JustPearlyThings - This Liberationist Gets ROASTED for Accusing Men of Domestic Violence

00:00:00.000 I know full well, it weren't ingrained in me to hate men, but as you grow up and you see them act a certain way, then you're going to have an opinion of them.

00:00:07.680 I wouldn't go swimming. I wouldn't go swimming in Australia.

00:00:10.720 Even if there was one shark attack, I wouldn't go near it because I know the consequences.

00:00:13.940 But yet, as women, we're expected to still trust men that hurt us.

00:00:20.620 Okay. What do you mean?

00:00:23.120 What do you mean? What do I mean?

00:00:24.060 Like what you said, what do you see that men do? That's so bad.

00:00:27.920 Well, first of all, I said about the domestic violence, and then I think if you look at like...

00:00:32.640 Well, women do it too. 1.00

00:00:33.920 No, of course, but men ain't dying at the same rates.

00:00:36.640 So, well, they can't.

00:00:38.160 Who's to say?

00:00:39.040 What do you mean, who's to say?

00:00:40.240 I think everything that we see is what's given to us as facts.

00:00:44.640 We can't take that as gospel.

00:00:46.000 Do you know men have died from domestic violence?

00:00:48.480 Male suicide is one of the biggest indicators of male suicide is relationship, conflict, or breakup.

00:00:55.680 So, you know, maybe it's not being logged as domestic violence.

00:00:58.480 Yeah.

00:00:58.800 But there is definitely abuse going the other way.

00:01:01.280 And that's a significant part of male suicide.

00:01:02.720 And more women hit men one-sided than men hit women one-sided. 1.00

00:01:06.480 I struggle.

00:01:07.840 I do struggle with this.

00:01:08.800 Like on the websites that I've seen, women are arrested more for domestic violence than men,

00:01:15.280 even though they suffer more.

00:01:16.560 And in 2020, when 110 women died that year because of that, the hands of male,

00:01:25.440 50% of those deaths were overkill, which means they killed them.

00:01:29.200 They was like brutally killing them long before, long after they were dead.

00:01:33.200 110 in London?

00:01:34.400 No, in the UK.

00:01:35.760 In the UK.

00:01:36.560 That's really not a lot.

00:01:37.680 One every three days.

00:01:38.560 You don't think that's...

00:01:39.280 110 for the whole year?

00:01:40.720 So say from...

00:01:41.520 For the whole year?

00:01:42.240 Yeah, from the whole year.

00:01:43.040 So from then to now.

00:01:44.960 So say at the...

00:01:45.760 What percentage of deaths is that?

00:01:47.120 That's got to be less than one percent.

00:01:48.800 Do you honestly think that a woman dying every three to four days is not a lot? 1.00

00:01:54.160 I don't think it's like, um, I don't think it's like a pressing...

00:01:57.920 Like if it's not one of the number...

00:01:58.960 How do you not?

00:01:59.760 Because it's not one of the number one ways people are dying here.

00:02:03.200 So like, like if we're going to talk about if that, if that's the big issue,

00:02:06.880 like then we should maybe put obesity.

00:02:08.480 Why is it always...

00:02:10.880 Why is it always fat people when that alcohol is a drug and it's so normal?

00:02:14.000 All right, we can do alcoholism as well.

00:02:16.160 But why is the default always fat?

00:02:17.600 And why is the default always fat?

00:02:19.680 Like it could be alcoholism.

00:02:21.520 Because...

00:02:22.080 Because that can...

00:02:23.440 Because the stuff that's self...

00:02:24.880 More people die.

00:02:25.760 What I think what Pearl's trying to say is more people die each year from self-inflicted things

00:02:30.480 than something that's been inflicted on somebody else.

00:02:32.560 Does that make sense?

00:02:34.080 Yeah, that does make sense, but it doesn't excuse it.

00:02:36.880 Do you see what I mean?

00:02:37.520 So say...

00:02:38.240 So say when...

00:02:39.200 I wouldn't excuse it.

00:02:40.080 I don't believe anyone should do it.

00:02:41.200 It's just putting it into context.

00:02:42.480 Yeah.

00:02:42.960 If you take, if you take a number like 110 out of a country with like 60 million people

00:02:47.040 Yeah.

00:02:47.440 And try and make the case...

00:02:48.480 Because that's why you...

00:02:50.000 Well, because you're trying to generalize something about men.

00:02:52.240 But then...

00:02:53.360 If you're going to, if you're going to make a generalization about men,

00:02:55.840 I want to see, is this prevalent among men?

00:02:58.160 Is this really common?

00:02:59.200 And when you said 110, I'm like, well, okay, the UK is very populated.

00:03:03.120 That doesn't sound like a lot of people.

00:03:04.640 And when you put it into context, but if you put it into context,

00:03:07.360 I don't think it's okay.

00:03:08.560 I don't think it's...

00:03:09.360 No, I'm not saying you do, but then if you put it into context,

00:03:11.520 the same amount of women have died this year, right?

00:03:13.840 So it's one in one, every three to four days.

00:03:16.320 So say from 2020, 2021, 2022, if you multiply 110, that's 330 a year.

00:03:23.040 That's close to a year.

00:03:24.000 So out of three years, there was one year where a woman was dying every day.

00:03:30.240 That's mad.

00:03:30.800 Oh.

00:03:31.280 Why do you put it like that?

00:03:32.320 Is that not mad?

00:03:33.440 I don't, I don't think it's okay.

00:03:35.600 But I just, if I had to guess, if I had to guess, I would think that things like car crashes and

00:03:41.760 obesity would probably be higher.

00:03:43.840 But they're self-inflicted.

00:03:45.120 So that's on them. 0.82

00:03:46.800 I could walk down the street and be murdered by a man.

00:03:49.200 And what did I do to deserve that?

00:03:52.800 Why does it have to be a man? 0.98

00:03:53.920 You could be murdered.

00:03:54.880 But no, but I was talking about that statistic.

00:03:56.560 When we're talking about domestic violence, it's men killing women. 0.58

00:03:59.520 But my point, my point is, why would I make a generalization about men

00:04:03.120 when it's not a huge percentage of people that are dying?

00:04:06.480 Oh, okay.

00:04:07.120 At the hands of men, like from domestic violence.

00:04:09.760 Well, I think that's probably just the difference in the opinion.

00:04:11.680 Because I think one every three to four days is, what, two a week?

00:04:15.360 I think that's wild.

00:04:16.080 I mean, you can manipulate statistics to make them sound like it's a lot more prevalent

00:04:20.400 than it is.

00:04:21.360 But when you look at how many people, if I Googled right now, how many people are in the UK?

00:04:26.720 Is that 60 million?

00:04:27.600 Yeah, 60 million people in the UK.

00:04:30.880 110, that's not.

00:04:32.880 But then when you put it down to one every three to four days,

00:04:36.160 that doesn't, and like I said, about one, like a year, and that would have been just women. 1.00

00:04:40.800 But this is what I'm saying.

00:04:42.000 Get off this.

00:04:42.560 But this is what I'm saying.

00:04:43.520 This is why.

00:04:44.400 Because there's a consequence for your actions.

00:04:46.000 So as men, if you're going to enable other men and whatnot, then it's a repercussion.

00:04:51.600 How do men enable other men?

00:04:53.280 We just saw in a clip where when people were attacked,

00:04:56.800 when he was attacking a woman in public, people rushed to her defense.

00:04:59.680 How was that enabling?

00:05:01.200 Well, the thing is, I understand that video.

00:05:03.440 The video is terrible.

00:05:04.240 But that's just one incident.

00:05:05.840 You could film that tomorrow, and there could be a different reaction.

00:05:09.040 Because I personally have seen three incidences of domestic violence with a woman being attacked,

00:05:14.000 and I haven't seen any.

00:05:14.880 I was the one that went to see them.

00:05:16.560 It was me.

00:05:17.200 So I know full well that that happened.

00:05:19.920 So I'm not shocked by that video at all, because I don't know what people expect.

00:05:24.800 Do you?

00:05:25.280 Okay.

00:05:25.600 Do you feel like it's equal?

00:05:26.800 Like people protect the genders equally?

00:05:28.640 I do see what the problem with men, in terms of how they're treated in society.

00:05:35.920 But a lot of it, I dare to say that the misandry is almost a bit of a pity party.

00:05:42.240 Like if you ask someone who's 50 plus about this, they ain't got a clue what you're talking about.

00:05:48.080 But they've, for the last 50 years, seen women go through this, this, and this.

00:05:52.080 And they're probably like, well, of course.

00:05:53.920 I want to go.

00:05:55.840 Okay.

00:05:57.600 Do you guys hear a buzzing?

00:05:59.120 Yeah, there's a little buzzing in the headphones.

00:06:01.680 Not in mine.

00:06:02.800 Yeah, I can hear it.

00:06:03.920 Slightly.

00:06:05.200 But what did you guys think of that clip?

00:06:06.880 So I want to start with Alex, because you were there.

00:06:09.200 What were you thinking yesterday? 0.99

00:06:13.920 I would say, I was just thinking, she's just very, very misinformed, very ignorant. 0.97

00:06:20.720 And, you know, she has this, like, she's obviously been, like, highly influenced by extremist groups. 0.89

00:06:26.000 And so all her points were just kind of in that line of just like, I experienced, I know someone

00:06:31.120 who experienced this, therefore it's an issue for society.

00:06:35.600 I didn't like how she dismissed men's issues, because I thought that was very kind of,

00:06:40.080 she kind of threw herself under the bus there, where if you claim you care about equality and 0.99

00:06:43.920 women's rights, and then say men's rights, misandry is a pity party. 1.00

00:06:47.600 It's kind of, like, extremely, extremely ignorant. 0.99

00:06:50.720 So, yeah. 0.95

00:06:55.440 What did you think of the clip?

00:06:57.280 In my opinion, I feel like she's been through a lot of things.

00:07:01.200 Because for her to talk like that, she has experienced a lot of things when it comes to men.

00:07:05.120 So that's why I can't judge what she's saying, you know what I'm saying?

00:07:08.240 Because from my experience, I've been around a lot of people when they tell me their stories about,

00:07:13.680 it could be about a guy or female, but the way to go into it, I deeply listen to it so hard,

00:07:18.960 and I can just tell, like, they've been going through a lot.

00:07:21.520 So for her to talk like that, I can't judge because she's hurting.

00:07:24.880 And I can just hear in her voice, she's hurting.

00:07:27.360 Do you know what I mean?

00:07:27.680 That's why I ain't judging that.

00:07:28.640 She looked like she wanted to cry on you. 1.00

00:07:29.920 A hundred percent.

00:07:30.480 Not bad when she was speaking.

00:07:32.640 Can I?

00:07:33.120 Yeah, go ahead.

00:07:33.920 I mean, I'm sure she was pretty hurt.

00:07:36.000 Like, you can actually tell that she's gone through some sort of rough experience.

00:07:40.720 However, I, maybe like Alex, think that she's those kind of people that would manipulate 0.99

00:07:47.440 the information for you to take the message the way she wants you to have it.

00:07:51.920 Does that make sense?

00:07:52.960 And that is where you lose that, you know, understanding.

00:07:57.360 Because the statistics went from every other day for every three days and then one year

00:08:03.200 and then three years, you know, it's like taking the same issue and then molding it to favor your

00:08:09.040 point of view.

00:08:09.760 So that is not fair because it has to be objective.

00:08:12.000 Like, I don't know.

00:08:13.440 That's how I feel about it.

00:08:14.400 Well, it's clearly that she's gone through some rough experiences.

00:08:18.560 Can I say something?

00:08:19.360 I think obviously she just represents some of the biggest problems that we have nowadays.

00:08:24.640 It's just where people are talking without having the capacity to be talking on the topics

00:08:29.200 they're talking about.

00:08:30.080 That's why she misused statistics.

00:08:31.920 That's why she didn't quite make a coherent argument.

00:08:36.000 However, the sentiment and the words that she's trying to say, I fully sympathize.

00:08:40.160 And I actually kind of agree with what she's saying.

00:08:43.280 Yes, there's domestic violence towards men.

00:08:45.200 Yes, yes, yes, yes.

00:08:46.160 But traditionally, culturally, socially, politically, economically, everything,

00:08:52.480 women tend to kind of be the ones that are on the losing side. 1.00

00:08:55.920 And I say that not just from my own experience.

00:08:58.240 I say that from my own research into this.

00:09:01.040 I say that from my own, like, life experiences in other people.

00:09:04.000 On the losing side, how?

00:09:04.800 Yeah.

00:09:05.120 On the losing side of the topics that she's talking about, of course.

00:09:07.840 Think about it.

00:09:08.320 Even in Latin America, for example, in Africa, in Asia, there's a lot of women that die in the hands of men. 0.97

00:09:14.640 And that, even though that's outside of Europe and the world that we live in,

00:09:17.680 that's just another example of how actually the world is somewhat like...

00:09:20.960 Can we stick to the West?

00:09:22.400 Even in the West, even in the West is the same thing. 0.53

00:09:24.800 They're like, if I'm going to, I'm not going to lie.

00:09:26.800 I bet you that if I walk, even let's say just London, if I walk around London,

00:09:30.800 and I ask a few girls, like, has a man ever slapped you?

00:09:34.000 A lot of them will say yes.

00:09:34.960 How do you know that?

00:09:36.240 Oh, because I don't know.

00:09:38.160 How do you know they didn't deserve to be slapped though?

00:09:39.840 But that's not even... 0.91

00:09:43.120 And that's, again, deserving to slap somebody or somebody that deserves to be slapped.

00:09:47.840 That's subjective, again.

00:09:49.440 Most abuse is mutual, meaning both parties are hitting each other.

00:09:53.040 So a lot of girls will hit guys often first, 1.00

00:09:56.320 and then claim and cry abuse when he hits back, but you hit him first.

00:10:00.400 Yeah.

00:10:00.960 Okay.

00:10:01.520 And most...

00:10:02.480 So they looked at abuse, abusive situations, and the ones that are one-sided,

00:10:07.280 which means one party's hitting the other and the other is not returning.

00:10:10.160 Women are more likely to do that than men. 0.99

00:10:12.320 Okay.

00:10:13.040 I understand that completely.

00:10:15.440 I've been in that situation before.

00:10:16.720 Of course, I hit back because I'm not here to take slaps for no reason, right?

00:10:20.400 But it still remains.

00:10:21.840 Like, the fact that even for...

00:10:23.520 And this goes to your question.

00:10:25.040 Should women fear men, right? 0.98

00:10:27.600 A man is way stronger than a woman, do you get? 1.00

00:10:30.480 So why are you even hitting in the first place?

00:10:32.240 You shouldn't.

00:10:32.960 And yet, they do have more race than women do, 1.00

00:10:35.280 and some, yes, are victims, and some of them can cause a situation.

00:10:38.400 But let's not run away from the fact that there's a lot of women 1.00

00:10:40.720 that are actually victims to the toxic masculinity that is out there.

00:10:44.080 Can I just say something?

00:10:45.440 Toxic masculinity.

00:10:46.320 Go ahead, Auntie. 1.00

00:10:47.120 Bullshit. 1.00

00:10:48.640 Word. 1.00

00:10:49.200 That's what I can say.

00:10:50.800 As somebody that's been in an abusive relationship, 1.00

00:10:53.520 bullshit. 1.00

00:10:54.480 What she's saying, bullshit. 1.00

00:10:56.400 As far as I'm concerned, she's going from one side. 1.00

00:10:59.120 She's going from one side. 0.89

00:11:01.520 She's going...

00:11:02.480 If you go onto the internet and you look for women who have been abused,

00:11:07.440 you're going to get one set of figures.

00:11:09.280 What about the men that have been abused?

00:11:11.200 There's men out there that have been abused, that are being abused.

00:11:14.960 There was a...

00:11:15.680 I think there was a program.

00:11:16.560 I think I mentioned it one of Sarah's shows.

00:11:18.000 There was a guy and he almost lost his life through being with his partner.

00:11:24.800 How many of these...

00:11:25.840 How many men suffer in silence? 0.90

00:11:27.920 A woman will go out there and she will slap a man. 1.00

00:11:31.440 Right?

00:11:31.760 And if the man goes and calls the police, is the police going to come and arrest him

00:11:34.640 and take him?

00:11:35.280 Is that going down as a statistic?

00:11:37.040 And I'm not even defending the man because as far as I'm concerned,

00:11:39.280 no one deserves to get hit, but you've got to be fair about it.

00:11:42.000 A woman will turn around, slap a man. 1.00

00:11:44.480 And I'm talking like I've seen it happen.

00:11:46.160 I know if it happened.

00:11:47.200 A woman will turn around, slap a man, call the police. 1.00

00:11:50.560 If the man slaps her back and they will take the man. 0.67

00:11:53.360 How many men out there are getting slapped by women and that will call the police and say, 1.00

00:11:57.200 this woman slapped me. 1.00

00:11:58.480 How many men are going out... 0.98

00:11:59.680 Women are so quick to easy and turn around and say, oh, I've been abused. 1.00

00:12:03.840 How is it for a man?

00:12:05.360 If women, if that society would accept that men get abused, they will speak up more

00:12:10.880 and then you'll see the statistics change.

00:12:12.640 So as far as I'm concerned, all that talk about we should fear men and whatever,

00:12:16.080 I've been battered by a man.

00:12:17.600 I do not fear men because that is a rare occasion.

00:12:21.280 That is a rare occasion.

00:12:23.520 That is rare.

00:12:24.560 I'm not going to go around and say, oh, because I got abused.

00:12:27.600 All women out there are getting abused because I know that men get abused out there

00:12:31.600 and it's not publicized.

00:12:33.120 And if there were statistics for men and I'm not defending anybody getting abused,

00:12:37.040 but you've got to be fair about it.

00:12:38.960 And as far as I'm concerned, she don't even look like she's suffered.

00:12:41.520 She look like she's been around people.

00:12:43.920 They're fed up this, go on the internet.

00:12:46.000 Sometimes you need to turn off the internet and use your brain.

00:12:49.440 And all she's doing is getting her information from the internet and from, 0.94

00:12:53.280 she looks traumatized.

00:12:54.480 Go and get counseling girl or something like that.

00:12:56.640 She reminds me and just going by the way she looks,

00:12:59.040 I don't care whether people hate me. 1.00

00:13:00.160 She looks like a plain, bitter, feminist, lesbian. 1.00

00:13:04.480 Nothing about her says, nothing about her says, I'm sorry, 0.99

00:13:07.920 I'm going to say nothing about her says feminine.

00:13:10.800 Nothing about her says, oh, this is what's going on.

00:13:13.920 She just looks like she's on one agenda and that's the way she was going.

00:13:17.680 So I'm getting tired of hearing that.

00:13:19.120 Oh, this is what happens to women. 1.00

00:13:20.720 I want to hear what happens to the men because the men out there are suffering in silence.

00:13:25.040 And it's because of society that men do not speak up.

00:13:28.160 Men do not speak up because they're so busy,

00:13:31.760 feeling fearful that they're going to get called a beta. 0.82

00:13:35.040 Oh, how can you let that woman slap you? 1.00

00:13:37.120 Or how can you let that woman stab you up? 1.00

00:13:39.120 There's men out there suffering, but because of society,

00:13:41.440 they're not saying nothing.

00:13:42.480 So if they're going to turn around and say, oh, what she's saying is right.

00:13:45.360 Oh, we should fear men. 1.00

00:13:46.480 Bullshit. 1.00

00:13:47.920 A hundred percent. 1.00

00:13:48.480 Well, auntie, thank you.

00:13:49.520 Bars. 0.86

00:13:50.480 That's a percent agree with auntie.

00:13:51.760 Bars. 0.86

00:13:52.560 Bad girl, but I still remain.

00:13:54.800 It's true.

00:13:55.440 Some men suffer.

00:13:56.640 I get it.

00:13:57.760 But let's not.

00:13:58.480 Why do you always have a response?

00:14:00.000 I do have a response because I've got a lot of experience

00:14:04.640 actually speaking to people. 1.00

00:14:05.600 Fuck your experience. 1.00

00:14:07.360 That's rude. 1.00

00:14:07.920 Number one.

00:14:08.400 And I'm here to help you boys.

00:14:09.440 But I'll get onto you.

00:14:10.160 Don't worry about this.

00:14:10.560 He's a man, not a boy.

00:14:11.600 No, he's a boy.

00:14:12.240 Trust me. 1.00

00:14:12.640 For him to say fuck you to a woman or fuck this to a woman like me, 1.00

00:14:15.280 that's sitting here. 1.00

00:14:15.760 He has not disrespected him.

00:14:16.480 You're wearing something right now.

00:14:17.360 Hang on a minute. 1.00

00:14:17.440 I said bullshit. 1.00

00:14:18.080 I said bullshit. 1.00

00:14:18.800 I'm an African woman who's part of her heritage. 1.00

00:14:20.960 Hang on a minute. 1.00

00:14:21.760 I said bullshit. 0.99

00:14:22.560 And you never had that attitude towards me? 0.99

00:14:24.240 No, because I respect you.

00:14:25.360 You're older than me.

00:14:25.840 He's younger than me.

00:14:27.440 I think respect's given up,

00:14:28.800 doesn't matter what age he is.

00:14:30.000 It should be, of course.

00:14:30.960 But then the respect also comes from the fact that you respect the fact that

00:14:33.600 somebody has been on this earth longer than you.

00:14:35.120 So they know things you don't know.

00:14:36.240 So you respect.

00:14:36.720 Moving on.

00:14:37.280 So what you said was rude.

00:14:38.480 And then secondly, I will say it's not that women should fear men,

00:14:42.560 because actually, I think you as a woman,

00:14:44.160 you can have ways of dealing with those situations.

00:14:46.800 But I'm not going to run away from the fact that yeah,

00:14:48.720 men get abused, but women on the losing side on that one.

00:14:51.120 How are they on the losing side?

00:14:52.560 I'm not going to lie.

00:14:53.440 I'm so sorry.

00:14:54.320 How are they on the losing side if women can call the police and they're unbelieved, 0.99

00:14:59.360 but men can call the police and they're not?

00:15:02.240 Cool.

00:15:02.880 Because the reason why I say we're on the losing side is because

00:15:06.240 they still be getting, you know, how many women suffer in silence? 0.98

00:15:08.720 You can't be sitting there and acting like you say the man that suffered in silence.

00:15:10.720 I would say not many with the amount of girls that have come on my show

00:15:14.480 and claim to have been abused, even though they didn't seek police help.

00:15:18.800 Right.

00:15:19.280 I would say not many.

00:15:20.400 I would say most girls, if they suffer, they tell the whole town about it.

00:15:23.200 You asked me and I told you I didn't file no report.

00:15:25.280 Why not?

00:15:26.080 Why not?

00:15:26.720 I didn't because I just feel like, you know,

00:15:28.480 why not?

00:15:29.120 I don't want to make him look bad. 0.99

00:15:30.400 No, we'll make him look bad rubbish. 0.98

00:15:31.760 You're saying that somebody has hit you. 0.99

00:15:33.280 Somebody's abused you.

00:15:33.760 He did something bad, but it's different. 0.99

00:15:35.280 Why do you think they're not bullshit to the men 0.98

00:15:37.680 who don't report the fact that they get hit by the girl? 0.98

00:15:40.080 You said you were hitting him too.

00:15:41.840 Of course I hit him back because I got tired of getting hit.

00:15:44.080 Okay, so you were abusing each other.

00:15:44.640 Of course I defended myself.

00:15:46.240 But at that point, there's a difference.

00:15:48.400 I hit him back.

00:15:49.120 That would be self-defense.

00:15:50.080 And then two, the way that he hit me is nothing compared to how I hit him.

00:15:54.720 And that's what the difference is.

00:15:56.480 If you're hitting each other, you're abusing each other.

00:15:58.560 And then wait.

00:15:59.120 And then let me bring you another example.

00:16:01.360 I stayed quiet, not because I'm embarrassed,

00:16:03.280 but I stayed quiet because culturally,

00:16:04.880 actually what happened to me wasn't really that bad.

00:16:07.680 So you just left it open for somebody else to get abused

00:16:09.760 by that same person that abused you because you never reported and stopped it.

00:16:12.880 So you just assume now that you're going to help out a brother,

00:16:15.840 stop a brother from going into prison, and you're going to help him out.

00:16:19.040 It is not my job.

00:16:20.080 The universe will deal with him.

00:16:21.280 Karma happens.

00:16:21.680 The universe will deal with him. 1.00

00:16:22.400 That's bullshit. 1.00

00:16:23.200 That is why people like that, that is why. 1.00

00:16:26.400 No, because you're allowing him to go out there and traumatize somebody else.

00:16:29.360 I get sick and tired of people turning around and saying,

00:16:33.200 I've been abused.

00:16:34.000 I've been abused.

00:16:34.720 I've been abused.

00:16:35.680 If you can stand up and say, I've been abused.

00:16:37.840 Why don't you go police?

00:16:38.800 I went police.

00:16:40.000 Why don't you go police?

00:16:40.960 Why don't you file a report?

00:16:42.720 And then you're going to turn around.

00:16:44.000 And then you've got the audacity to turn around and say,

00:16:47.120 well, if that's the case, and I've never reported it,

00:16:49.040 let the man stand there in silence and let the men suffer.

00:16:51.520 That's wrong.

00:16:52.080 And I'll tell you another reason.

00:16:53.280 Submission is another problem.

00:16:54.800 Why a lot of women get hit too and they don't talk. 1.00

00:16:57.040 Listen, right?

00:16:57.760 Violence has got nothing to do with submission.

00:16:59.680 Violence has got to do with somebody feeling that they've got more power over somebody else.

00:17:04.080 Whether it's a woman that turns around and slaps a man in his face,

00:17:07.120 she feels, you know what? 0.84

00:17:08.080 I've got more power because I slap you and what?

00:17:10.560 What are you going to do about it?

00:17:12.000 What is society going to do about it?

00:17:13.920 Nothing.

00:17:14.560 Let's turn down men then. 0.88

00:17:15.680 Don't men usually be in a superior position?

00:17:18.720 Which means that my point just stands by what you told me.

00:17:21.760 Oh, please.

00:17:22.400 May I just...

00:17:23.200 Let's break that down.

00:17:24.080 Let's break that down.

00:17:24.560 Yeah, we have to break that down.

00:17:25.520 Who are men more willing to help?

00:17:27.520 Men or women? 0.78

00:17:28.960 Probably women because they're in their eyes. 1.00

00:17:30.800 Okay, okay.

00:17:31.440 So even if a man is in a superior position,

00:17:33.840 he's more willing to help you.

00:17:35.280 Right.

00:17:36.240 So that argument doesn't make sense.

00:17:38.480 If your boy is getting hit, your boy will jump in and be like,

00:17:42.080 stop here, my boy.

00:17:43.280 Simple.

00:17:43.920 They just won't have to hit the girl. 1.00

00:17:45.360 And a lot of the time, the reason why they can...

00:17:47.040 Wait, wait, if your boy is getting hit...

00:17:48.480 No, no, no.

00:17:49.120 So if your boy is getting hit and they'll say stop...

00:17:52.240 No, no, guys get into fights over this stuff.

00:17:54.480 Can I just say something, Pearl?

00:17:56.640 How many times has anybody seen a girl hit a man and jumps in and said, 0.73

00:18:03.040 oh, don't hit him?

00:18:03.840 Never.

00:18:04.560 Oh, wow.

00:18:04.960 I've never seen that.

00:18:05.680 I've never seen that.

00:18:06.240 Thank you.

00:18:06.880 And if you have to...

00:18:07.680 And how many times...

00:18:08.240 I've never seen it, the ball.

00:18:09.200 There you go.

00:18:09.760 May I just say something, though?

00:18:11.200 There's a few things.

00:18:12.000 I'm so sorry, my love.

00:18:12.800 I missed your name again.

00:18:13.680 Dinalva.

00:18:14.240 Dinalva.

00:18:15.440 I like you, but there's some things that you're saying that make me feel very uncomfortable.

00:18:19.840 Because first of all, it's like, okay, you say that...

00:18:23.680 I'm sorry to take your example.

00:18:25.760 You got abused.

00:18:26.960 You did not report it.

00:18:27.920 That's one thing that annoys me.

00:18:31.520 People go to social judge, social like society, like social media to be their judge.

00:18:36.880 And I always say to them, first thing, go to the police.

00:18:39.760 That's the first thing you're meant to do.

00:18:41.120 You're not meant to go to social media and address it.

00:18:43.280 The reason why they go to social media addresses is because society, like you said, Auntie Jenny,

00:18:47.360 is more acceptable or is more open to receive a complaint from a woman than a complaint from a man.

00:18:55.440 And also abuse.

00:18:56.800 Are we talking about only physical abuse?

00:18:58.640 Because abuse starts also emotionally, mentally, and women are very, very good at that. 1.00

00:19:02.560 Yeah.

00:19:03.120 I'm a woman.

00:19:03.840 I can say it.

00:19:04.720 I will say it.

00:19:05.440 We women are very good at that. 1.00

00:19:07.040 So before, I'm not justifying any physical abuse.

00:19:10.000 It's not justifiable.

00:19:10.880 Let's say that as a disclaimer.

00:19:12.160 But abuse starts before even hands get laid on. 1.00

00:19:17.840 And who starts that most times?

00:19:19.920 Women. 0.81

00:19:20.560 Well, I'd also like to add.

00:19:23.920 What also doesn't make sense to me is if you didn't go to the police,

00:19:26.960 but you're assassinating his character on a public platform.

00:19:29.920 So it doesn't really make sense because people know who you dated.

00:19:33.040 So anyone that knows you that sees this podcast.

00:19:35.200 Anyone that knows me knew I went through it.

00:19:37.680 But I'm saying, like, why are you able to assassinate his character,

00:19:41.440 but you're not able to go to the police?

00:19:43.280 That doesn't make sense to me.

00:19:44.560 I'll tell you what.

00:19:44.720 Because now I'm over it.

00:19:46.320 I can talk about it.

00:19:47.360 It's easy.

00:19:47.920 When I was going through it, and this is the thing about abuse

00:19:49.920 that people don't understand.

00:19:51.200 It goes beyond physical.

00:19:52.480 It's almost like you're under this crazy trance.

00:19:54.800 It's true.

00:19:55.520 Because a woman like me, for anyone that knows me,

00:19:58.000 you guys at home that actually do know me,

00:19:59.840 if you saw the ones that did see me like just a year ago,

00:20:02.960 you'll never believe that I'm the same person.

00:20:04.800 Because I know, actually, the thing is, we talk about abuse,

00:20:06.960 and unless you've gone through it,

00:20:08.240 you really don't understand what it does mean and why it's so deep

00:20:11.200 and why actually some people, as that girl said,

00:20:13.200 are really fearful because it's really deep.

00:20:16.080 I stayed stuck for five years.

00:20:17.360 I couldn't leave.

00:20:17.920 But didn't you say it wasn't that deep?

00:20:20.480 I'm going to admit it.

00:20:21.120 What do you mean?

00:20:21.520 No, she said that it was perceived by her culture as not that deep.

00:20:25.120 Yeah, of course, because I go, I tried to even deal with it,

00:20:33.760 with his family, with my family.

00:20:35.200 I didn't stop speaking to my family because I couldn't leave him.

00:20:38.000 I was still going through the situation.

00:20:39.280 My family was just so scared all the time.

00:20:41.120 So I stayed away.

00:20:42.160 When I approached the family, I was like,

00:20:43.920 oh, but why are you complaining?

00:20:45.520 Like, stop you.

00:20:46.560 Why is it?

00:20:47.200 You made him angry.

00:20:48.000 Just as a woman, you're failing. 1.00

00:20:49.520 You need to structure this, right?

00:20:51.440 So you said, initially, you said it wasn't that bad.

00:20:54.880 But now you're saying it wasn't that bad relative to the culture.

00:20:57.040 Is that what you're saying now?

00:20:58.400 Yeah, it's relative to the culture.

00:21:00.080 Okay, cool.

00:21:00.880 What happened?

00:21:02.400 He like punched you in the face?

00:21:04.400 Too many things.

00:21:05.680 Too many things.

00:21:06.560 Like so many, many things that I don't even need to go into.

00:21:09.280 It's so true. 0.84

00:21:09.760 It just doesn't make sense.

00:21:11.600 Like if someone punched me in the face, I would go to the police.

00:21:14.640 But have you heard of Stockholm Syndrome?

00:21:17.360 Oh my God, all these times, bro.

00:21:19.360 Listen, it's real. 0.99

00:21:20.480 Guys, these feminists have the craziest vocabulary. 1.00

00:21:22.560 Listen, listen, I'm telling you right now. 1.00

00:21:25.200 Abuse, emotional Stockholm Syndrome.

00:21:26.880 It's real.

00:21:27.600 Okay, okay.

00:21:28.400 I know it's Stockholm.

00:21:29.280 It's real.

00:21:30.080 It's when women fall in love with their captor. 0.99

00:21:31.440 But he was not your captor.

00:21:34.400 He was your boyfriend and then he became abusive.

00:21:36.320 Was he abusive from this time?

00:21:37.520 I'll give you a little breakdown into how it goes.

00:21:40.160 So you fall in love with somebody that love bomb you.

00:21:42.160 You're amazing.

00:21:42.720 You think it's the best time in the world.

00:21:44.240 You found your prince charming.

00:21:45.760 One day, things start to retract.

00:21:48.000 The compliments start turning into this little criticism.

00:21:50.400 And then it grows and grows and grows.

00:21:51.920 By the time you get here, you're already desperately madly in love with this person.

00:21:55.280 You think that they're here forever and after.

00:21:57.200 You commit.

00:21:57.920 You dedicate.

00:21:58.720 By the time things get really wrong, you've already given everything.

00:22:01.760 And you're thinking, how am I going to leave this situation?

00:22:04.080 Where do I go?

00:22:04.960 What happens?

00:22:05.760 Oh my God.

00:22:06.320 Then on top of that, I'm a woman.

00:22:07.600 I've been with you all this time.

00:22:08.560 If I leave, I'm not damaged goods.

00:22:10.080 There's so many things that actually society does to actually even like allow these situations

00:22:15.360 to go on.

00:22:15.840 We can complain and say that.

00:22:17.040 No, you allow the situation to go on when you don't report it, my love.

00:22:20.400 That's fine.

00:22:20.960 Yes, because you can't let that man leave.

00:22:22.480 Like you can't leave that man and tell him, I'm not going to report him and not fear for

00:22:26.640 the next woman. 0.99

00:22:27.440 That's my only issue here.

00:22:28.640 Do you understand?

00:22:29.280 And I can appreciate the difficulty.

00:22:31.280 But then this is why you think that women are on the losing side. 1.00

00:22:34.320 Because if he's still at large with no repercussions and only just society telling, pointing the

00:22:40.080 finger and be like, he's bad.

00:22:41.520 That's not enough.

00:22:42.400 Can I just say something, right? 0.85

00:22:43.680 As far as I'm concerned, the man ain't done shit to you. 0.96

00:22:46.400 The man ain't done shit to you. 0.99

00:22:47.680 Because you're on, I can turn around and say, yes, my son's dad was abusive. 0.98

00:22:52.000 I put it down on the police records.

00:22:53.440 You know what?

00:22:54.080 Because he knows it's out there and he knows that the police knows about it.

00:22:57.280 And it's been out there.

00:22:57.920 We've been to court, right?

00:22:59.120 But as far as I'm concerned, yours never happened.

00:23:02.240 If I was that man and you're here, it's defamation of character.

00:23:06.080 Because there is nothing there on paper to say that the man abused you.

00:23:09.840 And that's what Pearl was saying.

00:23:11.120 You're here telling thousands of people that this man abused you.

00:23:14.960 What evidence have you got that he abused you?

00:23:17.200 I can show you my scars.

00:23:18.480 If you turn around, scars ain't got nothing.

00:23:20.000 As far as I'm concerned, you could have fall down the stairs and bust your knee and give them

00:23:23.360 scars.

00:23:23.760 Because there's nothing legal on paper to say that you was abused.

00:23:26.640 So if there's nothing on paper, it didn't happen.

00:23:28.640 Hang on a minute.

00:23:29.280 Let me finish.

00:23:30.160 He can turn around today and he can say, do you know what?

00:23:33.840 It's defamation of character because there's nothing there on paper and she's there telling

00:23:39.200 the whole world that I'm abusive.

00:23:41.120 If I'm abusive, where is the record?

00:23:43.840 And that's the problem.

00:23:44.880 Too many people go out there who have been abused, whether it's men or women, and they

00:23:49.680 make all these accusations in public without any proof.

00:23:53.280 And as far as I'm concerned, if I was a man and I was beating on a woman and the woman ain't got 0.96

00:23:58.960 the guts enough to go to the police and report it, but she's got guts enough to go and sit down on social media and tell the whole world, I'm going to go and take it up with her.

00:24:06.960 I'm going to go and take it up with her.

00:24:10.640 Because as far as I'm concerned, that's defamation of character.

00:24:13.360 Let him come.

00:24:14.320 I'm going to go and take it up with her.

00:24:16.320 You ain't got no evidence.

00:24:17.320 You ain't got no evidence.

00:24:18.320 According to who?

00:24:19.320 Well, where do you know me from, auntie?

00:24:20.320 According to the law.

00:24:21.320 Because if you had evidence, the police would have had the evidence.

00:24:23.320 Whether or not you want to take it further, the police would have had the evidence.

00:24:25.320 If I wanted to go and take it further, I could do it right now.

00:24:27.320 But you never done it.

00:24:28.320 I didn't do it.

00:24:29.320 You haven't done it.

00:24:30.320 You haven't done it.

00:24:31.320 I don't care why you ain't done it.

00:24:32.320 There you go.

00:24:33.320 As far as I'm concerned, if you ain't done it, in my view, it hasn't happened.

00:24:36.320 It has not happened.

00:24:37.320 You've definitely been living in the UK for too long, auntie.

00:24:39.320 Because there's nothing there on paper.

00:24:40.320 Definitely what?

00:24:41.320 Been living in the UK for too long.

00:24:42.320 What do you mean?

00:24:43.320 I take that as an insult.

00:24:44.320 How do you know where I live?

00:24:45.320 How do you know where I live?

00:24:46.320 Have you told me?

00:24:47.320 No.

00:24:48.320 I said that I was born here and I raised.

00:24:50.320 And I also told you that I go to Barbados three times a year.

00:24:54.320 So where I come from has got nothing to do.

00:24:57.320 It kind of does.

00:24:58.320 And if you're going to insult me, insult me properly.

00:24:59.320 I'm not insulting you.

00:25:00.320 Because I'm concerned, you're sitting down there and you're talking about respecting your elders. 0.99

00:25:03.320 And then you're going to come and tell me some bullshit like that. 0.99

00:25:06.320 Well, let me tell you, right? 1.00

00:25:07.320 It don't matter.

00:25:08.320 If I was abused in Barbados, I would have been reporting it in Barbados.

00:25:11.320 Auntie.

00:25:12.320 What would they do in Barbados?

00:25:13.320 It's more likely that they wouldn't even help you.

00:25:15.320 If I was done, what are you talking about?

00:25:16.320 Don't knock it till you've tried it.

00:25:18.320 You can't talk about what you don't know.

00:25:19.320 I know.

00:25:20.320 I've tried it.

00:25:21.320 I've seen it.

00:25:22.320 You can't talk about what you don't know.

00:25:23.320 I know.

00:25:24.320 You ain't tried it because you already said you did not report it.

00:25:26.320 I didn't.

00:25:27.320 Think about the laws in Barbados because the laws in Barbados are up to queue with the

00:25:31.320 laws in the West.

00:25:32.320 Let me tell you that.

00:25:33.320 The laws in the West don't work.

00:25:34.320 That's where they got them from.

00:25:35.320 They got them.

00:25:36.320 They don't work if you don't damn well use them.

00:25:37.320 If you don't use them.

00:25:38.320 Try using them.

00:25:39.320 How come it worked for me?

00:25:40.320 How come it worked for me?

00:25:41.320 How come it worked for me?

00:25:42.320 How come it worked for me?

00:25:43.320 I reported it.

00:25:44.320 How come it worked for me?

00:25:45.320 I don't know.

00:25:46.320 Ask yourself that.

00:25:47.320 Because I am not there bringing down somebody on social media just for publicity's sake.

00:25:52.320 I don't need publicity.

00:25:53.320 That is why they're talking about all the stats.

00:25:56.320 Because the stats will be all out of sync because of people like that.

00:25:59.320 You can't turn around and defamate somebody's character for no reason whatsoever.

00:26:04.320 I'm not doing it for no reason. 0.94

00:26:05.320 I'm doing it so that the women that go through something and don't have the balls to go to 1.00

00:26:08.320 the police, they can actually say, do you know what?

00:26:11.320 At least there's somebody there that says, if I leave, at least I'm free of it.

00:26:14.320 Nah.

00:26:15.320 Because not everybody.

00:26:16.320 Go to the police.

00:26:17.320 Go to the police.

00:26:18.320 Go to the police if you can.

00:26:19.320 If you can't, I understand why you didn't.

00:26:20.320 Go to the police.

00:26:21.320 Go to the police.

00:26:22.320 And if you want to message me, Denalvo.AO, I'll help you.

00:26:23.320 Go to the police.

00:26:24.320 Don't worry, my sisters.

00:26:25.320 I got you.

00:26:26.320 What you're going through, nobody knows until you're going through it.

00:26:27.320 Nobody knows.

00:26:28.320 Trust me.

00:26:29.320 Okay.

00:26:30.320 But I would also like to add a slightly analytical perspective.

00:26:33.320 Go on.

00:26:34.320 Has any of the viewers noticed that around these conversations, there's a strong pattern with feminists, 1.00

00:26:40.320 right?

00:26:41.320 So normally it's everyone's being abused.

00:26:44.320 None of them report it.

00:26:45.320 And their personal experience counts for the reality.

00:26:49.320 So it's normally like, you know, everyone, I know two people who got jumped by, you know,

00:26:56.320 guys on the street.

00:26:58.320 So that makes it a problem.

00:26:59.320 I didn't tell anyone at the time, but I was suffering inside.

00:27:02.320 I was damaged in all these ways that no one can really prove or evidence.

00:27:06.320 Um, but I will tell you I was damaged because I guess no one can prove it.

00:27:10.320 Um, and you know, it's an issue for everyone.

00:27:13.320 Well, that's why boys don't report it.

00:27:15.320 So domestic abuse for boys don't exist because the police don't see it.

00:27:19.320 No, what Alex is saying is that you can't use the statistics when you're not contributing

00:27:22.320 to the statistics to defend what you have not reported.

00:27:25.320 That's basically what you're saying.

00:27:26.320 Exactly.

00:27:27.320 I think it shows a lack of accountability.

00:27:28.320 You can't use that to your advantage if you don't help contribute that because you reporting

00:27:33.320 it, no matter when it happens, you can report a year later, two year later, report it, help

00:27:38.320 contribute to that statistic in such a way it now shows and proves that, you know, that importance.

00:27:43.320 Even if they don't press charges today or tomorrow or for your case, like people have patterns

00:27:48.320 of behavior.

00:27:49.320 Exactly.

00:27:50.320 And so you're just contributing to the problem by not reporting it.

00:27:53.320 Like, like, like by going on a, on a podcast, using the story to make you look good.

00:27:58.320 I don't need it to make me look good.

00:28:01.320 And then not reporting it.

00:28:03.320 And then saying that under the guise of I'm doing this to help women.

00:28:06.320 It's like, if you're wanting to help women, then you would have went to the police. 1.00

00:28:09.320 Okay.

00:28:10.320 They're all noble victims.

00:28:11.320 It's like, I don't know.

00:28:12.320 Like, I think that sometimes when people like talk about these situations, they haven't

00:28:17.320 gone through it.

00:28:18.320 They really get, don't get the image.

00:28:19.320 For example, the reason why I don't even need to report it because a lot of these things

00:28:23.320 have happened in public.

00:28:24.320 I never, I, I actually said, withdraw the charges.

00:28:27.320 I don't want him to go to prison.

00:28:28.320 Why?

00:28:29.320 Because I loved him and I didn't want him to be in prison over something that I thought

00:28:32.320 me and him could actually resolve.

00:28:35.320 Family could be involved in help, but you're fighting a lot against, against a lot of factors.

00:28:39.320 That's why I say, if you're going to use the argument of like, oh, you're here talking

00:28:42.320 about it, but you didn't report it didn't happen, then men don't get abused.

00:28:46.320 And it's the point still remains.

00:28:48.320 Women get abused more than men.

00:28:49.320 That's like as simple as that.

00:28:51.320 And that's why I'm saying like, because men don't report it so it don't happen.

00:28:55.320 No, women, one sided abuse is more common for women to do. 1.00

00:28:59.320 So, so if it's, if you're not, if it's not mutual hitting.

00:29:02.320 Okay.

00:29:03.320 Because like, I wouldn't say that's an abusive relationship if you guys are hitting each 0.65

00:29:07.320 other.

00:29:08.320 Like I wouldn't, I wouldn't say you're a victim if you're hitting each other. 0.96

00:29:10.320 You're just toxic. 0.86

00:29:11.320 Yeah. 0.88

00:29:12.320 I would argue you're not a victim if you're hitting each other constantly.

00:29:15.320 This, this reminds of the theory of hysteria.

00:29:18.320 If you read like the Victorians used to talk about this, this is, this is like, you know,

00:29:23.320 quite controversial, but the Victorians had this idea that, um, of hysteria that sometimes

00:29:27.320 women would get into hysteria about things and like, just make stuff up. 1.00

00:29:31.320 And a lot of the time when I talk to the feminists I meet outside, I do get the vibe that like, 1.00

00:29:36.320 she might be because, because there's people that they all say the same thing.

00:29:40.320 It's like, apparently everyone's been abused.

00:29:42.320 Doesn't matter whether they go to the top uni or the, or the worst uni, everyone's abused,

00:29:45.320 especially when there's a big media event.

00:29:47.320 All of a sudden everyone comes out and they've had the same story.

00:29:49.320 And I'm like, really?

00:29:50.320 Like, cause, cause Amber Heard got punched in the face.

00:29:52.320 Now you were getting whipped yesterday.

00:29:54.320 Really?

00:29:55.320 I've known you for like three years, you know, and I just, it just shows a lack of accountability.

00:29:59.320 Like when you ask them these questions, they start throwing out all these words.

00:30:02.320 Well, cause like, it goes back to, if you really cared about women, you'd report it. 0.99

00:30:07.320 If you, if you genuinely like, cause you can report it, you can report it later and you might not win,

00:30:12.320 but at least it goes on record and police can pull up those records to use in a case later.

00:30:17.320 Cool.

00:30:18.320 Like I said, any records that need to be used will be used.

00:30:21.320 And the reason why I would prefer to use this platform to speak about it and to do that is because like I said,

00:30:26.320 I don't only just champion women and men, and sometimes men, today I'm meant to be on the voice side.

00:30:32.320 And I also champion the black community.

00:30:34.320 Culturally, there's certain things that I decided not to do because I, I have a complete, a complex makeup.

00:30:40.320 So I'd rather sit here and tell girls, if you're being abused and you don't know what to do and you're lost

00:30:45.320 and you feel like your world is so lonely and nobody can help you.

00:30:49.320 I'm telling you can get out of it. You don't, if you don't feel like reporting to the police, don't go speak to somebody.

00:30:54.320 Somebody will understand because people have gone through and they've come out out of it stronger than whatever situation they were in.

00:31:00.320 So that's all I'm saying. Abuse exists. It's real. It's very, very deep.

00:31:04.320 And that's why people sometimes don't talk about it. The same way it goes for men, the same way it goes for women.

00:31:08.320 But let's not try and act like women don't actually go through this. 0.61

00:31:11.320 And a lot of the time, like you said, women will all then say, Oh yeah, I was abused as well.

00:31:15.320 Yeah. Because a lot of people go through things and they hide it.

00:31:17.320 They embarrassed or they, they feel ashamed or especially when you're not talking about, Oh yeah, but you're damaged goods.

00:31:22.320 You know, things like that. People won't speak up. That's what it is.

00:31:25.320 Listen, right. You can go if you're abused and you can report it and nobody will know about it.

00:31:32.320 Nobody would know about it. They've even got special codes now that you can go into a shop and you can say to them, you know, give them a keyword.

00:31:41.320 I can't remember what the name is. It's a woman's name. Yeah. Where is the code? Exactly.

00:31:45.320 At the bar. It's called Angela. If you look at the bartender and you tell them I need to call Angela.

00:31:50.320 Or even in any shops or chemists or, you know what I mean? Some pharmacies. Where is that for men? 1.00

00:31:56.320 So it's not to say that, Oh, you're going to feel shame. Listen, right. If anybody's out there getting abused, report it.

00:32:02.320 Don't go and talk to your friends about it. Go and report it. There's nothing to be ashamed about.

00:32:06.320 Nobody needs to know. Don't go out there and advertise it. Go and talk to somebody about it.

00:32:11.320 That's what you need to do. I am champion for the women. It's nothing to do with culture. 1.00

00:32:16.320 It's nothing to do with the blackness. It's to do with women and men full stop. 0.99

00:32:20.320 If you are getting abused, go and report it. Don't talk to your friends about it.

00:32:25.320 As soon as it happens, go and report it because there is help for you.

00:32:29.320 And I would like them to be codes for men too. There should be codes for men.

00:32:32.320 So that if a man is getting abused, rather than going somewhere and you think to yourself,

00:32:36.320 Well, I'm a man and I have to go and report this. There should be a code where a man goes into a police station,

00:32:42.320 said the code, and then he gets treated the same way as if a woman says the code. 1.00

00:32:46.320 I hear you, auntie, but you get some people out there that they just won't go to the police either

00:32:53.320 because they feel like the police ain't going to do nothing about it. Do you know what I'm saying?

00:32:56.320 Don't knock it till you've tried it.

00:32:57.320 I hear you, but I'm just saying in general, there's a lot of people out there.

00:33:00.320 You can't say that to everyone. If you've been abused, go report it to the police

00:33:03.320 because not everybody's going to do that. Some people don't even trust the police.

00:33:06.320 Some people might have like, maybe say for example, the police killed my son or you know what I mean?

00:33:11.320 They don't trust the police. So everybody's not going to go to the police.

00:33:14.320 I understand what you're saying, right? But if they're not going to report it,

00:33:18.320 and you don't want to say nothing about it, shut up about it. 0.82

00:33:22.320 Don't go on social media and advertise it. Shut up about it. 0.99

00:33:26.320 Because I don't understand how somebody could be too scared, too frightened to report it to a police, 0.98

00:33:32.320 but they're not too scared, too frightened to go on a public platform and talk about it.

00:33:37.320 It don't make no sense to me. It don't make no sense to me.

00:33:40.320 Do you know what it is, right? You get some people, right?

00:33:42.320 They feel like if they announce it on the social media, they feel like they're releasing their stress.

00:33:46.320 You know what I'm saying? Just from my experience, I've seen this.

00:33:49.320 You know what I'm saying? In this generation right now, back in the days,

00:33:52.320 but in this generation right now, I've seen a lot of people when they're going through this,

00:33:56.320 they feel like if they go on social media, go on the live and then express their feelings

00:33:59.320 because they just want the world to know where they're going through.

00:34:01.320 Yeah, but there's therapists.

00:34:03.320 I hear that, but a lot of people don't do that.

00:34:05.320 And there's friends and family. Like, why are you going to...

00:34:07.320 Like, if you're saying you're afraid, if you're afraid of not being believed,

00:34:12.320 if that's what you're saying, then you're going to go talk to more people about it?

00:34:17.320 That doesn't... Like, 2 plus 2 doesn't equal 4.

00:34:19.320 It doesn't make sense, but I'm just saying, you get some people like that.

00:34:23.320 Yeah, but like, why do you... I don't believe it.

00:34:25.320 I don't buy it. I think it's a form of social currency now.

00:34:28.320 Have you been abused?

00:34:29.320 Yeah.

00:34:30.320 Oh, how was it? Did you report it?

00:34:32.320 No, because...

00:34:33.320 Then don't say you've been abused then. Same as me. Sorry.

00:34:35.320 No, that's not how that works.

00:34:37.320 So you don't use your experiences as a way to kind of prove a point,

00:34:42.320 but that doesn't mean you can't factually state that.

00:34:44.320 Like, you asked the question, so I'm going to answer your question factually.

00:34:47.320 Well, I don't believe it then.

00:34:48.320 Anyway, moving on.

00:34:49.320 Yeah, I think it's a form of social currency.

00:34:51.320 I think...

00:34:52.320 Because we see this a lot, right?

00:34:53.320 Where they all come up here, and they've all...

00:34:55.320 You know, everyone's got their victim story, and they're all noble victims.

00:34:57.320 Like, I just feel like they get a kick off it.

00:34:59.320 Like, it's cool to be, like, to be one of the downtrodden.

00:35:02.320 It's cool to be a victim.

00:35:03.320 Sorry, I wouldn't say...

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JustPearlyThings - November 12, 2023

This Liberationist Gets ROASTED for Accusing Men of Domestic Violence

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