JustPearlyThings - July 13, 2023


This Is How Modern Women CHEAT On Their Future Husbands


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

216.2715

Word Count

2,326

Sentence Count

153

Misogynist Sentences

17

Hate Speech Sentences

16


Summary

In this episode, we talk about cheating, purity, and why women cheat on their husbands. We also talk about the benefits and drawbacks of cheating in the modern era, and what we should do if we find ourselves cheating on our spouses.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 here's the difference between me and most men.
00:00:02.220 Most men are doing this shit behind people's back, right?
00:00:04.980 Like a fucking coward.
00:00:06.160 And they're not even giving the family the life that they deserve.
00:00:08.780 So if I choose to do that in the future,
00:00:10.860 which I have not said I'm going to do,
00:00:12.760 then so be it.
00:00:14.760 But if I don't, I don't.
00:00:16.700 I hear you.
00:00:17.540 I guess that you're saying you don't want to share your relationship status,
00:00:21.120 but then you just said you, people are hiding it and being a coward.
00:00:24.060 So I guess I'm,
00:00:25.080 I think there's a difference between not wanting to share one's relationship
00:00:28.200 status publicly on a platform like this versus when I have a big internet
00:00:31.320 following and like offices that you can Google and all kinds of things like
00:00:36.360 that. I don't want to, I don't want that smoke for people in my life.
00:00:38.900 I see. Yeah. That's going to ask you one more question. Fire away.
00:00:41.680 Okay. Um,
00:00:42.960 if you have a place and only one place in your heart for one woman,
00:00:46.580 or you want to have one woman in your heart, I think he said,
00:00:48.860 why don't you just commit to one and choose to be faithful to her?
00:00:53.380 I'm just not wired that way. I want to listen to this again.
00:00:55.900 In one place in your heart. Fire away, honey. Okay. Um,
00:00:59.540 if you have a place and only one place in your heart for one woman,
00:01:03.160 or you want to have one woman in your heart, I think he said,
00:01:05.680 why don't you just commit to one and choose to be faithful to her?
00:01:08.900 Because she's conflating like men committing,
00:01:13.020 men commit in a different way than women. Women commit sexually.
00:01:16.300 Men don't men like men can sleep with another chick and feel nothing.
00:01:20.080 Now, God,
00:01:21.220 it so irritates me because I've almost been labeled as this woman that like
00:01:25.380 pushes for men cheating when I don't say that,
00:01:28.560 but I just think we need to get off of our high horse when most women do not
00:01:32.400 come into marriage as virgins. So in a way, if you didn't do that,
00:01:36.460 you cheated on your future husband because it's expected for the woman to have
00:01:41.100 purity. It's not expected for the man. And it's,
00:01:44.200 it's just almost an uneven exchange of value.
00:01:46.460 So it's like if a single mother goes into a marriage and gets cheated on,
00:01:51.320 couldn't you argue it's still a fair exchange because she's coming into a
00:01:56.020 marriage with another man's kid?
00:01:58.040 I think the reason why feminism and modern ideologies try to fight against all
00:02:03.720 this, like purity talk and all that is because back in the day,
00:02:09.600 traditional men used to bring masculinity protection provision and women used to
00:02:15.100 bring purity, but because women are not pure anymore.
00:02:17.660 So they just want to scrap everything and say, well,
00:02:19.860 women don't need to bring anything to the table.
00:02:22.340 Yeah. Yeah.
00:02:23.540 But it's interesting because it's like the,
00:02:25.520 the marriage thing kind of, I'm not, I'm pro marriage,
00:02:30.160 but in terms of exchange of value,
00:02:32.580 it makes sense when the man and the woman get married young because the woman
00:02:36.500 gives her youth. So she gets married at 20 years old to say she's a 20 year old
00:02:40.360 virgin.
00:02:40.740 Then it makes sense because she gets the protection and provisioning from the man
00:02:44.800 for a lifetime and he wouldn't step out. Right?
00:02:47.960 So he's saying, you know what?
00:02:49.500 My mating strategy is typically to screw all these women.
00:02:52.620 So I'm going to, I'm going to hold back on that.
00:02:55.040 And I'm going to, I'm going to compromise for you. And she says, you know,
00:02:57.560 my mating strategy is to go for the best man I can.
00:03:01.680 Even the girls I was showing you that were like virgins on their wedding day,
00:03:04.660 their husbands weren't like the crazy, like high value men. They're,
00:03:08.180 they're fine, you know, but like, they probably could have, you know,
00:03:11.140 hypothetically done like higher in this day and age. Right.
00:03:14.940 So it's like the woman compromises on her mating strategy by saying,
00:03:19.640 you know what? I could search the world.
00:03:22.620 I could search the whole state for the best guy in the state,
00:03:25.480 but instead I'm going to, I think you're a good bet. I'm going to,
00:03:28.780 I'm going to marry you and let's have a family.
00:03:31.220 So they're both compromising,
00:03:32.460 but it's like when the woman now doesn't have purity,
00:03:35.540 she doesn't have youth, you know,
00:03:37.500 the average bride is 31 years old.
00:03:39.340 It now becomes an uneven exchange of value.
00:03:42.520 So, you know,
00:03:43.240 one way that hypothetically you could make it more even is the man gets to
00:03:47.060 fulfill his mating strategy and sleep with multiple people or have multiple
00:03:50.860 women.
00:03:52.980 Not, not to say we should do that, but you know,
00:03:55.360 it's more of like a thought experiment, you know?
00:03:57.320 Um, but it's interesting because they'll harp on the men for this,
00:04:00.940 but I never hear the Christians or like the trad cons harp on the women and say,
00:04:04.680 you are not worth being a wife.
00:04:06.260 If you're not a virgin,
00:04:07.380 you are supposed to be avert.
00:04:08.620 Like I have never heard this.
00:04:10.300 I've only heard about the redemption.
00:04:12.080 I have never.
00:04:12.940 And the worst part is do you want to try to compare it to?
00:04:15.560 They try to compare women not being virgins to men watching porn.
00:04:18.940 It is not the same.
00:04:20.220 Yeah, I know.
00:04:21.440 I know because women do not value men for their purity.
00:04:24.420 I know,
00:04:24.680 I know it comes with problems,
00:04:25.920 but is it acting like this is the same and as the same effects on a marriage?
00:04:30.160 It's just,
00:04:30.740 it's just silly.
00:04:32.500 I'm just not wired that way.
00:04:33.860 I spent my whole twenties trying to fix it.
00:04:35.260 In fact,
00:04:35.660 the man can't even like,
00:04:37.520 like a man is very hard for you to find a pure man because even if you were to
00:04:43.200 remove sex out of it,
00:04:44.920 the world doesn't allow for men to be pure.
00:04:49.580 Like the world we live in,
00:04:51.040 the physical world we live in,
00:04:53.000 if you're pure,
00:04:54.080 you're going to,
00:04:54.600 you're going to be like,
00:04:55.320 awesome of the barrel.
00:04:56.540 Well,
00:04:56.900 even because also if you,
00:04:58.500 yeah,
00:04:58.640 because women want a man that's more experienced and like good and bad.
00:05:01.360 You literally have to be like,
00:05:02.860 apart from the sex,
00:05:03.660 even like physically,
00:05:05.160 you have to,
00:05:06.020 for you to be desirable to women,
00:05:07.520 you literally have to almost be a monster.
00:05:09.680 Well,
00:05:09.960 and,
00:05:10.520 and too,
00:05:11.420 it's like,
00:05:12.980 even if you want to be pure,
00:05:14.060 how could you?
00:05:14.560 When women are walking around half naked all the time,
00:05:16.940 even if you wanted to,
00:05:18.320 it's like they shove it in their face.
00:05:20.480 You work out,
00:05:21.320 you do business.
00:05:22.100 You can possess your own,
00:05:23.800 your own power.
00:05:25.140 And you direct it the way you want to direct it.
00:05:26.380 It's just not how I am.
00:05:27.660 It's not how I am.
00:05:28.860 You think that might be a limited mindset?
00:05:30.920 I think it's none of your business,
00:05:32.420 but I don't want you to think I'm triggered by you.
00:05:34.180 I'm not.
00:05:34.880 I saw somebody say that.
00:05:36.000 And I think that's interesting.
00:05:37.060 I think you're annoying,
00:05:38.000 but I'm not triggered.
00:05:39.440 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:40.220 No,
00:05:40.420 you are,
00:05:40.760 you're annoying.
00:05:41.840 In like this goody two shoes type way.
00:05:43.680 And that's fine.
00:05:45.040 I'm going to live my life on my terms.
00:05:47.560 But see,
00:05:47.880 that's so interesting.
00:05:48.720 Do you see it guys though?
00:05:49.600 This is what I talk about with like the Christian.
00:05:51.860 Yeah,
00:05:52.100 I got to say it.
00:05:53.020 It's like,
00:05:53.380 whenever he says,
00:05:54.020 I'm going to live my life on my terms,
00:05:55.640 I'm going to do what I want.
00:05:56.960 Christians and like trad cons will always say like the men need to be better for the women.
00:06:01.720 So it's like when,
00:06:02.860 when they say,
00:06:03.520 you know what,
00:06:04.120 you need to be the best version of yourself.
00:06:06.020 So you have all the leverage and she has to live life on your terms.
00:06:09.600 No,
00:06:09.920 they'll say that way you can be a better husband for a family.
00:06:13.680 That way you can have a family when it's like,
00:06:15.940 that's the female's mating strategy.
00:06:18.940 So it's kind of,
00:06:20.340 it's in reality,
00:06:21.260 the women need to be better so they can have a family because it's the man that is going to protect.
00:06:27.880 You get it?
00:06:28.540 Like you can't say the man needs to be better because already he's as a man.
00:06:34.140 And the only thing that changes when you get married is that you just have,
00:06:38.160 in fact,
00:06:38.680 in reality today,
00:06:40.320 the things that change when you get married is that you become less masculine.
00:06:43.700 So it's not,
00:06:44.460 it's not even initially,
00:06:46.480 it's not,
00:06:46.800 it's not even a plus these days to say,
00:06:49.040 yeah,
00:06:49.360 I'm getting married among men because we all,
00:06:52.140 we all kind of know where that part typically leads.
00:06:55.960 But I mean,
00:06:57.400 just a thought.
00:06:59.900 Unapologetically,
00:07:00.620 like truly.
00:07:01.440 So you can ask me this 85 different ways.
00:07:04.400 At the end of the day,
00:07:05.020 I'm going to walk out of here the same man.
00:07:06.580 I have a question.
00:07:07.800 Do you think marriage should be public?
00:07:10.240 What do you mean?
00:07:10.940 Do you think that when you commit your life to someone and you're going to build a family with them,
00:07:15.840 do you think that should be done in community?
00:07:19.120 So public.
00:07:20.040 I think that's up to the people that do it.
00:07:22.360 I don't think there's a right way to do it at all.
00:07:24.620 So that's up to you.
00:07:25.740 So you think like for children,
00:07:27.360 they shouldn't,
00:07:28.560 they don't have the right to know whether or not their parents are married and be able to feel that when they go into society.
00:07:33.620 I think that if your,
00:07:34.700 if your kids ask,
00:07:35.880 you should tell them the truth.
00:07:36.620 A hundred percent.
00:07:37.220 There's no lie or nothing I would ever keep from a child of mine.
00:07:40.480 Meaning the truth about no,
00:07:41.860 we're not married.
00:07:42.540 No,
00:07:42.920 I think you do need to shelter kids from certain things.
00:07:45.800 I do.
00:07:46.920 I don't know why kids need to,
00:07:48.480 like,
00:07:48.680 I don't think you need to know everything as a kid.
00:07:50.620 I think there's adult talk and there's kid talk.
00:07:52.760 Other people I'm sleeping with.
00:07:54.600 Whatever they ask me,
00:07:55.540 I would answer.
00:07:56.820 No,
00:07:57.260 no,
00:07:57.520 no,
00:07:57.760 no.
00:07:59.760 I mean,
00:08:00.360 I mean,
00:08:00.780 you could live your life how you want,
00:08:02.160 but I,
00:08:02.760 if I was in that situation,
00:08:05.720 I would want lies.
00:08:07.020 Yes,
00:08:07.220 I would.
00:08:07.860 Sorry.
00:08:08.720 I wouldn't,
00:08:09.080 I wouldn't even lie to them.
00:08:10.680 There are just some things that,
00:08:12.120 um,
00:08:12.620 like I just told the kids.
00:08:13.520 Yeah.
00:08:13.680 You just told them you would just like,
00:08:15.920 my mom used to tell us about certain things.
00:08:18.500 She would just give us like a general idea,
00:08:20.640 but she would tell us you would,
00:08:21.680 you understand when you get older.
00:08:23.880 And we did understand when we got older.
00:08:26.780 I think as somebody that was raised by a single mom,
00:08:29.340 like those things,
00:08:31.100 they,
00:08:31.460 they,
00:08:31.760 they don't matter as much to your child as you think that they may.
00:08:35.100 I mean,
00:08:35.720 it did have an effect on my relationships going,
00:08:38.640 growing up,
00:08:39.420 but it's also something.
00:08:40.580 I was like,
00:08:40.820 girl's on my show.
00:08:41.600 She's on OnlyFans.
00:08:42.740 You can,
00:08:43.020 it does have an effect.
00:08:44.920 You can learn from that experience through your parents,
00:08:47.280 you know,
00:08:47.500 like you can,
00:08:48.380 as long as you have open communication with your child.
00:08:50.540 Nah,
00:08:50.840 like what?
00:08:51.360 Cause then my question is,
00:08:52.180 okay,
00:08:52.320 what outcomes did you have?
00:08:53.920 She's on OnlyFans.
00:08:54.980 Like duh.
00:08:55.780 And I don't have any children,
00:08:56.900 but I have younger siblings and I'm openly communicative with all my family members.
00:09:01.940 I think what's most important when it comes to kids,
00:09:03.580 is there love in the house?
00:09:04.860 Do they see love between their parents?
00:09:07.080 Not,
00:09:07.560 not are they living the way of,
00:09:09.340 of making people that go to church happy?
00:09:11.540 It's a very downward deflecting question you're asking me.
00:09:14.100 And I understand why you're doing it.
00:09:15.620 However,
00:09:16.440 I'll put love first in front of marriage every day of the week because people get married in America every weekend,
00:09:22.080 putting the marriage and the Facebook pictures before the actual love.
00:09:25.220 So I'll take the love over all the bullshit.
00:09:27.560 I think that's probably true.
00:09:28.540 There's a lot.
00:09:29.180 It's definitely true.
00:09:29.920 There's a lot of hypocrisy out there for sure.
00:09:31.540 There's a lot of hypocrisy in Christianity as well.
00:09:34.000 Like Bible thumping people that want to beat you up with their views and ask silly questions about things that don't matter.
00:09:39.620 Like,
00:09:40.100 is your kid going to be upset that you have other women?
00:09:42.300 All I'm worried about is being a good fucking father and a provider.
00:09:45.620 You know,
00:09:46.160 it's interesting too.
00:09:47.520 The Marxist stuff is in the church because they like literally sent people to infiltrate the church.
00:09:54.260 So a lot of the like feminist talking points,
00:09:57.000 you'll hear the same language in the church.
00:09:59.580 Like,
00:09:59.900 it's very,
00:10:00.580 very similar.
00:10:01.100 Like you can hear the shaming language she's using.
00:10:03.300 It's so funny because everyone on social media,
00:10:05.540 like,
00:10:06.240 um,
00:10:06.520 I,
00:10:06.680 I,
00:10:06.940 I recognized it later,
00:10:08.760 but I realized I've seen like a small clip from this and I couldn't see the context of the clip,
00:10:14.400 but I,
00:10:15.460 I thought it was so interesting.
00:10:17.900 Everyone thought she won.
00:10:19.140 I'm like,
00:10:19.620 Oh,
00:10:19.780 you're like,
00:10:20.120 Oh yeah,
00:10:20.460 I know.
00:10:20.880 But when you watch the full video,
00:10:22.660 I'm like,
00:10:23.520 Oh,
00:10:23.620 he's making way more sense.
00:10:25.400 But,
00:10:25.800 and that's the other thing.
00:10:27.340 They're trying to impose their religious beliefs on other people when,
00:10:31.460 you know,
00:10:31.600 there's certain religions that are for that.
00:10:33.620 Like there's certain religions that say you can have four wives,
00:10:36.280 you know?
00:10:36.680 And I think it's a bit,
00:10:38.680 I just think it's so silly to act like the,
00:10:41.080 the kids will all be traumatized just because he has multiple wives.
00:10:44.400 He's like,
00:10:44.680 get out of here.