This Liberationist Gets ROASTED for Accusing Men of Domestic Violence
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the alarming rates of male suicide in the UK, and whether or not it can be attributed to the fact that women are dying at a higher rate than men, and why this is a problem.
Transcript
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I know full well, it weren't ingrained in me to hate men, but as you grow up and you see them act a certain way, then you're going to have an opinion of them.
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I wouldn't go swimming. I wouldn't go swimming in Australia.
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Even if there was one shark attack, I wouldn't go near it because I know the consequences.
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But yet, as women, we're expected to still trust men that hurt us.
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Like what you said, what do you see that men do? That's so bad.
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Well, first of all, I said about the domestic violence, and then I think if you look at like...
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No, of course, but men ain't dying at the same rates.
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I think everything that we see is what's given to us as facts.
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Do you know men have died from domestic violence?
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Male suicide is one of the biggest indicators of male suicide is relationship, conflict, or breakup.
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So, you know, maybe it's not being logged as domestic violence.
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But there is definitely abuse going the other way.
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And more women hit men one-sided than men hit women one-sided.
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Like on the websites that I've seen, women are arrested more for domestic violence than men,
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And in 2020, when 110 women died that year because of that, the hands of male,
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50% of those deaths were overkill, which means they killed them.
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They was like brutally killing them long before, long after they were dead.
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Do you honestly think that a woman dying every three to four days is not a lot?
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I don't think it's like, um, I don't think it's like a pressing...
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Because it's not one of the number one ways people are dying here.
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So like, like if we're going to talk about if that, if that's the big issue,
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Why is it always fat people when that alcohol is a drug and it's so normal?
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What I think what Pearl's trying to say is more people die each year from self-inflicted things
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than something that's been inflicted on somebody else.
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Yeah, that does make sense, but it doesn't excuse it.
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If you take, if you take a number like 110 out of a country with like 60 million people
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Well, because you're trying to generalize something about men.
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If you're going to, if you're going to make a generalization about men,
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And when you said 110, I'm like, well, okay, the UK is very populated.
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And when you put it into context, but if you put it into context,
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No, I'm not saying you do, but then if you put it into context,
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the same amount of women have died this year, right?
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So say from 2020, 2021, 2022, if you multiply 110, that's 330 a year.
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So out of three years, there was one year where a woman was dying every day.
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But I just, if I had to guess, if I had to guess, I would think that things like car crashes and
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I could walk down the street and be murdered by a man.
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But no, but I was talking about that statistic.
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When we're talking about domestic violence, it's men killing women.
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But my point, my point is, why would I make a generalization about men
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when it's not a huge percentage of people that are dying?
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At the hands of men, like from domestic violence.
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Well, I think that's probably just the difference in the opinion.
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Because I think one every three to four days is, what, two a week?
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I mean, you can manipulate statistics to make them sound like it's a lot more prevalent
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But when you look at how many people, if I Googled right now, how many people are in the UK?
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But then when you put it down to one every three to four days,
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that doesn't, and like I said, about one, like a year, and that would have been just women.
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Because there's a consequence for your actions.
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So as men, if you're going to enable other men and whatnot, then it's a repercussion.
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We just saw in a clip where when people were attacked,
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when he was attacking a woman in public, people rushed to her defense.
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You could film that tomorrow, and there could be a different reaction.
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Because I personally have seen three incidences of domestic violence with a woman being attacked,
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So I'm not shocked by that video at all, because I don't know what people expect.
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I do see what the problem with men, in terms of how they're treated in society.
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But a lot of it, I dare to say that the misandry is almost a bit of a pity party.
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Like if you ask someone who's 50 plus about this, they ain't got a clue what you're talking about.
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But they've, for the last 50 years, seen women go through this, this, and this.
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Yeah, there's a little buzzing in the headphones.
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So I want to start with Alex, because you were there.
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I would say, I was just thinking, she's just very, very misinformed, very ignorant.
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And, you know, she has this, like, she's obviously been, like, highly influenced by extremist groups.
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And so all her points were just kind of in that line of just like, I experienced, I know someone
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who experienced this, therefore it's an issue for society.
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I didn't like how she dismissed men's issues, because I thought that was very kind of,
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she kind of threw herself under the bus there, where if you claim you care about equality and
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women's rights, and then say men's rights, misandry is a pity party.
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It's kind of, like, extremely, extremely ignorant.
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In my opinion, I feel like she's been through a lot of things.
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Because for her to talk like that, she has experienced a lot of things when it comes to men.
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So that's why I can't judge what she's saying, you know what I'm saying?
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Because from my experience, I've been around a lot of people when they tell me their stories about,
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it could be about a guy or female, but the way to go into it, I deeply listen to it so hard,
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and I can just tell, like, they've been going through a lot.
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So for her to talk like that, I can't judge because she's hurting.
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And I can just hear in her voice, she's hurting.
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Like, you can actually tell that she's gone through some sort of rough experience.
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However, I, maybe like Alex, think that she's those kind of people that would manipulate
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the information for you to take the message the way she wants you to have it.
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And that is where you lose that, you know, understanding.
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Because the statistics went from every other day for every three days and then one year
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and then three years, you know, it's like taking the same issue and then molding it to favor your
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So that is not fair because it has to be objective.
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Well, it's clearly that she's gone through some rough experiences.
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I think obviously she just represents some of the biggest problems that we have nowadays.
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It's just where people are talking without having the capacity to be talking on the topics
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That's why she didn't quite make a coherent argument.
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However, the sentiment and the words that she's trying to say, I fully sympathize.
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And I actually kind of agree with what she's saying.
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But traditionally, culturally, socially, politically, economically, everything,
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women tend to kind of be the ones that are on the losing side.
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And I say that not just from my own experience.
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I say that from my own, like, life experiences in other people.
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On the losing side of the topics that she's talking about, of course.
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Even in Latin America, for example, in Africa, in Asia, there's a lot of women that die in the hands of men.
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And that, even though that's outside of Europe and the world that we live in,
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that's just another example of how actually the world is somewhat like...
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Even in the West, even in the West is the same thing.
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They're like, if I'm going to, I'm not going to lie.
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I bet you that if I walk, even let's say just London, if I walk around London,
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and I ask a few girls, like, has a man ever slapped you?
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How do you know they didn't deserve to be slapped though?
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And that's, again, deserving to slap somebody or somebody that deserves to be slapped.
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Most abuse is mutual, meaning both parties are hitting each other.
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and then claim and cry abuse when he hits back, but you hit him first.
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So they looked at abuse, abusive situations, and the ones that are one-sided,
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which means one party's hitting the other and the other is not returning.
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Of course, I hit back because I'm not here to take slaps for no reason, right?
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A man is way stronger than a woman, do you get?
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So why are you even hitting in the first place?
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and some, yes, are victims, and some of them can cause a situation.
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But let's not run away from the fact that there's a lot of women
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that are actually victims to the toxic masculinity that is out there.
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As somebody that's been in an abusive relationship,
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As far as I'm concerned, she's going from one side.
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If you go onto the internet and you look for women who have been abused,
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There's men out there that have been abused, that are being abused.
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There was a guy and he almost lost his life through being with his partner.
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A woman will go out there and she will slap a man.
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And if the man goes and calls the police, is the police going to come and arrest him
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And I'm not even defending the man because as far as I'm concerned,
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no one deserves to get hit, but you've got to be fair about it.
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A woman will turn around, slap a man, call the police.
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If the man slaps her back and they will take the man.
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How many men out there are getting slapped by women and that will call the police and say,
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Women are so quick to easy and turn around and say, oh, I've been abused.
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If women, if that society would accept that men get abused, they will speak up more
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So as far as I'm concerned, all that talk about we should fear men and whatever,
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I do not fear men because that is a rare occasion.
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I'm not going to go around and say, oh, because I got abused.
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All women out there are getting abused because I know that men get abused out there
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And if there were statistics for men and I'm not defending anybody getting abused,
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And as far as I'm concerned, she don't even look like she's suffered.
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Sometimes you need to turn off the internet and use your brain.
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And all she's doing is getting her information from the internet and from,
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Go and get counseling girl or something like that.
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She reminds me and just going by the way she looks,
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She looks like a plain, bitter, feminist, lesbian.
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Nothing about her says, nothing about her says, I'm sorry,
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I'm going to say nothing about her says feminine.
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Nothing about her says, oh, this is what's going on.
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She just looks like she's on one agenda and that's the way she was going.
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I want to hear what happens to the men because the men out there are suffering in silence.
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And it's because of society that men do not speak up.
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feeling fearful that they're going to get called a beta.
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There's men out there suffering, but because of society,
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So if they're going to turn around and say, oh, what she's saying is right.
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I do have a response because I've got a lot of experience
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For him to say fuck you to a woman or fuck this to a woman like me,
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I'm an African woman who's part of her heritage.
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But then the respect also comes from the fact that you respect the fact that
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somebody has been on this earth longer than you.
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And then secondly, I will say it's not that women should fear men,
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you can have ways of dealing with those situations.
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But I'm not going to run away from the fact that yeah,
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men get abused, but women on the losing side on that one.
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How are they on the losing side if women can call the police and they're unbelieved,
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Because the reason why I say we're on the losing side is because
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they still be getting, you know, how many women suffer in silence?
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You can't be sitting there and acting like you say the man that suffered in silence.
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I would say not many with the amount of girls that have come on my show
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and claim to have been abused, even though they didn't seek police help.
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I would say most girls, if they suffer, they tell the whole town about it.
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You asked me and I told you I didn't file no report.
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Why do you think they're not bullshit to the men
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who don't report the fact that they get hit by the girl?
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Of course I hit him back because I got tired of getting hit.
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And then two, the way that he hit me is nothing compared to how I hit him.
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If you're hitting each other, you're abusing each other.
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actually what happened to me wasn't really that bad.
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So you just left it open for somebody else to get abused
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by that same person that abused you because you never reported and stopped it.
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So you just assume now that you're going to help out a brother,
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stop a brother from going into prison, and you're going to help him out.
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No, because you're allowing him to go out there and traumatize somebody else.
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I get sick and tired of people turning around and saying,
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And then you've got the audacity to turn around and say,
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well, if that's the case, and I've never reported it,
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let the man stand there in silence and let the men suffer.
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Why a lot of women get hit too and they don't talk.
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Violence has got nothing to do with submission.
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Violence has got to do with somebody feeling that they've got more power over somebody else.
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Whether it's a woman that turns around and slaps a man in his face,
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I've got more power because I slap you and what?
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Which means that my point just stands by what you told me.
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If your boy is getting hit, your boy will jump in and be like,
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And a lot of the time, the reason why they can...
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So if your boy is getting hit and they'll say stop...
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How many times has anybody seen a girl hit a man and jumps in and said,
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I like you, but there's some things that you're saying that make me feel very uncomfortable.
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Because first of all, it's like, okay, you say that...
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People go to social judge, social like society, like social media to be their judge.
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And I always say to them, first thing, go to the police.
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You're not meant to go to social media and address it.
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The reason why they go to social media addresses is because society, like you said, Auntie Jenny,
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is more acceptable or is more open to receive a complaint from a woman than a complaint from a man.
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Because abuse starts also emotionally, mentally, and women are very, very good at that.
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So before, I'm not justifying any physical abuse.
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But abuse starts before even hands get laid on.
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What also doesn't make sense to me is if you didn't go to the police,
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but you're assassinating his character on a public platform.
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So it doesn't really make sense because people know who you dated.
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So anyone that knows you that sees this podcast.
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But I'm saying, like, why are you able to assassinate his character,
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When I was going through it, and this is the thing about abuse
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It's almost like you're under this crazy trance.
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Because a woman like me, for anyone that knows me,
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if you saw the ones that did see me like just a year ago,
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Because I know, actually, the thing is, we talk about abuse,
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you really don't understand what it does mean and why it's so deep
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and why actually some people, as that girl said,
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No, she said that it was perceived by her culture as not that deep.
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Yeah, of course, because I go, I tried to even deal with it,
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I didn't stop speaking to my family because I couldn't leave him.
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So you said, initially, you said it wasn't that bad.
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But now you're saying it wasn't that bad relative to the culture.
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Like so many, many things that I don't even need to go into.
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Like if someone punched me in the face, I would go to the police.
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Guys, these feminists have the craziest vocabulary.
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It's when women fall in love with their captor.
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He was your boyfriend and then he became abusive.
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I'll give you a little breakdown into how it goes.
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So you fall in love with somebody that love bomb you.
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The compliments start turning into this little criticism.
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By the time you get here, you're already desperately madly in love with this person.
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By the time things get really wrong, you've already given everything.
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And you're thinking, how am I going to leave this situation?
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There's so many things that actually society does to actually even like allow these situations
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No, you allow the situation to go on when you don't report it, my love.
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Like you can't leave that man and tell him, I'm not going to report him and not fear for
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But then this is why you think that women are on the losing side.
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Because if he's still at large with no repercussions and only just society telling, pointing the
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As far as I'm concerned, the man ain't done shit to you.
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Because you're on, I can turn around and say, yes, my son's dad was abusive.
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Because he knows it's out there and he knows that the police knows about it.
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But as far as I'm concerned, yours never happened.
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If I was that man and you're here, it's defamation of character.
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Because there is nothing there on paper to say that the man abused you.
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You're here telling thousands of people that this man abused you.
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As far as I'm concerned, you could have fall down the stairs and bust your knee and give them
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Because there's nothing legal on paper to say that you was abused.
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So if there's nothing on paper, it didn't happen.
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He can turn around today and he can say, do you know what?
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It's defamation of character because there's nothing there on paper and she's there telling
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Too many people go out there who have been abused, whether it's men or women, and they
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make all these accusations in public without any proof.
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And as far as I'm concerned, if I was a man and I was beating on a woman and the woman ain't got
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the guts enough to go to the police and report it, but she's got guts enough to go and sit down on social media and tell the whole world, I'm going to go and take it up with her.
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Because as far as I'm concerned, that's defamation of character.
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Because if you had evidence, the police would have had the evidence.
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Whether or not you want to take it further, the police would have had the evidence.
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If I wanted to go and take it further, I could do it right now.
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As far as I'm concerned, if you ain't done it, in my view, it hasn't happened.
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You've definitely been living in the UK for too long, auntie.
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And I also told you that I go to Barbados three times a year.
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And if you're going to insult me, insult me properly.
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Because I'm concerned, you're sitting down there and you're talking about respecting your elders.
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And then you're going to come and tell me some bullshit like that.
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If I was abused in Barbados, I would have been reporting it in Barbados.
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It's more likely that they wouldn't even help you.
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You ain't tried it because you already said you did not report it.
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Think about the laws in Barbados because the laws in Barbados are up to queue with the
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They don't work if you don't damn well use them.
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Because I am not there bringing down somebody on social media just for publicity's sake.
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That is why they're talking about all the stats.
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Because the stats will be all out of sync because of people like that.
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You can't turn around and defamate somebody's character for no reason whatsoever.
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I'm doing it so that the women that go through something and don't have the balls to go to
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the police, they can actually say, do you know what?
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At least there's somebody there that says, if I leave, at least I'm free of it.
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And if you want to message me, Denalvo.AO, I'll help you.
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What you're going through, nobody knows until you're going through it.
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But I would also like to add a slightly analytical perspective.
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Has any of the viewers noticed that around these conversations, there's a strong pattern with feminists,
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And their personal experience counts for the reality.
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So it's normally like, you know, everyone, I know two people who got jumped by, you know,
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I didn't tell anyone at the time, but I was suffering inside.
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I was damaged in all these ways that no one can really prove or evidence.
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Um, but I will tell you I was damaged because I guess no one can prove it.
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So domestic abuse for boys don't exist because the police don't see it.
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No, what Alex is saying is that you can't use the statistics when you're not contributing
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to the statistics to defend what you have not reported.
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You can't use that to your advantage if you don't help contribute that because you reporting
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it, no matter when it happens, you can report a year later, two year later, report it, help
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contribute to that statistic in such a way it now shows and proves that, you know, that importance.
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Even if they don't press charges today or tomorrow or for your case, like people have patterns
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And so you're just contributing to the problem by not reporting it.
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Like, like, like by going on a, on a podcast, using the story to make you look good.
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And then saying that under the guise of I'm doing this to help women.
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It's like, if you're wanting to help women, then you would have went to the police.
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Like, I think that sometimes when people like talk about these situations, they haven't
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For example, the reason why I don't even need to report it because a lot of these things
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I never, I, I actually said, withdraw the charges.
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Because I loved him and I didn't want him to be in prison over something that I thought
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Family could be involved in help, but you're fighting a lot against, against a lot of factors.
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That's why I say, if you're going to use the argument of like, oh, you're here talking
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about it, but you didn't report it didn't happen, then men don't get abused.
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And that's why I'm saying like, because men don't report it so it don't happen.
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No, women, one sided abuse is more common for women to do.
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So, so if it's, if you're not, if it's not mutual hitting.
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Because like, I wouldn't say that's an abusive relationship if you guys are hitting each
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Like I wouldn't, I wouldn't say you're a victim if you're hitting each other.
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I would argue you're not a victim if you're hitting each other constantly.
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If you read like the Victorians used to talk about this, this is, this is like, you know,
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quite controversial, but the Victorians had this idea that, um, of hysteria that sometimes
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women would get into hysteria about things and like, just make stuff up.
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And a lot of the time when I talk to the feminists I meet outside, I do get the vibe that like,
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she might be because, because there's people that they all say the same thing.
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Doesn't matter whether they go to the top uni or the, or the worst uni, everyone's abused,
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All of a sudden everyone comes out and they've had the same story.
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Like, cause, cause Amber Heard got punched in the face.
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I've known you for like three years, you know, and I just, it just shows a lack of accountability.
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Like when you ask them these questions, they start throwing out all these words.
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Well, cause like, it goes back to, if you really cared about women, you'd report it.
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If you, if you genuinely like, cause you can report it, you can report it later and you might not win,
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but at least it goes on record and police can pull up those records to use in a case later.
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Like I said, any records that need to be used will be used.
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And the reason why I would prefer to use this platform to speak about it and to do that is because like I said,
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I don't only just champion women and men, and sometimes men, today I'm meant to be on the voice side.
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Culturally, there's certain things that I decided not to do because I, I have a complete, a complex makeup.
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So I'd rather sit here and tell girls, if you're being abused and you don't know what to do and you're lost
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and you feel like your world is so lonely and nobody can help you.
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I'm telling you can get out of it. You don't, if you don't feel like reporting to the police, don't go speak to somebody.
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Somebody will understand because people have gone through and they've come out out of it stronger than whatever situation they were in.
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So that's all I'm saying. Abuse exists. It's real. It's very, very deep.
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And that's why people sometimes don't talk about it. The same way it goes for men, the same way it goes for women.
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But let's not try and act like women don't actually go through this.
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And a lot of the time, like you said, women will all then say, Oh yeah, I was abused as well.
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Yeah. Because a lot of people go through things and they hide it.
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They embarrassed or they, they feel ashamed or especially when you're not talking about, Oh yeah, but you're damaged goods.
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You know, things like that. People won't speak up. That's what it is.
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Listen, right. You can go if you're abused and you can report it and nobody will know about it.
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Nobody would know about it. They've even got special codes now that you can go into a shop and you can say to them, you know, give them a keyword.
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I can't remember what the name is. It's a woman's name. Yeah. Where is the code? Exactly.
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At the bar. It's called Angela. If you look at the bartender and you tell them I need to call Angela.
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Or even in any shops or chemists or, you know what I mean? Some pharmacies. Where is that for men?
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So it's not to say that, Oh, you're going to feel shame. Listen, right. If anybody's out there getting abused, report it.
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Don't go and talk to your friends about it. Go and report it. There's nothing to be ashamed about.
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Nobody needs to know. Don't go out there and advertise it. Go and talk to somebody about it.
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That's what you need to do. I am champion for the women. It's nothing to do with culture.
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It's nothing to do with the blackness. It's to do with women and men full stop.
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If you are getting abused, go and report it. Don't talk to your friends about it.
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As soon as it happens, go and report it because there is help for you.
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And I would like them to be codes for men too. There should be codes for men.
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So that if a man is getting abused, rather than going somewhere and you think to yourself,
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Well, I'm a man and I have to go and report this. There should be a code where a man goes into a police station,
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said the code, and then he gets treated the same way as if a woman says the code.
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I hear you, auntie, but you get some people out there that they just won't go to the police either
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because they feel like the police ain't going to do nothing about it. Do you know what I'm saying?
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I hear you, but I'm just saying in general, there's a lot of people out there.
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You can't say that to everyone. If you've been abused, go report it to the police
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because not everybody's going to do that. Some people don't even trust the police.
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Some people might have like, maybe say for example, the police killed my son or you know what I mean?
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They don't trust the police. So everybody's not going to go to the police.
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I understand what you're saying, right? But if they're not going to report it,
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and you don't want to say nothing about it, shut up about it.
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Don't go on social media and advertise it. Shut up about it.
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Because I don't understand how somebody could be too scared, too frightened to report it to a police,
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but they're not too scared, too frightened to go on a public platform and talk about it.
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It don't make no sense to me. It don't make no sense to me.
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Do you know what it is, right? You get some people, right?
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They feel like if they announce it on the social media, they feel like they're releasing their stress.
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You know what I'm saying? Just from my experience, I've seen this.
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You know what I'm saying? In this generation right now, back in the days,
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but in this generation right now, I've seen a lot of people when they're going through this,
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they feel like if they go on social media, go on the live and then express their feelings
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because they just want the world to know where they're going through.
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I hear that, but a lot of people don't do that.
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And there's friends and family. Like, why are you going to...
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Like, if you're saying you're afraid, if you're afraid of not being believed,
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if that's what you're saying, then you're going to go talk to more people about it?
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That doesn't... Like, 2 plus 2 doesn't equal 4.
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It doesn't make sense, but I'm just saying, you get some people like that.
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Yeah, but like, why do you... I don't believe it.
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I don't buy it. I think it's a form of social currency now.
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Then don't say you've been abused then. Same as me. Sorry.
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So you don't use your experiences as a way to kind of prove a point,
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but that doesn't mean you can't factually state that.
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Like, you asked the question, so I'm going to answer your question factually.
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Where they all come up here, and they've all...
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You know, everyone's got their victim story, and they're all noble victims.
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Like, it's cool to be, like, to be one of the downtrodden.
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