JustPearlyThings - June 01, 2023


This Is Scariest Divorce Horror Story Ever Told!!!


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10 minutes

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2,087

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175

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In this episode, I talk about my experience growing up in the family court system and how it affects me and my children. I also talk about how hard it is for men to get their kids back after divorce.

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00:00:00.000 I think there was two things I didn't realize, and I don't think most people realize how much
00:00:04.240 of a risk it is for men to get married. Massive. And, you know, I'd heard of men getting screwed
00:00:09.580 over in divorce, but like in a blue pill perspective, you're like, well, you know,
00:00:13.420 she had the kids, so maybe she's owed a little bit is what you think until you really think
00:00:18.560 about it. And you're like, wait, she worked too. What are we, it's not, it's not the same
00:00:22.680 1920s structure anymore. We're not the same type of women. And I also didn't realize how hard it is 1.00
00:00:29.420 for men to get access to their kids. And that was the biggest thing for me. It's not even about
00:00:35.060 money. It's like, I've talked to guy after guy after guy who lives a mile from his kid and hasn't
00:00:40.200 seen them in months. And it's just like, she can do that with one call and no repercussions.
00:00:45.940 My mom did that to my dad. That's why we went to the custody court so many times. 0.99
00:00:49.040 Wow. In fact, she would have got them. Somebody died in his family, inherited $10,000. He was just
00:00:55.760 about how he was out of money with the lawyers and to use that last 10 grand to fight it. And
00:01:02.220 that's, I mean, and look, he, he, we did not spend a lot of time together growing up, but
00:01:07.540 I appreciate that from him. And that's why, like I did the other day, I paid his house
00:01:11.420 off. He's a good man. And he was born in a certain time in history where the cards were
00:01:18.840 super. He didn't have Rolo Tomasi. He didn't have Cooper. He didn't have me. He didn't have
00:01:24.520 tape. He didn't, he didn't understand. He was doing exactly what he saw work, which
00:01:29.540 was his, my grandfather was a World War II tail gunner, came home, bought a bunch of
00:01:35.180 land, farm cotton, built houses. And his, his father was masculine. He was dominant. He
00:01:41.520 would literally be sitting at the table. His tea would not run out before my grandmother
00:01:45.480 was up pouring it back. I mean, literally cotton tablecloths, cotton napkins. The, the table
00:01:54.140 was set. She cooked every meal three times a day. They'd come in off the, off the farm 0.79
00:01:58.380 and eat lunch and go right back out in the field. He saw this thing work. And so he bought
00:02:03.960 into it much like you, he married one for the streets and it wrecked him. It really
00:02:09.540 did. It wrecked him. He married her twice. It financially fucked him up. He was never going
00:02:14.540 to be rich already. It kept him poor. When I would go see him in the summers, he lived
00:02:22.680 in, God, it must've been a 900, 800 square foot house, $50 a month rent in the middle of some
00:02:29.320 cotton fields in Rayville, Louisiana. Like he, he never had, I mean, she made them poor 0.86
00:02:34.440 for a very long time. And all she had to do is keep accusing them of things like molesting
00:02:39.220 my little sister, like crazy shit, you know? And here we are.
00:02:43.820 And there's no consequence.
00:02:44.620 And there's no consequence. It's like women that like charts say that people don't. 0.58
00:02:48.260 Well, and what I learned was, and you might already know this, but I didn't realize family
00:02:51.880 court isn't about evidence. So it's on the balance of probabilities. It's not based on like
00:02:57.640 evidence. And all they have to do is convince the judge. And so it's like, they're not even
00:03:02.280 getting their right to like face their accuser, their right to a fair trial.
00:03:05.620 Oh no. So what they would talk about is the papers a lot in that life. Our whole childhood
00:03:11.380 was wrapped around the papers. And how old were you?
00:03:15.100 Me?
00:03:15.640 Like back then?
00:03:16.980 Oh, I was very young. Sub 10, sub eight, sub seven, like young, young, young, when all
00:03:23.040 this was happening. So we'd have to go to the courthouse for these things, but they would
00:03:26.400 go in the, in the judges chambers and have conversations. It was more like that. You're
00:03:30.840 exactly right. They had way more of a relationship with the judge than you would normally have
00:03:34.960 in like a normal trial. The judge is just a guy, he's going to referee this thing. No,
00:03:38.340 they knew this guy, Judge Strong. Even I know his name. I'm, I'm in my thirties now. And
00:03:43.320 it was, his name was Judge Strong. He's a long time dead, but it was in Ravel. And yeah,
00:03:49.240 it was just one of those situations where Ravel, Louisiana, nowhere town, but it's very,
00:03:55.820 very much like that. Cause what are you going to do? So she accuses him of molestation. They're
00:04:00.600 going to ask my five-year-old sister. Like.
00:04:05.220 Even if they didn't convict him or they didn't, if, even if they didn't conclude that he did
00:04:11.820 that, what, what consequence does she have for doing that? 1.00
00:04:14.820 Nothing, nothing.
00:04:15.580 But I'm a big proponent of if you accuse somebody and they're fine, not guilty, you
00:04:20.420 should get the same time that he would have got.
00:04:22.160 I agree with you.
00:04:23.500 A thousand percent. Anybody with common sense would, you know? And if you don't call the
00:04:30.780 police within at least 48 hours, it should get thrown out immediately. Cause then it's
00:04:35.460 just, Oh, you regret it. Like call us, but at least make a report, you know, why you think
00:04:41.000 about it? But the only thing I could see is maybe like childhood stuff. You know what
00:04:48.560 I mean? Like, cause yeah, yeah, I completely agree with that because then you're, you're
00:04:53.300 in this, you know, everybody that takes care of you, you're going to get kicked out, but
00:04:57.660 it's still even tricky with that because it's like that what, how, what of it, you know,
00:05:05.700 it's, it's not really a black and white, you know? No, it's not. Cause I was, I was like
00:05:10.580 my first mom, my first thought was going to, well, what about kids that were abused? But
00:05:14.580 then my second thought is, well, that seems like a system that could get abused really
00:05:18.680 easily too. And I'm sure it already does. Um, I don't know much about like accusing someone
00:05:25.060 of something years ago. I don't know how that works, but I don't either. I don't either.
00:05:28.940 It's a sad situation, but, um, it certainly still happens. So it's just one of the, it's just
00:05:35.340 one of those things that I feel like a society, I don't, I think in 200 years, they're going
00:05:39.020 to look back at where we are right now and they're going to be like, wow, they were kind
00:05:44.960 of in the stone age, kind of like how we look at, you know, the middle ages, let's say
00:05:49.760 Kings and Queens. I'm like, Oh, you know, they didn't even have Netflix. They're going
00:05:54.080 to be like those people, they used to, they killed princess Diana in a tunnel and like got
00:05:59.600 away with it. You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Like that kind
00:06:03.340 of stuff. I think there'll be like, wow, you know, they really were crooked back then.
00:06:09.560 Social media, they'll say the same thing about elections and people getting muted and all
00:06:14.240 kinds of things. It'll be like, there was a power trip. Do you believe in the deep state?
00:06:19.200 Educate me. Um, the major, I mean, some people call it the matrix, the deep state. Like what
00:06:24.300 is that for us? I think there's probably some pretty wild WhatsApp group chats. Okay. Where
00:06:29.560 you're like, if you saw the lineup in that group chat, you'd be like, fuck you, they can
00:06:32.540 do anything they want. Yeah. Okay. Tell me more. I simply that. That's it. Yeah. I'll
00:06:38.980 couple that with, I think that Elon getting ahold of Twitter is one of the best things
00:06:42.380 happened for humanity in a very long time. And it would have took just that, you know,
00:06:47.880 cause at least there's going to be some kind of free speech now. So I respect, I respect
00:06:53.040 that. I was really excited when he, when he picked up Twitter. So he's funny too. He's
00:06:58.400 tweeting. Yeah. He's cool, bro. I put, I put him up there like Trump and stuff like
00:07:03.340 that. Like, I really appreciate Elon. Yeah. Um, tell me about your friendship with Tate.
00:07:10.380 What would you like to know? Um, how's he doing? He's doing well, he's doing well. You
00:07:15.880 can't break Tate. So any man that does anything great in this world will come out under some
00:07:21.260 trials and tribulations and fire. And he's just going through his, I have nothing but
00:07:25.340 confidence in Andrew. Um, I believe in him fully, love him, miss him. You know, it's
00:07:32.440 great being able to hear from him. And, um, I suspect nothing but good things to come.
00:07:39.300 In fact, I think this is going to do nothing but 10 X's influence. Uh, and for that, and
00:07:44.360 for that reason, I don't think there's anything to worry about. I also would never put negative
00:07:48.240 energy in there about somebody I care about so much. We put good things in the universe.
00:07:52.740 You know, it's not a law of attraction thing. It's just, just putting it out there. So I
00:07:58.480 know everything's about, I know they're not going to be able to prove it. Everything they're
00:08:01.380 accusing him of was completely. Oh, you mean the six foot three kickboxing millionaire with
00:08:08.260 all the Lambos? That's as smart as any person you'll ever meet. I found out they were luxury
00:08:13.980 shopping. And I was like, you were held captive to go luxury shop. It's laughable. Well, and
00:08:21.900 I tell, oh my gosh, I couldn't even imagine this story. All right. I think about this.
00:08:26.320 If I had to tell my dad, Oh dad, I went to Romania, did cam work for this, this multimillionaire
00:08:34.780 car, luxury shopped, got to, he drove me in these sports cars. I, and now I decided I
00:08:45.000 was coerced or I don't know the official. It sounds like you were in love with James Bond
00:08:50.620 and it didn't work out the way you wanted it to. That's what it said. You know, I'm not
00:08:54.840 going to act like I know every fact from the case, but the way it sounds, it sounds crazy.
00:08:59.900 I'll give you a fact from the case. Okay. There's cameras all over that house. Why aren't
00:09:04.660 they just using that? When you walk into Andrew's house, there's a screen and it shows the cameras
00:09:10.400 for the whole property. He's got a security team there. All that camera footage, just put
00:09:14.540 that out. Just put that out. Why don't they? That's so weird. Why would they? They have,
00:09:21.120 they have, they literally have him, had him in jail. He's just been released as we know,
00:09:26.720 but he's under house arrest right now for, for, he doesn't have, he does not have to force
00:09:34.700 himself upon a woman. Andrew's biggest problem and Tristan's biggest problem is what woman
00:09:39.140 to choose. I can tell you that for a fact, I've just been around him too much. You know,
00:09:45.560 Jewel's been around him too much. That's Jewel's job is to find these things in people and find
00:09:51.900 these incongru, like he's an investigator. He has been for years, a very, very high level.
00:09:55.280 Jewel himself would know. And he comes out openly and tells you, look, I've been around
00:09:59.780 these guys more than anybody. There's no way.
00:10:03.200 What do you say to the people that say, well, maybe he just says another side that you didn't
00:10:07.600 know?
00:10:11.420 That would be like owning a grocery store and going to steal food. Why? Why? That, you know what I'm
00:10:25.260 doing? That both of those boys are in abundance of for sure. I told, there's no reason to do it.
00:10:30.640 I said, I was like, you should make a website application for girls. I was like doing that
00:10:35.020 for my, my harem. I'm going to make an application process. I was like, if the Tate's had that,
00:10:42.180 no, they'd have to have a full time staff to sift through it. Full time staff.
00:10:49.920 Fuck. I would need a staff to sift through it. I tell you right now, whatever my staff would have
00:10:54.180 to be, they'd have to have 10 more. There's no fucking way.