This Feminist Movement Killed DATING FOR GOOD!!!
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Summary
The number of men under 30 who have not had sex in the past year has tripled since 2008, according to a 2017 study by the General Social Survey. Why have men become sexless? Why are they not having sex anymore? What are the reasons for the increase in the number of sexless men in the U.S. and around the world?
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Today's topic, we're talking about sexless men.
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So, a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the number of sexually
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inactive young adults has increased in recent years.
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A survey conducted by the General Social Survey which found that the percentage of men under
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30 who have not had had sex in the past year has tripled since 2008.
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A study published in JAMA Pediatrics which found that fewer teens are having sex than
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in previous generations, a study found in the Journal of Adolescent Health which found
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that social media use is associated with a decrease in sexual activity among adolescents.
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According to a 2017 study, the number of sexually inactive men in the U.S. has tripled in the
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The percentage of men aged 18 to 29 who have not had had sex in the past year increased
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There are a number of potential reasons for this trend, including the rise of technology,
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social media, and video games which can be addictive and time-consuming.
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Economic factors such as lack of job opportunities and financial insecurity may also contribute
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Changes in gender norms and expectations as well as a shift towards more casual dating and
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This trend is not unique to the U.S. where there are similar patterns in other countries,
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Some experts argue that the trends towards sexual inactivity is not necessarily a negative
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and may reflect a broader shift towards a greater emphasis on personal fulfillment and
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So, according to the article, the number of sexless men under 30 has tripled in the last
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I think in the U.K., young people are having sex more.
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I just think we're not having as much kids as the previous generation.
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I feel like people were having kids younger or having a lot of children.
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So, you think they're lying when they're surveyed about it?
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I don't know about the lying, but from being in the U.K. and how I know guys that, you
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know, are out here, I don't think men have become, like, sexless at all.
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I think, sorry, Tretika, you can speak after me.
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I think also there is a massive change in confidence in men.
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I don't know what happened with this gender thing, but also there's a massive impact.
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When men is confused and it's playing in their confidence.
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Like, I think the generation right now, the kids that I'm seeing right now, there's a
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massive difference between them and the generation that I know.
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There's a lot of culture, you know, even the songs that you hear, like six figure, blah,
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I think men are questioning if they're good enough to actually go out and date and take
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girls out and, you know, be with these type of girls that they fancy or they have to settle
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for something that they're not, which most of men do.
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But I think there's a massive crisis, I would say, that's happening to the young generation.
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And it's the whole songs, the culture, everything that's happening, contributing to the confidence
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of the young boys right now, comparing to the generation before.
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So you think that masculinity was celebrated before and it's not now?
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I'm just trying to paraphrase what you're saying.
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And it's funny enough, even I think also a lot of men are put in a lid to who they are
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and what they need and what they want and their identity has been really, like, there's a crisis
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of their identity because of what, like, the conversation that we're having and the songs
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and everything, the whole culture is definitely suppressing that a hundred percent.
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I definitely think there is a bit of a crisis of masculinity going on with a lot of young
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men where, I mean, if I think of someone my age, we have so many strong male role models
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and we didn't have the distraction of this little device in our hands that just sucked
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in all of our potential almost as men and humans being, as human beings.
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There's a backdrop, I guess, of the Me Too movement, a lot of genuine movements that needed
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I think it's left a lot of men discombobulated how they approach women, should they approach
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You know, if you think a lot of our parents probably met in social settings or, you know,
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through families, et cetera, but certainly the social aspect of meeting people at the
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gym, at the pub, at the bar, I think a lot of men are frightened to do that.
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Some of it is societal, like this, I guess some people see it as an attack on masculinity.
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And some of it is the men themselves' failure to almost move with the modern times.
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So they've withdrawn into their computer games.
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They've withdrawn into this world where they're almost just with themselves or with their peers.
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And they've forgot the art of actually engaging in conversations, chatting people up and doing
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And I think also another aspect is, I think we're a bit in the victim culture a little
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bit in life as well, where people see themselves as victims and poor me and almost the world
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I'm sure there are a lot of, and I don't mean to be bad when I say it, but a lot of angry
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men who seem that they, by default, should just have stuff without having to put the work
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So it's almost like an entitlement with guys because they're not putting the work in.
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They don't know how to, or they're scared to do it.
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As a result, a lot of them are unintentionally sexless.
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I don't think they want to be, but I think it's unintentionally.
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So there's so many different factors that are contributing to it, especially more so with
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And then I guess there's also the factor of women going for that top 20% or the top 30%
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So most men are not going to pass that standard anymore.
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So they're going to be left, they're sort of scratching their ears thinking, what can I do?
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You've seen it with a lot of the shooting and stuff that's happened in America.
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They can become quite angry and quite disaffected, and it can become quite dangerous for society.
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Can you expound a little bit more what you said, that you said phones are ruining men's
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Yeah, because phones are this illusion of life, but it's not real.
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So if you're always got your head in your phone or you've got your head in video games,
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how the hell do you, how the hell do you become who you're born to be?
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How the hell do you, you know, get the level of charisma, the level of confidence you need
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Go and engage with an actual human being rather than your phone.
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It's very easy, I think, to be buried in your phone.
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And the more you do it, the more disengaged you are from actual real world where you need
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It's actually, there's so many, there's so many different factors that are contributing
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to them needing almost, I guess, they feel they need to disengage from society.
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And again, that's another aspect of your phone and technology.
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It's much easier for guys to get online and engage in corn and again, not be engaged in
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the real world and then get into this unrealistic world of what, you know, intimacy is.
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For them, intimacy, if it's just porn, that's not intimacy.
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But real intimacy is engaging, it's sharing, it's being vulnerable, it's allowing yourself
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And they're not engaging in that anymore in that same way.
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Do you think that's true for men and for women?
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I think more so for me, we were just speaking about this before everyone came in.
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And I think it's genuinely harder for men because men have to graft.
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I think society would happily step over a man's corpse.
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Something like, again, similar to that when it comes to suicide.
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So there's all these different things, you know?
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And I think, and because I do a lot of advocacy for men, I think for my stances, men need
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to be responsible for the state of their lives.
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I don't necessarily think society owes them anything.
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I'd love society to care about men, to care about masculinity, to see the value that men
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In fact, the trend seems to be going the other way.
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I want men to start actually looking, what can I be responsible for?
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I know that, especially for younger people, it's a bit of a mind fill.
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Because what was normal for my generation, chatting up a girl on the street or wherever
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it might be, for some people might be seen as some sort of attack, almost.
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But I think men need to almost stand in their courage and just go for it.
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And I think if they can do it with charisma, with respect, they can start to engage.
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And I think the amplification of that disaster is not to mention the fact that relationships
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There are a lot of men from single parent families who are not taught a lot of these things.
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And if you're a teenager, there are a lot of people here that have a lot of people.
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There are a lot of people who can grasp a lot of these things.
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So let me just ask them to understand something.
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Listen, this is what we have said about slave village people.
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The third child king goes to his very good boy, but I'm still saying things we never
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So I don't know where it can be until we ask people to get solve them properly if people
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What advice can you do about them, and I don't care.