JustPearlyThings - This Is Why Men Lie To Women

00:00:00.000 answer your question though you know when you said oh if your man commented on your body in

00:00:04.440 the bedroom wouldn't you be offended i wouldn't oh no i mean i wouldn't like i just do something

00:00:11.100 about it it depends on what they say though and how they say it and i think it's also the heart

00:00:15.960 behind it as well well no yours as as well as the heart sorry um as well as the heart because

00:00:22.940 i trust my husband so anything that he says i know it's not like malicious but also my husband

00:00:29.840 is a bit of an enemy of my progress because i want to lose weight and he's very like oh well

00:00:35.420 you look amazing but sometimes i just feel like if your partner says oh yeah i'd love if you like

00:00:40.300 toned up it gives you that extra motivation to go tone up do you know what i mean i think there's a

00:00:43.980 there's a way of going around it so it's not like oh when you was when we was doing this and i felt

00:00:49.600 this yeah there's there's ways around it now my mama just say you're fat you've got a buddy do 0.78

00:00:54.880 just think about it yeah i just think we've got that kind of straightforward yeah we've got a

00:01:01.040 straightforward relationship i was just gonna say i think it's all down to approach how things are

00:01:05.740 said i agree with you because if let's say you're getting busy with your guy and then you're saying

00:01:10.680 oh you're a bit heavy today excuse me why are you saying it like that well handle my heaviness and

00:01:15.620 get stronger then it's just the way i wouldn't stop it's not funny imagine you're in the moment

00:01:20.840 and all of a sudden you're a bit heavy today sorry what'd you say no i was just saying like

00:01:26.560 if let's say you're in the moment you know your mind's in a different universe and then all of

00:01:31.280 a sudden you hear silly comment like you're a bit heavy today 0.77

00:01:33.560 like what does it matter how he says it if it's true it's true he's not saying you're ugly you know 0.96

00:01:49.360 i hate you personally in the moment i don't think that matters if it's true i think why are you saying 0.53

00:01:52.940 it when we're in the moment because you can feel the way they've been in the position yes yes i agree

00:01:57.840 with that i said i think it's important that you date guys that like your body type your body type can

00:02:02.140 change thank god yeah i didn't look like this a couple of babies ago i mean you've grown together

00:02:09.380 as a couple though yeah so by what she said like he met me one way he could be like oh but i want

00:02:16.660 you to go back and go back to that but you could lose weight you know you could he doesn't care but

00:02:22.020 i'm saying if he cared i probably would be more motivated yeah that's what i mean it wouldn't just

00:02:27.720 be like my internal i want to lose weight but he's like you know can you buy me a chocolate then

00:02:33.200 he'll buy me like a duo but that's not helpful but that's just you there are a lot of men who still

00:02:37.420 expect their women to even if she doesn't look exactly like how they met before kids they still

00:02:42.500 expect their women to look somewhat the same so luckily your man's like you know we can eat 1.00

00:02:49.060 chocolate together whatever but there are a lot of men that like yeah she's just you know and there

00:02:53.820 are a lot of women that feel offended by it because it's like oh well i've pushed out this

00:02:58.360 baby but like well i just think sometimes men feel like they can't say things that are true to us

00:03:02.980 and like we want them to communicate it in a feminine way yeah and and they're not women 1.00

00:03:07.760 so when you say like it's how you say it it's very confusing to guys because they're like well

00:03:13.000 it's true i think men are required to be gentle with women because we are not like them 0.98

00:03:22.420 so i think in the same way we should not expect men to deliver in a way that a female would they 0.79

00:03:28.280 need to recognize that they're not speaking to a male so yes i feel like men should be able to be

00:03:33.960 truthful but they should do it gently because they're speaking to someone gentle yeah i just

00:03:41.120 think that women need to grow a backbone and stop making excuses because if you're fat you're fat if 1.00

00:03:45.520 you got to put on weight you got to put on weight my man told me i was four pound overweight i lost four

00:03:49.460 pound he's just the same thing like what she said he goes hang on a minute what's all that hanging

00:03:53.200 about you're putting a bit of weight in you a bit of heavy and i was like yeah you're right

00:03:56.620 that's like about it but no but what i'm trying to say is that it all depends on your relationship

00:04:01.860 and how you talk to each other because we're just quite straightforward and blunt to the point

00:04:05.980 where people are oh my god did he really say that i'm like yeah and it's true and i'll tell him

00:04:09.840 yes look at your big head you know to your comment it was like uh because you said but did you feel

00:04:15.340 like that so let's say the woman disagreed and then he's like okay but i want you to

00:04:20.040 you know like get fit and she's like no i don't really feel like i need you if he then stepped

00:04:24.440 out are you saying that's like wrong or like his eyes are not gonna wonder i mean yes sit down and

00:04:30.660 work it out like but he has he's like he's telling me like babe please go to the gym you've asked

00:04:35.280 something and i and i said no i don't feel like it your resolve can't be then i'm just gonna step

00:04:41.180 out if like if there's a resolve that goes beyond us continuing this conversation until we're both

00:04:47.200 like not satisfied but there is some kind of middle ground here but what's the middle ground

00:04:52.160 leave me but again i think that's a lot of guys feel trapped in marriages because they don't want

00:04:57.300 their kid they don't want to put their kid at every statistical disadvantage they possibly could

00:05:01.060 so it's like if they step this is just how they see it it's like if they step out and you never find

00:05:05.800 out because they're you're not doing the things that they ask them to do they a lot of times guys feel

00:05:10.600 like it's justified no i know i know someone that said because he has a child he will never leave

00:05:15.960 the his child's mom um but if he's unhappy he will go about his business behind her back but he will

00:05:22.140 never leave her and i said to him leave her he said never because my son's there and i don't want him

00:05:27.760 not not because he fears that she would keep him away from him it's because he doesn't want his son to

00:05:34.640 grow up outside of mom and dad lives here but together they happy the son sees happy parents

00:05:40.360 i don't know oh because if they did i think good on him yeah yeah what for cheating and staying

00:05:46.840 yeah yeah okay i think there should be some kind of mutual agreement between the two parents if

00:05:54.040 that's the case if they're not happy no him he said him but what she don't know don't hurt her in it

00:05:59.660 oh no no you don't think so no because she can get infected by what she doesn't know might hurt her

00:06:06.140 that's an extreme yeah if he cares so much about his child he's gonna care so much about his wife's 0.99

00:06:11.020 vagina you don't know that because he cares about his child yeah he's cheating that's his standard he's 1.00

00:06:16.460 staying because of his child he could leave so because his standards are so high he's not gonna go out 0.95

00:06:22.140 and cheat and get something if he's gonna be extremely careful because he's careful anyway

00:06:26.820 that's why he's staying there i don't agree do you guys believe a man can love you but still cheat

00:06:33.260 yes yeah i do yeah i really do like long-term cheating or do you like oh i've slept with this

00:06:41.520 person and i i've realized i was wrong i think sometimes they just fall under some stripper you 0.86

00:06:46.740 yeah but not not long time long time cheating i have a friend and he he reckons all men cheat in a

00:06:54.680 certain type of way he said my friend he's married he calls it like a transfer window like a window he

00:07:00.140 said i have my windows i do what i do and then you know what i go back i'm a good dad i'm a good

00:07:05.540 husband but that's it but when that window opens it's open and when it's shut it's shut i don't think

00:07:10.260 all men cheat neither do i i'm so sorry yeah i refuse no my man don't cheat i don't think all

00:07:16.480 men cheat i just i do think they can sleep with someone else else and still love you love you and

00:07:20.880 care i've just had enough men i think so but not like a long-term relationship with a whole other

00:07:25.600 family exactly a double life i don't know i really think guys can love two women at the same time

00:07:31.520 yeah i really like i mean how they did it throughout all of history i mean you're gonna you're gonna tell me

00:07:37.460 that all throughout all of history when it's 17 it's one man reproduced for every 17 women that

00:07:42.840 none of them loved their wives isn't it there's more there's more men than women so technically

00:07:48.440 like there's less yeah sorry so they have to double up repo yeah reproduce with more women i think 1.00

00:07:54.660 historically 80 of 80 of women have reproduced historically where only 40 of men have i think

00:08:01.040 sometimes i think sometimes you find out who's who when you go to funerals and you find out who's

00:08:05.480 that that's uncle so yeah but it's true and that's when you find out sometime that the man had a whole

00:08:10.440 family that nobody knew about and i'm not saying it's right i'm just saying that's how the world's

00:08:14.300 always been like i can't i can't change the world i think it happens more with people older than me

00:08:20.860 than than now it seems to be like for the old people i'll say like 60 and 70 you always know

00:08:26.560 somebody and like they have somebody down the road they got a whole other family oh this oh this is

00:08:32.880 sorry go ahead go ahead no worries um i think men are women god has made us differently right

00:08:39.680 sorry let me be speaking to the mic um so in islam men can have up to four wives because god know who 1.00

00:08:48.100 he's who he's who he's created men men they're not they're not like us you know we're maternal

00:08:56.240 we're more loyal you know that's what we want from a relationship and that's what we bring to a

00:09:01.900 relationship whereas for men they're more protectors providers they're more um you know go out there and 0.87

00:09:09.260 do the hard jobs that type of thing so for them what they want is to spread to put it bluntly spread

00:09:16.660 their seed and have as many kids as they can and have as many families as they can and i'm i mean i i

00:09:24.200 think that's fine

JustPearlyThings - October 27, 2023

This Is Why Men Lie To Women

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