JustPearlyThings - This Is How Modern Women CHEAT On Their Future Husbands

00:00:00.000 here's the difference between me and most men. 1.00

00:00:02.220 Most men are doing this shit behind people's back, right? 1.00

00:00:04.980 Like a fucking coward. 1.00

00:00:06.160 And they're not even giving the family the life that they deserve. 1.00

00:00:08.780 So if I choose to do that in the future,

00:00:10.860 which I have not said I'm going to do,

00:00:12.760 then so be it.

00:00:14.760 But if I don't, I don't.

00:00:16.700 I hear you.

00:00:17.540 I guess that you're saying you don't want to share your relationship status, 0.88

00:00:21.120 but then you just said you, people are hiding it and being a coward.

00:00:24.060 So I guess I'm,

00:00:25.080 I think there's a difference between not wanting to share one's relationship

00:00:28.200 status publicly on a platform like this versus when I have a big internet

00:00:31.320 following and like offices that you can Google and all kinds of things like

00:00:36.360 that. I don't want to, I don't want that smoke for people in my life.

00:00:38.900 I see. Yeah. That's going to ask you one more question. Fire away.

00:00:41.680 Okay. Um,

00:00:42.960 if you have a place and only one place in your heart for one woman,

00:00:46.580 or you want to have one woman in your heart, I think he said,

00:00:48.860 why don't you just commit to one and choose to be faithful to her?

00:00:53.380 I'm just not wired that way. I want to listen to this again.

00:00:55.900 In one place in your heart. Fire away, honey. Okay. Um,

00:00:59.540 if you have a place and only one place in your heart for one woman,

00:01:03.160 or you want to have one woman in your heart, I think he said,

00:01:05.680 why don't you just commit to one and choose to be faithful to her?

00:01:08.900 Because she's conflating like men committing, 0.51

00:01:13.020 men commit in a different way than women. Women commit sexually. 1.00

00:01:16.300 Men don't men like men can sleep with another chick and feel nothing. 0.97

00:01:20.080 Now, God,

00:01:21.220 it so irritates me because I've almost been labeled as this woman that like

00:01:25.380 pushes for men cheating when I don't say that,

00:01:28.560 but I just think we need to get off of our high horse when most women do not 1.00

00:01:32.400 come into marriage as virgins. So in a way, if you didn't do that,

00:01:36.460 you cheated on your future husband because it's expected for the woman to have 1.00

00:01:41.100 purity. It's not expected for the man. And it's,

00:01:44.200 it's just almost an uneven exchange of value.

00:01:46.460 So it's like if a single mother goes into a marriage and gets cheated on,

00:01:51.320 couldn't you argue it's still a fair exchange because she's coming into a 0.96

00:01:56.020 marriage with another man's kid?

00:01:58.040 I think the reason why feminism and modern ideologies try to fight against all

00:02:03.720 this, like purity talk and all that is because back in the day,

00:02:09.600 traditional men used to bring masculinity protection provision and women used to 0.89

00:02:15.100 bring purity, but because women are not pure anymore. 1.00

00:02:17.660 So they just want to scrap everything and say, well,

00:02:19.860 women don't need to bring anything to the table. 1.00

00:02:22.340 Yeah. Yeah.

00:02:23.540 But it's interesting because it's like the,

00:02:25.520 the marriage thing kind of, I'm not, I'm pro marriage,

00:02:30.160 but in terms of exchange of value,

00:02:32.580 it makes sense when the man and the woman get married young because the woman

00:02:36.500 gives her youth. So she gets married at 20 years old to say she's a 20 year old

00:02:40.360 virgin.

00:02:40.740 Then it makes sense because she gets the protection and provisioning from the man

00:02:44.800 for a lifetime and he wouldn't step out. Right?

00:02:47.960 So he's saying, you know what? 1.00

00:02:49.500 My mating strategy is typically to screw all these women. 1.00

00:02:52.620 So I'm going to, I'm going to hold back on that. 0.99

00:02:55.040 And I'm going to, I'm going to compromise for you. And she says, you know,

00:02:57.560 my mating strategy is to go for the best man I can.

00:03:01.680 Even the girls I was showing you that were like virgins on their wedding day,

00:03:04.660 their husbands weren't like the crazy, like high value men. They're,

00:03:08.180 they're fine, you know, but like, they probably could have, you know,

00:03:11.140 hypothetically done like higher in this day and age. Right.

00:03:14.940 So it's like the woman compromises on her mating strategy by saying,

00:03:19.640 you know what? I could search the world.

00:03:22.620 I could search the whole state for the best guy in the state,

00:03:25.480 but instead I'm going to, I think you're a good bet. I'm going to,

00:03:28.780 I'm going to marry you and let's have a family.

00:03:31.220 So they're both compromising,

00:03:32.460 but it's like when the woman now doesn't have purity, 0.72

00:03:35.540 she doesn't have youth, you know,

00:03:37.500 the average bride is 31 years old.

00:03:39.340 It now becomes an uneven exchange of value.

00:03:42.520 So, you know,

00:03:43.240 one way that hypothetically you could make it more even is the man gets to

00:03:47.060 fulfill his mating strategy and sleep with multiple people or have multiple

00:03:50.860 women. 0.81

00:03:52.980 Not, not to say we should do that, but you know,

00:03:55.360 it's more of like a thought experiment, you know?

00:03:57.320 Um, but it's interesting because they'll harp on the men for this,

00:04:00.940 but I never hear the Christians or like the trad cons harp on the women and say,

00:04:04.680 you are not worth being a wife. 1.00

00:04:06.260 If you're not a virgin, 0.99

00:04:07.380 you are supposed to be avert.

00:04:08.620 Like I have never heard this.

00:04:10.300 I've only heard about the redemption.

00:04:12.080 I have never.

00:04:12.940 And the worst part is do you want to try to compare it to? 0.66

00:04:15.560 They try to compare women not being virgins to men watching porn.

00:04:18.940 It is not the same. 0.89

00:04:20.220 Yeah, I know.

00:04:21.440 I know because women do not value men for their purity.

00:04:24.420 I know,

00:04:24.680 I know it comes with problems,

00:04:25.920 but is it acting like this is the same and as the same effects on a marriage?

00:04:30.160 It's just, 0.97

00:04:30.740 it's just silly.

00:04:32.500 I'm just not wired that way.

00:04:33.860 I spent my whole twenties trying to fix it.

00:04:35.260 In fact,

00:04:35.660 the man can't even like,

00:04:37.520 like a man is very hard for you to find a pure man because even if you were to

00:04:43.200 remove sex out of it, 0.98

00:04:44.920 the world doesn't allow for men to be pure.

00:04:49.580 Like the world we live in,

00:04:51.040 the physical world we live in,

00:04:53.000 if you're pure,

00:04:54.080 you're going to,

00:04:54.600 you're going to be like,

00:04:55.320 awesome of the barrel.

00:04:56.540 Well,

00:04:56.900 even because also if you,

00:04:58.500 yeah,

00:04:58.640 because women want a man that's more experienced and like good and bad. 0.79

00:05:01.360 You literally have to be like,

00:05:02.860 apart from the sex,

00:05:03.660 even like physically,

00:05:05.160 you have to,

00:05:06.020 for you to be desirable to women, 0.99

00:05:07.520 you literally have to almost be a monster. 0.96

00:05:09.680 Well,

00:05:09.960 and,

00:05:10.520 and too,

00:05:11.420 it's like,

00:05:12.980 even if you want to be pure,

00:05:14.060 how could you?

00:05:14.560 When women are walking around half naked all the time, 1.00

00:05:16.940 even if you wanted to, 0.64

00:05:18.320 it's like they shove it in their face.

00:05:20.480 You work out,

00:05:21.320 you do business.

00:05:22.100 You can possess your own,

00:05:23.800 your own power.

00:05:25.140 And you direct it the way you want to direct it.

00:05:26.380 It's just not how I am.

00:05:27.660 It's not how I am.

00:05:28.860 You think that might be a limited mindset?

00:05:30.920 I think it's none of your business,

00:05:32.420 but I don't want you to think I'm triggered by you.

00:05:34.180 I'm not.

00:05:34.880 I saw somebody say that.

00:05:36.000 And I think that's interesting.

00:05:37.060 I think you're annoying,

00:05:38.000 but I'm not triggered.

00:05:39.440 You know what I'm saying?

00:05:40.220 No,

00:05:40.420 you are,

00:05:40.760 you're annoying. 0.90

00:05:41.840 In like this goody two shoes type way.

00:05:43.680 And that's fine.

00:05:45.040 I'm going to live my life on my terms.

00:05:47.560 But see,

00:05:47.880 that's so interesting.

00:05:48.720 Do you see it guys though?

00:05:49.600 This is what I talk about with like the Christian.

00:05:51.860 Yeah,

00:05:52.100 I got to say it.

00:05:53.020 It's like,

00:05:53.380 whenever he says,

00:05:54.020 I'm going to live my life on my terms,

00:05:55.640 I'm going to do what I want.

00:05:56.960 Christians and like trad cons will always say like the men need to be better for the women. 0.99

00:06:01.720 So it's like when,

00:06:02.860 when they say,

00:06:03.520 you know what,

00:06:04.120 you need to be the best version of yourself.

00:06:06.020 So you have all the leverage and she has to live life on your terms. 1.00

00:06:09.600 No,

00:06:09.920 they'll say that way you can be a better husband for a family.

00:06:13.680 That way you can have a family when it's like,

00:06:15.940 that's the female's mating strategy. 1.00

00:06:18.940 So it's kind of,

00:06:20.340 it's in reality,

00:06:21.260 the women need to be better so they can have a family because it's the man that is going to protect. 0.98

00:06:27.880 You get it?

00:06:28.540 Like you can't say the man needs to be better because already he's as a man.

00:06:34.140 And the only thing that changes when you get married is that you just have,

00:06:38.160 in fact,

00:06:38.680 in reality today,

00:06:40.320 the things that change when you get married is that you become less masculine.

00:06:43.700 So it's not,

00:06:44.460 it's not even initially,

00:06:46.480 it's not,

00:06:46.800 it's not even a plus these days to say,

00:06:49.040 yeah,

00:06:49.360 I'm getting married among men because we all,

00:06:52.140 we all kind of know where that part typically leads.

00:06:55.960 But I mean,

00:06:57.400 just a thought.

00:06:59.900 Unapologetically,

00:07:00.620 like truly.

00:07:01.440 So you can ask me this 85 different ways.

00:07:04.400 At the end of the day,

00:07:05.020 I'm going to walk out of here the same man.

00:07:06.580 I have a question.

00:07:07.800 Do you think marriage should be public?

00:07:10.240 What do you mean?

00:07:10.940 Do you think that when you commit your life to someone and you're going to build a family with them,

00:07:15.840 do you think that should be done in community?

00:07:19.120 So public.

00:07:20.040 I think that's up to the people that do it.

00:07:22.360 I don't think there's a right way to do it at all.

00:07:24.620 So that's up to you.

00:07:25.740 So you think like for children,

00:07:27.360 they shouldn't,

00:07:28.560 they don't have the right to know whether or not their parents are married and be able to feel that when they go into society.

00:07:33.620 I think that if your,

00:07:34.700 if your kids ask,

00:07:35.880 you should tell them the truth.

00:07:36.620 A hundred percent.

00:07:37.220 There's no lie or nothing I would ever keep from a child of mine.

00:07:40.480 Meaning the truth about no,

00:07:41.860 we're not married.

00:07:42.540 No,

00:07:42.920 I think you do need to shelter kids from certain things.

00:07:45.800 I do.

00:07:46.920 I don't know why kids need to,

00:07:48.480 like,

00:07:48.680 I don't think you need to know everything as a kid.

00:07:50.620 I think there's adult talk and there's kid talk.

00:07:52.760 Other people I'm sleeping with.

00:07:54.600 Whatever they ask me,

00:07:55.540 I would answer.

00:07:56.820 No,

00:07:57.260 no,

00:07:57.520 no,

00:07:57.760 no.

00:07:59.760 I mean,

00:08:00.360 I mean,

00:08:00.780 you could live your life how you want,

00:08:02.160 but I,

00:08:02.760 if I was in that situation,

00:08:05.720 I would want lies.

00:08:07.020 Yes,

00:08:07.220 I would.

00:08:07.860 Sorry.

00:08:08.720 I wouldn't,

00:08:09.080 I wouldn't even lie to them.

00:08:10.680 There are just some things that,

00:08:12.120 um,

00:08:12.620 like I just told the kids.

00:08:13.520 Yeah.

00:08:13.680 You just told them you would just like,

00:08:15.920 my mom used to tell us about certain things.

00:08:18.500 She would just give us like a general idea,

00:08:20.640 but she would tell us you would,

00:08:21.680 you understand when you get older.

00:08:23.880 And we did understand when we got older.

00:08:26.780 I think as somebody that was raised by a single mom,

00:08:29.340 like those things,

00:08:31.100 they,

00:08:31.460 they,

00:08:31.760 they don't matter as much to your child as you think that they may.

00:08:35.100 I mean,

00:08:35.720 it did have an effect on my relationships going,

00:08:38.640 growing up,

00:08:39.420 but it's also something.

00:08:40.580 I was like,

00:08:40.820 girl's on my show. 1.00

00:08:41.600 She's on OnlyFans.

00:08:42.740 You can,

00:08:43.020 it does have an effect.

00:08:44.920 You can learn from that experience through your parents,

00:08:47.280 you know,

00:08:47.500 like you can,

00:08:48.380 as long as you have open communication with your child.

00:08:50.540 Nah,

00:08:50.840 like what?

00:08:51.360 Cause then my question is,

00:08:52.180 okay,

00:08:52.320 what outcomes did you have?

00:08:53.920 She's on OnlyFans.

00:08:54.980 Like duh.

00:08:55.780 And I don't have any children,

00:08:56.900 but I have younger siblings and I'm openly communicative with all my family members.

00:09:01.940 I think what's most important when it comes to kids,

00:09:03.580 is there love in the house?

00:09:04.860 Do they see love between their parents?

00:09:07.080 Not,

00:09:07.560 not are they living the way of,

00:09:09.340 of making people that go to church happy?

00:09:11.540 It's a very downward deflecting question you're asking me.

00:09:14.100 And I understand why you're doing it.

00:09:15.620 However,

00:09:16.440 I'll put love first in front of marriage every day of the week because people get married in America every weekend,

00:09:22.080 putting the marriage and the Facebook pictures before the actual love. 0.98

00:09:25.220 So I'll take the love over all the bullshit. 0.98

00:09:27.560 I think that's probably true. 0.99

00:09:28.540 There's a lot.

00:09:29.180 It's definitely true. 0.57

00:09:29.920 There's a lot of hypocrisy out there for sure. 0.97

00:09:31.540 There's a lot of hypocrisy in Christianity as well. 0.99

00:09:34.000 Like Bible thumping people that want to beat you up with their views and ask silly questions about things that don't matter. 0.99

00:09:39.620 Like, 0.73

00:09:40.100 is your kid going to be upset that you have other women? 1.00

00:09:42.300 All I'm worried about is being a good fucking father and a provider. 1.00

00:09:45.620 You know, 0.99

00:09:46.160 it's interesting too.

00:09:47.520 The Marxist stuff is in the church because they like literally sent people to infiltrate the church.

00:09:54.260 So a lot of the like feminist talking points, 1.00

00:09:57.000 you'll hear the same language in the church.

00:09:59.580 Like,

00:09:59.900 it's very,

00:10:00.580 very similar.

00:10:01.100 Like you can hear the shaming language she's using. 0.97

00:10:03.300 It's so funny because everyone on social media,

00:10:05.540 like,

00:10:06.240 um,

00:10:06.520 I,

00:10:06.680 I,

00:10:06.940 I recognized it later,

00:10:08.760 but I realized I've seen like a small clip from this and I couldn't see the context of the clip,

00:10:14.400 but I,

00:10:15.460 I thought it was so interesting.

00:10:17.900 Everyone thought she won.

00:10:19.140 I'm like,

00:10:19.620 Oh,

00:10:19.780 you're like,

00:10:20.120 Oh yeah,

00:10:20.460 I know.

00:10:20.880 But when you watch the full video,

00:10:22.660 I'm like,

00:10:23.520 Oh,

00:10:23.620 he's making way more sense.

00:10:25.400 But,

00:10:25.800 and that's the other thing.

00:10:27.340 They're trying to impose their religious beliefs on other people when,

00:10:31.460 you know,

00:10:31.600 there's certain religions that are for that.

00:10:33.620 Like there's certain religions that say you can have four wives,

00:10:36.280 you know?

00:10:36.680 And I think it's a bit, 0.58

00:10:38.680 I just think it's so silly to act like the,

00:10:41.080 the kids will all be traumatized just because he has multiple wives.

00:10:44.400 He's like,

00:10:44.680 get out of here. 0.93

JustPearlyThings - July 13, 2023

This Is How Modern Women CHEAT On Their Future Husbands

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