JustPearlyThings - July 18, 2023


This Is Why Society NEEDS 304s


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

220.29259

Word Count

2,334

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

25

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary

In this episode, we discuss sexless marriages, sexless wives, and sexless kids. We discuss the benefits and negatives of a sexless marriage, and what it really means to be faithful to your wife.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 interesting like australia introduced pro prostitution laws so what 30 years ago something
00:00:04.140 like that and one of the most ridiculous outcomes of like legalizing prostitution in australia is
00:00:09.780 that the divorce rate like significantly fell it felt like eight percent or something it was like
00:00:14.100 crazy right um and i don't know what that means like i don't know if that insinuates that men
00:00:18.380 were living in sexless marriages but they want to be faithful to their wife i don't really know
00:00:21.660 what that means i can only speak to my opinion right like i uh but but but i'm in a unique
00:00:26.980 situation in the sense that i've been married for over 10 years and openly my wife has never
00:00:31.900 refused sex never like there's been times where like congratulations she's been tired she's been
00:00:36.720 like exhausted and but she but she was the one that kind of came to me early in our relationship she's
00:00:41.320 like you know like i can never say no to you because i understand that if i do then i'm denying
00:00:45.140 you are right in the in our marriage like she would probably identify as liberal but she's the most
00:00:49.200 conservative woman i've ever met and and so for me there's never been a situation where like
00:00:53.780 i would seek it out because i've never been rejected in that way and it's like just openly
00:00:58.560 there it is um but but i would say this like i i don't know like like if i was in a situation where
00:01:06.500 like that wasn't on the table i probably would leave the marriage like i would i would just be
00:01:11.160 like look like i and i've had the conversation like obviously because we're married for a long
00:01:14.860 time there's a lot of communication that's like look like there are i told my wife up front
00:01:18.460 things to expect from me as a man um and i was very upfront about it i said look you're probably
00:01:22.900 gonna get a husband that's traveling at least 20 to 30 percent of the time like we have offices
00:01:27.820 now in 27 countries so like uh and i travel significantly less now than i did in my 30s
00:01:32.940 in my 30s i was on the road 80 percent of the time very often i'd see her for two weekends a month
00:01:37.100 where i'd have to fly her into whatever office i was at that week um but i said you're i'm gonna be
00:01:42.060 working all the time like if you're one of those girls that needs me every day at home you're not
00:01:45.300 gonna get that i'm just not that guy i'm very ambitious um i'm never gonna cook ever like i grew up
00:01:50.580 cooking because my parents both worked and so i have to come home and cook my french fries you
00:01:54.800 know in the oven i'm like i'm never ever gonna cook i'm never gonna change a diaper hate me or
00:02:00.240 don't marry me i'm never gonna change a diaper i will not do it like i will work so so so hard
00:02:05.500 so that i can outsource that labor to somebody else if you don't want to do it but i'm never
00:02:09.240 gonna do it i'm never gonna clean we have july 8th marked on our calendar last year because i took
00:02:13.060 the garbage out it was my first time we've been married for nine years at that point and i took out
00:02:16.980 the garbage because she asked me and i just felt bad i'm like okay i just feel bad because you're
00:02:20.660 sober four kids right but i communicated those up front um and in return my wife communicated things
00:02:26.600 that were non-negotiables to her and i think one of her non-negotiables oddly enough is that she wanted
00:02:31.940 a husband she could obey and we talked about that like should a woman obey her husband that was her
00:02:35.540 demand um and so and i love that because it puts the onus on me as a man and again guys can agree or
00:02:41.400 disagree if you want to be respected and if you want to be obeyed you need to be respectable and you
00:02:48.480 need to be obeyable right and that's that's on you like i can't i got to 263 pounds five years ago
00:02:56.020 i was working a lot i was on the road i was eating like crap and i looked at myself in the
00:03:00.880 mirror and i realized oh i'm not respectable that's a that's a fat dude and my wife didn't marry a fat
00:03:04.960 dude and i changed it um because i made a promise that i in order to be obeyed and respected i have
00:03:10.720 to be respectful and obeyable so there's there's some personal accountability there right yeah i'm
00:03:15.900 quoting um he says that um when a guy starts taking money from a woman he becomes her son
00:03:24.540 you know and i think based on what you said about the respect thing i think those sorry i think those
00:03:32.740 things do become a i'll put it forward yeah so that becomes a factor so even back to when you said
00:03:39.980 about the bus driver thing um it's not that you know there's something wrong with the guy like
00:03:47.080 there's someone for everyone out there but it's just about the levels and your expectancy you know
00:03:52.660 and you know how do you if i may i'm very fair with that i would like i'll say it it's going to be
00:03:58.140 controversial i don't care because it's the truth yeah i would as a dad like i'm a dad you know and
00:04:03.620 it's like and it's my job to teach my daughters to behave like i'm sorry but like there's a difference
00:04:08.100 between women that grow up without a father to women that grow up with a father my girls are
00:04:11.840 growing up with a father but i'm also gonna ixnay my son wanting to marry a fat woman i'm sorry but no
00:04:17.820 no no it's a fat point listen listen listen sons i got two sons right have some freaking
00:04:23.960 self-standards man like like grow your values so you don't settle for that and if your country's got
00:04:29.440 90 of that like some countries do i went uh my wife's estonian she's not north american we met in
00:04:34.840 the states i'm from canada but she's estonian it's like no i'm not gonna let my son do that
00:04:39.360 why not because it's like have some damn self-respect dude well but i was thinking even what you're
00:04:44.400 talking about the moment he starts taking money from a woman like it's you're supposed to have
00:04:48.140 one bank account anyway if we're gonna go back to traditionalism like i like i think in my
00:04:52.620 grandparents generation the wives always worked they just gave their paycheck to their husband
00:04:56.620 i was gonna ask you your opinion on that actually because it's something you said earlier
00:05:01.000 i was gonna ask you your opinion on um women that are working to bring to the table as well
00:05:08.700 like what's your opinion on that would you say that they're not met good wives would you say
00:05:13.580 they're not traditional i'd say the majority are bad wives that work if i had to do like a balance of
00:05:18.600 probabilities some people you couldn't really generalize and say bad wives because you've got
00:05:23.020 to remember some people are in a situation where they either have to work in their relationship i don't
00:05:28.480 think they're bad wives because they're working they may have to be single by no choice and they
00:05:33.220 have to i don't i don't think they're bad wives because they're working that's not why i think i
00:05:37.180 think that generation is bad wives because that generation did not teach like like submission if
00:05:43.620 you ask most wives that from like roughly like 35 to like 50 it's like the worst generation of wives
00:05:50.680 just across the board they don't believe in submission oh that's when like divorce started
00:05:55.700 like if you look at like the 60 70 year olds they might have separated but they stayed together
00:05:59.640 i think they're bad wives because the majority put their career before their before their family
00:06:04.860 not all not all and there are absolutely good wives out there that don't fit into that category but
00:06:10.480 like across the board are working or that are with that are single because some women are single
00:06:16.140 because they haven't got a choice some women are raising children on their own because they haven't got
00:06:21.300 a choice well well you know so it may be life circumstances or sometimes the percentage the
00:06:26.000 percentage of single moms the percentage of single moms that are single because of they're being
00:06:30.760 widowed is like three percent it's like it's just very low right so i don't see why you pointed that out
00:06:36.460 no i'm just saying like because but there is personal responsibility that's gone through domestic
00:06:40.560 violence there's women that's had to maybe leave their country for so many different there's so many
00:06:47.020 the majority the majority of domestic violence isn't real like the girls that talk about that
00:06:51.440 they just they just kind of throw accusations at men most domestic violence is initiated by women
00:06:56.060 like all the study i just like um interviewed a professor about this um that like so they super
00:07:01.580 in depth about the stuff and how feminists basically ruined academia because they all just infiltrate
00:07:07.060 the colleges and like ruin all the studies and then they what they do is they change the definition
00:07:11.460 of abuse rape sexual assault all that shit they switch it so like abuse used to be
00:07:16.880 a man's hitting the woman right or the woman's hitting the man vice versa but they actually
00:07:20.780 switch to the definition and i can't remember the exact wording it's in it's in that book somewhere
00:07:25.580 so i could pull it up but what they do is they assume that the men have power was in the definition
00:07:31.400 yeah the deluge model and so the problem and they expanded the definition of abuse so they would
00:07:36.460 include coercive control financial control and i just know this from doing hundreds and hundreds of
00:07:41.120 shows you just start to see like patterns of our interviewing hundreds and hundreds of people like
00:07:45.740 women will say they were abused and then i like i look into it and i ask them more questions
00:07:51.360 like i'll give you an example one girl that was on the show she said i was abused i said okay what
00:07:55.300 happened give me give me specifics what exactly happened that your ex-boyfriend was abusive
00:07:59.840 she tells me well i wouldn't leave and he like shoves me out of the house well you wouldn't leave
00:08:06.660 what'd you explain yeah that's yeah that's what i or i i another girl said she was graped
00:08:12.840 um and so i asked what happened well basically she switched her mind when it came to sex because
00:08:17.840 what they did with the with the definition of uh grape is it used to be um like basically forced
00:08:24.200 sex they switched it to sex without consent the problem with that is what is consent it makes it
00:08:29.580 very broad and subjective and when you make things subjective and that's the problem with abuse so how do we
00:08:34.160 know how common abuse is right now the difference is in family court which the majority of abuse
00:08:39.220 claims are in family court um and that's where they've expanded the definition of abuse you don't
00:08:44.360 need evidence it's it's basically on a balance of probabilities we think it's more likely that he did
00:08:48.720 it than he didn't you only have to convince one judge in criminal court you have a judge a trial
00:08:53.480 a judge and a jury of your peers so you have to convince a whole jury and basically though in
00:08:59.220 in criminal court um in family court only 10 of women actually filed police reports
00:09:05.440 so it's like the majority the majority are just talking shit and also lesbian couples sorry well yeah
00:09:11.660 and it's been a wave of propaganda the last hundred years to basically convince us that men
00:09:16.460 are abusive controlling all that shit it's it's just not true like i don't i don't know a single
00:09:20.920 guy that wakes up and says i just want to abuse some women today lesbian couples are also the
00:09:26.060 highest perpetrators of domestic violence and you are absolutely right as well there's a lot of women
00:09:29.940 who lie about false rape statistics i mean we obviously what's really sad is it actually negates
00:09:34.700 the women who genuinely are abused because all of the women who are sorry false rape statistics and
00:09:40.040 all of the women who are actually you know great to do endure abuse are actually being done a massive
00:09:44.520 disservice by these women who lie if we look at the me too movement for example there were a lot of
00:09:48.660 women who lied who exaggerated and that is very sad for the genuine legitimate victims but and the
00:09:54.600 problem too is that they go into the college it's like a whole system they go into the colleges
00:09:59.120 and tell the women that you are doing the right thing if you report this of abuse if you report this
00:10:05.780 great like if he pushes you he he can like like i was thinking about this they gave us a presentation
00:10:11.360 in college that basically says if you say no to sex and then change your mind later or you don't
00:10:18.400 explicitly say yes you should go to the police so they go and they tell the women that the right thing to do
00:10:24.400 is to go to the police when there's a lack of consent and it's like it's just madness they just
00:10:30.840 they change the definition of words that are as old as time to convince us we're victims