This Is A LIE Told To Modern Men
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the differences between men and women when it comes to emotional stability. Who do you think is more emotionally unstable, men or women? Do you think women are more emotionally stable or are men emotionally unstable?
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Who do you think is more emotionally unstable, men or women?
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I would have said women before, but I feel like maybe.
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Yeah, men don't really like to show how they're feeling compared to women.
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But don't you think that's just how men process emotions?
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Like they process emotions differently than women?
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Because we always make it sound like a bad thing that men don't talk to each other
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But I just think they process emotions differently.
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But it's like sometimes we try to make them into women by being like process the emotions
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I think they need to because there is a lot of men that have mental health at the moment.
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So I think they do need to be able to talk about their feelings.
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Honestly, because women throw stuff in your face later.
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And then what they do is they'll throw something in your face and then they'll add lies to it.
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So it'll be kind of true, but kind of not true.
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I mean, I didn't say 100% of women, but I'm just saying if I had a balance of probabilities
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and I had 10 guys and 10 girls, I would say that women are more likely to do that.
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The other problem is I don't think women find it very attractive when guys are emotionally vulnerable,
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I mean, I think because when I was growing up, it was said, you know, people were starting
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to say, oh, you know, just be open with your feelings, be vulnerable, be emotional with
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But actually, the reality out there is that I don't think women really, you know.
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For example, me personally, I would want a guy to open up to me and let me know how they're
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That's why it's like confusing to men because we'll be like, be open with us, but not too open.
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So if you want to cry every day, put that, take that shit away.
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So it's kind of like, at what point with each girl is emotionally available enough, emotionally
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If I was to be in a relationship with a guy and we've gotten to that level where we're
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comfortable to open up to each other, then I don't think it would be an issue for him
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to, if he was to cry to me every night, you know.
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Maybe there could be something I can do to help him.
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I mean, that would be too much for a man or a woman, though.
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And I feel like realistically, a man's not going to cry to you for a year, you know.
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If it's a man that's crying for a year, that's a problem.
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If it's a woman that's crying for a year, that's a problem.
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I think a month straight, that'd be too much for me.
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But is it, is it like, but being real, it's not, is it really a, like, to think of a guy
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in that manner, that's not really a, sexy, is it?
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You've been together for a long amount of time.
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But I'm not meeting you on day one and you're telling me about your emotional self.
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And I was put off and I didn't want to speak to him.
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You can't tell me on day one what's going on emotionally because I'm not even telling
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See, I feel like this is why guys don't want to open up.
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When she said on the first day, why would you be so comfortable to open up to someone?
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So every girl's different with what they'll tolerate.
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So why are they going to play, like, roll the dice when they could just not deal with
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I think it's, I think, again, the balance of probabilities, if you had 10 men and 10 women
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I mean, it seems to me that women, like, they want the guy to be the leader.
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Not the rock as in the rock, but they want the guy to be their rock.
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And if the dude is, I mean, obviously, he's not going to be crying every night.
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But, you know, if the dude is, like, emoting the whole time and he's looking to her for
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support excessively, that's going to, it just seems to me it's going to put her off.
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And there is a school of thought in the sort of men's online self-help space that basically
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says, you know, you should not be vulnerable in front of the woman that you're with because
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And if she loses attraction for you, then that's the, that's, you know, it's game over
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Yeah, it may well be, but I'm just saying that there's that school.
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So if you need a bit of a hard time, it's like, I wouldn't like to, oh yeah, don't
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Just go and fix your stuff and then come to me.
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I think, I think, I think some guys though, I've never been married, so I can't speak
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to this personally, but I think some guys, you know, you feel like you meet this, you
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meet the woman and you guys are in a relationship.
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And you think, oh, now I can, now finally I can relax.
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Now I can, now I've got somebody who I can talk to and she can help me with my feelings
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But the problem is when you then do that, that can sometimes give the woman the ick,
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you know, and the woman's like, oh, wait a minute, this isn't the strong, you know, stable
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I think it matters about timing and duration, depending on how long you guys have been together
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Depends on when you need to open up, because my partner opens up to me, but that took a long
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And even when he does, it's limited information.
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Would it be attractive if your partner cried to you all the time?
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But he doesn't cry to me, but I always let him know that, you know, I'm supposed to be
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You know, your partner is supposed to be that safe space.
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But doesn't mean cry to me from Monday to Friday to Sunday.
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No, not every day, but, you know, that I'm supposed to be your safe space.
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So, I'm curious for you, because you said you want a guy to meet your standards.
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I'm not specific about numbers, because I actually don't, like, I'm not on a salary.
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Like, I work for myself, so, do you know what I mean?
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So, I don't really know how people manoeuvre, but he needs to be able to look after me,
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pay the bills, pay everything, and then also give me money on top.
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Not that I won't do the same for him, but I'm just saying what he needs to be able to do.
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Wait, so you want him to pay 100% of the bill and give you, how much money does he have
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He just needs to give me money, like, if I want to buy something.
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For example, I might want to buy a Dior bag this month.
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If they start from about 2, 3K, then I might need that.
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I can definitely buy it by myself, but sometimes things feel nicer when it's a gift from your
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I don't think your boyfriend's supposed to take care of you.
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You know, he doesn't need to take care of you, but it's nice if he does.
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I like luxury items, so that's something that I like.
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If you go to Walthamstow Market, you can get them for $29.
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But if you're the one who likes the luxury items, why does he have to pay for it?
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No, I'm not saying I won't buy it myself, but this is the thing.
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I'm just saying that he needs to make enough whereby there's capacity and there's room
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where he can afford to give me money for a bag if that's what I want to get at that
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Even on my part as well, there needs to be spare money where we can spend it.
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So luxuriously, that's how I would like to live, personally.
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He gets a loyal, loving woman who will eventually have his kids take care of the house.
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If he likes gifts, he can get a gift as well because there's money there.
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So how much money do you think that would cost?
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Because that's what some people make in a month.
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I mean, based on people around me, definitely 100, 100K plus salary for sure.
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I know it's not that high, but personally, the people I'm around make that amount of money.
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So then do you think you're in the top 5% of women?
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I mean, men like me, but I don't know if I'm in the top 5%.
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