JustPearlyThings - This Mentality Will Keep Modern Women Single

00:00:00.000 submit if it's 50 50. I don't think I would I don't but submit as in like do what he says or

00:00:10.000 submit is like a boss okay so when you go to work right I don't know what you do for work I don't

00:00:15.820 know if you work for yourself but you've had a boss at some point or I think of it like a coach

00:00:19.740 right I pick which coach I want right so and what he says goes I have to listen to him at the end

00:00:25.960 of the day you know I might make a case occasionally but you really can't do that too much otherwise

00:00:30.920 they're going to kick you off the team or they're going to fire you it's not your job

00:00:33.700 it's not your role to boss him around yeah but the boss is the boss has given me you know a full

00:00:41.260 salary so of course I'm going to listen to him and I feel like that when when you're married it's like

00:00:48.120 if he's showing you that he's going out and working hard and taking care of you then you're like yes

00:00:53.440 boss yes yes leader yes leader yes my king yes my king I will cook for you I will feed you I'll wash

00:01:00.600 your clothes no no only only one maybe two meals that we asked if he's doing 100% of the bills I'll

00:01:09.000 do three meals there we go that's my 10% um but I just I think this is like the mentality that's

00:01:15.100 gonna leave a lot of women single and half of us probably because yeah because I mean there's only 1.00

00:01:20.900 so many like guys that can take over 100% of the bills we're in a modern time like how can we expect

00:01:26.520 them to take over 100% of the bills if we're not we're not virgins anymore we're not young anymore

00:01:31.020 yeah I mean well she still is but but you know like the average area but the average age of first 1.00

00:01:37.400 marriage used to be like 22 it's 31 now here um but um I quite like being equal you know like

00:01:46.600 so how that sense of power um as well as the guy but um if you think of it in a deeper way

00:01:55.720 we I don't know I kind of jump from one side to I think I think what you're saying is when you have

00:02:02.940 children you don't want to be equal that's what you're saying isn't it obviously you can oh no

00:02:07.720 I feel like when when when it comes to children and obviously like if I'm a stay-at-home mom and

00:02:14.160 like it just depends on the situation it's like either way I'm the mother and you're the father

00:02:21.140 and I think I wouldn't just listen to him if he says this goes but you wouldn't you wouldn't listen

00:02:29.900 to him if he says something goes about my child no because it's our child if that makes sense but

00:02:36.100 so it's 50% his DNA 50% your DNA right yeah so if there's a big decision how do you and you guys

00:02:43.780 disagree how do you make it uh again it depends on the situation but I'd always want to

00:02:51.560 like someone has to give in do you expect him to give in or are you going to give in

00:02:56.660 good question I always give in um I think just like do good do good wives submit to their husband's 1.00

00:03:07.260 authority I don't think necessarily like if you're a good wife or a good husband um I think building

00:03:14.580 that foundation of communicating well so if it comes through an issue of anything and obviously

00:03:21.360 we're talking about children I think it's just stating the facts and then solving it so you both

00:03:28.280 stated your facts and you both disagree who who gives in happy wife happy life

00:03:35.880 no you know it's funny you're not wrong I mean that's I mean that's that happens all the time

00:03:42.540 how many women wear the pants in relationships nowadays I was about to say there's a lot of men 1.00

00:03:46.180 who would literally just do what their wife says and are those women happy with them do they always 0.99

00:03:51.100 because they aren't always they don't really like pushovers though we are never happy we kind of want

00:03:55.440 someone to put us in our place as much as we want to say wait wait go ahead no say what you were

00:03:59.940 going to say go ahead sorry sorry okay as much as we want to be like yeah um I want to have a say

00:04:06.040 and stuff that there's times where sometimes you you want someone to put you in your place like I feel

00:04:10.980 like so it doesn't it make sense for us to give in then yeah yes because I feel like when it comes

00:04:24.640 to men I'm going to keep it nice and short because I can blab on so we expect a lot from a guy obviously

00:04:33.020 when it comes to women being independent which again I like inequality to some extent um we don't really 1.00

00:04:40.340 give that sense of power to like what means being a man you know so like responsibility and

00:04:50.020 you know yeah I know what you mean I'm not sure if that makes sense no no we don't give them that

00:04:57.180 respect that we should give them in a way yeah we don't let them leave power because he is a man

00:05:02.480 you know and he has certain duties that a woman can't do if that makes sense yeah it's like we want 1.00

00:05:08.420 these little complain about male leadership but then when they're like oh let me leave we're like

00:05:12.260 oh no no no not like that sit down as I said because we are never happy yeah that's not attractive

00:05:19.240 that's true that's not attractive to me what like leadership no a guy being a pushover like just

00:05:25.100 yeah I don't think that's attractive but that's the problem because that so guys are hit with this

00:05:28.400 dual narrative aren't they because on the one hand it's like uh no we won't go you know equality

00:05:32.440 equality 100% but you know we we don't want the guy to be sort of manipulative coercive to be like

00:05:38.680 trying to you know push in any sort but but then on the other hand of course what women seem to be 1.00

00:05:42.680 attracted to most viscerally is due to uh you know who leads and do to come in and you know

00:05:47.780 lay down the law so it's sort of like guys I think are a beset with this uh you know two two

00:05:53.260 sort of opposing dialogues coming through you know I feel like it's energy as well though because if you

00:05:58.200 don't have that energy I'm not listening to you as simple as that you have to count yourself

00:06:02.200 you have to that's what it is there is a certain type of energy you have to have you have to have

00:06:06.940 and there's some guys that naturally do not have it but then they're like trying to tell you what

00:06:10.860 to do and it's like it's giving them how do you describe the energy it's exactly it's just energy

00:06:16.760 yeah I don't know when you get it you feel it like you when when there is a guy who's telling you

00:06:20.780 what to do and he has that energy you're like oh wow okay but then another guy can try and do that

00:06:26.860 and put on that act but you feel like it's forced and you're like this isn't you you're just following

00:06:32.560 the narrative but you're not actually that guy yeah you're not that guy you're not that guy you

00:06:36.360 haven't got it in you sorry I feel like in those situations you have to be unapologetically you

00:06:44.280 yeah whether you're a man or a woman you always have to be unapologetically you 0.99

00:06:48.420 yeah whether you want to take the reins or not you always have to be there and stand your own ground

00:06:53.420 if you're happy to back down and be like do you know what you might both disagree but I think

00:06:58.660 maybe what you're saying makes sense but I feel like there's a lot and that person's willing to

00:07:03.500 go I know I make sense I'm happy to take the lead here but I also feel like that's cool I think it

00:07:09.380 works both ways yeah I think in I don't think over an emotional standpoint that a man overtakes a woman

00:07:16.000 in that but I agree with you but I also feel like what we're talking about the energy thing

00:07:20.500 the problem is with some guys that do it and we think that they don't have the energy it's because

00:07:25.260 they're inconsistent they're inconsistent for example it's like wait wait say that again say that again

00:07:31.060 they're inconsistent with the energy yeah so like sometimes they're masculine and sometimes they're

00:07:36.100 not yeah sometimes they're really tapping into that feminine role and you're like you're turned 0.98

00:07:40.220 off because biologically you're just like as a woman you're gonna look for that guy who has that energy 1.00

00:07:45.520 could it be based could it be based on how you feel though that day because we feel

00:07:49.860 differently every day perceive things differently yeah so I agree yeah so when you went for example

00:07:54.900 what we talked about earlier the birth control pills when she with a woman's on the birth control pill

00:07:58.020 maybe she's more open to the dude who's less dominant dominating you know and then when maternal giving 0.86

00:08:05.820 is that yeah could that be correct I would say so yeah from what I've read it's fascinating it's hard

00:08:11.820 being a guy isn't it I'll tell you what you said it's hard being a woman I said that you said that

00:08:21.180 yeah do you genuinely think it's harder being a woman and dating than men oh I think it's so hard but

00:08:26.940 one thing I would say I feel like men and like their experiences all their voices it's definitely like

00:08:33.180 it's so sad but they're not really shown and I feel like they should be shown a bit more I'm gonna go back to the first statement women have harder time dating than men

00:08:40.860 yes or no oh wait that no no no sorry no offense the guys I know you guys are struggling no offense

00:08:47.180 but yeah I feel like they struggle more you know there there was a woman who decided to pretend to be

00:08:55.020 a man for a while can't remember her name but she ended up killing herself because she she she did she she 1.00

00:09:03.820 turned around and said I don't know what I was thinking being a man is horrible and she said that

00:09:10.300 woman completely ignored everything she said looked down on her judged her on the way she looked 1.00

00:09:15.900 I judged her on everything that she said and she ended up killing herself I feel like because men's 1.00

00:09:21.740 mental health and everything is so overlooked but but then how is it fair to say that it's easier to be

00:09:28.300 a woman but we say that we can't be equal because we're both so biologically different is it fair to 1.00

00:09:33.900 compare whether it's be easier to be a man and a woman or is it exactly but but that is the first

00:09:39.660 statement that came up yeah no offense it's the first statement that came up and it's first thing

00:09:43.100 that pops in your head so sometimes you just need to take a back thought and go actually is that right

00:09:49.020 to say or do I need to look at it comparatively I've heard that story before but do you think

00:09:54.540 do you know much about it I mean is there any evidence to show that it was specifically the you

00:09:58.460 know or did she maybe have some other issues going on or do you know what I mean yeah yeah in any 1.00

00:10:04.940 scientific study you cannot take away external controllables like you you can't but in that

00:10:12.620 situation from what she stated initially was that it was really difficult to act as a man and to be

00:10:20.700 treated as the way men are it's just an interesting look it is not an end all and be all of the evidence

00:10:26.700 that supports it but it's an interesting turn on it yeah but again I wouldn't use that as a as a

00:10:32.220 core element of evidence because it's definitely not the whole thing about men get what they get

00:10:37.740 and then as in like men get what they get but then women can choose i'm not sure as many of you know

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JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023

This Mentality Will Keep Modern Women Single

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