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Summary
In this episode, we talk about monogamy, sex, single parents and why you should have multiple partners in your life. We also discuss why it s okay to be a single parent in a world where there are so many single parents.
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I actually feel so awkward asking people their body counts like I feel like oh my god I get so
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nervous. Is sleeping around different for men and for women? Socializedly different. I think
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simple people process it as different but they don't look deep enough. I think there's a double
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standard that exists but I don't understand why it exists. I've been with my partner for 11 years
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and sleeping around has never been a problem. Ethical non-monogamy is a thing google it.
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Dudes that's fucking haram. Is that what you guys do? Yeah man like 11 years. Wow you don't get jealous?
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No because we chose each other right? Yeah. Every day you choose each other every day. I could now
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get so jealous. Not if you get broke up properly because then you're like I'm not horny because
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I got good this morning. What's he doing? Okay I get to rest. It's different. And to be fair like even
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if you are in a monogamous relationship asking yourself and your partner ethical non-monogamous
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questions is good for your own relationship because you create your relationship based on
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the boundaries of the people involved rather than externally curated and boxed in versions of what
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your relationship should be. Yeah. There's too much in the media telling you what your relationship
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should be rather than who you are as a person and personality. Yeah that my question to every
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relationship is how has monogamy fucked your life up? And once you can answer that and answer it
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honestly like. So for me though like when I think of my parents like if they were. Don't
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think of your parents. No no no listen listen listen listen listen. But like I because I
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have nine siblings so they're like monogamous monogamous. So you're like your tenth sister.
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Yeah yeah yeah. Nath sister. Five boys five seven. So your father had no put out game.
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No I mean we're. It was kind of just like have as many as we can. They're Catholic. Irish.
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Yeah yeah yeah. So like I'm like wouldn't that be confusing for kids if like they're sleeping
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around around town. Like it was always nice growing up where I didn't have to worry about
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like any exes or any like. It's two separate things. Yeah. You're not having your sexual
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partner relationships in front of your children all the time. Yeah. It's the same as having
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aunts and uncles your parents best friends around your children. Yeah. If they are the people
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that they are they're going to be just as loving. You're going to want to spend a day with your
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cool auntie or your cool uncle. Yeah. Like if you're at a type in your relationship where
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you want to have them around your children and you want to raise them as a family. It
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takes a village to raise a child. So why would you limit your child? Like we live in a world
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where it's okay to be a single parent. Why? Like even with a single parent you still need
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someone to support you. Your mom, your cousin, your sister to babysit for a night if you have
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to emergency do something. So why would you not want to curate that space where they have
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multiple adults to raise the child and multiple adults to check on each other in their parenting
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as well? I actually agree with you in that like it's interesting how like single parents are
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normalized but like someone can't have multiple wives or multiple husbands. When you think that
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would be a better like if I personally I'm just more of a fan of two but like if I had to pick
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like a single parent or a group like. If you had to pick between one and four you'd pick four.
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Yeah exactly. No exactly. Exactly. So it's interesting how like one is illegal and one's legal.
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Yeah I think I think that in terms of like a single parent no matter who you are man or woman
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it's not enough. Yeah. Like because yeah like I feel like the biggest thing that children learn
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is seeing their parent get checked by another adult. They learn so much from that and if there's
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only one adult and it's like oh I'm your mom and your dad it's like how much can I actually learn
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from you. Yeah. It's like how much perspective can I get and by having multiple adults you get
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multiple adult perspectives. And it's not even like and it's not even like just one person it's
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when your kid goes to their sporting games on the weekend their coach is a role model for them. When
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they go to their musical theatre or dance clubs afterwards it's there's another role model for
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them. Their teachers are role models so they do have adults around them but you've curated who you
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choose to be. Yeah like single parents need to lower their ego and understand that other adults
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can help. You're right like most of human history it was like a powerful men with a bunch of women.
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Yeah. Like typically over history only 40% of men reproduced. So 80% of women did. So it was
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literally two girls for one guy. Depends on what part of history you go back into but yeah I guess so.
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Yeah like the more choice women have the less that happens right. But the more choice the women
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have the less that happens. What do you mean? Well yeah like so the more you're exposed to
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multiple like cultures and men and different styles of like raising a family or just being
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yourself. Like I believe that the more you're exposed to there's less likely you are to settle
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for what you grew up with. You know you're kind of right actually when like the more women get choice
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the more like hypergamous they become. So it's like a smaller well it's a smaller percentage of men that
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are screwing all the girls. So it's one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the
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past year. So it's like it's like again it goes back to like the way it used to be in a way.
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So the more things progress which you can see from the fight for women's rights, for LGBT trans
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rights, for black rights. The more things progress the harder the pushback is. So you'll you'll see
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this back and forth happen. But I think people should have more opportunities to see different
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possibilities and choose for themselves rather than being told what they think is right and following
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that. What do you think would you guys so would you be cool with like multiple husbands and multiple
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wives in this? Is that how you want to do it? Yeah like honestly like. You're going to get like a big
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house. But like but yeah. How else are you supposed to afford a house? Like if you're able to remove your
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ego and be like she likes me for me and not because I'm better than somebody else or not because I'm
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worse than somebody else. Yeah. It makes more sense and I think a lot of people are too caught up with
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am I better than the person in front of me or like you just need to be happy with who you are.
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I do that. Yeah. Yeah of course of course. Like today this morning I was like am I going to look good
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this morning at carnival? Yeah yeah yeah. But it's like once you understand who you are and you don't
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question it anymore. Yeah. You can truly be yourself in other spaces and that allows you to be open to
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more people. Because once you're really yourself people understand who you are. Whereas when you're
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pretending to be somebody else everyone's sceptical. They're like hmm who's this guy? Who's this girl?
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Yeah. And that is like that's the biggest question mark in life. Who are you? It's a lot of
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responsibility to be one person's everything and if you're in a partnership that involves two or more
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people it's about choosing the person for who they are. Like I can see all the potentials of who you
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are and whatever avenue or pathway you take I want to be there to witness that. Yeah like we've been
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together for 11 years since we were 16 and like we understand that we choose each other every day.
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Like no matter how much work we have to put in we choose to put in that work. No matter how much
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graft we have to put in we choose to put in that grind. And at the end of it we look back and we
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say we've grinded harder than any relationship we've ever seen. And so we can be confident no
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matter where it goes. I mean you guys you can't I'm always a big results speak for themselves and
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you've been together long the average marriage is like seven eight years. So you guys have been
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together longer than most married people. That was that was expected when we would have known that
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when we were 16 to be fair. We spiritually married as well. Yeah. What do you need the government
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to tell you if you're married or not? The government just tells us what we can do with the power