JustPearlyThings - October 23, 2023


This Iranian Lady BLAMED Her Country For Ruining Her Childhood

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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In this episode, we are joined by a very special guest, an Iranian-born British expat living in the UK. We talk about racism in Iran, the importance of being proud of your culture and what it means to be Iranian.

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00:00:00.000 But in Iran, nobody is.
00:00:01.420 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:00:03.760 It's like, honestly, I was so lucky that nobody in my family, like, better than I lived.
00:00:10.500 But Iranians are, like, it is, it is, you know. 1.00
00:00:14.480 I'm glad Mandana is here.
00:00:16.120 So I have so much been missing.
00:00:17.840 Ellie, how old were you when you came to the UK?
00:00:20.460 22.
00:00:21.380 Yeah, see, so that's the culture that you've grown up with.
00:00:24.200 She was brainwashed with that.
00:00:25.820 What do you think?
00:00:26.700 What do you think about the culture? 1.00
00:00:27.800 I was so stupid. 0.99
00:00:29.460 No, I was, I was really, I mean, um, and that's why I sometimes I feel like, um, I'm not trying to blame it on my parents. 0.99
00:00:38.500 I'm not trying to blame it on the culture, but obviously that's the place I grew up.
00:00:42.540 So I have to blame it on that.
00:00:44.000 We should blame it on that.
00:00:44.760 We should blame it on that.
00:00:45.080 That's what it is.
00:00:45.580 We should definitely blame it on that.
00:00:46.460 But you, you know, you, you, what do you think about, you know, black men, when you say black men, what do you think about it?
00:00:51.540 I never even thought about it because obviously that when I was living in Iran, I hardly see any black guy.
00:00:58.800 But when you came here, when you came here, what do you think about it?
00:01:02.760 When I came here, so obviously we didn't have conversation when I came here, but then I was looking around because obviously England is very, um, diverse.
00:01:11.680 It's very multicultural and I think one of the reasons I started to learn before learning from Neda is living in the country with diversity.
00:01:21.240 What did you, so the, earlier you were talking about like fat acceptance too.
00:01:26.520 That was something your daughter, was that something your daughter taught you?
00:01:29.340 So I think, um, she makes me aware, she maybe, in terms of the word, maybe not teaching is the right word, but she makes me think twice.
00:01:40.460 She makes me think about what I'm saying.
00:01:42.540 She makes me think about what I believe and my culture. 1.00
00:01:46.040 And I kind of feel like, oh, my culture was shit. 0.99
00:01:48.840 I don't like my culture, I don't want to be like, I don't want to be traditional Persian. 1.00
00:01:53.580 It's not just about black people, by the way.
00:01:55.140 Iranians just, I don't know, because of the Persian Empire or whatever.
00:01:57.460 No, we, yeah, exactly.
00:01:58.260 We think like, we say about the Jews, about, sorry? 0.98
00:02:01.920 Our current partner's not Iranian.
00:02:03.080 No, he's English.
00:02:03.900 Yeah, he's English.
00:02:04.400 But my husband was Iranian and Mandana is right. 1.00
00:02:08.200 There is loads of conversation about like Jewish people in Iran.
00:02:12.420 Am I right, Mandana?
00:02:13.340 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean, it's the Greeks, the Jews, they're like, it's, yeah, so it's not only, it's not only one, just there is this, there is this arrogance in the Iranian culture, obviously not like individuals, but just in the culture of we're the best, we did this, unfortunately, but I feel like it's, it's, it's, um, it's, it's a little sad to me that you don't see anything to be proud of from your culture.
00:02:39.080 You don't, it doesn't seem like you find anything to be proud of from your culture.
00:02:42.100 Okay, I do.
00:02:43.100 Yeah, no, I, I do proud, I, I don't think I've heard you say like one positive, and I understand a lot of that's negative.
00:02:48.600 No, because we were talking about the racism, that sort of things, I'm not proud at all, and I'm going to say it, I'm saying it.
00:02:56.400 The Persian Empire did a lot, I mean, King Cyrus the Great, it was the first, he wrote the first declaration of human rights was written in Persia, before that there was no human rights, there was no declaration of it, and freed slaves, and, um, I don't know,
00:03:12.080 we owned like 52% of the world, and we, I say, the Persian Empire did, and, um, it was, you know, letting people choose their religion and all of that, so there's a lot of good that's in our culture, but also don't forget, we, uh, there was a revolution, how many years ago?
00:03:28.080 I don't know.
00:03:29.080 What is, what is your, um, what is your relationship with your ex-husband?
00:03:33.080 Right now?
00:03:34.080 Yeah, no, like, how does, like, does he also learn from your daughter too, do you think?
00:03:39.080 Yeah.
00:03:40.080 Oh yeah.
00:03:41.080 You know what she has?
00:03:42.080 She has like, um, anger management with her dad, because she said to me, Mommy, I think daddy needs, um, anger management, and I'm doing it with him, I'm teaching him, when she's, when he's angry, he doesn't know what he's saying, he just quickly saying it.
00:03:57.080 And she, he's really upsetting me, and I know he doesn't mean to do that, but because he's angry, he just let it out.
00:04:04.080 So, and I think my ex really listening to her, and I think she's got a really, you know, good impact on, on both of us.
00:04:12.080 It sounds like it, which is good.
00:04:13.080 Yeah, yeah, that's why I...
00:04:14.080 I wanted to ask you, was there an element of discomfort for you, when you go with your current partner, because obviously he's not Iranian, he's black either.
00:04:22.080 As, as you said, I, I might come across that I'm not proud of my culture.
00:04:27.080 There's another side of me that I'm such a proud Persian girl, because I think Iranian people are the most, uh, friendliest and kindest, and you know, they're, they're always looking on a positive side of things.
00:04:41.080 They're always looking for a, enjoy every moment.
00:04:44.080 And I, I, I think there are so many good qualities in Iranian, which I, if I want to talk about it, it's a lot.
00:04:51.080 But because...
00:04:52.080 And you're in like the most like popular Iranian TV, um, aren't you? TV, TV channel.
00:04:59.080 You saw it on TV?
00:05:00.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:01.080 You saw it on TV?
00:05:02.080 You saw it on TV?
00:05:03.080 It is, it is like, it is literally like the most popular.
00:05:05.080 What's the name of the channel?
00:05:06.080 Yeah, man.
00:05:07.080 What is it?
00:05:08.080 Manator.
00:05:09.080 Manator.
00:05:10.080 Yeah.
00:05:11.080 You're dancing on there.
00:05:12.080 It's in London.
00:05:13.080 I do, I do dancing and a bit of it.
00:05:14.080 I want to see a bit.
00:05:15.080 TV presenting.
00:05:16.080 Yeah, dancing is good.
00:05:17.080 Yeah, there's a lot of good stuff.
00:05:18.080 So what else, um, what did you guys think about the clip that we watched about competing?
00:05:23.080 Um, again, it's just that narrative, that narrative that's just triggered by the
00:05:29.060 these words.
00:05:30.060 Oh, I'm degrading myself if I have to compete.
00:05:32.060 It's just the truth.
00:05:33.060 I do like that.
00:05:34.060 Your actions and your words are just not in alignment, you know?
00:05:38.060 Um, so it's more than that.
00:05:40.060 But she seemed like a nice girl, man.
00:05:42.060 It wasn't like one of the really argumentative.
00:05:44.060 Yeah, she wasn't.
00:05:45.060 Yeah.
00:05:46.060 Yeah, so, and he wasn't going too hard maybe because he was aware of that, you know?
00:05:49.060 But I think he's the go anyway, so, you know.
00:05:51.060 Yeah, he is.
00:05:52.060 R.I.P.K.S.
00:05:53.060 My guy.
00:05:54.060 Yeah.
00:05:55.060 No, I agree.
00:05:56.060 Yeah, I mean, there is competition.
00:05:58.060 There is whether we like it or not.
00:05:59.060 You do have to compete.
00:06:00.060 Yeah.
00:06:01.060 Women and men have to compete. 0.98
00:06:02.060 We have to compete in different ways, but we still have to compete.
00:06:05.060 We still have to compete.
00:06:06.060 Because if, say for example, she's in a relationship now, and then she gains a bunch...
00:06:11.060 the person that she was when she gets into the relationship, and then she changes in a negative
00:06:16.060 way, then if the man looks elsewhere, is that his fault?
00:06:21.060 Is that her fault?
00:06:22.060 Why do we have songs like, I don't cook, I don't clean, implying that women don't have 1.00
00:06:28.060 to do anything but be themselves.
00:06:29.060 Who sings that?
00:06:30.060 Cardi B.
00:06:31.060 Yeah, I don't listen to Cardi B. Like, women should not really work. 1.00
00:06:33.060 The kind of money she's got, she should get made, didn't it?
00:06:36.060 What?
00:06:37.060 Yeah, I don't listen to Cardi B. I suppose it applies to her, isn't it?
00:06:42.060 But yeah, but then obviously that message, you know, gets transmitted to people who aren't
00:06:48.060 in a position.
00:06:49.060 And then they end up in their 40s and 50s, like, I'm happy, I'm kind of, you know, it's
00:06:52.060 my cool name.
00:06:53.060 But sure you are.
00:06:54.060 She says she don't cook, she don't clean, but let me tell you how I got this ring.
00:06:57.060 And then Meg comes in talking all the sexual stuff. 1.00
00:07:00.060 Oh, she wants that WAP. 0.98
00:07:01.060 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:07:02.060 So it's like...
00:07:03.060 I never listen to her like that.
00:07:04.060 I bet she does cook and clean. 1.00
00:07:05.060 I bet she's lying.
00:07:06.060 Of course she does.
00:07:07.060 No, and that's the crazy part, is they're lying.
00:07:10.060 Cardi B just talked about how she was going to step away from her rap career to spend more
00:07:14.060 time with her family.
00:07:15.060 Yeah.
00:07:16.060 And it's the same thing with Beyonce.
00:07:17.060 Like, why do they keep lying to women? 0.98
00:07:19.060 Because it sells.
00:07:20.060 Make money with her just making money. 0.78
00:07:21.060 Like, all the single ladies, she says, if she runs back to her. 0.92
00:07:25.060 Yeah.
00:07:26.060 How long has she been single? 0.97
00:07:27.060 Exactly.
00:07:28.060 Yeah.
00:07:29.060 I don't even believe that story.
00:07:30.060 That's the other thing.
00:07:31.060 Why?
00:07:32.060 I don't really listen to female artists. 1.00
00:07:33.060 I'm not going to lie.
00:07:34.060 I don't really.
00:07:35.060 Apart from the old school, like Aretha Franklin.
00:07:36.060 Ooh, question.
00:07:37.060 Would you give up monogamy for a man? 1.00
00:07:40.060 Give up what?
00:07:41.060 Monogamy.
00:07:42.060 What is that?
00:07:43.060 Like, he cheats.
00:07:46.060 For a guy that you, like, for the right man.
00:07:48.060 Yeah, no.
00:07:49.060 I'm way too...
00:07:50.060 For me?
00:07:51.060 No.
00:07:52.060 Yeah, no.
00:07:53.060 I don't think I can trust that guy again.
00:07:55.060 No?
00:07:56.060 I'm too jealous. 1.00
00:07:57.060 I'll kill people. 0.99
00:07:58.060 I'm sorry. 1.00
00:07:59.060 Are you monogamous now?
00:08:00.060 Yes.
00:08:01.060 I am.
00:08:02.060 Yeah, but...
00:08:03.060 So, in a way, it's like, in a way, aren't you not monogamous now?
00:08:09.060 Like, a situationship, it's not monogamous.
00:08:11.060 Like, usually the girl is monogamous, but the guy isn't.
00:08:14.060 So, it's funny.
00:08:15.060 No, it's funny.
00:08:16.060 Let's say those girlfriends were... 1.00
00:08:17.060 I had to make this...
00:08:18.060 Girlfriends.
00:08:19.060 I had to have this, like, thought too.
00:08:20.060 But it's like, if you've ever been in a situationship, in a way, you're sharing a guy.
00:08:25.060 She's really thinking about it now.
00:08:27.060 Yeah.
00:08:28.060 Mm-hmm.
00:08:29.060 But I'm not in...
00:08:30.060 I wouldn't be in a, like, committed relationship with someone.
00:08:33.060 Mm-hmm.
00:08:34.060 And it's like, yeah, it's us.
00:08:35.060 Mm-hmm.
00:08:36.060 And, um...
00:08:38.060 And then be okay with him sleeping with anyone else.
00:08:41.060 Would you be in a fruckle?
00:08:42.060 Yeah, it doesn't mean okay.
00:08:43.060 I didn't say okay with it, but what about accept it?
00:08:45.060 No.
00:08:46.060 You'd accept it.
00:08:47.060 Even if I wanted to, like, I don't, like, I don't judge other people who do.
00:08:50.060 Mm-hmm.
00:08:51.060 Maybe I would like to want to, but I'm telling you, like, someone would die.
00:08:54.060 I...
00:08:55.060 I think...
00:08:56.060 I think most girls would for the right guy.
00:08:58.060 Accept it.
00:08:59.060 I'm not saying would like it.
00:09:00.060 But here's the thing about me.
00:09:01.060 I'm not saying they might go crazy.
00:09:03.060 Okay, here's the thing about me.
00:09:04.060 I am a little bit oblivious, because I'm very much in my own...
00:09:07.060 I always say I've never been cheated of, not that I know of.
00:09:10.060 Maybe I have.
00:09:11.060 I'm so oblivious.
00:09:12.060 Like, I would not check a man's phone. 1.00
00:09:15.060 I mean, if he did cheat, and he would be so dumb for me to find.
00:09:20.060 Like, I don't check a man's phone or, like, stalk him. 0.78
00:09:24.060 But I think you will, probably.
00:09:26.060 But if I did find out, if I did find out, like, if I walked in on him with someone else,
00:09:31.060 I'd...
00:09:32.060 Honestly, I don't think I would accept it.
00:09:34.060 Mm-hmm.
00:09:35.060 I would like to be like, why, like, why did you do that? 1.00
00:09:38.060 Because men like to fuck. 1.00
00:09:39.060 Yeah, but I would do that four days straight. 1.00
00:09:42.060 I would.
00:09:43.060 I don't know why most women say no. 1.00
00:09:45.060 Like, why wouldn't you?
00:09:46.060 I had one of my friends.
00:09:47.060 He was like, I really... 1.00
00:09:48.060 Men like to fuck new girls. 1.00
00:09:50.060 Like, multiple, you know. 1.00
00:09:52.060 But what if he was like...
00:09:53.060 Not all of them, you know.
00:09:54.060 I tell you, like, I coach a lot of men.
00:09:56.060 I coach a lot of men.
00:09:58.060 No.
00:09:59.060 No.
00:10:00.060 Not all men. 0.61
00:10:01.060 Not all men. 0.61
00:10:02.060 Okay, I have a question. 1.00
00:10:03.060 Like to fuck different women. 1.00
00:10:04.060 I have a question. 1.00
00:10:05.060 And go through the whole thing of meeting a new woman.
00:10:07.060 And no.
00:10:08.060 No, okay.
00:10:09.060 I have a question.
00:10:10.060 Do you think most men, if they're in, like, Tiger Woods position?
00:10:13.060 Because I actually...
00:10:14.060 No, I used to think like you.
00:10:15.060 I used to think like you.
00:10:16.060 I used to think, oh, they would never...
00:10:17.060 Like, I know these guys that would never cheat.
00:10:19.060 But it's like, most of those guys aren't in the position where women are chasing them down.
00:10:24.060 And hunting them down.
00:10:25.060 I don't know.
00:10:26.060 I've seen those guys.
00:10:27.060 And some of them don't.
00:10:28.060 Yeah.
00:10:29.060 Not everyone.
00:10:30.060 I've literally seen those guys.
00:10:32.060 I've hung out with those guys.
00:10:33.060 I've got a lot of male friends.
00:10:35.060 And they...
00:10:36.060 I mean, there are exceptions.
00:10:38.060 There are exceptions.
00:10:39.060 But I just don't think it's the rule.
00:10:40.060 Yeah, but then I wouldn't go out with somebody like in...
00:10:42.060 That's why I wouldn't go out with a footballer even if I could.
00:10:44.060 I mean, when I was younger, I could.
00:10:45.060 But I wouldn't.
00:10:47.060 Why would you want to go out with a guy who does have women throwing themselves on him all the time? 1.00
00:10:52.060 Like, why would you?
00:10:53.060 Like she said about pre-selection.
00:10:54.060 But then I was going to say now, like, if the guy, high value, whatever, whatever, you're kept.
00:10:59.060 You don't have to worry about anything.
00:11:00.060 You can just play football all day and then come home and do four days straight.
00:11:04.060 Yeah.
00:11:05.060 And then on the fifth day, he's with Becky from the local ball pit.
00:11:09.060 No, we're done.
00:11:10.060 What is it that...
00:11:11.060 Becky with a good hair.
00:11:12.060 Really? That sounds like a pretty good life.
00:11:14.060 No.
00:11:15.060 You're telling me so...
00:11:16.060 You're 42.
00:11:17.060 You have a daughter.
00:11:18.060 I don't care.
00:11:19.060 And now you get to just be a stay-at-home wife just once a week. 1.00
00:11:21.060 You just made me think, no.
00:11:23.060 Just once a week.
00:11:24.060 He's good looking.
00:11:25.060 We're going to have to get the police up here again.
00:11:27.060 Definitely.
00:11:28.060 You're not going to have to get the police...
00:11:30.060 No.
00:11:31.060 No.
00:11:32.060 That's like...
00:11:33.060 That's what I'm saying.
00:11:34.060 Like my...
00:11:35.060 No.
00:11:36.060 Okay.
00:11:38.060 I feel like...
00:11:39.060 I would be too jealous.
00:11:40.060 I would...
00:11:41.060 I am way too...
00:11:43.060 Probably arrogant to...
00:11:45.060 No.
00:11:46.060 I wouldn't accept that.
00:11:47.060 But what if you listen to what he had to say?
00:11:49.060 Remember what you said before about listening?
00:11:51.060 Yeah.
00:11:52.060 But if he needs new...
00:11:54.060 Whatever.
00:11:55.060 Like he needs to go and have it.
00:11:56.060 Like I...
00:11:57.060 No.
00:11:58.060 I can't live with that.
00:11:59.060 I can't live with that.
00:12:00.060 I'm also...
00:12:01.060 Listen.
00:12:02.060 I'm also a germaphobe.
00:12:03.060 You weren't here.
00:12:04.060 How I was cleaning this.
00:12:05.060 That is the other thing.
00:12:06.060 Like...
00:12:07.060 I can't...
00:12:08.060 Even if I could get over it emotionally,
00:12:09.060 which I don't think I could,
00:12:10.060 I could not get over the germs
00:12:12.060 and the disgustingness of sleeping around.
00:12:15.060 I cannot tell you how much I couldn't get over that.
00:12:17.060 Yeah.
00:12:18.060 But it's so interesting because in a way,
00:12:20.060 you had a cat...
00:12:21.060 Yeah.
00:12:22.060 I mean, you talked about a casual relationship.
00:12:23.060 So essentially, most women have. 0.99
00:12:26.060 Like essentially you are.
00:12:27.060 You're getting over that now.
00:12:29.060 No.
00:12:30.060 But if I've made a commitment...
00:12:31.060 Yeah.
00:12:32.060 No.
00:12:33.060 That would be different for me.
00:12:35.060 Mm-hmm.
00:12:36.060 What's the difference?
00:12:42.060 The difference would be in...
00:12:44.060 Yeah.
00:12:45.060 There's a commitment.
00:12:46.060 I've given my word.
00:12:47.060 You've given your word.
00:12:48.060 And we're going to be exclusive.
00:12:50.060 Mm-hmm.
00:12:51.060 And then if you go and do that behind my back, no.
00:12:54.060 Mm-hmm.
00:12:55.060 Okay.
00:12:56.060 No, I would want to know why.
00:12:57.060 No, I under...
00:12:58.060 What do you...
00:12:59.060 Why?
00:13:00.060 See, this is like a lack of understanding of guys.
00:13:01.060 Yeah.
00:13:02.060 Do you know what I mean?
00:13:03.060 A hundred percent.
00:13:04.060 I don't get it.
00:13:05.060 I mean, I think even good guys would have a hard time
00:13:07.060 if they're in a position where women are throwing at themselves 1.00
00:13:09.060 at them every day.
00:13:10.060 But I wouldn't be with...
00:13:11.060 Most guys aren't in that...
00:13:12.060 But I wouldn't be with a man.
00:13:13.060 I would not be with a man... 1.00
00:13:14.060 But you're saying you wouldn't.
00:13:15.060 Who's got...
00:13:16.060 You wouldn't.
00:13:17.060 ...women throwing themselves at him all the time. 1.00
00:13:18.060 I wouldn't.
00:13:19.060 But the guy you're with probably is.
00:13:21.060 That's my point.
00:13:22.060 It's like, the guy you're with, he said he's athletic.
00:13:25.060 You said he's got a good job.
00:13:26.060 Yeah.
00:13:27.060 You said he's tall.
00:13:28.060 He probably is in a position where women are throwing themselves at him. 1.00
00:13:31.060 That's like three out of five things that you want most of the time.
00:13:33.060 Yeah.
00:13:34.060 Like...
00:13:35.060 Alright then, I'll forget about him.
00:13:36.060 I will not...
00:13:37.060 Love him.
00:13:38.060 Like, no.
00:13:39.060 Which is...
00:13:40.060 Which is...
00:13:41.060 No, you got me thinking.
00:13:42.060 No.
00:13:43.060 No, I wouldn't.
00:13:44.060 I'll probably actually...
00:13:45.060 You're right.
00:13:46.060 I'll ask him about that.
00:13:48.060 I don't know.
00:13:49.060 So I think me and Mondana...
00:13:50.060 I don't know if that's...
00:13:51.060 I think me and Mondana have so many questions from our partners tonight.
00:13:56.060 No, it's just, I had a guy point this out to me once.
00:13:59.060 Like, women will say they won't accept, like, non-monogamy. 0.99
00:14:03.060 Yet, most women have been in a situationship at some point, which is non-monogamy. 0.95
00:14:07.060 So it's kind of like a double-edged...
00:14:09.060 But I have friends that their husband just cheated on them a few times and they're still living together.
00:14:14.060 Yeah, no.
00:14:15.060 A lot of girls... 0.99
00:14:16.060 Yeah.
00:14:17.060 I mean, think about it.
00:14:18.060 It's like, okay, if you're like 45, right?
00:14:21.060 50.
00:14:22.060 Let's just say 45.
00:14:23.060 And you get into a relationship with a guy or you've been with a guy and you find out he cheated
00:14:28.060 and he pays for everything.
00:14:30.060 It's like, what?
00:14:31.060 So you're gonna leave.
00:14:32.060 What's on the other side?
00:14:33.060 Now you get to work for the next 30, 40 years.
00:14:35.060 And this is why I'm saying...
00:14:37.060 Yeah.
00:14:38.060 That's what I think, like, a man.
00:14:39.060 Like, would a man do that? 0.64
00:14:40.060 Like, that's what I'm saying.
00:14:41.060 What?
00:14:42.060 Would a man stay with a woman who cheated on him? 0.69
00:14:44.060 No chance.
00:14:45.060 No.
00:14:46.060 But cheating is different for men.
00:14:47.060 Yeah.
00:14:48.060 But yeah, that's what I...
00:14:50.060 I think my brain is like a man. 1.00
00:14:51.060 I could not get over that shit. 1.00
00:14:53.060 Like, I am... 1.00
00:14:54.060 No.
00:14:55.060 Yeah.
00:14:56.060 Maybe you couldn't, but...
00:14:57.060 My brain doesn't have that part where it could accept that.
00:14:59.060 I couldn't.
00:15:00.060 But do you see what I'm saying?
00:15:01.060 I think I would go with my calling.
00:15:03.060 No.
00:15:04.060 But you see...
00:15:05.060 You see what I'm saying though, but you're in a situationship now.
00:15:08.060 And so in a way you are accepting it.
00:15:11.060 You think about that.
00:15:12.060 You know what I'm saying?
00:15:13.060 Because it's...
00:15:14.060 It's just like, it's a contradiction because you're saying, I could never accept it.
00:15:18.060 But if you're in a non-monogamous relationship...
00:15:19.060 But I'm not in a relationship.
00:15:20.060 It's a type of relationship, right?
00:15:21.060 Situationship.
00:15:22.060 It's a situationship.
00:15:23.060 I'm not trying to shame you for it.
00:15:24.060 No, no, it's fine.
00:15:25.060 I think it's really common.
00:15:26.060 No, I'm getting what you're saying.
00:15:27.060 And that's why I'm going to end it.
00:15:28.060 Thank you very much.
00:15:29.060 No, I know she's not saying to do that.
00:15:30.060 No, I know she's not saying it.
00:15:31.060 She just got me thinking.
00:15:32.060 Yeah.
00:15:33.060 Don't jump to conclusions.
00:15:34.060 Yeah.
00:15:35.060 I'm very impulsive.
00:15:36.060 It's just interesting how I'll talk to girls about this and they'll be like, no, I would 1.00
00:15:47.060 never, I would never accept that.
00:15:49.060 And then a lot of those same girls are in situationships. 1.00
00:15:53.060 And if you're in a situationship...
00:15:54.060 No, I'm saying I don't think I could.
00:15:56.060 I don't think I could.
00:15:57.060 I would like to be one of those girls.
00:15:59.060 I don't think I physically could do it.
00:16:02.060 I honestly don't think I have it in me.
00:16:05.060 I saw that foot woman. 1.00
00:16:06.060 It is.
00:16:07.060 It's the high testosterone.
00:16:08.060 I don't think I have it in me.
00:16:09.060 No, I mean, you're not.
00:16:10.060 That's common.
00:16:11.060 But it's again, it's still a contradiction because you are, you know, so you have it in
00:16:18.060 you.
00:16:19.060 You know, no, because I don't know.
00:16:22.060 You don't know if he's...
00:16:24.060 Yeah, if I knew.
00:16:25.060 That's what I'm saying.
00:16:26.060 I'm very oblivious.
00:16:27.060 I don't, I don't stalk men.
00:16:29.060 I don't check the phone.
00:16:30.060 I don't like...
00:16:31.060 I don't...
00:16:32.060 Would you look the other...
00:16:33.060 What about if you just looked the other way?
00:16:35.060 And you know he might, but...
00:16:37.060 No.
00:16:38.060 I would say 80% he isn't, but then I don't know.
00:16:46.060 What do you mean?
00:16:47.060 I have reason to believe he isn't, but I don't know 100% he might be.
00:16:53.060 You just trust in it.
00:16:55.060 No, it's not even trust.
00:16:56.060 It's like...
00:16:57.060 No, it's not even trust.
00:16:59.060 It's just, I'm just looking at the reality and putting...
00:17:02.060 Yeah.
00:17:03.060 And I don't think he would be, but he could be.
00:17:07.060 Could be.
00:17:08.060 But if I did see it or if I had evidence or if I did even think, no, he probably is.
00:17:14.060 No, I would...
00:17:15.060 Just ask him.
00:17:16.060 I would step away.
00:17:17.060 If he doesn't care about you, he's going to tell you the truth.
00:17:20.060 I asked him kind of four or five months in and he said he wasn't.
00:17:27.060 But I haven't asked him recently.
00:17:29.060 Oh.
00:17:30.060 But you said that the headache that he gave him was within six months and then four or five months
00:17:34.060 that you asked him if he's sleeping with anyone else.
00:17:36.060 So yeah, maybe after I gave him my headache.
00:17:39.060 You never know.
00:17:40.060 But you said you were not in relationship with him.
00:17:42.060 No.
00:17:43.060 But she's saying I'm still in a situation ship.
00:17:46.060 But do you agree that you're in a situation ship?
00:17:49.060 Oh yeah, I am in a situation.
00:17:51.060 A ship.
00:17:52.060 A ship.
00:17:53.060 A ship.
00:17:54.060 It's a ship.
00:17:55.060 Do you know...
00:17:56.060 Do you know it to be true that he isn't sleeping with anyone else?
00:17:59.060 I don't know 100%, no.
00:18:01.060 Okay.
00:18:02.060 You guys are trying to break up these relationships.
00:18:04.060 Yeah.
00:18:05.060 We have a case that people are examining.
00:18:07.060 It just so happens that Mandana is the case.
00:18:10.060 Yeah, but it's good the point she's making.
00:18:12.060 I get it.
00:18:13.060 And I 100% like agree, like...
00:18:18.060 But that's why I don't judge.
00:18:20.060 I don't think women who stay with their men with children, I don't think, 0.99
00:18:22.060 oh my God, you should leave him.
00:18:24.060 I don't.
00:18:25.060 You know what's interesting?
00:18:26.060 We had a guy who he talked about that he would break up with girls.
00:18:34.060 Because he just felt like he couldn't stay faithful to them.
00:18:38.060 Like he just couldn't do it.
00:18:39.060 No, no, no.
00:18:40.060 And this is a dude that paid for everything.
00:18:41.060 He like 100% would take care of the bills.
00:18:43.060 And...
00:18:44.060 The...
00:18:45.060 And he ended up like marrying this last girl because she said she could accept it.
00:18:52.060 And that girl on Dona, I mean, she ended up winning when you think about it
00:18:56.060 because she got the deed to the house.
00:18:58.060 She got the...
00:18:59.060 Well, if that's your game.
00:19:00.060 Yeah.
00:19:01.060 I mean, I guess when you do have your own money, I guess that maybe that's what...
00:19:06.060 It doesn't appeal to me.
00:19:07.060 It doesn't mean anything to me for him to pay for everything.
00:19:09.060 Well, I'm pretty okay.
00:19:10.060 It would be nice to be paid for everything and then you can just buy new football boots and stuff.
00:19:14.060 No, I'd rather have him to myself.
00:19:15.060 I'd rather have him to myself.
00:19:16.060 I think it's...
00:19:17.060 It depends what is important for that.
00:19:19.060 For that.
00:19:20.060 Yeah, for me, it's more important to have him to myself than have him paid for my bills.
00:19:22.060 But even if it's just looks like a guy you're really attracted to, even if it's height...
00:19:26.060 He's buff.
00:19:27.060 He's buff.
00:19:28.060 You know, I mean, most...
00:19:29.060 I mean, either way, most guys that you want, there aren't enough, like, more women want them. 0.90
00:19:35.060 Yeah.
00:19:36.060 You know, it's usually not just you.
00:19:37.060 Yeah, no, 100%.
00:19:38.060 I say that to him.
00:19:39.060 I was like, I bet all your female friends won't sleep with you 100%. 0.98
00:19:44.060 Okay, I think we're going to close out.
00:19:46.060 Oh, I didn't realize how late it is, Jesus.
00:19:48.060 Okay, why don't you guys give me your final thoughts, so starting here and then go around.
00:19:52.060 This is, you can plug any social media, anything, any final things you want to say.
00:19:57.060 I'm starting here.
00:19:58.060 About what?
00:19:59.060 Sorry.
00:20:00.060 Final thoughts.
00:20:01.060 Final thoughts.
00:20:02.060 Final thoughts.
00:20:03.060 About anything, the show.
00:20:05.060 About the show.
00:20:06.060 So the funny thing is I've been to obviously different shows and I love cameras and I've been different cameras and stuff.
00:20:15.060 But this is my first experience with podcasting.
00:20:19.060 And I find it amazing because I think when you talk about things and it's one of those environment is very exclusive
00:20:26.060 that you can feel and I feel so, you know, you're so easy and, you know, make us feel so at home that you feel like you can talk about it.
00:20:35.060 And you're quite challenging.
00:20:36.060 You challenge me quite well and I find it difficult.
00:20:40.060 But from the other side, I find it amazing because you made me think about so many things and you all with the conversation I never thought before.
00:20:50.060 And I kind of, you kind of make me aware of actually, and tonight probably when I'm going to bed, I'm going to think, oh, when she asked me that question, that's interesting.
00:20:58.060 Actually, I am this or I am that or maybe I'm not comfortable talking about this and that.
00:21:03.060 So for me, it was like a wonderful experience.
00:21:05.060 It was just thank you for having me.
00:21:07.060 Thanks for coming.
00:21:08.060 Thank you.
00:21:09.060 Yeah.
00:21:10.060 Overall, I'm well aware of, you know, your work and stuff.
00:21:14.060 And yeah, grateful to be on here.
00:21:17.060 My friend told me, do you want to come on?
00:21:19.060 I thought he was joking.
00:21:20.060 So I jumped at the opportunity.
00:21:22.060 Yeah.
00:21:23.060 Let's, let's do a bit of plug in.
00:21:25.060 Yeah.
00:21:26.060 So AM Alpha Mike Global Letts, a property management company.
00:21:31.060 So holla at me for all you landlords out there that need your properties managed.
00:21:36.060 And yeah, thanks for having us on the show, pal, man.
00:21:39.060 Absolute pleasure.
00:21:40.060 Thank you.
00:21:41.060 Do you mind if I add my Instagram?
00:21:42.060 Yeah, go ahead.
00:21:43.060 Go on, go.
00:21:44.060 It's move like Ellie.
00:21:45.060 So move underscore like underscore Ellie. 0.97
00:21:48.060 Ellie is E-double-L. 0.97
00:21:49.060 Ellie is E-double-L-I-E. 0.99
00:21:54.060 It's been great being here.
00:21:55.060 It was lovely meeting everyone except for that little scenario there.
00:22:02.060 But at least it was entertaining.
00:22:04.060 And yeah, thank you all for coming except her.
00:22:10.060 Yeah.
00:22:11.060 No, it's really, it's really great like being with you.
00:22:15.060 Like I've, I've seen, obviously I've seen you on YouTube and that.
00:22:18.060 And, um, um, it's just been really great.
00:22:22.060 Just everything that we spoke about.
00:22:23.060 And thank you for just the opportunity.
00:22:25.060 I love, I love, uh, giving my opinions.
00:22:28.060 So it was great to just be here and be able to, um, give some opinions.
00:22:32.060 And I really hope, I hope it makes a difference to the younger generation from our mistakes.
00:22:37.060 The older generation.
00:22:39.060 Yeah.
00:22:40.060 Thank you for coming.
00:22:41.060 Yeah.
00:22:42.060 Thank you.
00:22:43.060 Um, it's been a great experience.
00:22:44.060 Um, great conversation.
00:22:46.060 Great meeting everyone.
00:22:47.060 Hope to do it again.
00:22:49.060 Thank you for the opportunity.
00:22:50.060 It's time to go home.
00:22:51.060 Thank you for having us.
00:22:52.060 I think this is the most diverse.
00:22:54.060 Was anyone here born in England?
00:22:55.060 You?
00:22:56.060 No.
00:22:57.060 No.
00:22:58.060 I was born in Greece.
00:22:59.060 This is like the most diverse panel I've ever had.
00:23:02.060 I think everyone, was anyone born in the same country?
00:23:04.060 No.
00:23:05.060 No.
00:23:06.060 Everyone was born.
00:23:07.060 Both from Iran.
00:23:08.060 Yeah.
00:23:09.060 Me and Ellie were born in Iran.
00:23:10.060 Oh, okay.
00:23:11.060 Okay.
00:23:12.060 Yeah.
00:23:13.060 I think only was the.
00:23:14.060 Oh, the one that left.
00:23:15.060 She was born in England.
00:23:16.060 To be honest, Mondana was a good backup for me.
00:23:19.060 That's why she had to go because she was born in England.
00:23:22.060 Yeah.
00:23:23.060 She was the only one up north.
00:23:24.060 But it was a pleasure to be here.
00:23:25.060 Thank you so much.
00:23:26.060 Thank you guys for coming.
00:23:27.060 Um, guys, like the video on your way out.
00:23:29.060 Of course.
00:23:30.060 I'm going to read this last, um, super chats before we end the show.
00:23:33.060 I think there's just like one or two.
00:23:35.060 Um, also guys, a big shout out to security for keeping us safe from crazy.
00:23:40.060 Come on.
00:23:41.060 Um, also guys, um, we're going to be doing a meetup soon in England.
00:23:47.060 So if you want to come to one of our meetups, make sure you sign up for the Google form.
00:23:51.060 Um, so you are, um, you know, notified when we do do that, that should be in the chat.
00:23:58.060 I think Doug usually shares it.
00:24:00.060 Um, okay.
00:24:01.060 Uh, I can't read your username, but from one security guard to another great job.
00:24:06.060 I am the same way.
00:24:07.060 I don't care for waterworks when I do my job.
00:24:09.060 You deserve a tip.
00:24:10.060 It would be nice to work together one day, maybe one day in the USA.
00:24:13.060 By the way, my name is Ivan Carlos.
00:24:15.060 Norm McDonald's broke the Tiger Woods cheating down.
00:24:18.060 Um, Joey, bless her heart.
00:24:20.060 10 minutes in the episode and a guest is already, um, trying to compare her personal circle experience to the majority.
00:24:26.060 And is already missing the point of the topic.
00:24:29.060 Manny, also first generation, um, warning label, TY Pods. 0.64
00:24:33.060 Um, Walt as a six foot six figure Gen Z man. 0.78
00:24:36.060 I refuse to date over the age of 28.
00:24:38.060 One year minimum, um, dating and engagement at 30.
00:24:41.060 Fertility drops off too much.
00:24:43.060 Manny F. 0.52
00:24:44.060 Whoop, whoop.
00:24:45.060 That's the sound of the police.
00:24:46.060 Um, Morrell.
00:24:47.060 All you gotta do is play the video back.
00:24:49.060 Okay.
00:24:50.060 Um, I think that's all the announcements I really have.
00:24:53.060 Um, oh, we're doing a show Saturday.
00:24:57.060 So tune in Saturday for our next show.
00:24:59.060 Um, we're next week.
00:25:01.060 We're going to try to move the podcast an hour earlier.
00:25:03.060 So we're not up as late.
00:25:04.060 So, um, expect it to start around eight.
00:25:07.060 We're hoping.
00:25:08.060 So like the video on your way out guys, subscribe to the channel and I'll talk to you next time.
00:25:13.060 What up guys?
00:25:14.060 Welcome to the just pearly things YouTube channel and welcome to the pregame.
00:25:20.060 I actually agree with you.
00:25:26.060 I think they do do it for the men, but it's like sexual tension.
00:25:29.060 It's not relationship attention.
00:25:30.060 So you can kind of do a cheat code.
00:25:32.060 You can go get a BBL, get a nice body and you do get more attention from men than if you're flat, right?
00:25:36.060 But it's not the attention.
00:25:37.060 But here's the thing though.
00:25:38.060 It's not the attention you want.
00:25:40.060 No, no, but listen though.
00:25:41.060 But it goes so deeper though, because I know who you're talking about and she has a great body.
00:25:47.060 Yeah.
00:25:48.060 So you got to think about how far down deep that she is within watching the Instagram models,
00:25:53.060 within watching the Cosmopolitan magazine.
00:25:55.060 She explained it.
00:25:56.060 She explained it.
00:25:57.060 That her great body doesn't look good to a man.
00:26:00.060 But you think that men have higher standards for women,
00:26:03.060 not that the men have the higher standards they have to live up to, just to clarify.
00:26:06.060 I think men have higher standards for women. 0.63
00:26:08.060 For women.
00:26:09.060 For women.
00:26:10.060 So like the women have higher beauty standards to meet. 1.00
00:26:11.060 Yes.
00:26:12.060 And that's what's making women feel like they need to comply with these standards. 1.00
00:26:17.060 Who's pickier, men or women?
00:26:19.060 Men.
00:26:20.060 Women are more complacent than men. 1.00
00:26:23.060 Or more complacent?
00:26:24.060 Yeah.
00:26:25.060 I think they accept more than men.
00:26:26.060 Do you think men are very like, if they've got a certain standard, they're more rigid than women. 1.00
00:26:31.060 Do you think men are pickier than women? 0.99
00:26:33.060 100%.
00:26:34.060 Definitely.
00:26:35.060 But they will not marry it.
00:26:36.060 They will not settle down with somebody with a fake old lips, the eyebrows.
00:26:39.060 And if they do it, it ain't gonna last. 0.99
00:26:41.060 So I done an OnlyFans, but it wasn't like vagina, boobs, it was lingerie, yeah, boobs, whatever. 0.98
00:26:48.060 I done it and when I finished it, I felt very degraded. 0.94
00:26:51.060 I felt very like, why did I actually do that?
00:26:53.060 Now I know there's girls out there who do that, they don't feel that way. 0.76
00:26:55.060 That is perfectly fine.
00:26:56.060 You do you, you feel the way you feel.
00:26:58.060 But me personally, like in the future, like when I have kids and all in the future,
00:27:03.060 and if my kids found out about that, they'll probably get bullied in school.
00:27:06.060 People will be like, oh, you're a man doing this, you're a man doing that,
00:27:08.060 and you're a man as well.
00:27:09.060 He's not going to, if you don't respect yourself and you're selling your body online,
00:27:12.060 I can't speak for everyone, I can just speak for myself.
00:27:15.060 If you're selling your body online like that, there's not a high respect for yourself.
00:27:33.060 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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