JustPearlyThings - August 26, 2023


This Happens When Women Make Decisions


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

212.04543

Word Count

2,035

Sentence Count

204

Misogynist Sentences

24

Hate Speech Sentences

15


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 It's going to get more worse.
00:00:00.800 There's nothing worse than what's going on right now.
00:00:03.360 None of you can lie.
00:00:04.460 There's nothing worse than what's going on right now.
00:00:07.140 You are right.
00:00:08.160 We should really and truly protect the kids because at the end of the day,
00:00:11.560 everyone in this room, we are road models to a child regardless.
00:00:16.280 But there's nothing worse than what it is right now.
00:00:19.260 You can't do anything worse than what's going on.
00:00:21.520 Yeah, but how can you change it?
00:00:23.440 I have a couple things.
00:00:24.960 I got some solutions for you.
00:00:27.740 So I say one, we got to get rid of no-fault divorce.
00:00:31.220 Once you get married, you're stuck for life.
00:00:34.160 Yes, I think that's number one.
00:00:36.440 No, I think I'll give you an out.
00:00:38.640 I'll give you one out.
00:00:39.980 I'll give you an out for abuse if he's beating your ass.
00:00:42.960 All right.
00:00:43.420 But none of this money abuse.
00:00:48.560 Certain people would just say, oh, this is what's happening.
00:00:52.700 Oh, I know.
00:00:53.520 Women lie all the time about it.
00:00:55.100 So, but what I would do is I would make it so if she falsely accuses you, she goes to jail.
00:01:02.660 And it would be really harsh.
00:01:03.920 Isn't that why you're going to prove?
00:01:04.340 So what about emotional abuse?
00:01:05.660 Because you've got physical and you've got an emotional abuse.
00:01:07.980 No, I don't believe in that.
00:01:09.240 Oh, God.
00:01:09.700 Yeah, I think emotional abuse is worse than that.
00:01:11.840 You don't believe in...
00:01:13.040 No, I think women emotionally abuse men.
00:01:15.540 I don't think men emotionally abuse women.
00:01:16.520 You don't believe in manipulation, narcissistic behaviors?
00:01:19.100 No, I think all of these are just words that women make up to make themselves victims.
00:01:24.380 So when the...
00:01:25.640 And that's why we...
00:01:26.600 Sorry.
00:01:27.000 What if you woke up every morning and your husband looked at you and said, you look disgusting.
00:01:32.460 Well, then I'd say...
00:01:33.100 What am I doing with you?
00:01:33.780 I'd say, how can I improve?
00:01:35.340 And then what if he says, you can't?
00:01:37.160 Right?
00:01:37.780 What do you do then?
00:01:38.780 Well, then I'd say...
00:01:39.700 I think that sometimes we just want to make ourselves victims.
00:01:43.780 Like, what is that going to do?
00:01:44.920 Okay.
00:01:45.520 You married me.
00:01:46.920 So would you kind of say, like...
00:01:48.480 All right, then, cool.
00:01:49.860 Except for abuse.
00:01:50.920 Like, let's just put abuse in another category because that's separate.
00:01:54.420 So would you say, like, for example, the woman has to, like, be already, like, acceptable,
00:02:01.500 like, make herself acceptable for the man, such as if she was fat, you know, fat's falling out everywhere,
00:02:06.700 like a bag of potatoes.
00:02:07.680 Yeah, I think she...
00:02:08.300 She would have to hit the gym.
00:02:09.260 Yes.
00:02:09.660 Or possibly even get surgery to die on the table.
00:02:12.380 Or, like, would you say that's the extent a woman would have to go to to...
00:02:15.500 That to get surgery?
00:02:16.480 Okay, I think that we should start with the treadmill.
00:02:19.400 Yeah, definitely.
00:02:19.940 Okay.
00:02:20.460 But, yeah, I think if you told you...
00:02:21.860 Or a salad.
00:02:23.820 Self-improvement.
00:02:24.700 But the wife is cooking steak and macaroni and cheese for her man, so she's never really gonna...
00:02:30.000 Yeah, but she can eat the salad, though.
00:02:31.900 Yeah, I'm all for self-improvement.
00:02:33.620 But that's still the woman lowering herself to meet the man's expectations.
00:02:39.120 Wait, wait, wait.
00:02:39.900 Self-improvement is a must, man or woman.
00:02:41.900 Yeah, it is, but...
00:02:42.340 Self-improvement is a must, but there's emotional abuse where someone's making you feel like
00:02:47.700 you don't want to live, then you're gonna stay with that person when there's a whole
00:02:51.100 wild world out here today.
00:02:51.740 How can somebody...
00:02:52.320 I just think nobody can make me feel anything.
00:02:54.840 I think women gotta stop...
00:02:55.600 Some people are not that strong.
00:02:56.480 I think...
00:02:56.960 No, I think women...
00:02:58.020 Feeling like victims.
00:02:58.120 I think women...
00:02:58.640 I know, because women are addicted to being victims.
00:03:00.660 Look at every movie on TV.
00:03:02.680 We're emotional creatures.
00:03:03.640 Every...
00:03:04.080 I agree with you.
00:03:05.360 I agree with you, but, like, we just have a society that never tells us the truth.
00:03:08.860 And, like, we look in every TV show, every Taylor Swift song, it's, you are a victim.
00:03:12.880 Poor you.
00:03:13.620 Yeah.
00:03:13.860 Like, at some point, Taylor Swift, I want an album.
00:03:16.400 It was me.
00:03:17.620 I am the problem.
00:03:19.240 That's where...
00:03:19.860 That's where...
00:03:20.680 That's where...
00:03:21.300 Well, like I was saying earlier, leadership comes back in.
00:03:23.700 Because if you have a strong man in the house that's representing leadership, and he's putting...
00:03:30.380 Installing strength and installing...
00:03:32.640 Yeah, but he's going to tell you the truth, and you're still not going to like it.
00:03:34.940 But then...
00:03:35.320 Nobody likes it.
00:03:35.820 No, no, no.
00:03:36.300 She'll say she was emotionally abused.
00:03:38.320 Yeah.
00:03:38.500 But then there's the truth, and then there's just...
00:03:41.500 Someone just blatantly taking the piss, and just knowing that you're not strong.
00:03:45.240 I can't lie to you.
00:03:46.260 It all stems from the beginning, though.
00:03:47.500 So, like, everyone has to pick their piece of shit, and I think...
00:03:53.160 And work with it.
00:03:53.800 And you have to work with it, because realistically, realistically, in a way, you know, a piece
00:04:00.040 of shit and a piece of shit together is a big part of shit, so...
00:04:03.100 So, let's just live in and be honest.
00:04:04.740 Well, why is it always assumed that he's the piece of shit?
00:04:07.200 Maybe you're the piece of shit.
00:04:08.160 You know what I mean?
00:04:08.880 No one's perfect.
00:04:10.000 Realistically, there's some traits that you yourself are going to have to water down to
00:04:14.600 match the piece of shit.
00:04:15.680 Yeah.
00:04:16.000 So, well...
00:04:17.500 Look, everyone's got problems, right?
00:04:20.680 Right.
00:04:21.100 Yeah.
00:04:21.320 Everyone has problems.
00:04:22.760 But so...
00:04:23.200 So, I just think...
00:04:24.540 I think that a lot of times women want to, like, say, oh, the man didn't lead.
00:04:28.720 But usually, this is just what I find.
00:04:31.120 I really think men naturally do lead when they have women that follow, that don't give them
00:04:36.300 help.
00:04:36.540 But then...
00:04:36.940 But that's the thing.
00:04:37.780 Not every man...
00:04:39.140 I mean, it's nice to find the ones that do lead, but there's a lot of men that don't
00:04:43.140 know how to lead, and that's due to, like, maybe their upbringing...
00:04:45.540 Why don't you...
00:04:46.200 Would you give them the opportunity?
00:04:47.780 Wait, I have a question.
00:04:49.240 But who raised those men?
00:04:50.600 Right.
00:04:50.880 That's what I'm saying.
00:04:51.280 Sometimes they don't...
00:04:52.160 Sometimes they're men...
00:04:53.460 Yeah, right.
00:04:53.960 But sometimes they're not raised correctly or raised in a two-parent home where you need
00:04:58.020 a man and a woman.
00:04:58.920 And that's the problem because women keep leaving.
00:05:01.300 And they have no respect for...
00:05:02.380 You've got men that don't respect women in the first place because of the way they were
00:05:05.840 raised.
00:05:06.240 Why would they when their mom left?
00:05:07.860 Right.
00:05:08.200 That's what I mean.
00:05:08.820 So it all goes back down to the leadership.
00:05:10.640 Once you've got good leadership...
00:05:11.420 No, it goes back to the women's choices.
00:05:13.860 Fair enough.
00:05:14.520 No, I feel like there's a lot of aspects to why...
00:05:17.720 Yeah, there's a lot of...
00:05:18.080 I feel personally, I feel like for men who can't lead a woman or even his family, I feel
00:05:25.480 like there's a lot of, like, background issues that go into that.
00:05:28.600 Exactly.
00:05:28.780 However, where I have to actually step into this and be like, you have to also be strong
00:05:35.400 for the man.
00:05:36.460 You have to also be there for the man.
00:05:38.320 If your man is weak, which you as a married person, if you feel like you're weak in certain
00:05:43.060 aspects, for example, you're sick, your woman's going to look after you.
00:05:46.280 If you feel like, you know...
00:05:48.280 You've not met my wife.
00:05:49.820 Oh.
00:05:50.680 She leads me to it.
00:05:52.320 Fair enough.
00:05:52.700 But in certain circumstances, like, if you feel like you're weak in a relationship, that
00:05:59.980 person should be able to nurture you and you should be able to do the same thing for the
00:06:03.780 other person.
00:06:04.180 A lot of women don't submit nowadays, and that's the truth.
00:06:06.920 There's a lot of women, especially of this generation, everything that's going on with
00:06:10.140 social media, like you said, a lot of women do not know how to submit.
00:06:13.260 Do you know how to submit?
00:06:15.320 I think I definitely do now.
00:06:16.900 I think when I was 16, 17, I don't think I knew how to submit.
00:06:20.420 But now, that's what I want to do.
00:06:23.000 So he tells you, delete your Instagram.
00:06:25.880 Are you doing it?
00:06:26.620 Yeah, absolutely.
00:06:27.800 It doesn't mean that much to me.
00:06:29.020 Okay.
00:06:29.440 I mean, I love my Instagram and I, you know, that's where I network and do my music and
00:06:35.420 stuff.
00:06:35.820 But if I was with somebody that I felt that secure with and happy with and we're building
00:06:41.020 a life together and I ask him to do something he doesn't mind, why not?
00:06:45.960 Well, I think the issue that I get into, or I see a lot as women think we submit, but
00:06:52.120 it's really conditional submission because it's only when he's leading perfectly.
00:06:56.880 No, but no one's perfect.
00:06:57.960 Yeah.
00:06:58.160 But that's, but like when you were saying earlier, oh, he stopped leading, you know,
00:07:02.020 it's like, is he only supposed to love you when you're being perfect?
00:07:06.160 It's not even just about love.
00:07:07.740 It's about, it's about, there's a lot of things, there's a lot of aspects into having
00:07:11.140 a relationship and it's about trust.
00:07:13.040 If you're waking up happy, if you're waking up unhappy every day, then I don't see why
00:07:19.220 you should hear me at all.
00:07:20.740 I think your happiness doesn't matter.
00:07:22.800 Of course it does.
00:07:23.560 No, I don't think it matters at all.
00:07:25.380 I think we've told us women.
00:07:26.940 Yeah, I know.
00:07:27.560 I know.
00:07:28.200 Shocking.
00:07:28.760 But that's, I mean, that's what both men and women.
00:07:31.100 I want to hear what you have to say.
00:07:32.360 I'll tell you.
00:07:33.000 So, so I think we live in a society that's very self-centered and everything's about us.
00:07:37.520 And I think especially women, we've gotten a ton of attention from the time we were like
00:07:42.000 14, 15 years old when we got on social media, you know, or whenever, right?
00:07:47.460 Because we got Facebook, we got, and so you're immediately given all this attention from men,
00:07:52.040 right?
00:07:52.780 And I think this has kind of made us brainwashed to think we're more important than we are.
00:07:57.340 We're more special than we are.
00:07:58.800 And I think we think our opinion matters more than it does.
00:08:01.940 I'm not saying our opinion doesn't matter at all, but I don't think, I think couples that
00:08:07.260 really made it 50, 60 years, they weren't concerned about happiness.
00:08:11.360 I think they were concerned about duty and playing your role.
00:08:13.860 Yeah.
00:08:14.080 But now we've been told it's about me, me, me and my happiness.
00:08:17.580 And I think that should be last, especially when you got kids.
00:08:20.360 I feel like that is due now, because if you look at it, social media has given so many
00:08:26.100 people a voice.
00:08:26.980 I feel like social media is definitely a bigger part to play in it.
00:08:29.540 And I also have to blame Disney because Cinderella, Snow White, Mulan, we all know how it's gone.
00:08:37.320 It's been pushing our faces to have that fairy tale.
00:08:39.320 But I feel like where we go wrong is, realistically, everyone deserves happiness.
00:08:45.240 Why would you want to be in a situation where it's a shit show?
00:08:48.320 Well, I think a lot of times women don't even know what makes us happy.
00:08:52.060 And no, no, seriously, because we think very short term.
00:08:56.960 So we'll go for that top guy, right?
00:08:59.760 And is getting pumped and dumped a couple, you know, by the top guys really going to make
00:09:04.100 us happy.
00:09:04.760 Like, think about it.
00:09:05.420 The last hundred years, we've had more choice than ever.
00:09:07.980 We could do anything we want.
00:09:09.600 And we have chosen to be whores as a group.
00:09:12.020 A hundred years ago, 85% of us were virgins on our wedding days.
00:09:16.260 Think about that.
00:09:17.060 A hundred years ago, even, even let's just say the women were liars, right?
00:09:20.920 And let's double the amount.
00:09:22.200 Like, let's make it from 15 to 30%.
00:09:24.040 That's still two out of three that waited till they were married, got married young,
00:09:26.980 stayed married.
00:09:28.180 And so it's like, what has us choosing done for us, for our happiness?
00:09:32.560 When we follow our hearts, it's like, we're led to destruction.