JustPearlyThings - May 10, 2023


This is Why Modern Women Are Single And Childless


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8 minutes

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243.6638

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2,067

Sentence count

187

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Misogyny

15

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10

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In this episode, we discuss how women in their late 20s and early 30s tend to pick men that they would have never picked in their 20s or early 30's. We talk about why this is happening and why women tend to go for men in their 30s.

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00:00:00.000 So basically women share with men in their 20s and then in their 30s pick a leftover guy, typically, that they wouldn't have picked in their 20s. 0.88
00:00:07.100 I am.
00:00:08.060 Yeah, I agree with that as well.
00:00:09.640 Same.
00:00:10.380 Yeah, I definitely agree with that.
00:00:11.920 You always see the age-old things.
00:00:13.380 Like when I was in school, you get the really crisp-looking girl that everyone wanted, and she would only pick who she deemed to be really handsome or whatever it was.
00:00:23.160 And then as she got into her 30s, had three or four children, and body shape's now no longer the same.
00:00:28.740 All of a sudden, because for me, I truly believe that men, as they get older, they become more attractive.
00:00:35.040 There's a reason they age like fine wine.
00:00:36.820 That's a phrase.
00:00:37.980 Women age like milk. 1.00
00:00:38.740 Milk.
00:00:40.980 So even with the Botox nowadays, we can see your forehead not moving.
00:00:47.520 We can see it.
00:00:49.340 It's so shiny.
00:00:51.220 Exactly that as well.
00:00:52.580 So then you get those women in their early 20s who didn't necessarily want to pick you. 1.00
00:00:56.400 You know, all of a sudden, they want to pick you when they're in a situation where it's like, no, you come back and say, well, they can't.
00:01:01.340 Yeah, because they don't have as much bargaining power.
00:01:03.140 It's like you got to go half off.
00:01:04.620 You know what I mean?
00:01:05.360 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:05.760 And so now it's like they will run to the guys that we rejected in our 20s and our 30s and say, take me with, you know.
00:01:12.260 And guess who they're going to cheat on you with? 0.92
00:01:14.180 The guys in their 20s.
00:01:14.620 The guys in their 20s.
00:01:14.960 The guys in their 20s.
00:01:15.700 The guys in their 20s.
00:01:16.300 Exactly.
00:01:16.900 So they're going right back.
00:01:17.900 Yep.
00:01:18.120 Yeah.
00:01:18.420 Which I think that's like why we really talk about what we do.
00:01:23.380 It's not really to shit on women, but it's like a lot of men are naive to this.
00:01:26.200 They think, oh, she really likes me because she's coming in my 30s or maybe she just overlooked me in high school.
00:01:31.200 But she didn't overlook you.
00:01:32.120 She's just, you know, the other guys didn't work out.
00:01:33.980 You're a second choice.
00:01:35.120 They just don't know it.
00:01:36.000 She bet against you. 0.67
00:01:37.340 Yeah.
00:01:37.560 And you let her back in.
00:01:38.560 You're in trouble.
00:01:39.180 Yeah.
00:01:41.620 It's harsh.
00:01:42.360 I think that women, some women just make a lot of mistakes and are looking in the wrong way. 1.00
00:01:47.260 Because I'm like a relationship person.
00:01:49.320 I wasn't just like, you know, going all around the place.
00:01:51.780 But what's high value when you're younger or what you think is high value when you're younger isn't what you're not kind of linking it to a husband.
00:02:02.540 You're not hunting.
00:02:04.240 You're right.
00:02:04.640 You're right.
00:02:05.100 Because when women get closer to 30, it's like they look more for long term security. 1.00
00:02:08.640 So in their 20s, it goes back to what we were saying.
00:02:10.520 It tends to be looks more like prime genes.
00:02:13.140 So they say, okay, these guys are the ideal genes that I want for whatever reason.
00:02:17.880 Maybe it's social status, maybe whatever.
00:02:20.040 But then in their 30s, they tend to go for like long term security and like safety.
00:02:24.160 And so, you know, basically it's like alpha, beta.
00:02:26.640 Like they pick the alphas in their 20s and the betas in their 30s.
00:02:29.340 And women don't typically respect the beta. 1.00
00:02:31.640 I mean, I hate the word alpha and beta.
00:02:32.980 But you understand what I'm saying.
00:02:34.160 And you don't realise as well that when you're saying the beta is like, say at school, at college, whatever, just the good looking guy is the one that all the girls want.
00:02:44.840 But you don't realise these guys over here are the ones that are going to make the money, have their own businesses.
00:02:48.740 And you're not, that's just not in your head at all.
00:02:50.860 You just want, it's an attraction.
00:02:53.040 It's not, you're not thinking it through, if you see what I mean.
00:02:55.060 It's not like a decision you've made on purpose.
00:02:56.960 Well, there's a reason historically, like the dads would keep their daughters away from certain guys.
00:03:01.520 Like this is why, it's like, that's why women, like we suck at relationships. 1.00
00:03:05.980 We don't pick the right guys in general.
00:03:07.660 Because this is the first time, because in the 20s, it switched where women used to live with their dad and then they went straight to their husband. 0.91
00:03:16.260 So there was no period like in between.
00:03:19.260 And so in the 20s, that was when women started to go out. 1.00
00:03:21.600 You know, that's why they say the roaring 20s.
00:03:23.180 They started going to the parties.
00:03:24.480 You know, they cut their hair off, all this wild stuff.
00:03:26.980 And so that was the first time where women were more in control of sex and more in control of who they were picking. 1.00
00:03:32.220 And that's when you start to see the birth, like women having less children. 1.00
00:03:35.220 And that's when you, well, you see the divorce rate more go down in 65 when women were 100% in control of reproduction because we got birth control. 0.50
00:03:43.600 But my whole point is that when women are in charge, we make bad choices. 1.00
00:03:47.220 We're like children.
00:03:48.200 Yeah.
00:03:48.600 If you give us too much freedom, we don't know what we're doing.
00:03:50.420 Yeah.
00:03:51.440 If my dad had chosen who I dated, I wouldn't have dated any of them in my 20s.
00:03:56.020 And that's the thing.
00:03:57.440 Like a lot of times girls will say to me, and I don't say it to be mean, but they'll say, oh, well, not all women are like that. 0.61
00:04:03.200 And then I'll ask them like follow-up questions about their exes and their 20s.
00:04:06.840 Like, did your parents like them?
00:04:08.220 The answer is always no.
00:04:08.920 You know, they were funny.
00:04:10.560 A couple of them were funny or nice, but useless.
00:04:13.420 Or if the parents did like them, she left him.
00:04:16.740 Yeah.
00:04:17.020 So, you know.
00:04:18.800 Some people can be likable and not, sorry, not dependable husband, father material.
00:04:24.560 Correct.
00:04:24.880 And the parents see that.
00:04:26.480 Yeah.
00:04:26.840 And then we just say, la, la, la, la, I don't hear you.
00:04:29.860 I pick them anyway.
00:04:30.660 Yeah.
00:04:31.500 You just unpacked something really interesting for a lot of guys listening to this need to be really careful about this.
00:04:36.760 You're like, well, you know, we were, I was in my 20s and picking guys that weren't like a good long-term, you know, secure option.
00:04:42.900 I was picking like this thing.
00:04:44.420 They got me.
00:04:44.880 Well, really what they did is they got you sexually excited.
00:04:47.760 That's what it was.
00:04:48.480 I was, there was passion and there was some attraction.
00:04:50.660 There was charisma.
00:04:51.400 There's that.
00:04:51.820 And, you know, that's exactly what it was.
00:04:53.600 And then you get, and now you're like, well, I wasn't thinking about this, like longevity and this.
00:04:57.940 And it's like, what do you mean you weren't thinking about it?
00:05:00.620 I know what it means.
00:05:01.580 Let me say what it means is now you're thinking about it.
00:05:04.820 And so now you're having as a woman, and this is like not you specifically, but in general, women get to 30, 31, 32.
00:05:10.560 It's like, oh, now I have to think about these things, which means you're rationalizing yourself into a relationship.
00:05:15.220 And the question I would have is, is rationalizing yourself into a relationship genuine desire?
00:05:19.620 No, you do misunderstand me a little bit.
00:05:21.860 I've always, always wanted to get married and have kids.
00:05:24.680 And I've always been thinking, oh, yeah, I'll marry this person without thinking, what does he earn?
00:05:30.620 What potential does he have to earn anymore?
00:05:32.220 Does he even want to earn anymore?
00:05:33.700 He smokes.
00:05:34.260 I don't even like smoking.
00:05:35.260 Why would I marry someone that smokes?
00:05:36.600 It's the worst thing in the world.
00:05:37.940 You know what I mean?
00:05:38.720 They've done drugs.
00:05:39.660 Well, that's like, I hate it.
00:05:41.340 And for me, it's a passion.
00:05:43.060 So I'm trying to accept things that I don't accept and trying to make this person into something instead of finding a man that is already someone I want.
00:05:50.260 Right, but he's saying, like, again, you're, could you, could you explain?
00:05:52.740 The bottom, the bottom, you're right.
00:05:54.040 I don't know what you mean, but I just think you misunderstand.
00:05:55.720 I haven't settled for my partner.
00:05:57.000 I don't, I don't misunderstand it at all.
00:05:58.900 And I know exactly what it means.
00:06:00.340 And you can't, and you couldn't say it if you did.
00:06:02.180 So it doesn't matter that you would never say I wouldn't settle for my partner.
00:06:04.940 You wouldn't say the opposite.
00:06:05.800 So we can't trust those words, even though they're probably, I want you to be right, but we can't trust.
00:06:10.060 No, it's like, well, you know, I wouldn't speak badly of my husband.
00:06:12.860 No shit, you wouldn't.
00:06:14.000 Obviously you wouldn't.
00:06:14.760 So that's fine.
00:06:15.420 But the reality is you get, you know, women get to a certain age and they start looking at these other attributes, but that's not genuine desire.
00:06:20.420 Right.
00:06:20.640 And so what happens is when she marries that guy, where was that genuine desire in the 20s?
00:06:24.980 It's still for those guys.
00:06:25.800 And by the way, coming back to this, where did she go back to for that genuine desire?
00:06:29.240 No, but sexual desire isn't what is going to keep you in a relationship.
00:06:33.000 But it'll make you cheat.
00:06:33.720 It didn't.
00:06:34.560 But it'll make you cheat.
00:06:35.480 And that's, you know, my body doesn't mean that you don't sexually desire the partner that you've checked because it sure doesn't, but it doesn't lock out and find somebody who is all of the things that you're 100%.
00:06:44.560 You're 100% correct.
00:06:45.980 But so the chances of it are very slim though.
00:06:47.820 I got a, I got a friend.
00:06:48.740 He's worth about $120 million.
00:06:51.200 He's 42 and he's single.
00:06:52.660 He's a great guy.
00:06:53.460 I'm real tight with this guy, but he's single.
00:06:54.920 He's 42 and he flies all the time around the world.
00:06:56.720 And he tells me, he's like, I'm bringing this girl on a trip with me.
00:06:59.120 I'm bringing that girl on a trip with me. 0.99
00:07:00.180 That's what these guys do when they're a hundred million, you know, before they're 40.
00:07:02.580 They just fly around the world and take girls with them in different places. 0.86
00:07:04.920 Right.
00:07:05.440 Makes sense.
00:07:06.340 And he's like, oh, I'm taking this chick, but she's married.
00:07:08.820 I'm like, what?
00:07:09.620 She's like, yeah, we used to hook up like, you know, six, seven years ago and then she got married, but you know how it goes.
00:07:13.660 And I'm like, what do you mean?
00:07:14.740 He's like, well, you know, she's married some guy.
00:07:16.840 He's a construction guy.
00:07:18.360 He's a nice guy, but he can't take her to Dubai for a week.
00:07:20.900 And I can.
00:07:21.460 So she just says she's got a work trip and she just goes and meets with me.
00:07:24.480 And I'm like, dude, is that normal?
00:07:26.020 He's like, he's like, yeah, like every chick I hooked up with in my 30s that got married is now like lighting me up on
00:07:32.020 and still like, hey, what you do?
00:07:33.560 And haven't thought about you for a while.
00:07:36.080 And I'm like, so what does that teach you, sir, about, you know, the dating marketplace?
00:07:40.100 He goes, I wouldn't.
00:07:40.840 And he's 42 now.
00:07:41.540 He goes, I would never marry a woman in her 30s.
00:07:43.740 Why?
00:07:44.200 Because I know that she's not marrying me for the genuine desire.
00:07:48.140 At this point, she just wants to settle down.
00:07:50.420 Now, that might be an extreme argument to look at it.
00:07:52.960 And I understand that group statistics don't apply to an individual, but that's a scary thing to think about.
00:07:57.760 And so I'm like, so who are you going to marry?
00:07:58.800 You're 42.
00:07:59.380 He's like, you know, he's like, I think if I get married.
00:08:02.080 It would be an Alameda girl, 22, 23.
00:08:04.320 It's a big age gap, but he's like, but he's got 120 mil.
00:08:07.080 He's got the life.
00:08:07.860 Like he's got women available to him at that option.
00:08:09.880 He doesn't have to deal with the history.
00:08:11.100 That's his biggest fear is dealing with.
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