This is Why Spiritual Woke Women Are A HUGE Red Flag
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Where have all the good women gone? Why do you think there are so few good women these days? Why is there not more good women in society? What does it take to be a good woman?
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Okay, so today we're going to talk about where have all the good women gone?
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So one thing I always hear is where have all the good men gone, right, in society.
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However, I just started looking up some stats, okay?
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The average age of first child is 26, which is before the average age of first marriage, which is 30.
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The average number of partners for a woman is between 4 and 8, and when women get above 5 partners, their chance of a happy marriage goes from 80% to 20%, depends on the study, plus or minus 10%.
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And if men pick the wrong woman, they can be financially ruined, and their kids can be taken from them.
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And on top of that, 70% of women, 60, 70% of women are overweight in the U.S.
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So the question is, how does a guy identify a good woman?
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And what percent of women do you think are good women?
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I think mostly it's looks, but that's not how they do it.
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If a woman can really show this man that she respects him.
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But in the beginning, that's challenging, because you're on a first date.
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What percent of women do you think are good women?
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I would say, good woman, what do you mean by that?
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I think a good woman is probably less than 10% these days.
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So I feel like the reason why there's not much good women out there is because no one
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really knows how to heal and recover from their past relationships and traumas.
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Would good women not be, like, broken to begin with?
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And so I feel like they found ways to heal, and they've, like, taken time out to isolate
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And I feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward and find the right partner
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And I feel like why the percentage may be so low is because no one's really willing
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Because whenever I hear, like, this stuff, no offense, like, the shadow work, the healing,
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Like, never, like, real concrete steps of, like, so if you're a woman, you're trying
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So you're trying to, like, your ego, you know, the dark side of you, the side that you
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So you're trying to, like, kind of tame that and work on your insecurities and all the
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I mean, for me personally, I write down, I journal stuff.
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So I write things down, my fears or things that I don't like about myself or that I want
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to change or that I feel I'm expressing maybe in the wrong way.
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And so I try and, like, find ways to fix that and just, you know, work on myself.
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So how are you, like, held, you know, like, if I want to lose weight, you go to a personal
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Like, how do you hold yourself accountable to...
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Oh, doing research, finding a routine, making sure that you're consistently keeping up with
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No, no, but, like, whenever I hear girls, like, talk about this, it just sounds like,
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okay, I write in my journal and I Google things online and I try to be better, but there's
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no, like, accountability, like, anyone keeping you in check to, like, show that you are getting
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I think most people don't have anyone to keep them in check.
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If you really want to change, then you will make sure that you get that shit done.
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So, if you're talking to a guy and he says, like, okay, you said I was broken before I'm
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healed now, like, what steps would you show him that I am now healed?
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You're able to be more compassionate and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable.
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Because, like, I was just thinking, like, if you want to concrete steps, it's, like, married
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mentors, maybe a male therapist, like, that sort of thing.
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I just never hear, whenever I hear women's self-improvement, it's always, like, be more
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confident, write in a journal and Google things.
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I've tried, personally, I've tried therapy, and the first time I tried it, I walked out
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And the second time, I told her, look, it's not going to work.
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I've been to therapists before, and I just thought therapy was, like, stupid for the most part.
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And now I'm in school for psychology, and I see the women that are therapists, and they're
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I would not go to therapy for any of these girls.
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They're just getting paid to do what they need to do.
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But I do think there are some male therapists that are helpful.
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I've never had a male therapist, and I wouldn't go to a male therapist.
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Because I need to connect with a woman that's, like, do you know what I mean?
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No, I think women look to comfort, and men look to solve problems.
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And that's why I don't think therapy works when they're women.
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Because, like, men, like, women are just going to comfort you.
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They're going to tell you what you want to hear, where men will tell you how to fix it.
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But the problem is, like, women, we never want to fix it.
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Because when I was with a woman, they would just sit there and soak in all my issues and all the problems.
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What's your, like, and they call everything trauma.
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Everything, you know what, I don't, abuse or trauma.
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It's just so that psychologists can make money off of you.
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Like, I think if a guy goes to war and sees some, like, sees things, that's real trauma.
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But the way we use it today, my ex-boyfriend cheated on me.
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Don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we be carrying with us because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship?
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Getting cheated on, like, this is just the example I'm using.
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But most of modern-day problems are really nothing compared to, like, 100, 200 years ago.
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So you could get the plague and, like, die, you know.
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Because I feel like, personally, I've been through so much.
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Maybe it is in a way, but it's not intervening in my life.
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The reveling in the story is what a lot of the women therapists were using.
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And they were, you know, really listening to your story and giving a lot of emphasis to it.
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And the therapists were like, no, no, don't talk about it.
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So they wouldn't try to solve, like, how big were you?
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How did your life change from going from 300 pounds to, I don't know what you are now,
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But basically, I was, you know, I think part of the problem was because I was in therapy
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for so long, and nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me.
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And I was not, I didn't have a good relationship with my father at the time.
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And nobody was saying, oh, you need to lose the weight.
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And it wasn't until one day I looked in the mirror and I'm like, I don't want to be like
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And to be honest, the body positivity movement crushed my soul and told me, oh, you should
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be, you know, you're beautiful no matter what size you are.
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You're beautiful no matter, you know, how much you weigh.
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I thought it was okay because no one said anything.
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And I could be sitting here with 300 pounds or enough.
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I didn't make the decision to say, Penelope, you need to get your butt off the couch and
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What do you, do you think that contributes to 70% of women being overweight in the U.S.?
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No, I just think that, I think that the fact that people are obese and that they make all
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these excuses for, oh, I'm obese because of this, I'm obese because of this, you can
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It's just about finding the right way to do it.
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And what do you think of the women that say we need, like, representation in magazines,
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we need fat chicks on the cover, Victoria's Secret Fashion Show.
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And not only that, but you are showing thousands and millions of women in the world that it
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is one, okay, to be unhealthy, two, okay, to be slowly killing yourself, and three, okay,
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to go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls out.
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Is there anything wrong with a little plus-size girl?
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Yeah, because what about the people that actually, what about the people that actually
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But what about people that actually, but they mentally can't, so for the rest of their
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They need some empowerment, because otherwise they could, you know, commit suicide or something.
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Do you go to a basketball game and look to see, like an NBA game, or what do you guys have?
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You go to a football game here, and you try to see average football players.
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Like, below average football players play football here, when you go to a professional
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So then why, on the cover of magazines, which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty, do
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I think you're right about the fact that they're doing it to, because, you know, if you want
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to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up, they don't want people
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to come out of a BCE, so they're going to make it look like it's okay.
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So why wouldn't we have healthy people on the front of magazines?
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No, but I was saying that for the people that don't, that actually fit, I think in my head,
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I'm thinking for the people that actually, because a person that actually cannot overcome
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obesity and for the rest of their life, till the age of 60, 70, they're still going to
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Those people are probably feeling, yes, like they're, they're feeling okay.
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Would you rather be empowered than commit suicide?
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Because people think, ugh, look at you, you're fat.
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But when you're overeating, you're slowly committing suicide.
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And then when my daughter started gaining the weight, I was freaking out.
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