JustPearlyThings - May 25, 2023


This Is Why Only Fans Models REJECT MARRIAGE


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

229.22139

Word Count

1,891

Sentence Count

154

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the importance of accountability in the dating world, and why women should be held accountable for the decisions they make regarding their bodies. We also discuss the difference between a high value man and a low value man.


Transcript

00:00:00.640 If a woman with high body count, there's going to be guys out there that don't care.
00:00:04.820 There are some guys out there that don't care.
00:00:07.560 But, I mean, we can also have, I mean, it's even beyond just an intellectual conversation.
00:00:12.260 We can also just say, hey, look, if you choose to partake in certain behaviors,
00:00:16.600 if you maneuver in the world in a certain way, that's going to have consequences.
00:00:21.240 Yeah, 100%.
00:00:22.100 You know, like accountability.
00:00:23.620 And I know, and I always talk about, I talk about specifically that women,
00:00:27.600 and I feel like we lack a lot of accountability just because I'm a woman and I see it and I can speak to women.
00:00:32.560 But who am I to tell a woman she shouldn't?
00:00:35.680 You know what I mean?
00:00:35.900 I feel like the word should is such like a, when you use the word should, you're like,
00:00:40.840 you should, this is what makes you a real man.
00:00:42.480 You should do these things.
00:00:43.240 What makes you a real woman.
00:00:43.900 You should do these things.
00:00:45.440 Where we're creating anxiety and unsettleness and shame and guilt in people for the way that they're living life.
00:00:51.820 I honestly agree with 100% of the words that just came out of this woman Zoe's mouth.
00:00:56.660 Like, dead ass, like being, I would never in my life sit here and say that this young woman right here
00:01:04.540 that has not slept with anyone or this beautiful woman right here that chose to wait until marriage
00:01:09.860 has done anything you're a beautiful woman to.
00:01:13.220 Thank you.
00:01:13.580 This pretty lady.
00:01:14.240 Thank you.
00:01:14.680 Talk about a pick me, right?
00:01:15.820 I'm just kidding.
00:01:16.800 But no, I would never say anything about their decision.
00:01:20.940 I think that it is your body and that is a beautiful thing that you've done, even from
00:01:25.240 the opposite perspective of somebody that has done the opposite.
00:01:29.020 I think that's like, if that's what, if that's what, yeah, if that's, if that's what makes
00:01:33.180 you happy and that's what makes you think that, and whether you're right or wrong is not my
00:01:38.560 decision to make because there is clear evidence that right here sitting next to me to my right
00:01:43.580 that it can work out that way, that's totally your body, your choice.
00:01:47.760 I just think we should, I just think we should be honest about the consequences.
00:01:51.860 Of course.
00:01:52.160 And like, that's my only thing is I just don't like lying.
00:01:54.260 And I'm owning my shit on camera in front of 10,000 people.
00:01:56.480 I'm not saying you're not.
00:01:57.480 But I feel like your, I feel like a lot of comments that you make are geared towards the
00:02:01.960 people that I make my comments geared towards too, right?
00:02:04.000 Like if only fans girl is like, I deserve a high value man.
00:02:07.000 I know he shouldn't care about, I'm going to be like, no, be fucking for real.
00:02:09.440 Like, no, it matters as someone who's in the industry towards anyone.
00:02:12.740 It's just what I think.
00:02:14.120 Can I say something?
00:02:15.260 Yeah.
00:02:15.580 I really agree with what you said earlier.
00:02:17.680 I've been like listening the whole time.
00:02:19.220 Just been kind of quiet.
00:02:20.400 Just trying to take in with all of you guys are saying, but like, I agree with you.
00:02:23.320 I really think that we should just let people live how they want to live.
00:02:26.160 At the end of the day, it's not affecting you personally.
00:02:28.920 So I don't see how that's a big issue.
00:02:30.640 Yeah.
00:02:30.900 Like, just let people do as they please, as long as it's not personally like getting
00:02:35.840 in your life, then I don't see the issue with it.
00:02:39.200 Like.
00:02:39.360 Yeah.
00:02:39.800 And I just, I just want people to look in introspectively, become self-aware because
00:02:43.220 a lot of people lack it.
00:02:44.020 Men and women.
00:02:44.480 Like, look at things from other people's point of view, not just yours.
00:02:46.860 People need to stop shoving it down other people's throats.
00:02:49.420 Like their view is the only view that is allowed.
00:02:51.500 Yeah.
00:02:51.660 Yeah.
00:02:52.000 Because I don't agree with like Christian views.
00:02:53.740 I don't have to live my life that way, but I don't give a fuck if you live your life
00:02:56.860 that way, if you're not affecting me directly.
00:02:58.380 Like me, the bottom line is that values are different from person to person and value
00:03:02.880 is different from person to person.
00:03:04.320 It's in your mind.
00:03:04.820 So what you may find a high value man may not be what someone next to you finds a high
00:03:09.120 value man.
00:03:09.780 Right.
00:03:10.280 And same with value as woman.
00:03:11.880 Like, you know, you're saying like, you know, if this woman is a lower value woman because
00:03:15.160 she slept with many people.
00:03:16.240 Well, I know, I'm sure that there are many low value women with poor integrity, lack of
00:03:20.520 integrity, bad women, dishonest who've slept with one man, right?
00:03:24.240 Or none.
00:03:24.660 So it just comes down to the values that you have.
00:03:27.160 There is nuance, but men generally want the same things and women generally want the same
00:03:31.540 things in general.
00:03:33.200 But there is always going to be nuance.
00:03:34.480 I guess men generally want a virgin.
00:03:36.420 I didn't know this.
00:03:38.120 And then we can go to the nuance of where that stems from, but I don't, you know, we're
00:03:41.180 actually going to get into that.
00:03:42.160 That's like, no, I mean, but.
00:03:43.940 Paternity.
00:03:44.440 It stems from paternity because men historically had to make sure that the kids were theirs and
00:03:48.500 historically we didn't have DNA tests.
00:03:50.080 So if a girl was promiscuous and sleeping around, basically like the man wouldn't know
00:03:54.680 that if the kid was his.
00:03:56.080 So it's not even necessarily something they can like biologically help.
00:04:00.200 Like it's just how they feel about it.
00:04:01.860 And like guys might lie to you about this, but like guys feel this way.
00:04:05.800 That's great.
00:04:06.420 But guess what?
00:04:06.840 I don't care about those guys.
00:04:07.860 If those guys care about my body count, guess what?
00:04:09.340 That guy is not for me because my life path has not gone down that virgin life path.
00:04:13.520 Those guys were not meant for me.
00:04:14.720 So at the end of the day, that opinion of what men want, I don't want those men.
00:04:18.180 And that's okay.
00:04:18.760 They're not wrong for feeling that way.
00:04:20.460 They don't want me.
00:04:21.260 I don't want them.
00:04:22.040 We're cool.
00:04:22.540 Why would I argue about it?
00:04:23.380 You know what I mean?
00:04:23.740 That's exactly why I just, that's what I said to her.
00:04:25.720 Like, I'm not going to say that because of statistics, you are not going to have a good
00:04:30.160 relationship in the end.
00:04:31.400 I'm not going to say that.
00:04:31.640 You will have a good relationship.
00:04:32.660 You'll have the relationship you want.
00:04:34.100 Yeah.
00:04:34.320 No, but like, there's no, there's no way to say that.
00:04:36.340 I don't think it's dishonest to make that statement because there, there are rules.
00:04:39.760 There's always exceptions and not only that, but everybody is on a different path.
00:04:43.200 And I think, yeah, that's, that's just what I think.
00:04:45.580 I agree.
00:04:46.440 I agree with you.
00:04:46.900 All right, let me get a couple of chats.
00:04:48.480 We will come back really briefly to, uh, one or two questions I have here.
00:04:52.700 Okay.
00:04:52.900 We have, uh, I'm not going to read that one.
00:04:55.420 That one's kind of mean.
00:04:56.180 Um, yo, Pimmy Flores, thanks for the hundred man.
00:04:58.600 She isn't there tonight, but it's Tara single.
00:05:00.760 I'd ask in person, but I can't.
00:05:02.200 I'm a paramedic from Texas and would love to take her to a baseball game as a first date,
00:05:06.600 31 year old, 5'10 Hispanic.
00:05:08.360 Also, would y'all women settle down right now if a man was serious and wanted marriage?
00:05:14.100 Okay.
00:05:15.100 Uh, so your boyfriend kind of complicated thing who has you currently knocked up.
00:05:23.780 If he proposes to you, do you say yes?
00:05:26.520 I mean, I think if we worked out our stuff and it was, you know, a pretty healthy relationship
00:05:31.460 for the most part, then I wouldn't be opposed, especially with the fact that I'm carrying his
00:05:35.920 child.
00:05:36.320 So, okay.
00:05:38.920 And, uh, would you get married right now?
00:05:43.360 Would you settle down right now?
00:05:45.420 No.
00:05:46.360 Huh?
00:05:47.300 You wouldn't?
00:05:47.600 I'm not ready.
00:05:48.340 You're not ready?
00:05:48.640 To get married.
00:05:49.680 Yeah.
00:05:49.880 Settle down.
00:05:50.740 I'm not ready.
00:05:52.180 Ready for kids?
00:05:52.740 Kids.
00:05:53.220 No, I mean, yeah, not kids either.
00:05:54.900 I have a lot of healing growth.
00:05:56.760 Oh, sorry.
00:05:57.340 Hold on.
00:05:57.880 Hold on.
00:05:58.180 Just a second.
00:05:58.620 Donated $199.
00:06:01.000 Hey, thank you.
00:06:01.860 Pearl, do you think it's hypocritical of you to preach people about settling down, being
00:06:06.680 a virgin, not being career-oriented when you are none of these things?
00:06:11.120 Seems like no one wants this pick-me-board.
00:06:16.060 Pearl, do you want to respond?
00:06:19.180 British voice, by the way.
00:06:22.640 Is it hypocritical?
00:06:24.320 Probably.
00:06:25.980 That's it?
00:06:26.440 That's all you got?
00:06:26.940 No, I mean, like, honestly, I wish I waited until I was married.
00:06:31.300 Like, I genuinely wish I did.
00:06:33.060 So, like, yeah.
00:06:34.640 I didn't get all the way there.
00:06:36.480 I did get fortunate.
00:06:37.600 If I could have, like, did it again, I would have waited.
00:06:39.940 But, you know, I didn't.
00:06:41.000 But I just think it's, like, I'd rather be honest to the next generation of women that
00:06:45.240 there are, like, consequences.
00:06:46.360 Like I said, it's just the, I think I'm presenting a side of the coin that's not often represented,
00:06:50.840 which is just, like, man, do I feel like I was very fortunate in, and I think,
00:06:54.600 though, a lot of it was expectation setting, and this is something that I think younger
00:06:58.120 women especially should probably hear.
00:06:59.680 But when I first met my husband, I told him on the first time we ever went out, I said,
00:07:04.260 I'm not going to sleep with you.
00:07:05.160 I don't want to get married.
00:07:05.920 I don't want to have kids.
00:07:06.540 And if you don't want that, like, I'm not interested.
00:07:08.320 And that's fine, because, like, I don't want to waste your time.
00:07:09.960 I got stuff to do.
00:07:10.700 Like, and if it's not you, I'm going to go meet somebody else.
00:07:13.120 And that was apparently, and I think that's something now, too, when people are looking
00:07:16.800 for relationships, they are really, women, I think a lot of times they try to hide the
00:07:22.300 fact that they do want that.
00:07:23.540 And that leads them down this primrose path of, oh, like, pretending like they don't want
00:07:27.540 to get married, pretending like they don't want a relationship.
00:07:29.780 And that just pushes it further and further down the line.
00:07:31.980 And then they turn around, you know, around that, like, five to seven year mark, and they're
00:07:35.640 like, hey, I want to get married.
00:07:36.540 And the guy's like, what are you talking about?
00:07:38.000 You know, you said you didn't care.
00:07:39.240 But then they really do.
00:07:40.620 And now that relationship ends up breaking apart, and then they have to go and find
00:07:44.560 somebody else.
00:07:45.080 But now they're much older, and it gets more difficult, as we've talked about.
00:07:49.300 But anyway, it's an interesting thing.
00:07:52.500 The expectation setting is really important, and the honesty and upfrontness with somebody
00:07:55.680 that you want to be with.
00:07:56.860 And that's regardless of anything.
00:07:58.580 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:08:04.900 on this platform.
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