This Happens When Women Make Decisions
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss abuse in the home and how to protect your children. We also discuss how to deal with emotional and physical abuse in a marriage and what to do if you find out your husband is abusing you.
Transcript
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There's nothing worse than what's going on right now.
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There's nothing worse than what's going on right now.
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We should really and truly protect the kids because at the end of the day,
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everyone in this room, we are road models to a child regardless.
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But there's nothing worse than what it is right now.
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You can't do anything worse than what's going on.
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So I say one, we got to get rid of no-fault divorce.
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I'll give you an out for abuse if he's beating your ass.
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Certain people would just say, oh, this is what's happening.
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So, but what I would do is I would make it so if she falsely accuses you, she goes to jail.
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Because you've got physical and you've got an emotional abuse.
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Yeah, I think emotional abuse is worse than that.
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You don't believe in manipulation, narcissistic behaviors?
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No, I think all of these are just words that women make up to make themselves victims.
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What if you woke up every morning and your husband looked at you and said, you look disgusting.
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I think that sometimes we just want to make ourselves victims.
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Like, let's just put abuse in another category because that's separate.
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So would you say, like, for example, the woman has to, like, be already, like, acceptable,
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like, make herself acceptable for the man, such as if she was fat, you know, fat's falling out everywhere,
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Or possibly even get surgery to die on the table.
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Or, like, would you say that's the extent a woman would have to go to to...
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Okay, I think that we should start with the treadmill.
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But the wife is cooking steak and macaroni and cheese for her man, so she's never really gonna...
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But that's still the woman lowering herself to meet the man's expectations.
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Self-improvement is a must, but there's emotional abuse where someone's making you feel like
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you don't want to live, then you're gonna stay with that person when there's a whole
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I know, because women are addicted to being victims.
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I agree with you, but, like, we just have a society that never tells us the truth.
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And, like, we look in every TV show, every Taylor Swift song, it's, you are a victim.
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Like, at some point, Taylor Swift, I want an album.
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Well, like I was saying earlier, leadership comes back in.
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Because if you have a strong man in the house that's representing leadership, and he's putting...
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Yeah, but he's going to tell you the truth, and you're still not going to like it.
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But then there's the truth, and then there's just...
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Someone just blatantly taking the piss, and just knowing that you're not strong.
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So, like, everyone has to pick their piece of shit, and I think...
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And you have to work with it, because realistically, realistically, in a way, you know, a piece
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of shit and a piece of shit together is a big part of shit, so...
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Well, why is it always assumed that he's the piece of shit?
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Realistically, there's some traits that you yourself are going to have to water down to
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I think that a lot of times women want to, like, say, oh, the man didn't lead.
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I really think men naturally do lead when they have women that follow, that don't give them
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I mean, it's nice to find the ones that do lead, but there's a lot of men that don't
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know how to lead, and that's due to, like, maybe their upbringing...
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But sometimes they're not raised correctly or raised in a two-parent home where you need
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And that's the problem because women keep leaving.
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You've got men that don't respect women in the first place because of the way they were
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No, I feel like there's a lot of aspects to why...
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I feel personally, I feel like for men who can't lead a woman or even his family, I feel
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like there's a lot of, like, background issues that go into that.
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However, where I have to actually step into this and be like, you have to also be strong
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If your man is weak, which you as a married person, if you feel like you're weak in certain
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aspects, for example, you're sick, your woman's going to look after you.
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But in certain circumstances, like, if you feel like you're weak in a relationship, that
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person should be able to nurture you and you should be able to do the same thing for the
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A lot of women don't submit nowadays, and that's the truth.
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There's a lot of women, especially of this generation, everything that's going on with
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social media, like you said, a lot of women do not know how to submit.
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I think when I was 16, 17, I don't think I knew how to submit.
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I mean, I love my Instagram and I, you know, that's where I network and do my music and
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But if I was with somebody that I felt that secure with and happy with and we're building
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a life together and I ask him to do something he doesn't mind, why not?
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Well, I think the issue that I get into, or I see a lot as women think we submit, but
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it's really conditional submission because it's only when he's leading perfectly.
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But that's, but like when you were saying earlier, oh, he stopped leading, you know,
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it's like, is he only supposed to love you when you're being perfect?
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It's about, it's about, there's a lot of things, there's a lot of aspects into having
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If you're waking up happy, if you're waking up unhappy every day, then I don't see why
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But that's, I mean, that's what both men and women.
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So, so I think we live in a society that's very self-centered and everything's about us.
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And I think especially women, we've gotten a ton of attention from the time we were like
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14, 15 years old when we got on social media, you know, or whenever, right?
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Because we got Facebook, we got, and so you're immediately given all this attention from men,
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And I think this has kind of made us brainwashed to think we're more important than we are.
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And I think we think our opinion matters more than it does.
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I'm not saying our opinion doesn't matter at all, but I don't think, I think couples that
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really made it 50, 60 years, they weren't concerned about happiness.
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I think they were concerned about duty and playing your role.
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But now we've been told it's about me, me, me and my happiness.
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And I think that should be last, especially when you got kids.
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I feel like that is due now, because if you look at it, social media has given so many
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I feel like social media is definitely a bigger part to play in it.
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And I also have to blame Disney because Cinderella, Snow White, Mulan, we all know how it's gone.
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It's been pushing our faces to have that fairy tale.
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But I feel like where we go wrong is, realistically, everyone deserves happiness.
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Why would you want to be in a situation where it's a shit show?
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Well, I think a lot of times women don't even know what makes us happy.
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And no, no, seriously, because we think very short term.
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And is getting pumped and dumped a couple, you know, by the top guys really going to make
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The last hundred years, we've had more choice than ever.
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A hundred years ago, 85% of us were virgins on our wedding days.
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A hundred years ago, even, even let's just say the women were liars, right?
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That's still two out of three that waited till they were married, got married young,
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And so it's like, what has us choosing done for us, for our happiness?
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When we follow our hearts, it's like, we're led to destruction.