JustPearlyThings - July 19, 2023


This Is Why Boss Babes Are Single And Lonely

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Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Jason Derulo Chris Brown Madison Pearl Drake
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10 minutes

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228.56

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2,450

Sentence count

227

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Misogyny

35

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Toxicity

18

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30

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In this episode, we talk about the importance of staying in your feminine energy and how to be a better wife, mother, daughter, and friend to your partner. We also talk about how important it is to stay in the feminine energy so you can be the best version of yourself.

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00:00:00.000 I think women are having burnout, endocrine disruption, cancer, depression.
00:00:05.280 I mean, there's all these issues with women's health because they're trying to be a man. 1.00
00:00:09.460 Because they're trying to, exactly.
00:00:10.540 No, I spoke to a hormone doctor about this.
00:00:13.320 He said women and men don't handle stress the same.
00:00:16.400 And it really messes up our hormones being in high stress positions.
00:00:20.340 And you know what, Madison, if you stay in your feminine energy and you come home and you look after your partner,
00:00:24.340 your man is going to want to look after and do everything in his power to make sure you're good.
00:00:28.800 That's as simple as I can explain it.
00:00:32.820 As long as you stay in your feminine and you look after that man, he's going to do everything for you.
00:00:37.040 Regardless, naturally.
00:00:38.200 But earlier with what I was saying, if you're not showing certain things to him, he's going to see that.
00:00:42.740 All right, cool.
00:00:43.540 She's not really my kind. 0.78
00:00:45.640 I'll sit back.
00:00:46.380 I'm there, but I'll sit back a little bit.
00:00:48.220 But if he sees you're making effort, like even cooking, cooking, if you want to get through to a man's heart, it's through his belly.
00:00:54.060 100%.
00:00:54.460 Simple as that.
00:00:55.220 You get what I'm saying?
00:00:55.720 Yeah, and I also, I fell into the boss babe culture for a long time when I was obese and I started losing weight.
00:01:01.660 But I was still in the boss babe culture. 0.89
00:01:02.900 I was like, oh, I don't need a man.
00:01:04.480 Like, I'm fine.
00:01:05.240 And it was when I had the daddy issues, when I didn't have a good relationship with my father.
00:01:08.860 And it wasn't until I healed my relationship with my father that I was like, oh, okay.
00:01:13.540 I actually, you know, it's really important that I don't have to work like a man. 0.77
00:01:17.220 I was so stressed.
00:01:18.720 I was so anxious all the time.
00:01:20.280 And then I just let it go.
00:01:21.200 I was like, I don't need to do that.
00:01:22.120 My future husband will provide for me.
00:01:24.020 My future husband will do these.
00:01:25.060 And I will fall into my feminine roles.
00:01:26.320 I will cook.
00:01:27.140 I will clean.
00:01:27.720 I will take care of the kids.
00:01:28.540 I'll take care of the house like that.
00:01:29.680 And I'll garden.
00:01:30.860 What did you do?
00:01:31.400 Did you quit your job?
00:01:32.620 No, I just.
00:01:33.540 Okay, I was just curious.
00:01:34.760 Well, I guess I did.
00:01:35.480 It's a total miracle.
00:01:36.120 I just, I flipped two houses last year and I was like, I don't want to do this anymore.
00:01:39.820 So I just decided to stop doing it.
00:01:41.720 That's cold.
00:01:42.300 Oh, wow.
00:01:42.660 It was a miracle though, really.
00:01:44.100 Yeah, because I, yeah, no, go.
00:01:45.440 No, because I was the boss, right?
00:01:47.240 I had to be the provider.
00:01:48.520 I had to be everything.
00:01:49.720 And you didn't have that example.
00:01:51.000 And I think that's another part of where all the good women have gone inside of this independence, 0.97
00:01:54.460 inside of this confusion.
00:01:56.060 It's fatherless families.
00:01:57.660 And like Pearl was saying earlier, if you don't have the example, how are you supposed to know?
00:02:01.560 And you haven't had the example, Penelope.
00:02:03.380 So it's a miracle, purely.
00:02:05.560 Purely.
00:02:05.980 Yeah, no, it is.
00:02:06.520 And it was like growing up with you as my mom, like you played both roles, the dad and the mom.
00:02:10.280 And so that was very interesting because I grew up thinking, oh, I don't need men. 0.74
00:02:14.220 Like men are terrible.
00:02:15.220 And I even thought my dad's father was terrible, but now he's like my best friend.
00:02:18.460 And I think where the good women are going is they think that it's a bad thing to be feminine. 1.00
00:02:23.060 I think that the mindset of women today feel like, if I'm like that.
00:02:27.040 And now if you're feminine and traditional online, people are like, you're, you know, you're not a feminist. 1.00
00:02:31.120 You hate women. 1.00
00:02:31.880 You are terrible. 1.00
00:02:32.740 You are a disgrace of society. 1.00
00:02:34.340 You should go die. 1.00
00:02:35.040 And it's like, wait, wait, what? 1.00
00:02:36.320 Like women are the most beautiful things on planet. 1.00
00:02:38.240 They create human beings.
00:02:39.700 Men cannot create human beings. 1.00
00:02:41.340 So why are women putting women down? 1.00
00:02:43.320 Well, I think it's probably because women want women to fail and see them. 1.00
00:02:47.560 I think it's because we're not supposed to be competing with our mom's generation.
00:02:52.080 Because the thing is, like, if you have a 45-year-old and you have like a 25-year-old girl, it's like a lot of times the guys you might want are the same age.
00:03:00.200 Because women like 45 tend to want guys like, it's like five to seven years younger. 1.00
00:03:04.960 Where women, 25 want guys five to seven years older, this crossover. 1.00
00:03:08.960 And I think bitter older women that don't want you to win will tell you the wrong information. 1.00
00:03:14.460 It's true.
00:03:14.740 And it's because, like, if they're being a hoe, right? 1.00
00:03:18.500 Like, what's the worst feeling when you take a test and you fail?
00:03:21.100 What's the worst feeling when everyone else succeeded?
00:03:24.700 Right?
00:03:25.080 But if you turn around and they say, I failed too, it's like you feel a little bit better.
00:03:28.340 So it's like these women want other people to be miserable in their negative decisions. 1.00
00:03:32.600 It's true.
00:03:32.960 And I've lost hundreds of people because of it.
00:03:35.260 Because of succeeding in my relationship and having a healthy relationship with my father.
00:03:38.640 People dislike me because of that.
00:03:40.360 And it's like, why do you hate me for having a healthy relationship with my family?
00:03:43.840 Am I, am I, am I, am I.
00:03:44.760 So would you, would you say.
00:03:45.900 And especially, I'm like, they don't want you to win.
00:03:48.240 No.
00:03:48.540 They want you to fail. 1.00
00:03:49.680 They want you to be divorced, miserable, sad, fat, on your phone, on TikTok, dying. 0.97
00:03:54.620 So would you say that this is like technically just a woman's problem then? 1.00
00:03:59.260 Because it's women that, it's not technically men that put down women, you know.
00:04:02.160 It's women that put down women. 1.00
00:04:03.400 The women trying to be men are hurting the feminine, not the feminine, the beta men, right? 1.00
00:04:09.280 That's hurting beta men.
00:04:10.460 That's why we have beta men.
00:04:11.640 It's because of the masculine women. 1.00
00:04:13.120 Well, I think it becomes a problem because you have 80% of women screwing 20% of men. 1.00
00:04:18.100 So then women don't respect the average guy. 1.00
00:04:20.200 I did a show the other day and like most women said they wouldn't date a bus driver. 1.00
00:04:23.360 They're above a bus driver, average chicks. 1.00
00:04:26.840 And it's why you have average chicks saying they're at the level of a celebrity. 1.00
00:04:30.260 No offense.
00:04:31.260 But like, it's like you have average chicks thinking they're, they're so great when it's 1.00
00:04:34.820 like literally you are average, you're average looking, you're an average mindset.
00:04:38.160 Most people are average and men will accept this, but women won't. 1.00
00:04:41.560 It's like an insult for us to be normal.
00:04:43.980 So then you, you won't see normal women dating normal men. 0.98
00:04:47.220 But do you feel like that, that is because social media has a lot to play for it.
00:04:50.740 They feel like there's a lot more.
00:04:51.900 I think it's social.
00:04:52.760 I think it's social media and dating apps.
00:04:55.100 They feel like they've got more accessibility to higher people.
00:04:58.580 I mean, they do like, because the issue nowadays, because this is what made me think about this.
00:05:03.680 I'm like, how would you find a good woman? 1.00
00:05:05.380 And I was thinking about this and I made a chart and I had like the body count of a woman 0.92
00:05:09.380 on one hand and I had the looks of a woman on a one hand. 0.98
00:05:13.280 And so I was like a woman that's eight to 10 with a high or a low body count.
00:05:18.100 Good luck keeping her.
00:05:19.260 Do you know what the list is going to be for a girl that that's like that hot with like,
00:05:23.080 like the competition is crazy.
00:05:24.660 And so it's like, you could be dating a woman and if there's high competition for her,
00:05:30.280 Drake could slide in your girl's DMs.
00:05:31.880 A hundred percent.
00:05:32.380 Or maybe it's not Drake.
00:05:33.280 It's the town whoever.
00:05:34.620 Right.
00:05:34.880 And then I was thinking about it and I was like, unless a guy sleeps with a lot of women,
00:05:39.000 how is he going to know the difference between a woman that's been out with everybody and
00:05:42.800 a girl that does it, has it. 0.98
00:05:44.060 They never do.
00:05:44.740 They can't.
00:05:45.840 No, they can't know unless they've been with a lot of girls.
00:05:48.400 And I'm like, it's kind of unfortunate because it's like the only solution for the men seems
00:05:53.900 to be to sleep around, which I don't think is, you know, great for society, but it's like
00:05:58.180 it's women's fault because we're the ones doing the sleeping. 1.00
00:06:00.600 Do you think that men should have more than one woman? 0.98
00:06:02.940 Um, I, I think that it's silly to date certain men and expect monogamy.
00:06:11.220 So I think it's silly to date, say, Jason Derulo, Chris Brown.
00:06:14.940 These are extreme examples, but there are certain men that it's very silly to expect it because
00:06:20.000 he's never been monogamous and they never will be.
00:06:22.480 I think monogamy in general is better for a society.
00:06:25.640 Forget the higher, I'm even talking on average men, normal men on a day to day, because obviously
00:06:30.800 you've said earlier on that there's more women on the earth than men. 1.00
00:06:34.960 Yeah.
00:06:35.180 So on average, how we are naturally, do you think that the average man should have one
00:06:40.220 woman? 0.96
00:06:41.700 Um, I think that it's better for society if monogamy is better because you get like a
00:06:47.360 growing, um, having a lot of sex, sexless men, like usually causes society to collapse.
00:06:53.560 Um, so I think monogamy is better by and large, but I think that a certain percentage of men
00:06:58.180 are always going to be non-monogamous.
00:07:00.760 Um, and that's kind of the way it's been the last like 2 million years.
00:07:03.160 Cause 85%, it's like the last, I don't want to say the, how long it's been like this cause
00:07:07.860 I don't remember off the top of my head, but I know like historically they always, it seems
00:07:12.160 like all of society has been non-monogamous because 17, um, men, um, reproduced for every,
00:07:17.740 uh, one, 17 women reproduced for every one man, like 8,000 years ago. 0.87
00:07:23.080 And on top of that, there's like two women have always reproduced for every one man, but 0.63
00:07:26.380 it's actually, um, or 40% of men have never reproduced or 40% of men, I'm sorry, I'm butchering
00:07:32.120 this, but, but the 85% of, um, like 85% of society has generally been monogamous where
00:07:38.540 the top 15% of men have just been like slaying.
00:07:41.040 Is it?
00:07:41.620 Yeah.
00:07:42.140 Well, well, okay.
00:07:43.060 Like concubines. 1.00
00:07:43.980 You do a lot of stats here.
00:07:45.160 Yeah.
00:07:45.340 I know a lot of average men out here that's probably not on these stats doing the same
00:07:49.340 thing.
00:07:49.740 And when I say a lot, I'm talking, if you're just talking average men in London, obviously
00:07:54.060 London, I don't know about America and that.
00:07:56.020 Average in what?
00:07:57.040 In sleeping with a lot of women.
00:07:58.860 No, like average looks, average money.
00:08:01.860 Would you say?
00:08:02.240 Average looks, average, average job.
00:08:04.900 Um, I'm, I'm, I can even give you examples of, of, of a few average men.
00:08:08.540 That are big in weight and just got no more jobs that are dealing with a lot of women 1.00
00:08:13.280 across the board.
00:08:14.300 Um, well, there, there's a couple of things.
00:08:16.260 So, I mean, typically again, like there's been studies on dating apps and in, in person 0.83
00:08:21.480 where women find 80% of men is ugly. 0.86
00:08:24.120 Not okay. 0.95
00:08:25.140 Not average.
00:08:25.840 They think ugly. 0.98
00:08:26.920 He is unattractive. 1.00
00:08:28.260 Ugly. 0.98
00:08:28.860 Would you say the top percentage of men are on these dating apps?
00:08:32.900 Um, yeah, maybe.
00:08:35.480 Yeah.
00:08:35.860 I don't know.
00:08:36.220 I don't, I don't believe so.
00:08:37.120 Um, but, but, but, uh, I think that, I think that if you look at the numbers, social media
00:08:45.700 is the number one way people, way people are meeting.
00:08:48.020 A hundred percent.
00:08:48.580 So social media and dating apps.
00:08:50.840 And like when you look at, so then the question is if that's where people are meeting, what
00:08:54.400 are the numbers look like in the dating apps?
00:08:56.200 Well, women only swipe right 5% of the time. 1.00
00:08:58.680 So that means on the number one way people are meeting, we're sharing men.
00:09:03.800 A hundred percent.
00:09:04.460 Cause it's always going to be free men.
00:09:05.520 Cause we're the hunters.
00:09:06.360 So we always going to have to say that again.
00:09:08.900 It's always going to be men because we're the hunters.
00:09:11.280 We're always going, we're going to be the higher anyway.
00:09:13.460 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:09:14.100 Yeah.
00:09:14.280 But when you're saying the average men that get women, they probably get women over the
00:09:18.060 age of 30 because women tend to go for looks. 1.00
00:09:20.760 And so in their twenties, I fully agree with that.
00:09:23.380 You know why I agree with that?
00:09:24.420 Because I feel like in the twenties, you're a hundred percent right.
00:09:27.040 Between 20 and 30, women are very selective in what they do. 0.99
00:09:30.440 And then when they get to the 80, you started wheeling off a lot of stats about pregnancy,
00:09:34.820 geriatrics.
00:09:35.880 When they start realizing that.
00:09:37.800 And they go for the average man.
00:09:39.300 They feel like they can come back to the average man or even go back to a man that was
00:09:42.380 trying to get them when they were 18, 19 and feel like they can go back to them.
00:09:46.440 But obviously with men, it's a bit different because men at 30,
00:09:50.400 we start peaking.
00:09:51.420 We get better.
00:09:52.440 Yeah.
00:09:52.920 So we start, it's changed.
00:09:54.480 There's a change.
00:09:55.100 You get what I'm saying?
00:09:55.640 Yeah.
00:09:55.900 Yeah.
00:09:56.140 And so that's why I say women pick non-monogamy in their twenties when they have the most leverage. 1.00
00:10:00.840 Yeah.
00:10:01.120 And they pick the 20% of men that in their thirties, they, we tend to pick like the rest 0.81
00:10:07.480 basically.
00:10:08.340 And so the issue is like when, when, when women cheat, who do they typically cheat with?
00:10:12.300 You guys know anyone?
00:10:14.080 The exes.
00:10:15.000 Correct.
00:10:15.340 A hundred percent.
00:10:16.060 Correct.
00:10:16.920 So the issue that a lot of these guys are getting into, and this is why guys
00:10:20.320 don't like typically, like a lot of guys will say, I don't date women over 30 and it's
00:10:23.760 not a looks thing.
00:10:24.640 It's that if she's 30, like how many relationships has she had as one of those guys better than
00:10:29.920 me?
00:10:30.320 And does she want to be with him?
00:10:31.920 And the odds are he probably is because in her twenties, she had more leverage than
00:10:35.260 her thirties.
00:10:35.840 So what are the odds in her thirties she can get a better guy than in her twenties? 1.00
00:10:39.520 Likely.
00:10:40.180 Right.
00:10:40.600 And he was probably top 20% of love.