This Is Why Men Lie To Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the sensitive topic of fat shaming in the bedroom and the impact it can have on a woman's relationship with her partner and how to deal with it. We also discuss the importance of being honest with your partner and why it's important to be honest with yourself.
Transcript
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answer your question though you know when you said oh if your man commented on your body in
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the bedroom wouldn't you be offended i wouldn't oh no i mean i wouldn't like i just do something
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about it it depends on what they say though and how they say it and i think it's also the heart
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behind it as well well no yours as as well as the heart sorry um as well as the heart because
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i trust my husband so anything that he says i know it's not like malicious but also my husband
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is a bit of an enemy of my progress because i want to lose weight and he's very like oh well
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you look amazing but sometimes i just feel like if your partner says oh yeah i'd love if you like
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toned up it gives you that extra motivation to go tone up do you know what i mean i think there's a
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there's a way of going around it so it's not like oh when you was when we was doing this and i felt
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this yeah there's there's ways around it now my mama just say you're fat you've got a buddy do
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just think about it yeah i just think we've got that kind of straightforward yeah we've got a
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straightforward relationship i was just gonna say i think it's all down to approach how things are
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said i agree with you because if let's say you're getting busy with your guy and then you're saying
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oh you're a bit heavy today excuse me why are you saying it like that well handle my heaviness and
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get stronger then it's just the way i wouldn't stop it's not funny imagine you're in the moment
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and all of a sudden you're a bit heavy today sorry what'd you say no i was just saying like
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if let's say you're in the moment you know your mind's in a different universe and then all of
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a sudden you hear silly comment like you're a bit heavy today
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like what does it matter how he says it if it's true it's true he's not saying you're ugly you know
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i hate you personally in the moment i don't think that matters if it's true i think why are you saying
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it when we're in the moment because you can feel the way they've been in the position yes yes i agree
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with that i said i think it's important that you date guys that like your body type your body type can
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change thank god yeah i didn't look like this a couple of babies ago i mean you've grown together
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as a couple though yeah so by what she said like he met me one way he could be like oh but i want
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you to go back and go back to that but you could lose weight you know you could he doesn't care but
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i'm saying if he cared i probably would be more motivated yeah that's what i mean it wouldn't just
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be like my internal i want to lose weight but he's like you know can you buy me a chocolate then
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he'll buy me like a duo but that's not helpful but that's just you there are a lot of men who still
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expect their women to even if she doesn't look exactly like how they met before kids they still
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expect their women to look somewhat the same so luckily your man's like you know we can eat
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chocolate together whatever but there are a lot of men that like yeah she's just you know and there
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are a lot of women that feel offended by it because it's like oh well i've pushed out this
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baby but like well i just think sometimes men feel like they can't say things that are true to us
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and like we want them to communicate it in a feminine way yeah and and they're not women
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so when you say like it's how you say it it's very confusing to guys because they're like well
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it's true i think men are required to be gentle with women because we are not like them
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so i think in the same way we should not expect men to deliver in a way that a female would they
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need to recognize that they're not speaking to a male so yes i feel like men should be able to be
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truthful but they should do it gently because they're speaking to someone gentle yeah i just
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think that women need to grow a backbone and stop making excuses because if you're fat you're fat if
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you got to put on weight you got to put on weight my man told me i was four pound overweight i lost four
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pound he's just the same thing like what she said he goes hang on a minute what's all that hanging
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about you're putting a bit of weight in you a bit of heavy and i was like yeah you're right
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that's like about it but no but what i'm trying to say is that it all depends on your relationship
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and how you talk to each other because we're just quite straightforward and blunt to the point
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where people are oh my god did he really say that i'm like yeah and it's true and i'll tell him
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yes look at your big head you know to your comment it was like uh because you said but did you feel
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like that so let's say the woman disagreed and then he's like okay but i want you to
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you know like get fit and she's like no i don't really feel like i need you if he then stepped
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out are you saying that's like wrong or like his eyes are not gonna wonder i mean yes sit down and
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work it out like but he has he's like he's telling me like babe please go to the gym you've asked
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something and i and i said no i don't feel like it your resolve can't be then i'm just gonna step
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out if like if there's a resolve that goes beyond us continuing this conversation until we're both
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like not satisfied but there is some kind of middle ground here but what's the middle ground
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leave me but again i think that's a lot of guys feel trapped in marriages because they don't want
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their kid they don't want to put their kid at every statistical disadvantage they possibly could
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so it's like if they step this is just how they see it it's like if they step out and you never find
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out because they're you're not doing the things that they ask them to do they a lot of times guys feel
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like it's justified no i know i know someone that said because he has a child he will never leave
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the his child's mom um but if he's unhappy he will go about his business behind her back but he will
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never leave her and i said to him leave her he said never because my son's there and i don't want him
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not not because he fears that she would keep him away from him it's because he doesn't want his son to
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grow up outside of mom and dad lives here but together they happy the son sees happy parents
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i don't know oh because if they did i think good on him yeah yeah what for cheating and staying
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yeah yeah okay i think there should be some kind of mutual agreement between the two parents if
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that's the case if they're not happy no him he said him but what she don't know don't hurt her in it
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oh no no you don't think so no because she can get infected by what she doesn't know might hurt her
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that's an extreme yeah if he cares so much about his child he's gonna care so much about his wife's
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vagina you don't know that because he cares about his child yeah he's cheating that's his standard he's
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staying because of his child he could leave so because his standards are so high he's not gonna go out
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and cheat and get something if he's gonna be extremely careful because he's careful anyway
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that's why he's staying there i don't agree do you guys believe a man can love you but still cheat
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yes yeah i do yeah i really do like long-term cheating or do you like oh i've slept with this
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person and i i've realized i was wrong i think sometimes they just fall under some stripper you
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yeah but not not long time long time cheating i have a friend and he he reckons all men cheat in a
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certain type of way he said my friend he's married he calls it like a transfer window like a window he
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said i have my windows i do what i do and then you know what i go back i'm a good dad i'm a good
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husband but that's it but when that window opens it's open and when it's shut it's shut i don't think
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all men cheat neither do i i'm so sorry yeah i refuse no my man don't cheat i don't think all
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men cheat i just i do think they can sleep with someone else else and still love you love you and
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care i've just had enough men i think so but not like a long-term relationship with a whole other
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family exactly a double life i don't know i really think guys can love two women at the same time
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yeah i really like i mean how they did it throughout all of history i mean you're gonna you're gonna tell me
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that all throughout all of history when it's 17 it's one man reproduced for every 17 women that
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none of them loved their wives isn't it there's more there's more men than women so technically
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like there's less yeah sorry so they have to double up repo yeah reproduce with more women i think
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historically 80 of 80 of women have reproduced historically where only 40 of men have i think
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sometimes i think sometimes you find out who's who when you go to funerals and you find out who's
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that that's uncle so yeah but it's true and that's when you find out sometime that the man had a whole
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family that nobody knew about and i'm not saying it's right i'm just saying that's how the world's
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always been like i can't i can't change the world i think it happens more with people older than me
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than than now it seems to be like for the old people i'll say like 60 and 70 you always know
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somebody and like they have somebody down the road they got a whole other family oh this oh this is
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sorry go ahead go ahead no worries um i think men are women god has made us differently right
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sorry let me be speaking to the mic um so in islam men can have up to four wives because god know who
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he's who he's who he's created men men they're not they're not like us you know we're maternal
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we're more loyal you know that's what we want from a relationship and that's what we bring to a
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relationship whereas for men they're more protectors providers they're more um you know go out there and
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do the hard jobs that type of thing so for them what they want is to spread to put it bluntly spread
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their seed and have as many kids as they can and have as many families as they can and i'm i mean i i