JustPearlyThings - This Is Why Men Don’t Trust Women

00:00:00.000 i think you never really know someone until you're in a relationship i think it takes a lot of time

00:00:07.020 to know the type of person it is because when you get into a relationship you see the good stuff

00:00:11.580 because things i've always prioritized is i want a great family like i do not want to be a single

00:00:16.580 mother and so i will always pick a man i don't care about how much money you are i don't care 1.00

00:00:21.040 about protector i need a man that's going to be a good father to my children and usually those are

00:00:25.920 men that are good communicators so this is this is i'm just going to tell you what remember what

00:00:31.080 you said this is contradicting what you said because if you don't care about money then you

00:00:35.280 don't care if he's ambitious and that's if you don't remember earlier you were talking about how

00:00:40.400 you didn't care so much about money you care more about emotionally i don't care about him paying for

00:00:45.920 me because i'm right but i'm saying then so so if you're ambitious and if you're ambitious then

00:00:50.800 you want you to want money okay okay okay but i know so that translates into money in the future

00:00:55.960 right so okay okay okay so but this is why right right okay but this is why men don't really trust

00:01:02.480 what women say because you're saying oh i don't care about the money but when you when you're 1.00

00:01:06.900 presented with a man who's like eh i'm good with the money i have eh i'm not that ambitious

00:01:10.640 you're like no i can't stay for this if it came across that i said i don't care about a man that

00:01:16.000 has money i i care about a man that's ambitious right you don't have to have money right now but

00:01:21.300 you need to be hard working and wanting money when i say i don't care about money it means

00:01:25.680 i'm not gonna go for a man purely because of money because i'm also hard working i'm ambitious

00:01:32.760 so i'm not gonna put that on you to pay for my lifestyle because i want to prioritize

00:01:37.060 other characteristics in a man but to say that i don't care about money yes i do i do because i i love

00:01:43.100 money myself i gotta make money so my man's gonna make money but i'm just saying this is why men

00:01:47.500 like don't believe what women say because we constantly contradict ourselves and it's like

00:01:52.500 the other question i'm just telling you how the men would hear what you said if you said oh they're 0.97

00:01:55.920 great guys um but they were bums they would either hear that you you date losers or they would hear 0.84

00:02:02.820 that you're not loyal because you leave good men this is just i'm telling you how they would take it 0.95

00:02:07.100 you know no i i think like my biggest problem is like i first of all i hear all of you like i totally

00:02:16.420 agree with what a lot of you guys are saying i think my biggest problem is that i do want someone

00:02:23.840 that i can talk about my day with and what you said is a fact men are problem solvers they don't want

00:02:32.200 to hear you gripe they just want to fix it and that's where i'm going through this like trying

00:02:40.340 to figure out what exactly i'm wanting or needing but like i want someone that can listen to that 0.74

00:02:46.060 yeah and i don't know if i'm asking for a fucking unicorn but i want to be able to i want to be able 0.92

00:02:51.340 to talk about what happened at the nail salon i do want to have that friendship i don't need you 0.96

00:02:57.740 every single time i talk about something to try to fix it right of course we want someone who can

00:03:02.560 who has the the potential to fix a light bulb whatever great but i think that was the big that's

00:03:08.920 been the biggest factor i've been missing in my relationships is like a friend and so that's where

00:03:15.460 i don't know how it's supposed to go how it's going to end what it's supposed to be how how am i

00:03:20.840 supposed to adjust my expectations what am i am i asking for something that's unrealistic

00:03:24.580 so i do have a question um could you think of a friend that you have right now that you could

00:03:33.960 potentially see yourself with i'm gonna be very honest with you i do not really buy into the

00:03:40.360 whole male friend thing that's just a probably a bit of a jaded belief i can probably i can be aware

00:03:47.660 enough to say that um i don't know i i honestly was sexually assaulted by my best friend before my

00:03:54.880 30th birthday actually so i have a little bit of a like i'm i don't want to close that part of my

00:04:00.520 heart off but i just any doubt i had about it it felt like it was confirmed a little bit i'm like

00:04:06.680 if i if you if i'm drunk and you're given the chance you're gonna finger me in my sleep and that's

00:04:11.180 like literally what happened to me so so yeah so it's like i just i don't know if i buy into that

00:04:16.140 just yet but never say never but you know what can i just say something that is quite interesting yeah

00:04:21.500 i grew up having mostly guy friends because i was a tomboy like sports and everything i used to be

00:04:29.520 with the guys yeah that is why even though i have a more feminine image now what's inside is quite

00:04:34.720 different and one thing that i understand very well and one thing that they told me and one thing that

00:04:38.500 i've picked up along the years what happened in the nail salon a lot of the time is petty and i'm

00:04:45.380 not trying to say this because i'm trying to be with you because i know and i have girlfriends and

00:04:49.800 when they come to me to talk about what happened in the nail salon i'm like wow how is this going to

00:04:54.300 add to my life this is mental clutter do you know that i have this to do tomorrow i have this to do

00:04:58.160 tomorrow i have big things to worry about and you're trying to chew my ear off over something that

00:05:02.560 is so petty that if you took two seconds to think within yourself and reflect you'll be able to let it go

00:05:07.500 straight away and then instead of us spending five ten minutes talking about something pointless

00:05:11.480 we could be talking about something that is more productive and something that is more substantial

00:05:14.920 and i think that a lot of the time what we girls get get you know and i say we girls just so that i

00:05:21.460 don't single myself out but what girls tend to do a lot of the time is waste time talking about 1.00

00:05:26.440 nonsense that doesn't mean anything i don't care about what happened in the nail salon what's that 0.97

00:05:30.700 doing to advance my life you can say do you know what these people in the nail salon was so damn rude you 1.00

00:05:35.280 know babe i need to go to the next one i need to go somewhere else actually do you know what next

00:05:38.880 time what do you reckon i should say that's a great way to get involved but even still there's

00:05:42.880 no point i think the the point is like relationships work better if as women we can unload our problem i 0.99

00:05:48.760 can talk to other women about our problems and go to our men about like problems we want to solve 0.95

00:05:53.640 it's not to say you can never talk to like of course my mom would bitch to my dad about tracy 1.00

00:05:59.480 but but it's it's just saying like in general men don't want to hear about it and it's like if

00:06:10.080 you're selling we're the cars right and i know women aren't cars but like we're the cars you have 1.00

00:06:14.120 to know your buyer and if your buyer doesn't like listening to our problems maybe we could try to tell

00:06:18.780 tell them about them less unless we want them fixed

JustPearlyThings - June 05, 2023

This Is Why Men Don’t Trust Women

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