22:51.480 No, but basically, your question was about the people that was in poverty, that's who I'm
00:22:55.620 addressing.
00:22:55.820 Well, yeah, but I'm saying, like, like, those, like, I'm saying, when you argue that, like,
00:23:00.920 you're basically, like, you might not mean it like that, but when you're arguing that
00:23:04.920 those people should get abortions, you're basically saying that poor people should never write
00:23:08.460 to that.
00:23:08.680 I've never said poor people shouldn't get abortions, though.
00:23:11.380 For example, yeah, you are, like, let's say 25, you go to the club, and you meet this
00:23:17.460 asshole, but he's hot, and you decide to have a more night stand.
00:23:20.620 I know, you decide to open your legs, that's your fault, blah, blah, blah, blah, you get
00:23:23.940 pregnant now, cool.
00:23:25.820 You are having your own issues in life.
00:23:28.880 You are definitely not equipped to be a mother, you're not even responsible or whatever, and
00:23:33.220 the guy on top of that, he's not a partner, that he's going to be able to even support
00:23:36.060 your child in many ways.
00:23:37.540 There you go.
00:23:38.220 It's your decision.
00:23:38.980 If you want to terminate it, you terminate it then.
00:23:41.200 That's not about money, it's about mental, it's about how prepared are you as a person,
00:23:45.260 and if you're afraid and you don't want to do it, okay, but just be ready to deal with
00:23:48.040 the consequences.
00:23:48.580 Can we address that?
00:23:49.380 In the room, there's days, actually, like, you know, contraception.
00:23:52.660 Yes, I was about to say.
00:23:53.940 Yeah, facts.
00:23:54.440 You know, there's so much contraception, so when you're in that stage where you're
00:23:58.560 having a pregnancy, what have you done to prevent that?
00:24:01.180 I understand auntie's situation was very, you know, it happened.
00:24:03.700 That's why I said that, I'm an exception to every rule, and I accept that, yeah.
00:24:06.800 Yeah, there's contraception involved to stop these things from happening, and we've completely
00:24:11.040 ignored that, and went on to the fact that we've been reckless and got pregnant.
00:24:14.000 So what contraception was the person on?
00:24:15.940 You clearly don't know about contraception.
00:24:18.120 I very much know I've got no kids.
00:24:21.320 Can I say something?
00:24:22.280 Can I add to that?
00:24:23.240 Can I add to that, yeah?
00:24:24.240 Yeah.
00:24:24.360 Really, for a guy, all you can do is wear condoms.
00:24:26.740 Yeah.
00:24:26.900 So really, who really is in charge?
00:24:30.480 It's not hard.
00:24:31.900 It's not hard to prevent vaguenessing.
00:24:34.320 That's a good point.
00:24:35.680 Guys, one at a time.
00:24:36.680 Who's got more authority in that?
00:24:38.300 Yeah.
00:24:38.460 Because in my opinion, I think women really need to do a better job of, like, making sure
00:24:45.140 that they don't fall into that trap, because the majority of the contraception is down to
00:24:49.840 them, isn't it?
00:24:50.480 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:24:51.240 And then even, let's say, even if you have a girlfriend, and you get her pregnant, and
00:24:55.320 she doesn't want to have the kid, she ain't having it, bro.
00:24:57.840 Facts, yeah.
00:24:58.520 So, like, that's how...
00:24:59.440 There's pre-cautions, you can get the morning after.
00:25:01.840 They're stuffed.
00:25:02.400 You know, you feel like it's a bit iffy.
00:25:04.020 I've caught that bare times.
00:25:05.120 Morning after, I've caught that bare times.
00:25:06.500 Bro, you know, it's so nice.
00:25:07.800 Actually, at least you buy it.
00:25:08.500 You pay for it.
00:25:09.080 Yeah, I'll buy it.
00:25:10.260 You and two gents in.
00:25:11.260 I'll buy it, and I'll watch her take it.
00:25:14.320 Zuby, I have a question for you.
00:25:16.220 Yeah, go ahead.
00:25:16.500 Do you think that Plan B is an abortion?
00:25:19.560 Because I always get this question, and I don't know enough about it.
00:25:22.520 It would depend on exactly how it works.
00:25:25.200 I don't know.
00:25:26.100 Next day.
00:25:26.680 The next day.
00:25:27.800 No, I know what it is.
00:25:30.000 I'm talking about the actual mechanism by which it works.
00:25:32.500 Does it prevent the fertilization?
00:25:34.520 I actually don't understand.
00:25:36.500 I understand that.
00:25:37.080 Are you talking about them all enough?
00:25:38.300 I don't know.
00:25:39.120 If it prevents fertilization, then no.
00:25:41.320 Okay, if it prevents fertilization, then no.
00:25:43.180 That's not an abortion.
00:25:43.880 No, I don't think.
00:25:44.440 I think they all stop the embryo from attaching to the...
00:25:46.800 Yeah, that's what you said.
00:25:47.660 Prevents it from the beginning.
00:25:49.400 But it's already fertilized, right?
00:25:50.560 When the sperm touches the egg, that's already like an embryo.
00:25:53.160 Has conception already...
00:25:54.700 Is it a contraceptive or is it a...
00:25:57.940 It's an emergency contraceptive because you don't know.
00:26:00.420 By the way, I've tried to actually find the answer to this,
00:26:04.300 and it seems to be a little bit up in the air that it's not totally clear the mechanism.
00:26:06.740 So it's only all right as long as the sperm touches the egg.
00:26:11.780 It's like, let me come in.
00:26:13.080 No, no, no.
00:26:13.800 I care about being intellectually honest and consistent, right?
00:26:17.440 So human life begins at conception, right?
00:26:20.360 Left uninterrupted from that point.
00:26:22.360 This is why it's dumb when people make that point.
00:26:23.940 Oh, well, masturbating is the same as the...
00:26:25.740 It's like, no, because a sperm on its own doesn't do anything.
00:26:28.400 It never develops into a human.
00:26:29.500 An egg on its own does not.
00:26:30.520 But once they meet, if we were to rewind any of our lives
00:26:33.920 and go back to where our life began,
00:26:36.620 it would be from that moment of conception.
00:26:39.040 That's when the DNA...
00:26:40.760 That's when the full DNA...
00:26:42.620 I get what you're saying.
00:26:43.300 But you can get a pill that you take up to five days after.
00:26:46.580 What it does is that the sooner you take it,
00:26:49.400 because you don't know whether it's going to get fertilized or not.
00:26:52.940 So the earlier you take it, it will strip the womb.
00:26:56.160 So it won't be attached.
00:26:58.300 It would depend on what the actual mechanism is.
00:26:59.060 So as far as I'm concerned,
00:27:01.220 if it's within 72 hours, I'll say, yeah.
00:27:03.280 If it's within five days, I'll be...
00:27:05.220 And you can go as far as five days.
00:27:06.700 No, what I'm trying to say is that 72 hours, 72 hours,
00:27:09.960 you know there's not going to be any fertilization,
00:27:12.560 because it's like that.
00:27:14.200 But the five days is a bit iffy.
00:27:16.880 And can I just say that?
00:27:17.980 Yeah, sure, sure.
00:27:18.420 Everybody keeps on talking about trauma.
00:27:21.900 And everybody keeps on blaming everything.
00:27:23.760 How many of you know I was just banned on TikTok?
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