JustPearlyThings - May 17, 2023


This is Why Spiritual Woke Women Are A HUGE Red Flag


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Where have all the good women gone? Why do you think there are so few good women these days? Why is there not more good women in society? What does it take to be a good woman?

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00:00:00.380 Okay, so today we're going to talk about where have all the good women gone? 0.99
00:00:05.840 So one thing I always hear is where have all the good men gone, right, in society.
00:00:10.920 However, I just started looking up some stats, okay?
00:00:13.660 One in three women have an STD.
00:00:15.480 One in three women have had an abortion.
00:00:17.020 38% of kids are born into single-parent homes.
00:00:19.520 The average age of first child is 26, which is before the average age of first marriage, which is 30.
00:00:25.060 45% of marriages end in divorce.
00:00:26.860 The average number of partners for a woman is between 4 and 8, and when women get above 5 partners, their chance of a happy marriage goes from 80% to 20%, depends on the study, plus or minus 10%.
00:00:38.780 And if men pick the wrong woman, they can be financially ruined, and their kids can be taken from them. 0.98
00:00:46.040 And on top of that, 70% of women, 60, 70% of women are overweight in the U.S. 0.94
00:00:52.800 So the question is, how does a guy identify a good woman?
00:00:57.860 And what percent of women do you think are good women? 0.99
00:01:00.780 Really good question.
00:01:02.560 How does a guy identify a good woman?
00:01:04.320 I think mostly it's looks, but that's not how they do it.
00:01:07.460 But I think it's about a vibe, actually.
00:01:10.240 It's about an energy, and it's about respect.
00:01:13.900 If a woman can really show this man that she respects him. 1.00
00:01:17.600 But in the beginning, that's challenging, because you're on a first date.
00:01:21.480 I think the first indication is usually looks.
00:01:23.960 What was the second question, Pearl?
00:01:25.280 What percent of women do you think are good women? 1.00
00:01:27.560 Ooh, in this day and age?
00:01:29.180 Yes.
00:01:29.500 I think women are so confused. 1.00
00:01:31.800 It's really hard to say.
00:01:32.940 I would say, good woman, what do you mean by that?
00:01:36.020 What I mean by that?
00:01:37.040 I think a good woman is probably less than 10% these days. 1.00
00:01:39.740 Okay.
00:01:40.020 I think a good woman is a healed woman. 0.97
00:01:43.000 So I feel like the reason why there's not much good women out there is because no one 1.00
00:01:47.700 really knows how to heal and recover from their past relationships and traumas.
00:01:52.200 And so they bring those over.
00:01:53.680 Would good women not be, like, broken to begin with? 0.99
00:01:55.760 Yeah, 100%.
00:01:56.380 Yeah.
00:01:56.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:57.540 And so I feel like they found ways to heal, and they've, like, taken time out to isolate
00:02:02.540 themselves.
00:02:03.300 And I feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward and find the right partner
00:02:07.200 for the right reasons.
00:02:08.500 And I feel like why the percentage may be so low is because no one's really willing
00:02:13.960 to do the hard, dark shadow work.
00:02:16.500 What do you mean shadow work?
00:02:17.960 Because whenever I hear, like, this stuff, no offense, like, the shadow work, the healing,
00:02:22.560 I always hear, like, nothing.
00:02:24.480 Yeah.
00:02:24.680 Like, never, like, real concrete steps of, like, so if you're a woman, you're trying
00:02:28.480 to improve, what do you do?
00:02:29.800 So you're trying to, like, your ego, you know, the dark side of you, the side that you
00:02:34.740 don't show anyone, but it can come out.
00:02:36.380 So you're trying to, like, kind of tame that and work on your insecurities and all the
00:02:41.000 things that you don't want people to see.
00:02:43.160 Okay.
00:02:43.340 And so you can...
00:02:44.460 How do you work on them?
00:02:46.020 I mean, for me personally, I write down, I journal stuff.
00:02:49.340 So I write things down, my fears or things that I don't like about myself or that I want
00:02:53.380 to change or that I feel I'm expressing maybe in the wrong way.
00:02:58.240 And so I try and, like, find ways to fix that and just, you know, work on myself.
00:03:01.840 So how are you, like, held, you know, like, if I want to lose weight, you go to a personal
00:03:05.280 trainer and they say, like, good, bad.
00:03:07.040 Like, how do you hold yourself accountable to...
00:03:09.300 Oh, doing research, finding a routine, making sure that you're consistently keeping up with
00:03:14.180 things and maintaining that process.
00:03:16.960 Yeah.
00:03:18.120 This just kind of sounds like nothing to me.
00:03:20.140 Do you think?
00:03:20.380 Yeah.
00:03:20.960 Okay.
00:03:21.460 I'm just...
00:03:21.980 I'm sorry.
00:03:22.620 But it's real.
00:03:23.340 No, no, it's not.
00:03:23.840 No, no, but, like, whenever I hear girls, like, talk about this, it just sounds like,
00:03:28.640 okay, I write in my journal and I Google things online and I try to be better, but there's
00:03:35.720 no, like, accountability, like, anyone keeping you in check to, like, show that you are getting
00:03:39.660 better.
00:03:40.240 I think most people don't have anyone to keep them in check.
00:03:44.080 When there's a will, there's a way.
00:03:45.400 If you really want to change, then you will make sure that you get that shit done.
00:03:48.440 So, if you're talking to a guy and he says, like, okay, you said I was broken before I'm
00:03:54.540 healed now, like, what steps would you show him that I am now healed?
00:03:58.220 You're able to be more compassionate and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable.
00:04:03.800 Okay.
00:04:04.100 So, how could you prove that you are?
00:04:05.840 Just by being, just by being that.
00:04:08.420 I mean, I feel like time will tell.
00:04:10.820 Okay.
00:04:11.280 You know?
00:04:11.660 Okay.
00:04:12.360 Because, like, I was just thinking, like, if you want to concrete steps, it's, like, married
00:04:15.860 mentors, maybe a male therapist, like, that sort of thing.
00:04:19.540 I just never hear, whenever I hear women's self-improvement, it's always, like, be more 1.00
00:04:23.380 confident, write in a journal and Google things.
00:04:25.980 No fact, like, respectfully.
00:04:27.340 So, I just don't understand it.
00:04:28.640 But, you know what's crazy?
00:04:29.520 I've tried, personally, I've tried therapy, and the first time I tried it, I walked out
00:04:33.880 in anger and rage.
00:04:35.560 I was, like, fuming.
00:04:36.640 And the second time, I told her, look, it's not going to work.
00:04:38.960 I don't think you can fix my problems.
00:04:40.340 You know what?
00:04:40.760 I agree with you.
00:04:41.820 I've been to therapists before, and I just thought therapy was, like, stupid for the most part.
00:04:45.460 And now I'm in school for psychology, and I see the women that are therapists, and they're 0.96
00:04:49.120 nuts.
00:04:49.960 I would not go to therapy for any of these girls.
00:04:51.220 Yeah, I feel like they don't care.
00:04:52.420 They're just getting paid to do what they need to do.
00:04:54.420 They don't give a fuck, so.
00:04:55.520 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:56.620 But I do think there are some male therapists that are helpful.
00:04:59.440 Absolutely.
00:04:59.560 I just think it's mostly, like, male.
00:05:02.260 What do you think about that?
00:05:04.240 I've never had a male therapist, and I wouldn't go to a male therapist.
00:05:07.140 Because I need to connect with a woman that's, like, do you know what I mean?
00:05:10.200 Like, women's women. 1.00
00:05:10.820 That's broken like you.
00:05:11.760 No, not that's broken like me.
00:05:12.720 Not necessarily.
00:05:13.200 But I feel like women connect easier. 1.00
00:05:15.820 No, I think women look to comfort, and men look to solve problems. 0.99
00:05:18.920 And that's why I don't think therapy works when they're women. 1.00
00:05:21.160 Most of the time, there's exceptions.
00:05:22.600 Because, like, men, like, women are just going to comfort you.
00:05:25.120 They're going to tell you what you want to hear, where men will tell you how to fix it. 0.99
00:05:28.140 But the problem is, like, women, we never want to fix it. 1.00
00:05:30.540 Like, actually fix it.
00:05:32.300 That's interesting.
00:05:33.140 Yeah, it's true.
00:05:33.840 I had a male therapist, actually.
00:05:35.640 Okay.
00:05:36.200 I had a therapist for eight years.
00:05:39.420 I'm not in therapy anymore.
00:05:40.480 But the first four years, it was a woman. 0.97
00:05:43.220 And the last four years, a man.
00:05:44.700 And I'm not in therapy anymore.
00:05:46.280 And I'm like, I'm good now.
00:05:47.600 But that's because it was a man, not a woman.
00:05:49.460 Because when I was with a woman, they would just sit there and soak in all my issues and all the problems. 1.00
00:05:53.780 And there was never a solve or a solution.
00:05:55.880 No one was trying to help me.
00:05:57.360 And then trauma.
00:05:58.420 What's your, like, and they call everything trauma.
00:06:00.740 Everything, you know what, I don't, abuse or trauma.
00:06:02.500 I'm like, what the fuck, what do you mean?
00:06:04.140 You know, Pearl, I don't believe in trauma.
00:06:05.700 I don't believe in trauma either.
00:06:07.380 It's a bunch of BS.
00:06:08.580 It's just so that psychologists can make money off of you.
00:06:11.280 Yeah.
00:06:11.720 Well, I do, I do believe in, like, war trauma. 0.87
00:06:14.640 Like, from war.
00:06:15.500 What do you mean?
00:06:15.940 Like, I think if a guy goes to war and sees some, like, sees things, that's real trauma.
00:06:20.320 But the way we use it today, my ex-boyfriend cheated on me.
00:06:24.660 I saw it.
00:06:25.420 Yeah, it's just, everything's, everything.
00:06:28.100 But can I say something?
00:06:28.960 Don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we be carrying with us because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship?
00:06:34.900 I think you should just get over it.
00:06:36.280 Okay.
00:06:36.540 I agree.
00:06:37.820 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:38.700 I think that we should quit whining.
00:06:41.480 Our great-grandmothers had to deal with it. 1.00
00:06:43.600 Like, they used to have plagues and shit.
00:06:45.780 Getting cheated on, like, this is just the example I'm using.
00:06:48.420 But most of modern-day problems are really nothing compared to, like, 100, 200 years ago.
00:06:54.460 So you could get the plague and, like, die, you know.
00:06:58.220 That'd be traumatic, being afraid, you know.
00:07:00.120 And you're right.
00:07:00.640 Do you know what?
00:07:01.040 Because I feel like, personally, I've been through so much.
00:07:02.880 I haven't had real therapy.
00:07:04.080 And I'm strong.
00:07:05.020 I'm still going.
00:07:06.180 You know what I mean?
00:07:06.560 I mean, I don't really, it's not affecting me.
00:07:08.020 Maybe it is in a way, but it's not intervening in my life.
00:07:12.720 Yeah.
00:07:13.640 Strongly.
00:07:14.200 The reveling in the story is what a lot of the women therapists were using. 1.00
00:07:17.420 Penelope's my daughter.
00:07:18.460 And they were, you know, really listening to your story and giving a lot of emphasis to it.
00:07:24.160 Like, you were really overweight.
00:07:25.860 And the therapists were like, no, no, don't talk about it.
00:07:28.540 Don't try to help her lose weight.
00:07:30.560 And I'm like, what do you mean?
00:07:31.740 Like, we've got to fix this problem.
00:07:32.920 Like, what's the plan?
00:07:34.220 It was so frustrating.
00:07:35.800 So they wouldn't try to solve, like, how big were you?
00:07:38.840 I was 300 pounds.
00:07:40.300 Shut up. 0.95
00:07:40.980 I was 300 pounds.
00:07:42.160 You look great.
00:07:43.180 Can we get us?
00:07:44.220 Can we get us?
00:07:46.420 How did your life change from going from 300 pounds to, I don't know what you are now,
00:07:50.880 but clearly not.
00:07:51.440 So I lost 130 pounds, actually.
00:07:53.340 Wow.
00:07:54.140 And you're tall, too.
00:07:55.400 Yes.
00:07:55.760 What are you, 6'2"?
00:07:56.760 No, 5'9 1⁄2".
00:07:58.060 Oh, shit.
00:07:58.420 You look tall as heck.
00:08:00.020 We'll compare after.
00:08:00.920 Okay.
00:08:01.740 But basically, I was, you know, I think part of the problem was because I was in therapy
00:08:05.300 for so long, and nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me.
00:08:09.380 And I had depression.
00:08:10.420 I had anxiety.
00:08:11.120 I had suicidal thoughts.
00:08:12.220 And I was not, I didn't have a good relationship with my father at the time.
00:08:15.800 And nobody was saying, oh, you need to lose the weight.
00:08:18.460 Your life will be better if you just do that.
00:08:20.320 Nobody.
00:08:20.640 They tried to give me medication.
00:08:22.100 They tried to give me pills.
00:08:23.100 They tried to put me in more therapy.
00:08:25.420 And it wasn't until one day I looked in the mirror and I'm like, I don't want to be like
00:08:28.420 this anymore.
00:08:29.100 I don't want to feel like this anymore.
00:08:30.520 And to be honest, the body positivity movement crushed my soul and told me, oh, you should
00:08:36.260 be, you know, you're beautiful no matter what size you are.
00:08:38.800 You're beautiful no matter, you know, how much you weigh.
00:08:41.600 You're beautiful no matter what you eat.
00:08:42.820 You can eat anything you want.
00:08:44.240 And you're gorgeous.
00:08:45.240 Go, girl. 0.85
00:08:45.640 And I thought it was okay.
00:08:47.780 Wow.
00:08:48.220 I thought it was okay because no one said anything.
00:08:50.580 And I could be sitting here with 300 pounds or enough.
00:08:52.620 I didn't make the decision to say, Penelope, you need to get your butt off the couch and 0.53
00:08:56.220 work out.
00:08:56.980 Fix your diet.
00:08:57.760 Fix your mental health. 0.61
00:08:58.760 Fix everything.
00:08:59.960 And now I'm perfectly fine.
00:09:01.820 No meds.
00:09:02.940 Just naturally.
00:09:04.160 All natural.
00:09:05.380 What do you, do you think that contributes to 70% of women being overweight in the U.S.?
00:09:10.120 Completely.
00:09:11.340 I completely think that.
00:09:13.280 Yeah, go ahead.
00:09:13.920 No, I just think that, I think that the fact that people are obese and that they make all
00:09:17.300 these excuses for, oh, I'm obese because of this, I'm obese because of this, you can
00:09:20.600 lose weight no matter what.
00:09:21.640 Anyone can lose weight.
00:09:22.780 It's just about finding the right way to do it.
00:09:25.220 And what do you think of the women that say we need, like, representation in magazines, 1.00
00:09:30.180 we need fat chicks on the cover, Victoria's Secret Fashion Show. 1.00
00:09:35.000 It repulses me.
00:09:36.300 It repulses me to see that.
00:09:37.940 Right, because you've been there.
00:09:38.640 It does, because I've been there.
00:09:40.420 And not only that, but you are showing thousands and millions of women in the world that it
00:09:44.660 is one, okay, to be unhealthy, two, okay, to be slowly killing yourself, and three, okay,
00:09:50.180 to go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls out.
00:09:55.880 I was a plus-size model.
00:09:57.540 Really?
00:09:57.940 Like, in the 90s.
00:09:58.720 You were a plus-size model. 0.98
00:09:59.960 In the 90s, yeah.
00:10:00.840 Is there anything wrong with a little plus-size girl? 1.00
00:10:03.700 Yeah, because what about the people that actually, what about the people that actually
00:10:07.280 can't lose weight physically?
00:10:08.700 That's not a thing.
00:10:08.800 They will never-
00:10:09.300 Wait, that's not a thing.
00:10:10.380 But what about people that actually, but they mentally can't, so for the rest of their
00:10:13.580 life, they're going to be that same size.
00:10:14.680 That's not a thing.
00:10:15.160 They need some empowerment, because otherwise they could, you know, commit suicide or something.
00:10:19.200 Do you go to a basketball game and look to see, like an NBA game, or what do you guys have?
00:10:25.460 It's football, right?
00:10:26.280 Football here.
00:10:26.880 You go to a football game here, and you try to see average football players.
00:10:31.060 Average?
00:10:31.480 Like, below average football players play football here, when you go to a professional
00:10:35.560 game.
00:10:35.960 Do we see them?
00:10:36.580 No, do you go there to see that?
00:10:38.180 Oh, well, no.
00:10:39.680 So then why, on the cover of magazines, which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty, do
00:10:43.340 we have below average women on it? 1.00
00:10:44.920 Right.
00:10:46.220 Like, why?
00:10:46.660 Like, why is that, why do we need that?
00:10:49.320 I feel ashamed, but I don't like it.
00:10:51.220 I don't want to see it.
00:10:52.000 I think you're right about the fact that they're doing it to, because, you know, if you want
00:10:56.120 to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up, they don't want people
00:10:58.800 to come out of a BCE, so they're going to make it look like it's okay. 0.92
00:11:03.320 They don't want you to.
00:11:04.300 So why wouldn't we have healthy people on the front of magazines? 0.99
00:11:07.080 I'm not saying like.
00:11:07.640 Because they don't want that.
00:11:08.520 Yeah, yeah.
00:11:09.140 But you said we need that earlier.
00:11:10.880 No, but I was saying that for the people that don't, that actually fit, I think in my head,
00:11:15.300 I'm thinking for the people that actually, because a person that actually cannot overcome
00:11:19.340 obesity and for the rest of their life, till the age of 60, 70, they're still going to
00:11:23.260 be overweight.
00:11:24.720 Those people are probably feeling, yes, like they're, they're feeling okay.
00:11:27.680 They're, you know what, they're empowered.
00:11:28.820 That's not a thing.
00:11:29.980 Would you rather be empowered than commit suicide?
00:11:31.960 Because people think, ugh, look at you, you're fat.
00:11:34.340 But when you're overeating, you're slowly committing suicide.
00:11:38.240 My mother did it.
00:11:39.300 Wow.
00:11:40.020 She died.
00:11:41.100 Wow.
00:11:41.600 I was five months old.
00:11:42.460 Her cause of death was severe obesity.
00:11:44.100 And then when my daughter started gaining the weight, I was freaking out.
00:11:47.240 Right.
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